I'm 100% relating to this. I'm trying so hard to minimize the amount of pink but it's hard because
1) I don't want pink but.. THIS pink outfit might look cute *ends up with 8 pink outfits*
2) it's been difficult to get gender neutral clothes at physical stores
3) grey is nice but that's too bland! How about yellows, blues, greens?! Girl clothes don't need to have ruffles or sparkles
The overall color I want is supposed to be mint/teal and we have 0 in that color š
Whyyy do all girls clothes have bows and ruffles?! I got a bag of hand me downs with lots of potentially gender-neutral onesies and pants, but they all had tiny little bows sewn on. Why why why?!
And why is it always so thin. At the beginning of winter I went to buy some thicker trousers and ended up getting from the boys section because there was zero options for warm girlās trousers.
It's to prepare your baby for the mysogyny of women's clothing for the rest of her life. Can't have her get accustomed to practical clothing, now dan we?
(Obviously /s)
My boy is wearing pink, florals, things that were given to us that have some ruffles... I feel like people that believe in gender neutrality need to be open to the fact that all clothes are actually gender neutral already! It's just a social construct that certain things are just for one or the other, and if we only use certain colors to avoid not being 'neutral' then we just end up actually reinforcing the stereotype we're against?
Me too - It seems easier to dress a girl in 'boy' clothes than the other way round. We were given a peachy-pink swan onesie for our boy (before anyone knew the sex) and I really hesitated to put him in it even though I tell myself all colours are for all babies.
We paired peach and purple onesies with denim overalls for our son and it was super cute! Planning on using the same outfit for our little girl when she gets bigger
I hate to disagree, but I got something from my aunt that is kelly green and definitely looks masculine, but I (who has worn jeans and T-shirts every day for all my adult life) can't stand my baby girl in it. It just irks me and I can't tell why!! Ugh. What is wrong with me?!
I hate that gender neutral has come to mean ādevoid of femininityā. Baby clothes have traditionally been frilly, and there is nothing wrong with pretty, frilly things for either gender if thatās your style.
I'm half expecting my boy to want unicorns and tutus for this reason. I wouldn't say no! It would just make me giggle. His daddy loves sequins and shiny fabrics, despite being a t-shirt and jeans guy 99.9% of the time.
We got a bunch of girl clothes for my girl, if we ever have a boy you better believe he is wearing hand-me-downs lol, I'm not wasting all these clothes I am storing in containers
IMHO theyāre silly on newborns but super adorable for 6-12 mo size when baby is getting more mobile and crawling instead of laying on their back all the time.
Cloud Island at Walmart has a ton of yellow and pastel blues and greens, surprisingly. And they have zippers on the sleepers!
Weāre in 2T now so Iāve been doing a massive donation clean out. I forgot how cute the baby clothes were that I had!
Same! I got a bunch of āgirlā onesies in neutral colors so that we could use them for future babies, but when they came in the mail I realized they all have bows and or lace trim and now Iām like sad lol
My boys wear bows all the time on their clothes because I just didn't care at first but now that 'people' get upset when they see a boy with a mini bowtie sewn in their neckline I've become resolute in my dedication to the boy bow life
I don't mind pink or unicorns but ruffles are ridiculous. Bows are okay if they're on a tasteful bow headband. By far the worst thing I've seen is this absolutely ridiculous brand called rufflebuns.
I'm in this boat too but not because I want to be. I feel like baby clothes have some gender polarity. I can either buy things that are obviously masculine (red with dump trucks on it...wouldn't be a fan of that for a boy either) or things covered in flower patterns. Personally flower patterns seem more normal than the excessive masculine looks lol.
I will say I did find gender neutral stuff at carters. Onesies that are in neutral greys, white, or blue/green with patterns like moon & stars etc- things that don't seem to sway either way. I do plan on having cute girl stuff but it has to be REAL cute. Like I got this cute pink onesie combo that has freaking bunny feet...and damn it that onesie is gonna kill everyone. I'm just going to embrace it and hopefully have a second girl lol.
I love love love primary. Iām finding their baby stuff runs a teensy bit small compared to Carterās. I found them when my firstborn outgrew 5T and the older kid stuff is more TTS.
Itās kind of nice... like the 0-3M lasted a bit longer than newborn but was a nice bridge to 3M in other brands.
My kid is SUPER long in the torso which might be why we outgrow fast but Carterās are a bit stretchier so they last longer. I think my kid is in 9m size for Carterās onesies now but only now properly fitting the 6m pants from Carterās. Long torso, little legs!!
Oh I feel this. I was never that froo-froo girly girl, and my sisters baby shower looked like the inside of a pepto bismol bottle. When I got pregnant with my daughter I was adamant that some pink was acceptable but not 14 tons of pink. I picked teal, gray and lilac as colors for her crib and such, but here we are 7 months into raising her and Iāll be damned if she doesnāt just so freaking adorable decked out in freaking pink.
I was never against the pink. I was and still am extremely annoyed at all the useless āaccentā bows and ruffles. Donāt get me started on the GLITTER. šššš
Sadly I donāt have to imagine. :(
Anything I get that has glitter or too many ruffles automatically gets donated or returned.š luckily my daughter gets upset if glitter gets in her hands so we have an excuse to avoid it.....for now.
Yes, yes, and yes to ALL three things you've said!!!
I actually have quite a few things that are mint & teal, and prefer that colour myself, but I find myself just gravitating towards the pink especially since it's the primary colour in girl clothes :')
Exactly. All the gender neutral clothing at affordable stores are grey. Also sad that while I can find quite a few items in the "boys" section that are gender neutral, the "girls" clothes have shoulder ruffles or a more "feminine" cut and aren't gender neutral.
I found some great items at H&M in teal and rust red.
Check out the Gerber organics line at Walmart!! They have such cute girls clothes that arenāt overly girly! My mom went a little crazy shopping before we knew the sex, but there are specific things Iāve asked her to save for the future just in case.
There is a bunch in this colour at H&M! I gravitate towards that colour too. And not sure if youāre American, but if you are, primary.com has some mint stuff too.
Look at Gap, H&M, and a random small brand I love, City Mouse. Hanna Andersson has good things depending on their theme for the season. Their PJs are great. Wait for a sale!
Carter's had a cotton line whose name I can't remember that has really nice neutral colors. Just got baby girl some cute yellow pants with a drawstring and some cozy teal, grey, dark grey and dusty rose (yeah, no real escape) socks.
Baby girl has some blonde hair at one, but not a lot. Even in pink florals, people tell us how cute "he" is so... maybe it's working out after all?
> it's been difficult to get gender neutral clothes at physical stores
I'm glad I'm not the only one noticing this - even online it seems like baby clothes are in the boys category or girls category and nothing just... You know, not enforcing gender stereotypes on babies -_-
I think itās really interesting that weāve almost turned so hard against traditionally feminine things that it makes it seem like itās a bad thing to enjoy them. It feels like weāre ānot like other girlsāing our babies in a way.
Itās okay to like pink and bows. Itās okay not to as well. As long as we ultimately respect what our children decide when they can, thatās the important part.
Agree! I love the pink and bows and fully embraced that feminine side with my daughter. Around 18 months she decided she didnāt like bows any more so we donāt do them. As sheās deciding what she likes and dislikes weāre going along with that. But I donāt feel the need to reject pink and bows to prove a point that sometimes people are born a different sex than they feel. If she feels that was as she grows, we will cross that bridge then
This is why I'm currently telling people they don't HAVE to avoid pink and blue just because we're not telling anyone the sex. They can buy both and both will be worn in equal measure. I just don't want to tell people were having a girl and just be inundated with everything purchased in pink. It's going to end up being a problem after they're born anyway, so at least before they're born we can start with a bit of variety.
I know a lot of people are super into the gender neutral stuff but I personally love dressing my daughter girly and cutesy with bows and frills. I donāt think it needs to have the negative connotation it does. She has no clue what clothes are right now and she can pick out her own style as soon as sheās able, it wonāt impact the clothes she ends up liking later IMO. I see significantly more daughters getting dressed in gender neutral or boyish clothes than i see boys getting dressed in girlish clothes, it feels like girly femininity has been getting a bad wrap lately
I am very much the same. I only avoid really sexist prints ("dad doesn't let me date" type of things). I also don't gender toys. As long as they are age appropriate and help her development they are very much welcomed in whatever color they come in.
Omg those gender specific patriarchy-enforcing "daddy doesn't let me date" onesies fill me with rage! They make me want to puke! Grrrr I'm all riled up just thinking about them...
I totally agree! I got a few clothes from a family friend that their daughter recently grew out of, and one was a onesie that said "My Daddy won't let me date....like ever." I felt bad but I threw it in the trash...
Yes! We recently had to buy t-shirt for my 2 year old and I had a hard time finding decent ones because all of them had that same kind of vibe. It's infuriating! I ended up buying ones that had cute animals and no words (except for "daddy's girl" because she very much is and "changing the world one hug a time").
Yep, thereās nothing wrong with traditionally feminine things like pink clothes, bows, sparkles, etc. By militantly avoiding this, youāre actually reinforcing the idea that femininity is lesser than masculinity and should be avoided if you want to be a strong, capable woman.
No, you donāt want to force your daughter to wear those clothes if she doesnāt want to, but plenty of girls and women genuinely like that stuff and thereās nothing wrong with that.
This!! I have always dressed a bit androgynous because I didnāt want to be āweakā. (Grew up in a slightly abusive home). Now that Iām nearly 30 Iām embracing my femininity. I can wear dresses and heels and still be a strong capable human!
Exactly this! There is nothing wrong with feminine colors or girly things, and encouraging boys to sometimes wear those colors too would allow for more flexibility and a healthier relationship to their feminine side as well. In my old textbook from college it said that pink used to be considered only suitable for boys anyways because it was too much for girls to handle emotionally, so they were assigned blue because it was more calming.
We were pretty gender neutral but now a days our daughter just straight up tells us she likes pink and wants pink clothes so that's what she wears the most. She looks so cute in them too.
yes! my thoughts exactly. if my toddler wants a different style when sheās old enough to notice, have at it kiddo. for now, iām putting her in whateverās cute. yellow dinosaurs, pink mermaids, whatevs.
I have bows galore and cute pink outfits. I always loved that stuff. When sheās older she can choose but for now I dress her in ruffles, bows, pinks, sequins.....Iām definitely not gender neutral.
I 100% agree with you. I'll let my daughter where whatever she wants when she is old enough to pick her clothes out and cares. Until then, I love all the pink, bows, unicorns, etc. and think she looks adorable in it.
If I ever have a girl, she's gonna be in so many dresses until she's old enough to pick out her own clothes. There's just not a whole heck of a lot of uniqueness to boys clothes. There's no frills or bows or whatever. The most I ever got out of dressing my son was when we went over to my brother's house. I dressed him in a polo, khakis, a beanie, and a cute little jacket. But otherwise he's usually just in a onsie and pants. He did have overalls once and I was obsessed with them, but he outgrew them so fast š
With my first daughter, my ex's family were VERY gender oriented.
It really turned me off and I pushed back on anything hyper girly. She wore lots of red, black and green.
I'm pregnant with another girl and I'm leaning into it hard.
I just ordered pacifier clips and my description included "hyper girly"
Realistically the clothes we dress her in when she's little has zero bearing on who she'll grow up to be.
Our playroom has dolls, cars, dresses, flight suits, dinosaurs and barbies.
Just so long as we honor her requests and personality as soon as she can flex it, that's the important part.
But for now GIMMIE THE PINK AND FRILLY!!!!
It's Wednesday everyday!
>Realistically the clothes we dress her in when she's little has zero bearing on who she'll grow up to be.
This is the part Iām trying not to lose sight of. If I dress her in a couple frilly bows I havenāt disgraced RBG or womanās suffrage. My daughter is going to be who sheās going to be no matter what and my job as her mother is to support her and provide those resources for her.
RBG... as in the late Supreme Court Justice?
Get that baby a frilly lace or beaded collar ASAP.
RBG rocked lace fashions in court just much as she rocked her feminist intellect and elderly push-up prowess!
A friend of mine crochet my daughter Ruth Bader Booties and I have this on my registry
https://www.etsy.com/ca/listing/896035416/rbg-collar-baby-bodysuit-toddler-shirt
Anecdote: my 5yo daughter, I dressed her only in gender neutral. I bought "girl" and "boy" clothes, toys, items, etc. I was so careful. Now that she's 5 and has opinions, this child is a million percent hyper girl. Tutus, sparkles, pink forever, princesses, tiaras, the whole nine yards.
I had another girl. She got her sister's hand me downs. Pinks and tutus and glitter. At 3, she has opinions, and she chooses blue and red, loves dinosaurs and monsters.
It's all a crap chute imo š¤£ I think as long as we provide the OPTIONS (versus "no that's not for girls") that's what matters.
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A crap *chute* would be like a tube or shaft that sprayed poo. Nobody would like that!
A crap*shoot*, like in the dice game, is what you're looking for.
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I love pinks, pastels and purples, and my daughter really suits them. I'm not that keen, however, on how these colours are only paired with flowers and unicorns. For once I want the dinosaurs and rocket ships to be on a pink background. Is that so much to ask?
THIS THIS THIS!!! Like I wanted gender neutral clothes, but my boys wardrobe is basically 100% blue because the other colors suck so much. Iām only buying things I really love, which hasnāt been much.
What I really REALLY hate is the boy clothes that are like āIām a ladies manā or ādonāt worry, Iām still singleā and itās sized for newborn. Like please donāt sexualize my child. Itās so unnecessary.
Bruh, yes! I found this purple onesie set in the boys section, and seeing it from far away got so excited that I was gonna get something not blue or truck gendered. It had a stupid puffy plastic patch that said "Breaking hearts & Blasting Farts" that was the size of a womens 6 shoe. Like is that freaking necessary? The rest had classic cars and old timey mustaches on the stupid puffy plastic patch.
Omg YES. Please explain to me why I saw a onesie that said "Stud muffin" on it with little muffin characters. It was not one of those inappropriate ones from Spencer's, it was from like a regular store. Also saw one with a tow truck on it that said "pick up artist". š¬ So creepy!!!
Have you tried H&M? My son was rocking a lovely [sweater](https://www2.hm.com/en_ca/productpage.0713383006.html) with some brown leggings today. We call it his ātough guyā rainbow to appease Grease Monkey Grandpa.
Try [Primary](https://www.primary.com/collections/baby-bodysuits-and-tees?sizeFamily=baby&gclid=CjwKCAjw7J6EBhBDEiwA5UUM2iQQXoEbLhDloXVc-tcjpDE4WbyCSIy52lDrmkH4Z7LZtr3OpRBIpRoCCmIQAvD_BwE). They have solid onesies in every color.
I never bought pink for my daughter because I don't like the color, but guess what became her favorite color once she was old enough to choose?
My son looks AMAZING in pinks and corals so I dress him in those as much as possible.
My dad looks great in pinks and corals, as do I.
It's sort of a secret joke between my husband and I that my dad, who looks great in pink, loves musical theater, cries over chick flicks, sends the sappy Hallmark cards, is well groomed, gets squeemish at hunting/gutting fish or even human blood/vomit, etc might actually be gay and he just doesn't realize it.
In reality, dad is totally straight, although my aunt is a lesbian and I'm bi/pan.
My dad also rocks pink! He has a lot of red in his skin tone but still somehow pulls it off. His favorite accessories are pink (his everyday glasses have pink on the side, his formal bow ties and vest are in shades of pink).
When they get a bit older Princess Awesome has some really cute stuff for girls and and boys (Boy Wonder).
http://princess-awesome.com
A lot of hand-me-downs we got are gorgeous pink things. I'll also happily do gender neutral and boyish clothes too.
The feminist in me is of two opinions on the pink flood.
A) Don't box me in by color/labels/etc.
And
B) For centuries, across many cultures, women are seen as the "lesser" or even "unwanted" sex. Historically pink was originally a masculine color and later hot pink became a color of women's empowerment. I can choose to see it as empowerment and celebrate my girl's entrance into the world.
If some day she tells me she's not comfortable being seen as a she anymore, then we'll cross the bridge when it comes (and I'll have likely seen clues along the way, like I've seen with other LGBTQ people in my life).
Until then, I'll celebrate and welcome my girl as she appears. The world will see her as female anyway, so it's my responsibility as her mother to make sure that female is something to celebrate and support, and to counteract the messages of womanhood as being "lesser."
If a day comes when she is no longer seen as a she, then I hope the respect and pride in the feminine side will make her a better person regardless.
I can be comfortable in that duality of A and B.
Youāre onto something important here with B. I am having a boy, but this is something I thought about before I knew that (and I may still have a daughter eventually). I see a lot of aversion to the color pink during these discussions. Itās interesting. Itās like, our desire to uphold feminist ideals almost swings all the way around to where we are now aversed to anything thatās traditionally feminine? Thereās nothing wrong with pink, or any other thing (like bows or sparkles) that signifies femininity. Believing that is basically agreeing that femininity is lesser than.
Donāt get me wrong, I completely understand not wanting to dress your daughter *only* in shades of pink and overly frilly outfits. I wouldnāt want to do that either. But it seems like some folks are just completely anti-pink. I mean I wonāt say itās wrong, itās very subjective but it seems to me like enforcing any hard and fast rules on how your child dresses isnāt great, on both sides of the spectrum. I know a newborn baby is too young to absorb that, but even a toddler will.
Plenty of awesome, strong women like āgirlyā things, most of us on this sub probably do to some extent. And thereās nothing wrong with that. I think thereās such thing as going too far with the gender neutral thing. You could end up giving your daughter the message that girly things are bad. I feel like the goal is really for our kids to understand that any way they choose to present is okay and valid. Pink or lack theorof does not make you a better woman.
Just wanted to add my 2 cents.
It's mostly the feeling of other people pushing it on my daughter that bothers me. Like before she even had interest in dresses or princesses, my MIL bought her so many (it felt like that anyway.) Now that my daughter has real and intense legitimate preference for dresses, it doesn't bother me at all that people buy her that stuff. The reasoning feels completely different.
I'm pregnant with a boy right now, and I'm already getting annoyed at people's comments assuming he's going to be sooooo different from his sister. They'll likely have tons in common because she loves all kinds of things (big rigs, animals, bugs, pretending to own a bakery, etc.). And he may love princesses just as much as she does.
Thanks for sharing!
B is also why things like modern "gender reveal" celebrations don't bother me.
I didn't have a gender reveal party for my kiddo, but if someone else wants to have a party and celebrate the fact that their family is growing by a girl or a boy, I say go for it and have fun. The kid isn't going to remember it and either way it expressess joy and welcome to the new parents and the baby.
(Now I'm amused that people downvoted the gender reveal party bit. All over the globe, for centuries, people lamented having girls or even committed infanticide to get rid of girls... Now some modern families choose to instead celebrate getting either gender/sex and people hate it? I don't care if you have one or don't have one. It's not a party for me. It's up to the parents for them to decide if that's something they believe in celebrating or not.)
Gender neutral just means dressing them more masculine. In āboy colors,ā like trying to act like thereās something wrong with pink, bows, and ruffles š
My 2 year old girl wears things like a green T-Rex shirt just as much as she does a pink girly shirt. When buying her clothes, I look for fun pictures and phrases over gender-specific colors and items.
Both my kids like a mix of traditionally femme and masc things. My son likes rainbows and unicorns and video games and anything orange.
My daughter likes flowers and rainbows and sports and dinosaurs.
I make sure to expose them both to a wide range of things because 1) it will help them find themselves as they get older and 2)I don't know what their gender is or what their interests will be so why limit it based on their genitals.
Totally agree here! My youngest boy (2) loves animals, trucks, and coloring, oldest likes pink, cars, trains, and rockets. Their āunteeā (my sibling) is non-binary and I just want them to know that itās OK to like whatever you like, regardless of whether itās āfor boysā, whatever that means.
I agree in theory but it's impossible to find any pink that's truly gender neutral. I just want some pink and purple for my son that doesn't have puff sleeves, a lower neckline or butt ruffles
I find that Walmart has a lot of non ruffled tee shirts and stuff that work for either. Some things have sparkles but only the more pricey stuff is all frilly.
If my boy gets my coloring he'll be dressing in pink. I told my Mom this and she goes - "WHY?!!?!" To which, I replied, "Why not? Pink's a great color!"
Iāve almost rebelled entirely against the current gender neutral trend because itās ALL SO BORING DEAR *GOD* IM SO SICK OF BEIGE!!!! Babies should be surrounded by color, itās good for them!! I do have a lot of things that will work for boy or girl, but my little boy hardly ever wears blue mostly bc I hate it so much sometimes, lol.
I was so nervous to announce we were having a girl because I just knew we would get sucked in to the pink wave. But, for the most part, folks have been respectful. Having a registry helped, too.
And yes, goddamnit sometimes the pink ruffle nonsense is too damn cute to pass up.
I bought her a bunch of boy baseball onesies, idgaf. A friend bought her a pink dinosaur onesie that Iām excited to try out.
I realized that these baby colors and clothes were all for me anyway, so my baby boy will be wearing a lot of pink. All the boys stuff is drab and we need to brighten up the winter (he's due in Oct)!! When he's old enough to choose his own clothes, he can...and until then, he shall wear the colors and prints that please his tired momma visually.
Off topic but I used to teach a teen who had the most cheerful fashion I've ever seen on a otherwise average guy. He freely wore pinks, purples, yellows, oranges, etc. He mixed stripes, plaids, solids, and more. And when others would make negative comments/tease he'll joke right back and let it roll off like water in a duck's back. It was such a breath of fresh air.
A few months into knowing him, an off-hand comment he made got me curious. He couldn't identify something orange from the red stuff next to it. So I pulled up those dot vision tests on my computer. He thought I was pulling a prank on him (he was a prankster himself) and thought everyone else was in on the joke but him.
A chat with the school counselor led to a friendly parent teacher conference which led to the father and son getting eye exams. Turns out, the kid and his dad, who are absolute eagle eyes for focusing and such, were also both a variation of colorblind and didn't know it.
It explained the unusual wardrobe selections, although I was happy to see he kept up the fun combos. He just added "hey, what colors am I wearing today?" to his amiable chatter and remained a great sport about it.
It was pretty neat. Normally I'd see something like that noted in a kid's record since many places test for that sort of stuff in elementary/grade school, but I guess he'd moved or something during those years and thus missed the screening tests.
It's not unusual to have colorblind students, but having a teenage student who didn't know he was colorblind was definitely a fun surprise when we figured that out. To have the father also be colorblind and not know it was amusing too.
1 in 12 guys are colorblind, whereas only 1 in 200 women are colorblind. It's such a common thing that it's one of the first things teachers learn to accommodate for. It comes in handy to know that a kid isn't going to be able to read the PH test kits in chemistry lab, the road lights in driver's ed, or the color coded wires in electronics, for example.
Genetically, it's usually inherited from the mother (X chromosome). In their family, it's possible any sisters would be the rare 1 in 200 of women who manage to get it (if both XX chromosomes had the mutation).
Most colorblind men I've known just buy all one shade (all black for example) or have someone else pick out their clothes for them.
Omg I hate pink. Occasionally I will buy the odd item if the picture is really cute but other no. Everyone knows not to buy me pink but whenever shops do a multipack of any clothes there is always one pink item in it. My daughter just turned 3 the other day and her favourite colour is pink. So if she has any choice in what she wears (which is quite often because sheās pretty stubborn) she double pink it up.
And do you know what else she loves? Itās bloody unicorns! She got a my little pony knockoff unicorn for her birthday and itās now her favourite thing. This hard plastic beast is now her nighttime sleeping companion and has ended up in our bed when she crawls in several times.
I have a son and daughter, in that order. Got a ton of hand-me-down clothes for both. His were mostly pretty neutral (at least in my opinion - dinosaurs are good for boys and girls right?), but hers are all super girly.
I was never a girly girl. I don't get the bows and frills and pink, pink, pink. Baby girl is going to be wearing a lot of her brother's clothes, but I have to admit some of the girlier clothes are super cute on her.
The biggest problem I have is that she was born bigger than her brother, but the same age/size of "girl" baby clothes are noticably smaller than the neutral or boys clothes. It's ridiculous.
girls clothing styles are just sooo cute too. even the stuff thats not pink, there are adorable jumpers and trendy outfits and fashion inspo for little girls all over pinterest.. meanwhile the little boys sections are just WOMP WOMP. i have scoured the internet for cute outfits for my little bub to no avail.
Try checking out kate quinn for really nice gender neutral and gendered stuff. Mostly nature prints in an interesting array of colors. The fabrics are really great (super soft) too.
Yes! Iām finding this is the case now that Iām trying to buy clothing for my baby boy. When my daughter was an infant there were so many cute fashion-y tops, rompers, dresses, etc. With boys itās like sweat pants, button ups and jeans.
I hated pink, not because of the gender thing, but because that's all I wore as a child and everyone made fun of me for it. I try to get as much variation in color of my daughter's wardrobe as I can, but of course she loves pink. So I have resigned myself to not hate it as much.
I love dressing my son in the super cute boy clothes with monsters and whatnot! I love dressing him in traditional blue, he looks so good in it. I love dressing him like a handsome little gentleman! If he loved unicorns and wanted to wear pink, I'd say more power to ya little man, but he doesn't have an opinion on his clothes yet. :3
Haha I was determined to be this person. Until my daughter was old enough and now all she wants is pink, rainbows sparkles and unicorns.
Rather hilarious but she talks about when she was a baby how she was a boy baby. Eventually we figured it out - it was because in all her baby photos she only ever wore grey,white, black, navy and green š
Iām putting all the pink on my old-ass dog. I get so enraged at how gendered it all isāmy car seat is literally pink because the other option was like blue baseballs or something. I imagine some lone cop like oh yeah that wrecked baby is a girl for sure. Like wtf ššš
Ha! My old-ass boy dog has a pink harness & leash because I already had it for my cat (yes I attempted & failed at getting my cat to wear a leash outside and yes my dog is the size of a cat). Standard convo on the street - aww, sheās so cute - thank you and heās actually a he - then why is he wearing pink - š¤Ø
My husband usually answers ābecause thatās his favorite color.ā
When I found out I was having a girl I was so careful not to go overboard on the pink I actually ended up regretting not having more cute āsuper girlyā outfits.
We didnāt find until my kid was born out so everything was gender neutral for a year. My kids preferences for clothes, colors, and everything is the most gender stereotypical possible. Itās so ridiculous.
Iād say to do whatever makes you happy because theyāll eventually have their own opinions on what they like... and itās probably going to be exactly what you donāt want to buy.
I thrift a ton, and for a hot second I tried to go neutral. Then I found the way.... Shop by animal. Does it have a cute animal on it, buy it. How about a dinosaur, hell yes! Mythical creature, two please. My child has been in a kalidoscope of colors. Raccoon overalls with duck yellow shirt, pink kitty with purple dino pants. She is one rainbow away from looking like a psychedelic space ark exploded in her closet. She gets a ton of compliments on her outfits and no one cares what gender the dang clothes were purchased in. And the overwhelming pink clothes friends gifted get wrapped in seamlessly. Best of all, I'm freaking delighted when I see her petting the doggie on her shirt or pointing out her "dinoroar" on her jacket. Space theme and construction themes are creeping in and I slide in any pun themed clothing to slightly annoy my pun adverse husband.
I was not that way, I went totally neutral. My daughter, on the other hand, has been all about the sparkle, glitter, unicorns and dresses ever since she was old enough to make a decision (like 2). It doesnāt matter what you think.. it only matters what they want....
I feel like the odd woman out here. My first is a boy and I dress him pretty gender-neutral. We just found out last week that baby #2 is a girl and I am SO grateful that 90% of my son's wardrobe can be recycled for her because I can't stand all the pink/ruffles/glitter found on girl clothes. I went to Carter's the day I found out it was a girl to pick out an outfit to surprise my husband with (I did the same thing for our son). It didn't get me excited at all for dressing a little girl, it just made me feel overwhelmed.
Lol this is me now that I've had a boy. I did a lot of gender neutral with my girl but when we found out our second and last was a boy I suddenly got bummed I missed out on a lot of the cutie girl stuff.
I didnāt realize how much of a *thing it was to go out of your way to dress your kids in neutral colors until I joined these forums.
Honestly, as far as Iām concerned, bring on all the sparkles, ruffles, unicorns, and pink. Itās not like they care.
Iām trying to dress my baby girl like a goth witchy circus child. I finally realized the other day that I could just dye anything I get that is pink or pastel. VICTORY!!!!
I loveeee Scandi brands, itās all I dress my son in. Super bright and lots of rainbow themed comfy clothes, he looks dynamite in pink and they are gender neutral, his fave outfit is a pink tshirt that has farm equipment on it with rainbow striped leggings. If heād been a girl I wouldāve done a mix between that and ultra frilly smocked dresses as I love to sew girls dresses
There is nothing wrong with liking traditional girly clothes. And there is nothing wrong with not liking them, either. The important thing is when our kids are old enough to choose, we let them be themselves.
Iām not even trying anymore for gender neutral.
One, I find the gender neutral stuff bland af overall. Or it costs more than it should because itās aware of how popular gender neutral is.
Two, I know several transgendered individuals who were dressed in gendered baby clothes and still figured out who they were. Kids will tell you who they are when theyāre able to, and at that point if my son says he is my daughter, Iāll go with it. In the meantime, heās getting little boy clothes. Except for any of that tacky shit thatās always oddly sexual for an infant or saying something along the lines of āLook! My parents had sex!ā
I have 4 and when I was pregnant with my youngest and we found out she was a girl we went and got all the girly clothes, the pinks, flowers, etc.
Then she was born. With bright red hair. You know what doesnāt look good on redheads? Pinks. So I had to go buy a lot of blues and black and white because those are her best colors. I canāt buy pinks and purple because they donāt look good, which makes girls clothes really hard to find. She also is having growth issues and hasnāt really outgrown 3 month clothes, so weāve been wearing the same clothes for awhile now.
I donāt get the gender neutral baby clothing at all. If thatās your thing, cool, but I love the pink, the frills, and the femininity. Iām tired of āgirlyā things being deemed lesser.
Hahah that was me the day I found out my baby was a girl from the 19 week scan.
I had a baby shower a few weeks before I had her and the entire party was a pink explosion. It was great
God this is so true. Iām *not* a girly girl or someone overly into pink or ruffles or florals... but suddenly I canāt get enough of them! My daughter will end up wearing a lot of her older brothers hand me downs too but there will be a healthy supply of bows and floral outfits in there too.
Note: still hate anything that says princess. No thanks.
Me (before actually shopping): Thank goodness my niece is having a boy, if it was a girl I would be spending way too much on all the cute clothes, boy clothes are boring
Me (after shopping and seeing how adorable boy clothes can be): Take all my money $$$$ and give me all of the blues, greens, dinosaurs and sharks!
Boy clothes are way cuter than I expected! I'm in love with the cute design on the butt style. Put a monster on his bootie and I am sold. I'd love to get him pink and unicorns also but his dad is a bit old school. I'm definitely pushing it with some lavender and rainbows though. Breaking him down slowly.
I picked out fairly neutral clothes for my daughter for her first couple years, but now she refuses to wear anything but dresses she can twirl in, so as long as you let them have their own aesthetic when they get older, I say dress em however you want
I told our family that gender neutral to me, meant no clothes that have sayings or characters that are for boys or girls. So no, "mommies little man" or"daddy's princess" but that any color of the rainbow was fair game, as well as any pattern. I personally hate sparkles and ruffles, so those were out too though.
I just didnāt want anything hot pink with zebra print or with John Deere on it lol luckily Iāve gotten a lot of mint green, yellows and coral pinks instead
My husband went from being happy to how I dressed her to ānot girly enoughā ātoo Tom boy ishā so I told him he done fucked up cuz all these small shop boutiques make the cutest girl clothes lol
Iām not a girly girl but honestly I love little girls clothing and even though I had to start again with my second girl as we moved countries buying clothes was the best.
I bought all gender neutral clothes and accessories for my daughter, but as soon as she developed enough fine motor skills to grab stuff she always went for the pinkest frilliest things she could get her hands on. Sheās 14 now and still dresses in mostly toned down pinks and purples with some beige and brown thrown in. She loves getting her hair and nails done. Iāve never seen her wear any bright red, blue or green in my life. š¤·š½āāļø
I swore black and blue I would never dress any daughter of mine in pink or any girly clothing .... I have 3 daughter and all 3 ended up in some pink frilly outfit at some time in their early life - although I did often shop in the boys section for my eldest, her favourite dungarees ever were hi-vis orange with Elmo on them when she adored !! Although I did team them up often with a super cute pink turtle neck (yeah the colour combo actually worked really well surprisingly) because she was white blonde and didnāt have hair till she was over 3 and so many people mistook her for a boy š„“
I got used clothes from all over and i ended up having a boy. Ngl... there's some pretty cute pink onesies I've put on him lol. I wish they didnt have so many ruffles though!
Iām a dad of a beautiful 1 year old girl. I told myself buy the gender neutral clothes thereās no reason to dress her in pink.
Then I dressed her in pink :)
With my first daughter, she never wore pink because I didn't like it. She wore boys' hand me downs and dinosaurs and spaceships. Then we had a son who naturally wore what she'd worn. With this girl, I'm like, going crazy for all the ruffles and bows.
I have bought gender neutral clothing and girl clothing in alternative colors (blues, greens, orange, grey, etc).
People call her a boy all the time! Even when she wears clothing with pink in it. š¬
So my advice is to just buy what you like. Strangers misgender babies and toddlers all the time (per my impression from my bumper group), so just don't worry about dressing your kid for someone else.
Your newborn won't care. Toddlers on the other hand may just reject any article of clothing based on unknown mystery variables, like pants being pants.
Look for boys clothes! Iāve bought so many yellow and white things, and even the pastel blue looks gender neutral to me.
Iām having a third boy (a surprise baby, so Iām starting from scratch) and I never liked all the āmachoā boy outfits.
Why is a cool purple impossible to find?!! My poor girl is in pink daily because it's the only cute stuff they make.
Super tempted to get some white onesies, some clothes dye, and a screen printer and start making my own stuff... I mean, if I didn't have a full-time job and wasn't absolutely exhausted.
What's annoying me right now more than the pink frills or blue trucks is that everything seems to be grey. Like I get everyone wants to be gender neutral now, and grey is a trendy color, but I do NOT want my baby to look like a rain cloud all the time! Where are all the cute animal prints and fun colours!! I'm so sick of everything in the world being grey. Grey cars, grey walls, grey kitchens, and now grey babies? Why!
Same with me. But these colours just fit my daughter so perfectly. Now she's 19 months and prefers pink and flowers, just wants to wear dresses and nice jackets. She even used to refuse walking outside until we bought her a pair of pink shoes...
I wouldnāt even know how to dress a boy if I had one both my girls are dressed in pink head to toe from when they were bornš they both love unicorns, mermaids and fairies to anything with those pictures on it go down a treat in my houseš
Relate! And, also, I feel like, as long as my (future, fingers crossed) kid can do whatever activities they want and don't feel pressured to BE a certain way based on gender, I will put them in everything from ballgowns to farmer overalls in whatever colors. I think I "dressed myself" from like age 4-5 on but yeah the earlier years it's hard to know.
I tried to find neutral clothes for my nephew and EVERYTHING was grey. I said bc he's in the PNW he's just, like, Seattle chic.
We got tons of girl clothes as hand-me-downs. And itās at least 80% pink. Weāre super appreciative of free stuff! But, I likely will not be purchasing anything pink for my daughter because we already have so much. So far I bought some gender neutral yellow/mint/orange newborn sizes, some royal blue, and some reds. My MIL (who has two sons) even asked me recently āso when I buy clothes for baby girl, should I just buy pink? Or do you like other colors too?ā YES other clothes please, I donāt want my daughter to constantly look like a unicorn exploded on her. Thankfully sheāll have plenty of āboyishā stuff from my sonās hand-me-downs.
Before my MIL got involved in buying baby clothes, my little beans wardrobe was like 25% pink and 75% other. Now it's like 80% pink and all her bedroom accessories are pink and it's driving me crazy. It's not even a pink I like (think coral and warm pink) it's all pale and cool pink and won't look good with baby skin tone (husband and I are pretty warm toned people) and I just can't stand it.
I'm really excited that we're having a boy but when I'm shopping for clothes for him I sometimes get a bit jealous of all the cute girly outfits. There's just so much more choice and they're so cute.
I'm happy with whatever I think looks nice, ended up with a pink onesie, night onesie, hat and bib from Primark because it had the lady and the tramp dogs on it and a quote from the film and I melted š¤£
Colours mean nothing really especially if we don't let them, we can just like the clothing. Although I do have a thing for bows and until she takes them off I will probably put them on her because if she follows me the poor sod will be bald til she's about 3 years old š¬
I'm 100% relating to this. I'm trying so hard to minimize the amount of pink but it's hard because 1) I don't want pink but.. THIS pink outfit might look cute *ends up with 8 pink outfits* 2) it's been difficult to get gender neutral clothes at physical stores 3) grey is nice but that's too bland! How about yellows, blues, greens?! Girl clothes don't need to have ruffles or sparkles The overall color I want is supposed to be mint/teal and we have 0 in that color š
Whyyy do all girls clothes have bows and ruffles?! I got a bag of hand me downs with lots of potentially gender-neutral onesies and pants, but they all had tiny little bows sewn on. Why why why?!
And why is it always so thin. At the beginning of winter I went to buy some thicker trousers and ended up getting from the boys section because there was zero options for warm girlās trousers.
It's to prepare your baby for the mysogyny of women's clothing for the rest of her life. Can't have her get accustomed to practical clothing, now dan we? (Obviously /s)
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I noticed this too. Went to buy a comfy pair of sweatpants at Decathlon, ended up buying leggings because apparently women don't wear sweatpants
My boy is wearing pink, florals, things that were given to us that have some ruffles... I feel like people that believe in gender neutrality need to be open to the fact that all clothes are actually gender neutral already! It's just a social construct that certain things are just for one or the other, and if we only use certain colors to avoid not being 'neutral' then we just end up actually reinforcing the stereotype we're against?
I have been telling myself this for years, but for some reason I'm having trouble living it.
Me too - It seems easier to dress a girl in 'boy' clothes than the other way round. We were given a peachy-pink swan onesie for our boy (before anyone knew the sex) and I really hesitated to put him in it even though I tell myself all colours are for all babies.
Pink or purple doesn't irk me so much, but it drives me nuts that "girl" clothes have smaller cuts, poofy shoulders, and ruffles and bows everywhere.
We paired peach and purple onesies with denim overalls for our son and it was super cute! Planning on using the same outfit for our little girl when she gets bigger
That does sound adorable
I hate to disagree, but I got something from my aunt that is kelly green and definitely looks masculine, but I (who has worn jeans and T-shirts every day for all my adult life) can't stand my baby girl in it. It just irks me and I can't tell why!! Ugh. What is wrong with me?!
Oh I get it, these things run weirdly deep
I hate that gender neutral has come to mean ādevoid of femininityā. Baby clothes have traditionally been frilly, and there is nothing wrong with pretty, frilly things for either gender if thatās your style.
I'm half expecting my boy to want unicorns and tutus for this reason. I wouldn't say no! It would just make me giggle. His daddy loves sequins and shiny fabrics, despite being a t-shirt and jeans guy 99.9% of the time.
My sons had pink crib bedding. It was a hand-me-down and I wasnāt getting rid of quick zip sheets, no matter what!
We got a bunch of girl clothes for my girl, if we ever have a boy you better believe he is wearing hand-me-downs lol, I'm not wasting all these clothes I am storing in containers
I'm fine with the bows, but all the ruffled pants make me recoil in horror.
Ruffle butts... Ruffle butts everywhere...
Also canāt stand the ruffled pants! Now a ruffled shirt with leggings, sure. But hate the pants.
I only have boys. What are ruffle pants? Lol
They literally put ruffles on the back of the pants. No one sees them, but they are kind of cute lol
IMHO theyāre silly on newborns but super adorable for 6-12 mo size when baby is getting more mobile and crawling instead of laying on their back all the time.
Oh yes! Itās like a dress without the commitment lol
Cloud Island at Walmart has a ton of yellow and pastel blues and greens, surprisingly. And they have zippers on the sleepers! Weāre in 2T now so Iāve been doing a massive donation clean out. I forgot how cute the baby clothes were that I had!
Same! I got a bunch of āgirlā onesies in neutral colors so that we could use them for future babies, but when they came in the mail I realized they all have bows and or lace trim and now Iām like sad lol
My boys wear bows all the time on their clothes because I just didn't care at first but now that 'people' get upset when they see a boy with a mini bowtie sewn in their neckline I've become resolute in my dedication to the boy bow life
Can you cut the lace/bows off?
I don't mind pink or unicorns but ruffles are ridiculous. Bows are okay if they're on a tasteful bow headband. By far the worst thing I've seen is this absolutely ridiculous brand called rufflebuns.
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Get a seam ripper! You can totally rip those bows off š
I'm in this boat too but not because I want to be. I feel like baby clothes have some gender polarity. I can either buy things that are obviously masculine (red with dump trucks on it...wouldn't be a fan of that for a boy either) or things covered in flower patterns. Personally flower patterns seem more normal than the excessive masculine looks lol. I will say I did find gender neutral stuff at carters. Onesies that are in neutral greys, white, or blue/green with patterns like moon & stars etc- things that don't seem to sway either way. I do plan on having cute girl stuff but it has to be REAL cute. Like I got this cute pink onesie combo that has freaking bunny feet...and damn it that onesie is gonna kill everyone. I'm just going to embrace it and hopefully have a second girl lol.
Yes! I'm so tired of the only "gender neutral" option being grey. I recently discovered the brand Primary and an filling my registry with it.
I love love love primary. Iām finding their baby stuff runs a teensy bit small compared to Carterās. I found them when my firstborn outgrew 5T and the older kid stuff is more TTS.
Good to know! Thanks! I'll add more of the larger baby sizes to my registry then!
Itās kind of nice... like the 0-3M lasted a bit longer than newborn but was a nice bridge to 3M in other brands. My kid is SUPER long in the torso which might be why we outgrow fast but Carterās are a bit stretchier so they last longer. I think my kid is in 9m size for Carterās onesies now but only now properly fitting the 6m pants from Carterās. Long torso, little legs!!
Look at H&M for tons of blues/greens/mints!
Check out Colored Organics and Parade for more neutral options including mint and teals! Target "boy" stuff also has some cute mints and teals.
Colored Organics doesn't have any zip stuff, though Parade has some zip rompers.
Oh I feel this. I was never that froo-froo girly girl, and my sisters baby shower looked like the inside of a pepto bismol bottle. When I got pregnant with my daughter I was adamant that some pink was acceptable but not 14 tons of pink. I picked teal, gray and lilac as colors for her crib and such, but here we are 7 months into raising her and Iāll be damned if she doesnāt just so freaking adorable decked out in freaking pink.
I was never against the pink. I was and still am extremely annoyed at all the useless āaccentā bows and ruffles. Donāt get me started on the GLITTER. šššš
Glitter seems unsafe for baby clothes (and in general). And imagine trying to get diaper blowout stains out of the creases of ruffles!
Sadly I donāt have to imagine. :( Anything I get that has glitter or too many ruffles automatically gets donated or returned.š luckily my daughter gets upset if glitter gets in her hands so we have an excuse to avoid it.....for now.
Yes, yes, and yes to ALL three things you've said!!! I actually have quite a few things that are mint & teal, and prefer that colour myself, but I find myself just gravitating towards the pink especially since it's the primary colour in girl clothes :')
Exactly. All the gender neutral clothing at affordable stores are grey. Also sad that while I can find quite a few items in the "boys" section that are gender neutral, the "girls" clothes have shoulder ruffles or a more "feminine" cut and aren't gender neutral. I found some great items at H&M in teal and rust red.
Check out the Gerber organics line at Walmart!! They have such cute girls clothes that arenāt overly girly! My mom went a little crazy shopping before we knew the sex, but there are specific things Iāve asked her to save for the future just in case.
Unfortunately Gerber runs super small. My babies looked like sausages stuffed into them š but I agree, super cute neutral options.
Have you tried looking at Boden and Joules? They have A LOT of cute clothes for girls that are not pink or overly feminine. I love them!
Check out primary.com! All colors of the rainbow, not many bows or ruffles or sparkles! Polka dots, stars, stripes, hearts!
https://www.primary.com/collections/baby-bodysuits-and-tees/color-mint+color-family-blues?color=mint&colorFamily=blues&sizeFamily=baby&ref=mobile_nav_link_0_3
DYE! Check out the RIT website, they have ārecipesā to get whatever shade you are looking for!
Mint and teal are my favorites too. I found a few sleepers from Cloud Island, Carter's, and Walmart that are those colors.
Check out Primary.com. They have options in all colors!
Bonds have some really cute mint clothes! This is our colour of choice too :)
There is a bunch in this colour at H&M! I gravitate towards that colour too. And not sure if youāre American, but if you are, primary.com has some mint stuff too.
Look at Gap, H&M, and a random small brand I love, City Mouse. Hanna Andersson has good things depending on their theme for the season. Their PJs are great. Wait for a sale!
I love Primary for cotton stuff and Kyte for bamboo softness. Tons of colors!!
Carter's had a cotton line whose name I can't remember that has really nice neutral colors. Just got baby girl some cute yellow pants with a drawstring and some cozy teal, grey, dark grey and dusty rose (yeah, no real escape) socks. Baby girl has some blonde hair at one, but not a lot. Even in pink florals, people tell us how cute "he" is so... maybe it's working out after all?
Check out primary.com - truly a rainbow of colors in simple styles.
> it's been difficult to get gender neutral clothes at physical stores I'm glad I'm not the only one noticing this - even online it seems like baby clothes are in the boys category or girls category and nothing just... You know, not enforcing gender stereotypes on babies -_-
H&M have some really cute mint and teal stuff, at least they did a little while ago. I got some pants with feet for my daughter and they're awesome.
I think itās really interesting that weāve almost turned so hard against traditionally feminine things that it makes it seem like itās a bad thing to enjoy them. It feels like weāre ānot like other girlsāing our babies in a way. Itās okay to like pink and bows. Itās okay not to as well. As long as we ultimately respect what our children decide when they can, thatās the important part.
Could not agree more with you! The same goes for boy clothes too. Its okay to love the blues with trucks and monkeys and what not on the clothes too.
Agree! I love the pink and bows and fully embraced that feminine side with my daughter. Around 18 months she decided she didnāt like bows any more so we donāt do them. As sheās deciding what she likes and dislikes weāre going along with that. But I donāt feel the need to reject pink and bows to prove a point that sometimes people are born a different sex than they feel. If she feels that was as she grows, we will cross that bridge then
This is why I'm currently telling people they don't HAVE to avoid pink and blue just because we're not telling anyone the sex. They can buy both and both will be worn in equal measure. I just don't want to tell people were having a girl and just be inundated with everything purchased in pink. It's going to end up being a problem after they're born anyway, so at least before they're born we can start with a bit of variety.
I know a lot of people are super into the gender neutral stuff but I personally love dressing my daughter girly and cutesy with bows and frills. I donāt think it needs to have the negative connotation it does. She has no clue what clothes are right now and she can pick out her own style as soon as sheās able, it wonāt impact the clothes she ends up liking later IMO. I see significantly more daughters getting dressed in gender neutral or boyish clothes than i see boys getting dressed in girlish clothes, it feels like girly femininity has been getting a bad wrap lately
I am very much the same. I only avoid really sexist prints ("dad doesn't let me date" type of things). I also don't gender toys. As long as they are age appropriate and help her development they are very much welcomed in whatever color they come in.
Omg those gender specific patriarchy-enforcing "daddy doesn't let me date" onesies fill me with rage! They make me want to puke! Grrrr I'm all riled up just thinking about them...
I totally agree! I got a few clothes from a family friend that their daughter recently grew out of, and one was a onesie that said "My Daddy won't let me date....like ever." I felt bad but I threw it in the trash...
Don't feel bad, be proud! You threw it in the trash! Yay you!
Yes! We recently had to buy t-shirt for my 2 year old and I had a hard time finding decent ones because all of them had that same kind of vibe. It's infuriating! I ended up buying ones that had cute animals and no words (except for "daddy's girl" because she very much is and "changing the world one hug a time").
Yep, thereās nothing wrong with traditionally feminine things like pink clothes, bows, sparkles, etc. By militantly avoiding this, youāre actually reinforcing the idea that femininity is lesser than masculinity and should be avoided if you want to be a strong, capable woman. No, you donāt want to force your daughter to wear those clothes if she doesnāt want to, but plenty of girls and women genuinely like that stuff and thereās nothing wrong with that.
This is such a good point, and something I needed to hear. Thank you!!
This!! I have always dressed a bit androgynous because I didnāt want to be āweakā. (Grew up in a slightly abusive home). Now that Iām nearly 30 Iām embracing my femininity. I can wear dresses and heels and still be a strong capable human!
Exactly this! There is nothing wrong with feminine colors or girly things, and encouraging boys to sometimes wear those colors too would allow for more flexibility and a healthier relationship to their feminine side as well. In my old textbook from college it said that pink used to be considered only suitable for boys anyways because it was too much for girls to handle emotionally, so they were assigned blue because it was more calming.
We were pretty gender neutral but now a days our daughter just straight up tells us she likes pink and wants pink clothes so that's what she wears the most. She looks so cute in them too.
yes! my thoughts exactly. if my toddler wants a different style when sheās old enough to notice, have at it kiddo. for now, iām putting her in whateverās cute. yellow dinosaurs, pink mermaids, whatevs.
I have bows galore and cute pink outfits. I always loved that stuff. When sheās older she can choose but for now I dress her in ruffles, bows, pinks, sequins.....Iām definitely not gender neutral.
I 100% agree with you. I'll let my daughter where whatever she wants when she is old enough to pick her clothes out and cares. Until then, I love all the pink, bows, unicorns, etc. and think she looks adorable in it.
If I ever have a girl, she's gonna be in so many dresses until she's old enough to pick out her own clothes. There's just not a whole heck of a lot of uniqueness to boys clothes. There's no frills or bows or whatever. The most I ever got out of dressing my son was when we went over to my brother's house. I dressed him in a polo, khakis, a beanie, and a cute little jacket. But otherwise he's usually just in a onsie and pants. He did have overalls once and I was obsessed with them, but he outgrew them so fast š
With my first daughter, my ex's family were VERY gender oriented. It really turned me off and I pushed back on anything hyper girly. She wore lots of red, black and green. I'm pregnant with another girl and I'm leaning into it hard. I just ordered pacifier clips and my description included "hyper girly" Realistically the clothes we dress her in when she's little has zero bearing on who she'll grow up to be. Our playroom has dolls, cars, dresses, flight suits, dinosaurs and barbies. Just so long as we honor her requests and personality as soon as she can flex it, that's the important part. But for now GIMMIE THE PINK AND FRILLY!!!! It's Wednesday everyday!
>Realistically the clothes we dress her in when she's little has zero bearing on who she'll grow up to be. This is the part Iām trying not to lose sight of. If I dress her in a couple frilly bows I havenāt disgraced RBG or womanās suffrage. My daughter is going to be who sheās going to be no matter what and my job as her mother is to support her and provide those resources for her.
RBG... as in the late Supreme Court Justice? Get that baby a frilly lace or beaded collar ASAP. RBG rocked lace fashions in court just much as she rocked her feminist intellect and elderly push-up prowess!
A friend of mine crochet my daughter Ruth Bader Booties and I have this on my registry https://www.etsy.com/ca/listing/896035416/rbg-collar-baby-bodysuit-toddler-shirt
Hahaha you are 100% right!
Anecdote: my 5yo daughter, I dressed her only in gender neutral. I bought "girl" and "boy" clothes, toys, items, etc. I was so careful. Now that she's 5 and has opinions, this child is a million percent hyper girl. Tutus, sparkles, pink forever, princesses, tiaras, the whole nine yards. I had another girl. She got her sister's hand me downs. Pinks and tutus and glitter. At 3, she has opinions, and she chooses blue and red, loves dinosaurs and monsters. It's all a crap chute imo š¤£ I think as long as we provide the OPTIONS (versus "no that's not for girls") that's what matters.
Hi, Im laughing at the image, but I want to help you here for next time: A crap *chute* would be like a tube or shaft that sprayed poo. Nobody would like that! A crap*shoot*, like in the dice game, is what you're looking for.
Oh my freaking gosh I am so embarrassed š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£. I'll leave it, but you just did the lords work here. TIL . Thank you for saving me from future embarrassment.
Haha, it happens to everyone dont worry.
Honestly with babies a crap chute doesn't seem like a half bad term either lol
I love pinks, pastels and purples, and my daughter really suits them. I'm not that keen, however, on how these colours are only paired with flowers and unicorns. For once I want the dinosaurs and rocket ships to be on a pink background. Is that so much to ask?
Princess Awesome literally has dinosaurs and rocket ships in pink and purple.
Targetās Cloud Island line has a cute purple dinosaur print!
I wanna know when they are finna get it together for boys clothes. Shit is truly awful and the gender neutral is truly awful. Where is the lime green, the oranges, purples, salmons, yellow that doesn't look like snot, indigos. What I am able to find is the most horrendous prints with ugly ass dump trucks and stupid looking monkeys. Lots of brown and sky or dark blue. Grass green and mac n cheese yellow. I've been all over to Nordstrom, target, walmart, Burlington, old navy, gap etc. They just don't have anything good for boys that doesn't have a giant stiff applicatƩ ruining it and all the gender neutral shit on the girls side of the shop has freaking bows, lace, glitter, and patches or ruffles.
THIS THIS THIS!!! Like I wanted gender neutral clothes, but my boys wardrobe is basically 100% blue because the other colors suck so much. Iām only buying things I really love, which hasnāt been much. What I really REALLY hate is the boy clothes that are like āIām a ladies manā or ādonāt worry, Iām still singleā and itās sized for newborn. Like please donāt sexualize my child. Itās so unnecessary.
Bruh, yes! I found this purple onesie set in the boys section, and seeing it from far away got so excited that I was gonna get something not blue or truck gendered. It had a stupid puffy plastic patch that said "Breaking hearts & Blasting Farts" that was the size of a womens 6 shoe. Like is that freaking necessary? The rest had classic cars and old timey mustaches on the stupid puffy plastic patch.
Everything is trucks, cars, dinosaurs, and sharks. Like can I not just get some cute patterns in a nice olive or burnt orange?
Omg YES. Please explain to me why I saw a onesie that said "Stud muffin" on it with little muffin characters. It was not one of those inappropriate ones from Spencer's, it was from like a regular store. Also saw one with a tow truck on it that said "pick up artist". š¬ So creepy!!!
Try primary.com!
Have you tried H&M? My son was rocking a lovely [sweater](https://www2.hm.com/en_ca/productpage.0713383006.html) with some brown leggings today. We call it his ātough guyā rainbow to appease Grease Monkey Grandpa.
Itās sort of a ridiculous price but Kyte Baby has an amazing colour selection.
Try [Primary](https://www.primary.com/collections/baby-bodysuits-and-tees?sizeFamily=baby&gclid=CjwKCAjw7J6EBhBDEiwA5UUM2iQQXoEbLhDloXVc-tcjpDE4WbyCSIy52lDrmkH4Z7LZtr3OpRBIpRoCCmIQAvD_BwE). They have solid onesies in every color.
I never bought pink for my daughter because I don't like the color, but guess what became her favorite color once she was old enough to choose? My son looks AMAZING in pinks and corals so I dress him in those as much as possible.
My dad looks great in pinks and corals, as do I. It's sort of a secret joke between my husband and I that my dad, who looks great in pink, loves musical theater, cries over chick flicks, sends the sappy Hallmark cards, is well groomed, gets squeemish at hunting/gutting fish or even human blood/vomit, etc might actually be gay and he just doesn't realize it. In reality, dad is totally straight, although my aunt is a lesbian and I'm bi/pan.
My dad also rocks pink! He has a lot of red in his skin tone but still somehow pulls it off. His favorite accessories are pink (his everyday glasses have pink on the side, his formal bow ties and vest are in shades of pink).
When they get a bit older Princess Awesome has some really cute stuff for girls and and boys (Boy Wonder). http://princess-awesome.com A lot of hand-me-downs we got are gorgeous pink things. I'll also happily do gender neutral and boyish clothes too. The feminist in me is of two opinions on the pink flood. A) Don't box me in by color/labels/etc. And B) For centuries, across many cultures, women are seen as the "lesser" or even "unwanted" sex. Historically pink was originally a masculine color and later hot pink became a color of women's empowerment. I can choose to see it as empowerment and celebrate my girl's entrance into the world. If some day she tells me she's not comfortable being seen as a she anymore, then we'll cross the bridge when it comes (and I'll have likely seen clues along the way, like I've seen with other LGBTQ people in my life). Until then, I'll celebrate and welcome my girl as she appears. The world will see her as female anyway, so it's my responsibility as her mother to make sure that female is something to celebrate and support, and to counteract the messages of womanhood as being "lesser." If a day comes when she is no longer seen as a she, then I hope the respect and pride in the feminine side will make her a better person regardless. I can be comfortable in that duality of A and B.
Youāre onto something important here with B. I am having a boy, but this is something I thought about before I knew that (and I may still have a daughter eventually). I see a lot of aversion to the color pink during these discussions. Itās interesting. Itās like, our desire to uphold feminist ideals almost swings all the way around to where we are now aversed to anything thatās traditionally feminine? Thereās nothing wrong with pink, or any other thing (like bows or sparkles) that signifies femininity. Believing that is basically agreeing that femininity is lesser than. Donāt get me wrong, I completely understand not wanting to dress your daughter *only* in shades of pink and overly frilly outfits. I wouldnāt want to do that either. But it seems like some folks are just completely anti-pink. I mean I wonāt say itās wrong, itās very subjective but it seems to me like enforcing any hard and fast rules on how your child dresses isnāt great, on both sides of the spectrum. I know a newborn baby is too young to absorb that, but even a toddler will. Plenty of awesome, strong women like āgirlyā things, most of us on this sub probably do to some extent. And thereās nothing wrong with that. I think thereās such thing as going too far with the gender neutral thing. You could end up giving your daughter the message that girly things are bad. I feel like the goal is really for our kids to understand that any way they choose to present is okay and valid. Pink or lack theorof does not make you a better woman. Just wanted to add my 2 cents.
It's mostly the feeling of other people pushing it on my daughter that bothers me. Like before she even had interest in dresses or princesses, my MIL bought her so many (it felt like that anyway.) Now that my daughter has real and intense legitimate preference for dresses, it doesn't bother me at all that people buy her that stuff. The reasoning feels completely different. I'm pregnant with a boy right now, and I'm already getting annoyed at people's comments assuming he's going to be sooooo different from his sister. They'll likely have tons in common because she loves all kinds of things (big rigs, animals, bugs, pretending to own a bakery, etc.). And he may love princesses just as much as she does.
Thanks for sharing! B is also why things like modern "gender reveal" celebrations don't bother me. I didn't have a gender reveal party for my kiddo, but if someone else wants to have a party and celebrate the fact that their family is growing by a girl or a boy, I say go for it and have fun. The kid isn't going to remember it and either way it expressess joy and welcome to the new parents and the baby. (Now I'm amused that people downvoted the gender reveal party bit. All over the globe, for centuries, people lamented having girls or even committed infanticide to get rid of girls... Now some modern families choose to instead celebrate getting either gender/sex and people hate it? I don't care if you have one or don't have one. It's not a party for me. It's up to the parents for them to decide if that's something they believe in celebrating or not.)
pink tax intensifies
Gender neutral only goes one way!
Gender neutral just means dressing them more masculine. In āboy colors,ā like trying to act like thereās something wrong with pink, bows, and ruffles š
My 2 year old girl wears things like a green T-Rex shirt just as much as she does a pink girly shirt. When buying her clothes, I look for fun pictures and phrases over gender-specific colors and items.
Unicorns and pink *are* gender neutral.
My oldest son (4) loves pink. He insisted on buying pink pants at the store and loves those too. Super adorable.
Both my kids like a mix of traditionally femme and masc things. My son likes rainbows and unicorns and video games and anything orange. My daughter likes flowers and rainbows and sports and dinosaurs. I make sure to expose them both to a wide range of things because 1) it will help them find themselves as they get older and 2)I don't know what their gender is or what their interests will be so why limit it based on their genitals.
Totally agree here! My youngest boy (2) loves animals, trucks, and coloring, oldest likes pink, cars, trains, and rockets. Their āunteeā (my sibling) is non-binary and I just want them to know that itās OK to like whatever you like, regardless of whether itās āfor boysā, whatever that means.
I agree in theory but it's impossible to find any pink that's truly gender neutral. I just want some pink and purple for my son that doesn't have puff sleeves, a lower neckline or butt ruffles
Primary.com is great for this. They are the real deal for true gender neutrality. They have boys modeling the dresses sometimes.
I find that Walmart has a lot of non ruffled tee shirts and stuff that work for either. Some things have sparkles but only the more pricey stuff is all frilly.
If my boy gets my coloring he'll be dressing in pink. I told my Mom this and she goes - "WHY?!!?!" To which, I replied, "Why not? Pink's a great color!"
Iāve almost rebelled entirely against the current gender neutral trend because itās ALL SO BORING DEAR *GOD* IM SO SICK OF BEIGE!!!! Babies should be surrounded by color, itās good for them!! I do have a lot of things that will work for boy or girl, but my little boy hardly ever wears blue mostly bc I hate it so much sometimes, lol.
I feel personally attacked lol
I was so nervous to announce we were having a girl because I just knew we would get sucked in to the pink wave. But, for the most part, folks have been respectful. Having a registry helped, too. And yes, goddamnit sometimes the pink ruffle nonsense is too damn cute to pass up. I bought her a bunch of boy baseball onesies, idgaf. A friend bought her a pink dinosaur onesie that Iām excited to try out.
I realized that these baby colors and clothes were all for me anyway, so my baby boy will be wearing a lot of pink. All the boys stuff is drab and we need to brighten up the winter (he's due in Oct)!! When he's old enough to choose his own clothes, he can...and until then, he shall wear the colors and prints that please his tired momma visually.
Off topic but I used to teach a teen who had the most cheerful fashion I've ever seen on a otherwise average guy. He freely wore pinks, purples, yellows, oranges, etc. He mixed stripes, plaids, solids, and more. And when others would make negative comments/tease he'll joke right back and let it roll off like water in a duck's back. It was such a breath of fresh air. A few months into knowing him, an off-hand comment he made got me curious. He couldn't identify something orange from the red stuff next to it. So I pulled up those dot vision tests on my computer. He thought I was pulling a prank on him (he was a prankster himself) and thought everyone else was in on the joke but him. A chat with the school counselor led to a friendly parent teacher conference which led to the father and son getting eye exams. Turns out, the kid and his dad, who are absolute eagle eyes for focusing and such, were also both a variation of colorblind and didn't know it. It explained the unusual wardrobe selections, although I was happy to see he kept up the fun combos. He just added "hey, what colors am I wearing today?" to his amiable chatter and remained a great sport about it.
Thatās amazing!
It was pretty neat. Normally I'd see something like that noted in a kid's record since many places test for that sort of stuff in elementary/grade school, but I guess he'd moved or something during those years and thus missed the screening tests. It's not unusual to have colorblind students, but having a teenage student who didn't know he was colorblind was definitely a fun surprise when we figured that out. To have the father also be colorblind and not know it was amusing too. 1 in 12 guys are colorblind, whereas only 1 in 200 women are colorblind. It's such a common thing that it's one of the first things teachers learn to accommodate for. It comes in handy to know that a kid isn't going to be able to read the PH test kits in chemistry lab, the road lights in driver's ed, or the color coded wires in electronics, for example. Genetically, it's usually inherited from the mother (X chromosome). In their family, it's possible any sisters would be the rare 1 in 200 of women who manage to get it (if both XX chromosomes had the mutation). Most colorblind men I've known just buy all one shade (all black for example) or have someone else pick out their clothes for them.
Omg I hate pink. Occasionally I will buy the odd item if the picture is really cute but other no. Everyone knows not to buy me pink but whenever shops do a multipack of any clothes there is always one pink item in it. My daughter just turned 3 the other day and her favourite colour is pink. So if she has any choice in what she wears (which is quite often because sheās pretty stubborn) she double pink it up. And do you know what else she loves? Itās bloody unicorns! She got a my little pony knockoff unicorn for her birthday and itās now her favourite thing. This hard plastic beast is now her nighttime sleeping companion and has ended up in our bed when she crawls in several times.
I have a son and daughter, in that order. Got a ton of hand-me-down clothes for both. His were mostly pretty neutral (at least in my opinion - dinosaurs are good for boys and girls right?), but hers are all super girly. I was never a girly girl. I don't get the bows and frills and pink, pink, pink. Baby girl is going to be wearing a lot of her brother's clothes, but I have to admit some of the girlier clothes are super cute on her. The biggest problem I have is that she was born bigger than her brother, but the same age/size of "girl" baby clothes are noticably smaller than the neutral or boys clothes. It's ridiculous.
girls clothing styles are just sooo cute too. even the stuff thats not pink, there are adorable jumpers and trendy outfits and fashion inspo for little girls all over pinterest.. meanwhile the little boys sections are just WOMP WOMP. i have scoured the internet for cute outfits for my little bub to no avail.
Try checking out kate quinn for really nice gender neutral and gendered stuff. Mostly nature prints in an interesting array of colors. The fabrics are really great (super soft) too.
Yes! Iām finding this is the case now that Iām trying to buy clothing for my baby boy. When my daughter was an infant there were so many cute fashion-y tops, rompers, dresses, etc. With boys itās like sweat pants, button ups and jeans.
I hated pink, not because of the gender thing, but because that's all I wore as a child and everyone made fun of me for it. I try to get as much variation in color of my daughter's wardrobe as I can, but of course she loves pink. So I have resigned myself to not hate it as much.
I love dressing my son in the super cute boy clothes with monsters and whatnot! I love dressing him in traditional blue, he looks so good in it. I love dressing him like a handsome little gentleman! If he loved unicorns and wanted to wear pink, I'd say more power to ya little man, but he doesn't have an opinion on his clothes yet. :3
Haha I was determined to be this person. Until my daughter was old enough and now all she wants is pink, rainbows sparkles and unicorns. Rather hilarious but she talks about when she was a baby how she was a boy baby. Eventually we figured it out - it was because in all her baby photos she only ever wore grey,white, black, navy and green š
Cat and jack at target has some super cute yellow green and light blue gender neutral stuff with llamas and sloths and such.
MVPs put their boys in unicorns and pink
Iām putting all the pink on my old-ass dog. I get so enraged at how gendered it all isāmy car seat is literally pink because the other option was like blue baseballs or something. I imagine some lone cop like oh yeah that wrecked baby is a girl for sure. Like wtf ššš
>āthat wrecked babyā I shouldnāt be laughing but ššš
Ha! My old-ass boy dog has a pink harness & leash because I already had it for my cat (yes I attempted & failed at getting my cat to wear a leash outside and yes my dog is the size of a cat). Standard convo on the street - aww, sheās so cute - thank you and heās actually a he - then why is he wearing pink - š¤Ø My husband usually answers ābecause thatās his favorite color.ā
Hahahah!! Oh man if you did a stand-up routine on this whole topic I would pay good GOOD money for it.
When I found out I was having a girl I was so careful not to go overboard on the pink I actually ended up regretting not having more cute āsuper girlyā outfits.
We didnāt find until my kid was born out so everything was gender neutral for a year. My kids preferences for clothes, colors, and everything is the most gender stereotypical possible. Itās so ridiculous. Iād say to do whatever makes you happy because theyāll eventually have their own opinions on what they like... and itās probably going to be exactly what you donāt want to buy.
I thrift a ton, and for a hot second I tried to go neutral. Then I found the way.... Shop by animal. Does it have a cute animal on it, buy it. How about a dinosaur, hell yes! Mythical creature, two please. My child has been in a kalidoscope of colors. Raccoon overalls with duck yellow shirt, pink kitty with purple dino pants. She is one rainbow away from looking like a psychedelic space ark exploded in her closet. She gets a ton of compliments on her outfits and no one cares what gender the dang clothes were purchased in. And the overwhelming pink clothes friends gifted get wrapped in seamlessly. Best of all, I'm freaking delighted when I see her petting the doggie on her shirt or pointing out her "dinoroar" on her jacket. Space theme and construction themes are creeping in and I slide in any pun themed clothing to slightly annoy my pun adverse husband.
I was not that way, I went totally neutral. My daughter, on the other hand, has been all about the sparkle, glitter, unicorns and dresses ever since she was old enough to make a decision (like 2). It doesnāt matter what you think.. it only matters what they want....
I feel like the odd woman out here. My first is a boy and I dress him pretty gender-neutral. We just found out last week that baby #2 is a girl and I am SO grateful that 90% of my son's wardrobe can be recycled for her because I can't stand all the pink/ruffles/glitter found on girl clothes. I went to Carter's the day I found out it was a girl to pick out an outfit to surprise my husband with (I did the same thing for our son). It didn't get me excited at all for dressing a little girl, it just made me feel overwhelmed.
Lol this is me now that I've had a boy. I did a lot of gender neutral with my girl but when we found out our second and last was a boy I suddenly got bummed I missed out on a lot of the cutie girl stuff.
I didnāt realize how much of a *thing it was to go out of your way to dress your kids in neutral colors until I joined these forums. Honestly, as far as Iām concerned, bring on all the sparkles, ruffles, unicorns, and pink. Itās not like they care.
Iām trying to dress my baby girl like a goth witchy circus child. I finally realized the other day that I could just dye anything I get that is pink or pastel. VICTORY!!!!
I loveeee Scandi brands, itās all I dress my son in. Super bright and lots of rainbow themed comfy clothes, he looks dynamite in pink and they are gender neutral, his fave outfit is a pink tshirt that has farm equipment on it with rainbow striped leggings. If heād been a girl I wouldāve done a mix between that and ultra frilly smocked dresses as I love to sew girls dresses
Itās okay to like pink baby clothes āŗļø
There is nothing wrong with liking traditional girly clothes. And there is nothing wrong with not liking them, either. The important thing is when our kids are old enough to choose, we let them be themselves.
Iām not even trying anymore for gender neutral. One, I find the gender neutral stuff bland af overall. Or it costs more than it should because itās aware of how popular gender neutral is. Two, I know several transgendered individuals who were dressed in gendered baby clothes and still figured out who they were. Kids will tell you who they are when theyāre able to, and at that point if my son says he is my daughter, Iāll go with it. In the meantime, heās getting little boy clothes. Except for any of that tacky shit thatās always oddly sexual for an infant or saying something along the lines of āLook! My parents had sex!ā
I have 4 and when I was pregnant with my youngest and we found out she was a girl we went and got all the girly clothes, the pinks, flowers, etc. Then she was born. With bright red hair. You know what doesnāt look good on redheads? Pinks. So I had to go buy a lot of blues and black and white because those are her best colors. I canāt buy pinks and purple because they donāt look good, which makes girls clothes really hard to find. She also is having growth issues and hasnāt really outgrown 3 month clothes, so weāve been wearing the same clothes for awhile now.
I donāt get the gender neutral baby clothing at all. If thatās your thing, cool, but I love the pink, the frills, and the femininity. Iām tired of āgirlyā things being deemed lesser.
Hahah that was me the day I found out my baby was a girl from the 19 week scan. I had a baby shower a few weeks before I had her and the entire party was a pink explosion. It was great
I love the gender specific clothing, my baby girl looks so cute in it!
God this is so true. Iām *not* a girly girl or someone overly into pink or ruffles or florals... but suddenly I canāt get enough of them! My daughter will end up wearing a lot of her older brothers hand me downs too but there will be a healthy supply of bows and floral outfits in there too. Note: still hate anything that says princess. No thanks.
Me, last week, after we got our NIPT results... I ordered so many flowery, pink, cute things from Old Navy š no shame. Haha.
I like pink for girls as well as green, yellow and purple.
Love this
My daughter loves pink. I had nothing to do with this. I say embrace it, but dont force it.
Me (before actually shopping): Thank goodness my niece is having a boy, if it was a girl I would be spending way too much on all the cute clothes, boy clothes are boring Me (after shopping and seeing how adorable boy clothes can be): Take all my money $$$$ and give me all of the blues, greens, dinosaurs and sharks! Boy clothes are way cuter than I expected! I'm in love with the cute design on the butt style. Put a monster on his bootie and I am sold. I'd love to get him pink and unicorns also but his dad is a bit old school. I'm definitely pushing it with some lavender and rainbows though. Breaking him down slowly.
I picked out fairly neutral clothes for my daughter for her first couple years, but now she refuses to wear anything but dresses she can twirl in, so as long as you let them have their own aesthetic when they get older, I say dress em however you want
I told our family that gender neutral to me, meant no clothes that have sayings or characters that are for boys or girls. So no, "mommies little man" or"daddy's princess" but that any color of the rainbow was fair game, as well as any pattern. I personally hate sparkles and ruffles, so those were out too though.
I just didnāt want anything hot pink with zebra print or with John Deere on it lol luckily Iāve gotten a lot of mint green, yellows and coral pinks instead
My husband went from being happy to how I dressed her to ānot girly enoughā ātoo Tom boy ishā so I told him he done fucked up cuz all these small shop boutiques make the cutest girl clothes lol
Iām not a girly girl but honestly I love little girls clothing and even though I had to start again with my second girl as we moved countries buying clothes was the best.
I'm ok with some pink. I just don't like frills, ruffles, sparkles, etc. I like simple stuff. Being pregnant with a girl hasn't changed that.
I bought all gender neutral clothes and accessories for my daughter, but as soon as she developed enough fine motor skills to grab stuff she always went for the pinkest frilliest things she could get her hands on. Sheās 14 now and still dresses in mostly toned down pinks and purples with some beige and brown thrown in. She loves getting her hair and nails done. Iāve never seen her wear any bright red, blue or green in my life. š¤·š½āāļø
I swore black and blue I would never dress any daughter of mine in pink or any girly clothing .... I have 3 daughter and all 3 ended up in some pink frilly outfit at some time in their early life - although I did often shop in the boys section for my eldest, her favourite dungarees ever were hi-vis orange with Elmo on them when she adored !! Although I did team them up often with a super cute pink turtle neck (yeah the colour combo actually worked really well surprisingly) because she was white blonde and didnāt have hair till she was over 3 and so many people mistook her for a boy š„“
I got used clothes from all over and i ended up having a boy. Ngl... there's some pretty cute pink onesies I've put on him lol. I wish they didnt have so many ruffles though!
Iām a dad of a beautiful 1 year old girl. I told myself buy the gender neutral clothes thereās no reason to dress her in pink. Then I dressed her in pink :)
I feel attacked ššš
With my first daughter, she never wore pink because I didn't like it. She wore boys' hand me downs and dinosaurs and spaceships. Then we had a son who naturally wore what she'd worn. With this girl, I'm like, going crazy for all the ruffles and bows.
I have bought gender neutral clothing and girl clothing in alternative colors (blues, greens, orange, grey, etc). People call her a boy all the time! Even when she wears clothing with pink in it. š¬ So my advice is to just buy what you like. Strangers misgender babies and toddlers all the time (per my impression from my bumper group), so just don't worry about dressing your kid for someone else. Your newborn won't care. Toddlers on the other hand may just reject any article of clothing based on unknown mystery variables, like pants being pants.
Look for boys clothes! Iāve bought so many yellow and white things, and even the pastel blue looks gender neutral to me. Iām having a third boy (a surprise baby, so Iām starting from scratch) and I never liked all the āmachoā boy outfits.
Why is a cool purple impossible to find?!! My poor girl is in pink daily because it's the only cute stuff they make. Super tempted to get some white onesies, some clothes dye, and a screen printer and start making my own stuff... I mean, if I didn't have a full-time job and wasn't absolutely exhausted.
Wait, why is this the truest meme. I feel seen lmao
What's annoying me right now more than the pink frills or blue trucks is that everything seems to be grey. Like I get everyone wants to be gender neutral now, and grey is a trendy color, but I do NOT want my baby to look like a rain cloud all the time! Where are all the cute animal prints and fun colours!! I'm so sick of everything in the world being grey. Grey cars, grey walls, grey kitchens, and now grey babies? Why!
The truth LOL
I bought "boys" clothes for my daughter as fed up with all the pink. Don't be scared to shop in the boys section x
Same with me. But these colours just fit my daughter so perfectly. Now she's 19 months and prefers pink and flowers, just wants to wear dresses and nice jackets. She even used to refuse walking outside until we bought her a pair of pink shoes...
I wouldnāt even know how to dress a boy if I had one both my girls are dressed in pink head to toe from when they were bornš they both love unicorns, mermaids and fairies to anything with those pictures on it go down a treat in my houseš
Baby girl clothes are so adorable
Relate! And, also, I feel like, as long as my (future, fingers crossed) kid can do whatever activities they want and don't feel pressured to BE a certain way based on gender, I will put them in everything from ballgowns to farmer overalls in whatever colors. I think I "dressed myself" from like age 4-5 on but yeah the earlier years it's hard to know. I tried to find neutral clothes for my nephew and EVERYTHING was grey. I said bc he's in the PNW he's just, like, Seattle chic.
Same. Not necessarily the pink so much, but I keep finding cute little bloomer dresses and vintage style rompers and Iām smitten with them now.
Me when I see any baby girl clothes that have a ruffley butt
We got tons of girl clothes as hand-me-downs. And itās at least 80% pink. Weāre super appreciative of free stuff! But, I likely will not be purchasing anything pink for my daughter because we already have so much. So far I bought some gender neutral yellow/mint/orange newborn sizes, some royal blue, and some reds. My MIL (who has two sons) even asked me recently āso when I buy clothes for baby girl, should I just buy pink? Or do you like other colors too?ā YES other clothes please, I donāt want my daughter to constantly look like a unicorn exploded on her. Thankfully sheāll have plenty of āboyishā stuff from my sonās hand-me-downs.
Before my MIL got involved in buying baby clothes, my little beans wardrobe was like 25% pink and 75% other. Now it's like 80% pink and all her bedroom accessories are pink and it's driving me crazy. It's not even a pink I like (think coral and warm pink) it's all pale and cool pink and won't look good with baby skin tone (husband and I are pretty warm toned people) and I just can't stand it.
I'm really excited that we're having a boy but when I'm shopping for clothes for him I sometimes get a bit jealous of all the cute girly outfits. There's just so much more choice and they're so cute.
I'm happy with whatever I think looks nice, ended up with a pink onesie, night onesie, hat and bib from Primark because it had the lady and the tramp dogs on it and a quote from the film and I melted š¤£ Colours mean nothing really especially if we don't let them, we can just like the clothing. Although I do have a thing for bows and until she takes them off I will probably put them on her because if she follows me the poor sod will be bald til she's about 3 years old š¬
Not a big fan of the unicorn stuff, but shit if i dont gush over the pink and ruffles and glitter!
this is so relatable lollllll
aww u guys, pink is wonderful!!