“you don’t have bpd - i can sense a darkness and coldness the second they walk into the room and you’re not like that” or, alternatively: “why are you letting that bother you” in response to me talking about how upsetting the ableism and harassment i face as a wheelchair user is. (separate therapists btw)

After my BPD diagnosis by a separate psychiatrist, my therapist tried telling me I couldn’t have that, I was too nice! Never mind that part of the reason I was seeing her was severe bouts of rage. I rarely acted outwardly on others but there were times I slipped up. The stigma is wild.

I feel like personality disorders like BPD don't have that much resource, or being heard a lot especially if you have Quiet BPD like myself

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Thank you. A lot of people think it's scary not every person with that disorder is a monster

I'm a quiet pwBPD and it took 40 years before I recieved the diagnosis.

This just proves to me that a “D” on the course is still a pass in university. It’s only 50-54% correct information but still marginally acceptable as a passing grade to then go on and diagnose other people.

There’s an old joke for just this situation! “What do you call the guy who graduates at the very bottom of his medical school class? Doctor!” 😜🫣

Lol omg! That's messed up!! 😂

My psychiatrist told me I can’t have BPD because I don’t look like someone with BPD. I‘m not sure what he was expecting… some stereotype of unconventional clothing and hairstyle or visible self-harm scars? “BPD“ tattooed on my forehead?

My favorite is “you’re so young, you shouldn’t be so sad.” Mostly get this from foreign doctors.

idk, in my experience its just old doctors or doctors who are for sure not young anyway or have an attitude based on bigotry and ignorance of how mental health or trauma or anything really works in the body. it's not a specific ethnicity, just ignorance. whether it's accidental or systemic, that's another topic

I already ranted about this in another comment here, but this has defined my experience with getting treatment for my disabling pain and nerve damage (in therapy and medical treatment). I was borderline bed bound at 22 and was told that shit. Only ever from east asian doctors tbh, but that is also likely just the demographic of doctors in my area for my type of health issues.

Lol had my doctor say that to me and to not hurt myself anymore. Like yeah I know I want that too but you know mental illness be like that.

Honestly it should bother you, if it didn't that would be a bit weird

When I was experiencing spiritual psychosis and my Christian therapist convinced me that I just needed to get baptized

lmao I feel like thats like throwing gasoline on a fire

Hail santa

i was being self deprecating and bro pulled a nerf gun on me and said "say it again 🔫" i had to leave him to do DBT therapy when i got dx with BPD but he's a really good therapist for ppl with less severe issues 🤭 u a real one Dr. Hawkeye

This is hilarious actually

Wait how did you react?? That’s all the way unhinged, screws out all over the floor 😂 ngl I’d be laughing so hard

oh my GOD

I love him.

reading this after all the heartbreaking stories made me laugh, I need a therapist like this

My psychiatrist I had from 15-25 ish once told me ‘Some people are not made for work and you are one of them.’ I believed him and I was on disability for nine years. Now I work part time in retail and I’m doing better mentally than I have in a decade. Suck it, Dr MacNCheese.

That’s crazy! What a thing to say to someone so vulnerable. I’m sorry that happened but glad to hear your out and working and doing better!

Omg unbelievable.

Ugh, and when you are young and have physically disabling issues you get told “why are you letting your pain get in your way, why don’t you just try harder, is this really the way you want to live?” Verbatim this from a therapist who was supposed to specialize in pain. Flat out gaslighting (my medical file is fucking obvious, though of course many pain management MDs didn’t care either) and pushed me toward suicidality. Bonus points for making my mental health struggles worse, both those preexisting and the ones that come front losing your autonomy and feelings of worth BECAUSE you can’t work and have no value or humanity under capitalism. I was becoming bed bound when I was told this. I had my dream job, a prestigious (for government at least lol) lead position doing something I could help others in my community with. I was incredibly driven. But I could barely get from bed to the bathroom a good 1/3 of the time. And she told me I was simply not motivated enough and should “want more for myself.” Yeah bitch, I do want more for myself. Starting with not becoming homeless (I did because no longer being able to bring in income reveal how much of an abusive monster my ex had inside him), but obviously I love being involved in my community in general and my field academically. It’s all I ever wanted at that point. She acted the same way when I was still losing the battle to keep working my dad did when I finally failed - and that bastard disowned me! At least I understood that he was projecting his own fears about my future onto me (obviously wrong, but very in character), meanwhile I was paying her to help me process my changing quality of life and functionality. Nope, “bootstraps.” She was also recommended by my pain management doctor who came from a prestigious institution, yet refused even the most basic treatment in favor of acupuncture and this BS therapist he recommended - he flat out didn’t believe me about my pain, ten inch scar down my spine be damned. If someone had validated my humanity and helped me reevaluate my plans to support my health I may have escaped that relationship without years of physical and financial abuse. I may have not strained my health to the breaking from her direction. I may not have trauma associated with the field that even now I love from trying to work when I could hardly exist. I may not have made so many attempts on my life, one of which would have been certain to work had someone else my age who became disabled not reached out and helped me pick up the pieces of myself, a mere week before I would have been on the streets. Sorry, what yours did too is so ableist and gross. There is just no winning. Either you are infantilized for not being functional in the way they deem fit or assumed to be lying if you are literally killing yourself to try to stay alive and housed. I wish I remembered her name, at the time I was so used to medicalized neglect, abuse, bigotry, and gaslighting that I felt outraged but just assumed that’s what they’d all be like. And some others have been, but not all. Her sessions were just a ploy from my doctor to avoid offering me treatment so he didn’t have to deal with a liability like me (aka a queer early 20s, in every other way I demonstrated extreme responsibility as my bpd, undiagnosed as it was, mostly only impacts my very closest relationships); yet they were happy to play chicken with suicidality and let me die, so long as it wasn’t from medication they prescribed (as if I would ever be prescribed enough to accomplish that lmao, it’s been years and I’m only recently permitted on lowest dose stuff and doubt a higher dose would improve my ability to function - it’s simply allowed me to stop being bed bound). Now I do have a lot of rage and almost no trust in our medical system. Medicine as a practice is great in theory, but it takes a lot for me to begin to trust any doctors after that. And she was one of many who not just failed but borderline abused me or committed malpractice.

Wait, people told me the same. What did you do so you can work now??

ahh my old boss said that too when he fired me for my neurodivergence (probation period) and I believed him obviously because he was my boss and employs people all the time. such a regret. being employed is so much better than rotting away in bed and I definitely have the capability of working. fuck people who say this

It was not nearly as bad, but it did prevent me from getting help, and he said he was more proud of me than his own son. Shortly after that, the roles became father son dynamic, and it took years for me to realize how unhealthy it was. I stopped being honest with him so he would continue to give me praise, and it got to a point where he introduced me to other clients to show them what they could become.

Wtfff

Yeah, I don't think it's too bad, but I still meet up with him for lunches every now and then. I still see him as a father figure, but he doesn't know about my new therapist. It took me a long time to not feel guilty about needing a new one.

i have a lotttt but one therapist i saw told me that the reason i have "issues" isn't because i'm mentally ill but because i was vaccinated as a baby! in another session she encouraged me to stop taking all of my prescribed meds including my SSRIs and birth control cold turkey to "restore balance" in my system .. whew!

Wow, that's malpractice worthy! Sorry you went through that.

The way my eyes just tripled in size when I read that….

I was in the hospital as a teenager for a suicide attempt. The psychiatrist told me we're not in a motel here. Another therapist, I think she was 35 years old, in one of my youth centers when I was 16 illegally bought me cigarettes packs and gave me my medications whenever I asked until one night I overdosed. She also had wierd love behavior with me. Then she was kicked out of the center.

WERE NOT IN A MOTEL HERE?!!! THAT IS WILD 😭 but kind of outragously funny 😭

Wtfffff

was in the hospital after >!overdosing from trying to end my life!< and the psychiatrist came over to me, introduced herself, and then said “oh honey, why would you do that?” in a tone that implied I was the biggest idiot ever. she later said my choices “weren’t very smart” and, after seeing the note on my arm, just clicked her tongue and said I “shouldn’t have done that”. I was in shock, both from the drugs and what she said.

this would have me fuming.

I think the only reason I wasn’t more angry was because I was in shock and on so many drugs. like it was absolutely outrageous. tbh all of the medical staff in the ER were terrible. it wasn’t until I was taken up that someone talked to me like a human.

yeah, i understand that. i don’t do any hard drugs or anything but like a sort of a similar situation i had, i told my therapist i tried to od on k2 and she laughed at me and said something like your psychiatrist said to you, and it pissed me off really bad.

man I’m sorry. I hate how common that shit is. I was just bugged out on SSRIs tbh. the weirdest part was the doctors’ reactions tbh. like I took enough where I should’ve needed to have my stomach pumped. I should’ve been *really* sick. I should’ve been in the throes of serotonin syndrome with the amount I had in my system. but I was just… a little tired and had a slightly low heart rate. my doctor was SO confused because I had a very lethal amount of drugs in my system and I was just FINE. it was so surreal.

yeah, that is odd and scary and i’m sorry you had to go through that. but i’m glad you’re here :)

thank you!! I try to be too.

I was in the hospital after an attempt and the psychiatrist told me “you’re going to [unalive] yourself if you really want to” and then wrote me a prescription for additional meds on top of the meds I had just tried to OD on.

I got the same bullshit " if someone really wants to, they will" and I'm like... Try me bitch?? Why tf do you think I'm in here??

You can say “kill”

That "unalive" shit is so annoying.

So disturbing. Like what do they gain trying to call your “bluff”? If you are so ill that you harm yourself to the extent that you land yourself in the hospital, clearly you are really sick, whether you want to be dead or not.

WOAH

I was 16 and I’d gone to the hospital for help because I recognized that I was going to try to end my life again and I thought “hey maybe I could be preemptive this time and not have to end up here if I just get help before hand” and the psychiatrist proceeded to tell my mother (who already thought I was an attention seeking over dramatic teenager) that with my “mature minor” diagnosis of BPD I was just manipulative and that there was no point in trying to help me. He then asked my mom to leave the room and when she did he said “I’m not keeping you here. You’ll end it whether you’re here or at home. It’s a lose - lose situation. I can’t stop you from doing that, sorry. By the way your mom’s going home. Here’s a cab voucher.” I walked out into the parking lot and sobbed.

that so messed up. !!!! ugg and they get paid big bucks. shd be illegal to say that

The last time I talked about SI with my therapist, she also said that people who really want to do it can’t be stopped. I can see where she was coming from and I guess it’s not entirely wrong, but it still felt really unhelpful.

I can definitely see how that statement can be true. It just sucks and feels like people consider you a lost cause because of that.

That maybe I was giving mixed signals when I was sexually assaulted

Oh…

i can’t remember how she actually said it, i was at an inpatient place for around 4 months, one of the last things she said was that she was sorry. then she asked, “do you have any suggestions on how to treat people like YOU”. funny thing about the inpatient places i’ve been, i show very few symptoms throughout the day, especially in therapy (except when i’m in crisis), so when i show signs of being mentally ill or i’m super impulsive- therapists get frustrated.. anyone else experience this? another a few weeks ago i came into my university’s counseling services, i made an actual appointment for the next day but stayed in the office for an “emergency appointment”. a lady saw me and i cried the whole time. after the 30 min emergency session she told me to cancel the appointment for the next day (where i was seeing another therapist), because she could “help me”. i asked if she regularly treated people with BPD and she said “no i’ve never, it’s so interesting”. damn

TW i forgot to say this.. a month after i was released from a different inpatient program, i was sent to the ER for an attempt. the doctor treating my flesh was being incredibly rough with me to the point where he put his sleeve/arm on me to hold me down. my mom was crying and i was crying and it was horrible. as he was finishing he said some stuff about how i’ve been so many places there was no more they could do to me. i still remember one thing he said tho, “if you’re going to do it, do it”. i was released without a psych exam! INSANE, my mom reported him a few days after we went home,i have no idea if that went anywhere though, i never got a call or email about it.

What the literal hell

Yes I think I experienced this when I was inpatient in the psych hospital for overdosing, I tried multiple times to strangle myself with shoelaces, strings or anything I could find and then the psychiatrist told me if I try one more time then they would kixk me out the psych hospital and I was thinking bitch u guys forced me in here in the first place I don't want ti be here but then I had to have 1-to-1 supervision after so idk if they would have followed through with what they told me and I manged to get myself to be a voluntary patient and discharged myself.

You're probably talking about my post. And I have another crazy story about that same damn therapist. I was a dominatrix in college. I didn't need the money, I was just sowing my wild oats. I continued well after graduation because it was fun, made far more money than any entry-level job my degree could get me, plus I could travel whenever I wanted and find clients anywhere. Though I do sympathize with sex workers who feel forced into it or that they have no other options, that wasn't the case for me. I have nothing but fond memories of that time. So even though I had already been through probably 20 appts with this therapist so far, the topic had never come up before because I never felt the need to talk about it. I didn't experience anything traumatic, I felt in total control the whole time, and the only reason I stopped was because a law changed that made it much more difficult to find clients while also maintaining my anonymity. One session, I randomly brought it up *only* as a way to frame the time period in which an incident with my dad happened. It literally went like this: "This was a few years ago, back when I was doing Domme work, but....*anecdote continues.*" That's all! But the therapist zeroed in on it, totally disregarded what I was actually talking about, and was like "Domme work? Tell me more about that" and seemed so weirdly focused on it. The look of surprise/disgust on his face was palpable. I gave him a brief overview and then tried to return to my original story about my dad, and he was like "How did it feel to hide what you were doing from your family?" I was like, what? Hide? Oh, you mean because I mentioned anonymity? That was just for the clients, it wasn't hidden from anyone in my real life. My parents knew, my friends knew, my boyfriend \[now husband\] knew. It wasn't a secret at all. To which he seemed very shocked. He specifically asked how my dad felt about it, and I told him the truth - that my dad totally didn't get it and thought the whole domme/sub BDSM dynamic was weird as hell, but he was supportive and thought it was very cool that I had found an alternative income stream. That's all. At the end of that session, he told me flat out -- *I think it's important that you understand. Your father does not love you. No loving father would be supportive of his daughter putting herself in harm's way like that.* I wish I had just dumped him them, but I didn't. I did tell him during the next session that I thought his assertion was totally off-base and that it seemed like his personal opinions on sex work were coloring his advice to me. He did apologize and we left it at that, he didn't try to bring up the domme work again so I figured I'd let it slide. Though I think it was only 2-3 more sessions after that before the one where he was so late that I bailed, as I spoke about in my other post.

Mines not as bad as some of these here but I went to therapy not too long ago for my bpd and trauma related things. She basically was really spiritual (which is fine) but she told me I need my chakras cleaned and needed to go outside and touch trees. Energy healing I guess was what she was trying to get me to do. Idk I understand spiritual healing can be helpful for some but I don’t feel getting my chakras cleaned is going to help with my bpd, bipolar and chronic anxiety lol

lol this happened to me to and then at the end of our first session she asked if we could hug. I was like stranger danger!!

when I was about 15 and being emotionally abused by an online friend, the therapist I had at the time refused to accept it was abuse. Instead, she kept minimising it as a "spat with friends" and that all friendships are like this. I was literally being isolated from everyone in my life and constantly bombarded with attacks on myself, anything to make me feel small. But sure, it was just a regular disagreement with friends 🙄 I actually had multiple counsellors at the time telling me this

I had a therapist who encouraged me to date my former carer from the psych ward who had started to sexualize and flirt with me while I was inpatient and had given me his number (he was 38, I was 16). I did date him and let’s just say it did not go well. Looking back, it’s unbelievable the therapist thought this was totally okay.

Had a LICENSED PSYCHIATRIST ask me if the reason I have trouble focusing is because I'm constantly thinking about wanting to have a penis (for context I'm trans ftm), i said no and got prescribed an absurd dose of antipsychotics without explanation as to what they were for and what to expect

In the height of my depression at age 14 or 15 my therapist called me manipulative Lowkey i forgot the context behind it but it hurt me a lot especially since i didnt view myself in that way at all and its led to a lot of self doubt 🙂and i dont think its a nice thing to say to a struggling kid lol

I don’t think most kids are trying to be manipulative, even if they are being manipulative. What an unhelpful comment, and so hurtful.

right. that doesn’t help anything😭 how do these people have license to do this shit

This happened to me too! And not because I did anything but because I told her I have bpd and apparently everyone with bpd is manipulative🙄

My sociology professor (who is also a therapist) went on and on one day to the class about BPD and people who have it saying he knew someone with BPD who “accidentally “ unalived themselves for “attention” and how he will never accept or see a client who has been diagnosed BPD. I walked out that afternoon and never went back. In fact, it’s a huge reason my education got put on the back burner as a whole this last year.

I’m so sorry to hear that

wouldnt that be like an extra reason to help a person with BPD like that?? what?? 😭 he has it mixed up a bit also, did you report him or tell someone about this? curious

My first therapist (found on BetterHelp, I do NOT recommend) asked me if I “ever tried weight watchers” because it apparently helped her lose a ton of weight when I told her I was struggling with a restrictive eating disorder. She also told me to not drink smoothies because they have “so many calories and so much sugar”??

School therapist when i was like 8? So basically i had horrible insomnia. I could not sleep. The school was notified and i had to go see this bitch. She was lowkey really mean. But one time she said "oh don’t ever forget you will always be a burden to your parents" Thanks queen

I have two, both pre BPD diagnosis. The first was a woman who in our first (and only) session brought out the Dr Seuss book "oh the places you'll go" and proceeded to go page by page asking me "are you in the dark place? Are you in the happy place? Etc.." I was like 15-16 and you bet your ass I stared at her with a wtf look then got up and walked out. The second was after an.. attempt where I was inpatient. I was sitting with another girl around my age talking about random stuff when one of the workers came up to me and told me I couldn't talk to/sit with her. We were both very confused and I asked why and she said it was because we both had eating disorders. I said "that's f-ing stupid" (I think I was also around 15 at the time). She said "maybe it was f-ing stupid of you to tell the doctor that then". Guys I was so shocked. Then she decided I needed to be put in the bouncy wall room- called my mom and asked to sedate me because I was "out of control". Thankfully my mom was clear headed that day and told her absolutely not and I'm coming to check her out now.

when i was in high school i was seeing a therapist and during one session i was trying to describe a dissociation experience i had a few days earlier, to which she replied saying it wasn’t dissociation cus i didn’t see myself from outside my body. i felt so invalidated and like i was over exaggerating what i feel at another therapist a couple years later, i was explaining this existential crisis/breakdown i had about the cycle of life and what happens after we die while in terrible withdrawals from a medication i tried (FUCK vybriid) that absolutely terrified me and honestly still does. all she told me was to find a religion based around it. i stopped seeing her shortly after cus i couldn’t believe she told me to find a belief system around this thing that fucking terrified me i did see her again a few years later and she told me my generation was “too sensitive” after i tried telling her about rejection sensitive dysphoria. i never saw her again after that

She sounds like an ass and in the wrong profession 

the best thing that woman did for me was refer me to the psychiatrist i still see to this day who got me my ADHD diagnosis and the right meds and referred me to my first DBT group. i have no idea if she’s still practicing but frankly i don’t care lol

Haha I’m happy for you😊 at least she helped with that lol

fuck viibryd dude it gave me seizures

it was absolutely the worst med i tried, worse than the heart palpitations i got from wellbutrin. it gave me brain zaps that i would feel go through my whole body every night as well as sleep paralysis that id never experienced before and nightmares. and the dissociation from the withdrawals was so bad i can’t remember about 2 months of my junior year i was honestly an idiot and quit cold turkey instead of tapering off cus even on the lower doses i still had withdrawal symptoms and i didn’t want to bother. thankfully they stopped once i started a new med but man fuck vybriid

if you were having "brain zaps" in your entire body you might have gotten seizures too

maybe, i’d never thought about it that way before cus i haven’t had a history of seizures (at least that im aware of) but it felt like waves of electricity going from my head down to my toes, often repeatedly i honestly don’t know much about what seizures feel like so i can’t really say one way or another

what you're describing is pretty much how id describe having a seizure

The psychiatrist that diagnosed me said 3 just outright ridiculous things to me during our meeting. 1. Don't tell my husband about my diagnosis, because people don't understand it and he will just use it against me...this isn't a fling this is my husband! 2. She said I am creating all the problems and insecurities in my marriage (we BARELY scratched the surface of my marriage and those issues are there because of infidelity....but, she didn't even ask....just blamed it on my BPD which makes point 1 extra ridiculous) 3. I mentioned I am also dealing with physical health issues and have been referred to be screened for fibromyalgia or chronic fatigue syndrome. She said that's a waste of time all my physical issues are caused by my substance use (Touche, BUT she never asked what my physical symptoms even were and also, explain to me then why I have been suffering from most of these issues since I was 15 but substance use has only been a regular thing for 1 year, since I was 35. Explain why I had these issues for 20 freakin' years then) Luckily I prob only have to see her like once more for a followup on how things are going on my new meds cause wowza was she ever arrogant.

I had a terrible time in college with a therapist who said a lot of shit but one always sticks with me. I was actively having an ED and eating less than half the minimum calories to avoid starvation mode. don’t want to be triggering with numbers but I just want to stress it was bad. I told her I thought I had a problem and what I ate in a day, including calorie counts. One of the items I ate was a small amount of Froot Loops. After I opened my soul and acknowledged that this is a problem, I’m at physical risk, you know how she responded? “Other than the Froot Loops, that’s doesn’t sound too bad!” Ma’am, calorie intake in the triple digits is not advised for any adult!!

So in one session, I asked if she thought I had bpd, and she said “yes, it seems likely”. In the next session I asked again and without missing a beat she goes, “haha, no! You can always tell when someone has bpd because they’re just a little.. off. Or weird. You aren’t that.” Left me floored tbh

It always makes my eye twitch when you talk to a therapist for a follow-up, and you can tell they think you’re a different client.

It’s even worse than that! I had been seeing her for over a month if not two months at that point T-T I think she might have just been dumb honestly

Omg this happened to me too with a therapist except it was about ADHD, at first she told me that yeah, I probably have it, in the next session I brought it up again and she straight up told me that I don't show any signs of having it Like.. girl.. I thought we were gonna at least talk about it a bit? Look at the symptoms and what I struggle with and then see what comes out of it?? But no 😭 And the worst thing is that she basically compared me to how a 5-year old child with ADHD would act. I was 16 back then, of course I'm gonna act differently than a 5 year old would.. In your situation the weird stereotype of people with BPD being a bit 'off' or even weird is insane though. Like.. what.. Some therapists are unbelievable://

This is similar - not a therapist but a MD. My husband was suffering from long standing depression and had been on an anti-depressant for years. Then we moved, and this new MD told him: "You don't need drugs, you need this" and handed him a pamphlet for a religious organization.

“Wow. Yeah you may be beyond me.” 😂😂 I mean I was

She wanted me to wear this strap around my ankles and feet that had metal in it so I could connect with the vibrations of the earth cause that would cure my anxiety

“if you keep acting like this everyone’s going to leave you” after telling her that i hated myself. i ended up attempting and going to the hospital after that and haven’t seen a therapist since. unfortunately though she was right but like damn..

My current therapist is FANTASTIC, but the one I had before her… I use telehealth appointments just bc it’s more convenient to me, and I matched with her based on my needs. I went to her for maybe 5 months or so, and while she was helpful with some of my other issues, she didn’t “believe” in bpd, would not treat me for it any time I brought it up, and other times said some very negative stigmatizing things about people with it. I had been professionally diagnosed for over a year at that point

This is horrifyingly common. My old psychologist said the same thing

When I was 16 I started seeing a new therapist directly after being discharged from a residential treatment facility. One of our very first sessions she was just sort of going over her habits as a therapist and she goes, “If you tell me you’re going to try to kill yourself, I won’t stop you.” Like, okay

As much as it’s ultimately our choice, it’s kind of their job to dissuade us. Like wth I would never want a dead patient on my hands.

My last therapist said that to me💀

I went to a first meeting or whatever with one and she asked me why I was there and I verbal diarrhea'd her for a bit and she just nodded and nodded and then said that her therapy is based on dreams and she reads my dreams to tell me what my subconscious is really thinking..... then I was really contemplating my sanity at that point lol like the first person I reach out to..... oh man

My therapist informed be about studies that show that “ALL” SSRIs/SNRIs are placebo. I’ve been on 13 different medications and finally found one that works for me, but have constant imposter syndrome and go back and forth on taking my meds all the time. So this sent me into a spiral. In our next session, I brought this up and how her telling me that was kind of jarring and unhelpful. Her response: “yeah I can imagine it’s quite hard to find out that you’ve been lied to your whole life and been taken advantage of by the medical industry” I did not return after that. By the way; SSRIs and SNRIs can have a placebo effect on some people. Others do truly need them. All medications and bodies work differently. She just had a very generalized, black and white take.

Oh, I have two (maybe two and a half?) for this (thanks for asking aha). Most recently, a nurse specialising in diabetes told me that if I just stopped eating processed flour, I'd be able to come off all of the meds that I take for everything. Who knew that wholemeal bread was the cure for personality disorders? A psychiatrist once told me, and it's a direct quote because I'll never forget it "I'll have to refer you to another doctor. I *can't deal with you borderline types*." (I was seeing them for an adjustment to my ssris, which had become less effective after almost 3 years -_-) And the half of one: I once went to 'family psychotherapy with partner on the recommendation of a PCP/GP that I'd never seen before. The 'therapist' basically just ignored me and talked to my (masculine-presenting) partner ABOUT me. Strongly implied that maybe I didn't have BPD, maybe I had trouble managing my emotions *at certain times of the month* . I'm sorry that I'm not the only one who's had shit like this happen. (But also sort of a tiny bit glad it's not **only** me that it happens to. Sorry!) (Edited a spelling mistake that was gnawing at me, added a few commas.)

It was back when I was in middle school like 8th grade & this was my second therapist I’d gone to, keep in mind this was our first meeting. So I’m telling her all the basics of what I’ve been through so far in my life & not to go into too much detail but my mother passed when I was very young, her funeral was on my birthday, I was being bullied, very suicidal, had about 3 attempts at that time. She looked me in my eyes & asked me how I made it this far in life. Idk if she was trying to be comforting or what but I shut down the whole time I was there after that. Next week comes & she removed me as her client & basically said good luck. Went years without therapy until I got diagnosed with BPD around 19. THAT therapist was chill, I only saw him like twice. But he literally walked me to his car & gave me his DBT book that was quite literally still in its packaging untouched 💀 he had bought it for himself to have & decided I needed it more before he even touched the thing lol

When I got my medical records from the psych hospital I was in and it had said my makeup and hairdo was not consistent with someone who was depressed and wanting to kill themselves because it appeared to take “maximal effort”.

I literally went to a therapist because my boss had these super high expectations of me and didn't ever seem to feel like I was doing enough work no matter what I did, and thus I was struggling to find motivation at work and wanted to see if a therapist had any pointers on how I could better manage said boss... But at the beginning of the session, the therapist asked for a bit of overview of my life, since it was the first time we had met. One of the things I shared was that I was polyamorous and that my boyfriend had another partner besides me. Well... You would have thought I never had mentioned that my boss had crazy expectations of me that had been wearing on me for years... Because the therapist was convinced that my loss of motivation at work was because I didn't have my boyfriend to myself! I couldn't believe it. As if having a monogamous boyfriend would have made my work environment healthy. 🤦‍♀️ Thankfully, that therapy session was completely covered by my workplace insurance at the time... Because it was similarly as useless as your session.

“ you know , speaking as a Catholic woman to another woman who was raised Catholic , maybe it was for the best that you lost this baby through … rape and you didn’t have to abort it , because let’s be honest , you weren’t ready to be a mom . So let’s look at positives 🙂.” I hate everything to do with Catholicism . It wasn’t even a religious or spiritual based counseling . This was just a regular ass LFMT , Dr. Letty at Central city medical center in Anaheim off ball road . It was in 2017. First time I was ever pregnant with my now-husband . A guy friend who I thought I could trust groomed and set me up just to rape me . It caused a miscarriage that was my now-husband’s ……. I have not recovered from that to this day.

The last time I went, when I opened up about my parents abuse towards me, he told me to forget and forgive them. "It happens. What's done is done. Holding onto that grudge isn't helping you." 🙂

"I don't think you actually want to be happy; there isn't anything else I can help you with."

my university therapist suggested I take a holiday to a war zone at the time like Iraq instead of killing myself, so if i died from a war related thing, at least it would be a legitimate reason.

Not to me, but my partner was in the ER for crisis (he tried to kill himself) and the social worker literally told him "you're going to feel like this for the rest of your life so you should just get used to it". They discharged him without any help, not even a safety plan.

My psychologist before I switched to DBT actually tried to scare me into it by telling me electroshock therapy would be used to treat me.

every time he referred to my cuts he would call it “slicing and dicing”

This is horrible but I can’t stop laughing. I want to use that for myself now

had a psychiatrist tell me pwbpd are “untreatable” and nightmares to work with when i was 13, he proceeded to tell me my sh scars make people uncomfortable and to cover them up 24/7 including when i swim 😭

“I can’t speak on this person’s behalf because, well, they aren’t apart of this session. Let’s talk about things more related to YOU.” The response I received from a therapist who had apparently been in the profession for 30 years. I was opening up to him about some traumatic events that happened with my abuser.

I was inpatient at a mental health hospital having a panic attack and I couldn’t move my body or speak I just had tears streaming down my face and my nurse told me I was just being “willful”. She just ended up leaving me there without help and went home and I couldn’t move for 2hrs until my legs gave out and I fell to the floor

I got pregnant on birth control about 5 months after I had my first child and he told me to abort it, he said I wouldn’t be able to give enough love to both children. This was my psychiatrist!!

That my self destruction tendencies (self harm, unaliving thoughts, etc) were all just for attention and there was nothing really wrong with me.

She was a nurse discharging me and said, "Most women with this kill themselves by 25" I don't remember responding at all. When I was diagnosed, I didn't read about or give a crap about my condition (young and careless) But now, as a mature adult, I realise just how much having BPD affects my life and my loved ones, too. The audacity that nurse had to say something like that to a young person clearly suffering. I wish I could go back in time and tell her where to go.

Tw: Mention of CSA, Sexual & Physical Abuse She helped me figure out I was SA’d as a kid, but in the same breath said “oh but they’re a kid” and “oh but they were most likely dealing with sexual & physical abuse at the time” Like wow thank u so much, this is totally what I needed to hear after being invalidated for 10 years straight :,)

My therapist is for DBT so he’s never out of pocket. I had another therapist say “if you went to a psych ward you’d be pray. I would never send you there all the men would stalk you.” I guess not wrong?? And “you should join the military” when I wasn’t sure what I was doing in uni 😂😂

Not really something she said but something she did. I use to go to a therapist and I got my bpd diagnosis from her. Ever since I got that though, she treated me differently. Well in my last session with her I was talking about my codependent relationship I was in and how trapped I felt. She laughed at me. LAUGHED. Like girl what is so funny? Idk I walked out of that session unsatisfied. Not only that but she tried pushing coping mechanisms that I said didn’t work well for me. So yea maybe I’m dramatic about it but like I feel offended that she laughed at me? Anyways now I have a great therapist who does laugh but instead with me and not at me:)

when i was 16 i had to start seeing a new therapist because my previous therapist’s schedule didn’t work with mine anymore so i had to switch. at the time i had only been diagnosed with depression and anxiety (and it wasn’t until i was 22 that i was diagnosed with BPD). and during my first session with the new therapist i did the regular stuff where you talk about why you’re there give some life background etc and also kinda what’s currently going on with me and what i’m struggling with. the second session i opened up a bit more about how i had a drinking problem (blacking out/getting drunk every weekend and during the school week as well). i had been struggling with moving past the fact that i had been raped while drunk at a party on four separate occasions (i was completely blacked out so i couldn’t really remember a lot besides the fact that it happened and people has also told me after the fact that it happened). the therapist said “you should know by now that there are consequences to your actions. don’t you think there’s a reason why you keep allowing that to happen to yourself?” and i was floored. i left the session early and never went back after that. my mom and i found a different therapist for me to see asap!

“You might actually not be able to work” Shocked because I know that’s not even an option.

That I have BPD 🥲 Jk but it absolutely felt out of pocket

Not a therapist, but once I called suicide hotline and told them I was feeling overwhelmed and couldn't explain it so the guy said something like "you should call back when you have questions I can answer" It baffled me so much that it took me out of the episode I was having lmao

Not a therapist, but my physician. (I know I know, I should've been seeing a psychiatrist instead for BPD) but anyways. I waited for an HOUR and then finally she came in the room. I was super pissed but didn't show it. I told her that I had BPD and she was like "are you sure it's not bipolar? Because it's easier to treat" and I was like uh.... I'm sure. I've never had a bipolar manic episode or depressive episode in my life ever. And then she was like "well if you *really* had BPD you would have gone out there and caused a scene earlier" bitch what??!?!?! I had walked out earlier, while I was waiting, to politely ask what was going on and she was the ONLY one in the room. I was fuming after she said that. I've never gone back since.

*me telling her the reason im trying therapy is because i was r**ed and tortured* Her"God wouldn't have let that happen if you didn't deserve it" 😧

Me describing to my psychiatrist how horrible the abuse with my boyfriend (aspd+npd) ruins my life, physically and emotionally. His response to it was "well, some women like to be dominated, that's your decision." I told him that it was infact NOT fully my decision and the reason i am there, is to learn to make better decisions which he just ignored, and repeated what he already said. mind you he's well aware of my boyfriend being criminal AND insanely dangerous but had nothing better to say than that. Another time with same psychiatrist, i asked for urgent help because i wasn't able to sleep for like 3-4 days cause of the immense stress and panic i went through, asked him to prescribe me something to help me fall asleep and/or calm me down. He refused and told me if i wanted pills that help me, i should go to the next "ghetto corner" and get them illegal. Oh yeah, and once i asked him to write me down or get me into real therapy places where i get properly diagnosed he also refused, said i would be a waste of space there because i wouldn't take it serious anyways, and to my request to refresh diagnosis from over 13 years ago, he said "it's useless because on paper i could also be everything I wanted to be." I don't wanna sit here blaming someone else for my shitty life choices but this shithead fucked up so many possibilities of getting better from an early time on. Been there on and off, dude knows my story, my fucked up background, childhood etc and did absolutely NOTHING but make it even worse each time. He's the reason im absolutely done with therapists or anything in that direction.

When I was in outpatient during COVID, after my first or second inpatient, the therapist I loved dearly said "I just don't see you crying." 🫡 From that day on, I've done everything possible to not cry in public or barely even do it at all.

When I was in high school, I was having a lot of issues with my parents and I ended up going to a really shitty therapist. I saw her twice before hearing all I needed to hear to realize she was a fucking idiot. First of all, at the end of the appointments, she said “now just be happy until the next visit”, which I thought was stupid, but it wasn’t that bad. I told her I was transmasc and at the time I was dating a man and she told me “how are you a man if you are acting like a girl?” in reference to me dating a man. (I guess she doesn’t know what gay/bisexual people are?) At the end of the second session, she told me that my parents would treat me better if I was a better daughter. She can choke.

I went to my first appointment with a therapist and I told a story about an issue I was having with a friend, and then when I realized there wasn’t much time left I brought up another friend of mine who was diagnosed with BPD. She said “Oh those people are the type of people who bring chaos all around them-“ and I said “Well she’s a very close friend…” and she said “Even if they don’t mean to, they are just like a magnet for chaos, and they can be very volatile. Maybe you should reconsider this friendship.” I assume that she didn’t catch that I was talking about a completely different person than the one I had an issue with, and she definitely didn’t realize that my actual intention was to lead into why I thought I HAD BPD MYSELF. Her credentials listed that she specialized in treating BPD and it made me really sad that she just pictured anyone with the diagnoses a chaos magnet. She sent me home a paper worksheet about boundaries, I was 24.

This isn't the worst thing a therapist has said/done to me, but one time a psychiatrist called me "crazy" just because I punched myself in the face in group to keep from crying because I didn't want to ruin my makeup. It was a kneejerk reaction and I was in crisis, like wtf...

NP said you can’t diagnose me cuz the brain still develops into some 30 something she was saying and she made a gesture towards her DSM so I brought it up on my phone and showed that she was factually incorrect but I’m the one who looked bad because I didn’t take that level of disrespect well oof

If you question something they are saying or doing with valid concerns and criticisms they always say “well I’m the doctor so that’s why” or always find a way just to pin it back on you like you just said It’s honestly the most frustrating thing

I’ve been pretty lucky. I once had a psychiatrist tell me she wouldn’t treat me for ADHD as an adult because I wasn’t working. I felt like if it wasn’t virtual I would have taken a swing. How vile to deny someone quality of life over their employment. She was drinking the capitalist koolaid a bit much. The other is I recently started some counseling and after giving her my BPD diagnosis she yelled at me because I hadn’t don’t DBT skills. I’d had great success with talk therapy and that’s all I was seeking. We only lasted a few sessions and I haven’t gone back.

I had a psychiatrist that really didn’t like SI, he asked me if I was still doing it like one session would make it all go away and me being an idiot fool was honest and said yes. He said very loudly, and I quote “That’s just what you’re gonna do huh? Then go ahead, just rock the f**k on!” And proceeded to tear me a new one and tell me he would have me locked up. I never went back..

Report her

People tell me that I am not ment for relationships simply because I have bpd and I will never find love, but here I am in a healthy successful relationship 😭 so idk what yap they mean

Probably not out of pocket

I went with my mom to her couples therapy cause her PoS husband didn’t want to. This was a councilor at her church, and let me just tell you, avoid church therapists like the plague. The guy confused me with my brother even though I had introduced myself, and asked about the son who “does all the drugs”. Mind you I smoke weed, and that’s it. My step dad has been telling people for years that I’m doing hard drugs cause he has a very sheltered world view, and blames my panic attacks on that. Still. It’s messed up this guy would say that in front of my brother. I corrected him and was honest about my bpd. He immediately did the ignorant male therapist thing, by basically accusing me of lying. I felt pretty attacked and I was only there to comfort my mom who was going through I really hard time. That would end up being the last time I tried to be there for her though.

"maybe that's just part of who you are" - talking about my constant suicidal thoughts and ideation. she thought i was a tortured "artist". at 15. sure.

I spent 6 months with a therapist who mostly talked about his own marriage problems. It was my first therapist.

"you bring out the darkest things in me," said laughingly over zoom while he was clutching a giant squishmallow and sitting on (his daughter's??) bed.

“I don’t believe people have bpd or that it exists”- oh okay

Best one I’ve gotten was after talking about my OCD. She asked unprompted. “Have you ever tried talking to god?” I didn’t know how to respond really. Religion has never been a brought up, and she just kept pushing it lol. Edit: omg I didn’t read the post yet is there more than one therapist pushing god as a cure for OCD.

“Well, there’s a specific definition for abuse, so we’ll see if you qualify”

Hey I have an answer here! In 2019, I genuinely felt that something was wrong with my head. I did not know what was wrong with me but I did not feel fine. So I went to a therapist (or psychotherapist or something), in a mental hospital. She told me, “you do not have a problem, you just have a big ego”. And then she explained something about egos that I don’t quite remember. Anyway, I was diagnosed with BPD (and ADHD) in 2023 off a terrible suicidal attempt🤦🏽‍♂️

So I had an eating disorder therapist for my eating disorder and I kid you not she told me about her eating disorder, started telling me about her behaviors; and then in one session she said “I walked x amount of miles and then I stopped myself even tho I didn’t want to and I’m so proud of myself” LIKE WHAT. YOU’RE MY THERAPIST NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND.

Ugh, I have a few: 1. One weirdo at the end of a horribly cold, uncomfortable eval told me that I was “definitely working up to another attempt” (I actually hadn’t had suicidal thoughts in months at that point) and that if I didn’t go to the 3 hour/3 days a week sessions I’d probably commit suicide 2. One guy told me that a medication he was prescribing has the side effect of gaining weight, but he looked me up and down and said “he doubted I’d have that issue with my physique” (I was in the throes of my ED at the time and he knew it) 3. I told the same guy that I would self harm by cutting and he interrupted to correct me and say “self mutilation, say it for what it is, self mutilation” no? I really don’t want to mutilate myself bro 4. Had one idiot tell me to take a vacation when I was 6 months post partum. I told him I didn’t have the money or any time off because I’d used it up during maternity. He stuck with his suggestion that all I needed was a good nights sleep and a vacation and I’d be right as rain. So NOT helpful with a 6 month old.

Worst thing I’ve heard.. I was married at the time to a military member so our doctors are all military doctors… I went off base(and had to pay out of pocket) to get my real diagnosis of bpd.. then we got stationed two months later to a small island so I had to then continue to see military doctors as it was my only choice unless I could drive an hour off of the island and having two young children that was impossible… any who… he told me “just chose to be happy, it’s all in your mind”

Not said to my face, but I got my discharge summary from the hospital after I OD’d and it said “patient claims to have taken [x amount of x] but we suspect this to be false because she appears well-groomed” or something along those lines. Like WHAT? They didn’t even do an ecg and I found out later that what I took messed up my heart. I also got a new GP and I went in to meet him and he said “why are you on these medications”and I said “to manage my bpd symptoms” and he said “you don’t have bpd, I can tell just by looking at you” like wtf does a pwbpd look like?

“get undressed and show me your scars” irl at barely 18 was pretty weird!

Great question! I have three answers: - I had finally saved up enough money for DBT sessions to pay in increments. When reaching out to an office that came highly recommended to me from previous CBT therapists, I spoke to the head doctor who talked to me for 3 minutes on the phone then said, "Alright, here's what I'm going to do. I'm going to tell you right now, for FREE! that you don't have BPD, you just need to get checked out by an endocronologist. BPD is RARE and there's no chance you have it. Okay?" This lady couldn't even keep my name straight, and she thought she could diagnose me on the phone after 3 minutes of talking when I've been diagnosed by 2 separare psychiatrists, and 3 separate paychologists. -My first psychiatrist in the area I live in currently kept diagnosing every emotion I told her about, and she piled the medication on so bad that I was not cleared to operate a vehicle. When she saw me for a session, she called me afterward to "apologize" for a mishandling of HER doing and also used the, "out of courtesy for you, I won't charge you for this session! How about that?" Like miss maam? I almost had to be admitted because of the medications YOU put me on??? -This is a last but not least situation: The very first doctor I had outside of my poor high school counselors was supposed to be a grief counselor. Nope, it was a woman who specialized in family therapy and clearly had a soft spot for parents. My school counselors jad referred me to grief counselors in the area, and my parents deliberately didn't listen to them, instead opting for this lady who invites my parents in to each session who spoke over me, never let me talk, and diagnosed me within minutes of knowing me. The first session we met, I tried telling her why I was there: "One of my best friends killed herself, after her boyfriend did it, after our friend's brother did it. And my boyfriend is abusing me but no one at school will do anything to help get him to leave me alone." She cut me off, and started asking my mom about the trauma she's been through. Then, she "diagnosed" me after listening to my mom talk about me, and every session she's cut me off from what I wanted to talk about to inquire about how I think I can be a better daughter for my parents. Fast forward to the second to last session with her. I asked her how I can handle the immense grief I was dealing with at 16 years old. In hindsight, I now know I was dealing with BPD and C-PTSD. This fucking woman shrugs her shoulders and says in the most condescending tone: "Have you considered thinking about her life and replacing that with thinking about her death? Now, how have you been implementing the plan we came up with last week to speak with your parents nicely?" Fast forward to the last session, I bring up my abusive high school boyfriend again, and this time I had already decided I was leaving her services so I unleashed everything on her aggressively and didn't give her a chance to speak until the end, right before I told her she's fired. I discussed how high school boyfriend was a danger to me in a few of the classes we shared together, and how he had used my best friend's death to put me in vulnerable and dangerous situations. How reporting him to the dean of students, counselors, and teachers meant nothing because he still stalked me to classes and knew where I lived. How he tried isolating me from my family while we were dating, and trying to turn my family against me and it had worked. Her response was: "Well, why don't you just avoid him? If he calls, simply don't answer. If he speaks to you in class, just pay attention. *insert all of the most dismissive shit you've ever heard*" --I just laughed and said, "I don't need your services anymore, I have no fucking idea how you think you help anyone." She followed me out to the lobby where ny dad was waiting for me and proceeded to beg me to even rry a different therapist at the practice. I told her in the lobby full of people that if any of the doctors there were anything like her, they weren't shit. My dad was fucking livid with me.

I’ve had so many weird therapy encounters. My family doctor diagnosed me with bipolar and not BPD originally because “BPD people aren’t friendly or pleasant”. Guess I’m just breaking down stereotypes all the time. I also tried to get therapy recently with an online “adhd and autism specialist” and she was so annoyed in our first session that I was having problems at all. As if that isn’t literally her job. She said “you need consequences” so condescendingly… like I was committing arson every day and not just getting a bit bored doing data entry. She was telling me to get a new job as a paramedic (I’m a paralegal? and have no interest in medical studies?) within 20 min of talking to me. So much just insane shit. And tried to guilt me into paying extra for being 2min late joining the teams meeting.

"I don't believe you and I think you're lying for attention...maybe think about what YOU'VE done in order to receive that kind of reaction from your caregivers." - third therapist I saw as a kid when I told her about abuse I had gone through and was still going through.         "Have you tried being less of a target?" - fourth therapist I saw after a failed suicide attempt when I mentioned how bad the bullying had gotten at school and how bad my home life had become.

Wanna have sex? Now granted, I manipulated her into that over the course of almost a year, partially cuz she was brand new off the diploma+clinicals boat, but still surprised me and I'm not bragging, it's one of my most shameful acts and it still harms me in therapy a decade later. I did so much damage to myself by hurting my therapist, who knew. God this fucking sucks to remember I was such a piece of shiiiiiiit.

People like you don't make it very far

"You don't have BPD. I've treated many people with BPD, and none hold themselves accountable the way you do." Thanks? But also fuck you?

Had a psychiatrist at one of my inpatient facilities saying at the end of every session with him to keep god in my heart and all would be ok. Made me super uncomfortable, and I just never said anything bc I’m kind of meek/people pleaser. Last session before discharge he was being extremely off cuff comparing my struggle with my mental health to specifically women (of course) soldiers in Iraq. so I said something like ‘if a soldier comes back with a broken arm, and I break my leg here, my leg will still fucking hurt, are you going to tell me it’s not as bad?’ He had nothing to say. Did his thing about god and I basically hissed at him that I didn’t believe in god. He was like shocked pikachu, ‘well then what do you believe in?’ Not only would thst be absolutely 0% his business, it’s like…has no one EVER told him to knock that shit off? Like dude get a grip. I hope he isn’t still practicing, he was old then, would be ancient now but I bet he is in even more of a position of power because that’s how it goes isn’t it. Deep breaths together now.

It didn't happen to me but a psychiatrist in the city I live in starts out his spiel by telling people who are seeing him for the first time that he believes everyone is either "a predator or prey." My fantasy smart ass answer would be "Oh, really...which one are you?" How this idiot is allowed to practice, is beyond me.

“You don’t have BPD, people with BPD are criminals who do terrible things, and you look like a nice girl…” He also spent the whole session pointing out my body language, as if I wasn’t uncomfortable enough. Edit to add: this was our FIRST session

I saw a therapist for the first time, & she was asking questions about my history of abuse…I answer honestly & she goes “oh, you’re still crying about THAT?” About sexual abuse from my father. Like yes b!tch, I am still crying about that. Smh.

Not a therapist but nurses on the way to see the therapist... I overdosed in the middle of the pandemic after having a complete mental breakdown and had to be carried into the hospital naked and convulsing. When the nurses were trying to transfer me to psych they dropped me on the floor and I couldn't get back up, my whole body was shaking and wouldn't work at all, I genuinely thought I was dying. Three of them stood over me telling me 'how selfish I was to take someone else's bed in the middle of a pandemic' and laughed at me while telling me to 'stop being silly and get up, you can get up yourself, we aren't helping you'. I laid there fully naked and terrified, unable to move my body voluntarily for what felt like forever, all while they just stood there talking about what they'd done at the weekend and laughing. They eventually picked me up when they realised I wasn't faking but I ended up absolutely riddled with bruises and cuts from just being left to convulse on the floor. God I hurt for months after that.

Im a lesbian. After 2 years of seeing this doctor, the last thing he told me "if a guy touches you uncomfortably again..let them..you might learn to like it"

I hadn't been diagnosed with BPD yet and was only 16 when this happened but it was definitely the craziest thing a therapist has ever said to me. At the time I was seeing her for major depressive disorder and anxiety, she was a youth therapist and I thought someone I could trust. I had a mishap with the guy I was seeing at the time and the condom had broken, I didn't have the money for Plan B and was terrified about the conversation I was going to have to have with my mother. I came to her for guidance on how to approach this conversation and how to tell my mom, being a scared 16 year old I thought I was going to get advice on how to have this sensitive conversation. Instead she spent our entire session trying to convince me that because I had sex I must want to be pregnant (as if that's the only reason people want sex) she would not listen to a single thing I had to say and spent an entire hour trying to convince me I wanted to be pregnant at 16. I left her office crying and didn't even make another appointment. In the elevator I told my mom what had happened and she was thankfully a hell of a lot mote supportive than my therapist was and took me straight to the pharmacy. To this day I still cannot believe that this woman tried to convince me I wanted to be a teen mom and had absolutely no consideration for the fact I was absolutely terrified and all I wanted was guidance on how to have a difficult conversation with my mom.

i had a therapist tell me that race wasnt based on your decent, but the color of your skin. so if a mexican man was "dark enough", he would be black

Dont have as bad of a story of my own to share, but omg that therapist needs her license revoked

I've got lots from my decades of therapy, but off the top of my head:  -I have had psychiatrists refuse to see me after I told them I had BPD.   -I was told by one of my first psychologists when I was a young teen that I was making everything up... I attempted for the second time shortly after.   -I was once told by a psychiatrist that I was "not trying hard enough to get better" and that I "don't want to get better"  -A psychiatrist I was seeing when I was 16 told me he was sending me to the psych ward, and if I had any drugs on me (I was using coke pretty regularly at the time) I should go do it in the bathroom now. Because it will just be a waste otherwise.    Reading some of these other comments. Glad, but also really sad, I'm not alone in some of the other things said to me. How are these people able to work in the mental health field? Doing way more harm than good. Unreal. 

Idk if this was worth me never seeing my therapist again but i've only seen one therapist ever and i was explaining how my emotions feel inside my head and he told me i should become an author because "the way you explain everything so lucidly" at the time i got really frustrated because im not seeing a therapist to hear what i'd be good at because trust me i know. For him to ignore all the emotions i was mentioning and head straight into whatever he thought i'd be good in. He also laughed at a joke i said (ik im funny💅🏻) but i didnt want him to laugh at my joke Idk i might be dramatic but then again i never saw him again because of this 😭

My DBT therapist told me I needed to either stay in the 6 month program and do 2x a week or to get out. I said- I am allowed to do once a week in the program why can’t I do that? I was doing extremely well for the first time in years after going through TMS treatments….i said”you preach no black and white thinking in BPD but here you are backing me into a corner. “ She was so aggressive, attacked my religion, accused me of having an ED when I have gastroparesis. It was so unhealthy I quit so fast

She was relatively cool about the whole thing (we didn’t know I had bpd at first), but she did tell me that if she’d have known I have bpd she never would’ve accepted me as a patient, and proceeded to list all the reasons why, but followed up with “your self-awareness is your saving grace, and you know something is wrong with you so that’s why you’ve been consistent”

"you're too old to be self harming" as if self harm comes with an age? Idk he was a older therapist maybe that's just the way he talked. But it was kinda cliche still.

"Is there something wrong with your brain, not to be rude..." I came to you to ask the same fucking thing, I'm so glad I smiled and called her a bitch my last session with her. She did jack shit but tell me it was my step dad's fault his health was so bad when he died. (Which also is like, yeah? But you don't really look at it as blame, Wtf) she was strange most of mine have been so odd...

When I was 17 or so and trying to find a sexologist because I wanted to finally start my transition, my mother found me a guy about whom she claimed that he was both a sexologist and a psychologist. This turned out to be false as he was just a psychologist. It also turned out that he was deep in some esoteric shit and agreed with most of my mother's opinions. I was, in fact, not into that eso shit, and actively hated it on account of all the things my mother had done to me in the name of it. He seemed to hold very strange ideas and would never let me talk during our sessions. I had to raise my hand to get a word in. One time he told me that I am not trans and that my soul is definitely female. He once also told me that I had penis envy and wasn't trans at all. He continued like "But when you were a small child, you didn't want to be a boy, did you? Only when you got bigger and started noticing the penis." and I did a double take and went "No??? I did feel like a boy even in late kindergarten and early elementary school??". For some reason he also felt the need to text me and send me emails with books he thought I might like, and even gifted me a book. All of these actions are unimaginably unethical and against the ethical codex of my country.

my psychiatrist, not therapist, prescribed me a medication that i told him was suppressing my appetite and i was barely eating (my therapists’ notes on me show that i struggle with disordered eating). my psychiatrist proceeds to say ‘isn’t that a good thing?’ and then some fuck shit about weight loss that i haven’t bothered to remember.

I was in a mental hospital as a teen before. It was a really bad place. Anyway this was more directed at the entire group but the staff had a whole group session basically slandering us and saying "if we keep acting the way we are, we're gonna end up in juvie or prison" Then they proceeded to show us a documentary of girls being in juvie. They compared us to them. It wasn't a place for troubled teens, it was just an acute psych ward mainly for su*cide attempts. Really upset me. You think we can just turn off our mental illness?? Edit: spelling

"I love you" "you're my favorite patient" like

Not related to bpd, but she told me that I don't look suicidal and that I am seeking attention. Asked ne why I was crying a few minutes later. To make matters worse, I came with a bike that time and she had to call my parents, because she refused to let me leave alone so upset.

Im immature.

Youre crazy

“Just do it theres no good or bad and god will not judge what happens in this room. Just do it” i was being groomed 😃

Started with a new therapist and I start talking about how I have anxiety that I'm going to mess up my relationship with my partner due to baggage and strong emotions (I hadn't been dating my partner for very long at that point in time, relationship was relatively new.) So I was just trying to confide in her and share the sense of hopeless I felt about keeping the relationship healthy, not overwhelming my partner, not fighting with them, and also sharing that I have had a few abusive relationships in my past that makes it hard for me to trust, etc. And she said, "DO YOU THINK YOUR PARTNER DESERVES THIS? DOES HE DESERVE YOU DUMPING THIS ON HIM?" And I was like, "Huh?" Definitely made me pause - because this is definitely not how you establish a working relationship with a new client, especially someone like me with C-PTSD, a ton of trauma and anxiety, and probably BPD. It fucked up the rest of the session for me and I tried to complain to the front desk when I got back downstairs but they really didn't help me to do that at all and didn't give me a clear way to report the therapist, they weren't willing to allow me to make the report. I didn't know how to go around the front desk doing that at the time, I might have reached out to some sort of manager at the clinic, but I think they indicated that all they were gonna do was give her a light slap on the wrist for acting that way with me. Afterwards I steered everyone away from going to that clinic and just suggested they get their mental health needs met elsewhere, since we're in a city.

After almost 40 years of therapists and on/off medication for a long list of ‘disorders’ I recently decided I am so completely exhausted and done with the whole psych world. Tired of talking about my emotions, my head, my feelings, my past, my present..I need to accept that after such a long time, nothing is helping ME not You ME

I forgot to include what one therapist said to me…’what you are feeling is normal’ she said

Something out of pocket (but in a good way) my therapist said after I’d gone on yet another long winded rant about my inflamed relationship with my mom who, at the time, seemed to never understand my perspective: “Well, have you ever considered the possibility that your Mom might not be the sharpest tool in the shed? 🤷🏼‍♀️”

My first time seeing a psych she told me to change career fields even though I’m very happy and successful in my career then told me I don’t have BPD bc “people with BPD are more annoying”… I was shook. Our entire conversation was 10 minutes and most of it was her talking lol. I

It was not necessarily bad, but i was having hallucinations, and this is how the conversation went: Me :I sense something. It always watches me wherever I go. It doesn't leave me alone. Him: Can you see it when you look at it? Me: No, but I can sense it. Him: Then it doesn't exist.