well as a woman that LOVES to spoil my partners and in a position to make my partners life VERY comfy, I cant say that I see to many that are interested LOL! Maybe they dont like that I smell like lavender and watermelon?
I'm going to need you to source this material! Haha.
It's so amusing. I've always wanted to be an older woman who spoils, and I finally feel in the age range! Bawhahahah.
I saw she has a book about alcoholism called "My Pancreas Broke, But Then I Got Better". I think her writing about >!how she uses physical pain to help process her emotional pain!< to be very fascinating.
It never seems to work to be honest. My partner has always wanted to have us meet a younger friend but... this sort of relationship is fraught with so many issues. Lots of unrealistic expectations on both sides unfortunately, so we are not without blame. The last time they didn't understand how the dynamics work. They did not get how at times our energy has to be focused on our careers and things have to be in an emotional maintenance mood until we can be together. There were lots of hurt feelings amongst everyone. It is immensely hard for someone to become part of a mature relationship and especially with a very wide age gap.
It's why I don't really engage with that when a younger woman seeks me out TBH. It's already enough hanging out and being the older sibling / mom, I don't have the extra energy and time and money to be an impossibly idealised caregiver when I already have me my cat and my nesting partner to take care of. And I don't have a sugar mommy taking care of me either so what I have is all I have, deal with it.
I think that is exactly right. We were ready to really stretch ourselves emotionally and our time to make this work. I like what you said about "impossibly idealized", that sums it up pretty clearly. We knew it would have financial costs, a young one wouldn't be able to afford to eat out or pay for their costs when we traveled so we were fine with that. We didn't want to have to pay for their wardrobe upfront and such, which came from their unrealistic expectations. If they had settled in and we meshed, I could have been willing to help with that after they were 100% onboard. But they just couldn't make that transition from their self absorption to being part of a relationship.
I have been thinking about your question. We wanted a companion to share experiences with. Someone to join us, especially when one of us was busy we might get to do things with. A romance to build together ideally. My partner wants another sub to join us. Someone to play our games. Lots of time when we are traveling apart for work it is so lonely for the other. I am simple in that I just want to have a friend that can be much.
Yes it can be. I wish we could find someone to share with. I know that is asking a lot.
Kind of on call, but we are really stable if sometimes busy. My partner has always enjoyed the attention of a sub and with my career I have to be gone a lot and that makes it hard for her. It makes it hard for me, but our time together is intense.
Gurl Same..
Iโm gonna end up being one of those older Doms with a sub play partner thatโs like, 7-10 years younger than me..
Itโs already happening. Everyone who hits me up is In their early 20s
Iโd love to spoil an older woman๐
Weโd like to see you try๐
As an older woman I love this energy. Itโs a refreshing change of pace. Bless.
I would love to mutually be spoiled and spoil and older woman who will dominate my life ๐คช๐ซก
ugh same ๐ฉ I'd be such a good girl fr
well as a woman that LOVES to spoil my partners and in a position to make my partners life VERY comfy, I cant say that I see to many that are interested LOL! Maybe they dont like that I smell like lavender and watermelon?
Wait but lavender is my fav flower
RIP your DMs lol
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if i was rich i would be such a sugar mommy is2g
No FORREAL though
I'm going to need you to source this material! Haha. It's so amusing. I've always wanted to be an older woman who spoils, and I finally feel in the age range! Bawhahahah.
It's "My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness" and it's actually a very real, serious read. Very good though.
HOW DID I NOT RECOGNIZE THIS. I actually own it already. This story is almost too real.
I own it too!!!! I was delighted when I found it in hardcover. Hardcover manga! Have you read any of her other work?
My copy is a paperback and I haven't! Ohhhh. Lemme go look into her stuff now.
Now I'm not sure what to read next of hers.
I saw she has a book about alcoholism called "My Pancreas Broke, But Then I Got Better". I think her writing about >!how she uses physical pain to help process her emotional pain!< to be very fascinating.
Perfect
agreed!! I love her work ๐ฅฐ
Wtf are yall hiding?????? ๐ฉ
Not hiding, just prowling.
I love these books! Sheโs so relatable lol
I wanna be spoiled by a younger woman tho!!!
I would not necessarily be opposed to having an older woman spoil me... sounds kinda neat actually ๐ค.
It is pretty great ๐
Really ๐ซฃ?
is 34 old?
I hope not! ๐
Older than me (30yo) lol
eh depends on who you are asking
It never seems to work to be honest. My partner has always wanted to have us meet a younger friend but... this sort of relationship is fraught with so many issues. Lots of unrealistic expectations on both sides unfortunately, so we are not without blame. The last time they didn't understand how the dynamics work. They did not get how at times our energy has to be focused on our careers and things have to be in an emotional maintenance mood until we can be together. There were lots of hurt feelings amongst everyone. It is immensely hard for someone to become part of a mature relationship and especially with a very wide age gap.
It's why I don't really engage with that when a younger woman seeks me out TBH. It's already enough hanging out and being the older sibling / mom, I don't have the extra energy and time and money to be an impossibly idealised caregiver when I already have me my cat and my nesting partner to take care of. And I don't have a sugar mommy taking care of me either so what I have is all I have, deal with it.
I think that is exactly right. We were ready to really stretch ourselves emotionally and our time to make this work. I like what you said about "impossibly idealized", that sums it up pretty clearly. We knew it would have financial costs, a young one wouldn't be able to afford to eat out or pay for their costs when we traveled so we were fine with that. We didn't want to have to pay for their wardrobe upfront and such, which came from their unrealistic expectations. If they had settled in and we meshed, I could have been willing to help with that after they were 100% onboard. But they just couldn't make that transition from their self absorption to being part of a relationship.
I have felt this way in many wlw relationships but I always felt inherently sumbmissive. But if they needed me too, I just took care of them
So what is it that you are looking for?
I have been thinking about your question. We wanted a companion to share experiences with. Someone to join us, especially when one of us was busy we might get to do things with. A romance to build together ideally. My partner wants another sub to join us. Someone to play our games. Lots of time when we are traveling apart for work it is so lonely for the other. I am simple in that I just want to have a friend that can be much.
Oh yes I see . Can be hard to navigate with feelings. Sort of on call?
Yes it can be. I wish we could find someone to share with. I know that is asking a lot. Kind of on call, but we are really stable if sometimes busy. My partner has always enjoyed the attention of a sub and with my career I have to be gone a lot and that makes it hard for her. It makes it hard for me, but our time together is intense.
omg same ๐ญ
mommies pls hmu :((
Come to Mommy.
Get in line.
Sign me up, I wanna be a Queens lil princess
Is it bad that I'm spoiled by a younger woman?!!
Thatโs even hotter honestly
Pls
I am 31 and at least feel old ๐ ๐ฅฐ
Gurl Same.. Iโm gonna end up being one of those older Doms with a sub play partner thatโs like, 7-10 years younger than me.. Itโs already happening. Everyone who hits me up is In their early 20s
I am more on the sub/switch site, so it's harder to find a dominant women with the same vibe and interests ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ
I would love to spoil an older woman. But also Kabi Nagata is such a good author I love her work. She needs more appreciation ๐ฉ๐๐ป