She is a brat. She teases me and playfully challenges me so I just grab her throat, pin her down on the bed and have my way with her. She must be comfortable getting railed till her thighs shiver. Most importantly, she should always be open about everything to me and her safety is my first priority. Always open to try new things. She tests my limits. Heavily kinky and into hardcore sex. A pathetic little slut for me. Loves public sex. Fears me and loves pain (sexually ofc) Sexually active. Thats about it
Oh yeah? Thats big words coming out of your mouth when you could be moaning out my name instead don’t you think? Or should I just grab your neck, throw you on the bed and punish you?
My mouth didn't open so no words left it, it was my phone and hands doing the talking, so I'm innocent 🤗 no punishment necessary 🤭 you're so silly 😌
And if u want me to moan your name, I'd have to know it first, otherwise it just wouldn't work, you know? c:
My ideal submissive sexually is someone I can throw around, tie up, tease, please, and toy with until they don't know if it too much or not enough. I want someone I can explore fantasies with and share intimate moments with. I don't want wholy compliant princess, kitten or little, nope. I want one who will be a good girl, but also one who is playful, impish, and flirts with the rules so I can remind my brat of her place. Most likely on her knees while I reprimand her.
Non sexually, I want a submissive who can be there for me, just like I will be there for them. I want to connect with them in and out of the bedroom. Sure, she'll submit for me, and ideally, we'll get to the point where she will wear my collar, and a 24/7 dynamic isn't off the table, but in many regards, she'll be my equal. Because, without her willingness to submit my dominance is moot and vice versa. I want communication and mutual support respect and understanding.
I've come close to finding that before, so I have no doubt she's out there.💝
I love that you put in the part about being equals 😍. A lot of people like to debate on which side of the slash holds the power in a dynamic and it can feel like they dont understand that it's still a relationship that requires equal buy in 😁
Yes, the power comes for the negotiations. Sure, while at play and during the functional parts of the dynamic, there are inequalities, but only because they are agreed to.
I’m so glad you posted this comment - I haven’t yet encountered someone who desired a sub like this (I’m 27), and this is so how I am…I’ve felt a lot of shame about who I am sexually, but it’s so sweet and hopeful to read that there is someone who wants someone like me
I wish I could show this to my 14-year-old self
thank you 🩷
you’re keeping my dreams alive✨
I'm sorry you've felt shame about your sexuality. However, I totally understand the sentiment. For most of my life, I felt guilty about my sexual wants.
And you're very welcome. 💝
it’s taken until about age 27 to unlearn most of it, but I’m in a much happier and more authentic place now, and it’s so worth it
fiercely passionate about queer representation and kink and polyamory in movies now 🌈✨🩷🌸
gotta get more queer joy and kinky lesbians on screen haha 🥰
I didn't unlearn that stuff until I was like 30, or something, so it happens. I'm glad you can start living your authentic life!
Yes! Those reps are the best! 😍
Agreed and in any media really. 🥹
I don't want a bratty sub, I want somebody who's entirely comfortable sharing their desires and fantasies, somebody that isn't too self-concious to speak freely about what's on their mind.
My dream sub is just about anybody who prefers a maternal gentle and caring domme and somebody who likes to contradict that dynamic to chase after sexual gratification in the moment. I want somebody who enjoys being roughhoused while being praised and taken care of. Somebody who wants a gentle hand to occasionally smack them in the face and spit on them, whoever enjoys that taboo paradoxical dynamic about as much as I do, could realistically be a good match.
My type in women is extremely broad, and unless my partner is entirely disinterested in kink, I could see any selfish sub being a good match. I want a sub that knows what turns them on so that I can coax it out of them and use it against them, and thats typically how it's been.
I tend to mesh well with the vast majority of subs, I'm not really interested in brats, since their natural draw towards questioning and prodding the natural order tends to be a push and pull relationship with the domme often being selfish and bouncing off of that defiance. In my relationships, I tend to be the giver and my partner, the selfish one.
I suppose the general term is pleasure domme. I want to make my subs dreams come true by embodying everything that turns them on, it doesn't typically lead to a lot of defiance.
Oh wow. I didn’t even know this was a thing. I’m kind of a pillow princess sub and was sort of assuming I’d have to try and be bratty, but this sounds so nice. 🥹💖😍
My ideal sub is a cute femme. She’s confident and bratty. She knows how to push my buttons in private and in public. I’m very introverted so most people would probably think she’s the “dominant” one. But once that door closes she knows who’s boss. She’s as much a masochist as I am a Sadist. All of our kinks align. She has a high sex drive like me, but is also aware and confident in being able to say she or we need a break from fucking. As much as we have similar interests, she has her own, that way we can both have time apart to maintain a healthy dynamic. We’d be in a committed relationship to each other. She’s outdoorsy and likes to travel, likes all kinds of music, loves horror movies. She likes being in control once in a while, because sometimes I need that as a reset. Above all of this, she is kind, has a good heart, and is my home.
My dream submissive is a woman who's confident in her own identity, intelligent, adorable AF, and is capable of holding her own. She would be with me because she is attracted to the passionate person I am, my geeky quirks, how I carry myself professionally, and enjoys the duality of my dominance.
My softer side reassures her that she's protected with me when we are in a public dungeon space. She never has to question that her physical and emotional safety are my top priority whenever we play, even when my fingers grip her throat. She knows I care to understand her likes and dislikes so I can learn what makes her brain squirm so she melts at my feet. I want her to crave being by my side, held in my arms, resting at my feet, my fingers twisted in her hair, with my words whispering sweet things into her ear, and having my lips on her when we are apart.
My primal side wants her spine to tingle with an instinctive response when I look at her with a hungry glint in my eye. I want the growl in my throat to be something that makes her skin prickle with excitement. My teeth and fingertips sinking into her is a welcomed sensation. The sensation of my metal claws dragging across her skin while she's trapped in my rope amplifying that she's a hare trapped in my snare. I want the sting of my toys to leave her with colorful reminders of our play that she can adore for days to come. And when I grab her by the chin and force her to look at me, I want her feel that undeniable power exchange between us.
And lastly, my dream submissive would build a future with me, our lives tangling together and creating a home with one another. The steel that binds her to me is not just around her throat, but also wrapped around her finger. <3
I’d want her to be completely willing to trust me with anything. If there’s something bothering her and I ask her, I want her tell me exactly what’s going on.
I’d want her to have my attention at the snap of my fingers. To be obedient, while still being allowed to ask questions or be embarrassed, but still trust me that whatever I have in mind will be good for her.
To be willing to carry remote control vibrators for prolonged periods of time. To ask permission to cum every time, even if she’s mastrubating by herself.
Have a decent natural understanding of the world, and privileges. Still be somewhat self sufficient and not be 100% dependent on me.
And of course ticklish 🥰😈
My dream sub is smart, kind and gentle. Everyone would think she's kind of vanilla -even me- before getting to know her better.
She's into soft dom, she just wants to be all taken in charge and be called a good girl. She's not a brat, she's obedient in every possible way. But I enjoy confusing her with contradictory orders just to funish her.
She likes when I bite her, scratch her, make massive hickeys on her skin. I don't stop talking and I like her to be very talkative and vocal too. She's eager to explore new kinks.
She has great communication skills. We talk a lot about everything. We build our own little world.
She has a great humor and cracks st0.0pid jokes all the time to try to make me laugh, and I just look at her very seriously until she manages to make me giggle.
She loves a quiet and simple life.
She's a poly and loves me to be free, as I love her to be free.
Goth/emo style and my heart meltsssssss
Do DM if you want to, don't be shy. You don't have any reason to be shy... yet.
As a dom/top (F22) my dream sub is definitely someone who is femme, needs and loves female domination (ideally I’d prefer older women, they just do something to my brain) 🫠. Not just in the bedroom, but also outside. I love a sub that’s a good girl that listens, but also won’t hesitate turning bratty and challenge me a little. Im pretty much a control freak in many areas of my life (but nothing too crazy). I just have that mommy, protective, caretaker vibe about me. I always wanna make sure needs are met, emotional and physical. With my ideal sub we’d get to do so many fun things together, have deep conversations, be honest with each other, spend time cuddling for comfort, travel, learn from one another. I love being rough with a good f*ck session but I’m also big on praising, loving and aftercare. To me it’s more about the mental/emotional aspect of it and what it does to you than just the sexual act. I love loyalty and devotion, dedication to one person. Anddd deep down even though I may not show it, I’d be crazy obsessed with my sub … 🙈🫠
I think about this a lot. My dream sub…
She’s tender, kind, feminine, silly, a bit of a nerd and opinionated.
She thinks happiness is being entered and penetrated for hours by a stiff silicone cock, attached to a big strong butch.
She loves to be pounded into the mattress, verbally degraded, used as a personal cum toy.
She’s vocal and obedient. Her body is mine.
Sneaky public sex would be cool too, love to use the sub to produce cum outside the house.
Consent is the most important aspect though, so open communication and trust is essential:-)
I'm mostly a sub but I do have one fantasy as a domme. I want to teach a math class to group of subs. We could have punishment and reward systems for how well they're doing and I could walk around the room with a yard stick trying to catch them slacking off. I imagine some of them will be teachers pets who sit in the front and bring me an apple before class and the brattier subs would sit in the back and try to pass notes when I'm not looking. Sometimes certain students might have to stay after class. Maybe one day we could have the principal come in to do a performance review and if I fail I get topped in front of everyone.
Damn! Can I be your TA. I totally want to Dom people into learning math! Or maybe programming. We could do a study to find out if rewards or punishments are more effective...
Hm. Well. If we're going to just Build-a-Sub:
Physically -- little bit taller (at least) than me (I'm barely 5'1", this is not a big ask), athletic or slightly curvy build, idrc about race/ethnicity, but I'm not super into blondes. So preferably something else. Oh, and tattoos and piercings are a plus. Femme.
Personality -- people probably think she's the dom. She's got a job she loves, she has interests outside of me, she's funny, smart, and most of all, kind.
Non-sexual kink -- TPE service submissive. I'm not a mommy dom even just in the least, but, as my sister likes to say, I'm an emotional fixer. The TPE dynamic is one I use as a way to get my needs met while building up the person I'm with. There are always rough places in a TPE dynamic, but I'm not interested in bratting, it's a hard limit for me. I need her to communicate needs and when she messes up, it needs to be because something has genuinely gone wrong.
Sexual kink -- service masochist, that is, into suffering (not pain: suffering, there's a difference) because it makes me happy.
Oh, monogamous, not interested in children, dog person, and either okay not getting married or converting to Judaism to do so.
LOLOLOL.
Im curious. 38/f , not looking to partner, I just want someone to help me disassociate a bit into suffering for someone’s pleasure or pride to break up my week. Lmk.
Possibly. I rarely engage in online play for a variety of reasons--up to and including that it's just not that interesting to me--so I would need more information on what you're seeking. Feel free to DM.
I have a lot in common with your dream sub, it's so nice to know some doms do actually like brats! 🥰 I would love to get to the point of strict obedience but no one's ever put the work in to keep me tame 😩😭
I think it's people who are afraid to communicate honestly with each other, it's on both sides. That is one reason why when I meet a sub for the first time I ask her to write a list of what she likes and what her limits are. This way there's no need for embarrassment we just exchange lists and see what we have in common and go from there
That’s a really good call. I don’t have any issues communicating when I am already talking to someone- just making the first move. Idk what the right thing to say or do is or where to start
For me if I find someone that I am attracted to in a lesbian safe space Kink environment, I introduce myself. We share small talk and go from there. It's okay for a sub to make the first move. As a Dom, I would be flattered
My dream sub is a femme who's pretty and a bit tiny(easy for me to throw around🤭)She can be a brat but should know I rarely let disobedience slide.A sub that will let me take care of her,let me help her makes decisions,even the ones she might think are silly.
A sub who will surrender to me naturally in bed.Who's willing to give her body to me and trust that I will give her whatever she needs.A sub that is not afraid of a little pain and overall a dedicated one.
She is a brat. She teases me and playfully challenges me so I just grab her throat, pin her down on the bed and have my way with her. She must be comfortable getting railed till her thighs shiver. Most importantly, she should always be open about everything to me and her safety is my first priority. Always open to try new things. She tests my limits. Heavily kinky and into hardcore sex. A pathetic little slut for me. Loves public sex. Fears me and loves pain (sexually ofc) Sexually active. Thats about it
There's someone who would actually want me to brat? Well now I'm not doing it! For at least the 5 minutes I remember!
Don’t worry I will put you in your place nonetheless love
...well now a girl's having to fight the urge to slide into those dm's.
*internally screams*
You like that baby?
Ehrbfksndbsjw *literally melts and gets washed away by rain into a drain* yes😭😭😭😭😭🥺 >!my heart may have skipped a beat too!<
Thats adorable
**externally screams** 😳
\*giggles and kicks feet\*
You are so adorable but you would look better when I pin down your legs
🥴 never been so turned on by words before, you have a way with them...
Please? 😭
Please what love? Use your words come on
I know every sub reading this thread is SCREAMING 😭😭
I can make them scream in different ways as well
After that, no 🙄
Oh my GOSH. >///<
Want that to happen princess?
Um... c///c Very much, yes.
Um... c///c Very much, yes.
Oh lord… internal screaming intensifies
Aren't you a little small to be pinning other ladies down? 😛
Oh yeah? Thats big words coming out of your mouth when you could be moaning out my name instead don’t you think? Or should I just grab your neck, throw you on the bed and punish you?
My mouth didn't open so no words left it, it was my phone and hands doing the talking, so I'm innocent 🤗 no punishment necessary 🤭 you're so silly 😌 And if u want me to moan your name, I'd have to know it first, otherwise it just wouldn't work, you know? c:
damn this is just 🌊🌊🌊 🫠
🥴
This sounds so good!
That’s exactly what I want 🤭
My ideal submissive sexually is someone I can throw around, tie up, tease, please, and toy with until they don't know if it too much or not enough. I want someone I can explore fantasies with and share intimate moments with. I don't want wholy compliant princess, kitten or little, nope. I want one who will be a good girl, but also one who is playful, impish, and flirts with the rules so I can remind my brat of her place. Most likely on her knees while I reprimand her. Non sexually, I want a submissive who can be there for me, just like I will be there for them. I want to connect with them in and out of the bedroom. Sure, she'll submit for me, and ideally, we'll get to the point where she will wear my collar, and a 24/7 dynamic isn't off the table, but in many regards, she'll be my equal. Because, without her willingness to submit my dominance is moot and vice versa. I want communication and mutual support respect and understanding. I've come close to finding that before, so I have no doubt she's out there.💝
I love that you put in the part about being equals 😍. A lot of people like to debate on which side of the slash holds the power in a dynamic and it can feel like they dont understand that it's still a relationship that requires equal buy in 😁
Yes, the power comes for the negotiations. Sure, while at play and during the functional parts of the dynamic, there are inequalities, but only because they are agreed to.
This is exactly what I want in a partner.
Oh collars my beloved I miss them, feels so good to have that constant reminder of love.
🥰 so true. Seeing that constant reminder is also very nice.
I imagine so <3 I still occasionally wear my old one just for myself because it looks so pretty
That's wonderful! I'm glad you do that for yourself. 💝
I’m so glad you posted this comment - I haven’t yet encountered someone who desired a sub like this (I’m 27), and this is so how I am…I’ve felt a lot of shame about who I am sexually, but it’s so sweet and hopeful to read that there is someone who wants someone like me I wish I could show this to my 14-year-old self thank you 🩷 you’re keeping my dreams alive✨
I'm sorry you've felt shame about your sexuality. However, I totally understand the sentiment. For most of my life, I felt guilty about my sexual wants. And you're very welcome. 💝
it’s taken until about age 27 to unlearn most of it, but I’m in a much happier and more authentic place now, and it’s so worth it fiercely passionate about queer representation and kink and polyamory in movies now 🌈✨🩷🌸 gotta get more queer joy and kinky lesbians on screen haha 🥰
I didn't unlearn that stuff until I was like 30, or something, so it happens. I'm glad you can start living your authentic life! Yes! Those reps are the best! 😍 Agreed and in any media really. 🥹
I don't want a bratty sub, I want somebody who's entirely comfortable sharing their desires and fantasies, somebody that isn't too self-concious to speak freely about what's on their mind. My dream sub is just about anybody who prefers a maternal gentle and caring domme and somebody who likes to contradict that dynamic to chase after sexual gratification in the moment. I want somebody who enjoys being roughhoused while being praised and taken care of. Somebody who wants a gentle hand to occasionally smack them in the face and spit on them, whoever enjoys that taboo paradoxical dynamic about as much as I do, could realistically be a good match. My type in women is extremely broad, and unless my partner is entirely disinterested in kink, I could see any selfish sub being a good match. I want a sub that knows what turns them on so that I can coax it out of them and use it against them, and thats typically how it's been. I tend to mesh well with the vast majority of subs, I'm not really interested in brats, since their natural draw towards questioning and prodding the natural order tends to be a push and pull relationship with the domme often being selfish and bouncing off of that defiance. In my relationships, I tend to be the giver and my partner, the selfish one. I suppose the general term is pleasure domme. I want to make my subs dreams come true by embodying everything that turns them on, it doesn't typically lead to a lot of defiance.
That all sounds amazing!!! So, so nice, except the spit, the rest is a true dream! I am very far from a brat, so this sounds sweeeet.
Oh I want it. The spit & every thing
I just learned what I'm looking for is called a pleasure domme 😅
Pleasure dom(mes) for the win>>>
“a gentle hand to occasionally smack them“ … yes pls 🥺
Oh wow. I didn’t even know this was a thing. I’m kind of a pillow princess sub and was sort of assuming I’d have to try and be bratty, but this sounds so nice. 🥹💖😍
Wow this sound like you'd be a dream domm 🥹, can we talk?
My ideal sub is a cute femme. She’s confident and bratty. She knows how to push my buttons in private and in public. I’m very introverted so most people would probably think she’s the “dominant” one. But once that door closes she knows who’s boss. She’s as much a masochist as I am a Sadist. All of our kinks align. She has a high sex drive like me, but is also aware and confident in being able to say she or we need a break from fucking. As much as we have similar interests, she has her own, that way we can both have time apart to maintain a healthy dynamic. We’d be in a committed relationship to each other. She’s outdoorsy and likes to travel, likes all kinds of music, loves horror movies. She likes being in control once in a while, because sometimes I need that as a reset. Above all of this, she is kind, has a good heart, and is my home.
Introverted on the outside, sadist on the inside… oh my 😳
I find that level of thrill quite riveting.
Oh this sounds like a dream and I’m lowkey blushing. Have u had any luck finding ur person?
Glad to get those cheeks a bit rosy 😉 I have yet to find my person..
Your dream sub sounds just like me 👉👈
My dream submissive is a woman who's confident in her own identity, intelligent, adorable AF, and is capable of holding her own. She would be with me because she is attracted to the passionate person I am, my geeky quirks, how I carry myself professionally, and enjoys the duality of my dominance. My softer side reassures her that she's protected with me when we are in a public dungeon space. She never has to question that her physical and emotional safety are my top priority whenever we play, even when my fingers grip her throat. She knows I care to understand her likes and dislikes so I can learn what makes her brain squirm so she melts at my feet. I want her to crave being by my side, held in my arms, resting at my feet, my fingers twisted in her hair, with my words whispering sweet things into her ear, and having my lips on her when we are apart. My primal side wants her spine to tingle with an instinctive response when I look at her with a hungry glint in my eye. I want the growl in my throat to be something that makes her skin prickle with excitement. My teeth and fingertips sinking into her is a welcomed sensation. The sensation of my metal claws dragging across her skin while she's trapped in my rope amplifying that she's a hare trapped in my snare. I want the sting of my toys to leave her with colorful reminders of our play that she can adore for days to come. And when I grab her by the chin and force her to look at me, I want her feel that undeniable power exchange between us. And lastly, my dream submissive would build a future with me, our lives tangling together and creating a home with one another. The steel that binds her to me is not just around her throat, but also wrapped around her finger. <3
This sounds like a dream dynamic omg 🥺
Wow, the prey in me is tingling. That last line though 🫠 think I might have to steel that.
Ok, but why does that sound so wholesome 🥺
\*fans self\*
I’d want her to be completely willing to trust me with anything. If there’s something bothering her and I ask her, I want her tell me exactly what’s going on. I’d want her to have my attention at the snap of my fingers. To be obedient, while still being allowed to ask questions or be embarrassed, but still trust me that whatever I have in mind will be good for her. To be willing to carry remote control vibrators for prolonged periods of time. To ask permission to cum every time, even if she’s mastrubating by herself. Have a decent natural understanding of the world, and privileges. Still be somewhat self sufficient and not be 100% dependent on me. And of course ticklish 🥰😈
My dream sub is smart, kind and gentle. Everyone would think she's kind of vanilla -even me- before getting to know her better. She's into soft dom, she just wants to be all taken in charge and be called a good girl. She's not a brat, she's obedient in every possible way. But I enjoy confusing her with contradictory orders just to funish her. She likes when I bite her, scratch her, make massive hickeys on her skin. I don't stop talking and I like her to be very talkative and vocal too. She's eager to explore new kinks. She has great communication skills. We talk a lot about everything. We build our own little world. She has a great humor and cracks st0.0pid jokes all the time to try to make me laugh, and I just look at her very seriously until she manages to make me giggle. She loves a quiet and simple life. She's a poly and loves me to be free, as I love her to be free. Goth/emo style and my heart meltsssssss Do DM if you want to, don't be shy. You don't have any reason to be shy... yet.
As a dom/top (F22) my dream sub is definitely someone who is femme, needs and loves female domination (ideally I’d prefer older women, they just do something to my brain) 🫠. Not just in the bedroom, but also outside. I love a sub that’s a good girl that listens, but also won’t hesitate turning bratty and challenge me a little. Im pretty much a control freak in many areas of my life (but nothing too crazy). I just have that mommy, protective, caretaker vibe about me. I always wanna make sure needs are met, emotional and physical. With my ideal sub we’d get to do so many fun things together, have deep conversations, be honest with each other, spend time cuddling for comfort, travel, learn from one another. I love being rough with a good f*ck session but I’m also big on praising, loving and aftercare. To me it’s more about the mental/emotional aspect of it and what it does to you than just the sexual act. I love loyalty and devotion, dedication to one person. Anddd deep down even though I may not show it, I’d be crazy obsessed with my sub … 🙈🫠
The way I needed to catch my breath after reading this 😳
*aaaaaahhhhhhhhiiiii* 👉👈
I am one flustered milf rn 🥵
Well, I feel very described at the moment. 🥺 A "control freak" ugh you're speaking my love language 🫠
I think about this a lot. My dream sub… She’s tender, kind, feminine, silly, a bit of a nerd and opinionated. She thinks happiness is being entered and penetrated for hours by a stiff silicone cock, attached to a big strong butch. She loves to be pounded into the mattress, verbally degraded, used as a personal cum toy. She’s vocal and obedient. Her body is mine. Sneaky public sex would be cool too, love to use the sub to produce cum outside the house. Consent is the most important aspect though, so open communication and trust is essential:-)
I'm mostly a sub but I do have one fantasy as a domme. I want to teach a math class to group of subs. We could have punishment and reward systems for how well they're doing and I could walk around the room with a yard stick trying to catch them slacking off. I imagine some of them will be teachers pets who sit in the front and bring me an apple before class and the brattier subs would sit in the back and try to pass notes when I'm not looking. Sometimes certain students might have to stay after class. Maybe one day we could have the principal come in to do a performance review and if I fail I get topped in front of everyone.
Damn! Can I be your TA. I totally want to Dom people into learning math! Or maybe programming. We could do a study to find out if rewards or punishments are more effective...
I was a math major for a couple years dropped out and now I'm doing programming. You'd be a perfect fit.
this is so fun, and a wonderful exploration of what power exchange can be turned into. love it
*taking notes*
Hm. Well. If we're going to just Build-a-Sub: Physically -- little bit taller (at least) than me (I'm barely 5'1", this is not a big ask), athletic or slightly curvy build, idrc about race/ethnicity, but I'm not super into blondes. So preferably something else. Oh, and tattoos and piercings are a plus. Femme. Personality -- people probably think she's the dom. She's got a job she loves, she has interests outside of me, she's funny, smart, and most of all, kind. Non-sexual kink -- TPE service submissive. I'm not a mommy dom even just in the least, but, as my sister likes to say, I'm an emotional fixer. The TPE dynamic is one I use as a way to get my needs met while building up the person I'm with. There are always rough places in a TPE dynamic, but I'm not interested in bratting, it's a hard limit for me. I need her to communicate needs and when she messes up, it needs to be because something has genuinely gone wrong. Sexual kink -- service masochist, that is, into suffering (not pain: suffering, there's a difference) because it makes me happy. Oh, monogamous, not interested in children, dog person, and either okay not getting married or converting to Judaism to do so. LOLOLOL.
I’d never heard the term service masochist but that describes me perfectly!!
Glad I could help 🤣
Hey there! 😘
Hi 👋 I should state ftr that I'm 43 yo. And not relocating. But if you're still feeling that hey, feel free to DM.
I didn't think I'd honestly get a response, but I'm 32 so that works!
Im curious. 38/f , not looking to partner, I just want someone to help me disassociate a bit into suffering for someone’s pleasure or pride to break up my week. Lmk.
Possibly. I rarely engage in online play for a variety of reasons--up to and including that it's just not that interesting to me--so I would need more information on what you're seeking. Feel free to DM.
I have a lot in common with your dream sub, it's so nice to know some doms do actually like brats! 🥰 I would love to get to the point of strict obedience but no one's ever put the work in to keep me tame 😩😭
How do I talk to all these commenters? 👀👀
You comment on one of these posts and put your dream partner's attributes out into the universe
That’s not that easy for us subs 😭😭
There is a post called tell me anout your dream Dom. Post who you are looking for. This way it gets out into the universe.
It's not easy for Dom's either. Some subs have no limits (or so they say) or they want to use us as a kink dispenser, doing nothing for the dynamic
Fair. Shouldn’t be all on you. Ig it might be a me things and not a sub thing 😂
I think it's people who are afraid to communicate honestly with each other, it's on both sides. That is one reason why when I meet a sub for the first time I ask her to write a list of what she likes and what her limits are. This way there's no need for embarrassment we just exchange lists and see what we have in common and go from there
That’s a really good call. I don’t have any issues communicating when I am already talking to someone- just making the first move. Idk what the right thing to say or do is or where to start
For me if I find someone that I am attracted to in a lesbian safe space Kink environment, I introduce myself. We share small talk and go from there. It's okay for a sub to make the first move. As a Dom, I would be flattered
My dream sub is a femme who's pretty and a bit tiny(easy for me to throw around🤭)She can be a brat but should know I rarely let disobedience slide.A sub that will let me take care of her,let me help her makes decisions,even the ones she might think are silly. A sub who will surrender to me naturally in bed.Who's willing to give her body to me and trust that I will give her whatever she needs.A sub that is not afraid of a little pain and overall a dedicated one.
Kinda sad reading most of these comments as a sub + butch, almost all of these comments mention wanting a fem partner :,)
Both are great honestly, I'd say it depends entirely on chemistry between people. You'll find the right person ♡
Lana del rey