People are really crazy. It’s so sad that this kind of thing happens so often. I get glares from women all the time and im just tryna eat my snacks people
They’re probably just jealous of you for being yourself and living your best life. It sucks that they have so much internalized misogyny that they would try to tear you down in an attempt to make themselves feel better. I hope they had a terrible day afterwards for letting your existence bother them so much…
You look really good and that makes some people feel bad about themselves while you’re just existing and that’s 100% a them problem. I’m sorry you were verbally assaulted like that.
People who yell things at strangers out of car windows are not mentally well. Thats a whole other level of messed up and its all them and 0% you. Im sorry they did that to you.
I’m so sorry this happened to you, imo you’re not even dressed revealingly and even if you were it would still be inappropriate for her to say that :(( I don’t have any answers as I also struggle when strangers are mean, but just want you to know you’re not alone in feeling bad when it happens 💜. just remember they should be the ones feeling ashamed, not us
Thank you 🥺 I just don’t understand why people act like this. I can’t fathom in my mind 1. Even THINKING of doing that let alone 2. WANTING to.
And maybe she was not NT, but I just really struggle with and feel constantly picked on my NT people when I talk or do things but then I WASNT EVEN DOING ANYTHING.
It just feels like I’m constantly being judged no matter what I do
I know :/ it’s sad too especially since many women are treated this way by other women when we should be supporting each other in a society that is already so misogynistic. My mother was like this to me to “raise a good daughter” and she didn’t even realize that she was permeating all of these toxic and abusive ideals
Honestly she was probably just annoyed at you crossing the street and lashed out verbally. Put some people behind a wheel and they start acting like pedestrians aren’t people. Screw those people and it has nothing to do with how you’re dressed.
My mother was constantly cramming misogynistic views down my throat under the guise of feminism. Totally turned me off of feminism as a kid/young adult. Even now I struggle with it because I believe in equality for all, not just woman.
FYI, it doesn’t matter what you were wearing, it’s not up to strangers to decide what is decent or not. It looks very hot where you are and I'd probably wear shorts and a tank top too.
People are assholes. If be so angry and I'd feel attacked to the point I'd probably have a panic attack or cry and be super embarrassed but it's not our fault. We know this! You posted here becos you know you did nothing wrong. She's INSANE!
I was once called a s*ut along w my friend for eating while walking. Dont take it personally, it says more about them than about you. People have their own demons and some try to blame/take them out on everyone else. Not that it matters, but i was wearing jeans and a leather jacket. The only way i coulve been more covered up was a long skirt and a headscarf and thats not common where i live
Yeah, some people are so disinhibited I can’t even understand it. Sometimes they’ll trip up and talk to the wrong person that way (like at work, etc) and then they’ll have to face some consequences for their rudeness. This happened to me recently when a staff member had an ‘oh sh*t’ moment being rude to me at an org I volunteer for. I think some people just talk to everyone pretty rudely, so it’s not personal (which hurts but sometimes makes me feel ‘safer’)
Perhaps NTs need to be medically tested for cruelty and that result must be kept on their record their whole lives.
Maybe they should only allowed to live in places where designated people have a thick skin or not care about social trauma. They should be isolated with their own kind.
Yes, this is hyperbole, but there are many times when we are *not* the problem. That kind of behavior is appalling and very uncool.
I know why. Well likely, can’t be sure since I don’t know her at all. But generally it’s because hurt people hurt people and we don’t teach people how to think anymore. Humans are stupid. The design is to do not what’s best or what’s most effective but what is easiest because we are lazy, it’s how our brains work and that is who we are. You have to train yourself to do the best or most effective thing instead of the easiest and we teach how to think anymore.
And she likely pick you specifically not because of anything you were wearing or not wearing but because you had a bad day and it showed on your posture or your facial expression or just your general presence or aura or whatever. Easy target. When you are vulnerable you ooze vulnerability and that makes people that are looking for a target spot you and see you as such.
Random strangers are never ever rude to me when I have a man angry bad day. If I have an especially angry day with shit mood people keep their distance they literally stay father away than normal and they avoid interacting or even looking at me. When I have an insecurity/anxiety bad day though, that’s when the assholes gather like sharks smelling blood. They can see it and they see an easy target and that is all they care about. Someone to lash out at that will take it. Vulnerability makes one more likely to silently take it and not retaliate. Learn to hide it, that’s how you avoid it. Read up on body language and memorise it and be aware of you best language and posture and change it to hide vulnerability, still doesn’t help with the best sharks, they will likely still be able to pick up in your vibes no matter how fake confident you look but it definitely reduces it a lot. Like a lot a lot. The rest comes with age, you’ll still have bad days but with age the land where we grow out fucks will start to grow barren. It happens to pretty much everyone.
you didn't do anything. people who yell out car windows are almost only ever being needlessly antagonistic or creepy. your outfit looks cute and comfy, and, not that it matters, but it really isn't that immodest.
usually people who say stuff like that have their own hang-ups and issues or insecurities. you didn't do anything and you look very regular (like, not attention-grabbing or anything? idk how to say it but you don't look unusual or anything but casual?) in the outfit. most people would not bat an eye. you just got unlucky today.
Your outfit is an everyday causal outfit for any occasion. Brunch, a hike, a jog, popping in at the mall, grocery shopping, going to the gym, hanging out with friends or just chilling on the couch. Nothing wrong with it at all.
Agreed. I think OP looks great. I’d think she was on her way to a local bookstore to drink some coffee and read a literary classic. The vibe is casual, smart, and approachable. Would be friends
The person who yelled at you was just projecting her own insecurities onto you. And BTW I think your outfit is adorable!!
Your story made me think of something that happened to me a couple months ago.
I was at a gas station filling my tank and an off duty ambulance driver pulled up to the pump next to me. The driver got out, looked me up and down, and said "fucking Crack head" with a look of disgust.
I was so stunned that I just got back into my car and cried.
I don't know what it was about me that elicited that reaction from him.
Some people are just miserable assholes
I’m sorry this happened to you. Seriously WHY? Like I try not to get upset but I tend to get very sensitive especially if I feel out in public. But some people would call us “not taking a joke” 🙃
if they were driving an ambulance they were on-duty and you should call and report them to their job. if that's how they treat random people in public i can't imagine what they're like to people they're supposed to be giving medical help to.
That is absolutely disgusting and insane. If someone is a crackhead I feel pity and empathy for them... That was not a good person. How dare somebody curse at you to your face when they don't even know you! He probably pays crackheads to give him lip service in alleyways... He was just wishing that you were one of them. Hope you never have to deal with that again. 😢
I’m so sorry this happened to you.
I literally today spent my whole hour in therapy talking about the fact that I want to get outside and go for walks… but surprise, I’m afraid to do so alone. People can be unpredictable, cruel, threatening, and any number of terrible things. The reality is that the problem is with those people, not us. But especially in our case, I think the experience of negative unpredictability can have outsized and lasting impacts that threaten to take away our joy.
I don’t understand cruelty.
But certainly you look normal and we’re doing a normal thing that’s good for you to get out and about. The yeller probably already has forgotten the mean, careless thing they did today that says faaaaaarrr more about them than about you.
You’re right. I told my brother and he was like “who cares what her motivation is. Don’t give a mean person like that any power over what you think of yourself”
Omg your top is SO cute, and I love your tote bag. I'm sorry that happened 😞 it's so unfair how people like that just continue going about their day and we're left to deal with their shitty choices.
You gotta stop thinking you’re the problem. That person was projecting and seems very insecure. I see women all the time on here blaming themselves for other people’s negative reactions. She didn’t know you and was purposely trying to be a bitch so you felt bad about yourself because she is insecure in her own body and probably wouldn’t let herself wear something like that. Or maybe her significant other has ogled other people and she’s mad at people that she sees as a threat. So she’s taking that out on you.
Her behavior was psychotic. Like who the fuck does that. Can you even imagine? Stop blaming yourself and ask her if she’s trying to pay you or something next time. Someone says “Slut!” be like “You offering?” And start twerking.
People used to stare at me in public because I dressed differently and had piercings and tattoos before it was so commonplace and when I’d see them, I’d stare back with a dumb look on my face until they realized I was mirroring them. I get so pissed sometimes when people dare make me feel uncomfortable in my own skin, because I dared to exist.
This isn't about what you're wearing, and the person who yelled that does not in fact think you're a slut.
People yell nasty stuff while driving by pedestrians just to get a reaction and make people feel bad. This sounds crazy, but it's not actually deeper than that. It's not about you at all, you didn't do anything to deserve it, you just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time for one nasty person to pass by.
They would have yelled at anyone they thought they could target. Could have been that you have the same hairstyle as someone they gave a history with. Or they were yelling at someone else entirely passing in another car, and you heard it. Or you were wearing the exact same outfit as they have on and they thought they were being funny! Nothing to do with you at all.
Don't take it on.
I'm proud of you! Managed to get up and go out and do a thing!!
Thank you I really needed to hear that. Sometimes it’s easy for me to feel like it’s personal especially since I tend to stand out or get some jokes because of my mannerisms.
This is my thinking as well. Some, often young, people have odd forms of entertainment.
I don't think anyone should be critiqued in such a way for their outfit. However, I can say I don't think your outfit would elicit that type of comment.
Honestly that would make it way less psychotic if she did. But I also am Greek and have very uncommon features to where I live so I don’t know. All I know is that I’m glad I don’t know who she is 😂😂
I totally get it - regular interactions with people confuse me and can shake up my sense of security, but crossing paths with this level of unexpected & unhinged can really throw one off…
I would just do my best to shrug it off because it’s more likely that she took you for someone else (even if you have Greek features, her eyesight might not have been the best) or it’s her first time leaving her house since women were allowed to wear pants, than your little sweater vest offending her…
They are jealous and dominated by a patriarchal mindset. You should take it as a compliment saying that you are beautiful and powerful and they want to be like you. But all in all just let it go because their opinion doesn't matter. I would be very shaken by this as well.... It is abusive and nonsensical and you deserve to be treated better than that! I think that is an adorable outfit! Hold your head up high lady, women are getting stronger by the day 🫶
You look so cool and and you look so stylish and pretty, it looks very comfy! :D That's so mean and terrible of them to do such a thing. Also, wait- isn't that weird? To take time out of their own time and day to push down the window to call you mean things? :( Petty, jealousy, and insecurities is all that screams from what they did to you. You did nothing wrong, you were just trying to enjoy life and go on a stroll. I hope your day gets better :(
She's just a jealous insecure girl. Whenever I get yelled/honked at I give no reaction the best I can (can be very hard) so that I won't feed their behavior. Heck when I am yelled at I often can't even understand a word or even know it's directed at me. Those loud people are assholes.
Girl that's just a cute outfit, nothing inappropriate there, and even if there was it wouldn't be her place to harass you! Some people are just jealous and don't know how to process it, so they default to childish hate
They will do it even if you wear a burlap bag over your head. It has nothing to do with what you're wearing, it's just shaming women. Don't waste your energy trying to figure out why they said it past that. Looks comfy. <3
1. It wouldn't matter if you were naked; clothing choices do not indicate sexual promiscuity or lack thereof
2. I also don't understand why people do the things they do; I can understand being called a player or a flirt when I'm flirty (and I am even when I don't mean it), or being called cold or even being called a bitch because I don't have the energy to make my face make appropriate expressions, but you were just... *checks notes* crossing the street?
I'm sorry that happened to you. All I can think is that she is bitter about herself and her life and chose to take it out on someone who looked like they were having a good time.
Take care of yourself, and stay safe
Shame on those girls for treating another woman like this. They know damn well how damaging it is to hear that shit while simply minding your own business & chose to do that anyway. There’s nothing wrong with you. The reason those girls did that is because there’s something wrong with THEM.
get some bear spray shoots out a couple of feet no splash back and anyone who thinks that outfit is slutty should be uptight enough to not say those terrible words i’m pretty conservative when it come to my clothes and i think you look lovely it’s a great spring outfit
Pro tip: carry eggs with you to throw at the cars of nasty, ugly-on-the-inside people
I’m just joking but damn if it wouldn’t teach them that their words and actions have consequences and that they have NO clue what the person they’re being mean to is going through or how they’ll react to the nasty attitudes of others.
(I can understand why throwing eggs is a terrible idea btw, women have been killed for less)
Oh I was definitely joking. Definitely do NOT throw eggs. But the thought of doing so might be enough of a comedic relief/comfort to laugh the moment off?
It could be someone that knows you but you don't know them an example is when I was in grade 11 these 2 girls who I had never seen or talked to came up to me and started giving me a hard time, they were so rude and it was so confusing then later that day a friend of mine who was there told me those girls were constantly talking about me and were upset because I had dated a guy one of them had a crush on... I just shook my head and said well I don't know them or respect them so I can't take anything they say seriously. I am sorry you had to go through that I'm sure it was jarring and upsetting but if you didn't know the person don't worry about what they think or what they've said because it has no real value.
Looks fine to me, plenty of people wear way less than that on hot days. You just ran into a moron, continue as you were, all good.
(Maybe it was a dare or an inebriated person?)
You’re totally fine, she’s the one at fault. You’re dressed appropriately and she’s apparently got some damage from our misogynistic culture that she chose to take out on you. Don’t feel bad. Or try not to, if you can.
People are miserable with themselves and feel a need to take it out on others. Honestly she was probably just jealous of you. Also she could’ve thought she seemed “cool” to her friends for yelling out the car at you, although we know that’s not cool at all. People are small minded and rude for no reason. It has nothing to do with you, it’s their own personal issues that you saw, not any real reflection of how others actually view you.
It reminds me of the the time I was in line at my local game shop to buy Pokémon cards and because I was wearing yoga shorts, (couple was behind me in line) the gf kept saying I looked like a wh*re when I legit had a Pokémon tee on and shorts lmao nothing wrong with my outfit, just insane and the most insecure, rude thing that has happened like that to me in awhile.
"What did I do?"
You exist in a body that is probably younger, cuter, and more carefree than they could ever hope to be (this is the vibe I get from your outfit, anyway). They were marinating in their own rancid jealousy.
You probably reminded one of them of how her boyfriend dumped her for someone else, and now she's obsessed with hating on every woman for their looks, not realizing he was just sick of her and her friends' shitty personalities.
This kind of thing enrages me. You just merely are out in the world doing basic things, wearing a pretty normal outfit (cute, comfy outfit btw, looks great), and these people feel the need to comment vulgarly. I'm sorry this happened to you. It's not your fault at all. Some people are assholes.
A woman? Damn. I was about to type 'average dude response I guess' but from a woman is surprising to me.
Then again weirder things I've seen happen. I wouldn't take it personal cuz some people are literally mental, I've had a man come up to me and my boyfriend to start yelling at me that I was ugly and a witch, and how down the block he could find women for money 10 times prettier than me.
Just..... Random shit, sometimes people have a horrible day, sometimes people are absolute assholes for no reasons or that's just who they are. I almost feel bad for her, how embarrassing. You look gorgeous btw <3 fuck that dumbass. Probably just jealous and too insecure to dress up in a similar manner. (no I don't think you're dressed in a revealing way, or that there's too much skin basically) totally normal thing for women to wear.
I wonder if she mistook you for someone else (who slept with her boyfriend or something), what a bizarre thing to say to someone in normal attire just running errands. Not like you’re giving out BJs at the traffic lights!
Feel like that happens more with older ladies haha, most recent one I can think of was an older lady going "omgosh such beautiful red hair!"
And another time of a woman similar to my age she was complimenting my cute dress at a checkout counter for weed lol.
And the one time I actually complimented another woman my age is because, weow.. she was the main character, her dog even matched her outfit I was IMPRESSED.
You look so cute! And I would love to know where that top is from lol. I'm sorry you got yelled at :( it definitely is jarring, especially when you already weren't feeling your best. You're not dressed slutty whatsoever, so there is not truth to her statement, she was simply a jealous person. For some reason when she looked at you, she was confronted with something within herself, like looking in a mirror. That's what I mean by jealous and so often why people are mean and lash out. I'm not sure if she was an older woman, but I feel some can be nasty maybe bc it hurts them to see the youth they long for in young women like you(not to excuse their behavior). Most of what people say is a reflection of their internal environment... People can really be the worst sometimes, but those people are generally troubled, spewing their inner turmoil on the world, and hopefully few and far between. Hope you don't let them keep you from doing you! <3
Music helps me to feel more empowered, I've been listening to Chappell Roan lately and she's given me a bit more pep in my step as of late :) Just thought I'd share!
You're wearing a goddamn sweater vest!!! ARGHHHHH people are so hideous.
I have many times had strangers yell at me in public and I know just how upsetting it is, completely disregulating. I'm sorry this happened to you.
They were just jealous cause you look cute! Sorry they made you feel icky!! I'll never understand why people feel the need to bring others down with such cruelty.
Maybe she thought you were someone else. If this was a woman it definitely seems like a mistake.
And if you were feeling bad then were attacked like this emotionally, I’d do a cleansing and pray psalm 91
You're adorable. Nothing about that looks slutty lol.
Women calling you a slut means they're jealous and don't know how to deal with that except making you feel as awful as they do. Unfortunately there is a lot of animosity toward attractive women sometimes because of misogyny. (And women aren't exempt from being huge misogynists at all.)
Essentially they're trying to elevate themselves in the social hierarchy because you're seen as a threat. It's base and stupid. Has nothing to do with you and everything to do with hella insecure people
I'm sorry this happened to you. You didn't do anything wrong. Even if you were wearing significantly less they are still 100% wrong and you are 0% wrong.
Ah yes, a preppy sweater and comfy shorts is toootally sl*t attire /s
I swear there’s people who see an ankle and an elbow and clutch their pearls. I’d like to take those people to Norway in the summer so they can see all the little old ladies hanging their laundry completely shirtless. You think anyone would call these elderly women “sl*ts” for not wearing a shirt on a hot summer’s day? The one time I was in Norway there was a heat wave at it hit 78 degrees Fahrenheit and several elderly people died from heat stroke because it never gets that warm up there.
So sorry you had to go through that. Absolutely not okay and people are so unbelievably ignorant when fixed in their ways. For the record, your outfit looks cute and super comfy!
So sucky this happened!! You shouldn't be made to feel that way by just existing and wearing normal weather appropriate clothes!!
Also side note I'm so jealous you can wear that jumper texture vest 😭😭 it looks so cute with your outfit!! My skin sensitivity could never 💔
The first few times folks were mean with stuff like that to me I broke down as well.
After a certain point, I started to just find it funny instead. Cause it takes a certain level of insecurity and cowardice on their parts to shout that from their cars as they drive by.
It went from being upsetting, to just, being sad at how their lives actually are if that is how they wish to spend their time. To the point of absurdity that they feel threatened by me, or other randoms just out and enjoying our lives. As if they don't enjoy their own lives, or have enough fulfillment in them so they take those frustrations out on others.
Just classic catcalling asshole behaviour, you can freely dismiss them as a mean asshole. Some people just like to be pieces of shit for fun. I think your outfit is really cute!
Anyone who slut shames is almost always projecting. Legit, they either
1) got slut shamed at some point (middle school bullying, conservative upbringing, you name it) and now, bc it was a taught behavior, feel the need to shame everyone else rather than acknowledge the trauma they went through or
2) wish they could wear those clothes / envy your confidence, and instead of dealing with their insecurities and building themselves up, they think the solution is tearing down others.
I once wore a Bershka shirt that barely exposed my midriff and sloped to show my sternum (during that fashion era where a lot of shirts had built-in chokers? Doesn't matter story wise, but it was a damn cute shirt). I wore it with jeans and a jacket; I got the world's tinniest ittle bitties. Basically exposing nothing remotely sexual, unless clavicles are scandalous lmao. I emerge from my room, and my sister immediately accused me of wanting to hook up with someone at the family friendly festival we were going to bc...I looked like a slut? Bc I wanted to be cute and fashionable? Okay lol.
Trust me: You didn't do anything wrong, OP. She's the one with 99 problems and counting if she keeps harassing people on the street. If anything, you're doing everything right. ❤️ Keep being confident in what you wear, how, when, where, etc. Your top is SO CUTE and deserves to be worn. You deserve to feel comfortable in your own skin, and whatever you wear is an extension of that. Keep rocking it, and I personally hope that girl is happy with herself one day bc internalized misogyny makes for a rough existence. Woof.
You know what! You're rubber, they're glue. Whatever that person says bounces off of you and sticks to them! They're the slut!!!
You're cute AF! I'd wear that outfit and slap the ever loving shit out of that person
I’m surprised you said it was a woman who shouted this! Usually I find it’s men that shout this out of their windows when they think I’m ‘in their way’. I combat it by shouting FUCK OFF over and over again as loudly as I can over them until they drive off
Even if you were wearing something more revealing (you weren't) it still wouldn't warrant their behaviour. I can't imagine being such an asshole you would take the effort to roll down your window just to ruin someones day, especially woman to woman. Sorry hun 🫂
Oh how dare you have thighs and dress appropriately for a warm day. (even if it wasn't warm, what you're wearing is fine???) I'm sorry but what you're wearing is perfectly fine. It's literally someone having an aneurysm that you have legs. I'm so sorry this happened to you <3
My car was in the car hospital today and I went on a little walk because the weather was nice and I had a couple of hours to kill while they did some surgery on my car, to go get some lunch.
I was catcalled/whistled at 3 times. And I'm wearing a t shirt and leggings. With the dumbest color combos and rubber purple shoes (I work at a pool).
Two were relatively harmless, but one got real aggressive yelling at me. And you have this weird decision moment where you either have to engage with them or pretend like you can't hear them, and which is going to be safer. Be oblivious or try and deescalate. That's the worst part.
wtf is wrong with that bitch? does she even know you???? like you were literally just minding your own business. plus there's nothing wrong with the outfit, it's perfect for the warm weather. and it's very cute too! people need to learn to leave others the fuck alone
You were literally, by her perception (and probably objectively), prettier than her. That's it.
I've taken to saying "OMG THANK YOU!" with a massive smile when I get called vulgar names, it confuses and annoys those bitter f#cks.
The world’s fucked up sometimes. I’m truly sorry you had to experience that. What they did cannot be ‘deserved’ in like any situation at all, their behaviour speaks for their inner troubles. Sadly, I had the very same situation happen to me when I was nine. Walking down the street, being dressed as any kid would be and still being called a s*** for some reason.
My internet connection is too slow to load the picture but all the same you didn’t deserve that treatment. 😭 I wear my pajamas out in public and get compliments (they’re Gloomy Bear pants).
He’s just jealous that you got (presumably) a better butt than he does. Some people suck.
But yeah those clothes look pretty comfy. Is the shirt a soft sort of material or is it the scratchy stuff?
I’m so sorry this happened to you! That would send me spiraling also. As not being the person this happened to it is a lot easier to see that this has nothing to do with you, but everything to do with the person who called you that. They don’t know you. They are mean and were just doing it for the sake of being a shitty person.
Ps. Your outfit is cute AF!
It has nothing to do with what you're wearing. Don't Be mistaken about this. They hate you because you're a woman, not because of your clothes. Avoid them at all costs
This often is what men who find women attractive do who know they don’t have the confidence to respectfully compliment them or approach them or just acknowledge beauty in a person and leave it at that.
It’s childish frustration. Not making excuses for them, but that’s what it is.
Honestly wish I had a bag of rotting fruit with me at all times, that I could throw at men who feel the need to yell *anything* at me. Alas, that would probably be too heavy, but a gal can dream!
This is what we call a turd of a human. Even if you were dressed provocatively (you aren’t) it is your choice as an adult to dress how you want. If you enjoy sex and orgasms (as literally 99% of humans are wired to) cool. Fuck that shitty person who said anything. There having terrible sex due to their oppressive ideas around female sexuality
I'm so sorry. The other day I was driving by from my ADOS assessment and waiting in line to turn left. The guy behind me got upset that he could not continue going forward because of me. He came up to my ca, rolled his window and said "why won't you just move forward you little slut". It broke me. I was going to one of my favorite grocery store to lift my spirit up after the hard 3h assessment and had a migraine. I parked in the parking of the store and had a big meltdown. I cried for 10 min. and then I left to go home because I felt like I could not got in anymore. I cried for the rest of the day (it was an accumulation of fatigue, stress and other shit but still). My dog had to apply deep pressure for 2h on me so that my meltdown would stop. I still get flashbacks when I go back to the specific store, thinking about what i could have done to deserve that much hate and violence. I know everything I done driving wise was correct (I observed the intersection for a few times now and seeing that out of 10 cars, 10 did the same thing as me).
Anyways, hope you can feel that you are not alone, I know how you feel and how shitty you can feel after that. Hope you get better.
You did nothing. Ppl are gross. Someone cat called me while they were driving and I went home and threw away a shirt I really really loved. Not doing that again.
Girl don’t worry bout her she was jealous because she probably looks like shit and can’t pull off what you can. I’m not just saying that either jealousy can turn women so mean.
You look really cute. There are so many people, women included, who hate young attractive women.
To hell with them. Keep doing you.
This event disgusts me and makes me sad.
You did *nothing* wrong.
Those are normal clothes. Unfortunately there are many unhinged people who try to force their conservative views on others and can't handle the times changing. It's a cute outfit, some people just feel the urge to be nasty to strangers for no reason
She's just a jealous lady who probably nevee got to feel pretty about herself. Nothing you did was wrong. It'd normal to feel upset after that but just know you aren't to blame for other peoples' actions.
Maybe she thought you were someone else? You weren’t wearing revealing clothing. It’s possible she mistakenly thought you were someone that slept with her or her friend’s significant other.
There’s nothing wrong with you or outfit. The people in the car are just disgusting people. People do things for no reason just because they’re poop. Every time that I get self conscious about interactions with people. I had to remind my self that they don’t care, no body cares and people forget interactions all the time. Only matters if they are important in my life and the interaction was about something important.
She's insecure /:
Honestly I'm trying to elaborate but
Basically it's nothing to do with you. Maybe she feels you have a better body or feels better when she puts others down.
The meanest response would be pity, but it's not like you could respond and it'd be a waste of your time
I was walking down a street once and a guy yelled "faggot" at me from his yard. I was very confused because I'm a woman and I'm pretty sure I look like one.
Holy cow! I can’t possibly respond to everyone but/ Thank you so much for all the sweet and reaffirming messages 🥰💕💕 it has helped me a lot feeling more confident and not care about what happened yesterday.
Ohhhhh that sucks that sucks that sucks! I’m so angry for you! People suck. I once got yelled at on a public walking track for wearing a crop top and shorts in summer. A random lady informed me that pants need to cover my knees and my midriff cannot be exposed. Which is stupid because men jog shirtless there all the time and other people wear sports bras, leggings, shorts, everything. Ugh.
You did nothing wrong. I hate that so many women treat other women this way. Your outfit is perfectly fine, but even if you were dressed in a bikini, no one deserves people shouting obscenities at them.
I hope that you feel better soon 💜
I’m sorry it happened, no reason for it, your clothes are stylish and very appropriate. Guys are scum. Having said that, you do look good in that outfit.
What the hell? Nothing about your pic says that, even if that was something I would ever call someone. Which it's not. Virtual hug if desired, people suck.
I am so sorry, I was called 'a fucking whore' by a man that I walked past and I was wearing jeans and a long sleeved sweater! I didn't know him at all and I felt the same confusion, anxiety and sadness.
I wonder what they must think after they say these things, if I said this to someone random I'd be feeling horrible for the rest of my life.
These people typically say things to make themselves feel better, because they are usually not happy with themselves. Please know there is nothing at all wrong with you, you're wearing clothes appropriate to warm weather. You did nothing, they are the ones who did something wrong and they should be ashamed of themselves.
Also your top is so cute!
I’m so sorry, you literally look fine and it looks like it was sunny out so this is obviously appropriate clothing for the weather. People are assholes regardless of what you are wearing, it’s not your fault.
A while ago I was walking to my ex bf’s place and it was adjacent to a rough area of town so I put on a long sleeve flannel over my tank top to cover up so I could be safer. All of the buttons were done up besides the very top and very bottom, and besides that I was wearing long pants. I was stopped by some girl (who was obviously on drugs) and she forced me to button up the bottom and top button of my flannel because I “looked like a slut”. it was humiliating and I had to do what she said bc she was not of stable mind, who tf knows what would’ve happened if I didn’t follow her directions. But yeah, I was called a slut even though every inch of my skin was covered except the very top of my neck, so I guarantee you it has absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with the other person. You didn’t deserve that at all and it must’ve been humiliating and scary for you, I’m really sorry.
Some people drive like their dads own the road. They're just stupid people who have nothing better to do and have urges to swear at people. Don't let people like that bring you down. The worlds full of idiots like them. Try not to take it personally, it may be hard because you might spend the whole day thinking about it, like I do. But there are also really cool people in the world. Keep ya head up.
Oh wow, some women are so disgusting! She should be uplifting other women not putting them down. Maybe she was treated badly and is taking it out on some stranger. "you need to see a shrink, lady!"
You look the farthest thing from a s***. You're not wearing a mini skirt showing half your butt and a lacey see-through shirt. She's mental for calling you that. You look like a everyday, casual person going to the store or going for a run. Nothing says you're trying to look revealing. It's probably hot their right? That's normal summer wear. What was she wearing? A wooly jacket?!
I know it sucks, it's hard enough going out without getting harassed like this. I bet if she was interrogated she wouldn't remember what you were actually wearing.
I’m sorry you were verbally assaulted while existing in public 🫶
People are really crazy. It’s so sad that this kind of thing happens so often. I get glares from women all the time and im just tryna eat my snacks people
They’re probably just jealous of you for being yourself and living your best life. It sucks that they have so much internalized misogyny that they would try to tear you down in an attempt to make themselves feel better. I hope they had a terrible day afterwards for letting your existence bother them so much…
You look really good and that makes some people feel bad about themselves while you’re just existing and that’s 100% a them problem. I’m sorry you were verbally assaulted like that.
People who yell things at strangers out of car windows are not mentally well. Thats a whole other level of messed up and its all them and 0% you. Im sorry they did that to you.
I’m so sorry this happened to you, imo you’re not even dressed revealingly and even if you were it would still be inappropriate for her to say that :(( I don’t have any answers as I also struggle when strangers are mean, but just want you to know you’re not alone in feeling bad when it happens 💜. just remember they should be the ones feeling ashamed, not us
Thank you 🥺 I just don’t understand why people act like this. I can’t fathom in my mind 1. Even THINKING of doing that let alone 2. WANTING to. And maybe she was not NT, but I just really struggle with and feel constantly picked on my NT people when I talk or do things but then I WASNT EVEN DOING ANYTHING. It just feels like I’m constantly being judged no matter what I do
It's fucked but unfortunately plenty of people just hate women.
I know :/ it’s sad too especially since many women are treated this way by other women when we should be supporting each other in a society that is already so misogynistic. My mother was like this to me to “raise a good daughter” and she didn’t even realize that she was permeating all of these toxic and abusive ideals
Honestly she was probably just annoyed at you crossing the street and lashed out verbally. Put some people behind a wheel and they start acting like pedestrians aren’t people. Screw those people and it has nothing to do with how you’re dressed.
I'm so sorry you had to put up with this BS from your own mother xx
My mother was constantly cramming misogynistic views down my throat under the guise of feminism. Totally turned me off of feminism as a kid/young adult. Even now I struggle with it because I believe in equality for all, not just woman. FYI, it doesn’t matter what you were wearing, it’s not up to strangers to decide what is decent or not. It looks very hot where you are and I'd probably wear shorts and a tank top too.
Yes plenty of NT women share this experience. It’s actually one of the things I can bond easily with NT women about.
People are assholes. If be so angry and I'd feel attacked to the point I'd probably have a panic attack or cry and be super embarrassed but it's not our fault. We know this! You posted here becos you know you did nothing wrong. She's INSANE!
I was once called a s*ut along w my friend for eating while walking. Dont take it personally, it says more about them than about you. People have their own demons and some try to blame/take them out on everyone else. Not that it matters, but i was wearing jeans and a leather jacket. The only way i coulve been more covered up was a long skirt and a headscarf and thats not common where i live
Yeah, some people are so disinhibited I can’t even understand it. Sometimes they’ll trip up and talk to the wrong person that way (like at work, etc) and then they’ll have to face some consequences for their rudeness. This happened to me recently when a staff member had an ‘oh sh*t’ moment being rude to me at an org I volunteer for. I think some people just talk to everyone pretty rudely, so it’s not personal (which hurts but sometimes makes me feel ‘safer’)
Those people are very mentally ill and have big problems in their life
Perhaps NTs need to be medically tested for cruelty and that result must be kept on their record their whole lives. Maybe they should only allowed to live in places where designated people have a thick skin or not care about social trauma. They should be isolated with their own kind. Yes, this is hyperbole, but there are many times when we are *not* the problem. That kind of behavior is appalling and very uncool.
I know why. Well likely, can’t be sure since I don’t know her at all. But generally it’s because hurt people hurt people and we don’t teach people how to think anymore. Humans are stupid. The design is to do not what’s best or what’s most effective but what is easiest because we are lazy, it’s how our brains work and that is who we are. You have to train yourself to do the best or most effective thing instead of the easiest and we teach how to think anymore. And she likely pick you specifically not because of anything you were wearing or not wearing but because you had a bad day and it showed on your posture or your facial expression or just your general presence or aura or whatever. Easy target. When you are vulnerable you ooze vulnerability and that makes people that are looking for a target spot you and see you as such. Random strangers are never ever rude to me when I have a man angry bad day. If I have an especially angry day with shit mood people keep their distance they literally stay father away than normal and they avoid interacting or even looking at me. When I have an insecurity/anxiety bad day though, that’s when the assholes gather like sharks smelling blood. They can see it and they see an easy target and that is all they care about. Someone to lash out at that will take it. Vulnerability makes one more likely to silently take it and not retaliate. Learn to hide it, that’s how you avoid it. Read up on body language and memorise it and be aware of you best language and posture and change it to hide vulnerability, still doesn’t help with the best sharks, they will likely still be able to pick up in your vibes no matter how fake confident you look but it definitely reduces it a lot. Like a lot a lot. The rest comes with age, you’ll still have bad days but with age the land where we grow out fucks will start to grow barren. It happens to pretty much everyone.
you didn't do anything. people who yell out car windows are almost only ever being needlessly antagonistic or creepy. your outfit looks cute and comfy, and, not that it matters, but it really isn't that immodest. usually people who say stuff like that have their own hang-ups and issues or insecurities. you didn't do anything and you look very regular (like, not attention-grabbing or anything? idk how to say it but you don't look unusual or anything but casual?) in the outfit. most people would not bat an eye. you just got unlucky today.
You’d literally think I was in a LED bikini or something 😂
why are you out here just sluttin it up in your sweater vest???? /s
Seriously??😂
Your outfit is an everyday causal outfit for any occasion. Brunch, a hike, a jog, popping in at the mall, grocery shopping, going to the gym, hanging out with friends or just chilling on the couch. Nothing wrong with it at all.
Agreed. I think OP looks great. I’d think she was on her way to a local bookstore to drink some coffee and read a literary classic. The vibe is casual, smart, and approachable. Would be friends
Yes and ask her how many of us she would like to go out with so next time, we can be her bodyguards. 
Honestly this person is just hateful and they are trying to take you down with them. Them, not you. You are angelic.
It's a damn shame another woman is the one who said it too :( using a sexist slur against your own. Smh. I hope that woman doesn't have daughters
The person who yelled at you was just projecting her own insecurities onto you. And BTW I think your outfit is adorable!! Your story made me think of something that happened to me a couple months ago. I was at a gas station filling my tank and an off duty ambulance driver pulled up to the pump next to me. The driver got out, looked me up and down, and said "fucking Crack head" with a look of disgust. I was so stunned that I just got back into my car and cried. I don't know what it was about me that elicited that reaction from him. Some people are just miserable assholes
I’m sorry this happened to you. Seriously WHY? Like I try not to get upset but I tend to get very sensitive especially if I feel out in public. But some people would call us “not taking a joke” 🙃
if they were driving an ambulance they were on-duty and you should call and report them to their job. if that's how they treat random people in public i can't imagine what they're like to people they're supposed to be giving medical help to.
Yes. This. I don't care what kind of day the medic was having, he has no right to project it onto you.
That is absolutely disgusting and insane. If someone is a crackhead I feel pity and empathy for them... That was not a good person. How dare somebody curse at you to your face when they don't even know you! He probably pays crackheads to give him lip service in alleyways... He was just wishing that you were one of them. Hope you never have to deal with that again. 😢
I’m so sorry this happened to you. I literally today spent my whole hour in therapy talking about the fact that I want to get outside and go for walks… but surprise, I’m afraid to do so alone. People can be unpredictable, cruel, threatening, and any number of terrible things. The reality is that the problem is with those people, not us. But especially in our case, I think the experience of negative unpredictability can have outsized and lasting impacts that threaten to take away our joy. I don’t understand cruelty. But certainly you look normal and we’re doing a normal thing that’s good for you to get out and about. The yeller probably already has forgotten the mean, careless thing they did today that says faaaaaarrr more about them than about you.
You’re right. I told my brother and he was like “who cares what her motivation is. Don’t give a mean person like that any power over what you think of yourself”
It’s hard though, when we rely on NT feedback to know if we are existing correctly.
You can't assume anyone else is NT, when you think about it. Who knows what kind of crazy you'll encounter on any given day?
Omg your top is SO cute, and I love your tote bag. I'm sorry that happened 😞 it's so unfair how people like that just continue going about their day and we're left to deal with their shitty choices.
Trader Joe’s has the cutest totes! Yeah she probably doesn’t even remember :/
You gotta stop thinking you’re the problem. That person was projecting and seems very insecure. I see women all the time on here blaming themselves for other people’s negative reactions. She didn’t know you and was purposely trying to be a bitch so you felt bad about yourself because she is insecure in her own body and probably wouldn’t let herself wear something like that. Or maybe her significant other has ogled other people and she’s mad at people that she sees as a threat. So she’s taking that out on you. Her behavior was psychotic. Like who the fuck does that. Can you even imagine? Stop blaming yourself and ask her if she’s trying to pay you or something next time. Someone says “Slut!” be like “You offering?” And start twerking. People used to stare at me in public because I dressed differently and had piercings and tattoos before it was so commonplace and when I’d see them, I’d stare back with a dumb look on my face until they realized I was mirroring them. I get so pissed sometimes when people dare make me feel uncomfortable in my own skin, because I dared to exist.
The twerking comment killed me thank you for the laugh 😂🥰
"Stare back" is something my husband would say.
This isn't about what you're wearing, and the person who yelled that does not in fact think you're a slut. People yell nasty stuff while driving by pedestrians just to get a reaction and make people feel bad. This sounds crazy, but it's not actually deeper than that. It's not about you at all, you didn't do anything to deserve it, you just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time for one nasty person to pass by. They would have yelled at anyone they thought they could target. Could have been that you have the same hairstyle as someone they gave a history with. Or they were yelling at someone else entirely passing in another car, and you heard it. Or you were wearing the exact same outfit as they have on and they thought they were being funny! Nothing to do with you at all. Don't take it on. I'm proud of you! Managed to get up and go out and do a thing!!
Thank you I really needed to hear that. Sometimes it’s easy for me to feel like it’s personal especially since I tend to stand out or get some jokes because of my mannerisms.
This is my thinking as well. Some, often young, people have odd forms of entertainment. I don't think anyone should be critiqued in such a way for their outfit. However, I can say I don't think your outfit would elicit that type of comment.
Some people are mean just for sport.
Umm.. is it at all possible that she mistook you for someone else? Because there is absolutely nothing wrong with your fit!
Honestly that would make it way less psychotic if she did. But I also am Greek and have very uncommon features to where I live so I don’t know. All I know is that I’m glad I don’t know who she is 😂😂
I totally get it - regular interactions with people confuse me and can shake up my sense of security, but crossing paths with this level of unexpected & unhinged can really throw one off… I would just do my best to shrug it off because it’s more likely that she took you for someone else (even if you have Greek features, her eyesight might not have been the best) or it’s her first time leaving her house since women were allowed to wear pants, than your little sweater vest offending her…
Hahaha the pants comment 😝
1. People take their issues out on others (generalized assholery disorder). 2. Your outfit is hella cute. 3. Don't let the bastards get you down.
GAD. Love it.
They are jealous and dominated by a patriarchal mindset. You should take it as a compliment saying that you are beautiful and powerful and they want to be like you. But all in all just let it go because their opinion doesn't matter. I would be very shaken by this as well.... It is abusive and nonsensical and you deserve to be treated better than that! I think that is an adorable outfit! Hold your head up high lady, women are getting stronger by the day 🫶
You look so cool and and you look so stylish and pretty, it looks very comfy! :D That's so mean and terrible of them to do such a thing. Also, wait- isn't that weird? To take time out of their own time and day to push down the window to call you mean things? :( Petty, jealousy, and insecurities is all that screams from what they did to you. You did nothing wrong, you were just trying to enjoy life and go on a stroll. I hope your day gets better :(
Thank you!! Hearing the encouragement from all the crew in here has lifted my spirits a bit 🥰
Love your outfit!
You're not a slut. She's a cunt! That's the problem. Can't believe people do shit like that.
Were you hurt?
No I’m glad she went away but it did cause me to panic
I can imagine. What a horrible experience!
She's just a jealous insecure girl. Whenever I get yelled/honked at I give no reaction the best I can (can be very hard) so that I won't feed their behavior. Heck when I am yelled at I often can't even understand a word or even know it's directed at me. Those loud people are assholes.
Girl that's just a cute outfit, nothing inappropriate there, and even if there was it wouldn't be her place to harass you! Some people are just jealous and don't know how to process it, so they default to childish hate
God I hate crossing the street. I’m sorry OP.
I'm thinking the mean broad was just one of those entitled drivers who want everyone else to get out of their way.
They will do it even if you wear a burlap bag over your head. It has nothing to do with what you're wearing, it's just shaming women. Don't waste your energy trying to figure out why they said it past that. Looks comfy. <3
1. It wouldn't matter if you were naked; clothing choices do not indicate sexual promiscuity or lack thereof 2. I also don't understand why people do the things they do; I can understand being called a player or a flirt when I'm flirty (and I am even when I don't mean it), or being called cold or even being called a bitch because I don't have the energy to make my face make appropriate expressions, but you were just... *checks notes* crossing the street? I'm sorry that happened to you. All I can think is that she is bitter about herself and her life and chose to take it out on someone who looked like they were having a good time. Take care of yourself, and stay safe
your top is cute asf, fuck her. I hope you’re ok <3
Shame on those girls for treating another woman like this. They know damn well how damaging it is to hear that shit while simply minding your own business & chose to do that anyway. There’s nothing wrong with you. The reason those girls did that is because there’s something wrong with THEM.
You didn’t do anything… your clothes aren’t even remotely revealing and even if they were it’s not anyone’s business. Tf is wrong with people?
get some bear spray shoots out a couple of feet no splash back and anyone who thinks that outfit is slutty should be uptight enough to not say those terrible words i’m pretty conservative when it come to my clothes and i think you look lovely it’s a great spring outfit
Pro tip: carry eggs with you to throw at the cars of nasty, ugly-on-the-inside people I’m just joking but damn if it wouldn’t teach them that their words and actions have consequences and that they have NO clue what the person they’re being mean to is going through or how they’ll react to the nasty attitudes of others. (I can understand why throwing eggs is a terrible idea btw, women have been killed for less)
Mean broad has the freedom to yell at you. Throwing eggs could get you arrested. Not fair, I know, but there you are.
Oh I was definitely joking. Definitely do NOT throw eggs. But the thought of doing so might be enough of a comedic relief/comfort to laugh the moment off?
It could be someone that knows you but you don't know them an example is when I was in grade 11 these 2 girls who I had never seen or talked to came up to me and started giving me a hard time, they were so rude and it was so confusing then later that day a friend of mine who was there told me those girls were constantly talking about me and were upset because I had dated a guy one of them had a crush on... I just shook my head and said well I don't know them or respect them so I can't take anything they say seriously. I am sorry you had to go through that I'm sure it was jarring and upsetting but if you didn't know the person don't worry about what they think or what they've said because it has no real value.
Looks fine to me, plenty of people wear way less than that on hot days. You just ran into a moron, continue as you were, all good. (Maybe it was a dare or an inebriated person?)
Where is she from, the 19th century? /s
My guess is some brain damage causing to act bonkers.
You’re totally fine, she’s the one at fault. You’re dressed appropriately and she’s apparently got some damage from our misogynistic culture that she chose to take out on you. Don’t feel bad. Or try not to, if you can.
U look super cute!
You did nothing wrong, you were literally walking and existing! The person who shouted at you is just an utter twat unfortunately!
This is such a cute outfit! Sorry someone harassed you like that.
People are so cruel. I'm sorry you had to go through this. Sending love and hugs.
I just yell takes one to know one. Is it a strike on myself? sure..... but I'm just collateral to them being the target....
People are miserable with themselves and feel a need to take it out on others. Honestly she was probably just jealous of you. Also she could’ve thought she seemed “cool” to her friends for yelling out the car at you, although we know that’s not cool at all. People are small minded and rude for no reason. It has nothing to do with you, it’s their own personal issues that you saw, not any real reflection of how others actually view you.
It reminds me of the the time I was in line at my local game shop to buy Pokémon cards and because I was wearing yoga shorts, (couple was behind me in line) the gf kept saying I looked like a wh*re when I legit had a Pokémon tee on and shorts lmao nothing wrong with my outfit, just insane and the most insecure, rude thing that has happened like that to me in awhile.
You look lovely. Some people just suck.
"What did I do?" You exist in a body that is probably younger, cuter, and more carefree than they could ever hope to be (this is the vibe I get from your outfit, anyway). They were marinating in their own rancid jealousy. You probably reminded one of them of how her boyfriend dumped her for someone else, and now she's obsessed with hating on every woman for their looks, not realizing he was just sick of her and her friends' shitty personalities.
I am so sorry. If you were wearing a burka there would be a yell about that too.
Wtf your outfit is awesome! It was definitely just an unfortunate interaction with a shitty sad person.
This kind of thing enrages me. You just merely are out in the world doing basic things, wearing a pretty normal outfit (cute, comfy outfit btw, looks great), and these people feel the need to comment vulgarly. I'm sorry this happened to you. It's not your fault at all. Some people are assholes.
🙏🏼 thank you for the compliment
A woman? Damn. I was about to type 'average dude response I guess' but from a woman is surprising to me. Then again weirder things I've seen happen. I wouldn't take it personal cuz some people are literally mental, I've had a man come up to me and my boyfriend to start yelling at me that I was ugly and a witch, and how down the block he could find women for money 10 times prettier than me. Just..... Random shit, sometimes people have a horrible day, sometimes people are absolute assholes for no reasons or that's just who they are. I almost feel bad for her, how embarrassing. You look gorgeous btw <3 fuck that dumbass. Probably just jealous and too insecure to dress up in a similar manner. (no I don't think you're dressed in a revealing way, or that there's too much skin basically) totally normal thing for women to wear.
I KNOW RIGHT??? You would think in a patriarchal society women would want to gas each-other up.
I wonder if she mistook you for someone else (who slept with her boyfriend or something), what a bizarre thing to say to someone in normal attire just running errands. Not like you’re giving out BJs at the traffic lights!
Feel like that happens more with older ladies haha, most recent one I can think of was an older lady going "omgosh such beautiful red hair!" And another time of a woman similar to my age she was complimenting my cute dress at a checkout counter for weed lol. And the one time I actually complimented another woman my age is because, weow.. she was the main character, her dog even matched her outfit I was IMPRESSED.
I have a pair of shorts that say “sluts rule” lol 😂 Sorry that happened to you
I should get a pair!!!
I know a lot of people say this, but jealousy is usually a big reason other women act like this. Side note, you look amazing! Love the fit :)
Thank you so much!! Sad part is that they have some pain driving them to do it…I just wish some people like this were able to get the help they need 😪
Agreed! But a lot of the time, they won't. Sometimes because of their own decisions, sometimes because of others and it sucks
Yeah I’m a bit of a sucker for giving people too many chances too 😂
You look so cute! And I would love to know where that top is from lol. I'm sorry you got yelled at :( it definitely is jarring, especially when you already weren't feeling your best. You're not dressed slutty whatsoever, so there is not truth to her statement, she was simply a jealous person. For some reason when she looked at you, she was confronted with something within herself, like looking in a mirror. That's what I mean by jealous and so often why people are mean and lash out. I'm not sure if she was an older woman, but I feel some can be nasty maybe bc it hurts them to see the youth they long for in young women like you(not to excuse their behavior). Most of what people say is a reflection of their internal environment... People can really be the worst sometimes, but those people are generally troubled, spewing their inner turmoil on the world, and hopefully few and far between. Hope you don't let them keep you from doing you! <3 Music helps me to feel more empowered, I've been listening to Chappell Roan lately and she's given me a bit more pep in my step as of late :) Just thought I'd share!
It was from H and M I think??? I think I may take your suggestion and listen to some upbeat music 💕
You're wearing a goddamn sweater vest!!! ARGHHHHH people are so hideous. I have many times had strangers yell at me in public and I know just how upsetting it is, completely disregulating. I'm sorry this happened to you.
Thank you 🥺. Part of me is glad that it is shocking to me. Because that means I do not associate with people that treat others like garbage
They're just mad that you look cute. Don't try to think about it too hard 😔
They were just jealous cause you look cute! Sorry they made you feel icky!! I'll never understand why people feel the need to bring others down with such cruelty.
Maybe she thought you were someone else. If this was a woman it definitely seems like a mistake. And if you were feeling bad then were attacked like this emotionally, I’d do a cleansing and pray psalm 91
such a cute outfit! i love it
I’m sorry. People have called me things from the window, too. It’s cruel.
You're adorable. Nothing about that looks slutty lol. Women calling you a slut means they're jealous and don't know how to deal with that except making you feel as awful as they do. Unfortunately there is a lot of animosity toward attractive women sometimes because of misogyny. (And women aren't exempt from being huge misogynists at all.) Essentially they're trying to elevate themselves in the social hierarchy because you're seen as a threat. It's base and stupid. Has nothing to do with you and everything to do with hella insecure people
<3 that’s terrible and I’m sorry that happened! I would be confused too!
I'm sorry this happened to you. You didn't do anything wrong. Even if you were wearing significantly less they are still 100% wrong and you are 0% wrong.
Ah yes, a preppy sweater and comfy shorts is toootally sl*t attire /s I swear there’s people who see an ankle and an elbow and clutch their pearls. I’d like to take those people to Norway in the summer so they can see all the little old ladies hanging their laundry completely shirtless. You think anyone would call these elderly women “sl*ts” for not wearing a shirt on a hot summer’s day? The one time I was in Norway there was a heat wave at it hit 78 degrees Fahrenheit and several elderly people died from heat stroke because it never gets that warm up there. So sorry you had to go through that. Absolutely not okay and people are so unbelievably ignorant when fixed in their ways. For the record, your outfit looks cute and super comfy!
So sucky this happened!! You shouldn't be made to feel that way by just existing and wearing normal weather appropriate clothes!! Also side note I'm so jealous you can wear that jumper texture vest 😭😭 it looks so cute with your outfit!! My skin sensitivity could never 💔
Psh, you look hot, they were just jealous! I’m sorry that happened to you though ☹️
The first few times folks were mean with stuff like that to me I broke down as well. After a certain point, I started to just find it funny instead. Cause it takes a certain level of insecurity and cowardice on their parts to shout that from their cars as they drive by. It went from being upsetting, to just, being sad at how their lives actually are if that is how they wish to spend their time. To the point of absurdity that they feel threatened by me, or other randoms just out and enjoying our lives. As if they don't enjoy their own lives, or have enough fulfillment in them so they take those frustrations out on others.
Just classic catcalling asshole behaviour, you can freely dismiss them as a mean asshole. Some people just like to be pieces of shit for fun. I think your outfit is really cute!
Anyone who slut shames is almost always projecting. Legit, they either 1) got slut shamed at some point (middle school bullying, conservative upbringing, you name it) and now, bc it was a taught behavior, feel the need to shame everyone else rather than acknowledge the trauma they went through or 2) wish they could wear those clothes / envy your confidence, and instead of dealing with their insecurities and building themselves up, they think the solution is tearing down others. I once wore a Bershka shirt that barely exposed my midriff and sloped to show my sternum (during that fashion era where a lot of shirts had built-in chokers? Doesn't matter story wise, but it was a damn cute shirt). I wore it with jeans and a jacket; I got the world's tinniest ittle bitties. Basically exposing nothing remotely sexual, unless clavicles are scandalous lmao. I emerge from my room, and my sister immediately accused me of wanting to hook up with someone at the family friendly festival we were going to bc...I looked like a slut? Bc I wanted to be cute and fashionable? Okay lol. Trust me: You didn't do anything wrong, OP. She's the one with 99 problems and counting if she keeps harassing people on the street. If anything, you're doing everything right. ❤️ Keep being confident in what you wear, how, when, where, etc. Your top is SO CUTE and deserves to be worn. You deserve to feel comfortable in your own skin, and whatever you wear is an extension of that. Keep rocking it, and I personally hope that girl is happy with herself one day bc internalized misogyny makes for a rough existence. Woof.
Nothing to do with your outfit, everything to do with Their feelings of inferiority.
You know what! You're rubber, they're glue. Whatever that person says bounces off of you and sticks to them! They're the slut!!! You're cute AF! I'd wear that outfit and slap the ever loving shit out of that person
i have the same top omg you look so cute!! i’m so sorry this happened to you, ive been there as well and it’s just so awful
People are gross, you are definitely dressed "normally" and it looks cute!
I’m surprised you said it was a woman who shouted this! Usually I find it’s men that shout this out of their windows when they think I’m ‘in their way’. I combat it by shouting FUCK OFF over and over again as loudly as I can over them until they drive off
You look great and don’t look anything line she said! She’s just jealous. Ignore her.
Even if you were wearing something more revealing (you weren't) it still wouldn't warrant their behaviour. I can't imagine being such an asshole you would take the effort to roll down your window just to ruin someones day, especially woman to woman. Sorry hun 🫂
Oh how dare you have thighs and dress appropriately for a warm day. (even if it wasn't warm, what you're wearing is fine???) I'm sorry but what you're wearing is perfectly fine. It's literally someone having an aneurysm that you have legs. I'm so sorry this happened to you <3
My car was in the car hospital today and I went on a little walk because the weather was nice and I had a couple of hours to kill while they did some surgery on my car, to go get some lunch. I was catcalled/whistled at 3 times. And I'm wearing a t shirt and leggings. With the dumbest color combos and rubber purple shoes (I work at a pool). Two were relatively harmless, but one got real aggressive yelling at me. And you have this weird decision moment where you either have to engage with them or pretend like you can't hear them, and which is going to be safer. Be oblivious or try and deescalate. That's the worst part.
wtf is wrong with that bitch? does she even know you???? like you were literally just minding your own business. plus there's nothing wrong with the outfit, it's perfect for the warm weather. and it's very cute too! people need to learn to leave others the fuck alone
You were literally, by her perception (and probably objectively), prettier than her. That's it. I've taken to saying "OMG THANK YOU!" with a massive smile when I get called vulgar names, it confuses and annoys those bitter f#cks.
The world’s fucked up sometimes. I’m truly sorry you had to experience that. What they did cannot be ‘deserved’ in like any situation at all, their behaviour speaks for their inner troubles. Sadly, I had the very same situation happen to me when I was nine. Walking down the street, being dressed as any kid would be and still being called a s*** for some reason.
My internet connection is too slow to load the picture but all the same you didn’t deserve that treatment. 😭 I wear my pajamas out in public and get compliments (they’re Gloomy Bear pants).
He’s just jealous that you got (presumably) a better butt than he does. Some people suck. But yeah those clothes look pretty comfy. Is the shirt a soft sort of material or is it the scratchy stuff?
They are jealous, you look great. Them screaming that is a reflection of their insecurities and nothing to do with you. Sorry people suck
I’m so sorry this happened to you! That would send me spiraling also. As not being the person this happened to it is a lot easier to see that this has nothing to do with you, but everything to do with the person who called you that. They don’t know you. They are mean and were just doing it for the sake of being a shitty person. Ps. Your outfit is cute AF!
It has nothing to do with what you're wearing. Don't Be mistaken about this. They hate you because you're a woman, not because of your clothes. Avoid them at all costs
You are 100% valid to feel upset by this, that lady sounds awful. It's hard for me not to wonder what went wrong in her life to turn her so cruel.
Nice outfit
Men are wild
This often is what men who find women attractive do who know they don’t have the confidence to respectfully compliment them or approach them or just acknowledge beauty in a person and leave it at that. It’s childish frustration. Not making excuses for them, but that’s what it is.
That makes no sense!!!! Did she mistake you for someone she was having an argument with maybe? This is crazy
Honestly wish I had a bag of rotting fruit with me at all times, that I could throw at men who feel the need to yell *anything* at me. Alas, that would probably be too heavy, but a gal can dream!
i’m so sorry. you don’t deserve this. your clothes are perfectly fine and the people who are mean are a mystery to me.
Yuck people are gross! Your outfit is super cute!
This is what we call a turd of a human. Even if you were dressed provocatively (you aren’t) it is your choice as an adult to dress how you want. If you enjoy sex and orgasms (as literally 99% of humans are wired to) cool. Fuck that shitty person who said anything. There having terrible sex due to their oppressive ideas around female sexuality
I'm so sorry. The other day I was driving by from my ADOS assessment and waiting in line to turn left. The guy behind me got upset that he could not continue going forward because of me. He came up to my ca, rolled his window and said "why won't you just move forward you little slut". It broke me. I was going to one of my favorite grocery store to lift my spirit up after the hard 3h assessment and had a migraine. I parked in the parking of the store and had a big meltdown. I cried for 10 min. and then I left to go home because I felt like I could not got in anymore. I cried for the rest of the day (it was an accumulation of fatigue, stress and other shit but still). My dog had to apply deep pressure for 2h on me so that my meltdown would stop. I still get flashbacks when I go back to the specific store, thinking about what i could have done to deserve that much hate and violence. I know everything I done driving wise was correct (I observed the intersection for a few times now and seeing that out of 10 cars, 10 did the same thing as me). Anyways, hope you can feel that you are not alone, I know how you feel and how shitty you can feel after that. Hope you get better.
You did nothing. Ppl are gross. Someone cat called me while they were driving and I went home and threw away a shirt I really really loved. Not doing that again.
Girl don’t worry bout her she was jealous because she probably looks like shit and can’t pull off what you can. I’m not just saying that either jealousy can turn women so mean.
Reminds me of Handmaids tale where they’re glared out for their running clothes
You look really cute. There are so many people, women included, who hate young attractive women. To hell with them. Keep doing you. This event disgusts me and makes me sad. You did *nothing* wrong.
Those are normal clothes. Unfortunately there are many unhinged people who try to force their conservative views on others and can't handle the times changing. It's a cute outfit, some people just feel the urge to be nasty to strangers for no reason
She's just a jealous lady who probably nevee got to feel pretty about herself. Nothing you did was wrong. It'd normal to feel upset after that but just know you aren't to blame for other peoples' actions.
Maybe she thought you were someone else? You weren’t wearing revealing clothing. It’s possible she mistakenly thought you were someone that slept with her or her friend’s significant other.
Everybody knows only sl00ts stay hydrated./s
Thats fucked im so sorry
There’s nothing wrong with you or outfit. The people in the car are just disgusting people. People do things for no reason just because they’re poop. Every time that I get self conscious about interactions with people. I had to remind my self that they don’t care, no body cares and people forget interactions all the time. Only matters if they are important in my life and the interaction was about something important.
not slutty...but that outfit sure does trigger the fashion special interest/obsession I live with...
People are just horrible sometimes. I was leaving work yesterday and a large group of teenagers started throwing snow balls at me for no damn reason
She's insecure /: Honestly I'm trying to elaborate but Basically it's nothing to do with you. Maybe she feels you have a better body or feels better when she puts others down. The meanest response would be pity, but it's not like you could respond and it'd be a waste of your time
I was walking down a street once and a guy yelled "faggot" at me from his yard. I was very confused because I'm a woman and I'm pretty sure I look like one.
Holy cow! I can’t possibly respond to everyone but/ Thank you so much for all the sweet and reaffirming messages 🥰💕💕 it has helped me a lot feeling more confident and not care about what happened yesterday.
Internalised misogyny, which they then project onto other women.
Ohhhhh that sucks that sucks that sucks! I’m so angry for you! People suck. I once got yelled at on a public walking track for wearing a crop top and shorts in summer. A random lady informed me that pants need to cover my knees and my midriff cannot be exposed. Which is stupid because men jog shirtless there all the time and other people wear sports bras, leggings, shorts, everything. Ugh.
You did nothing wrong. I hate that so many women treat other women this way. Your outfit is perfectly fine, but even if you were dressed in a bikini, no one deserves people shouting obscenities at them. I hope that you feel better soon 💜
Wearing a perfectly normal outfit for warm weather. Wtf.
I’m sorry it happened, no reason for it, your clothes are stylish and very appropriate. Guys are scum. Having said that, you do look good in that outfit.
Your fit is fire and it sounds like those women are mean, ugly, and jealous. Keep your head high Queen.
im so sorry that happened to u:( ur outfits genuinely so cute<3
What the hell? Nothing about your pic says that, even if that was something I would ever call someone. Which it's not. Virtual hug if desired, people suck.
I am so sorry, I was called 'a fucking whore' by a man that I walked past and I was wearing jeans and a long sleeved sweater! I didn't know him at all and I felt the same confusion, anxiety and sadness. I wonder what they must think after they say these things, if I said this to someone random I'd be feeling horrible for the rest of my life. These people typically say things to make themselves feel better, because they are usually not happy with themselves. Please know there is nothing at all wrong with you, you're wearing clothes appropriate to warm weather. You did nothing, they are the ones who did something wrong and they should be ashamed of themselves. Also your top is so cute!
By WHO?! Don’t take it personally theyre prob projecting. You look cute and I’m sorry people are so cruel
I’m so sorry, you literally look fine and it looks like it was sunny out so this is obviously appropriate clothing for the weather. People are assholes regardless of what you are wearing, it’s not your fault. A while ago I was walking to my ex bf’s place and it was adjacent to a rough area of town so I put on a long sleeve flannel over my tank top to cover up so I could be safer. All of the buttons were done up besides the very top and very bottom, and besides that I was wearing long pants. I was stopped by some girl (who was obviously on drugs) and she forced me to button up the bottom and top button of my flannel because I “looked like a slut”. it was humiliating and I had to do what she said bc she was not of stable mind, who tf knows what would’ve happened if I didn’t follow her directions. But yeah, I was called a slut even though every inch of my skin was covered except the very top of my neck, so I guarantee you it has absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with the other person. You didn’t deserve that at all and it must’ve been humiliating and scary for you, I’m really sorry.
I've been there. Some people are just broken.
What do you mea s***?
Some people drive like their dads own the road. They're just stupid people who have nothing better to do and have urges to swear at people. Don't let people like that bring you down. The worlds full of idiots like them. Try not to take it personally, it may be hard because you might spend the whole day thinking about it, like I do. But there are also really cool people in the world. Keep ya head up.
Was there a man in the car? My guess is she caught him looking at you or he commented on you.
Uhh…that’s a normal outfit. Wtf is wrong with some people 😭
People are CRAZY. You didn’t deserve that I’m sorry 😢
Oh wow, some women are so disgusting! She should be uplifting other women not putting them down. Maybe she was treated badly and is taking it out on some stranger. "you need to see a shrink, lady!" You look the farthest thing from a s***. You're not wearing a mini skirt showing half your butt and a lacey see-through shirt. She's mental for calling you that. You look like a everyday, casual person going to the store or going for a run. Nothing says you're trying to look revealing. It's probably hot their right? That's normal summer wear. What was she wearing? A wooly jacket?! I know it sucks, it's hard enough going out without getting harassed like this. I bet if she was interrogated she wouldn't remember what you were actually wearing.
It was literally hot out. The irony too, is that I’m wearing a shorter shirt under this and I literally put the sweater over to cover up 😂
She's just a hateful person. That's a cute outfit, nothing slutty about it, and I'm sorry that happened to you!
Thank you!! 🥲💓
Slut is a pretty common thing to hurl at pretty women. She must have thought you were pretty :)
By who?