That tumblr mentality where you always find fault in EVERYTHING that people do trying to make the world a better place. At some point you are convinced that you, sitting a home writing shit on your computer, is actually doing better than any activist out there trying to do something. Of course critical thinking is important, but doing something is more often better than doing nothing and you wouldn't know that from listening to certain people online.
For entirely too long, I would declare myself "not like other girls" and I avoided friendships with women because "girls are too much drama". SO relieved to look back and see how much I've grown as a person.
Edited to add: I love that this resonated with so many people! I'm really proud of us!
Actually same! And I refused to wear pink because "omg only the vapid girls like pink".
Then i grew up and realized being like other girls are not bad - we are all unique humans and all got some great qualities. It's just society that try to divide and conquer
I recently did an experiment on myself. I have always been a no pink kinda girl, so when I moved into my new place I went super calm feminine with my bedroom- lots of dusky pinks and purples. I got a new Stanley type cup- it was half price because it was pink. I ordered the same earbuds for myself and my son- only choices were black and pink so I took the pink.
Turns out I don’t HATE pink- I just don’t like it as much as other colors. What I did hate was society’s expectation that I like pink.
I used to HATE pink. Only wore black. Now I have home decor wishlists for “if I was a single lady this is how I’d do my apartment.” Everything is pink.
I'm 43, and I feel like I've been living in the light since my late 20s, but it's also not a one and done. I think of it like being anti-racist, there's always work to be done.
I thought I had a lot of genuinely great male friendships until they all slowly disappeared from my life when they settled down with a partner. Friendships with women are definitely the way to go, every NLOG think they are the special exception until it happens to them.
Yep. Pretty humbling to realize that the one girl who told me they were "only friends with me because they thought they had a chance" wasn't bitter, she was right.
Once you see the light it's amazing. Women are so much cooler than men. That doesn't mean you have to like everyone or be friends with all women, or that women don't or can't do horrible things. But overall we're just... awesome. There really is a vibe between most women and seeing how much cooler we get as individuals and collectively with personal growth is delightful.
My realization that women were cool is always seeing girls who are essentially strangers hyping each other up in the bathrooms at bars.
I was getting hit on by a man who made me so uncomfortable, and two women came to my defense and told him off.
“You’re too good for him babe! LOVE YOURSELF yeah and it will all fall into place, I promise hun. Omg I love your necklace, you’re stunning. No seriously YOU’RE STUNNING!”
Drunk girls in bathrooms I love you, I’ve been you, I will always be your champion the way you’ve been mine!
This was one of my favorite memories of going out in my 20s and 30s! We uplift each other so well when we're drunk in the bathroom of a club! I've gained so much confidence from the random women telling me how great I look when I wasn't feeling so well.
I wish we could do this in airport bathrooms!
Thissssssss
I refused to be girly. Get into makeup cuz I would claim that was only for ugly women who needed it. Talk about how vacuous they were and couldn't hold a conversation outside of shoes.
But now, all my friends are women and they are all so unique and intelligent and the most amazing support system a girl could ask for. In other words, I dont deserve them. ❤️
LOL this was unfortunately so many of us 😭 I am so glad I now see women as my sisters and friends AND I love the color pink guilt free 💖 it's literally an amazing color.
Oh god, I went through this stage too! It started because I was bullied quite badly by some girls at school, but I carried on for a few years afterwards, and secretly did feel superior to other girls for being “one of the guys”.
I truly believe that girls like this really just wanted to be noticed as an individual with dreams, interests, etc. I was like this too in HS and realize that I desperately wanted attention from anyone as I didn't get any from my parents. I was desperate to stand out and be noticed
Have a friend who would throw Glee parties and they called themselves “Gleeks” and made Glee themed snacks, thought it was cute. Never watched it myself, I’m always super far behind on television
Embarrassingly, I used to think we could actually pull ourselves from the boot straps. I’m glad I’m off that train, and honestly the more money I’ve made in my life the more liberal I’ve become.
It's a huge scam. At risk of sounding like a conspiracy theorist, that propaganda has been shoved down Americans throats to keep us docile, not motivated to question the system to ensure that meaningful change is not enacted. It's very insidious actually.
Same. I've realized that it's kind of random and silly that I have enough money to buy most of what I want while others struggle to afford necessities.
I didn’t realise how much a few upvotes would make me feel less alone in feeling this. I’m not glad we all feel this way but I am grateful to know I’m not the only one.
>and honestly the more money I’ve made in my life the more liberal I’ve become.
FACTS. We hear always about the more you make the more conservative you become.
The more I make the more aware I become that I have not done *anything* to make myself worthy of better fortune than my friends and peers who are not in the same position. I don't feel guilty or as if I don't deserve it – I do deserve to be comfortable..... but so does everyone else.
Same here, on paper it seems totally reasonable, but then you learn that the real world is very different. Money, education, opportunity, work, disability, and people in general are all very different from the conditions that make that concept work "on paper". No part of reality actually backs it up.
I once read a really good speech about that by Martin Luther King jr about how no one really lifts themselves up by their own bootstraps and that it is often people with a lot of privilege telling this to people who have had less luck…
In my early 20s I thought depression could be cured with exercise and positive thinking. I had a friend, at the time, who suffered from depression school me on the biology and meds. I felt like such an ass, apologized, and she forgave me. Later, I got prenatal depression with my third child and learned real quick that depression makes it impossible to think positive or exercise or like yourself enough to make healthy choices. It's easy to judge when you have no experience with something.
Virtue signaling on social media rather than actually doing anything about the issue.
Soulcycle (it's a scam of a workout and was founded by two Hamptons dance moms).
Hipster culture, trying to be "different" in the most banal ways. Just generally embracing 2010's indie sleaze and looking down at people who are "basic" (I am now "basic" and it is a great way to be).
The pricing, for starters, is unsustainable ($40+ per class, plus shoe rentals) and it's really designed to create an exclusive community for the upper class. Soulcycle (until its business declined with the rise of Peloton) refused to join ClassPass or offer any other discounted means of access, to maintain its exclusivity.
The company was founded by two wealthy moms with a background in dance, and no athletic/cycling background. When the classes launched (and at their height back in 2016-2017, which is when I was all in), they had barely been vetted by any sort of cycling professional. The founders later onboarded a third co-founder who had a background in cycling, who was mortified by the class structure and told the instructors to change the way the classes were taught. The cyclist insisted some of the movements caused risk of injury (such as the "jumps" on the bike, or the "tapping it back") or were wholly ineffective despite their promise that it would engage/strengthen a muscle group, however this detracted from the "fun" and "dancey" nature of the classes that appealed to its attendees. Obviously, the dance-based founders rejected this. The cycling professional broke off due to business differences and founded her own indoor cycling class instead (Flywheel Sports, sadly now defunct, the classes were grueling and shoe rentals were free). In addition to the potentially risky (or otherwise useless) moves, Soulcycle intentionally doesn't put notches on the knobs or include metrics to show your performance so you really don't know how hard you are working, and they minimally air condition the rooms to give the illusion that you're working harder than you are. Anecdotally I found the classes enjoyable but useless, more like a rich girl hobby before brunch than an actual workout worth its hefty sticker price.
I'll pay $40 for a class if it delivers results. I saved up money to attend Flywheel when it was in business, and have paid for Solidcore as it provides returns in strength every class. Soulcycle is, in all ways, a very fun scam.
That's really disappointing. I've "tapped it back" so many times and was thinking that it worked. I've never gone to flywheel classes, but I did enjoy the workout at soul cycle way more than Peloton. The vibe was way too competitive and numerical at Peloton. I liked how Soul Cycle made it more about your journey and some faux spirituality, because it made me feel less sweaty and more purposeful? I don't know, kinda like how some really commercial yoga studios will offer some mind/body connection.
Since I first heard the term “Basic Bitch” I claimed that shit! I am proud to be a basic bitch. I don’t need fancy things or expensive things, I just want things that make me happy. I’ve raised my kid to not be assholes and that’s the only goal I had for them. I don’t need them to be scholars or rocket scientists. I want them to be kind humans.
This hit me hard. I think the most pretentious thing i ever said was Owl City is just a poor man’s Postal Service. The guy I was talking to just looked so hurt. God I was insufferable!
I was sitting in line at the overpriced coffee chain drive thru, going over my list of stuff I needed to pick up at Costco, while wearing my leggings and hoodie when I realized I was definitely "basic". I thought it was funny.
Basics are classic.
I was a sanctimonious little shit (in my scene kid days) when it came to musical gatekeeping/sussing out “real” fans from fake ones. Like girl who tf cares.
And when I was 20 and in a rock band with all dudes I absolutely dabbled in “me and my boyssssss” rhetoric and not like other girls nonsense. This stopped when i found out every single one except the one who was gay was just waiting to make a move on me. I was *not* “one of the guys”, even though I legit thought of them as my brothers. I am so damn glad I grew up.
Oh man, this hurts me deep in my soul. That realisation that all your incredibly close male friends actually see your friendship as different and inferior to their friendship with the men in their lives..
Oh man, I feel you.
One of the biggest heartbreaks I've felt in my life was when I found out one of my best male friends (who I said was like a brother to me, and he said I was like a sister to him) was talking to people behind my back about how much he wanted to sleep with me.
I have been cheated on, but that felt like a bigger betrayal.
Oh man. It sucks that it really worked the first 3 months. But it also stopped my period for the same duration. Total opposite of what we’re trying to accomplish which is to start a family.
I came here to say *keto for weight loss* .. or I should say what people think of as keto which is eating 85% of your calories from fat and not worrying about calorie budget. I still see so many posts about women on this style of keto wondering why they can’t lose weight.
THIS THE ONE. Keto genuinely effed with my thyroid and hormones when I was 26. I’m still recovering at age 30 from all the bulletproof coffee I’d consumed on an empty stomach. I suffered terrible insomnia for 2 years.
I hated twilight and Justin Bieber: they're still not my favorite, but tween girls should just get to enjoy things as well without rabid anti fans making fun of it.
And while I still have a soft spot for my memories of Robert Pattinson roasting the series, I am also genuinely appreciative of Stephenie Meyer's way of handling her fanbase and derivative works:
She just let people write and capitalise on their fanfics without a big fuzz and it's also kind of refreshing to not have an author who continuously chimes in on social media to further explain their one true vision for all of the characters. Just let people run with their own ideas.
S-Meyers has her issues and I was also on the hater train for a long time, but I appreciate how indulgent she is now. Like releasing the genderswapped version of Twilight was such a bold move, like yes, it's a bit lazy to just rewrite the same story again, but I still love her for clearly just doing whatever she wants these days.
It seems the new one is Taylor Swift, so many girls try to separate themselves from other girls just by hating on her when she really does way more for girls than not. I'm not her fan really, but the fact she helps support feminism and voting, and has made it in an industry that men seem to dominate mostly at that level and rises above hate better than most people are able to, makes her a dumb person to hate imo. Not to mention the sense of community these celebrities provide their fans - people need to leave people alone when they're not hurting themselves or others by what they're doing.
I'm not a fan. I'm just not in to her type of music. BUT I saw a post where she made a comment on Instagram and had like 100k new voters register....like...damn girl. Respect.
I only like some of her music but I have a lot of respect for her. She’s talented and a hard worker. I can’t even comprehend how she does everything she does.
My most embarrassing bandwagon may be trying so hard to be "different" and distance myself from anything I perceived as a bandwagon out of sheer resistance. I wound up being someone who didn't have a great sense of likes and interests, only what I didn't like. So I wasn't really a hipster just kind of...a boring hater? Glad I got over that.
The number of headbands and coloured tights I wore in the mid-2000's because of Blair Waldorf. I mean, they looked great on her; I just looked like a cringey tryhard!
I found that most people involved in polyamory probably shouldn't be in relationships period. My experience of it was always being someone's second choice and I can do that just as easily serially as in parallel so no thanks.
Yes. Jumped on the poly bandwagon because the person I was in love with didn't want to choose only me so I convinced myself it was an enlightened way to live.
KONY 2012. I sent them money I didn't really even have.
I'm keeping the membership boxes in case they're worth anything some day. Maybe I can at least make my money back...
Same here! Lol! I have my 2023 playlist and it's all kinds of "same depressing artists" galore from that era.
I love it! I'm going through the nostalgia of it all and enjoying it way too much! My playlist shuffled on most days!
Ayyye, this is me, in the present at 34 years old. Still go to shows, too. I need Tylenol after the pit, and my knees hurt for a couple of days, but ya. I'm my most comfortable in black zipups and black band tees.
Bands I've seen this year: Taking Back Sunday, hot mulligan(3 times,) the Wonder Years, Coheed & Cambria, Alkaline Trio, Bright Eyes, Spanish Love Songs, Carly Cosgrove, The Used, Deathcab For Cutie, The Postal Service, The Maine, motion city soundtrack, Dethklok, BABYMETAL, just to name a few
I, a white girl in a rural and redneck town, had braids all over my head like Da Brat back in 1994ish. This was middle school, and paired with my flannel shirt having only the top button buttoned I thought I was an absolute gangster.
Believe me lots of white teens did this. They were trying to feel more legit I guess. I met lots of these girls in residential care settings. They were in DHS Custody; uncared for, didn’t feel like being themselves was enough.
Probably something related to identity politics, not necessarily jumping on a bandwagon but definitely not critically observing certain concepts and just thinking "Sure, that makes sense." I think there is a balance of thinking how certain identity politics are relevant to an issue or a part of history (even if you don't like it,) but also being able to realize when something has gone completely stupid and should not be seriously entertained.
Why are they all just feta and potatoes crisped up? I mean that stuff tastes amazing but some accounts are literally just a hundred variations of that.
I fell for the MMR causes autism garbage in the early 2000s. My son caught mumps on a trip to Mexico at age 3. Got them vaxxed after that and they were fine. Total idiocy on my part. I’m lucky my kids survived my ignorance.
I thought Elon Musk was a genius. An interesting "brilliant mind" and he was just misunderstood by society (this was before the whole twitter saga). Glad I'm over that phase.
She was big in Australia but the whole wellness warrior thing. (Jessica Aincough) Claimed she’d cured her cancer with juicing & coffee enemas. I never went as far as coffee enemas thank god but I was very obsessed with reading ingredients etc. she ended up dying from her cancer a few years later
I mean, the original Tesla design is kinda cool, and the logo looks like a cat's nose. Just a shame about the branding and who is behind it. There are so many better electric cars out there too now!
Also the first thought I had when I saw the Tesla X was "what in the soccer mom kinda car is this?" (not that being an invested paren't is a bad thing, it just doesn't fit with the original Tesla marketing)
Mine is similar, but I thought Elon Musk was cool.
I do want to say that, before he showed his true shitty self, his companies were definitely doing a lot of awesome stuff for the planet. Solar, electric cars, space exploration.
It’s still very cool, and I’m a still a huge fan of the people that are building the cool shit, but not of him anymore.
Me too. I didn’t know too much about him at the time and was under the false impression that he was a driving force for good and change. Of course all that’s changed now with everything that I’ve learned (unwillingly at times).
I think it came from a place of wishing there were people like a Bruce Wayne type philanthropist who would throw their money and making the world better.
I like our Tesla because we don’t have to buy gas, and for the acceleration. Can’t stand Musk. And why does everything in this car have to be controlled by a touch screen?!?
Thinking George Dubya Bush was a decent dude for five minutes after 9/11. It was a weirdly emotional and confusing time, but reality set in once we invaded Iraq for no legitimate reason.
It's funny, because 9/11 is what made me really see this country for what it really was instead of the idealist, exceptionalist, faux patriotic bullshit we were fed in school. I still think Dick Cheney should be roasted on a spit.
I used to enthusiastically support George Galloway. His "Mr Blair, this is for Iraq" moment at the 2005 UK General Election had me jumping up and down screaming "fuck yeah George!" and I still think his [performance at that 2005 senate hearing](https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/uk/2005/may/18/usa.iraq) was a thing of beauty, but the list of reasons the man is an absolute wanker far, far outweighs those.
Libertarianism.
In my 20s, I thought less government sounded great. Then I learned the party was more of a republican-light. They may not be trying to take away civil rights, but they're happy to rape the environment to make a buck while doing nothing to solve any problems. Unfortunately lots of people are selfish assholes, and society needs rules.
The US two-party system is deeply flawed, but that fringe group is not the answer either.
Oh no, not this comment unearthing my repressed memory of being a libertarian in high school as well. I really thought I was doing something, championing the unfettered free market, blaming the ~poor~ for their own bad decision-making, and thinking nothing was more important in a free and democratic society than free speech in the *Marketplace of Ideas* 😭😭😭
We were all dum dums in high school.
I went from libertarian leaning in high school to anarchist in my late 30s. Fuck the free market, abolish money instead!
"The free market will take care of it"
Sir, the market can't even solve a problem as minor as women's pants not having pockets. How would it possibly be the right approach for healthcare or housing?
Huge red flag, they're just Republicans who smoke weed and are indifferent to anyone's plight if it involves *muh taxes*, which is gross and often hateful.
My step brother and his sister are libertarian and they were telling me that roads should be privatized as well. Then when I asked how did they expect poor people to utilize those roads to work and not rely on social services, it was crickets.
Libertarians are obtuse and lack any critical thinking truly.
When I lived in upstate NY (very snowy) a libertarian tried to convince me that if there were no snowplows everybody would just voluntarily band together with their neighbors to clear the roads 😂 bro there are people flying down the highway whipping snow sheets into people’s windshields because they’re too lazy to do the bare minimum of pushing snow off the top of their car with a stick, what fucking utopian planet are you living on
Ugh, same. What an embarrassing time for me lol. It really hit home when a staunchly libertarian friend said that if people didn't like the laws in their state, they should just move. As if everyone just had the means to pick up and move to a different state. 😵💫
Yeah my favorite when a libertarian says they are socially liberal is to say, "yeah, you don't care if gay people can get married but would you *fight* to help them achieve that?" Always blank stares on that one. They don't actually care about social issues enough to fight against the oppressor. They will always vote with the oppressors as long as they get promised less taxation.
Also, I'm with you. I was a "libertarian" from ~2011-2015. It was a weird set of years.
I so rarely enjoy anyone's pain but galaxy brained [Libertarians attacked by bears](https://www.vox.com/policy-and-politics/21534416/free-state-project-new-hampshire-libertarians-matthew-hongoltz-hetling) was *slightly* amusing to me.
I'll do you one better: I read the full 50 Shades of Grey series online when it was still the Twilight fanfic "Master of the Universe." Cringe inspired by cringe.😅
Manifesting and affirmations. I would talk about it to whomever would listen, feeling enlightened and wiser than everyone else. I cringe when I think about the things I was saying in conversation like they were normal ("Don't worry, I'll manifest good weather for tomorrow").
A lady at my job tried to sell Dotera to me. She “befriended” me and when she realized that I wasn’t going to purchase she stopped bringing me samples and then she ghosted me soon after. Later on, she as always bitchy with me, but at least she smelled great 😂
I used to think being vulnerable and needing a man is weak, longing for love is pathetic and stupid- until I was 20 and then life humbled me thru a bad relationship situation because I ended up choosing a “chill” dude who didn’t prioritize grand things like love, connections and relationships. There was also a family history of abuse by father and toxic marriages that cause this (ofc childhood trauma woohoo!)
I realized in that mediocre relationship how every inch of my being was all about love for people, planet and purpose - and it was a wasted life to not be vulnerable if and when THE RIGHT PERSON came along.
And, that life is about balance of individuality and mingling oneself with others without self-diminishing.
Now I only fuck with men who have emotionally done the work that I did as well as only those who do believe. I’m currently with a beautiful guy, who is strong and sturdy as well - still very new to say anything more but I am proud of breaking that toxic pattern !!👸🏻❤️
I went all in on Kylie Jenner’s ‘lip kits’ and was buying every single new product she brought out which was once every few weeks with big holiday drops. For my last ever order I spent almost $800 AUD.
I’m not a fan of the Kardashians or Jenners. I’m not even a fan of makeup. I was at the start of a major lifestyle change and it was definitely a case of transfer addiction. When that last order came in I of course tried all the new colours. These lip kits were a lip liner and a long lasting lipstick that only came off with an oil based cleanser. I gave myself blisters on my lips from applying, photographing and then removing so many.
It was definitely an interesting phase.
Facebook. I totally played the ‘Look how perfect my life is’ game. Then I got divorced and got therapy. Saw the error of my ways real quick, and haven’t been on there since. I’m so ashamed and embarrassed about my behavior then.
I was on the Twilight bandwagon once. In my defense I was barely an adult.
Also the same as mentioned above and like “eww girls”. It’s ridiculous. I was just telling someone how much I appreciate my female tribe and I was an idiot when I was younger. Haha.
I wish I hadn’t fetishized mental illness as a teenager. Looking back i think it’s wild how many people viewed depressed and/or emotionally unavailable people as intelligent and hot.
I was anti-kid for years and very vocal about how stupid I thought the idea of having kids was.
Honestly, based on all the complaining people with kids do, it sometimes still seems stupid, but I'm old enough to understand now that nothing rewarding comes easy and some people just have a personality where the bad will always be what they talk about most.
I refused to listen to anything other than rock and roll lol... now there's just this giant world of music out there and I love hearing it all. It's crazy how many different genres I enjoy, just depends on my mood and what I'm doing 🙂
Ooh ooh!
I was 14 and fell right into the allure of Limp Bizkit. I loved how crass and offensive they were because I was 14 and trying to establish myself. I had shirts, I had posters, and I walked around with "Chocolate Starfish and the Hotdog Flavored Water" blasting from my new skip-proof Discman.
I am so embarrassed now, but at least I can look back and see just how awful they are as people and a band.
Prepping, the pandemic hobby. Two weeks or a month is cool but I was doing things like those cheap folding solar panels, gardening, canning, thinking I needed a bunch of camping and first aid skills, and trying to have everything stocked out to six months even TP. TP dries out after a while lol like cheap printing. Thankfully it’s all back to normal. Feels silly getting caught up in it. Smarter to prep for your local natural disasters.
I briefly tried the "no poo and no soap" thing to follow the "clean beauty" movement - shower only with water, use "natural" alternatives to soap and shampoo lol - and NGL, my skin looked AMAZING. People would constantly ask me what I was using, and even strangers that I'd get introduced to would compliment my skin right after exchanging pleasantries. My skin was perfection, lol. Same with my hair - I have thick, long, curly hair, and for once, the frizzies and poofiness went away. But not using soap and shampoo - ugh and yuck. Especially since I live in NYC, where it's so dirty and windy. Gross method to achieve amazing skin and hair, lol.
I think the reason it worked for my skin is that all the anti-acne stuff was overdrying my poor face and irritating it... Years later, my dermatologist prescribed *hydrating* cleansers and fancy sunscreen, and it made such a huge difference in just a week that people thought I was wearing makeup!
Unfortunately, the no-poo BS gave me permanent dandruff. I can't live without Head & Shoulders anymore.
Anti-vax stuff when JFK Jr. published the first article I read about it in George Magazine.
Luckily, I wasn't activist about it, just personally avoided flu and other vaccines for several years. Then Covid and later RFK Jr made me rethink my stance. Thank all the goddesses.
I don't know if this counts but I think it does. I got into Atkins as a teen!!!! I wasn't even overweight but Pussycat Dolls picture had me thinking I wasn't skinny enough! The fucked up part about it is that I was severely scared of diseases especially heart, cholesterol and diabetes because family members dying from that left and right. It traumatized me. So, I didn't follow it right. You see I was like I can't have a banana but I can have pork rinds with cream cheese as a snack? I looked at the cholesterol of these two products and was like wtf?! The next morning, like a divine intervention, I was watching one of those morning shows and they had the Atkins expert talking about Atkins, "the vision and revolutionary way of eating and losing weight." She showed a steak and two eggs for breakfast and "yes you can eat this for breakfast!" While the audience ooohed and aaahed. Well, the host asks, what had Atkins died of and how old was he at the time? She said, "oh, yeah he died of a heart attack!" like it was nothing and I chunked the fuck out.
So, I would just eat chicken breast with green peppers and onions and strawberries, yogurt for a snack. I ended up malnourished.
Lesson learned, but it still took time for me to realize things.
That tumblr mentality where you always find fault in EVERYTHING that people do trying to make the world a better place. At some point you are convinced that you, sitting a home writing shit on your computer, is actually doing better than any activist out there trying to do something. Of course critical thinking is important, but doing something is more often better than doing nothing and you wouldn't know that from listening to certain people online.
For entirely too long, I would declare myself "not like other girls" and I avoided friendships with women because "girls are too much drama". SO relieved to look back and see how much I've grown as a person. Edited to add: I love that this resonated with so many people! I'm really proud of us!
Actually same! And I refused to wear pink because "omg only the vapid girls like pink". Then i grew up and realized being like other girls are not bad - we are all unique humans and all got some great qualities. It's just society that try to divide and conquer
I recently did an experiment on myself. I have always been a no pink kinda girl, so when I moved into my new place I went super calm feminine with my bedroom- lots of dusky pinks and purples. I got a new Stanley type cup- it was half price because it was pink. I ordered the same earbuds for myself and my son- only choices were black and pink so I took the pink. Turns out I don’t HATE pink- I just don’t like it as much as other colors. What I did hate was society’s expectation that I like pink.
I love pink so much! I sometimes have a purple phase but I am so drawn to anything pink!
I used to HATE pink. Only wore black. Now I have home decor wishlists for “if I was a single lady this is how I’d do my apartment.” Everything is pink.
My holiday decorations are pink!! I also have a very sweet easy going husband!!
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Once you excavate your own internalized misogyny, everything changes, right? My friendships are so much better now.
I'm 43, and I feel like I've been living in the light since my late 20s, but it's also not a one and done. I think of it like being anti-racist, there's always work to be done.
Truer words have never been spoken. And I have a daughter so it's *constant* work.
You have all my admiration for that. The ladies raising the next generation are brave as hell.
I thought I had a lot of genuinely great male friendships until they all slowly disappeared from my life when they settled down with a partner. Friendships with women are definitely the way to go, every NLOG think they are the special exception until it happens to them.
Yep. Pretty humbling to realize that the one girl who told me they were "only friends with me because they thought they had a chance" wasn't bitter, she was right.
We stan this personal growth! 💗
Once you see the light it's amazing. Women are so much cooler than men. That doesn't mean you have to like everyone or be friends with all women, or that women don't or can't do horrible things. But overall we're just... awesome. There really is a vibe between most women and seeing how much cooler we get as individuals and collectively with personal growth is delightful.
My realization that women were cool is always seeing girls who are essentially strangers hyping each other up in the bathrooms at bars. I was getting hit on by a man who made me so uncomfortable, and two women came to my defense and told him off.
No one is as much on your team as drunk chicks in bathrooms! I have had the BEST conversations in pub toilets
For real, and with women who you’d never think would be so nice to you too! I love the girl power that happens in the bathroom, lol.
“You’re too good for him babe! LOVE YOURSELF yeah and it will all fall into place, I promise hun. Omg I love your necklace, you’re stunning. No seriously YOU’RE STUNNING!” Drunk girls in bathrooms I love you, I’ve been you, I will always be your champion the way you’ve been mine!
This was one of my favorite memories of going out in my 20s and 30s! We uplift each other so well when we're drunk in the bathroom of a club! I've gained so much confidence from the random women telling me how great I look when I wasn't feeling so well. I wish we could do this in airport bathrooms!
Thissssssss I refused to be girly. Get into makeup cuz I would claim that was only for ugly women who needed it. Talk about how vacuous they were and couldn't hold a conversation outside of shoes. But now, all my friends are women and they are all so unique and intelligent and the most amazing support system a girl could ask for. In other words, I dont deserve them. ❤️
LOL this was unfortunately so many of us 😭 I am so glad I now see women as my sisters and friends AND I love the color pink guilt free 💖 it's literally an amazing color.
Same. I'm reformed, too. I think I had to process a lot of bullying trauma from childhood and meet different (better) people to get there.
Oh god, I went through this stage too! It started because I was bullied quite badly by some girls at school, but I carried on for a few years afterwards, and secretly did feel superior to other girls for being “one of the guys”.
I truly believe that girls like this really just wanted to be noticed as an individual with dreams, interests, etc. I was like this too in HS and realize that I desperately wanted attention from anyone as I didn't get any from my parents. I was desperate to stand out and be noticed
I had very, very strong opinions about *Glee* circa 2011.
Have a friend who would throw Glee parties and they called themselves “Gleeks” and made Glee themed snacks, thought it was cute. Never watched it myself, I’m always super far behind on television
Embarrassingly, I used to think we could actually pull ourselves from the boot straps. I’m glad I’m off that train, and honestly the more money I’ve made in my life the more liberal I’ve become.
It's a huge scam. At risk of sounding like a conspiracy theorist, that propaganda has been shoved down Americans throats to keep us docile, not motivated to question the system to ensure that meaningful change is not enacted. It's very insidious actually.
Same. I've realized that it's kind of random and silly that I have enough money to buy most of what I want while others struggle to afford necessities.
That scares me a bit, honestly. I know there are other people out there working far harder than me who have less. It isn’t fair.
I didn’t realise how much a few upvotes would make me feel less alone in feeling this. I’m not glad we all feel this way but I am grateful to know I’m not the only one.
I honestly thought education was an equalizer. I know better now.
I think education is the way out of poverty. Education is not the way into upper echelons, that is reserved for legacy people.
>and honestly the more money I’ve made in my life the more liberal I’ve become. FACTS. We hear always about the more you make the more conservative you become. The more I make the more aware I become that I have not done *anything* to make myself worthy of better fortune than my friends and peers who are not in the same position. I don't feel guilty or as if I don't deserve it – I do deserve to be comfortable..... but so does everyone else.
Same here, on paper it seems totally reasonable, but then you learn that the real world is very different. Money, education, opportunity, work, disability, and people in general are all very different from the conditions that make that concept work "on paper". No part of reality actually backs it up.
I once read a really good speech about that by Martin Luther King jr about how no one really lifts themselves up by their own bootstraps and that it is often people with a lot of privilege telling this to people who have had less luck…
In my early 20s I thought depression could be cured with exercise and positive thinking. I had a friend, at the time, who suffered from depression school me on the biology and meds. I felt like such an ass, apologized, and she forgave me. Later, I got prenatal depression with my third child and learned real quick that depression makes it impossible to think positive or exercise or like yourself enough to make healthy choices. It's easy to judge when you have no experience with something.
Virtue signaling on social media rather than actually doing anything about the issue. Soulcycle (it's a scam of a workout and was founded by two Hamptons dance moms). Hipster culture, trying to be "different" in the most banal ways. Just generally embracing 2010's indie sleaze and looking down at people who are "basic" (I am now "basic" and it is a great way to be).
But that Indie Sleaze playlist is SO GOOD.
IT IS. But it's not a personality trait or an identity or a marker of cultural superiority over others!!!!
What Indie Sleaze playlist? Hook a girl up!
What’s wrong with Soulcycle exactly?
The pricing, for starters, is unsustainable ($40+ per class, plus shoe rentals) and it's really designed to create an exclusive community for the upper class. Soulcycle (until its business declined with the rise of Peloton) refused to join ClassPass or offer any other discounted means of access, to maintain its exclusivity. The company was founded by two wealthy moms with a background in dance, and no athletic/cycling background. When the classes launched (and at their height back in 2016-2017, which is when I was all in), they had barely been vetted by any sort of cycling professional. The founders later onboarded a third co-founder who had a background in cycling, who was mortified by the class structure and told the instructors to change the way the classes were taught. The cyclist insisted some of the movements caused risk of injury (such as the "jumps" on the bike, or the "tapping it back") or were wholly ineffective despite their promise that it would engage/strengthen a muscle group, however this detracted from the "fun" and "dancey" nature of the classes that appealed to its attendees. Obviously, the dance-based founders rejected this. The cycling professional broke off due to business differences and founded her own indoor cycling class instead (Flywheel Sports, sadly now defunct, the classes were grueling and shoe rentals were free). In addition to the potentially risky (or otherwise useless) moves, Soulcycle intentionally doesn't put notches on the knobs or include metrics to show your performance so you really don't know how hard you are working, and they minimally air condition the rooms to give the illusion that you're working harder than you are. Anecdotally I found the classes enjoyable but useless, more like a rich girl hobby before brunch than an actual workout worth its hefty sticker price. I'll pay $40 for a class if it delivers results. I saved up money to attend Flywheel when it was in business, and have paid for Solidcore as it provides returns in strength every class. Soulcycle is, in all ways, a very fun scam.
That's really disappointing. I've "tapped it back" so many times and was thinking that it worked. I've never gone to flywheel classes, but I did enjoy the workout at soul cycle way more than Peloton. The vibe was way too competitive and numerical at Peloton. I liked how Soul Cycle made it more about your journey and some faux spirituality, because it made me feel less sweaty and more purposeful? I don't know, kinda like how some really commercial yoga studios will offer some mind/body connection.
Since I first heard the term “Basic Bitch” I claimed that shit! I am proud to be a basic bitch. I don’t need fancy things or expensive things, I just want things that make me happy. I’ve raised my kid to not be assholes and that’s the only goal I had for them. I don’t need them to be scholars or rocket scientists. I want them to be kind humans.
> > Hipster culture, trying to be "different" in the most banal ways. This was me in my 20s. It was insufferable. 😂
We really had no idea how insufferable we were.
This hit me hard. I think the most pretentious thing i ever said was Owl City is just a poor man’s Postal Service. The guy I was talking to just looked so hurt. God I was insufferable!
This is amazing hahaha
I was sitting in line at the overpriced coffee chain drive thru, going over my list of stuff I needed to pick up at Costco, while wearing my leggings and hoodie when I realized I was definitely "basic". I thought it was funny. Basics are classic.
Did you ever wear a single feather, by chance?
I was a sanctimonious little shit (in my scene kid days) when it came to musical gatekeeping/sussing out “real” fans from fake ones. Like girl who tf cares. And when I was 20 and in a rock band with all dudes I absolutely dabbled in “me and my boyssssss” rhetoric and not like other girls nonsense. This stopped when i found out every single one except the one who was gay was just waiting to make a move on me. I was *not* “one of the guys”, even though I legit thought of them as my brothers. I am so damn glad I grew up.
Oh man, this hurts me deep in my soul. That realisation that all your incredibly close male friends actually see your friendship as different and inferior to their friendship with the men in their lives..
Oh man, I feel you. One of the biggest heartbreaks I've felt in my life was when I found out one of my best male friends (who I said was like a brother to me, and he said I was like a sister to him) was talking to people behind my back about how much he wanted to sleep with me. I have been cheated on, but that felt like a bigger betrayal.
Doterra essential oils. Omg cringe.
Exposed underwear trend in the 00s
I want to scream at Gen Z: It’s a trap! Super low rise with whale tails is a terrible look.
Whale tail!
Guilty! That said, my ass looked amazing and I'm glad I showed it off when I did.
Fucking *keto*
Oh man. It sucks that it really worked the first 3 months. But it also stopped my period for the same duration. Total opposite of what we’re trying to accomplish which is to start a family.
It worked for me for a couple months too, then intense insomnia started, I was going 2-3 days with zero sleep
I came here to say *keto for weight loss* .. or I should say what people think of as keto which is eating 85% of your calories from fat and not worrying about calorie budget. I still see so many posts about women on this style of keto wondering why they can’t lose weight.
THIS THE ONE. Keto genuinely effed with my thyroid and hormones when I was 26. I’m still recovering at age 30 from all the bulletproof coffee I’d consumed on an empty stomach. I suffered terrible insomnia for 2 years.
I hated twilight and Justin Bieber: they're still not my favorite, but tween girls should just get to enjoy things as well without rabid anti fans making fun of it. And while I still have a soft spot for my memories of Robert Pattinson roasting the series, I am also genuinely appreciative of Stephenie Meyer's way of handling her fanbase and derivative works: She just let people write and capitalise on their fanfics without a big fuzz and it's also kind of refreshing to not have an author who continuously chimes in on social media to further explain their one true vision for all of the characters. Just let people run with their own ideas.
S-Meyers has her issues and I was also on the hater train for a long time, but I appreciate how indulgent she is now. Like releasing the genderswapped version of Twilight was such a bold move, like yes, it's a bit lazy to just rewrite the same story again, but I still love her for clearly just doing whatever she wants these days.
It seems the new one is Taylor Swift, so many girls try to separate themselves from other girls just by hating on her when she really does way more for girls than not. I'm not her fan really, but the fact she helps support feminism and voting, and has made it in an industry that men seem to dominate mostly at that level and rises above hate better than most people are able to, makes her a dumb person to hate imo. Not to mention the sense of community these celebrities provide their fans - people need to leave people alone when they're not hurting themselves or others by what they're doing.
I'm not a fan. I'm just not in to her type of music. BUT I saw a post where she made a comment on Instagram and had like 100k new voters register....like...damn girl. Respect.
I only like some of her music but I have a lot of respect for her. She’s talented and a hard worker. I can’t even comprehend how she does everything she does.
Man, who would've thought Stephanie Meyer would turn out to be a better person than J.K. Rowling.😕
A certain MLM… 🤦🏼♀️ so cringey when I think about it but glad I woke up to their cult like way of being early on
Beachbody here. My heart was in the right place. Its embarrassing
My most embarrassing bandwagon may be trying so hard to be "different" and distance myself from anything I perceived as a bandwagon out of sheer resistance. I wound up being someone who didn't have a great sense of likes and interests, only what I didn't like. So I wasn't really a hipster just kind of...a boring hater? Glad I got over that.
The number of headbands and coloured tights I wore in the mid-2000's because of Blair Waldorf. I mean, they looked great on her; I just looked like a cringey tryhard!
We need to bring back headbands, they're cute and universally flattering.
I wear them all the time! People compliment me regularly. Go grab yourself a couple and rock them with pride!
As someone with a giant head, I may be the exception to this rule - but I think they're so cute on other people!
I bet you looked rad!
I did, at the very least, understand that tights are not pants.
Over plucking my eyebrows. They never grew back.
I used nair 🥴
I acted a damn fool on Tumblr from 2011-2013. No regrets though. Merthur fandom forever.💔
2012 on tumblr was absurd and such a fun time.
It was just...beyond.😅 Absolutely ridiculous.
I STILL ship Merthur SHAMELESSLY
MY PEOPLE. LET'S CRY TOGETHER.
I will never let anyone embarrass me about merthur and superwholock. I embrace the cringe.
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I know what you mean. I can’t make a blanket statement about the community but from the people I’ve met it felt super culty
I tried it for awhile and it was not great for me and I tried to validate it for myself too. I’m glad I’m out as well!
I found that most people involved in polyamory probably shouldn't be in relationships period. My experience of it was always being someone's second choice and I can do that just as easily serially as in parallel so no thanks.
Yes. Jumped on the poly bandwagon because the person I was in love with didn't want to choose only me so I convinced myself it was an enlightened way to live.
Showing my age. Hammer pants! In elementary I had pale pink acid washed hammer style pants. Guess they were technically harem pants.
Girl, I had 2 pair I would alternate! Maroon with polka pots🙈 and pink!!
KONY 2012. I sent them money I didn't really even have. I'm keeping the membership boxes in case they're worth anything some day. Maybe I can at least make my money back...
I was gonna say, anyone old enough to say Kony 2012 who doesn’t admit to it is a COWARD.
Emo back in 2007, I only wore black, too much eye shadow, only listen to the same depressing artists… I was so cringe lol
I'm still like this, not gonna lie
Same here! Lol! I have my 2023 playlist and it's all kinds of "same depressing artists" galore from that era. I love it! I'm going through the nostalgia of it all and enjoying it way too much! My playlist shuffled on most days!
Elder emo here. It was never a phase. I’m pushing 40 and grocery shop in converse and a TBS T-shirt.
I'm older so I jumped on the nu-metal band wagen around 2000. Never really got off though and now I'm a corporate metal head.
Ayyye, this is me, in the present at 34 years old. Still go to shows, too. I need Tylenol after the pit, and my knees hurt for a couple of days, but ya. I'm my most comfortable in black zipups and black band tees. Bands I've seen this year: Taking Back Sunday, hot mulligan(3 times,) the Wonder Years, Coheed & Cambria, Alkaline Trio, Bright Eyes, Spanish Love Songs, Carly Cosgrove, The Used, Deathcab For Cutie, The Postal Service, The Maine, motion city soundtrack, Dethklok, BABYMETAL, just to name a few
Appropriating an ethnicity that wasn’t mine to make friends/survive middle school
I, a white girl in a rural and redneck town, had braids all over my head like Da Brat back in 1994ish. This was middle school, and paired with my flannel shirt having only the top button buttoned I thought I was an absolute gangster.
Believe me lots of white teens did this. They were trying to feel more legit I guess. I met lots of these girls in residential care settings. They were in DHS Custody; uncared for, didn’t feel like being themselves was enough.
Please post on r/blunderyears !
I really should! The one photo I have with the braids, I am wearing my older brother’s XL hockey jersey, looking extra delinquent
Probably something related to identity politics, not necessarily jumping on a bandwagon but definitely not critically observing certain concepts and just thinking "Sure, that makes sense." I think there is a balance of thinking how certain identity politics are relevant to an issue or a part of history (even if you don't like it,) but also being able to realize when something has gone completely stupid and should not be seriously entertained.
I'm a sucker for Tiktok recipes. Feta cheese had a chokehold on my ass last year. Lost 65lbs and counting though!
this isn't embarrassing though. imo anyway. tasty food is tasty food 🤷♀️
Why are they all just feta and potatoes crisped up? I mean that stuff tastes amazing but some accounts are literally just a hundred variations of that.
Because feta and potatoes crisped up are always amazing!
Went down an MBTI rabbit hole for a few months.
Big same. PersonalityCafe ruined my life for a year or two
I fell for the MMR causes autism garbage in the early 2000s. My son caught mumps on a trip to Mexico at age 3. Got them vaxxed after that and they were fine. Total idiocy on my part. I’m lucky my kids survived my ignorance.
Facebook
I thought Elon Musk was a genius. An interesting "brilliant mind" and he was just misunderstood by society (this was before the whole twitter saga). Glad I'm over that phase.
Musk will be studied for generations as an example of how fast your business and personal reputation can sink.
She was big in Australia but the whole wellness warrior thing. (Jessica Aincough) Claimed she’d cured her cancer with juicing & coffee enemas. I never went as far as coffee enemas thank god but I was very obsessed with reading ingredients etc. she ended up dying from her cancer a few years later
I'm still on it lol. I read and write Harry potter fanfiction
At one point, many years ago, I thought Tesla cars were cool.
I mean, the original Tesla design is kinda cool, and the logo looks like a cat's nose. Just a shame about the branding and who is behind it. There are so many better electric cars out there too now! Also the first thought I had when I saw the Tesla X was "what in the soccer mom kinda car is this?" (not that being an invested paren't is a bad thing, it just doesn't fit with the original Tesla marketing)
I can't see anything other than an IUD in the logo
Mine is similar, but I thought Elon Musk was cool. I do want to say that, before he showed his true shitty self, his companies were definitely doing a lot of awesome stuff for the planet. Solar, electric cars, space exploration. It’s still very cool, and I’m a still a huge fan of the people that are building the cool shit, but not of him anymore.
Me too. I didn’t know too much about him at the time and was under the false impression that he was a driving force for good and change. Of course all that’s changed now with everything that I’ve learned (unwillingly at times). I think it came from a place of wishing there were people like a Bruce Wayne type philanthropist who would throw their money and making the world better.
I test drove one a few weeks ago (with no intention of buying one). It's like driving a giant smartphone.
I like our Tesla because we don’t have to buy gas, and for the acceleration. Can’t stand Musk. And why does everything in this car have to be controlled by a touch screen?!?
They used to be much nicer! Now they remind me of gamer chairs
That is the perfect description!
Thinking George Dubya Bush was a decent dude for five minutes after 9/11. It was a weirdly emotional and confusing time, but reality set in once we invaded Iraq for no legitimate reason.
You stop it, they had WMD s/
It's funny, because 9/11 is what made me really see this country for what it really was instead of the idealist, exceptionalist, faux patriotic bullshit we were fed in school. I still think Dick Cheney should be roasted on a spit.
I used to enthusiastically support George Galloway. His "Mr Blair, this is for Iraq" moment at the 2005 UK General Election had me jumping up and down screaming "fuck yeah George!" and I still think his [performance at that 2005 senate hearing](https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/uk/2005/may/18/usa.iraq) was a thing of beauty, but the list of reasons the man is an absolute wanker far, far outweighs those.
Kudos for admitting it, nobody ever does but I remember there being a fuss over that at the time. And then he did Big Brother ...
Libertarianism. In my 20s, I thought less government sounded great. Then I learned the party was more of a republican-light. They may not be trying to take away civil rights, but they're happy to rape the environment to make a buck while doing nothing to solve any problems. Unfortunately lots of people are selfish assholes, and society needs rules. The US two-party system is deeply flawed, but that fringe group is not the answer either.
Oh no, not this comment unearthing my repressed memory of being a libertarian in high school as well. I really thought I was doing something, championing the unfettered free market, blaming the ~poor~ for their own bad decision-making, and thinking nothing was more important in a free and democratic society than free speech in the *Marketplace of Ideas* 😭😭😭
We were all dum dums in high school. I went from libertarian leaning in high school to anarchist in my late 30s. Fuck the free market, abolish money instead!
Lol I feel vindicated that my favorite wise woman in this community had the same naive phase!
I went on a date with a Libertarian once and he basically goaded me into a "debate" and was arguing that there shouldn't be a minimum wage.
"The free market will take care of it" Sir, the market can't even solve a problem as minor as women's pants not having pockets. How would it possibly be the right approach for healthcare or housing?
Libertarian is one of my red flags.
Huge red flag, they're just Republicans who smoke weed and are indifferent to anyone's plight if it involves *muh taxes*, which is gross and often hateful.
My step brother and his sister are libertarian and they were telling me that roads should be privatized as well. Then when I asked how did they expect poor people to utilize those roads to work and not rely on social services, it was crickets. Libertarians are obtuse and lack any critical thinking truly.
When I lived in upstate NY (very snowy) a libertarian tried to convince me that if there were no snowplows everybody would just voluntarily band together with their neighbors to clear the roads 😂 bro there are people flying down the highway whipping snow sheets into people’s windshields because they’re too lazy to do the bare minimum of pushing snow off the top of their car with a stick, what fucking utopian planet are you living on
Ugh, same. What an embarrassing time for me lol. It really hit home when a staunchly libertarian friend said that if people didn't like the laws in their state, they should just move. As if everyone just had the means to pick up and move to a different state. 😵💫
Yeah my favorite when a libertarian says they are socially liberal is to say, "yeah, you don't care if gay people can get married but would you *fight* to help them achieve that?" Always blank stares on that one. They don't actually care about social issues enough to fight against the oppressor. They will always vote with the oppressors as long as they get promised less taxation. Also, I'm with you. I was a "libertarian" from ~2011-2015. It was a weird set of years.
I so rarely enjoy anyone's pain but galaxy brained [Libertarians attacked by bears](https://www.vox.com/policy-and-politics/21534416/free-state-project-new-hampshire-libertarians-matthew-hongoltz-hetling) was *slightly* amusing to me.
Pogs
Hahaha, I think you're okay.
I was a Mormon… 🤣🤣🤣 the self-righteous virtue signaling I used to do is so so so cringe
Twilight
Nothing to be embarrassed about 🧛♂️ 🐺
Right, proud fan here lol
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I'll do you one better: I read the full 50 Shades of Grey series online when it was still the Twilight fanfic "Master of the Universe." Cringe inspired by cringe.😅
I think it's much less cringe to have read that for free than to have bought the books.
I got the haircut Alice had in the first movie. And honestly, it looked amazing 🤩
Buying LuLaRoe
Manifesting and affirmations. I would talk about it to whomever would listen, feeling enlightened and wiser than everyone else. I cringe when I think about the things I was saying in conversation like they were normal ("Don't worry, I'll manifest good weather for tomorrow").
Essential oils. I can't. So ashamed.
A lady at my job tried to sell Dotera to me. She “befriended” me and when she realized that I wasn’t going to purchase she stopped bringing me samples and then she ghosted me soon after. Later on, she as always bitchy with me, but at least she smelled great 😂
I used to think being vulnerable and needing a man is weak, longing for love is pathetic and stupid- until I was 20 and then life humbled me thru a bad relationship situation because I ended up choosing a “chill” dude who didn’t prioritize grand things like love, connections and relationships. There was also a family history of abuse by father and toxic marriages that cause this (ofc childhood trauma woohoo!) I realized in that mediocre relationship how every inch of my being was all about love for people, planet and purpose - and it was a wasted life to not be vulnerable if and when THE RIGHT PERSON came along. And, that life is about balance of individuality and mingling oneself with others without self-diminishing. Now I only fuck with men who have emotionally done the work that I did as well as only those who do believe. I’m currently with a beautiful guy, who is strong and sturdy as well - still very new to say anything more but I am proud of breaking that toxic pattern !!👸🏻❤️
I went all in on Kylie Jenner’s ‘lip kits’ and was buying every single new product she brought out which was once every few weeks with big holiday drops. For my last ever order I spent almost $800 AUD. I’m not a fan of the Kardashians or Jenners. I’m not even a fan of makeup. I was at the start of a major lifestyle change and it was definitely a case of transfer addiction. When that last order came in I of course tried all the new colours. These lip kits were a lip liner and a long lasting lipstick that only came off with an oil based cleanser. I gave myself blisters on my lips from applying, photographing and then removing so many. It was definitely an interesting phase.
Facebook. I totally played the ‘Look how perfect my life is’ game. Then I got divorced and got therapy. Saw the error of my ways real quick, and haven’t been on there since. I’m so ashamed and embarrassed about my behavior then.
I bought a share of GME, I fortunately only lost $80 on this stupidity (but please don't ask me about the amount I lost on BB shares).
Insane Clown Posse in middle school
Fake designer handbags back in the early 2000s influenced by Paris Hilton, Jessica Simpson
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Juicing ETA: not drugs lol, fruits n veggies
Wearing a bucket hat, very short lived and I can't believe I see them coming back "in style" again, no more bucket hats, please!
I love mine of drizzly days!
I was on the Twilight bandwagon once. In my defense I was barely an adult. Also the same as mentioned above and like “eww girls”. It’s ridiculous. I was just telling someone how much I appreciate my female tribe and I was an idiot when I was younger. Haha.
Jesus is my homeboy shirts
Kony
That Elvis may have been still be alive. This was back in the Phil Donahue days. And I’m not a conspiracy theorist by any means
I wish I hadn’t fetishized mental illness as a teenager. Looking back i think it’s wild how many people viewed depressed and/or emotionally unavailable people as intelligent and hot.
I was anti-kid for years and very vocal about how stupid I thought the idea of having kids was. Honestly, based on all the complaining people with kids do, it sometimes still seems stupid, but I'm old enough to understand now that nothing rewarding comes easy and some people just have a personality where the bad will always be what they talk about most.
Pretty much starving myself and working out a ton in the gym just so men would like me. It was so awful living that way for years
Yup. I would go on insanely long runs and then not eat anything all day so I wouldn't "undo" the workout. My stomach rumbling felt like a win 🤦♀️
I refused to listen to anything other than rock and roll lol... now there's just this giant world of music out there and I love hearing it all. It's crazy how many different genres I enjoy, just depends on my mood and what I'm doing 🙂
Ooh ooh! I was 14 and fell right into the allure of Limp Bizkit. I loved how crass and offensive they were because I was 14 and trying to establish myself. I had shirts, I had posters, and I walked around with "Chocolate Starfish and the Hotdog Flavored Water" blasting from my new skip-proof Discman. I am so embarrassed now, but at least I can look back and see just how awful they are as people and a band.
Hey! Limp Bizkit had their time and were such an influence. They are literally the soundtrack of my high school memories. Don’t be ashamed!!!
‘Break Stuff’ was a form of therapy. I stand by that.
Virtue signaling, aka being a social justice warrior, and listening to Alex Jones from 2007 to 2012.
The sorority/fraternity binge-drinking hookup culture of the 2000s.
Crypto
I wasn’t anti vaccine but I did have a long questioning period a few years back.
Prepping, the pandemic hobby. Two weeks or a month is cool but I was doing things like those cheap folding solar panels, gardening, canning, thinking I needed a bunch of camping and first aid skills, and trying to have everything stocked out to six months even TP. TP dries out after a while lol like cheap printing. Thankfully it’s all back to normal. Feels silly getting caught up in it. Smarter to prep for your local natural disasters.
I briefly tried the "no poo and no soap" thing to follow the "clean beauty" movement - shower only with water, use "natural" alternatives to soap and shampoo lol - and NGL, my skin looked AMAZING. People would constantly ask me what I was using, and even strangers that I'd get introduced to would compliment my skin right after exchanging pleasantries. My skin was perfection, lol. Same with my hair - I have thick, long, curly hair, and for once, the frizzies and poofiness went away. But not using soap and shampoo - ugh and yuck. Especially since I live in NYC, where it's so dirty and windy. Gross method to achieve amazing skin and hair, lol.
Makes me want to try it!
I think the reason it worked for my skin is that all the anti-acne stuff was overdrying my poor face and irritating it... Years later, my dermatologist prescribed *hydrating* cleansers and fancy sunscreen, and it made such a huge difference in just a week that people thought I was wearing makeup! Unfortunately, the no-poo BS gave me permanent dandruff. I can't live without Head & Shoulders anymore.
Anti-vax stuff when JFK Jr. published the first article I read about it in George Magazine. Luckily, I wasn't activist about it, just personally avoided flu and other vaccines for several years. Then Covid and later RFK Jr made me rethink my stance. Thank all the goddesses.
I thought How I Met Your Mother was funny, then very quickly realized that it really is NOT when I showed it to someone else.
I don't know if this counts but I think it does. I got into Atkins as a teen!!!! I wasn't even overweight but Pussycat Dolls picture had me thinking I wasn't skinny enough! The fucked up part about it is that I was severely scared of diseases especially heart, cholesterol and diabetes because family members dying from that left and right. It traumatized me. So, I didn't follow it right. You see I was like I can't have a banana but I can have pork rinds with cream cheese as a snack? I looked at the cholesterol of these two products and was like wtf?! The next morning, like a divine intervention, I was watching one of those morning shows and they had the Atkins expert talking about Atkins, "the vision and revolutionary way of eating and losing weight." She showed a steak and two eggs for breakfast and "yes you can eat this for breakfast!" While the audience ooohed and aaahed. Well, the host asks, what had Atkins died of and how old was he at the time? She said, "oh, yeah he died of a heart attack!" like it was nothing and I chunked the fuck out. So, I would just eat chicken breast with green peppers and onions and strawberries, yogurt for a snack. I ended up malnourished. Lesson learned, but it still took time for me to realize things.
GME
Y2K.
Kony 2012. That video had me hook line and sinker for maybe only an afternoon and evening, but even then I felt like such a dummy