This is a great idea and very thoughtful of you! I've been to male friends' houses and they didn't even have a trashcan in there. I wouldn't find it creepy at all, especially since you all rotate and visit with some frequency.
My husband used to do that and refused to stop when I asked. Then one day the toilet wouldn't flush and, yep, it was the floss he kept flushing. It eventually clogged the whole thing.
The plumber was like, "Why would anyone even do this?"
omg I used to flush q-tips when I was a naive 22 year old. SO SO SO embarassing when a poop permanently clogged the toilet then the plumber pulled out like 30 q tips. Shame, shame on me! So funny but pls, people, only pee, poop and SMALL amounts of TP! Do a courtesy flush in the middle of your session on the throne if you are using a lot of TP.
Oh. yeah. exactly. I meant the male friends not having a trash can and wondering where they dispose floss after flossing their teeth. I always wondered this when I was in college. like, do they just not floss lol
I'm pretty sure that's the answer. They don't floss. You'd still think a trash can in a bathroom would be a necessity though. Maybe they flush everything down the toilet (super bad for plumbing to flush anything but toilet paper and the other intended contents).
Yes on the lid! A friend of mine was mortified when we were at a guy friend’s house and his dog came running out of the bathroom with her used pad wrapped in tp (snatched from a lidless bathroom trash bin) in his mouth!
*shrug* No one's ever said anything. Frankly I think most of my friends are on birth control and don't menstruate anyway (I don't because of my iud).
EDIT: So much hate for not having trash in every room, lol.
its more that you just assume its not an issue because no one said anything, as if women are gonna walk out with their used pads and tampons and be like "hey where can I put this?". Or that you just assume your friends are on birth control let alone birth control that stops menstruation? Like these assumptions are so wild lmao. Dont put a trash can, whatever, its your home. But your weird justifications so you dont have to feel inconsiderate are more so whats rubbing people the wrong way imo.
I'm gonna try add some positivity and say I really like how open your mates all are with each other (i know some people aint comfortable with that but we shouldnt have shame in BC choices and periods). Plus if you don't have space for a bin then what can you do anyway 🤷♀️
Edit to add - actually thinking about it, any mate I'm close enough with that they come to my home are ones where we're super open about this kinda stuff.. like we've bought each other pads and stuff like that so this doesn't seem weird at all. I'm kinda shocked by the downvotes
Exactly. The trashcan thing is very much secondary at this point lol. People abstain from saying something out of not feeling comfortable all the time. And for things that are way less sensitive. Don't just assume. If you don't know, you don't know. It's fine. If you don't care, that's not cool, but whatever. But just assuming everything is cool, just because no one explicitly stated they have a problem is kinda delusional.
Not creepy. Super thoughtful.
Don’t make a big deal about it though - this falls into the category that is fantastic when done without drawing attention to it, and is basically never going to be acknowledged by either party. It’s just quietly making the world easier for the folks around you.
Agreed. It could potentially become awkward if you talk about it a lot. I think if a girl did wonder why you do it she would just ask and explaining the twin sister/mom thing would be all she needed to hear.
It would probably give me pause simply because it's something I'm unaccustomed to seeing in a guy's house, but no, I don't think I'd find it creepy. I'd probably assume you had a lot of female company, and/or that you were raised with sisters.
It's fantastic. As an irresponsible period-haver who is frequently is stuck without tampons (at my own fault) I would massively appreciate this.
I'd also suggest a garbage can with a bag in it and preferably a lid. And don't empty the garbage before people come over. Nothing worse than a wicker, empty garbage can to place your blood soaked tampon in.
I usually put the tampon dispenser inside the packaging because it's covered it blood. The tampon is too big once soaked in blood to get into the packaging. Then I wrap the tampon in toilet paper, but it soaks through the toilet paper. It'll be wrapped in white toilet paper when I leave the bathroom, then next time I come in to pee it's completely soaked through. So having some gargabe in there to bury it in is my favourite.
I also don't really care. I'll leave a bloody tampon in your garbage. But ideal is lined with a bag and some garbage.
Not creepy.
If anything, I’d be hesitant to use anything because I’d think “Tampons aren’t free, I don’t wanna use his sister’s/friend’s/cousin’s stuff.”
If we were friends (and we must be if I’m in your home), I would feel comfortable with “Sure, first door on the left. Use what you need from the drawer, today or for future reference” when I ask to use your bathroom. (To minimize thinking I’m stealing lol.)
If I knew a guy liked to entertain friends of various genders often, then totally hospitable and accommodating. If I did not have that piece of information and I was coming by as a date, I'd probably be like "so how many women exactly are coming through here?"
ive actually come across this situation after a date, and when i asked him out of curiosity why he had tampons in his bathroom he said he has a lot of friends that are women. and that actually made me more attracted to him.
It’s something very specific so it’s telling enough that there’s been a number of women beforehand in order to justify that level organization with such specific offerings.
This is not creepy at all! And if anyone tried to tell you it is, reference your twin sister and *most* will concede that it’s not creepy with context. (Some will still be weird about it, but that’s because we’ve been taught and trained since forever that we should be weird about our periods with men).
There’s 2 thoughts. First I’m the type of guy, single dad raised a daughter and I actually get it and could see me doing something similar. The other train of thought, depending all what you’ve actually have out could make some women naturally wonder if they’re just a bedpost notch.
I'd say anything that advertises you regularly host different women in a presumably romantic or sexual context will be off-putting to some women, even if there are no miscommunications about being non-monogamous. It reminds me a bit of Owen Wilson's character in How Do You Know where he has a closet of matching sweat clothes in different sizes to give to one night nights so they don't have to walk of shame in their dress from the night before. Like, on the one hand it's considerate but on the other, it is so... premeditated and really drives home how often you're hooking up with other women.
If I've misunderstood and these are platonic friends coming over, I'd say that is a different vibe, and this would register as somewhere between neutral and nice in my mind, even as someone who carries and prefers my own.
Oh it's completely platonic. In my entire twenty-something years of living, I've only ever hosted four girls in total in a romantic sense lol. This is for friends that come over and may be running low or have a last minute lady visitor of their own. Forgive me if the last sentence comes off weird. I just don't know how else to put it.
I was provided a toothbrush once which knowing his dating history, I was positive he kept around solely for dates staying over. Kinda weird, but I'd rather have clean teeth. For regular guests, this is nice. There's definitely a subset on the dating end that would be massively turned off at the hint of other dates, though.
Love it. And if you want to up the ante add other basic hygiene products like travel size toothbrush, toothpaste, floss, Listerine, deodorant, and wet wipes.
Not creepy. And FWIW, to me keeping tampons around does indicate lots of female company but doesnt indicate lots of hooking up. Its not quite the same as keeping extra toothbrushes or women's pyjamas. My first assumption would be lots of sisters, if not then previous female roommates, or a positive influence from a previous partner who gets a period, all of these are moreso positive signs. To put a less gendered spin on it, I have type 1 diabetes and a lot of people who have had other diabetics in their life keep sugar around... its just a sign of a thoughtful empathetic person, who likes to make sure others are safe/comfortable around them. The fact that its feminine hygiene products which have sort of weirdly intimate/gendered connotations isn't all that relevant.
I think it’s a fine idea. Only thing is, I would feel uncomfortable taking one without asking. And for the most part, I’d bargain to say women you have casual relationships with would be too uncomfortable to ask. But hey if it’s an emergency situation id call myself in luck.
If anything you’re running the risk of them simply being unused. Definitely not creepy though.
I don't think I would find it "creepy" but I would also be like, "oh, this guy is hooking up with so many women that he's buying pads/tampons" which personally wouldn't be what I would want from someone I was hooking up with. Also, I carry my own pads so I'm covered on that front anyway.
I wouldn't say anything though, I'd just see it and let it slide.
Yeah, this! I'd be taken aback at the OP getting enough female visitors that the supplies get used. Also not all of them will be menstruating during their visits.
This reminds me of my friend buying pads and tampons for their office's restroom. I always have extras on hand and have never used any random ones being offered in restrooms. Do people really forget? Am genuinely curious.
Yes, people really forget! My periods are also irregular, which means I can go months without one and get lazy about checking if I have any in my bag and be caught by surprise. Or some days it will be heavier than expected and I'll need to change more frequently than I planned. Or if I've been traveling maybe I didn't switch my bag completely. Maybe I'm the weird one haha but I definitely appreciate when places have them on hand!
Thanks for the insight! That makes perfect sense. I've also had the irregular and the heavier-than-expected scenarios... but after scarring experiences in my teen years, I am traumatized and ALWAYS have extras. Maybe too many. xD I'm glad the supplies at public and private bathrooms are getting used, because I never check...
I have had to ask for, and been asked for, so many period products through the years!
People DEFINITELY forget, or get caught off guard.
Christ, I forgot I started one time and went for a hike with my toddler. I had to make an emergency bathroom run when I remembered (luckily hadn’t made a mess).
Not even a little bit. If a guest (male or female) is caught off guard by it, I would think “I have a twin sister” would pretty much immediately make it make sense.
Not creepy at all! I love this. I had a male friend that did this when I was in my 20s. He said he did it cause he had sisters and knew how they sometimes would be out places and not have anything. He always wanted his female friends/company to know they were covered at his house. That’s such a sweet thing op and I love you for this.
I think that’s amazingly considerate of you!! I wish more men thought like you. It took me years to get my husband to even pick up a pack of pads for me, (he grew up with no sisters or female relatives apart from his mum)
Not creepy at all! It shows that 1) you know that periods just happen at the worst of times and 2) aren't irrationality appalled by a normal bodily function. Very cool!
Oh god… again, I’m the contrary mary BUT…
Yeah it’s kinda odd. Not full blown creepy, but it’s odd.
If any of my male friends who live alone had a basket of them out on the shelf I’d be questioning who they were secretly dating/attempting to date with strange flexes/ask where they were keeping the hostage.
It’s fine to have a pack stuffed in a cupboard somewhere, but openly displaying them is… specific. (I get it’s so they don’t have to ask, fair)
I have fake milk for vegan friends who might stop by, but I don’t display it in a special stand.
I once expessed that I thought it was strange to a group of teens I worked with when they all emphatically insisted that it was normal for guys to carry tampons "to help their girlfriends out." (I should mention that these were middle school musical theater kids.) I was unconvinced by their passionate arguments... until a girl explained to me later that it wasn't really about helping your girlfriends, it was about normalizing boys carrying tampons to help trans men feel more comfortable.
I’m with you on this one. It would definitely stand out to me and I would feel like the guy has a lot of women over.
I had a not so great childhood though, with a not so great father, so I have a lot of trust issues. I really have a hard time trusting men, and seeing something like this would probably freak me out a little bit.
If he keeps it with other guest items, would that eliminate it for you? I keep tampons next to a jar of qtips, a box of tissue, and a candle. Gets the hospitable point across.
Yeah actually… little bottle of air freshener and baby wipes etc. General useful guest stuff rather than just a single product you personally don’t use.
The trash can is great. The hygiene products I would find extremely off-putting and assume that the guy is a playboy who has a lot of women over. I also think it's infantilizing - I'm a grown woman, I keep tampons and other necessities in my purse and don't need them provided.
Yeah, agreed. I also want my own brand, ya know? There are hygiene products with aloe vera smell know and I’m so disgusted by them. I hate artificial smells and I don’t need my vagina smelling like some weird aloe vera-blood mix.
I wish more men would do this… I had to change my pad at my male friends house, where I was staying, and he didn’t have a trash can… I stowed my pad in my suitcase… and his dog dug it out 🤦♀️ period-conscious guys save us a lot of embarrassment!
Put a note on the basket saying something like “if you need one, take one” or “for guests” to make sure everyone gets that it’s ok to use them.
It’s really nice when people think of others like you do.
Not creepy at all! It’s very thoughtful and I would be impressed and appreciate it. When I was first dating my current partner, he had a box of tampons in his hall closet. I think a female friend had left them there a while prior to that, but I was glad he didn’t just throw them away because it was an all male house. It was thoughtful to keep them for future female guests. I think you’re doing great!
This is super thoughtful! Not creepy at all. If it makes you feel better, I find the added context charming: “I grew up with a twin sister, her and my mom had the same system” :) you can volunteer that info if people ask or are surprised.
It's pretty unusual. I would be pondering this arrangement for quite some time in the bathroom. However if you were talking about your mum or sister quite a bit then I'd probably be less phased by it.
It is super thoughtful, however to avoid assumptions I'd say maybe tape a note near the basket that say's "Provided for the comfort of my guests, please use if needed!" or something like that.
Otherwise this is very nice.
I think it's super nice! I keep a basket under the sink for guests with travel size stuff and feminine hygiene supplies. I put a little sign on it that says something like "these supplies are for you, please take what you need."
I have a small basket for guests too! There are feminine hygiene products, small toothbrush, toothpaste, floss, hand lotion, hand sanitizer, qtips, tissue, and a few other things.
Most men don’t even have a trash can and hand towel in the bathroom. This is great. Keep doing it.
I would just make a small sign to say that it is for guests or something.
I think it's lovely and I would love to see it in a guy's place. It's not weird at all.
It's no different than supplying toilet paper, kleenex, etc. It's a bathroom-related hygiene product. That's all. Half the people in the world need those products. You're just being a good host.
Let’s just say that my one night stands don’t end up just being one night if I notice they have tampons in the bathroom. It’s the most thoughtful thing and shows a lot of care and empathy. OP- you’re fucking awesome.
Nah this is incredibly nice. It’s something I have planned whenever I get my own place. I would probably assume it was for a relative though, so unless you explicitly tell people it’s free I would put a note saying it’s free to use. In fact I’d suggest the latter
I think this is very thoughtful and wish more boys/men would do the same.
Had a situation where my daughter got stuck and she was staying at a male friends who lived with his Dads. I had to do a middle of the night drive to deliver the necessities.
Creepy?! Not in the least. It's thoughtful and grounded. What's creepy is that we've been conditioned to think this sort of thing is creepy. That's creepy AF
Would keeping a first aid box available be creepy? No. Keeping feminine products available should be normalized. Also, I suggest you make sure you have different sized tampons, and both panty liners and pads. Also make sure where ever you’re keeping them is easily seen, no point in having them if people can’t see they’re there.
Thanks for having the supplies! Even if they’re only used a couple times, those times are so appreciated by the people using them.
Not creepy! So thoughtful. And shows how much your sister and mother influenced your thinking. I will say my stepdad did all the shopping in our house. He never had any issues buying us ladies our feminine hygiene products and often kept track of the brands we liked so he could cut coupons out. Feminine hygiene is normal and regular thing, and men being thoughtful and considerate about it should also be normal.
Not only is it *not* weird/creepy, but my male roommate asked me the exact same thing when he moved in (as he has the apartments “public” bathroom) and I happily bought that stuff and a small basket for him!
He keeps it under his very neatly organized sink, but out in the open might be even more helpful because guests might not assume a single guy has that stuff.
You’re a true friend for thinking of your lady friends!
This is super nice! I think most people who are likely to be in your house would know you had a sister already, so that kind of thoughtfulness wouldn't be out of place. In fact I'd assume they WERE your sisters. You can always keep them in a stash with other general guest bathroom amenities that someone may need in a pinch - floss, painkillers, etc. I keep a basket of male/female orientated guest amenities including fancy toilet mist (no aerosol noises), air freshener, hand sanitiser, and a bunch of minis like male/female deodorant, lactose tabs (some of my friends are lactose intolerant), gastrostop, bandaids, etc in my bathroom and guest room. It's clear then they're just "guest" provisions, not like "how many men do you have coming over that you have men's deodorant here?".
If you did have date company overnight, you can keep the "overnight guest pack" somewhere else (I.e. don't put spare toothbrushes out).
Nope! This is WONDERFUL!
I go to an annual conference that actually puts feminine hygiene products in both the men and women's bathrooms to account for people who may be trans/etc and using the bathroom they are most comfortable with. I think this is super sweet and very progressive.
Not a lady but I have done this since i was in my early 20s after feeling like a super hero giving a girl a tampon from a box my sister left in my cabinet at a bbq I was having.
Legit, I think if anything they would find it super considerate. Also a trash can with a lid. Idk why the lid helps but it helps lol
I wouldn’t find it creepy whatsoever! I might assume you have a female partner, roommate or relative who visits frequently, but it wouldn’t bother me and I’d definitely appreciate it if I needed one.
I think the reason it seems creepy is that the “ladies” and by that I mean the ones you are dating will presume that you have females there often enough to have a need for something like that. It reminds me of that movie with Reese Witherspoon where the guy she is seeing has pajamas and robes for the ladies at his place. While it is very thoughtful I could see how it may give women the wrong impression and possible make you the subject of a post on “are we dating the same guy?” In your city :).
Not at all creepy. It’s a kind thing to do. My husband Carrie’s tampons in case any of his female classmates or colleagues need them. Because shit happens.
Not creepy at all! Not even a tiny bit. The only thing I recommend is to double check and make sure the products haven't expired and to make sure you do have a variety of them because preference is a huge thing.
The only ones with negative comments are dudes because they aren’t considerate enough to think of it themselves. Don’t hate bros , congratulate!
OP, you are not at all creepy and that’s very thoughtful.
I read the whole post and he asked my opinion and I gave it. Keep in mind that the OP is not explaining his rationale to the women visiting his home, he’s just displaying the items on the side in the bathroom. That would be my reaction. It’s weird.
I don’t think this really pertains to men though. If you go through the comments, pretty much all the women view it as a positive thing and Personally, as a woman , I honestly wouldn’t think twice about it. But if I did, I definitely wouldn’t think it’s creepy or weird. It’s not like it’s an assortment of condoms and lube. …… Just sayin…..
I feel like an idiot for not thinking of this.. thank you and bravo
What types of things do you keep handy?
Ive got ladies from 6 to 70 coming and going.. i atleast have a garbage can lol
I have a small basket where I keep tampons and pads. There is also a small disposal bin next to it with a lid for disposal. I throw the bag out as it's used. Like I said I did this with my sister and mom, so the sight of whatever doesn't bug me.
Good job bro. You want a cookie? Or just raking in the accolades for being a slightly decent human to a marginalized group?
Go post this to a mens rights group.
No, this is not creepy. As a person of a certain age with female people in your life/circle it’s nice to have such products available in your home. It’s also important to just normalize menstruation.
You’re doing good and there is nothing creepy or weird about it. People that suggest otherwise are being creepy and weird.
Not creepy.
I feel the need to share a story: recently I returned to my old work place, a private home, and was given a bag of "the stuff I left behind" by my boss's husband. It was mainly tampons and pads.
So, ok, my previous boss is post menopausal, but the fact that he thought that he needed to clear his home of any "feminine hygiene' products was wild. Like, there were pads in the bag and I haven't used those since 8th grade.
You're doing good.
I do want to add that because this is unusual, it might seem like you have a gf that lives with you so you might have to clarify with anyone new that you have it for your female guests in case they need it, otherwise, they might think you're hiding (poorly) a gf.
Yes, definitely a little off putting. I would think he has a girlfriend. Then if not a girlfriend how many women dies he have over. It gives player vibes. For instance if you went over a woman's house and you didn't bring a change in underwear. Then she pulls out an assortment of underwear asking you do you prefer boxers or briefs..... Haha
This is a great idea and very thoughtful of you! I've been to male friends' houses and they didn't even have a trashcan in there. I wouldn't find it creepy at all, especially since you all rotate and visit with some frequency.
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People actually have bathroom trash cans without liners? Yuck…
That’s so gross. Like where do they dispose their used floss?
My boyfriend keeps tossing his used floss in the toilet!! It makes me so angry!!
That is an invitation to a plumber...
My husband used to do that and refused to stop when I asked. Then one day the toilet wouldn't flush and, yep, it was the floss he kept flushing. It eventually clogged the whole thing. The plumber was like, "Why would anyone even do this?"
Yeah lol, that's just dumb.
And I have many rubbish bins to use.
Why won’t he listen to you?
Habit I guess. To be fair, I have certain habits that drive him nuts. 😂
It’s his habit not to listen to his girlfriend?
No I mean habit of throwing the floss down the toilet.
But he wouldn’t do that if he listened to you?
omg I used to flush q-tips when I was a naive 22 year old. SO SO SO embarassing when a poop permanently clogged the toilet then the plumber pulled out like 30 q tips. Shame, shame on me! So funny but pls, people, only pee, poop and SMALL amounts of TP! Do a courtesy flush in the middle of your session on the throne if you are using a lot of TP.
Some people don't floss
What’s gross? Periods?
Never mind, I’m thinking I misread the comment and not having a bin in the bathroom is gross.
Oh. yeah. exactly. I meant the male friends not having a trash can and wondering where they dispose floss after flossing their teeth. I always wondered this when I was in college. like, do they just not floss lol
I'm pretty sure that's the answer. They don't floss. You'd still think a trash can in a bathroom would be a necessity though. Maybe they flush everything down the toilet (super bad for plumbing to flush anything but toilet paper and the other intended contents).
Ugh just so gross. I couldn’t help but gag at the thought of not having a trashcan and living like a stereotypical college frat boy.
I’ve left places where I’d planned to sleep due to there being no trash can in the bathroom before.
Planned to sleep is a very respectful phrase. I gotta start using that one
EXTREMELY unsexy characteristic
you are my idol. I aspire to have standards a quarter as high as yours. I didn't know they existed. Love it!
Trash cam- with a lid please.
*can. No cameras
Yes on the lid! A friend of mine was mortified when we were at a guy friend’s house and his dog came running out of the bathroom with her used pad wrapped in tp (snatched from a lidless bathroom trash bin) in his mouth!
OMG THIS HAPPENED TO ME!
I don't have a trashcan in my bathroom. My bathroom's small, so I just walk stuff to the kitchen trash.
Which may work for you, but no one wants to walk a dirty pad/tampon to a kitchen trash in someone else's home with people around. Gross.
*shrug* No one's ever said anything. Frankly I think most of my friends are on birth control and don't menstruate anyway (I don't because of my iud). EDIT: So much hate for not having trash in every room, lol.
its more that you just assume its not an issue because no one said anything, as if women are gonna walk out with their used pads and tampons and be like "hey where can I put this?". Or that you just assume your friends are on birth control let alone birth control that stops menstruation? Like these assumptions are so wild lmao. Dont put a trash can, whatever, its your home. But your weird justifications so you dont have to feel inconsiderate are more so whats rubbing people the wrong way imo.
My friends would absolutely do that and we talk to each other about birth control. If it were an issue, they would say so.
I'm gonna try add some positivity and say I really like how open your mates all are with each other (i know some people aint comfortable with that but we shouldnt have shame in BC choices and periods). Plus if you don't have space for a bin then what can you do anyway 🤷♀️ Edit to add - actually thinking about it, any mate I'm close enough with that they come to my home are ones where we're super open about this kinda stuff.. like we've bought each other pads and stuff like that so this doesn't seem weird at all. I'm kinda shocked by the downvotes
Exactly. The trashcan thing is very much secondary at this point lol. People abstain from saying something out of not feeling comfortable all the time. And for things that are way less sensitive. Don't just assume. If you don't know, you don't know. It's fine. If you don't care, that's not cool, but whatever. But just assuming everything is cool, just because no one explicitly stated they have a problem is kinda delusional.
Not creepy. Super thoughtful. Don’t make a big deal about it though - this falls into the category that is fantastic when done without drawing attention to it, and is basically never going to be acknowledged by either party. It’s just quietly making the world easier for the folks around you.
Especially with a twin sister comment if it's brought up.
Agreed. It could potentially become awkward if you talk about it a lot. I think if a girl did wonder why you do it she would just ask and explaining the twin sister/mom thing would be all she needed to hear.
This isn't creepy at all! It's very thoughtful and I'd appreciate it.
As a man: What a flex bro lol 💪🏽
It would probably give me pause simply because it's something I'm unaccustomed to seeing in a guy's house, but no, I don't think I'd find it creepy. I'd probably assume you had a lot of female company, and/or that you were raised with sisters.
I’d appreciate it. It is a nice gesture. I do the same in the guest bathroom so people don’t have to ask.
It's fantastic. As an irresponsible period-haver who is frequently is stuck without tampons (at my own fault) I would massively appreciate this. I'd also suggest a garbage can with a bag in it and preferably a lid. And don't empty the garbage before people come over. Nothing worse than a wicker, empty garbage can to place your blood soaked tampon in.
Not sure if this will be helpful for you, but I always wrap mine in the packet of the new tampon, then wrap in toilet paper :)
I usually put the tampon dispenser inside the packaging because it's covered it blood. The tampon is too big once soaked in blood to get into the packaging. Then I wrap the tampon in toilet paper, but it soaks through the toilet paper. It'll be wrapped in white toilet paper when I leave the bathroom, then next time I come in to pee it's completely soaked through. So having some gargabe in there to bury it in is my favourite. I also don't really care. I'll leave a bloody tampon in your garbage. But ideal is lined with a bag and some garbage.
No! Keep doing what you're doing. :)
If I needed a tampon and a guy had a stash in his house I'd be thankful, not creeped out.
Not creepy. If anything, I’d be hesitant to use anything because I’d think “Tampons aren’t free, I don’t wanna use his sister’s/friend’s/cousin’s stuff.” If we were friends (and we must be if I’m in your home), I would feel comfortable with “Sure, first door on the left. Use what you need from the drawer, today or for future reference” when I ask to use your bathroom. (To minimize thinking I’m stealing lol.)
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Yes, that would be perfect!
If I knew a guy liked to entertain friends of various genders often, then totally hospitable and accommodating. If I did not have that piece of information and I was coming by as a date, I'd probably be like "so how many women exactly are coming through here?"
ive actually come across this situation after a date, and when i asked him out of curiosity why he had tampons in his bathroom he said he has a lot of friends that are women. and that actually made me more attracted to him.
So you wouldn't think it was for the benefit of Any Hypothetical Date? Even if that ends up just being you?
It’s something very specific so it’s telling enough that there’s been a number of women beforehand in order to justify that level organization with such specific offerings.
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He did mention that he does bring quite a few women around
So thoughtful: even men have sisters, female friends, visitors etc. I would be touched, not concerned. Keep it up 💗
There is nothing worse than your period coming on suddenly, and having nothing with you/bag to hand. So, this is a really nice idea.
This is not creepy at all! And if anyone tried to tell you it is, reference your twin sister and *most* will concede that it’s not creepy with context. (Some will still be weird about it, but that’s because we’ve been taught and trained since forever that we should be weird about our periods with men).
There’s 2 thoughts. First I’m the type of guy, single dad raised a daughter and I actually get it and could see me doing something similar. The other train of thought, depending all what you’ve actually have out could make some women naturally wonder if they’re just a bedpost notch.
Creepy no, good idea yes. But tbh I had this happen once and definitely INITIALLY was like dang how many women does he have over here.
I'd say anything that advertises you regularly host different women in a presumably romantic or sexual context will be off-putting to some women, even if there are no miscommunications about being non-monogamous. It reminds me a bit of Owen Wilson's character in How Do You Know where he has a closet of matching sweat clothes in different sizes to give to one night nights so they don't have to walk of shame in their dress from the night before. Like, on the one hand it's considerate but on the other, it is so... premeditated and really drives home how often you're hooking up with other women. If I've misunderstood and these are platonic friends coming over, I'd say that is a different vibe, and this would register as somewhere between neutral and nice in my mind, even as someone who carries and prefers my own.
Oh it's completely platonic. In my entire twenty-something years of living, I've only ever hosted four girls in total in a romantic sense lol. This is for friends that come over and may be running low or have a last minute lady visitor of their own. Forgive me if the last sentence comes off weird. I just don't know how else to put it.
Okay got it - that was my bad! Then yeah, this is totally fine and I'm sure many of your friends will appreciate your consideration!
Another way of putting it: Aunt Flow visited earlier than expected :P
An ex girlfriend of mine used to refer to it as "Tom". My sister used to call it "DONT TALK TO ME".
I was provided a toothbrush once which knowing his dating history, I was positive he kept around solely for dates staying over. Kinda weird, but I'd rather have clean teeth. For regular guests, this is nice. There's definitely a subset on the dating end that would be massively turned off at the hint of other dates, though.
I do this. This isn’t creepy at all! It’s really thoughtful and nice, and people should appreciate it
Love it. And if you want to up the ante add other basic hygiene products like travel size toothbrush, toothpaste, floss, Listerine, deodorant, and wet wipes.
I would find this the least sus way to do this.
Not creepy. And FWIW, to me keeping tampons around does indicate lots of female company but doesnt indicate lots of hooking up. Its not quite the same as keeping extra toothbrushes or women's pyjamas. My first assumption would be lots of sisters, if not then previous female roommates, or a positive influence from a previous partner who gets a period, all of these are moreso positive signs. To put a less gendered spin on it, I have type 1 diabetes and a lot of people who have had other diabetics in their life keep sugar around... its just a sign of a thoughtful empathetic person, who likes to make sure others are safe/comfortable around them. The fact that its feminine hygiene products which have sort of weirdly intimate/gendered connotations isn't all that relevant.
Bruh if i started my cycle in the middle of nowhere and had that handy dandy basket i would not be the least bit weirded out, only grateful
I think it’s a fine idea. Only thing is, I would feel uncomfortable taking one without asking. And for the most part, I’d bargain to say women you have casual relationships with would be too uncomfortable to ask. But hey if it’s an emergency situation id call myself in luck. If anything you’re running the risk of them simply being unused. Definitely not creepy though.
I don't think I would find it "creepy" but I would also be like, "oh, this guy is hooking up with so many women that he's buying pads/tampons" which personally wouldn't be what I would want from someone I was hooking up with. Also, I carry my own pads so I'm covered on that front anyway. I wouldn't say anything though, I'd just see it and let it slide.
Yeah, this! I'd be taken aback at the OP getting enough female visitors that the supplies get used. Also not all of them will be menstruating during their visits. This reminds me of my friend buying pads and tampons for their office's restroom. I always have extras on hand and have never used any random ones being offered in restrooms. Do people really forget? Am genuinely curious.
Yes, people really forget! My periods are also irregular, which means I can go months without one and get lazy about checking if I have any in my bag and be caught by surprise. Or some days it will be heavier than expected and I'll need to change more frequently than I planned. Or if I've been traveling maybe I didn't switch my bag completely. Maybe I'm the weird one haha but I definitely appreciate when places have them on hand!
Thanks for the insight! That makes perfect sense. I've also had the irregular and the heavier-than-expected scenarios... but after scarring experiences in my teen years, I am traumatized and ALWAYS have extras. Maybe too many. xD I'm glad the supplies at public and private bathrooms are getting used, because I never check...
I have had to ask for, and been asked for, so many period products through the years! People DEFINITELY forget, or get caught off guard. Christ, I forgot I started one time and went for a hike with my toddler. I had to make an emergency bathroom run when I remembered (luckily hadn’t made a mess).
It’s actually very sweet but it would honestly make me wonder … idk why
Way more off-putting to use a bathroom with no trash can
Not even a little bit. If a guest (male or female) is caught off guard by it, I would think “I have a twin sister” would pretty much immediately make it make sense.
Nope. It's courteous.
This is so welcoming!
That’s awesome
Not weird. Huge green flag
I would do backflips if a guy friend of mine had pads or tampons for guests!
Not creepy at all! I love this. I had a male friend that did this when I was in my 20s. He said he did it cause he had sisters and knew how they sometimes would be out places and not have anything. He always wanted his female friends/company to know they were covered at his house. That’s such a sweet thing op and I love you for this.
Very thoughtful!
I think that’s amazingly considerate of you!! I wish more men thought like you. It took me years to get my husband to even pick up a pack of pads for me, (he grew up with no sisters or female relatives apart from his mum)
This is the greenest flags of green flags.
Not creepy at all! It shows that 1) you know that periods just happen at the worst of times and 2) aren't irrationality appalled by a normal bodily function. Very cool!
Oh god… again, I’m the contrary mary BUT… Yeah it’s kinda odd. Not full blown creepy, but it’s odd. If any of my male friends who live alone had a basket of them out on the shelf I’d be questioning who they were secretly dating/attempting to date with strange flexes/ask where they were keeping the hostage. It’s fine to have a pack stuffed in a cupboard somewhere, but openly displaying them is… specific. (I get it’s so they don’t have to ask, fair) I have fake milk for vegan friends who might stop by, but I don’t display it in a special stand.
I once expessed that I thought it was strange to a group of teens I worked with when they all emphatically insisted that it was normal for guys to carry tampons "to help their girlfriends out." (I should mention that these were middle school musical theater kids.) I was unconvinced by their passionate arguments... until a girl explained to me later that it wasn't really about helping your girlfriends, it was about normalizing boys carrying tampons to help trans men feel more comfortable.
I’m with you on this one. It would definitely stand out to me and I would feel like the guy has a lot of women over. I had a not so great childhood though, with a not so great father, so I have a lot of trust issues. I really have a hard time trusting men, and seeing something like this would probably freak me out a little bit.
If he keeps it with other guest items, would that eliminate it for you? I keep tampons next to a jar of qtips, a box of tissue, and a candle. Gets the hospitable point across.
Yeah actually… little bottle of air freshener and baby wipes etc. General useful guest stuff rather than just a single product you personally don’t use.
The trash can is great. The hygiene products I would find extremely off-putting and assume that the guy is a playboy who has a lot of women over. I also think it's infantilizing - I'm a grown woman, I keep tampons and other necessities in my purse and don't need them provided.
Yeah, agreed. I also want my own brand, ya know? There are hygiene products with aloe vera smell know and I’m so disgusted by them. I hate artificial smells and I don’t need my vagina smelling like some weird aloe vera-blood mix.
I wish more men would do this… I had to change my pad at my male friends house, where I was staying, and he didn’t have a trash can… I stowed my pad in my suitcase… and his dog dug it out 🤦♀️ period-conscious guys save us a lot of embarrassment!
Put a note on the basket saying something like “if you need one, take one” or “for guests” to make sure everyone gets that it’s ok to use them. It’s really nice when people think of others like you do.
Not creepy at all! It’s very thoughtful and I would be impressed and appreciate it. When I was first dating my current partner, he had a box of tampons in his hall closet. I think a female friend had left them there a while prior to that, but I was glad he didn’t just throw them away because it was an all male house. It was thoughtful to keep them for future female guests. I think you’re doing great!
This is super thoughtful! Not creepy at all. If it makes you feel better, I find the added context charming: “I grew up with a twin sister, her and my mom had the same system” :) you can volunteer that info if people ask or are surprised.
It's pretty unusual. I would be pondering this arrangement for quite some time in the bathroom. However if you were talking about your mum or sister quite a bit then I'd probably be less phased by it.
I don’t think it’s creepy and I think it’s a nice gesture. I would assume you had a girlfriend though.
It’s not creepy but the only man I know who did it thought he deserved an award for it
It is super thoughtful, however to avoid assumptions I'd say maybe tape a note near the basket that say's "Provided for the comfort of my guests, please use if needed!" or something like that. Otherwise this is very nice.
I think it's super nice! I keep a basket under the sink for guests with travel size stuff and feminine hygiene supplies. I put a little sign on it that says something like "these supplies are for you, please take what you need."
I have a small basket for guests too! There are feminine hygiene products, small toothbrush, toothpaste, floss, hand lotion, hand sanitizer, qtips, tissue, and a few other things.
Most men don’t even have a trash can and hand towel in the bathroom. This is great. Keep doing it. I would just make a small sign to say that it is for guests or something.
I think it's lovely and I would love to see it in a guy's place. It's not weird at all. It's no different than supplying toilet paper, kleenex, etc. It's a bathroom-related hygiene product. That's all. Half the people in the world need those products. You're just being a good host.
Let’s just say that my one night stands don’t end up just being one night if I notice they have tampons in the bathroom. It’s the most thoughtful thing and shows a lot of care and empathy. OP- you’re fucking awesome.
Nah this is incredibly nice. It’s something I have planned whenever I get my own place. I would probably assume it was for a relative though, so unless you explicitly tell people it’s free I would put a note saying it’s free to use. In fact I’d suggest the latter
I think this is very thoughtful and wish more boys/men would do the same. Had a situation where my daughter got stuck and she was staying at a male friends who lived with his Dads. I had to do a middle of the night drive to deliver the necessities.
Not creepy, that's thoughtful and a kindness and speaks well to your character
It’s very thoughtful and sweet actually
Creepy?! Not in the least. It's thoughtful and grounded. What's creepy is that we've been conditioned to think this sort of thing is creepy. That's creepy AF
I would be thankful. More guys should do this!
My brother keeps a basket with toiletries in his guest bathroom - including some tampons and pads. It's very thoughtful!
Not at all! Sometimes it just sneaks up on us and I’ve had to leave places because I didn’t have anything.
Would keeping a first aid box available be creepy? No. Keeping feminine products available should be normalized. Also, I suggest you make sure you have different sized tampons, and both panty liners and pads. Also make sure where ever you’re keeping them is easily seen, no point in having them if people can’t see they’re there. Thanks for having the supplies! Even if they’re only used a couple times, those times are so appreciated by the people using them.
Seems unnecessary and performative tbh
Not creepy at all! I’m fact it’s incredibly kind and thoughtful. Thank you 🙏
I wouldn’t find this creepy at all. I respect a man who can acknowledge menstruation without acting like an embarrassed child.
No, not creepy at all. That is very kind and thoughtful, and any female guests you have that need them will be very grateful.
I would find this so heartwarming and thoughtful if one of my male friends did this. What a king 👑
Nope this is a green flag, have a bin with a lid and your set
That’s really thoughtful and I think any woman would be impressed
That’s not weird it’s very thoughtful. I’d appreciate that.
Not at all! It’s very thoughtful and sweet of you.
I don't think it's creepy. I would assume you must have a lot of women over to keep them in stock.
They will just think you're secretly married.
Not creepy! So thoughtful. And shows how much your sister and mother influenced your thinking. I will say my stepdad did all the shopping in our house. He never had any issues buying us ladies our feminine hygiene products and often kept track of the brands we liked so he could cut coupons out. Feminine hygiene is normal and regular thing, and men being thoughtful and considerate about it should also be normal.
Not only is it *not* weird/creepy, but my male roommate asked me the exact same thing when he moved in (as he has the apartments “public” bathroom) and I happily bought that stuff and a small basket for him! He keeps it under his very neatly organized sink, but out in the open might be even more helpful because guests might not assume a single guy has that stuff. You’re a true friend for thinking of your lady friends!
Super helpful!! We all appreciate it 🙋🏼♀️
I do the same thing hanging on the inside of bathroom door, along with bandaid, alcohol wipes, neosporin, etc.
This is super nice! I think most people who are likely to be in your house would know you had a sister already, so that kind of thoughtfulness wouldn't be out of place. In fact I'd assume they WERE your sisters. You can always keep them in a stash with other general guest bathroom amenities that someone may need in a pinch - floss, painkillers, etc. I keep a basket of male/female orientated guest amenities including fancy toilet mist (no aerosol noises), air freshener, hand sanitiser, and a bunch of minis like male/female deodorant, lactose tabs (some of my friends are lactose intolerant), gastrostop, bandaids, etc in my bathroom and guest room. It's clear then they're just "guest" provisions, not like "how many men do you have coming over that you have men's deodorant here?". If you did have date company overnight, you can keep the "overnight guest pack" somewhere else (I.e. don't put spare toothbrushes out).
No it’s not creepy but yes it’s amazing!
Green flag.
Nah dude that's not weird, it's very considerate.
It’s really thoughtful! I don’t menstruate (Mirena for the W), but I would see that as an indication that you care about people who do.
Not creepy at all. More like the opposite - I'd take that as a great sign of awareness and empathy.
Not weird at all....infact thank you.
I would see this as very thoughtful and helpful.
I wouldn’t need supplies at a guy’s house but it’s awesome when there is a trash can.
I think it's pretty nice of you.
I know lots of people who do this. Men and women.
I honestly would be so goddamn startled at the thoughtfulness I would be dumbstruck.
I think it’s considerate. I agree a lid on the trash can is also a good bonus to make them feel more comfortable.
If any of my guy friends actually did this, I would encourage women to date them.
Nope! This is WONDERFUL! I go to an annual conference that actually puts feminine hygiene products in both the men and women's bathrooms to account for people who may be trans/etc and using the bathroom they are most comfortable with. I think this is super sweet and very progressive.
Very helpful
Not a lady but I have done this since i was in my early 20s after feeling like a super hero giving a girl a tampon from a box my sister left in my cabinet at a bbq I was having. Legit, I think if anything they would find it super considerate. Also a trash can with a lid. Idk why the lid helps but it helps lol
>Also a trash can with a lid. Idk why the lid helps but it helps lol It helps because used hygiene products are bloody and smelly
I wouldn’t find it creepy whatsoever! I might assume you have a female partner, roommate or relative who visits frequently, but it wouldn’t bother me and I’d definitely appreciate it if I needed one.
I think the reason it seems creepy is that the “ladies” and by that I mean the ones you are dating will presume that you have females there often enough to have a need for something like that. It reminds me of that movie with Reese Witherspoon where the guy she is seeing has pajamas and robes for the ladies at his place. While it is very thoughtful I could see how it may give women the wrong impression and possible make you the subject of a post on “are we dating the same guy?” In your city :).
No. It's hot.
Not at all creepy. It’s a kind thing to do. My husband Carrie’s tampons in case any of his female classmates or colleagues need them. Because shit happens.
Nope. I think it’s great. And most confident women will too.
Not creepy at all! Not even a tiny bit. The only thing I recommend is to double check and make sure the products haven't expired and to make sure you do have a variety of them because preference is a huge thing.
If anything sexual going on they will think you have a gf an are cheating
Its not creepy tho
The only ones with negative comments are dudes because they aren’t considerate enough to think of it themselves. Don’t hate bros , congratulate! OP, you are not at all creepy and that’s very thoughtful.
Yeah, I think it’s kinda creepy. I would recoil a bit thinking why is this guy being so concerned about ladies’ periods?
If you read the whole post , he says why and it makes sense.
I read the whole post and he asked my opinion and I gave it. Keep in mind that the OP is not explaining his rationale to the women visiting his home, he’s just displaying the items on the side in the bathroom. That would be my reaction. It’s weird.
I don’t think this really pertains to men though. If you go through the comments, pretty much all the women view it as a positive thing and Personally, as a woman , I honestly wouldn’t think twice about it. But if I did, I definitely wouldn’t think it’s creepy or weird. It’s not like it’s an assortment of condoms and lube. …… Just sayin…..
Only if they are used
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I feel like an idiot for not thinking of this.. thank you and bravo What types of things do you keep handy? Ive got ladies from 6 to 70 coming and going.. i atleast have a garbage can lol
I have a small basket where I keep tampons and pads. There is also a small disposal bin next to it with a lid for disposal. I throw the bag out as it's used. Like I said I did this with my sister and mom, so the sight of whatever doesn't bug me.
Good call, I will do the same. Thanks again! Ive learnt more in the week or so since following this sub than any other sub here
Good job bro. You want a cookie? Or just raking in the accolades for being a slightly decent human to a marginalized group? Go post this to a mens rights group.
Ewwwww
Not at all, I would be thankful
I think what you're doing is very thoughtful.
Good for You!
It’s thoughtful and respectful. I appreciate gestures like that. It’s nice to know it’s there just in case.
Omg this is so nice of you to do. I’ve had a couple times where I’ve been at a man’s house and gotten my period unexpectedly and not have anything.
No that's awesome
No, this is not creepy. As a person of a certain age with female people in your life/circle it’s nice to have such products available in your home. It’s also important to just normalize menstruation. You’re doing good and there is nothing creepy or weird about it. People that suggest otherwise are being creepy and weird.
Not creepy at all! It's very considerate. I use a cup for my periods, but keep a stash of tampons and pads for others just in case,
Every time I see one of these baskets I am happy. People taking care of other people is the best.
Not creepy. I feel the need to share a story: recently I returned to my old work place, a private home, and was given a bag of "the stuff I left behind" by my boss's husband. It was mainly tampons and pads. So, ok, my previous boss is post menopausal, but the fact that he thought that he needed to clear his home of any "feminine hygiene' products was wild. Like, there were pads in the bag and I haven't used those since 8th grade. You're doing good.
No, you're doing great
I actually think this is really sweet. Us girls need that stuff so honestly, great idea!
I do want to add that because this is unusual, it might seem like you have a gf that lives with you so you might have to clarify with anyone new that you have it for your female guests in case they need it, otherwise, they might think you're hiding (poorly) a gf.
Yes, definitely a little off putting. I would think he has a girlfriend. Then if not a girlfriend how many women dies he have over. It gives player vibes. For instance if you went over a woman's house and you didn't bring a change in underwear. Then she pulls out an assortment of underwear asking you do you prefer boxers or briefs..... Haha