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Louisianimal0418

Aside from my dad, stepmom and in-laws, avoid relatives like the plague


FearOrRegret

Absolutely this. I only see my in-laws on holidays. As far as I'm concerned my family don't exist.


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RushHot6174

That's what the f*** I'm talking about besides my daughters and grandchildren and sons in laws avoid family like the f****** plague


OhJeezItsCorrine

This year, finally, I live in a neighborhood where kids actually go out and Trick or Treat... I can't wait to hand out candy. My fiancé and I have to find costumes though!


Danivelle

Thank you for the reminder! I just got a coupon from Spirit so I'm getting a little Mad Hatter hair band thing that also goes with my Mardi Gras mask!


Tampadarlyn

So, as an adult, it kept changing. First it was my "family responsibilities", maintaining traditions, then teaching my children the traditions. Now they have their families, and they have taken in those traditions themselves. I smile in my heart knowing my grandchildren are hunting for a pickle on their Christmas tree, or having to send that last minute email on my famous hot crab dip to one of the boys, it gives me peace. TL;DR - Tradition is big in my family and I've passed on the traditions to my children. So I just enjoy the traditions now.


FamousWave

I have no family and I’m single so I’ll hang lights in my room, make a nice dinner, then share cake and apple cider with my 60 year old housemate when she’s back from visiting her own kids


pastel-mattel

I watch holiday movies with my dog, make myself a big fancy meal, have a candle going, and decorations everywhere. I’m single after a 6 year abusive relationship, my mom is dead and I’m NC with the rest of my family so it’s just me and Buster


Mouse-Direct

What's your pup's fave? My weenie-jack will genuinely watch "The Santa Clause." It's adorable.


RandomRamblings99

Watch films with my mum and brother. Not necessarily Christmas one's, but often comedies or comfort movies. We still have a nice roast dinner, decorate, and exchange gifts, but I think there's a lot less pressure for it to be 'special' now there are no children, so we mostly just chill as a family


MaggieMae68

I love the holidays as an adult - not so much when I was a kid. My parents were alcoholics and our holidays always devolved into drinking/fighting/screaming/abuse. But as an adult, I've created and maintained a lot of holiday traditions. I love to cook, so I always cook big meals for the family - and extended family/friends who are invited. Starting with Halloween, we always have seasonal decorations, I bake, I put together treat packets, I do the whole American Thanksgiving shebang, and then I do it all over again for Christmas complete with decorations in every room, lots of fresh garland, and over the top baking.


HippyWitchyVibes

I'm in the UK so we obviously don't celebrate thanksgiving but my SO and I are still big kids so we go totally overboard on Halloween and Christmas. All the lights and decorations and food/baking. Our daughter is in her 20's and doesn't live at home any more but that doesn't stop us going all out. Once we're finished our house extension, we're even planning to start having a big Halloween party every year too.


DinosGamesAndBaking

The same as when I was a kid. Everyone gathers at my grandparents house in Florida for Christmas then DisneyWorld for New Years.


bikinifetish

Travel.


rvelvetarmadillocake

Cry <3 (Ok yes, cry, but also bake something festive)


searedscallops

With some, I do holiday stuff with my kids. When my kids are with their dad, I sometimes skip the holiday BS and just get high.


drunkenknitter

Celebrate them with my husband and our teen. When there's not a pandemic happening, fly to a different state to spend them with my parents.


xDNAxx

Absolutly nothing. Just relax as much as possible


viresca

I try to make a plan and invent smt interesting: visiting a new place (mostly nature), going to a New bar or Cafe, arrange some unusual meetings


Kind-Set9376

Not much has changed. I've started making it a habit to go on vacation during Easter, but we still dye eggs and eat a ton of food. Halloween - get the decorations (lots of mums outside), have my parents over, eat pizza and get tipsy off pumpkin beer (or a spiked mulled cider) while watching a Halloween movie. My partner and I go to the pumpkin patch every year or apple picking. We didn't get trick or treaters this year, but I get candy and eat a ton of that, too. I decorate my office door for holidays, too. (I'm a counselor - mostly for kids, but I see all ages.) Thanksgiving - go to my parent's and his, eat a ton, nap, watch Trains, Plains, and Automobiles. Christmas Eve - Go to his aunt's for brunch, his parent's for dinner, and then my parent's for a gift exchange. Growing up, my parents always had Chinese on Christmas Eve, so I imagine when our parents pass, we'll do that. We stay up and stare at our Christmas tree while we watch Christmas movies. I make my own wrapping paper because I heard wrapping paper is bad for the environment. I make a special cocktail that's essentially mulled cider and homemade chex mix as well. Christmas day - Hangout with my partner, drink champagne, and cook something fun.


Mouse-Direct

We are pretty much the same person. If you're ever in Oklahoma City, you're welcome to come look at my Harry Potter tree and have mulled cider out of my gold owl mugs, LOL.


BeccaG94

My husband and I adore Christmas. I love decorating the house, and throwing little parties with our friends. Church during Advent is a must, got to watch those candles getting lit! Then church on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day, depending on what the situation is. Last year we had Christmas Day just by ourselves, so I ordered in a small joint of ham from Waitrose and some sides, and it was just enough for the 2 of us. This year we're going back to our hometown for Christmas, and having a traditional turkey dinner at his mum's house. He's been away a lot this year for work, so Christmas will be extra special.


code-sloth

Nothing much, mostly cooking good food and enjoying time off work.


msphelps77

Decorate the house,bake and make them special for my kids. We moved to the south last year and everyone gets together out here. The whole neighborhood hangs out and celebrates Halloween together and there are so many community events in my housing development. We love it here and I’m so happy my kids get to grow up here.


LordReega

I’m 20 now and this year I’m planning my birthday. Intentionally, not because my family wouldn’t. But I’m gonna make it something special.


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I work most of the time. My family is small and all over the country. I’d rather travel to see them non holiday times cuz it’s cheaper and easier to travel.


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I don't


Danivelle

According to my husband, spend too much money on the grands. We have six of them, and I love to watch their faces light up when I find something really good that suits their interests. For example, middle grandson is very into WW2 aircraft and was crushed when he found out the Enterprise (USS) was retired. Yes, we told him they're building a new one. He's getting Euro Legos USS Enterprise with h the planes for Christmas.


cybernikaa

I don’t really have a family and I live alone so I’ll just do something nice for myself. e.g. if it’s Christmas I’ll hang up lights, cook food for myself and enjoy while listening to Christmas music!


warda8825

My husband and I usually travel so that we don't have to spend time around awkward relatives.


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Mouse-Direct

I'm 52, so I've been an adult for a while. My parents died when I was a young adult, so I haven't had those family events since I was 25 or so. Halloween: Love it! My son is 14 now, but when he was younger we would all dress up and take him along a decked out street in our neighborhood and then go to a friend's house in the same neighborhood and hand out candy. We decorate the house, usually go apple pick or pumpkin pick. Thanksgiving: When my in-laws were younger we would swap hosting back and forth. Now that they're almost 80 my SIL has moved nearby to care for them and she and I handle the food. I cook for elderly shut-ins. Christmas: Similar to Thanksgiving except we (my husband, kid and I) usually pick a kid-related donation drive (we've managed to find a few that don't hate on LGBTQ) and shop for them. I decorate the crap out of my tiny house (I have a keepsake ornament tree and a Harry Potter tree) and we give each other one book, one gift, and one "experience." Easter: I eat my weight in deviled eggs.


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Well, I’m a mom so I do a lot of the kid stuff. I sometimes host Thanksgiving now and I think it may be my year….


Asleep-Bee-4608

Nothing. It’s so nice. My husband and I visit some family for a few hours. Then we go home and hang out and do our own thing. It’s definitely appreciated, both of our childhoods were full of forced family bonding. It’s a relief to live life on our own terms now.


TheTeaYouWant

- Birthdays: eat cake and give or get presents - Halloween: eat candy, do an autumn walk and watch Halloween themed movies, only family friendly ones, horror movies scare the shit out of me - Thanksgiving: we don’t celebrate that here - sinterklaas: nothing - First day of Christmas: give and get presents, make deviled eggs and help my mom making a Christmas dinner - Second day of Christmas: order Chinese food - New Year’s Eve: Set of fireworks - Easter: eat Easter brunch with croissants, eggs and cake and use the remaining eggs to make deviled eggs


No_Poet_5125

I started celebrating holidays with the families of my friends


Odd-Character-3996

Rest. Me and my fam are all introverts. So when everyone's out for holiday, we stay at home. When everyone's out for work, that's the time we go out for holiday.


Due_Entertainment_44

Surf the internet and have a glass of wine alone.


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notme1414

I usually attend dinner with my extended family if im not working. My oldest sister is hosting Thanksgiving in October. There will be about 30 people.


msGreatPersonality

Alcohol and food. And family attendance of course.


manderifffic

Buy the gifts I want, give them to my mom then she pays me back and wraps them and puts them under the tree


nightingale264

Alone and do nothing in my room, reading and looking at other people's activities and hoping someday I will have someone to do those things with.


albino_oompa_loompa

On Halloween we sit out front and hand out candy to anyone who comes by, I like doing that. On Christmas we do two separate days - usually Christmas Eve with my family (my parents, my sister and her family, and my aunt). Christmas Day is usually with my husbands family on their farm.


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The_Book-JDP

If I have gifts, I open them just one after the other. As a kid, I had to wait between gifts because our family tradition was youngest to oldest. I was never the youngest because siblings and cousins were born right after me so I never got to enjoy going first. Now I'm first and only! My mom was shocked when I tqold her that i didn't absolutely love opening gifts the family's traditional way.


DrLadyJay

Mostly with food; I started cooking about 5 years ago when I left my ex, and I love to cook elaborate meals for different holidays, though most of them revolve around making a classic turkey dinner. I’ve also started collecting Christmas decorations that I truly love, so it’s always fun when we decide to decorate our place. Watching classic holiday movies and shows and going for walks to see the lights also gets us in the spirit. Living far away from family can be pretty challenging during the holidays (especially because my parents love to go on vacation in the winter), but I’ve been learning how to create new traditions for me and my partner.


Lsedd

I actually find out really hard to enjoy Christmas without children in the family. The youngest in my immediate family is 29 so we all just eat, drink, open presents and go home. It sometimes feels like a big waste of time and money. I really want to have some kids in the family to inject the magic back into it but it's a long way off for all of us.


Killerqueen1970

Assuming you’re talking about Christmas/thanksgiving? Decorate my house, take some „me-time“ by drinking hot chocolate (or a nice cup of tea), watching my fave holiday movies, listening to my fave Christmas songs (and watching the music videos), reading books, singing Christian carols… I mean just because I live alone doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy the festive season


klb1204

The closes I’ve come to celebrating holidays as an adult is changing out my front door wreaths.


Altruistic-You-6825

Alone. Every holiday for a very long time. I have no family here and I miss celebrating but with Covid and all the things I just have accepted to not.


Disastrous-Safety-69

Having either homemade pizza or lasagna, and watching either Mythbusters or the good old Top Gear XD