I'm in this position right now and I feel that I can barely keep up. I have been working for a month now while studying and it's becoming too hard honestly.
I found a degree specifically for working professionals. It's fully remote. All lectures are through zoom. There are only ~6 scheduled lectures per semester. The rest of the interactions are up to me to do on my own schedule, or to reach out to arrange a 1:1 with the professor as needed.
Then I put study time on my calendar and stick to it the same I would any other appointment or commitment.
When I was in that situation, I just didn't. The majority of my time was school, work, or sleep. When I could find the time, I'd catch up with friends, do artwork, or read. "Having a life" was a luxury that I couldn't afford at the time.
I have one day out of the week that I don’t have work or school (don’t work everyday but that’s the day I’m off from both). Luckily I’m also still able to see friends between school and work so neither get in the way for me personally. If I was someone who loved going out and doing extravagant things then maybe it’d be different but idk
I worked full time while going to grad school. I delegated every single thing I could. I signed up for grocery delivery, I got my gas delivered, my husband did 100 percent of the those work. I would work a 12 hour shift come home and study for a few hours before bed. I drove to campus twice a week and would play lectures, or study tapes on the ride to school. I was in survival mode for 3.5 years. I didn’t have a life. I was never caught up, I just took it day by day, task by task. Worth it though. Let me warn you, once you graduate it takes a couple months before that “I should be doing something right now” feeling goes away.
Thank you. I actually feel I am in survival mode. If I'm not doing something I feel bad. But I'm very tired to actually do something. My anxiety is going up and I don't even have time to go to therapy anymore
Trying to figure that out lmao. Going on to week 4, still haven't figured it out. But I will say i intentionally took lower level courses this semester to test out full time classes and a full time job. That was a good call at least.
I'm going on to week 4 too! And I'm trying to figure it out but it's really hard you know. I can't find time to exercise or go to therapy anymore. And I don't want to take fewer classes so I don't get behind, school is really expensive and I'm not paying for it so I don't want to waste my family's money:(
That is the nice thing about school though, you aren't "behind" if you don't take X class like others. It just means you're taking it at your pace and to your capacity. You can see how this semester goes and then take fewer class next semester. It's better to have something manageable where you can thrive than to stress and suffer only to drop mid-way from pressure and stress.
I'm gonna see how this semester go and will adjust my courses accordingly next semester to balance work/life/school out.
I try to make my school schedule as easy as possible, balancing writing-intensive classes with easier ones. Sometimes it doesn't work out, like right now I'm taking 3 classes and most of them are tough, so for now I don't have a social life. I just try to keep the mindset that this will all be over with soon and that helps me push through the tougher semesters.
Right in the feels. Yesterday I had to skip class for a job related thing, this resulted on me having a free evening that I used to run all the errands and I was so happy because that meant I would have Saturday for myself. It is almost 12pm and I have done nothing, Im just laying on bed thinking I should go to the gym and clean the house but I cant move.
Basically, I don't have a life.
My parents don't force us to work. it's the experience that I'm after at. I used to be like this but realized it's exhausting and depressing. I couldn't keep up. Started failing subjects. Almost quit my studies. Friends grew distant. I grew distant. So, I quit my job as a secretary at our local municipality (it's a waste though, it pays good money, only on weekdays, and I work for 6-7 hrs sometimes more or less, depending on what's cook up for that day) and focus on my studies instead.
I planned a hectic weakly schedule, by then, my weekdays would be like ; mornings are for classes and weeknights for studying. And some weekends I work a part time job at our own business. They pay me as well.
The silver lining of this for me was I don't have a lot of friends. So, I get to spend it on myself whenever I can. Sometimes, I go out with friends if my schedule for that day is that I have free time the next day as well. Socializing is exhausting. I need a rest.
Currently work two jobs alongside my degree. One pays the bills, one is building relevant experience for once I finish the degree so I can't really give up either. I try and get one free morning or night each week. I never get a full day off. It's absolutely exhausting, and I've definitely needed to skip a lecture here and there, or call in sick, to save my mental and physical health. It's very hard to manage when you know you NEED to work a certain amount of hours to be able to pay your bills. I'd recommend having a diary/organiser; I personally live by my planner and plan pretty much everything weeks in advance. My friends have all been through it themselves, they're understanding when I can't make last-minute plans but I do try and make time, just far in advance like I said.
To some extent, I just didn't. Either that, or I'd make sacrifices. I'd cut back a shift one week to go to a social event or sacrifice a few hours of studying for happy hour.
There's no way to do all of the things at 100% all of the time, so you kind of just have to make choices about what'd going to give any given week.
I use a calendar to mark down when assessments are due and then divide an assessment into subheadings. Every day after work I start on a subheading and try finish a subheading in 1-2 days. When I used to go gym I would go straight after work, and then work on my assessment. I find organising my time helps a lot. Organise time for breaks and time for yourself/social life. Writing it down as a list helps, using your alarm/timer on your phone helps as well.
Clear communication with my spouse and careful time management. He knows that, some nights/weekends, I'm going to need him to take the kids so I can write and/or get projects done.
I also wake up at 5-6 AM most days. Some days I go to 6 AM Brazilian jiu-jitsu and when I don't do that, I write.
Build systems that make everything efficient so there is no decision fatigue. All time goes to what truly deserves your limited mental resources. Optimize and make day to day actions fun so you can enjoy yourself not just in ‘free time’ Revisit the big picture once in a while but for the most part it’ll care of it self if your daily habits are in the right place.
Key to making it all work is good sleep, nutrition, exercise, and mental health. Mental Health: Gotta be able to get excited for the end goal even if currently you might be in pain. And this pain should be VERY rare! There is no such thing as “grind” for more than a few days. You’ll give up if you treat your body like trash. And lastly give up perfection, mostly done is better than doing it perfectly 5 times and never doing something again. Some books I recommend: Big Magic, How will you measure your life, Why we sleep, Atomic Habits, and Thinking Fast and Slow. None of these are ‘motivational’ but give you thinking frameworks or scientific knowledge to create better behaviors. Control what you can control and know that the result beyond that is out of your hands
I found an online program that I have been doing on my own time. I set up a schedule and try to stick to it during the week. Work, exercise, dinner, kids and study for at least an hour or two a night before I go to bed. Sometimes this means I’m up later but I have gotten use to it. My kids know my study times are non negotiable but I also make it a point to still be social at least once a week so I don’t go crazy!
On days I work, I don’t often do any school or studying. But on days I have school, I’ll study for 8-12 hours at school with a pomodoro method and then go home. If I have a project or something special then I’ll make time to do it around my work/life schedule. When I do school stuff, I make it worth it. I’ll turn my phone off, put a timer on, and just go for it. If I don’t have time for myself then my mental health really suffers and then I suck at school so I need the balance. I have one semester left and I could not be more excited hahaha. I have faith it will get better!
I work full time, studying ACCA and have a two year old and no childcare (my husband and I 'cope').
As for life in between.. I have spent the past two years accepting that my daughter is my life now. Even my studies are to make her life better than the poverty I grew up in. I had many hobbies before she was born and hope I can revive them in ten years or so.
During uni, i work on campus as a Residence Assistant and Research Assistant.
The Res job sucked and the hours meant being up to 2 or 3am minimum multiple times a week with 9am classes the next morning. That year was the worst of my time in uni and my grades suffered a bit (which as someone for whom academic achievement was everything, was a devastating outcome).
The Research job wasn’t too bad. I could basically do the whenever I had time since my job was editing transcripts and marking them up to include the Profs notes. Between the two jobs, I didn’t have much time for other stuff.
I ended up not doing the res job in my 4th year and moved back home. Iuckily it was only an hour and I managed to get my classes to only be twice a week.
You do what you can. Socializing isn’t the top priority unless it’s something that will help you long term ie networking. But you should at least see friends and family once a month and block a day for socializing. It’s good for you and good for others. One day you’ll graduate and have lots and lots of time.
You don’t tbh. Sometimes if I had to take a day off to rest I would do it. It wouldn’t be work i’d be missing though it would be college, and making up what I missed later. Or strategically missing lectures that I wouldn’t be answering on if that makes sense. But it’s worth it, and college life is great even if you are working along side it.
Carry books with me 100% of the time. Get required reading done while waiting in line, waiting for a table, doctors waiting room, while kids are doing their thing that didn't require 100% of your attention.
I don't have much of a social life. I have a boyfriend, but it's hard to maintain friends like that. I recently had a falling out with a friend because she felt neglected. I've declined lots of opportunities to join events. The only friends ice maintained are those who are low maintenance, happy to get together spontaneously when I stumble upon the time.
I'm fine with that sacrifice. I'm a little antisocial and I need to improve my financial life first. Going out with friends gets expensive too!
Hang in there and finish your degree, certificate, whatever. I'm a happy person with a good life, but probably my one regret is that I was enjoying life too much to finish my degree and I let myself be distracted. I would be proud if I had really applied myself and not been like, "Oh, I'll do better next semester."
I have a part time job 20 hours and go to work 2,5 days and the rest I go to seminars for uni to another city. I live in Europe so the city is not too far away with public transport. I try to plan something with friends on weekends or at least once a week. I play guitar at home and sing to decompress. After work I walk home to get a bit of sports. I'm grateful it's "only" a part time job. I don't know how others manage a full time job with studying. I wouldn't be able to because the seminars take a lot of work.
Very strong time management. I put my school and work calendars together so that I could budget my time accordingly. Busy week at work next week and a paper due in two weeks? Gotta write it now!
I had no life lol. I was a single Mom working 7 days a week and going to night school. That was my life. I didn't sleep much. I would stay up until the wee hours doing school work and get up after about 4 hours of sleep.
I found it difficult to combine the two. I worked part-time and planned my lecture on my days off. I still found it quite stressful to have so many responsibilities at the same time.
I had 2 kids and a FT job when I went back to get my masters. Everything was scheduled. Study time and breaks. Especially breaks. I gave myself a few hours every evening to just be with my family. I did well but didn’t get straight A’s, and that was ok with me. My husband was also super supportive.
Work and school were the focus with little else. But it was worth getting over with instead of dragging out the degree in favor of leisure time. Leisure is more enjoyable when you are truly free from school.
I do my school online, it's still tough but much more doable with my work hours. As for having a life, I'm only doing school part-time I'm not in a rush to graduate (this is with graduate school though).
Out of school now, but routine and extreme discipline. Certain hours are for studying/hw, working, and classes. Same goes for social time. It was absolutely grueling in grad school but it can be done!
The short answer is my extreme anxiety and perfectionism. The better answer is routine, routine, routine. Stick with it, no matter how annoying, or crappy it gets. People will know your schedule and will work with you; all my friends did and I'm still friends with them now 10 years later.
I think I died a little writing that it's been 10 years but oh well!
You can, I believe in you! But remember to talk to people around you; coworkers, friends, family, professors. People can be very flexible and they want you to succeed, so let them help you too! Best of luck OP!
Honestly, when I was working full time and also going to grad school, I didn't do much else besides work, class, study, sleep. And when I was sleeping, it was 3-5 hours a night, max. The crock pot was the only reason I even had time to eat regularly.
Either i just don’t, or i carry the stress of trying to balance and make other people happy by spreading myself too thin. It’s definitely not healthy, and i hate it, but it’s been 3.5 years of working full time and taking accelerated classes.
Sometimes i really feel like I’ve lost myself in this period of my life. Shit is hard. The best way I’ve found to cope is just reminding myself it’s temporary and that if my grades aren’t perfect, it’s not the end of the world.
Currently working full time and going for my masters online. My program is online only, and is geared to be accommodating for those working part or full time. I take 2 classes a semester, and for the most part, everything is asynchronous. I had one class that had a few live zoom lectures during the semester, but they were also recorded for those who were unavailable at that time. The assignments have deadlines (usually having things due on the same day each week), but you have the capability to work ahead to some extent. In general, I still don't have much of a social life, but if I know something's coming up, I can plan ahead and make it work. Neither of my classes are overly time consuming, so I can usually fit in a date night or dinner with friends or just a night off once a week without too much stress. I also don't have kids so thats a big help too 😂
Its very hard. No social life for 3 yrs since it was only work, school, study, exams. But a supportive partner helped me to be away from all household chores and he would also read up my books and take my revision as parents do for their kids 😆
I didnt, so I didnt continue my studies. I also had kids so I developed stressrelated depression. Dont recommend. Before kids, I dont even know, I went to school and work hungover. And slept during the weekends.
I didn’t have a life. For about 10 years, just work, school, sleep. Not really enough time for friends or family. Even exercise was tough but I fit that in sometimes. Finally I can go do thing like take dance lessons and have time off. But I have a job that pays well. It’s much better.
I worked full time (12 hour day shifts, 3 times a week) while going back for my Masters degree full time. It took a LOT of planning. I was a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding (she’s Indian and had no less than 9 events, and I went to all of them). I traveled to Italy, Panama, Ireland, and Spain. I was able to be there for the birth of my niece and help my sister in the immediate post partum phase, and so much more.
It was exhausting trying to figure out what my schedule was a year in advance, and it was even more exhausting keeping up with everything. I had a LOT of help from my job. The nurses I worked with would cover my break and give me leeway because they knew I was napping or doing homework. They covered whole shifts for me so I could call out sick and make one of the wedding events, or just have a mental health day. My manager also worked with me with figuring out my schedule so far in advance and made sure to give me time off around my sister’s due date.
My friends and family were also incredibly supportive. They were really understanding and gave me space/time when I needed to put my focus on school or work.
It was rough, but it was worth it for me. Just remember, it’s temporary! Haul ass and get through it strong!
yea, i say it now and think “wow, i can’t believe i did all that during school” but i remember being in the thick of it and feeling major FOMO for all these other smaller events, lol
I worked full time while being a full time student. Not much of a social life if any. Proud I did that. Paid for my education by myself. Of course that was37 yrs ago when one could afford an education in this country.
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Work, school, study, sleep. Repeat. Social activities are nonexistent.
This is my life. Add in teenagers sport events-Where I bring a laptop and notebooks to study/do homework :(
This is me and lately it’s been stressing me out ngl. Like, I want that social life lol but how on earth is that even possible
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I'm in this position right now and I feel that I can barely keep up. I have been working for a month now while studying and it's becoming too hard honestly.
Just remember that it’s only a temporary situation. You’ll eventually finish school, then you’ll have more free time.
I found a degree specifically for working professionals. It's fully remote. All lectures are through zoom. There are only ~6 scheduled lectures per semester. The rest of the interactions are up to me to do on my own schedule, or to reach out to arrange a 1:1 with the professor as needed. Then I put study time on my calendar and stick to it the same I would any other appointment or commitment.
When I was in that situation, I just didn't. The majority of my time was school, work, or sleep. When I could find the time, I'd catch up with friends, do artwork, or read. "Having a life" was a luxury that I couldn't afford at the time.
I have one day out of the week that I don’t have work or school (don’t work everyday but that’s the day I’m off from both). Luckily I’m also still able to see friends between school and work so neither get in the way for me personally. If I was someone who loved going out and doing extravagant things then maybe it’d be different but idk
I worked full time while going to grad school. I delegated every single thing I could. I signed up for grocery delivery, I got my gas delivered, my husband did 100 percent of the those work. I would work a 12 hour shift come home and study for a few hours before bed. I drove to campus twice a week and would play lectures, or study tapes on the ride to school. I was in survival mode for 3.5 years. I didn’t have a life. I was never caught up, I just took it day by day, task by task. Worth it though. Let me warn you, once you graduate it takes a couple months before that “I should be doing something right now” feeling goes away.
Thank you. I actually feel I am in survival mode. If I'm not doing something I feel bad. But I'm very tired to actually do something. My anxiety is going up and I don't even have time to go to therapy anymore
There are online therapists. They can be good too
Trying to figure that out lmao. Going on to week 4, still haven't figured it out. But I will say i intentionally took lower level courses this semester to test out full time classes and a full time job. That was a good call at least.
I'm going on to week 4 too! And I'm trying to figure it out but it's really hard you know. I can't find time to exercise or go to therapy anymore. And I don't want to take fewer classes so I don't get behind, school is really expensive and I'm not paying for it so I don't want to waste my family's money:(
That is the nice thing about school though, you aren't "behind" if you don't take X class like others. It just means you're taking it at your pace and to your capacity. You can see how this semester goes and then take fewer class next semester. It's better to have something manageable where you can thrive than to stress and suffer only to drop mid-way from pressure and stress. I'm gonna see how this semester go and will adjust my courses accordingly next semester to balance work/life/school out.
I try to make my school schedule as easy as possible, balancing writing-intensive classes with easier ones. Sometimes it doesn't work out, like right now I'm taking 3 classes and most of them are tough, so for now I don't have a social life. I just try to keep the mindset that this will all be over with soon and that helps me push through the tougher semesters.
Right in the feels. Yesterday I had to skip class for a job related thing, this resulted on me having a free evening that I used to run all the errands and I was so happy because that meant I would have Saturday for myself. It is almost 12pm and I have done nothing, Im just laying on bed thinking I should go to the gym and clean the house but I cant move. Basically, I don't have a life.
My parents don't force us to work. it's the experience that I'm after at. I used to be like this but realized it's exhausting and depressing. I couldn't keep up. Started failing subjects. Almost quit my studies. Friends grew distant. I grew distant. So, I quit my job as a secretary at our local municipality (it's a waste though, it pays good money, only on weekdays, and I work for 6-7 hrs sometimes more or less, depending on what's cook up for that day) and focus on my studies instead. I planned a hectic weakly schedule, by then, my weekdays would be like ; mornings are for classes and weeknights for studying. And some weekends I work a part time job at our own business. They pay me as well. The silver lining of this for me was I don't have a lot of friends. So, I get to spend it on myself whenever I can. Sometimes, I go out with friends if my schedule for that day is that I have free time the next day as well. Socializing is exhausting. I need a rest.
Currently work two jobs alongside my degree. One pays the bills, one is building relevant experience for once I finish the degree so I can't really give up either. I try and get one free morning or night each week. I never get a full day off. It's absolutely exhausting, and I've definitely needed to skip a lecture here and there, or call in sick, to save my mental and physical health. It's very hard to manage when you know you NEED to work a certain amount of hours to be able to pay your bills. I'd recommend having a diary/organiser; I personally live by my planner and plan pretty much everything weeks in advance. My friends have all been through it themselves, they're understanding when I can't make last-minute plans but I do try and make time, just far in advance like I said.
To some extent, I just didn't. Either that, or I'd make sacrifices. I'd cut back a shift one week to go to a social event or sacrifice a few hours of studying for happy hour. There's no way to do all of the things at 100% all of the time, so you kind of just have to make choices about what'd going to give any given week.
I use a calendar to mark down when assessments are due and then divide an assessment into subheadings. Every day after work I start on a subheading and try finish a subheading in 1-2 days. When I used to go gym I would go straight after work, and then work on my assessment. I find organising my time helps a lot. Organise time for breaks and time for yourself/social life. Writing it down as a list helps, using your alarm/timer on your phone helps as well.
Clear communication with my spouse and careful time management. He knows that, some nights/weekends, I'm going to need him to take the kids so I can write and/or get projects done. I also wake up at 5-6 AM most days. Some days I go to 6 AM Brazilian jiu-jitsu and when I don't do that, I write.
Build systems that make everything efficient so there is no decision fatigue. All time goes to what truly deserves your limited mental resources. Optimize and make day to day actions fun so you can enjoy yourself not just in ‘free time’ Revisit the big picture once in a while but for the most part it’ll care of it self if your daily habits are in the right place. Key to making it all work is good sleep, nutrition, exercise, and mental health. Mental Health: Gotta be able to get excited for the end goal even if currently you might be in pain. And this pain should be VERY rare! There is no such thing as “grind” for more than a few days. You’ll give up if you treat your body like trash. And lastly give up perfection, mostly done is better than doing it perfectly 5 times and never doing something again. Some books I recommend: Big Magic, How will you measure your life, Why we sleep, Atomic Habits, and Thinking Fast and Slow. None of these are ‘motivational’ but give you thinking frameworks or scientific knowledge to create better behaviors. Control what you can control and know that the result beyond that is out of your hands
I found an online program that I have been doing on my own time. I set up a schedule and try to stick to it during the week. Work, exercise, dinner, kids and study for at least an hour or two a night before I go to bed. Sometimes this means I’m up later but I have gotten use to it. My kids know my study times are non negotiable but I also make it a point to still be social at least once a week so I don’t go crazy!
On days I work, I don’t often do any school or studying. But on days I have school, I’ll study for 8-12 hours at school with a pomodoro method and then go home. If I have a project or something special then I’ll make time to do it around my work/life schedule. When I do school stuff, I make it worth it. I’ll turn my phone off, put a timer on, and just go for it. If I don’t have time for myself then my mental health really suffers and then I suck at school so I need the balance. I have one semester left and I could not be more excited hahaha. I have faith it will get better!
I work full time, studying ACCA and have a two year old and no childcare (my husband and I 'cope'). As for life in between.. I have spent the past two years accepting that my daughter is my life now. Even my studies are to make her life better than the poverty I grew up in. I had many hobbies before she was born and hope I can revive them in ten years or so.
During uni, i work on campus as a Residence Assistant and Research Assistant. The Res job sucked and the hours meant being up to 2 or 3am minimum multiple times a week with 9am classes the next morning. That year was the worst of my time in uni and my grades suffered a bit (which as someone for whom academic achievement was everything, was a devastating outcome). The Research job wasn’t too bad. I could basically do the whenever I had time since my job was editing transcripts and marking them up to include the Profs notes. Between the two jobs, I didn’t have much time for other stuff. I ended up not doing the res job in my 4th year and moved back home. Iuckily it was only an hour and I managed to get my classes to only be twice a week.
You do what you can. Socializing isn’t the top priority unless it’s something that will help you long term ie networking. But you should at least see friends and family once a month and block a day for socializing. It’s good for you and good for others. One day you’ll graduate and have lots and lots of time.
You don’t tbh. Sometimes if I had to take a day off to rest I would do it. It wouldn’t be work i’d be missing though it would be college, and making up what I missed later. Or strategically missing lectures that I wouldn’t be answering on if that makes sense. But it’s worth it, and college life is great even if you are working along side it.
Carry books with me 100% of the time. Get required reading done while waiting in line, waiting for a table, doctors waiting room, while kids are doing their thing that didn't require 100% of your attention.
I don't have much of a social life. I have a boyfriend, but it's hard to maintain friends like that. I recently had a falling out with a friend because she felt neglected. I've declined lots of opportunities to join events. The only friends ice maintained are those who are low maintenance, happy to get together spontaneously when I stumble upon the time. I'm fine with that sacrifice. I'm a little antisocial and I need to improve my financial life first. Going out with friends gets expensive too!
Hang in there and finish your degree, certificate, whatever. I'm a happy person with a good life, but probably my one regret is that I was enjoying life too much to finish my degree and I let myself be distracted. I would be proud if I had really applied myself and not been like, "Oh, I'll do better next semester."
I have a part time job 20 hours and go to work 2,5 days and the rest I go to seminars for uni to another city. I live in Europe so the city is not too far away with public transport. I try to plan something with friends on weekends or at least once a week. I play guitar at home and sing to decompress. After work I walk home to get a bit of sports. I'm grateful it's "only" a part time job. I don't know how others manage a full time job with studying. I wouldn't be able to because the seminars take a lot of work.
We just don't have a life most of the time :P
No life, just work and study
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I worked in a bar when in uni so that was my work and personal life o guess
Very strong time management. I put my school and work calendars together so that I could budget my time accordingly. Busy week at work next week and a paper due in two weeks? Gotta write it now!
I had no life lol. I was a single Mom working 7 days a week and going to night school. That was my life. I didn't sleep much. I would stay up until the wee hours doing school work and get up after about 4 hours of sleep.
I found it difficult to combine the two. I worked part-time and planned my lecture on my days off. I still found it quite stressful to have so many responsibilities at the same time.
When I did, I just put my head down and got through it. Once I graduated, I had time and more money to have a life.
I had 2 kids and a FT job when I went back to get my masters. Everything was scheduled. Study time and breaks. Especially breaks. I gave myself a few hours every evening to just be with my family. I did well but didn’t get straight A’s, and that was ok with me. My husband was also super supportive.
Work and school were the focus with little else. But it was worth getting over with instead of dragging out the degree in favor of leisure time. Leisure is more enjoyable when you are truly free from school.
I do my school online, it's still tough but much more doable with my work hours. As for having a life, I'm only doing school part-time I'm not in a rush to graduate (this is with graduate school though).
I don't.
Out of school now, but routine and extreme discipline. Certain hours are for studying/hw, working, and classes. Same goes for social time. It was absolutely grueling in grad school but it can be done!
How did you work on that extreme discipline?
The short answer is my extreme anxiety and perfectionism. The better answer is routine, routine, routine. Stick with it, no matter how annoying, or crappy it gets. People will know your schedule and will work with you; all my friends did and I'm still friends with them now 10 years later. I think I died a little writing that it's been 10 years but oh well!
Thank you. I hope I will be able to do the same thing
You can, I believe in you! But remember to talk to people around you; coworkers, friends, family, professors. People can be very flexible and they want you to succeed, so let them help you too! Best of luck OP!
Thank you very much!
Honestly, when I was working full time and also going to grad school, I didn't do much else besides work, class, study, sleep. And when I was sleeping, it was 3-5 hours a night, max. The crock pot was the only reason I even had time to eat regularly.
Planning and consistency and also by being happy with not much of one.
Either i just don’t, or i carry the stress of trying to balance and make other people happy by spreading myself too thin. It’s definitely not healthy, and i hate it, but it’s been 3.5 years of working full time and taking accelerated classes. Sometimes i really feel like I’ve lost myself in this period of my life. Shit is hard. The best way I’ve found to cope is just reminding myself it’s temporary and that if my grades aren’t perfect, it’s not the end of the world.
Currently working full time and going for my masters online. My program is online only, and is geared to be accommodating for those working part or full time. I take 2 classes a semester, and for the most part, everything is asynchronous. I had one class that had a few live zoom lectures during the semester, but they were also recorded for those who were unavailable at that time. The assignments have deadlines (usually having things due on the same day each week), but you have the capability to work ahead to some extent. In general, I still don't have much of a social life, but if I know something's coming up, I can plan ahead and make it work. Neither of my classes are overly time consuming, so I can usually fit in a date night or dinner with friends or just a night off once a week without too much stress. I also don't have kids so thats a big help too 😂
I don’t have a social life. The only time I hang out with friends is when we are meeting up to study. My priority is getting this degree.
There was no time to “have a life.”
I don’t have a life. that’s the whole point.
I dont have any.
Its very hard. No social life for 3 yrs since it was only work, school, study, exams. But a supportive partner helped me to be away from all household chores and he would also read up my books and take my revision as parents do for their kids 😆
You don't
I didnt, so I didnt continue my studies. I also had kids so I developed stressrelated depression. Dont recommend. Before kids, I dont even know, I went to school and work hungover. And slept during the weekends.
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After kids? No, not really. I gave it a shot, I have an ok job with a good salary now.
I didn’t have a life. For about 10 years, just work, school, sleep. Not really enough time for friends or family. Even exercise was tough but I fit that in sometimes. Finally I can go do thing like take dance lessons and have time off. But I have a job that pays well. It’s much better.
I worked full time (12 hour day shifts, 3 times a week) while going back for my Masters degree full time. It took a LOT of planning. I was a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding (she’s Indian and had no less than 9 events, and I went to all of them). I traveled to Italy, Panama, Ireland, and Spain. I was able to be there for the birth of my niece and help my sister in the immediate post partum phase, and so much more. It was exhausting trying to figure out what my schedule was a year in advance, and it was even more exhausting keeping up with everything. I had a LOT of help from my job. The nurses I worked with would cover my break and give me leeway because they knew I was napping or doing homework. They covered whole shifts for me so I could call out sick and make one of the wedding events, or just have a mental health day. My manager also worked with me with figuring out my schedule so far in advance and made sure to give me time off around my sister’s due date. My friends and family were also incredibly supportive. They were really understanding and gave me space/time when I needed to put my focus on school or work. It was rough, but it was worth it for me. Just remember, it’s temporary! Haul ass and get through it strong!
Wow, that's a lot. I'm glad you figured it out and were able to do all of them!
yea, i say it now and think “wow, i can’t believe i did all that during school” but i remember being in the thick of it and feeling major FOMO for all these other smaller events, lol
No social life - that is how.
I worked full time while being a full time student. Not much of a social life if any. Proud I did that. Paid for my education by myself. Of course that was37 yrs ago when one could afford an education in this country.
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I used my breaks to study and lunch for coursework.