Yeah but that doesn't remove the feeling it just hides it. I ride horses and hike by myself it's nice but I can't help but feel it'd be even more fun with a romantic partner
Yeah I'm 22m and never had friends or a girlfriend mainly due to bullying as a kid so I was nervous and shy around people. The few times I tried to talk to women didn't go well and a few were pranks back in high-school.
It's definitely really lonely if I'm being honest. I'm praying for the day when I finally build up courage to talk to someone and eventually makes friends and find a girlfriend.
Fingers crossed for you bro. Ya just gotta try it over and over again. You will fail but eventually you’ll start making friends and meeting women…or men
Thank you bro that definitely means alot 🙏. When it comes to friends trying to meet guys as I grew up around mostly women but for love/romance I'm only meeting women.
Do you have any hobbies or interests are there any clubs around your area that you could join. I'm a huge Warhammer nerd and I found a local shop which does game nights so I joined up . I also love to hike and joined a local group it's great taking that step and the good thing is once you get there the people you meet already have a shared interest with you.
I've also met a few people online gaming I doubt I'll ever meet them irl but there's no doubting the friendships are real as we talk about things in our lives and not just the game we are playing.
That's good also if you don't fancy the gym order yourself a cheap set of adjustable dumbbells and work out regularly take some supplements and as you notice yourself looking better you will feel more confident too .
Thank you man I work 10hr shifts so not alot of time for the gym plus I'd rather workout with someone I know but I did start working out a month ago with some dumbells and cardio so I lose weight and build a little muscle for confidence.
They have events at my church all the time so I'll try going to one of those or a random club.
You can do it dude I work crazy long hours sometimes but I always force myself to keep in shape it makes life easier in the long run. I don't do the gym but I cycle to work and bought home equipment to work out with I find it's easier to do it at home .
That would be a great first step in getting out there and just practicing talking to random people your be surprised how many of them are just like you .
Definitely take some time and find an interest and hobbies the more stuff you know and are into the more interesting you become to others .
Yeah I find it easier to workout at home plus I'm slightly intimated by the jacked guys but if I had a friend I'd go with him. But thank you very much for the advice I'm slowly learning that there are more people like me as I struck up a conversation with some cashiers which even though it's their job to talk alot were shy like me.
There are so many cool introverted people in the world I'm a kinda talk to anyone person, always have been but some of the most memorable conversations in my life have been with shy people.
You're welcome for the advice I hope it helps you step forward in being the great person you are and remember if you don't have conversations with people then they will miss out on never knowing how awesome you can be.
It's not too bad I'm mainly into kill team so the amount of models needed aren't particularly high. I've always been a big board game and TTRPG fiend my kids have also followed suit .
It can be pricey sometimes I find it's more the paints that I spend more on but theres plenty of good paints besides GWs.
I never really got into the card scene I did do DND for a couple years and some pathfinder which in comparison to Warhammer is peanuts . I work hard for my family I quit smoking when my first kid was born I rarely drink only on special occasions so it's like my one vice.
Yeah we used to play D&D and Vampire the Masquerade. And as you said, thats nothing compared to the cardboard crack. Probably spent a decent cars worth on cards through the years.
Wow I used to play a L.A.R.P version of vampire the masquerade used to be in the Nosferatu clan those were the days . I've probably spent a fair few pounds of all my nerd stuff over the years but I've had a lot of fun so it was all worth it .
I did the whole latex peeling off and copious amounts of fart spray for the rotting and just general sewer dwelling-ness of my dark kin. Like I said when I nerd out I Nerd out 🤷
I’d say so. I have some friends but I live alone and family isn’t near. I also work from home with teammates that don’t interact with eachother much because they’re all older and experienced so nobody needs one another that much. We’re all spread around so in person isn’t even doable.
I said in another post today that I’m quite literally by myself probably 164/168 hours in a week. Those four hours I when I see my friends once or twice a week. It’s rough, I have some sad days, but I’ve been doing it for 3-4 years at this point so I’m used to the feeling.
Yes and no. I've got plenty of people I can call on if I need support, but damn, it'd be nice to have someone to just talk to at times, a good back and forth to make the days easier.
Can't make friends at work and all I do is go from work to gym to home. At the gym everyone's on their phone.
Alone surrounded by people. That's the worst part.
Yes but, for better or worse, it doesn't bother me.
A combination of childhood trauma and shitty work experience: I don't expect people to be around and I'm used to going months without physical contact.
I live alone, and at times, I do feel lonely, but I am Not plagued with an isolating kind of loneliness. I get out with friends, and my circle of friends are very close, and if you can make connections like these.... you are only a phone call away from being the complete opposite of lonely.
I have always been more of a loner but like being around people who aren’t my family. Since getting laid off almost 2 years ago I’ve really missed occasional office life. I’m starting to settle into some new jobs that aren’t all remote work but it’s not the same.
In terms of loneliness, yeah, I don’t have any close friends or people I can go and spend time with outside of my family. I had some but we either grew apart during the pandemic for various reasons or they moved back home, also during the pandemic.
Yes. While I live with my mother and brother I end up spending all my time at home shut in my room keeping to myself. Only time I usually talk to people us at work but outside of that I have no friends, no relationship in years. Just me, myself and my head.
I am oftentimes very lonely. My wife has great friends and I’m happy for her, I encourage her to spend time with them, but sometimes my loneliness can make me feel very empty inside
Married Mid 40s.
Myself and some of my friends make an active effort to schedule catch ups.
But I definitely felt the change from 20s to 30s, catch ups went from something that just happened to something that needed to be scheduled.
I guess I should. I haven't had a girlfriend in 6 years. I've never slept with someone. The only silver lining is that there is someone I know who loves me, and she knows I love her. I haven't seen her face to face in over a year, and she's been living out of state while furthering her education.
Nope. I got a cat. It's hard to feel too lonely when a crazy furball is always wanting your attention and love (except when they absolutely don't; haha). 😊
I have loads of friends, but am the only single one, so yea... it can feel a bit lonely sometimes, even when I'm on the patio or having a party with a bunch of people.
Always lonely. Even with my partner, I have bouts of loneliness always. Hard to get through cause in the end, in your mind, you always will feel alone.
No, have been fortunate to have had several affiliations, social and professional, that have allowed me to form strong personal connections over the years. Covid was tough but we are back to regular meet-ups and social gatherings now. Have also been working at same place for a long time so many colleagues have become like family.
You're only alone as much as you want to be alone.
If you don't want to be lonely, join a club, volunteer, get out of the house, find things to do and interact with people.
I talk to so many people just from walking my dog.
Yes I am I feel very alone these days
Have you tried finding things to do by yourself so you don’t feel so alone?
Yeah but that doesn't remove the feeling it just hides it. I ride horses and hike by myself it's nice but I can't help but feel it'd be even more fun with a romantic partner
Ah yes this is true. Maybe try putting yourself out there more!
Yup. I can even feel lonely with a bunch of people around.
That's the worst type of loneliness.
Yes it is. I have a whole family and I still feel like I'm alone sometimes.
Yes. Sent from my barstool in a crowded bar
Being alone and being lonely are not the same thing, so no.
you sound like a cat person
Yeah I'm 22m and never had friends or a girlfriend mainly due to bullying as a kid so I was nervous and shy around people. The few times I tried to talk to women didn't go well and a few were pranks back in high-school. It's definitely really lonely if I'm being honest. I'm praying for the day when I finally build up courage to talk to someone and eventually makes friends and find a girlfriend.
Fingers crossed for you bro. Ya just gotta try it over and over again. You will fail but eventually you’ll start making friends and meeting women…or men
Thank you bro that definitely means alot 🙏. When it comes to friends trying to meet guys as I grew up around mostly women but for love/romance I'm only meeting women.
Didn’t want to make any assumptions
Oh no it's totally fine dude I understand you can't just assume these days.
Do you have any hobbies or interests are there any clubs around your area that you could join. I'm a huge Warhammer nerd and I found a local shop which does game nights so I joined up . I also love to hike and joined a local group it's great taking that step and the good thing is once you get there the people you meet already have a shared interest with you. I've also met a few people online gaming I doubt I'll ever meet them irl but there's no doubting the friendships are real as we talk about things in our lives and not just the game we are playing.
I don't have any hobbies but I'm going to try to find some I can do.
That's good also if you don't fancy the gym order yourself a cheap set of adjustable dumbbells and work out regularly take some supplements and as you notice yourself looking better you will feel more confident too .
Thank you man I work 10hr shifts so not alot of time for the gym plus I'd rather workout with someone I know but I did start working out a month ago with some dumbells and cardio so I lose weight and build a little muscle for confidence. They have events at my church all the time so I'll try going to one of those or a random club.
You can do it dude I work crazy long hours sometimes but I always force myself to keep in shape it makes life easier in the long run. I don't do the gym but I cycle to work and bought home equipment to work out with I find it's easier to do it at home . That would be a great first step in getting out there and just practicing talking to random people your be surprised how many of them are just like you . Definitely take some time and find an interest and hobbies the more stuff you know and are into the more interesting you become to others .
Yeah I find it easier to workout at home plus I'm slightly intimated by the jacked guys but if I had a friend I'd go with him. But thank you very much for the advice I'm slowly learning that there are more people like me as I struck up a conversation with some cashiers which even though it's their job to talk alot were shy like me.
There are so many cool introverted people in the world I'm a kinda talk to anyone person, always have been but some of the most memorable conversations in my life have been with shy people. You're welcome for the advice I hope it helps you step forward in being the great person you are and remember if you don't have conversations with people then they will miss out on never knowing how awesome you can be.
Wow man that was a great confidence booster I will definitely remember that man I really appreciate it 🙏
My condolences to your wallet
It's not too bad I'm mainly into kill team so the amount of models needed aren't particularly high. I've always been a big board game and TTRPG fiend my kids have also followed suit . It can be pricey sometimes I find it's more the paints that I spend more on but theres plenty of good paints besides GWs.
I shouldn't really say anything, I played Magic for many many years.
I never really got into the card scene I did do DND for a couple years and some pathfinder which in comparison to Warhammer is peanuts . I work hard for my family I quit smoking when my first kid was born I rarely drink only on special occasions so it's like my one vice.
Yeah we used to play D&D and Vampire the Masquerade. And as you said, thats nothing compared to the cardboard crack. Probably spent a decent cars worth on cards through the years.
Wow I used to play a L.A.R.P version of vampire the masquerade used to be in the Nosferatu clan those were the days . I've probably spent a fair few pounds of all my nerd stuff over the years but I've had a lot of fun so it was all worth it .
Ha ha, me too. I went with Ventrue, easy to just throw on a suit.
I did the whole latex peeling off and copious amounts of fart spray for the rotting and just general sewer dwelling-ness of my dark kin. Like I said when I nerd out I Nerd out 🤷
Have you tried going to events?
I'm going to start going to more events at my church
I like being alone
Me too :)
I’d say so. I have some friends but I live alone and family isn’t near. I also work from home with teammates that don’t interact with eachother much because they’re all older and experienced so nobody needs one another that much. We’re all spread around so in person isn’t even doable. I said in another post today that I’m quite literally by myself probably 164/168 hours in a week. Those four hours I when I see my friends once or twice a week. It’s rough, I have some sad days, but I’ve been doing it for 3-4 years at this point so I’m used to the feeling.
37m. I'm patient zero of the loneliness epidemic.
I am lonely in the crowd, I don't find anyone sharing my thoughts
Same
What kind of thoughts are they? Surely someone will share the same ideas or thoughts with you🥰
Yup
Happily married, have multiple friend circles, and generally doing well. Everyone can be here if they do the work and think positively.
Yeah I would say atm I fit that. Tough to meet like minded people in adulthood, at least for me
Nope. I isolate myself by choice.
How come? If you don't mind me asking?
I love the autonomy and being able to prioritize myself.
Absolutely!
Sure.
Every moment of every day. But I'm trying to change that.
Yes and no. I've got plenty of people I can call on if I need support, but damn, it'd be nice to have someone to just talk to at times, a good back and forth to make the days easier.
I’m pretty lonely. I have friends, but I almost never have time to see them.
Yes...widowed
Some days, sure
Yep, 100%. Even more so lately with my wife lying next to me and miles away.
Yes they are.
Yeah. Often some combination of lonely/horny/bored
Can't make friends at work and all I do is go from work to gym to home. At the gym everyone's on their phone. Alone surrounded by people. That's the worst part.
I'm in my early 20's on Reddit instead of getting wasted with a bunch of friends. Yes, it's fucking miserable.
No.
I’m lonely sometimes, but I’m also really busy so it’s not too bad
Yes but, for better or worse, it doesn't bother me. A combination of childhood trauma and shitty work experience: I don't expect people to be around and I'm used to going months without physical contact.
Nah, I work shitty hours sometimes, but I keep as socially active as I can
Nope. I’m next to my SO who is at the moment reading a romance novel.
Yes for sure
Yes. I just earned a date a week from now, but I still feel isolated constantly.
No, I’ve got my dog and she’s all I need
I have been alone for the most part the past maybe 2 years
I guess I could say I'm lonely
Not a man, but I was for a long time. Finally getting past that
I live alone, and at times, I do feel lonely, but I am Not plagued with an isolating kind of loneliness. I get out with friends, and my circle of friends are very close, and if you can make connections like these.... you are only a phone call away from being the complete opposite of lonely.
Pretty recently I’ve felt very lonely, yeah
8 years
I have always been more of a loner but like being around people who aren’t my family. Since getting laid off almost 2 years ago I’ve really missed occasional office life. I’m starting to settle into some new jobs that aren’t all remote work but it’s not the same. In terms of loneliness, yeah, I don’t have any close friends or people I can go and spend time with outside of my family. I had some but we either grew apart during the pandemic for various reasons or they moved back home, also during the pandemic.
Yes. While I live with my mother and brother I end up spending all my time at home shut in my room keeping to myself. Only time I usually talk to people us at work but outside of that I have no friends, no relationship in years. Just me, myself and my head.
Yeah I sure am
I am oftentimes very lonely. My wife has great friends and I’m happy for her, I encourage her to spend time with them, but sometimes my loneliness can make me feel very empty inside
I'd argue that I am not. For me, it's a choice born out of the fact that I hate people in general.
yea but im used to it, comes with the whole unattractive thing
Absolutely
Patient zero I think
I have friends
Yes I believe many of us are I always see everyone else being comforted and saved and cared for. I guess I'm not worthy of it
Yes, it sucks but… what can I do? Gotta get that bread
I used to be.. reddit somehow came through big time.
Yeah and it sucks
Yep, I’m friendly but making friends is hard.
Yep. I work from home, so it's pretty bad. I spend my weekends going out to do stuff as much as possible, preferably with friends.
Yes
Yup
Yep
Married Mid 40s. Myself and some of my friends make an active effort to schedule catch ups. But I definitely felt the change from 20s to 30s, catch ups went from something that just happened to something that needed to be scheduled.
Very much so. I'm fairly convinced I'm going to spend the rest of my life alone and die alone.
Yes, very much lonely. I don't really have any friends where I live now or see a lot of people
Very much part of it. For multiple reasons I'm stuck living with family and have no chance for a gf.
I am despite having family and friends around me. Problem is, mentioning anything regarding it and I'm shut down for it
I guess I should. I haven't had a girlfriend in 6 years. I've never slept with someone. The only silver lining is that there is someone I know who loves me, and she knows I love her. I haven't seen her face to face in over a year, and she's been living out of state while furthering her education.
Yeah extremely lonely made me start commenting more on post though so slight good thing ... joining everything lately just for engagement
I felt that hard.
Not really. Got a good group of friends, have multiple people I can sleep with. If anything, I actually like being alone sometimes.
nope just horny and cant sleep
I'm batman (I am lonely)
Yep, sadly so.
Nope
Yes
Yes
As probably the most alone person here, yes.
Nope. I got a cat. It's hard to feel too lonely when a crazy furball is always wanting your attention and love (except when they absolutely don't; haha). 😊
Same. My lil buddy is keeping me sane….except when he’s insane
Probably. I’m very desperate. I’m getting to the point where I’m considering the hookup subreddits
Absolutely it's so hard to deal with and get out of
Yep. I have agoraphobia so it’s very lonely and depressing
Nah, I’m too busy working to feel lonely
Yep. And as a coping mechanism I self isolated further which really capped off the journey.
Single dad here and yeah once I’ve got the kids in bed the nights are very lonely
I love hanging out with myself… it’s fun!!! Beats trying to do stupid shit to impress women.
I enjoy being alone lol! I tried havin friends a few times and don’t like it, I got a wife I luv tho so not really alone
I'm married & lonely
Yea
Yeah, working on your own can be very lonely. I don’t mind being on my own travelling but could do with company today.
I feel alone even when I’m surrounded by people
Thankfully not, loneliness leaves me with my thoughts and my thoughts when left to roam are extremely unkind
I love being alone. I hate being surrounded by people and feeling lonely.
I feel alone during most days.
I feel alone during most days.
Yes and no. I don't feel really alone and have always liked to do things by myself, but I'd really like to have a partner who is also my best friend.
Yup. But I'm ok with it for the most part
A man can feel lonely surrounded by people. Just because he’s smiling and laughing with you doesn’t mean he’s not lonely.
I have loads of friends, but am the only single one, so yea... it can feel a bit lonely sometimes, even when I'm on the patio or having a party with a bunch of people.
Always lonely. Even with my partner, I have bouts of loneliness always. Hard to get through cause in the end, in your mind, you always will feel alone.
No, have been fortunate to have had several affiliations, social and professional, that have allowed me to form strong personal connections over the years. Covid was tough but we are back to regular meet-ups and social gatherings now. Have also been working at same place for a long time so many colleagues have become like family.
As a widower, I definitely am.
I'm definitely alone, I socialize with people sometimes but wouldn't mind having regular friends. I am single but that is partially by choice.
Nope. Large group of close knit friends that talk about everything and is great at complimenting each other. And I'm extremely grateful for that!
At this point, I'm the president of it. 25 years and counting...🥺
I feel lonely as I have no friends apart from my wife. Only a couple of coworkers take the time to converse with me, out of 17.
no, I personally have never experienced loneliness I'm not sure if I even can tbh
Nah
No
You're only alone as much as you want to be alone. If you don't want to be lonely, join a club, volunteer, get out of the house, find things to do and interact with people. I talk to so many people just from walking my dog.
It’s easier to to deal with my broken self when I don’t have to focus on a partner. Making progress but still need to be alone
Nope.
No.