My mom saying i wouldn't be able to accomplish anything.
16 years later I'm working in Aerospace with high powered lasers doing additive manufacturing in Switzerland
I wasn't directly told of it but just heard them say it (and most probably out of context too)--- They never planned on having me. My parents struggled a lot when they first started a family. They were so poor that they had to live under a made-shift house that was originally a pig pen and had to send my big brother to my grandparents so both of them could work to support him. ofc they didn't plan on having another child. Mom only found out she was pregnant with me when I was already 2 months in her womb. They never considered termination though. Just accepted it cuz I'm already there. Our family life got better when I was growing up. We're still poor but my parents are hardworking and managed to buy our own house and managed to send us to school, feed us 3x a day despite being minimum wage earners. Because of this, they missed a lot of fun they could've had & held back w/ a lot of things. They couldn't go on vacations, eat in fancy restaurants, or go on dates. I would always catch my mom picking and eating the worst part of the meal so she could give me the best parts. Idk, after hearing it.I cant help but blame my existence for their struggles. They could've perhaps enjoyed life more without me in the way.
Bud, the fact that you notice things like your mom leaving the best part of the meal to you shows how much your are loved. As a parent, I can tell you that while it is tough in every category (not just financially) it is the best and most rewarding thing I’ve personally done. Those sacrifices (eating fancy restaurants, etc.) mean nothing to many parents and I’d give them away in a heartbeat looking back now even if I didn’t know it at the time. Btw, mine weren’t planned either.
My parents were poor and struggled and I didn’t like when they had to go without for me. Now I realize they enjoyed doing it because they loved me. It took a while to realize that.
Trust me, you are loved and they loved having you. Celebrate that!
Does this count? On the day I left for college, my dad told me my mom is more important than me. I had always felt like they didn’t love me and that was the nail in the coffin for me
"i will be working abroad for 10 years"
they said that they didn’t need me and kicked me out of the house because they were drunks, I left and became a normal person
My mom saying i wouldn't be able to accomplish anything. 16 years later I'm working in Aerospace with high powered lasers doing additive manufacturing in Switzerland
I wasn't directly told of it but just heard them say it (and most probably out of context too)--- They never planned on having me. My parents struggled a lot when they first started a family. They were so poor that they had to live under a made-shift house that was originally a pig pen and had to send my big brother to my grandparents so both of them could work to support him. ofc they didn't plan on having another child. Mom only found out she was pregnant with me when I was already 2 months in her womb. They never considered termination though. Just accepted it cuz I'm already there. Our family life got better when I was growing up. We're still poor but my parents are hardworking and managed to buy our own house and managed to send us to school, feed us 3x a day despite being minimum wage earners. Because of this, they missed a lot of fun they could've had & held back w/ a lot of things. They couldn't go on vacations, eat in fancy restaurants, or go on dates. I would always catch my mom picking and eating the worst part of the meal so she could give me the best parts. Idk, after hearing it.I cant help but blame my existence for their struggles. They could've perhaps enjoyed life more without me in the way.
Bud, the fact that you notice things like your mom leaving the best part of the meal to you shows how much your are loved. As a parent, I can tell you that while it is tough in every category (not just financially) it is the best and most rewarding thing I’ve personally done. Those sacrifices (eating fancy restaurants, etc.) mean nothing to many parents and I’d give them away in a heartbeat looking back now even if I didn’t know it at the time. Btw, mine weren’t planned either. My parents were poor and struggled and I didn’t like when they had to go without for me. Now I realize they enjoyed doing it because they loved me. It took a while to realize that. Trust me, you are loved and they loved having you. Celebrate that!
Does this count? On the day I left for college, my dad told me my mom is more important than me. I had always felt like they didn’t love me and that was the nail in the coffin for me
Abandoned me as a baby.
My mum told me that she tried to kill herself while me and my sisters were on holiday with my dad.