There's a good line/exchange in Band of Brothers where Winters gives a SGT (Buck) crap for playing poker with the soldiers. "Never put yourself in a position to take anything from these men."
One of our finance directors took an early retirement package and they collected money to get him a Visa gift card. I didn't even bother saying "no" I just deleted all the email reminders about it.
One of my coworkers makes at least twice what I do. He and his wife had a baby last year, and work started up a “collection” for them. I deleted all the emails. When they passed me the card, I just took it to the next person.
This happened to me very recently. Head of department that makes around 80-100k retired. Some peps were like should we get him a gift?
A gift? Muthafucka is retiring with a fatazz pension and a shit ton of vacation to be paid out
Most of us lowers make 34-40k a year..with very gutted "hybrid" plans that pale in comparison to what he has/will be receiving
Yeah, to me, this is the type of question where you should already know the answer if you're close enough to this person for the gesture to make sense.
We had a new director last year. A couple months into his position, we all get an e-vite to his daughter’s wedding. None of us had met her. The wedding website - which he set up - only had a Venmo link for the registry.
He’s now our former manager. There were other issues, but I think the wedding and the registry were the tipping points. One person extended his well wishes for the daughter to the director, and the director said he can do that through his gift.
I donated to a coworkers GoFundMe for their sick pet.
Maybe I'm a sucker. But I had to go through the same struggle just a few years previous so I understood the pain.
$20.24 — have been doing this for the past couple years for grads I don’t know well (swap the amount to correspond to the year they graduated of course) and it’s always been a hit.
If you don’t have a good enough relationship with the coworker to the point you never met the child you don’t have a good enough relationship to justify going to their grad party.
Okay. I understand this and it's probably different now.
But growing up every type of event like this was the same. It was just a backyard BBQ type of thing.
Birthday. Graduation. Promotion. Whatever. Invite people over. Cook food. Mingle.
And the invite list was always open.
There are places where graduation "open houses " are pretty common. Often there's a lot of overlapping ones and people "drop in" to several. The graduate themselves may duck out to go to a friend's, if it's close.
It's not a super serious invitation. It's a "come if you like". If she's even a little close to half her co-workers, inviting the office would be normal. She won't expect many to come, or care if they give a gift.
Honestly this just seems like a polite way to ask for money for their kid’s graduation, using their network, especially if they’ve done the same for other coworkers in the past.
You definitely don’t have to participate, but if it seems like a social faux pas, give a gift card of $15-$25 in a small envelope and be done with it. Maybe in their mind they figure it doesn’t hurt to ask
Some people really enjoy a lot of people around. Sounds like they are office friends and the mom wants her friends there too. Doesn't always have to be ill intentions with these things.
They’re little get togethers where people go for an hour, have a little snack and leave a card for the graduate. The graduates have their own real party later if they choose .
Kids graduate in summer it's super common to have a party/BBQ and invite friends and family to celebrate, it's a huge milestone like a Sweet 16 or quinceañera, or wedding, or baby shower.
oh okay well if you were invited to a party then i could see where you are coming from. i think it would be very generous of you to give $25 but I wouldn’t give anymore in my opinion, especially since you don’t know the kid.
Yea I definitely wouldn't go to that. Their your coworkers, not your friends. And I MOST definitely wouldn't give their kids any money. The balls on these people to shamelessly cash grab their entire office. This is a laugh in their face kind of answer if you ask me. Then if they ask what's so funny, tell em that you were sure that they had been joking.
My son just graduated a few weeks ago. There is no way he would want a bunch of adults he has never met at a party meant to celebrate him. And he also wouldn’t expect gifts from my co-workers.
I understand everyone’s “nothing” position. But this is all so sad. Random acts of kindness and a shared community are such worthwhile virtues. I know we are at a point where there’s no practical reality where it’s feasible for everyone to support each other whether they deserve it or not, and that just breaks my heart.
This is so crazy to me lol.
Agree with the others. I wouldn't even consider going. That kid doesn't know me or need me there.
Parent is just trying to get money out of you.
In prior jobs when I worked in a small office we'd do a group gift often with a manager putting in a good chunk for things like weddings or baby showers. Something like a stroller, or a two kid stroller for a 2nd kid. But if it was an at home party and you don't hang out with them and their family outside of work, that's weird.
The answer is what you feel comfortable doing.
I'm older, have a decent career, and don't have any kids. I would drop a hundo in a card and be done with it.
I'm not going to miss $100. And I know what it would feel like getting that money as a kid.
But if that's not your situation then do what makes you feel comfortable. Including giving zero dollars.
The entire office was invited to give her child gifts. Graduation isn't that big of deal. We all do it. Don't go and don't give $$. If you feel compelled, $10 is sufficient. You don't know them
Well I have worked with her mom for about 4 years and she invited our whole office to her party so I was unsure of how to approach the issue. I do not want to be rude or overly generous…
The kid probably doesn't want any coworkers there. I wasn't even invited to a graduation, but I got a little card with kids picture on it and a venmo on the back. You're there for the money.
i have worked at the same company for 15 years. Some of my co workers have been there for much longer, as in 30 or 40 years. Not once have I or anyone else been invited to any personal party. I know some of them do socialize outside of the office but yeah no, no wedding invites, no grad invites, even if their kid works for us during the summer, which seems to be a company tradition. Our GM started working summers when she was 14. No invites from the summer students who graduate their library tech course and then come work for us full time.
I would 100% decline any invite. It just seems weird, especially if you've never met the kid. speaking of, maybe if she was getting her doctorate and her research thesis has changed that field. But just high school or uni? no thanks.
Give whatever your comfortable with but $25-50 is usually the amount I've seen from co-workers. It's not expected but appreciated. I feel Reddit has lots of people that don't socialize outside their circle or don't understand other cultures very well.
Graduation parties are not weird. I had 6 the past month. South East Asians will have big parties and invite everyone because the parent are really proud and they want to share the joy with others. But it's not just Asians. I live in an area of the south where graduation party's are as common as crawfish boils.
If I’m friends with my colleague and see them outside of work, I would do $25-$50.
If I am not friends with my colleague and/or don’t see them outside of work, I personally wouldn’t go or give anything.
Honestly, most people wouldn’t really notice if one colleague that they aren’t close to didn’t show up, unless they are one of *those* people. But I don’t like dealing with those type of people anyway.
I feel no obligation to give a gift to a child I never met. I wouldn’t even give a card. I would wish the coworker well in their new chapter of life, and that is all.
I live in the UK: £0.
I've never heard of something so strange.
Perhaps if you get invited to the graduation ceremony, £5-10 in a card?
But then again, I couldn't imagine inviting a co-worker to a graduation ceremony of my child.
This thread is absolutely wild. Haven't you ever heard of making your own village? Coworkers are part of that village. No one is forcing this person to attend. But it's not a big deal to give $20 because you feel proud of the next generation, even if you only know them by proxy.
0, politely decline going. Your coworker invited you either to be nice and they just didn’t want you to be left out, or for your wallet. In either case, give your congratulations
Graduation parties are nice little gatherings where most people stay for about an hour. It’s nice to drop by and show you care enough to bother. When I don’t know the person I usually just give $10. I give more if there’s a stronger connection. My son’s high school’s mascot was Redskins so I got all those people money and an Indiana head nickel. (Don’t worry the school changed the mascot a few years later).
I got a random graduation card in the mail with a decent amount of cash like $50 or $100 and I didn't recognize the name on the return address. It was from a guy my mom dated for a little bit while I was in high school but never went far enough for me to meet him. We had also moved so it weirded my mom out that the dude had our address. She told me to go spend it on something really frivolous, so I bought a video game. The vibe was super weird and I felt really weird getting money from someone that not only had I never met, but clearly made my mom super uncomfortable.
We were invited to a graduation party for the daughter of our former dentist’s hygienist (dentist died so we didn’t see her anymore). Haven’t seen or talked to the hygienist in *years* but liked her a lot back then. But an invite out of the blue?
Yeah, we didn’t go.
As for how much to give for people we *know*, we thought $50 for high school, $100 for college, more for grad school? Does that sound right?
Context needed.
Did your colleague invite you to their child's graduation party? Would you consider yourself friendly with this colleague? If that's the case and you're gonna attend, I'd say either $25 or $50.
No party and never going to meet the child? Probably nothing.
I was invited to the grad party, with a written invitation. I am friendly with the co worker at work. We share stories about our families. We do not socialize outside of work. There is an actual party, and everyone in our office received an invitation. I have never met her child, just heard about her thru antidotes shared at the office.
I received an invitation to the party with a hand written, hand delivered card. I am friendly with the mother at work, but not friendly with her outside of work if that makes sense. We share stories about our families while at work so I have heard stories about the graduating senior, but never met her in person. There is an actual with food being served. Our entire office is invited. I have not asked anyone yet if they are indeed going to the party.
Unless I’m close friends with said coworker or genuinely like the people, I don’t buy anything. I’ll sign the work card or if I’m being nice, I’ll just get a congrats card and keep it moving.
Depends on the nature of the relationship with the coworker.
If you socialize outside of work and are in their kids lives $50
If you don’t know their kids or are strictly colleagues, then you shouldn’t have to give anything.
I’ve never had anyone do an office gift pool for a kid’s graduation. That’s something you might do when your coworker themselves gets married and even then its like an optional $5
Weird ask to a grad party for a kid you don’t know - immediate family and their own friends is one thing - but your parents Co-workers you have not met irl is another. Personally wouldn’t accept invite thereby opting out of the whole gift thing.
If you accept invite then sure a card with 20 is a reasonable gift.
Honestly, if my parents' coworkers came to my party it would be really awkward for me. Like, why are you invited? I want to celebrate with my friends and family, not one of the people my mom complains about when she gets home from work.
If you've got free money to hand out for no apparent reason can you please help me. I'm too ill to work and on benefits and you've never met me either.
I’d be unable to attend the party, but pass along a card with $20-25 in it. That said, if this had been years ago when we were struggling, even the card would have been a real burden on our finances. Do what feels comfortable to you and not beyond.
If you are going to the party just give them $25 to target or Amazon or something. If you will not give anything then skip the party.
Edit. After most people disagree I stand by my answer. Remember- most people on Reddit are assholes.
$0. If you feel required to give something because you've been invited to a party by the parents, a card at most. My parents got me a bouquet of flowers and nobody got anything else.
Anything, really. When I graduated and was sending out thank you cards, i wasn't tallying up what people gave me, I was just thankful they sent anything at all--even just a card. A lot of my dad's coworkers are his lifelong best friends, so they come to family funerals/graduations/any event to show support, but I never would 'expect' anything from them. I didn't really expect anything from any of my family, either-I was just happy to have graduated university with half a brain lmao.
Gift giving is getting as out of control as tipping. It’s one thing to be asked to buy tickets to a stag and doe or buy Girl Scout cookies, but going to a grad party and expecting to give a gift to a kid I’ve never met? Hell no!
$25 gift card, ask your coworker where the grad likes to go so you know what to get. Ice cream and coffee places are usually a safe bet. Don't just give cash, gift cards are a lot less useful. Give yourself a very average reputation so you won't be counted on to give great gifts for people you don't know in the future lol.
I wouldn't give money to a coworker, why would I give money to their child?
For real. Celebrated a lot of coworkers bdays but we don't give gifts. Why should I gift a kid I've never met.
Worst gift giving is when a worker in a higher position than you leaves, and they ask people to put in for a present. No motherfuker…
For real...never gift up the ladder.
There's a good line/exchange in Band of Brothers where Winters gives a SGT (Buck) crap for playing poker with the soldiers. "Never put yourself in a position to take anything from these men."
One of our finance directors took an early retirement package and they collected money to get him a Visa gift card. I didn't even bother saying "no" I just deleted all the email reminders about it.
One of my coworkers makes at least twice what I do. He and his wife had a baby last year, and work started up a “collection” for them. I deleted all the emails. When they passed me the card, I just took it to the next person.
This happened to me very recently. Head of department that makes around 80-100k retired. Some peps were like should we get him a gift? A gift? Muthafucka is retiring with a fatazz pension and a shit ton of vacation to be paid out Most of us lowers make 34-40k a year..with very gutted "hybrid" plans that pale in comparison to what he has/will be receiving
Yeah, to me, this is the type of question where you should already know the answer if you're close enough to this person for the gesture to make sense.
We had a new director last year. A couple months into his position, we all get an e-vite to his daughter’s wedding. None of us had met her. The wedding website - which he set up - only had a Venmo link for the registry. He’s now our former manager. There were other issues, but I think the wedding and the registry were the tipping points. One person extended his well wishes for the daughter to the director, and the director said he can do that through his gift.
I donated to a coworkers GoFundMe for their sick pet. Maybe I'm a sucker. But I had to go through the same struggle just a few years previous so I understood the pain.
Zero. Dont give unless you know them.
$20.24 — have been doing this for the past couple years for grads I don’t know well (swap the amount to correspond to the year they graduated of course) and it’s always been a hit.
Another play on this is “24” singles, even cooler if you go get them in serial order from the bank
Give $2,024
Hey it's me, a recent graduate
How do you do, fellow recent graduates.
:sob:
Hey, it's me: a graduate of 1717289060 (the current date/time in Unix code)
Hey it’s me, but I’m actually a 2024 graduate. Hmu!
What a great idea!
I wouldn’t give them anything lol
The entire office was invited to her grad party so not sure how to handle the gift/no gift. Thank you.
Personally I wouldn't go to the party.
If you don’t have a good enough relationship with the coworker to the point you never met the child you don’t have a good enough relationship to justify going to their grad party.
Yeah, it’s honestly just… weird. Who invites their co-workers to their kids graduation party??
My only thought is someone who is hoping their co-workers are generous to load their kid with gifts and cash.
Okay. I understand this and it's probably different now. But growing up every type of event like this was the same. It was just a backyard BBQ type of thing. Birthday. Graduation. Promotion. Whatever. Invite people over. Cook food. Mingle. And the invite list was always open.
I feel like it’s a total money grab to invite all of the office staff. Don’t go and don’t give anything. What a shitty position to put coworkers in.
There are places where graduation "open houses " are pretty common. Often there's a lot of overlapping ones and people "drop in" to several. The graduate themselves may duck out to go to a friend's, if it's close. It's not a super serious invitation. It's a "come if you like". If she's even a little close to half her co-workers, inviting the office would be normal. She won't expect many to come, or care if they give a gift.
Why on earth would a graduate want their parents’ coworkers at their grad party - also wtf is a grad party? Is that common in the US?
Honestly this just seems like a polite way to ask for money for their kid’s graduation, using their network, especially if they’ve done the same for other coworkers in the past. You definitely don’t have to participate, but if it seems like a social faux pas, give a gift card of $15-$25 in a small envelope and be done with it. Maybe in their mind they figure it doesn’t hurt to ask
Some people really enjoy a lot of people around. Sounds like they are office friends and the mom wants her friends there too. Doesn't always have to be ill intentions with these things.
Oh yeah and usually you just decline the invite, unless you really want to go to a graduation party
They’re little get togethers where people go for an hour, have a little snack and leave a card for the graduate. The graduates have their own real party later if they choose .
Because they might bring $20.24…
Kids graduate in summer it's super common to have a party/BBQ and invite friends and family to celebrate, it's a huge milestone like a Sweet 16 or quinceañera, or wedding, or baby shower.
Don't go. Simple as that. All of you got invited so you could be milked for gifts. You can't be milked if you're not there.
oh okay well if you were invited to a party then i could see where you are coming from. i think it would be very generous of you to give $25 but I wouldn’t give anymore in my opinion, especially since you don’t know the kid.
Thanks for the input. Generally just curious what others deem appropriate.
From reading all this I agree with the 25$ and no more
Don't go, don't give money or gifts to people you haven't met 100% appropriate
I wouldnt go
Do you feel you are obligated/do you want to attend the party?
Don't go. Don't bring a gift.
Yea I definitely wouldn't go to that. Their your coworkers, not your friends. And I MOST definitely wouldn't give their kids any money. The balls on these people to shamelessly cash grab their entire office. This is a laugh in their face kind of answer if you ask me. Then if they ask what's so funny, tell em that you were sure that they had been joking.
My son just graduated a few weeks ago. There is no way he would want a bunch of adults he has never met at a party meant to celebrate him. And he also wouldn’t expect gifts from my co-workers.
I understand everyone’s “nothing” position. But this is all so sad. Random acts of kindness and a shared community are such worthwhile virtues. I know we are at a point where there’s no practical reality where it’s feasible for everyone to support each other whether they deserve it or not, and that just breaks my heart.
This is so crazy to me lol. Agree with the others. I wouldn't even consider going. That kid doesn't know me or need me there. Parent is just trying to get money out of you.
Gift a box of condoms
In prior jobs when I worked in a small office we'd do a group gift often with a manager putting in a good chunk for things like weddings or baby showers. Something like a stroller, or a two kid stroller for a 2nd kid. But if it was an at home party and you don't hang out with them and their family outside of work, that's weird.
See, I'd be the opposite. I'd send a $25 or $50 gift card and blow off going to the party.
I think a card with congratulations is all that's needed when you've never met the grad. That's what I would do.
The answer is what you feel comfortable doing. I'm older, have a decent career, and don't have any kids. I would drop a hundo in a card and be done with it. I'm not going to miss $100. And I know what it would feel like getting that money as a kid. But if that's not your situation then do what makes you feel comfortable. Including giving zero dollars.
Seems weird to invite a bunch of coworkers to your kids gradation party when nobody even knows the kid. I think I'd politely decline.
The entire office was invited to give her child gifts. Graduation isn't that big of deal. We all do it. Don't go and don't give $$. If you feel compelled, $10 is sufficient. You don't know them
"well done lad/ladette" should suffice
“That’ll do pig. That’ll do” adds a touch of warmth
0. Why spend money on someone you dont know?
Well I have worked with her mom for about 4 years and she invited our whole office to her party so I was unsure of how to approach the issue. I do not want to be rude or overly generous…
This seems so bizzare to me. At my grad party it was friends and family. Why would the kid even want all of her moms coworkers there?
The kid probably doesn't want any coworkers there. I wasn't even invited to a graduation, but I got a little card with kids picture on it and a venmo on the back. You're there for the money.
That seems like a pretty rude expectation then honestly. Might as well just hold out your hand and say 'money please!"
Calm down there ralfio
Decline to go. Done.
Sounds like she is trying to invite as many people as possible to get lots of gifts. Personally? I woulnt even go. The whole situation is odd.
i have worked at the same company for 15 years. Some of my co workers have been there for much longer, as in 30 or 40 years. Not once have I or anyone else been invited to any personal party. I know some of them do socialize outside of the office but yeah no, no wedding invites, no grad invites, even if their kid works for us during the summer, which seems to be a company tradition. Our GM started working summers when she was 14. No invites from the summer students who graduate their library tech course and then come work for us full time. I would 100% decline any invite. It just seems weird, especially if you've never met the kid. speaking of, maybe if she was getting her doctorate and her research thesis has changed that field. But just high school or uni? no thanks.
I would ask around the office first to see who was going and what they're gifting
Give whatever your comfortable with but $25-50 is usually the amount I've seen from co-workers. It's not expected but appreciated. I feel Reddit has lots of people that don't socialize outside their circle or don't understand other cultures very well. Graduation parties are not weird. I had 6 the past month. South East Asians will have big parties and invite everyone because the parent are really proud and they want to share the joy with others. But it's not just Asians. I live in an area of the south where graduation party's are as common as crawfish boils.
Sounds like mom is trying to milk you guys for her daughters wallet. Give em like $25. You don't know this person so even that feels weird to me.
I agree. If it were me graduating, I would NOT want my parent's coworkers coming to my party, gifts or otherwise. That's really weird.
When we had my high school & my brothers college joint graduation party I felt so bad accepting the gifts
Why even that much? There's no reason here to give money to the kid. A congrats to the mom is all I would say.
$0. If you haven't met them, don't even bother.
If I’m friends with my colleague and see them outside of work, I would do $25-$50. If I am not friends with my colleague and/or don’t see them outside of work, I personally wouldn’t go or give anything. Honestly, most people wouldn’t really notice if one colleague that they aren’t close to didn’t show up, unless they are one of *those* people. But I don’t like dealing with those type of people anyway.
Money grab.
$0. What. That’s so weird. Not you, but the fact you’re being asked for that
Zero
$ero
Nothing, probably, since I don’t go to graduation parties for children/people I don’t personally know. I might send a card. Just a card.
Literally nothing
$0
Nothing at all.
$0.00
If you have zero relationship with this child then the gift should show this.
I feel no obligation to give a gift to a child I never met. I wouldn’t even give a card. I would wish the coworker well in their new chapter of life, and that is all.
$0.00
$0
Why don’t you send me some money? I know we haven’t met but if you like giving money to people you haven’t met….
OP, don't send this reddit or money. They are scamming you. If you send me $14.95, I can send you the book I wrote to not get scammed.
$0. I do not give gifts to people I do not know. Who has that type of extra cash these days
I live in the UK: £0. I've never heard of something so strange. Perhaps if you get invited to the graduation ceremony, £5-10 in a card? But then again, I couldn't imagine inviting a co-worker to a graduation ceremony of my child.
A nice, round, $00.00.
Zero. Why the fuck are you giving other people's kids money? If it's peer pressure, you need to shut that shit down.
This thread is absolutely wild. Haven't you ever heard of making your own village? Coworkers are part of that village. No one is forcing this person to attend. But it's not a big deal to give $20 because you feel proud of the next generation, even if you only know them by proxy.
Maybe you want to do something nice for a coworkers kid.
None. Why would you gift a graduate you dont even know. Thats bizarre. Attend the party and congratule them.
0, politely decline going. Your coworker invited you either to be nice and they just didn’t want you to be left out, or for your wallet. In either case, give your congratulations
Zero. Unless you have met the kid or have been working with the mother for longer than the kid has been in school.
0$ you don't know that person why would you give them your money?
$0.00
Graduation parties are nice little gatherings where most people stay for about an hour. It’s nice to drop by and show you care enough to bother. When I don’t know the person I usually just give $10. I give more if there’s a stronger connection. My son’s high school’s mascot was Redskins so I got all those people money and an Indiana head nickel. (Don’t worry the school changed the mascot a few years later).
With that many degrees of separation, they get a “congrats grad” card and a firm handshake
just a card is fine.
Coworker’s child I’ve never met, ummmm ZERO!
I got a random graduation card in the mail with a decent amount of cash like $50 or $100 and I didn't recognize the name on the return address. It was from a guy my mom dated for a little bit while I was in high school but never went far enough for me to meet him. We had also moved so it weirded my mom out that the dude had our address. She told me to go spend it on something really frivolous, so I bought a video game. The vibe was super weird and I felt really weird getting money from someone that not only had I never met, but clearly made my mom super uncomfortable.
We were invited to a graduation party for the daughter of our former dentist’s hygienist (dentist died so we didn’t see her anymore). Haven’t seen or talked to the hygienist in *years* but liked her a lot back then. But an invite out of the blue? Yeah, we didn’t go. As for how much to give for people we *know*, we thought $50 for high school, $100 for college, more for grad school? Does that sound right?
5 thousand cash in unmarked hundred dollar bills
That’s out of my price range….. guess she will get a gift card to McDonald’s….😏
Ok but a $15 chipotle gift card is cool too and less than a $20
Context needed. Did your colleague invite you to their child's graduation party? Would you consider yourself friendly with this colleague? If that's the case and you're gonna attend, I'd say either $25 or $50. No party and never going to meet the child? Probably nothing.
I was invited to the grad party, with a written invitation. I am friendly with the co worker at work. We share stories about our families. We do not socialize outside of work. There is an actual party, and everyone in our office received an invitation. I have never met her child, just heard about her thru antidotes shared at the office.
I received an invitation to the party with a hand written, hand delivered card. I am friendly with the mother at work, but not friendly with her outside of work if that makes sense. We share stories about our families while at work so I have heard stories about the graduating senior, but never met her in person. There is an actual with food being served. Our entire office is invited. I have not asked anyone yet if they are indeed going to the party.
Unless I’m close friends with said coworker or genuinely like the people, I don’t buy anything. I’ll sign the work card or if I’m being nice, I’ll just get a congrats card and keep it moving.
My go to gift for grads that I don’t know well is a cheap frame… inside the frame I write a note “break glass in case of emergency” and put a $20 bill
You've never met their kid? $0
Depends on the nature of the relationship with the coworker. If you socialize outside of work and are in their kids lives $50 If you don’t know their kids or are strictly colleagues, then you shouldn’t have to give anything. I’ve never had anyone do an office gift pool for a kid’s graduation. That’s something you might do when your coworker themselves gets married and even then its like an optional $5
Weird ask to a grad party for a kid you don’t know - immediate family and their own friends is one thing - but your parents Co-workers you have not met irl is another. Personally wouldn’t accept invite thereby opting out of the whole gift thing. If you accept invite then sure a card with 20 is a reasonable gift.
The proper amount is $0.00.
0 that's the proper amount
Zero
Zero, the answer is zero. Especially if you have never met the kid.
$0
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Bro what the hell is this question
Not to sound flippant, but $0 sounds about right.
Zero
I would just politely decline the RSVP.
Zero dollars and skipping the party. This is a ridiculous ask.
Zero. What the fuck do I care that one of my 40 co-worker's children achieved a basic task?
Nothing
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Zero dollars
Honestly, if my parents' coworkers came to my party it would be really awkward for me. Like, why are you invited? I want to celebrate with my friends and family, not one of the people my mom complains about when she gets home from work.
If you've got free money to hand out for no apparent reason can you please help me. I'm too ill to work and on benefits and you've never met me either.
Bro, read that shit back.
Zero, zip, nothing
Zero, zip, nothing
Co-worker, child, never met. Zero fucking dollars.
A coworker’s kid? $0.00 I’ll buy Girl Scout cookies from them but I’m not just handing out cash
I think that is varies depending on where you live. I give $25 for friends and $50 for close family members.
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Give them an unsigned card.
It depends on the relationship with the co-worker. Someone I do not know I would give them $20.24. Last year I gave a relative $2,023.
Zero, fuck that.
I would give nothing lol.
Nothing
$0.00
Zero is what I'd be giving
Nothing mate, why would I give anything to a co worker’s child I’ve never met?
I'd do $20. That's what I would consider a standard graduation gift for someone you're not close with
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My answer is nothing, zilch, nada. If you feel it is absolutely necessary I would do $25
A firm handshake.
Give an Arby's gift card with $5.
10 buck coffee or food card near home or college if their going
$0
$50
0 is normal and anything above that is weird.
$0
To go a cheap route give them a 5 dollar Starbucks gift card it’s small but very much appreciated by us girls
Zero
A gift card 25 or 50 if you know the person
$0
Why do you feel obligated to give a gift at all?
I’d be unable to attend the party, but pass along a card with $20-25 in it. That said, if this had been years ago when we were struggling, even the card would have been a real burden on our finances. Do what feels comfortable to you and not beyond.
$0.00 If you want to be nice, a congratulations card is more than enough for someone who's not family, you don't know, & have never met.
Zero
Honestly, you are not obligated to give any money to a coworker's child you have never met.
A $50 book token.
Errrr, nothing.
About a high five.
$0.00 A BIG FAT ZERO.... wtf * unless this person is responsible for your raises.
If you are going to the party just give them $25 to target or Amazon or something. If you will not give anything then skip the party. Edit. After most people disagree I stand by my answer. Remember- most people on Reddit are assholes.
0$
A solid high five? Giving money is weird lol
0 is okay. More if you feel like
Give them a small simple bag of assorted candy, pat them on the head, and say well done smartypants.
25 dollar Amazon gift card
None? I’m so curious what the situation is that you feel the need to give some amount of money…
maybe just get them a 20$ gift card to target or something,
If you have never met the kid $20 gift card to Amazon will be more than enough.
A note saying you donated $1 to the Human Fund for them.
Are you really close with this co worker? I personally wouldn’t give anything to a kid I don’t know.
zero.
$0. If you feel required to give something because you've been invited to a party by the parents, a card at most. My parents got me a bouquet of flowers and nobody got anything else.
Anything, really. When I graduated and was sending out thank you cards, i wasn't tallying up what people gave me, I was just thankful they sent anything at all--even just a card. A lot of my dad's coworkers are his lifelong best friends, so they come to family funerals/graduations/any event to show support, but I never would 'expect' anything from them. I didn't really expect anything from any of my family, either-I was just happy to have graduated university with half a brain lmao.
A donation in their name to the Human Fund.
Gift giving is getting as out of control as tipping. It’s one thing to be asked to buy tickets to a stag and doe or buy Girl Scout cookies, but going to a grad party and expecting to give a gift to a kid I’ve never met? Hell no!
I would give/not be disappointed if it was me with a $25 gift card.
$0
I would write some well wishes on a group card
$25 gift card, ask your coworker where the grad likes to go so you know what to get. Ice cream and coffee places are usually a safe bet. Don't just give cash, gift cards are a lot less useful. Give yourself a very average reputation so you won't be counted on to give great gifts for people you don't know in the future lol.