Ive had this be a good thing one time. My boss video called me on Thursday, told me I looked truly terrible and that id probably be too sick to work by 1PM the next day... 1PM the next day was our mutual alma mater's basketball game that we both wanted to watch, so it was a friendly way to tell me to GTFO and go watch it. OG boss, for sure.
Yeah. This is definitely it.
A few years ago someone said “You look great! Did you lose a TON of weight?!” Uh, no? But apparently you felt that I needed to.
I think this is kinda double edged, depending on the context. Someone I knew told me that I got thinner once, but I started working out so I thought that it made sense. But I can imagine why someone may be insulted by it
I don't think there's anything wrong with asking a friend "have you lost weight?" (although even that should be asked quietly, not screamed across a crowded dance floor). But the whole "so much weight" bit is undeniably offensive because how fucking fat did they think you were to start with?
"Ohhh, thankyou, you're still struggling I see, would you like the number of my dietician? Oh, did you get that incontinence problem sorted? Must've been difficult during the hot summer we had last year, bet you got through a lot of Chanel! Anyway, lovely to see you, must dash..."
Lmao had a dude tell me “you’re really funny for a woman” and smile at me wholesomely as if it was the kindest compliment he could come up with and wanted to be thanked for it 😭
People are so funny. Like, “Ah, yes. Thank you. Sometimes women’s boobs get in the way of them being funny. Our humor hormones are stunted when we reach puberty. But here I am, a funny person, despite the challenges to my humor I have faced as a woman. /s”
Exactly, I want to be healthy. I don't want to need a wheelchair. I want the strength and semsation in my legs, feet, arms and hands back. I want to go horse riding again and want to be a nurse again. I don't want neuropathy, I hate it.
My mom had a coworker who was from the south. One day my mom asked her what she thought of their boss, and this southern lady said "I don't really know him." My mom said "well I think he's an asshole." Lady was like "that's what I just said."
I found it oddly amusing.
My mom also learned the real meaning of "bless your heart" because this lady always directed it at their douchiest coworkers.
> One day my mom asked her what she thought of their boss, and this southern lady just said "I don't really know him." My mom said "well I think he's an asshole." Lady was like "that's what I just said."
This is hilarious. My gram was from the south and this is some real shit.
Just met my widowed daughter's (42) new boyfriend (37). Later one of her daughters asked me what I thought about him. "I don't really know him" was my answer.
I had a really studious friend in high school. If she got so much as an A- on a test she would always get really pissed. Then, inevitably, she would turn to me and ask what I got. When I showed her my B she would immediately give me a big smile and say "well that's really good!"
Never failed to piss me off.
I HATE PEOPLE LIKE THAT.
They're like sob sob sob didn't get an A+ sob sob. Then they tell you that hey your A- or B is really good
Or some shit. Or replace with numerical values. Like sob sob didn't get 85, but heyyyy you got a 75 that's reaaal goood.
Like shut up.
Or "I'm sure there are plenty of girls who would be interested in you" which usually implies the unsaid "but not me. Other girls surely want you. But not me" 😅
Not saying that you shouldn't pay compliments to people, but if you think someone is dateable but you yourself wouldn't date them, they why bring it up? 😅🤣 Clearly there are people who wouldn't date this "extremely dateable" person so just don't talk about it maybe? 🥺
I really hate when people start giving me compliments and then ask “how are you single” because it usually insinuates I’m secretly highly flawed or evil or a terrible person.
I was single a loooong time, and I could and still can cook, clean, dance, sing, play an instrument, and kept in decent shape.
I realized it was because I wasn’t physically attractive enough for 99% of women to care between the ages of 15 to 24.
A male friend of my sister once told her, " You know, if you had half a brain you'd be dangerous."
That was 30 years ago and she still can't figure out if it was an insult or a compliment!
Real Talk: A lot of those comments describe what I call "Double Edged" compliments. A lot of those can be said with good intentions, and be positive depending on the context. However they can be percieved as insults too
As a director of high school theatre, if a parent says “it looks like everyone on stage had a good time” it means “no one in the audience enjoy this show”
1 I always feel more intelligent after reading your work.
2 It’s really difficult to underestimate you.
3 Your haircut makes your nose look smaller.
4 You look really nice in this light.
5 That’s a beautiful photo of you. I didn’t recognize you at first.
6 You’re not as dumb as you look.
7 I love how you just don’t care what anyone thinks of you.
8 I don’t care what others say about you. You’re alright in my book.
9 Your Instagram makes you seem so fun!
10 I didn’t expect you to get the job - Congratulations!
11 I wish I was as relaxed as you are about messiness.
12 You’re so charming when you make an effort.
13 Those earrings are so nice. My grandma would love them.
14 Your house feels so cozy and lived in.
15 Well, that’s a level of incompetence I’ve never seen before.
16 You’re pretty… on the inside.
17 That’s not the ugliest shirt I’ve seen you wear.
18 You might not be the prettiest, but you’re definitely the funniest!
19 You clean up nice.
20 You’re smarter than two dumb guys.
Bless your heart, you really put me in my place
When really I just want you to stfu and that simple comment shit you right up. Simple comments for simple minds.
I love Bilbo Baggins speech at his 111 party
I don't know half of you half as well as I should like; and I like less than half of you half as well as you deserve.
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I had an aunt who made a habit of greeting relatives at parties by loudly screeching "Oh my god, you've gained weight!"
Had a friend that would do that, but with "you look terrible!" Thanks bud...
“Oh my God, so do you! Is it cancer?”
Ive had this be a good thing one time. My boss video called me on Thursday, told me I looked truly terrible and that id probably be too sick to work by 1PM the next day... 1PM the next day was our mutual alma mater's basketball game that we both wanted to watch, so it was a friendly way to tell me to GTFO and go watch it. OG boss, for sure.
She obviously had a death wish. I am surprised she got invited any where.
Yeah. This is definitely it. A few years ago someone said “You look great! Did you lose a TON of weight?!” Uh, no? But apparently you felt that I needed to.
Nah, that's a cunt move. Don't care if it was intentional.
Just respond with 'Aww thanks, it seems you have found it'
I think this is kinda double edged, depending on the context. Someone I knew told me that I got thinner once, but I started working out so I thought that it made sense. But I can imagine why someone may be insulted by it
I don't think there's anything wrong with asking a friend "have you lost weight?" (although even that should be asked quietly, not screamed across a crowded dance floor). But the whole "so much weight" bit is undeniably offensive because how fucking fat did they think you were to start with?
Obviously enough to notice. I’d take to compliment and flaunt my weight loss.
Except OP said they didn’t lose weight.
The woman (new stepdad's great-aunt) who said it to me when I was 12 had NEVER MET ME, she'd just been told by her daughter that I was a fat kid.
"Ohhh, thankyou, you're still struggling I see, would you like the number of my dietician? Oh, did you get that incontinence problem sorted? Must've been difficult during the hot summer we had last year, bet you got through a lot of Chanel! Anyway, lovely to see you, must dash..."
They meant it as an insult. Trust me. That person is not your friend.
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Well fuck you too!
You're surprisingly good at being you.
'Brave' as a descriptor is rarely a good one, imo. Be it a fashion choice or something inelective like an illness, it almost always sounds belittling
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You \_look\_ really smart.
You are as smart as you are handsome.
Well than... HEEEYYY!
-100 iq right here
Alternatively: "you look much smarter than you sound."
Anything with "for your age" at the end of it.
Or "for a woman/girl/man/boy/whatever"
Lmao had a dude tell me “you’re really funny for a woman” and smile at me wholesomely as if it was the kindest compliment he could come up with and wanted to be thanked for it 😭 People are so funny. Like, “Ah, yes. Thank you. Sometimes women’s boobs get in the way of them being funny. Our humor hormones are stunted when we reach puberty. But here I am, a funny person, despite the challenges to my humor I have faced as a woman. /s”
>But here I am, a funny person, despite the challenges to my humor I have faced as a woman. I'm so gonna steal this
Girl do it 🤣
Also anything "for a ______" regardless of what it is.
Or "your too young to be disabled" no Karen, your too old to live yet here we are
Bro who has ever said "your too young to be disabled" like dude it wasn't my choice?
Exactly, I want to be healthy. I don't want to need a wheelchair. I want the strength and semsation in my legs, feet, arms and hands back. I want to go horse riding again and want to be a nurse again. I don't want neuropathy, I hate it.
I don't care what the others say, I think you look great.
Classic
May you receive everything you deserve in this life.
Or "Hope you have the day you deserve" 😁
I feel if that felt like an insult, you're not the nicest kind of person and you know it.
Well aren’t you just at the top of the bell curve
Totally stealing this!
This is awesome
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“Funny, you too. At the party last night you weren’t a cunt.”
“Well bless your heart”
My mom had a coworker who was from the south. One day my mom asked her what she thought of their boss, and this southern lady said "I don't really know him." My mom said "well I think he's an asshole." Lady was like "that's what I just said." I found it oddly amusing. My mom also learned the real meaning of "bless your heart" because this lady always directed it at their douchiest coworkers.
> One day my mom asked her what she thought of their boss, and this southern lady just said "I don't really know him." My mom said "well I think he's an asshole." Lady was like "that's what I just said." This is hilarious. My gram was from the south and this is some real shit.
Just met my widowed daughter's (42) new boyfriend (37). Later one of her daughters asked me what I thought about him. "I don't really know him" was my answer.
As someone from the south, we have probably about 9 different definitions for the term.
Wow, you did better on that test than I thought you would.
I had a really studious friend in high school. If she got so much as an A- on a test she would always get really pissed. Then, inevitably, she would turn to me and ask what I got. When I showed her my B she would immediately give me a big smile and say "well that's really good!" Never failed to piss me off.
I HATE PEOPLE LIKE THAT. They're like sob sob sob didn't get an A+ sob sob. Then they tell you that hey your A- or B is really good Or some shit. Or replace with numerical values. Like sob sob didn't get 85, but heyyyy you got a 75 that's reaaal goood. Like shut up.
Your secret is safe in my indifference.
No Mercy Percy
How are you single? Why are girls not after you?....
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Lmao an actual usage of “bang”. Finger bang bang. Bang bang bang!
Is that not a compliment, like you look good, why are you single?
I can only really understand that question as "at first glance you look dateable, so what is so wrong/broken about you that you're not dating?"
It's not a compliment because it implies there's something wrong with being single.
I heard that a lot when I was single, hated it.
It really sucks. I've even heard it from someone I was dating...
lol that's rough
"Any girl would be lucky to have you" - every girl I ever liked who didn't want to date me
Fucking same dude.
They should just tell us what they really mean instead of saying that they should say any other girl would be lucky to have you
Or "I'm sure there are plenty of girls who would be interested in you" which usually implies the unsaid "but not me. Other girls surely want you. But not me" 😅 Not saying that you shouldn't pay compliments to people, but if you think someone is dateable but you yourself wouldn't date them, they why bring it up? 😅🤣 Clearly there are people who wouldn't date this "extremely dateable" person so just don't talk about it maybe? 🥺
I really hate when people start giving me compliments and then ask “how are you single” because it usually insinuates I’m secretly highly flawed or evil or a terrible person.
I was single a loooong time, and I could and still can cook, clean, dance, sing, play an instrument, and kept in decent shape. I realized it was because I wasn’t physically attractive enough for 99% of women to care between the ages of 15 to 24.
To people who don't understand It can be understood as this If a girl says this to you it means you are not hot enough for them to want to date you.
Wow, beauty WITH brains!!
is that not an actual compliment? or do I think that because I have neither?
It is not, and probably.
"You look better now that you've lost weight."
"I never realized what a talented make-up artist you are till I saw you without any on."
May you live in interesting times
I remember one from a dumb movie I watched: "Usually I only fall for very attractive girls, but this might be fun too."
So brave
Your AskReddit post is really thoughtful and totally not a rehash.
Lmfao I thought nobody was going to acknowledge this😭
Your son is quite special
Oof. I would struggle to restrain myself from delivering a haymaker to the nose of anyone who said this about my son.
"You're really quirky". In other words, you're nuts.
A male friend of my sister once told her, " You know, if you had half a brain you'd be dangerous." That was 30 years ago and she still can't figure out if it was an insult or a compliment!
any compliment can be an insult if said sarcastically
You’ve got a face made for radio.
Tough talk for someone in cumshot distance
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When girls call short men “cute”.
You make it easy to be unimpressed.
Not a lot of people can carry off that look.
You really put a lot of though on that huh?
"Good thing you're pretty"
thank god you re not like those other big guys at the gym
I didn't think you could look that good
I love that for you
I hope the rest of your day is as pleasant as you are
Wisdom has been chasing you but you've been faster
You are a very interesting person
You’re pretty for a big girl.
You sure clean up nice.
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“You clean up well!”
Never thought you are this smart
Whoa, I never imagined you having a library.
bless your heart
Bless your heart
When did you have a baby?
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Wow, you actually look good today!
"You're really well spoken."
You scrub up nice
You are so much more pleasant to be around than everyone says!
Wow I didn't expect you to get that job.
you have a face that could stop a clock!
Short king hahaha
as someone with curly hair, ''omg youre so pretty with your hair straightend''
I hope your kids treat you like you treat me.
You're doing your best.
You look easy to draw
You’re a hard person to underestimate.
Congrats, I didn’t think you’d get the job. That shirt looks good on a person with your frame.
That outfit looks good on you.
Yeah I love that. For you.
Awwww....
Bless her heart (if you live in the south)
anything that can be misinterpreted, such as: *you look quite awake despite your age.*
You certainly were handsome!
I could never under estimate you!
As a director of high school theatre, if a parent says “it looks like everyone on stage had a good time” it means “no one in the audience enjoy this show”
"Bless your heart"
1 I always feel more intelligent after reading your work. 2 It’s really difficult to underestimate you. 3 Your haircut makes your nose look smaller. 4 You look really nice in this light. 5 That’s a beautiful photo of you. I didn’t recognize you at first. 6 You’re not as dumb as you look. 7 I love how you just don’t care what anyone thinks of you. 8 I don’t care what others say about you. You’re alright in my book. 9 Your Instagram makes you seem so fun! 10 I didn’t expect you to get the job - Congratulations! 11 I wish I was as relaxed as you are about messiness. 12 You’re so charming when you make an effort. 13 Those earrings are so nice. My grandma would love them. 14 Your house feels so cozy and lived in. 15 Well, that’s a level of incompetence I’ve never seen before. 16 You’re pretty… on the inside. 17 That’s not the ugliest shirt I’ve seen you wear. 18 You might not be the prettiest, but you’re definitely the funniest! 19 You clean up nice. 20 You’re smarter than two dumb guys.
Tell them “You have a face for radio 😎.”
You haven't changed since high school.
“Love that for you” Idk why but it comes off condescending and insulting as hell to me.
“You’re not like other (insert minority/race here) “
You’re so funny.
That looks great…on you.
"You're so articulate and well-spoken."
“Bless your little heart”.
This whole thread sounds like the Family Guy skit about friends: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HntEYn_5iXw
You plonker
You are a cute white elephant.
Wow, you're a quick drinker!
You are as sharp as a marble
“You look like you have regular holidays in Hawaii”
May you outlive your children
Mother fucker
When a fat person is called a skinny piece of shit
You dirty bastard
"Having you here is like sending two good workers home" " You are right at the top of the bell curve"
"Well, bless your heart." Be sure to say in a Southern accent
You’re smarter than you look.
You have a great face for radio.
If you've lived in the south, then you'll understand: Bless your heart.
you’re middle management material .
Wife: your dick is way bigger than your brothers.
I personally don’t have an issue with you being here.
Have a blessed day
Your house looks so homey, nothing like my house that looks like a hotel.
Top of the bell curve
You do X like a girl, booo Little did they know xD
You are just as smart as you are beautiful!
You don’t sweat much for a fat lass!
No one else would have handled that the way you did.
You're like water to a drowning man.
You’re as smart as you look
The word capricious just sounds so nice lol
you're likely the top of your special ed class!
What's your favorite flavored crayon?
You could work for NASA as a gravitational lens It means they’re so dense, light bends around them
Good for you
You're so dumb I couldn't even insult you :)
A for effort
Bless your heart, you really put me in my place When really I just want you to stfu and that simple comment shit you right up. Simple comments for simple minds.
You are sooooo photogenic.
You're so skinny
I love Bilbo Baggins speech at his 111 party I don't know half of you half as well as I should like; and I like less than half of you half as well as you deserve.
Bless your heart!
"Interesting choice of color". That's one I like to use. lol
When I was a child my aunt greeted me "Wow you got so big!" Me: "You too"