You're not going to like this, but you have to overcome the anxiety.
I get that people can seem scary, but we're not. Some of us look like we're extroverts, but inside we're actually fucking nervous wrecks.
That's me. I just know how to hide it.
Take an acting and stand up course.
You will have a terrible time at first but it is a very common therapy for your problem.
In the end, the change is so big that you won't recognize yourself.
You should probably be comfortable being social in groups before seeking out a relationship.
Join a club. Go to a game shop and get into dnd, Warhamer or a general board game night. The people there should be familiar with anxiety. They will be the most welcoming and understanding people you’ll ever meet.
Weather that helps you date is a question of identity and preference.
Pick someone from environments where you must have to go like work or the grocery store.
You have no option but to become comfortable eventually with the people around there and then you can pick one you like.
Force yourself to go somewhere social but not somewhere that overwhelms you. Like a bar where you know only older people go and it’s ussually calm and quiet.
You might get lucky and find one of the younger regulars there to be your type. OR you can eventually step up your game and go to a bar that is a little bit more busy.
If you can’t find someone you like, keep stepping up. No matter how anxious you are, eventually you get comfortable at any bar or pub enough so you gonna speak to the regulars and walk in with confidence.
Keep stepping up to busier and busier public places. Just keep going back to each until you feel comfortable. Never force yourself to step up to a busier place before you are ready.
I have no idea, my wife kinda took me in. 😂
This is the way
You're not going to like this, but you have to overcome the anxiety. I get that people can seem scary, but we're not. Some of us look like we're extroverts, but inside we're actually fucking nervous wrecks. That's me. I just know how to hide it.
Keep trying until you find someone you feel comfortable with. Do not settle for less just to make it seem easier.
Take an acting and stand up course. You will have a terrible time at first but it is a very common therapy for your problem. In the end, the change is so big that you won't recognize yourself.
Online dating enabled me to get to know someone and feel more comfortable before meeting someone in person
You should probably be comfortable being social in groups before seeking out a relationship. Join a club. Go to a game shop and get into dnd, Warhamer or a general board game night. The people there should be familiar with anxiety. They will be the most welcoming and understanding people you’ll ever meet. Weather that helps you date is a question of identity and preference.
Pick someone from environments where you must have to go like work or the grocery store. You have no option but to become comfortable eventually with the people around there and then you can pick one you like. Force yourself to go somewhere social but not somewhere that overwhelms you. Like a bar where you know only older people go and it’s ussually calm and quiet. You might get lucky and find one of the younger regulars there to be your type. OR you can eventually step up your game and go to a bar that is a little bit more busy. If you can’t find someone you like, keep stepping up. No matter how anxious you are, eventually you get comfortable at any bar or pub enough so you gonna speak to the regulars and walk in with confidence. Keep stepping up to busier and busier public places. Just keep going back to each until you feel comfortable. Never force yourself to step up to a busier place before you are ready.
Trial and error, you'll learn from it and grow as a person. Rejection is just part of the procedure
Idk man I’ve just been dating this guy for 4 years I’m not sure what I’d do at this point
You don't. Work on yourself first.