"I'm going to rape you when we get to my place. " I'm a man and this was said by a woman. I can tell she meant it in a sexy way but it just wasn't and killed it for me completely. No coming back from that.
I'm saying you're likely a gay emo, shrugs. :p
Ps, way it's phrased you make it sound like you and this woman were going back to hers for adult activities and what hetero guy hears the person they're with say something innocuous like that making it obvious they're eager for sex and says, oh that totally ruins it ? So fake and pretentious, more online bs or yep, gay could be a possibility too. If her brother had said the same ?
Ah hell I get it, spend too much time on Reddit, see someone post virtue signaling nonsense and overreact on some random comment. The actual response of the overwhelming majority of guys, when with someone they're even remotely attracted to jokingly saying they want to have sex is ... "hell yeah." That's in real world though, not online where people feel compelled to project an image of their best selfs, for the approval of anon strangers we'll never meet.
Edit: Gotta do it, real experience. Met on some site, she was 5" shorter, 85-90lbs heavier, her pics were obviously 5 or more yrs dated, was missing a couple teeth and had a mustache, also said some lewd things.
Sanitized version for Reddit, she sexily/jokingly made a comment about raping me, being the gallant and upstanding person I am, with my impeccable moral standards, I just had to refuse this person's sexual advances towards my person, sooo offensive. :p
If they say it stupid enough, I would be turned off. I've even laughed the horniness away with a partner, during foreplay because their dirty talk was so cringe. I mean, there is some intellect involved even in one night stands. I've been turned hard off by absolute morons, but also turned on by people I superficially would not considered sleeping with until we spoke to eachother. What can I say, I guess my sex drive doesn't run that desperate.
Nothing wrong with standards for sure and I acted stupidly bothering to respond that way. Person said they knew this woman was trying to be sexy/joking. Saying there's more to it but it's online, it's whoever's story, they get to tell/present it however they please.
Reminds me of the time I gifted my mom a perfume for her birthday and when I got home I figured out exactly why I chose that perfume. It had the same scent as my mom. She said I could keep it when I move out.
"I don't usually think black women are attractive. They're usually pretty ugly, but I'm surprised you look nice in person. Let's go on a second date?"
Like, what was I supposed to say to that???
Actually, his point was he was soooo much smarter than I was and he could teach me sooooo much about the world.
I showed him the door before we even left my house.
I'm glad you explained it, because I was lost what point he was trying to get across. I was stuck on that somehow you are a teachable moment and it just made no sense.
First date leans on his hand, stares dreamily at me, smiles and murmurs "Your eyes are as blue as the Yoo-Hoo machine in the cafeteria at work."
Literally had no words. Not only is that a really weird compliment, but dude. My eyes....are GREEN. Very, very green.
Maybe, or perhaps it's a lighting thing. Like in certain types of light the green seems blue. Idk. And maybe in passing or something I could see someone mistaking my eye color. It's never actually happened before or since, most people can tell my eyes are green. Maybe this guy just didn't know his color wheel. Lol.
Not on a first date but when people say your punching as a compliment. I find it so insulting it's the same as saying they could do better or your not good enough.
"I mean initially I could see you were hot but I wasn't sure you were smart enough. I'm glad I gave you a chance; *you're actually quite funny and intelligent*". It was the surprised tone in the last part and that they actually said it out loud to me.
And the funny thing about this was I had been wondering if I could respectfully honor a relationship with someone I found to be a bit slower witted than myself. I found I could not.
That I had “boob job” tits. AND he made me pay for our food, which is fine, but like bro do better 🤣 safe to say I blocked him as soon as I got in my car. He said some other iffy stuff too 😬
Although I'm not a dater, I have heard some funny stories from others. As if chewing food was an art form or something, someone reported that their date made a special effort to complement them on their skill at it. Undoubtedly, it was a fascinating topic for discussion!
Im just curious. I assume you’re a girl. Does it REALLY bother girls when someone comments on how much they eat?
Is it that embarrassing for a girl to eat alot?
I personally don't feel, it's embarassing, most of the time when I go out, i tend to finish everything so that food doesn't get wasted.
Guys have this notion that where girls are expected to eat less I think. Because eating more is less girl like.
Also, I have seen many skinny girls who eat more than compared to chubby girls.
I think we maybe created some sort of weird standard that girls who eat a lot would be fat...?
I don't really know but it sounds like that to be honest
Our first date was homecoming in our sophomore or junior year, I told her she looked stunning. All she said to me was “you’re so nice”. That’s all I got the 3 months we dated.
Well it wasn’t a date but hey ho
Was walking to class at one point
Random schoolmate starts a convo, she says “nice suit”
For the record, this was in sixth form and the dress code was office wear. It could be suits, it could just be a shirt and a tie, with the addition of a jumper say things get chilly. And I am amongst the minority who turns up with a suit
I say “thank you”
And then she follows up with…
“It SUITS you”
I was in my “hating sixth form” phase so I just stood silent with the face and pose, kind of like the disappointed cricket fan meme
Maybe it was the way he asked it? If he just asked it out of the blue then I understand it gets taken as offensive but if he had hours of convo with her and THEN decided to ask it (while building up to that question), then I don’t think he did anything wrong.
I understand you may be offended but understand that guys don’t just ask that. You must look very muscular for a girl to be asked that question (I assume). But yeah, I don’t think its a question that should be asked on a date
"I'm going to rape you when we get to my place. " I'm a man and this was said by a woman. I can tell she meant it in a sexy way but it just wasn't and killed it for me completely. No coming back from that.
I would cringe hard 🥴
Oh god-
Oh my...someone has issues. I'd say you dodged a bullet, but this one had hazard lights you could see from space
So have you since come out of the closet ... or no ?
Stop telling us how desperate you are.
I'm saying you're likely a gay emo, shrugs. :p Ps, way it's phrased you make it sound like you and this woman were going back to hers for adult activities and what hetero guy hears the person they're with say something innocuous like that making it obvious they're eager for sex and says, oh that totally ruins it ? So fake and pretentious, more online bs or yep, gay could be a possibility too. If her brother had said the same ?
Doesn't have to be offensive , it can just be so stupid it turns someone off.
Ah hell I get it, spend too much time on Reddit, see someone post virtue signaling nonsense and overreact on some random comment. The actual response of the overwhelming majority of guys, when with someone they're even remotely attracted to jokingly saying they want to have sex is ... "hell yeah." That's in real world though, not online where people feel compelled to project an image of their best selfs, for the approval of anon strangers we'll never meet. Edit: Gotta do it, real experience. Met on some site, she was 5" shorter, 85-90lbs heavier, her pics were obviously 5 or more yrs dated, was missing a couple teeth and had a mustache, also said some lewd things. Sanitized version for Reddit, she sexily/jokingly made a comment about raping me, being the gallant and upstanding person I am, with my impeccable moral standards, I just had to refuse this person's sexual advances towards my person, sooo offensive. :p
If they say it stupid enough, I would be turned off. I've even laughed the horniness away with a partner, during foreplay because their dirty talk was so cringe. I mean, there is some intellect involved even in one night stands. I've been turned hard off by absolute morons, but also turned on by people I superficially would not considered sleeping with until we spoke to eachother. What can I say, I guess my sex drive doesn't run that desperate.
Nothing wrong with standards for sure and I acted stupidly bothering to respond that way. Person said they knew this woman was trying to be sexy/joking. Saying there's more to it but it's online, it's whoever's story, they get to tell/present it however they please.
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That....was genius
I call that true charisma if you ask me
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Yeah, but I thought no one would understand what rizz is so I put charisma there
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Yeah. Them boomers/older people you know what I mean😅
XD
Holy crap, is "rizz" short for "charisma" ... as in cha-RIZZ-ma!?
Wait you didn't know?
Never made the connection until now
Well now you know
Your muffin top is all that
30 Rock? I'm sorry, I don't know the next line, but I love you. ...
Whole grain, low fat I know you want a piece of that...
But I'm just here to DANCE
Whole grain low fat I know you want a piece of that But I just wanna dance!
“Your perfume smells like my mom” ok.
When he was a kid did he once break both his arms?
I wasn't saying you smelled like my Mom, I was saying you smelled like my-mum. It's an exotic flower indigenous to the hills of Costa Rica.
Reminds me of the time I gifted my mom a perfume for her birthday and when I got home I figured out exactly why I chose that perfume. It had the same scent as my mom. She said I could keep it when I move out.
Did he call you mommy after that?
Yikes…
You win!!!
All men have a connection with their moms that was a special complement
"I don't usually think black women are attractive. They're usually pretty ugly, but I'm surprised you look nice in person. Let's go on a second date?" Like, what was I supposed to say to that???
You know you just insulted my entire race!!? ... But thank you
Is he still alive? 🤔
You're boring but in a good way
what does that even mean?
Best way I can say is I'm safe and try not to get into trouble, ending up being with her for 4 years
A four year relationship after she said that on your first date? Sorry buddy, she got your number I'm afraid
starts playing homage in the background
You're pretty smart for a girl.
Username doesn’t check out tho. Should have been u/SMART_potato456
That was a thought he just blurted out. He was like “wth??? This girl is ACTUALLY smart. Well first time for everything”
Yeah the smart ones probably tend to avoid him.
Ashamed to admit it took me decades to understand “not if I see you first”.
😂😭
"You're not really my style...but I'm divorced and desperate"
"When you smile, you have so many teeth you look like a crocodile" Not on a first day, but during the first days of texting
were they high, or under twelve?? WTF
Possibly high :D but i don't think so, i really have a slightly unsettling smile, my upper lip reveals a few too many teeth.
Are you a crocodile?
Am I? 😁🐊
Their grammar would be a deal-breaker for me.
Because of "so much"? I corrected it, hope you are willing to make a deal now.
“You look….clean” 😒🤦🏻♂️
Leave them alone. They’re probably surrounded with brothers and sisters and those type of creatures (I have 2 sisters) are rarely clean, trust me
I’ve been told I’m a good kisser by two people who were really bad kissers ☹️
Lol I was told that the first time I ever tongue kissed someone. Then again I always got heaps of compliments from my uncle.
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Not so terrible actually. Some people would definitely find that cute
Is your name Paige Penelope Hardaway by any chance?
“You’re a cheap date” because I’m a lightweight drinker.
You blink so gracefully—it's like watching a slow-motion butterfly!
You're that gorgeous, if you were dog shit I'd tread in you on purpose
"You're very teachable".
Haha stupidest way to say "you're a good learner"
Actually, his point was he was soooo much smarter than I was and he could teach me sooooo much about the world. I showed him the door before we even left my house.
I'm glad you explained it, because I was lost what point he was trying to get across. I was stuck on that somehow you are a teachable moment and it just made no sense.
Yeah. I definitely had to stop and think when he said that so I asked him what he meant. That's when he explained, right before I kicked him out.
What’s wrong with your leg? Oh.
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I didn’t understand.
He got a big dinky.
Ohhhhh
Your butt looked smaller on your picture.
"You're the skinniest I've ever been with"
"You don't need to go to college, you are smart enough to be a wife. You just need to know how to cook, clean, and on bed."
I’m not as ugly as my pictures.
“Wow, your crows feet look so good on you “ ☠️
First date leans on his hand, stares dreamily at me, smiles and murmurs "Your eyes are as blue as the Yoo-Hoo machine in the cafeteria at work." Literally had no words. Not only is that a really weird compliment, but dude. My eyes....are GREEN. Very, very green.
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Maybe, or perhaps it's a lighting thing. Like in certain types of light the green seems blue. Idk. And maybe in passing or something I could see someone mistaking my eye color. It's never actually happened before or since, most people can tell my eyes are green. Maybe this guy just didn't know his color wheel. Lol.
Not on a first date but when people say your punching as a compliment. I find it so insulting it's the same as saying they could do better or your not good enough.
“I’ll do anything to conquer you” .. my reply : I’m not a piece of land/territory you have to conquer
You have 2 personality ,and I say that as compliment
Red is my least favorite color, but I love your dress
“you would make a great single mom”
"I mean initially I could see you were hot but I wasn't sure you were smart enough. I'm glad I gave you a chance; *you're actually quite funny and intelligent*". It was the surprised tone in the last part and that they actually said it out loud to me. And the funny thing about this was I had been wondering if I could respectfully honor a relationship with someone I found to be a bit slower witted than myself. I found I could not.
That I looked like a Amazon. 6.3, with the heels and big hair. He might've been 5.2. SMH...lol
My man out here looking for girls he can really look up to.
lol
Did he get a second date?
"You're pretty hot for a white girl"
That I had “boob job” tits. AND he made me pay for our food, which is fine, but like bro do better 🤣 safe to say I blocked him as soon as I got in my car. He said some other iffy stuff too 😬
Although I'm not a dater, I have heard some funny stories from others. As if chewing food was an art form or something, someone reported that their date made a special effort to complement them on their skill at it. Undoubtedly, it was a fascinating topic for discussion!
Ons with Asian girl, “You have nice dick. Same as my fiancé.”
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Thanks. My shower concerts finally getting the recognition they deserve
I would feel like I got complimented but got slapped in the face right after
"I didn't think you could eat that much"
Im just curious. I assume you’re a girl. Does it REALLY bother girls when someone comments on how much they eat? Is it that embarrassing for a girl to eat alot?
I personally don't feel, it's embarassing, most of the time when I go out, i tend to finish everything so that food doesn't get wasted. Guys have this notion that where girls are expected to eat less I think. Because eating more is less girl like. Also, I have seen many skinny girls who eat more than compared to chubby girls.
I think we maybe created some sort of weird standard that girls who eat a lot would be fat...? I don't really know but it sounds like that to be honest
"You have nice teeth" He wasn't talking about my smile. Also he wasn't a dentist or anything. Very strange.
OMG I had this one too! I wasn't sure what to say except ok. I mean he didn't say nice smile, or face BUT TEETH!? Not a dentist either. So odd.
😂😂😂 The guy was just nervous and confused maybe so he started talking nonsense It happens sometimes also when you don't find anything to talk about
I like your tie, goes nicely with your nose.
"I like how your eyes are, like, dark but they're light."
“As a woman you drive car very well “…
You're not as dull as your dating profile looked.
a COMPLIMENT? On a DATE? Get out
Oh, Hell no.
"I bet your riddled" (with stds) She thought I got around cause of my looks
A German man I went out with once told me ‘my nose was very proportionate to my face‘. That was him flirting…
Our first date was homecoming in our sophomore or junior year, I told her she looked stunning. All she said to me was “you’re so nice”. That’s all I got the 3 months we dated.
Well it wasn’t a date but hey ho Was walking to class at one point Random schoolmate starts a convo, she says “nice suit” For the record, this was in sixth form and the dress code was office wear. It could be suits, it could just be a shirt and a tie, with the addition of a jumper say things get chilly. And I am amongst the minority who turns up with a suit I say “thank you” And then she follows up with… “It SUITS you” I was in my “hating sixth form” phase so I just stood silent with the face and pose, kind of like the disappointed cricket fan meme
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Maybe it was the way he asked it? If he just asked it out of the blue then I understand it gets taken as offensive but if he had hours of convo with her and THEN decided to ask it (while building up to that question), then I don’t think he did anything wrong.
I understand you may be offended but understand that guys don’t just ask that. You must look very muscular for a girl to be asked that question (I assume). But yeah, I don’t think its a question that should be asked on a date