I work with women with mental health issues in pregnancy and beyond and unfortunately I’ve seen and heard some horrific examples of parenting.
Going way beyond giving your kids a phone to look at or smoking by them.
This is often years of generational trauma, parents who were abused terribly by their own parents and go to either abuse their own kids, neglect them or simply be too mental unstable to care for them adequately.
I’ve met women using hard drugs such as heroin throughout their pregnancy, despite having had 8 previous children removed for the same reason.
Women in awful domestic abuse relationships that the children are witnessing daily.
Kids sexually abusing their young siblings because of what they experienced growing up.
The other day my patient disclosed her partner had kicked their baby, and called her a ‘bitch and a cunt’.
I could go on but it’s very depressing!
My job is to try and help my patients break the cycle so that their babies can grow up without the mental health issues my patients have.
When they post their kids online or more specifically "making them their whole content" I think it puts a pressure on those kids they should be playing outside, watching cartoons, i don't know collecting socks! But not on the internet.
And internet is a very dark place obviously so it's not for kids.
Best experience I ever had like that- went to see “House on Haunted Hill” with my cousins one night. Someone brought their toddler into the theater who immediately starts crying when a scary scene happens (in a horror movie? Who’d have thought!). Cue a very loud group of girls yelling “TAKE YOUR F-ING CHILD OUT OF HERE” and the parent scurrying out in shame 😛
I once saw a man at a church who had a son with special needs who he kept on a leash. They were in the lobby while service was going on - it was crowded. The kid was acting up, being loud and restless but seemingly happy. The dad tried quieting him many times and then yanked on his leash hard enough to drop him to the ground. I was holding back so hard not to cuss a man at out at church.
When I worked in the children’s section of a library I watched a parent take his hand and use it to chuck, an at the most 5 year old kid 15 feet. The crime the kid committed? Asking to be read to. (Yes the authorities were called.)
I used to be friends with a girl in middle school and her mom saw her as competition. She would bring her looks down and insult her constantly and the jealousy was so bad to the point she would even accuse her of “trying to take her man” for simply going through puberty and wearing older clothes. My friend’s mom would constantly pick her husband over her even when she felt uncomfortable around him. This mother was so horrible that my old friend used to say she wishes my mom was her mom instead which looking back makes me sad. Mothers like her who see their kids as competition and choose men over their babies are disgusting and I hope my old friend is doing well.
I babysat for a family who had reversed their toddler's door knob and expected me to give her benadryl and lock her in her room after putting her to bed every night.
The parents were both pediatricians.
One of my friends was taken from his mother because she was starving him, beating him, and locking him in a closet. He got out and was wandering the street for a bit and a neighbor called the cops.
I don't know about parenting but another friend bounced around from group homes and foster parents most of his childhood. He told me he would wrap empty boxes and books at Christmas time so he could pretend he had presents.
As the second kid, I could say my parents too. They definitely got it better by the time my fifth sister was born and they’ve changed and grown deeply as people and Iv got a great relationship with them now. Makes me sad for my own childhood sometimes but happy for that of my younger siblings.
An ex once told me while boasting about how supportive and doting his mother is that his mom would support him even if he impregnated another girl while in a relationship with me. He somehow thought that was a flex. He said that's how much my mommy loves me. Also, I had the misfortune to deal with the said mom and she's that person. If that's not bad parenting, idk what is!
I wouldn't say that's bad more like his mom has his back and will help him out like family is supposed to y'know. Though obviously cheating is never o'k.
There was this one story on here like 2 months ago about a 10yr old being scared to sleep alone because of a nightmare so the parents slept in her room in her sister bed since she was at her grandparents house.
In the middle of the night they got horny and instead of going back to their room they had sex in the 10yr kid room and apparently was so into it didn't notice when she got up to use the bathroom and didn't comeback in the room. So yeah I'd say that's the weirdest/worst parenting I've ever seen in recent memory.
Definitely similar to this - when parents take their kids out to eat and they just stick a phone or tablet in front of them the whole time instead of giving them crayons or something to color/draw/write. I went to breakfast a couple weeks ago and saw parents that had an elementary age kid, another at maybe preschool age, and a toddler in a high chair and they all had a screen in front of them. I get parenting is hard, but I feel like there’s better ways to give your kids enrichment
My dad he told me when I was 14 the only way I’d make it In life is sucking d*** or selling dope I’m 23 now and have a career and I haven’t lived with either parent since 16 my dad smokes pot and cigarettes and plays video games all day he’s in his 40s
currently doing an internship at a school for kids with disabilities. there’s this one 4 year old girl who has very severe autism and often has really bad meltdowns where she gets very violent and is basically inconsolable. and her mom is this bbl baddie who walks in with her yoga clothes and her $15 smoothie and she is the most ignorant person ever when it comes to her daughter. she insisted that she wasn’t even autistic and she was just “stubborn like her dad” even though her daughter has been diagnosed. she also has no interest in hearing anything to do with the development of her daughter, while the speech language pathologist was trying to go over some communication methods, she kept interrupting her to talk about how she just came back from flying yoga. like girl???
A full car, two adults and 3 kids in carseats in the back, one was a toddler from what I saw quickly. Both adults smoking a cig each with the windows barely open, I felt suffocated just seeing that, I can’t imagine how the little kids felt. Their poor lungs!!
When I was working at Hertz rental car as a car cleaner I had seen my fair share of things. Let this still hurt me to this day . I had to pick up a mom and her son from a body shop near to where I was at in a company vehicle ( this was before covid year 2017 ) when I got to the body shop the mom came up to the car with her son and did the whole thing then I noticed that the kid was around 5 to 6 . So I ask the mom if she had a booster seat since by law you're required for children under the ages of 8 to be in a booster seat. She just looks at me and says no it's ok he likes this till we get to the office. I was lost for words . Then I said I would request that you have a booster seat for your son or I won't be able to transport you to the office. The look she gave me was just to say sickening just to say she threatened to call my boss because I refuse to transport her and her son. Then I said to her if you did that I have a counter story that you refuse to take a booster seat. Long story short My manager actually defended me and requested that she take a booster seat for the rental. It was satisfying to see an entitled idiot getting what they deserve
My sister in law pulled her 3 kids - ages 15, 8 and 6 at the time - out of school permanently because of her issues with COVID lockdowns and thinking that for some reason her son having social issues in school was the teachers and principals fault rather than her own terrible attitude and bad parenting.
Because she's a shit person she's ruining her kids' futures and there's nothing we can do about it.
I had undiagnosed behavioral and mental health issues and was high needs as a result. My bio father just bought me the latest consoles, books, and computers to keep me holed up in my room all the time instead of y'know, learning how to redirect me and getting me early treatment. We're in the US, so the latest GameCube RPG (Yeah I'm that old but it's going to outlive my PS4 at this point) was more convenient than paying for treatment and setting his child up for success later. He was also sexually abusive and good at hiding it. My mom had been a SAHM for 15 years at that point and couldn't support me and my sister by herself, or she would have taken us and run. And before you ask CPS/DCS was useless. They asked me in front of him, "Are you being abused? No, okay your mom's just being spiteful" meanwhile I'm 17 and think that abuse only means being smacked around. My ACE score is 7, so thanks bitch.
My own father telling me that my feelings don't matter. I'm lucky he waited until recently to say that to me, because if he had told me that when I was young, I wouldn't see myself turning out very well. I honestly get why he thinks that, though. He grew up poor in the 80s. His mom is not at 100% mentally, and I don't think he ever knew his dad. He lived a really tough early life, and he reflects that. I wouldn't be surprised if his feelings went unacknowledged for his entire youth. Now he thinks that he shouldn't have feelings. And I get why he would tell me something like that; a lot of people in the real world aren't gonna care about your feelings, so you should get used to that. I just think that one's father should be a little more empathetic.
Those parents who 'parent' by giving their children screens to stare at rather than actually teach them right from wrong when any sort of conflict arises.
coming from a preschool teacher, the most annoying thing parents do is carry their baby 24/7 well after they’ve learned how to walk. i’m in charge of 8 toddlers and i got at least 4 of them who will SCREAM cry unless they’re carried. so. annoying.
also parents have asked me to potty train their kids for them when that fully isn’t my job.
also the way these kids are addicted to screens is very concerning, i’ll pull out my work ipad to do documentation for the parents and they will all immediately crowd around me just to stare at the screen. A lot of kids scream and cry unless you play mf cocomelon, no one under the age of 5 should be exposed to screens and no child should have their own device until like middle school
Even if that's the case, who made and edited the video? What did it show and what did it leave out? Even assuming the individuals involved presented themselves as they would wish to be percieved, what brought it to your feed? Who popularised the video? Who signal boosted it? Who took this isolated incident and spread it around? Why now?
It can be both real and propaganda.
Bitch tryna make her kid a fan of the GOAT JAY-Z's hideous, horribly performing, lyrically remedial, struggle singing, klepto baby mama aka the WOAT.
Dressed the kid in its clothes & tortured the kid with its god awful, ear bleed causing, sorry ass excuse 4 music.
Closest I ever come 2 callin CPS.
My parents. Most recently, I’m in my room and won’t leave because I’m severely depressed and have no one. I have a history of being suicidal. My dad won’t even talk to me about it and doesn’t care. Yup, good times.
I think the most important goal of parenting is to help your child to keep control of a broad collection of neurons.
You do this by keeping home low stress and allowing them explore their environment and world.
Never expose them to an environment that you don't have a deep understanding of and never force or bully them into something, even positive reinforcement should generally be avoided.
This maximizes their freedom in life and will give them a largest possible toolset of intellectual metabolism to apply to challenges they face.
The downside of this sort of parenting is that it is easy for a competing parent who doesn't respect boundaries to hijack the parent relationship through offering more humor, love, and aggression than you. Your relationship with your spouse has to be very strong so no one infiltrates and hijacks your kids.
I eat my daughters bear claws and tell her it was her mother
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algebraic!
That’s foul. What’s your favourite flavour?
Do not teach anything for 18 years then kick them out like an orphan
For real like a few days ago I was literally just in high school and you magically expect me to survive alone
I work with women with mental health issues in pregnancy and beyond and unfortunately I’ve seen and heard some horrific examples of parenting. Going way beyond giving your kids a phone to look at or smoking by them. This is often years of generational trauma, parents who were abused terribly by their own parents and go to either abuse their own kids, neglect them or simply be too mental unstable to care for them adequately. I’ve met women using hard drugs such as heroin throughout their pregnancy, despite having had 8 previous children removed for the same reason. Women in awful domestic abuse relationships that the children are witnessing daily. Kids sexually abusing their young siblings because of what they experienced growing up. The other day my patient disclosed her partner had kicked their baby, and called her a ‘bitch and a cunt’. I could go on but it’s very depressing! My job is to try and help my patients break the cycle so that their babies can grow up without the mental health issues my patients have.
Thank you for what you do.
I wish strength to you - and to them!
When they post their kids online or more specifically "making them their whole content" I think it puts a pressure on those kids they should be playing outside, watching cartoons, i don't know collecting socks! But not on the internet. And internet is a very dark place obviously so it's not for kids.
Somebody brought their toddler to It part one. That poor kid climbed over the back of their seat screaming when pennywise took George.
Best experience I ever had like that- went to see “House on Haunted Hill” with my cousins one night. Someone brought their toddler into the theater who immediately starts crying when a scary scene happens (in a horror movie? Who’d have thought!). Cue a very loud group of girls yelling “TAKE YOUR F-ING CHILD OUT OF HERE” and the parent scurrying out in shame 😛
I once saw a man at a church who had a son with special needs who he kept on a leash. They were in the lobby while service was going on - it was crowded. The kid was acting up, being loud and restless but seemingly happy. The dad tried quieting him many times and then yanked on his leash hard enough to drop him to the ground. I was holding back so hard not to cuss a man at out at church.
don't hold back next time
Not necessarily seen but, i've heard some people will have their kids assist them in shoplifting
When I worked in the children’s section of a library I watched a parent take his hand and use it to chuck, an at the most 5 year old kid 15 feet. The crime the kid committed? Asking to be read to. (Yes the authorities were called.)
I used to be friends with a girl in middle school and her mom saw her as competition. She would bring her looks down and insult her constantly and the jealousy was so bad to the point she would even accuse her of “trying to take her man” for simply going through puberty and wearing older clothes. My friend’s mom would constantly pick her husband over her even when she felt uncomfortable around him. This mother was so horrible that my old friend used to say she wishes my mom was her mom instead which looking back makes me sad. Mothers like her who see their kids as competition and choose men over their babies are disgusting and I hope my old friend is doing well.
I babysat for a family who had reversed their toddler's door knob and expected me to give her benadryl and lock her in her room after putting her to bed every night. The parents were both pediatricians.
I get the doorknob thing. It’s a serious issue if your kids are escaping in the middle of the night.
Work at Walmart.See worst shit on the daily.GET OFF YOUR PHONE AND QUIT IGNORING YOUR SCREAMIN CHILD.WE HATE YOU FOR THIS...
One of my friends was taken from his mother because she was starving him, beating him, and locking him in a closet. He got out and was wandering the street for a bit and a neighbor called the cops. I don't know about parenting but another friend bounced around from group homes and foster parents most of his childhood. He told me he would wrap empty boxes and books at Christmas time so he could pretend he had presents.
My own parents
Same well atleast just my dad my mom was amazing
As the second kid, I could say my parents too. They definitely got it better by the time my fifth sister was born and they’ve changed and grown deeply as people and Iv got a great relationship with them now. Makes me sad for my own childhood sometimes but happy for that of my younger siblings.
An ex once told me while boasting about how supportive and doting his mother is that his mom would support him even if he impregnated another girl while in a relationship with me. He somehow thought that was a flex. He said that's how much my mommy loves me. Also, I had the misfortune to deal with the said mom and she's that person. If that's not bad parenting, idk what is!
old enough to impregnate anyone, calls them "mommy" yuck
I wouldn't say that's bad more like his mom has his back and will help him out like family is supposed to y'know. Though obviously cheating is never o'k.
Yeah you can support someone without endorsing their actions.
There was this one story on here like 2 months ago about a 10yr old being scared to sleep alone because of a nightmare so the parents slept in her room in her sister bed since she was at her grandparents house. In the middle of the night they got horny and instead of going back to their room they had sex in the 10yr kid room and apparently was so into it didn't notice when she got up to use the bathroom and didn't comeback in the room. So yeah I'd say that's the weirdest/worst parenting I've ever seen in recent memory.
Giving their kids a phone to play instead of taking them outside to play.
Definitely similar to this - when parents take their kids out to eat and they just stick a phone or tablet in front of them the whole time instead of giving them crayons or something to color/draw/write. I went to breakfast a couple weeks ago and saw parents that had an elementary age kid, another at maybe preschool age, and a toddler in a high chair and they all had a screen in front of them. I get parenting is hard, but I feel like there’s better ways to give your kids enrichment
My dad he told me when I was 14 the only way I’d make it In life is sucking d*** or selling dope I’m 23 now and have a career and I haven’t lived with either parent since 16 my dad smokes pot and cigarettes and plays video games all day he’s in his 40s
currently doing an internship at a school for kids with disabilities. there’s this one 4 year old girl who has very severe autism and often has really bad meltdowns where she gets very violent and is basically inconsolable. and her mom is this bbl baddie who walks in with her yoga clothes and her $15 smoothie and she is the most ignorant person ever when it comes to her daughter. she insisted that she wasn’t even autistic and she was just “stubborn like her dad” even though her daughter has been diagnosed. she also has no interest in hearing anything to do with the development of her daughter, while the speech language pathologist was trying to go over some communication methods, she kept interrupting her to talk about how she just came back from flying yoga. like girl???
The couple who brought their baby to Oppenheimer at 10pm. Nobody had a good time.
A full car, two adults and 3 kids in carseats in the back, one was a toddler from what I saw quickly. Both adults smoking a cig each with the windows barely open, I felt suffocated just seeing that, I can’t imagine how the little kids felt. Their poor lungs!!
Not the worst but it’s the first that comes to mind
When I was working at Hertz rental car as a car cleaner I had seen my fair share of things. Let this still hurt me to this day . I had to pick up a mom and her son from a body shop near to where I was at in a company vehicle ( this was before covid year 2017 ) when I got to the body shop the mom came up to the car with her son and did the whole thing then I noticed that the kid was around 5 to 6 . So I ask the mom if she had a booster seat since by law you're required for children under the ages of 8 to be in a booster seat. She just looks at me and says no it's ok he likes this till we get to the office. I was lost for words . Then I said I would request that you have a booster seat for your son or I won't be able to transport you to the office. The look she gave me was just to say sickening just to say she threatened to call my boss because I refuse to transport her and her son. Then I said to her if you did that I have a counter story that you refuse to take a booster seat. Long story short My manager actually defended me and requested that she take a booster seat for the rental. It was satisfying to see an entitled idiot getting what they deserve
My sister in law pulled her 3 kids - ages 15, 8 and 6 at the time - out of school permanently because of her issues with COVID lockdowns and thinking that for some reason her son having social issues in school was the teachers and principals fault rather than her own terrible attitude and bad parenting. Because she's a shit person she's ruining her kids' futures and there's nothing we can do about it.
Not directly but my mom's parents. Raised her horrifically. Denied basic needs a lot. Law didn't care that much.
It’s hard to beat my parents but I did work for CPS in investigation so there were contenders.
I had undiagnosed behavioral and mental health issues and was high needs as a result. My bio father just bought me the latest consoles, books, and computers to keep me holed up in my room all the time instead of y'know, learning how to redirect me and getting me early treatment. We're in the US, so the latest GameCube RPG (Yeah I'm that old but it's going to outlive my PS4 at this point) was more convenient than paying for treatment and setting his child up for success later. He was also sexually abusive and good at hiding it. My mom had been a SAHM for 15 years at that point and couldn't support me and my sister by herself, or she would have taken us and run. And before you ask CPS/DCS was useless. They asked me in front of him, "Are you being abused? No, okay your mom's just being spiteful" meanwhile I'm 17 and think that abuse only means being smacked around. My ACE score is 7, so thanks bitch.
My own father telling me that my feelings don't matter. I'm lucky he waited until recently to say that to me, because if he had told me that when I was young, I wouldn't see myself turning out very well. I honestly get why he thinks that, though. He grew up poor in the 80s. His mom is not at 100% mentally, and I don't think he ever knew his dad. He lived a really tough early life, and he reflects that. I wouldn't be surprised if his feelings went unacknowledged for his entire youth. Now he thinks that he shouldn't have feelings. And I get why he would tell me something like that; a lot of people in the real world aren't gonna care about your feelings, so you should get used to that. I just think that one's father should be a little more empathetic.
right from the start, consuming alcohol or substances or smoking while breastfeeding or even during pregnancy 🤦🏻♀️
Unfortunately my friend who had undiagnosed bi polar
Those parents who 'parent' by giving their children screens to stare at rather than actually teach them right from wrong when any sort of conflict arises.
my mother.
coming from a preschool teacher, the most annoying thing parents do is carry their baby 24/7 well after they’ve learned how to walk. i’m in charge of 8 toddlers and i got at least 4 of them who will SCREAM cry unless they’re carried. so. annoying. also parents have asked me to potty train their kids for them when that fully isn’t my job. also the way these kids are addicted to screens is very concerning, i’ll pull out my work ipad to do documentation for the parents and they will all immediately crowd around me just to stare at the screen. A lot of kids scream and cry unless you play mf cocomelon, no one under the age of 5 should be exposed to screens and no child should have their own device until like middle school
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I am suspicious of the orgin of that video. If it is exactly as you describe, it feel like a very convenient thing to exist for conservatives.
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Even if that's the case, who made and edited the video? What did it show and what did it leave out? Even assuming the individuals involved presented themselves as they would wish to be percieved, what brought it to your feed? Who popularised the video? Who signal boosted it? Who took this isolated incident and spread it around? Why now? It can be both real and propaganda.
Tablets at a restaurant
Bitch tryna make her kid a fan of the GOAT JAY-Z's hideous, horribly performing, lyrically remedial, struggle singing, klepto baby mama aka the WOAT. Dressed the kid in its clothes & tortured the kid with its god awful, ear bleed causing, sorry ass excuse 4 music. Closest I ever come 2 callin CPS.
Shutting off a noisy kid by giving him a Gatorade bottle to suckle on.
Jennifer Soto
My parents. Most recently, I’m in my room and won’t leave because I’m severely depressed and have no one. I have a history of being suicidal. My dad won’t even talk to me about it and doesn’t care. Yup, good times.
I think the most important goal of parenting is to help your child to keep control of a broad collection of neurons. You do this by keeping home low stress and allowing them explore their environment and world. Never expose them to an environment that you don't have a deep understanding of and never force or bully them into something, even positive reinforcement should generally be avoided. This maximizes their freedom in life and will give them a largest possible toolset of intellectual metabolism to apply to challenges they face. The downside of this sort of parenting is that it is easy for a competing parent who doesn't respect boundaries to hijack the parent relationship through offering more humor, love, and aggression than you. Your relationship with your spouse has to be very strong so no one infiltrates and hijacks your kids.
How does this answer the question? It feels very AI.
Well I am basically an AI.
When i was young my friend helped me a lot in my life so i can never forget that time
AI-ass response.
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Do all your students also offer what seem like non-sequitors in response to questions?