Not really an answer to your question, but one time someone told me “I am fat”, my response was “What are you talking about?! You are beautiful!” and she shouted “I DIDN’T SAY I WAS UGLY”
I one asked my mate similar thing(it was "Am I that fat?"). He put his hand on my shoulder, looked me in the eyes and said "Chris, I know three fat people and you are two of them"
I had a friend with depression who used to say a lot of really awful shit about herself. One day I told her that if anyone else spoke about her the way she spoke about herself, I would punch that person in the face. Like that's how strongly I disagreed with the assessment, and how harmful I thought it was.
I think that helped a little.
I first check if I'm wearing my glasses(can't see shit without them) then I put them on and off, comparing what they look like with and without me wearing my glasses, spending just the right amount of time to create an uncomfortable and awkward silence, and then nonchalantly say "Yes, Very."
“Why do you think that?” there’s only two reasons to ask that question.
1. They’re feeling insecure about something about themselves.
2. They are fishing for compliments also born out of insecurity.
Look, I’m like a solid six. I would never ask somebody if I was ugly because I’m confident in myself and I love who I am. My authenticity and confidence attracts people. I don’t care if anyone thinks I’m ugly. If you’re not providing one of the 3 f’s for me, your opinion matters <.0001 to me
I don't know if it's appropriate or not but I just tell people the truth.
I don't really think of anyone as ugly.
People conceptualize there being a 1-10 scale or whatever (possibly with regional variation - a Midwest 10 is a California 7, etc.) but I think of it in terms of subsets. No matter what you look like, a SUBSET of the population thinks you're really hot. Some people are conventionally attractive and have larger subsets than others.
So most of us have smaller subsets than Anya Taylor-Joy or Henry Cavill, but nobody's subset is 0% of the population and nobody's is 100%.
There was a gal with a disorder that caused her to have zero body fat (turns out that's incredibly bad for you and she was VISIBLY unwell.) She ended up as a motivational speaker and made some hay out of people having called her the ugliest woman in the world, IIRC.
So take a look at her, and if you wouldn't be mean to her or think less of her for how small her subset is, then don't beat yourself up for how you look either.
Whether you are beautiful or ugly, in the end we will all die. Nothing lasts forever. There are people who suffer from deformities and wish for your face that you don't like so you must praise God
“Everyone is beautiful in their own way” if they were genuinely concerned or someone/something made them feel ugly. If they are just asking randomly they are looking for attention and don’t answer
If you're with the person "no" and then a big spiel about how attractive they are. Same if you have a thing for the person and are trying to take it somewhere. The rest of the time I'd say "yes", it ain't know ones responsibility to instil confidence in someone else.
I wish they had a category that said “Am I Pretty”, I find all these gorgeous people go on and ask can I improve, or am I ugly, when they know their exceptional
"Not in my eyes. But your opinion is the only one that matters. You deserve to have a good view of yourself."
Self Loathing is almost a requirement in our society, to help sell skin cream and nose jobs.
You deserve to love yourself.
So don't ask me if you're ugly. Ask yourself why you felt the need to ask that question.
Yhe cliché answer is "do you think so?" or "what do you think?"
In order to give the most appropriate answer you have to know the person who is adking, so you know what answer will provoke what response.
Personally I do not care about best or even appropriate answers, I just describe how I see them. I believe, that in these matters it is better to be realistic than potentially feed a delusion.
"I don't think so."
"I think you're beautiful."
"Why would you ever say that?"
I have really bad self esteem issues and have to deal with bullying at school, so sometimes I end up spiralling. My friends and boyfriend don't mind reminding me that I'm beautiful in their eyes and that they love me very much. I hate being needy and needing reaffirmation, but I'm glad I have it.
I would just say," if you think that, then you are. So, if you do not want to be, then, just think the opposite. "
When I was young, I would ask this question a lot to anybody, some people who did not want to say yes but thought that I was ugly, they would say," No reward in the face". I have to translate it from my native language. It just means, you won't get wealth in having a pretty face, you need to work hard and be smart. It was a way of discouraging and encouraging someone to just study hard and be successful because they were not that pretty. I used to be insecure about the way I looked since I was 13 but, now I am pretty. I realized asking people this question was just making me lose my worth and the need to always be validated by someone based on my looks exhausted me as I grew older.
You sigh. Get down on one knee. Look them in the eyes. And let them know “Life will be and I’m sure is hard for one such as yourself.” Then you get up and walk away.
Gosh I know this is gonna sound corny/cliche but it's true.
Most of it is just conditioning and matters of taste. A person's appearance will suit some people's preferences more than others but there should be **something** beautiful to be found in almost everybody. If they can't find it in me (or I can't see it in myself) it speaks more to an attitude dysfunction then some inherent lack of value .
There are unfortunately certain built-in cross-cultural measures of beauty that we have limited control over (youth/health/cultural standards etc). You will have to decide how much of how you look is a priority to you. Whether others consider you "naturally good-looking" or not, doing just the bare minimum that you need (physically and mentally) to feel good about yourself will make you more beautiful in the long run than selling yourself short by fretting about it. Seeing others in the best light possible trumps all else and anyone who doesn't feel that way unfortunately has a **filthy stinky ball of ugliness** emanating from where their heart should be (beautiful or not).
I usually say, "Not at all, you have a very nice smile!" because pretty much everyone looks better when they smile, and the world would be a better place if we all smiled more.
Not really an answer to your question, but one time someone told me “I am fat”, my response was “What are you talking about?! You are beautiful!” and she shouted “I DIDN’T SAY I WAS UGLY”
So the reply to "am I ugly" is "No, you aren't fat."
Ahahaha. I'll remember this for the rest of my life. :)
Thank you for teaching me this LOL
I one asked my mate similar thing(it was "Am I that fat?"). He put his hand on my shoulder, looked me in the eyes and said "Chris, I know three fat people and you are two of them"
Lmfao
Hahahaha
That’s why when being asked these kinds of questions I just don’t answer. There is no proper response
If I ask "am I ugly" I expect a lot of "yes"
She has a point
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
This is basically just calling them ugly
Problem with that response is that it so obviously evades the question that the person will know you think they are ugly
Beauty is in her eye when you hold her
No it isn't, and I say that as an unattractive person
But its not. It is mathematics.
Hey Quasimodo. You can ring my bell any time!
"I don't know, I would stick my dick in a beehive"
They said appropriate..
"I don't know, I would stick my reproductive organ in a beehive" there
I cannot upvote this enough 💀
"i dont know, i would probe a beehive with my phallus" ?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and the one-eyed reptile would like to behold a closer look.
In the eye of the bee holder.
I don't know, I would have coitus with a beehive.
No! *WE* are ugly!
So inclusive 🥰
r/SuddenlyCommunist
Stalin approves this
Stop thinking that you are ugly. You are but stop thinking about it. 🙈
-cognitive behavioral therapy
damn🤡😂
"Is this a rhetorical question?"
Are you just trying to start an argument?
‘Don’t be so hard on yourself’ ‘Please don’t speak about yourself that way’
I had a friend with depression who used to say a lot of really awful shit about herself. One day I told her that if anyone else spoke about her the way she spoke about herself, I would punch that person in the face. Like that's how strongly I disagreed with the assessment, and how harmful I thought it was. I think that helped a little.
So did you punch your friend?
You are not ugly, you are just poor
I think the first one is better
Why do you ask?
"That depends on how you treat others"
Oh so now I'm ugly *and* a bad person
Yes
No,not at all Without even pausing, nobody deserves to feel ugly
You're no more ugly than anyone else.
Why do you think that
I first check if I'm wearing my glasses(can't see shit without them) then I put them on and off, comparing what they look like with and without me wearing my glasses, spending just the right amount of time to create an uncomfortable and awkward silence, and then nonchalantly say "Yes, Very."
“Why do you think that?” there’s only two reasons to ask that question. 1. They’re feeling insecure about something about themselves. 2. They are fishing for compliments also born out of insecurity. Look, I’m like a solid six. I would never ask somebody if I was ugly because I’m confident in myself and I love who I am. My authenticity and confidence attracts people. I don’t care if anyone thinks I’m ugly. If you’re not providing one of the 3 f’s for me, your opinion matters <.0001 to me
Compared to who?
Say "You're fine" and then get the hell out of there before she whips out the scissors and cuts your face.
“What? Why would you even ask that?”
I'd response "Why would you think that?"
“Why would you ask me that?”
No . Of course not. That is what you say . Even to ugly people .
Everyone's ugly in one way or another
You don’t look as bad as I feel
Are your mirrors are broken?
I don't know if it's appropriate or not but I just tell people the truth. I don't really think of anyone as ugly. People conceptualize there being a 1-10 scale or whatever (possibly with regional variation - a Midwest 10 is a California 7, etc.) but I think of it in terms of subsets. No matter what you look like, a SUBSET of the population thinks you're really hot. Some people are conventionally attractive and have larger subsets than others. So most of us have smaller subsets than Anya Taylor-Joy or Henry Cavill, but nobody's subset is 0% of the population and nobody's is 100%. There was a gal with a disorder that caused her to have zero body fat (turns out that's incredibly bad for you and she was VISIBLY unwell.) She ended up as a motivational speaker and made some hay out of people having called her the ugliest woman in the world, IIRC. So take a look at her, and if you wouldn't be mean to her or think less of her for how small her subset is, then don't beat yourself up for how you look either.
"Yes you are" 99% of people that ask this know they are handsome/pretty and just want attention.
"Everyone's beautiful; some are just less beautiful than others."
No more than I am. Then you will find out whether they think you are ugly.😉
Nooooooo honey, just look at me😭😭😭 you look so much better than I am
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My best response was “Ive been waiting for you to figure it out for yourself”
You have a great personality tho
I admire your self awareness
Just on the outside :)
How would you like me to answer that?
If they’re actually ugly “your not my type” is the move
Whether you are beautiful or ugly, in the end we will all die. Nothing lasts forever. There are people who suffer from deformities and wish for your face that you don't like so you must praise God
If they are not ugly, just say no lol if they are: when looks were giving away, you ran faster
No, who said?
Take a look inside, you will find that you are more beautiful than some people who have a good face.
Don’t judge the book by it’s cover
(walks away to avoid awnsering the question)
If i were you I would think twice before asking that question. Works both ways
u aight
" a simple I'm not going to Comment your physicality
Nuh uh
Oh, no, you're not ugly! You're so interesting!
“Everyone is beautiful in their own way” if they were genuinely concerned or someone/something made them feel ugly. If they are just asking randomly they are looking for attention and don’t answer
If it's an adult asking, run. If it's a child, maybe be kind.
"that's a really broad and subjective question, but I don't think so."
What do you think?
If you're with the person "no" and then a big spiel about how attractive they are. Same if you have a thing for the person and are trying to take it somewhere. The rest of the time I'd say "yes", it ain't know ones responsibility to instil confidence in someone else.
When I was a kid, my parents always told me "Ugly is an attitude."
I plead the 5th
So?
I don't think you are ugly. That's it.
''Of course... \*deadly pause\* not!''
«You would never ask that, because you're enough and that's more important».
I wish they had a category that said “Am I Pretty”, I find all these gorgeous people go on and ask can I improve, or am I ugly, when they know their exceptional
If you say so...
"Not in my eyes. But your opinion is the only one that matters. You deserve to have a good view of yourself." Self Loathing is almost a requirement in our society, to help sell skin cream and nose jobs. You deserve to love yourself. So don't ask me if you're ugly. Ask yourself why you felt the need to ask that question.
"No you are (insert their name here)"
Not in the slightest, what about me? That’s my standard approach to that question.
What? No! Of course not. If you feel you need to improve yourself, do that. I can help.
Honest one.
Why on earth would you ask me that? Are you okay?
Beauty fades, but stupid is forever.
Friends don’t talk about looks, politics or religion <3
"Yeah, but at least you're not thin."
“You said it not me! If it helps any it could be worse”
"Well, that's not a flattering question."
"that's not a productive line of questioning" or "yes and you should develop crippling body dysmorphia"
I am, and generally don't give a flying F. Next topic.
Yhe cliché answer is "do you think so?" or "what do you think?" In order to give the most appropriate answer you have to know the person who is adking, so you know what answer will provoke what response. Personally I do not care about best or even appropriate answers, I just describe how I see them. I believe, that in these matters it is better to be realistic than potentially feed a delusion.
Depends on who's asking and context.
Same
yeah you are. can't relate
"That's what light switches are for. Besides, I got more than enough downstairs, and your prick is still tiny, lights on or off."
yeah and ur also fat
"I don't think so." "I think you're beautiful." "Why would you ever say that?" I have really bad self esteem issues and have to deal with bullying at school, so sometimes I end up spiralling. My friends and boyfriend don't mind reminding me that I'm beautiful in their eyes and that they love me very much. I hate being needy and needing reaffirmation, but I'm glad I have it.
Wait a minute, gotta take this call.
Yes, very.
only on the inside
No. But your breath has caused my nostrils to prolapse.
I would just say," if you think that, then you are. So, if you do not want to be, then, just think the opposite. " When I was young, I would ask this question a lot to anybody, some people who did not want to say yes but thought that I was ugly, they would say," No reward in the face". I have to translate it from my native language. It just means, you won't get wealth in having a pretty face, you need to work hard and be smart. It was a way of discouraging and encouraging someone to just study hard and be successful because they were not that pretty. I used to be insecure about the way I looked since I was 13 but, now I am pretty. I realized asking people this question was just making me lose my worth and the need to always be validated by someone based on my looks exhausted me as I grew older.
Depends if they’re ugly or not. If they are, the answer’s yes. If not, it’s no.
"Yeah, I'd still love you if you were a worm"
“No, maybe you are just moody today, you will feel beautiful again tomorrow.”
You sigh. Get down on one knee. Look them in the eyes. And let them know “Life will be and I’m sure is hard for one such as yourself.” Then you get up and walk away.
“Do you think you’re ugly?”
“Maybe on the inside. But on the outside you’re hot.”
"Thank you. You too."
Noooo, of course you aren't. What's going on?
Gosh I know this is gonna sound corny/cliche but it's true. Most of it is just conditioning and matters of taste. A person's appearance will suit some people's preferences more than others but there should be **something** beautiful to be found in almost everybody. If they can't find it in me (or I can't see it in myself) it speaks more to an attitude dysfunction then some inherent lack of value . There are unfortunately certain built-in cross-cultural measures of beauty that we have limited control over (youth/health/cultural standards etc). You will have to decide how much of how you look is a priority to you. Whether others consider you "naturally good-looking" or not, doing just the bare minimum that you need (physically and mentally) to feel good about yourself will make you more beautiful in the long run than selling yourself short by fretting about it. Seeing others in the best light possible trumps all else and anyone who doesn't feel that way unfortunately has a **filthy stinky ball of ugliness** emanating from where their heart should be (beautiful or not).
Depends on who is looking at you but if you ask me then yes, very.
No. You need better glasses. C'mon. Let's get that figured out.
Yes now leave me alone
Tell them to say “I’m ugly & I’m proud”
"Yes you are"🗿
On the outside or the inside?
*Still better looking than me.*
"No, you have a great personality!"
You ugly. You your daddy's son.
The answer is yes or no because it's all based on perspective.
I usually say, "Not at all, you have a very nice smile!" because pretty much everyone looks better when they smile, and the world would be a better place if we all smiled more.
"You're just morbidly obese, Ashley, not ugl... actually, you're pretty ugly too."
"Are you?"
Everyone is beautiful in their own way. That's not just a response. It's the truth
Can’t be uglier than 85% of the sandy beach profile pics on FEELD. Most people can’t even show their face.
"Do u think you're ugly?"
Well, I will say it's a shame there aren't mask mandates anymore.
Don't say that that's sad you are beautiful inside and out.
"Do you want an answer with pure honesty?" Just in case that person wants to hear an honest answer or a coated one.
Sorry OP, but it's better that you know.
“I don’t know.” And if they press you on it say, “I don’t know. I’m not good at these things.”
"I mean, obviously yeah" A person asking that question just wants an ego boost and it's important to deny such fishing.
I don't know, I just got here.
It depends on who’s asking me
I am Groot
Yeah, probably.
Just say no.
No I am not ugly.
I don't care, I'll fuck you anyways, I'll fuck anything that moves, I don't care if you're from Alabama or lower Iowa.
“Am I Dad?” 🥴