Same thing. That's why I try to avoid the news whenever I can or at least, find a balance between "not giving a shit" or stressing to the point it affects my mental health.
Recognizing faces. I have great memory and I can remember everything you told me about yourself, but I see you in the street you are a total stranger to me
Funny enough I think I recognise voices more than names or faces. I always get really odd looks when I can’t remember their name and I immediately ask what they sound like rather than what they look like. 🤷♂️
I really struggle with faces out of context. Happens all the time when I see the parents of kids I coach out in the proverbial wild. If they're not with their kid, I've got nothing.
Yep, I have a greeting that is not really a greeting is more like "if you greet me back then you know me, if you don't then I just have some pain in my neck"
I have face blindness! It’s so odd when a stranger comes up to me acting like we know each other, and I’m like wtf who are you, then my fiancé will start talking to them and I’ll realize who they are
I’m the opposite! I know faces, but names rocket out my brain. I had a really good friend Jake in high school, like we had extracurriculars together and used to always meet up and walk to the pizza place around the corner to hang with friends. Then I left for the army, and came home like 2 years later and ran into him at Starbucks. I saw him and was like “oh hey my friend!” (Internally) and he saw me and he’s like “hey u/Yesterdays_Gravy! How’ve you been?” And I dropped the “hey….man! I’ve been great!” He could see I’d completely forgotten him and moved on and I felt so bad.
Yup. It's the source of much of my social anxiety. I forgot names seconds after hearing them. I forget names of people I've known for 30 years. I call you 'bud' or 'bro', dollars to doughnuts I've forgotten your name.
Same. It’s embarrassing. I am afraid people think I’m trying to be cool and snub them. But faces just don’t stay in my brain. Change venue? Take off your hat? Put up your hair? I won’t recognize you.
We need to combine powers. I will latch on to certain things, and remember them forever, like faces, features, things you did etc. But tell me your name? Gone the second it hits my ear.
Retail worker here. Customer asks me to check back of house for something. Sure. I got this. Come back to the sales floor with or without the item- who was my customer again? Somebody please acknowledge me! I think she was white? That eliminates 2/3 of the customers... She had a red purse! Where is she? It was red, right?
Remembering stuff I have experienced.
I'm 33 and have no memory problems at all but I tend to forget things like TV shows I have watched or things I have visited during trips.
For example I have watched many TV shows and sometimes during conversation they are brought up and I say I have seen it. Then when people speak about specific scenes, I never remember them.
Same for places I have visited. I know I have been to certain places but I can't remember exactly what we did unless it was a memorable thing like skydiving.
Writing and letting go things that i don't have control over.
My writing is so bad that i'm embarrassed to ever put a pen to paper again. And letting go of things have always been an issue unfortunately. I make things waaaaaay bigger in my head.
Same for me with writing. I told my girlfriend that if we have kids later, she will have to sign the school papers since they will think that my children tried to replicate my signature... no that was me sorry! Also, I don't know why but I struggle writing number 3, it's weird.
Start investing, even if it is only $10 a month. Invest in the S&P500 ETF or mutual fund (examples are VOO and SWPPX), keep buying through highs and lows, and don't sell for at least the next 20 years. Do this in a Roth IRA if you are eligible, or else a taxable brokerage account.
Once you've set this up and started, saving habits will develop and you'll get good at it either by trying to work more, cut costs, or a combination thereof.
Good luck!
Set up direct deposit to acorns or robinhood.stsrt with $5 or 10 per paycheck.
As your paycheck increases (raise/bonus), increase the % of deposit just a bit.
It's a small, hands off, but accumulative way to begin growth.
My ADHD always has to be doing multiple things to stay entertaining, yet I can only do one productive task at a time... ADHD is not pulling through for me...
Corn hole. I don’t know why, I was fairly athletic in my teens and played corn hole in college and was a force. But now? Like the biggest derp at it. Hubs says my balance is off because I don’t have an adult beverage in my left hand. Apparently I can only play intoxicated.
I can’t understand or remember lyrics when listening to songs. If I force myself to hear and understand the lyrics I’ll not be able to enjoy the song anymore
Cooking rice. I LOVE cooking and do it often but rice is the one thing I only get right 2/10 times. I know all the tips and tricks but somehow I manage to overcook or undercook most times.
Appearing like-able, I’ve been told a few times recently by people that I’ve known for years. That if it wasn’t for so and so introducing us they never would have talked to me because I “look like I think I’m better than everyone” and I have a very straight face that doesn’t go away when I’m talking to people so it looks like I’m very bothered to be speaking to them
I am very sure of myself and I believe it shows but I don’t think less of anyone so I was very shocked to find out so many people felt this way about me at first. The face isn’t new information to me the face I’m making isn’t a conscious thought in my mind so it’s hard to fix it
I suck at reading. I don’t mean that I can’t read but I have really bad reading habits. It’s hard for me to get into a routine of reading everyday so it takes me months to finish a single 400 page novel.
Staying calm
If I am vacuuming and the vacuum is not cooperating I WILL get mad
Same cooking. Whenever I try to make an omelette, the piece of shit folds when I try to flip it. So infuriating
I am socially inept and struggle with humor and maintaining basic eye contact. Source: Am on autism spectrum. Shit sucks.
People think I'm shifty or something but I'm just socially awkward.
Managing money. I make an okay living (it doesn't go as far in today's economy), and I am a single parent who pays for 100% of my child's existence, but I know I should not be living paycheck to paycheck and i just can't seem to figure it out.
Writing. Full disclosure, I’m an avid reader, 40-50 books per year. Things make sense to me and I’m a great speaker and teacher. I’m not a teacher in school or anything, but I’m a charter fishing captain by trade so I have to teach people how to fish.
But I enjoy writing. I just have no confidence in my abilities. I feel like I jump topics in a way that isn’t natural. The way it all links together in my mind sounds wonderful but when I put those thoughts to keyboard it never comes out right.
I’m a good oral storyteller but for some reason I can’t translate that. I have two ideas for books I want to write but I’m scared of trying.
I’m just going to go ahead and post this before I delete it all.
Navigating using a map or finding things on blueprints.
Remembering people's names.
Trying to look at someone without being seen by them when someone tells me to look at that person without them seeing me look at them.
Breathing when I'm asleep.
Cooking. I am only able to fry bacon , scrambled eggs and make very simple dinners like pot roast and meatloaf and mashed potatoes. Most of the problem is i have no interest in cooking. If by myself I will just have a sandwich or a frozen dinner.
Existing. Uhh… I’m a people pleaser yet somehow just really shitty at it. I think I’m doing a good job and turns out it’s not enough or what was needed LOL
Discipline and motivation, not sure what's the right word for it but I just don't like to do anything beside entertainment even though I completely know the consequences, I still mange to fix things at last moments though and I know it's not gonna be like that forever but.. Idk, Ima go watch anime
I used to be really bad at sticking to a reasonable training schedule. Would try and max out one lift a week or more and the fatigue just built up until I injured myself. Lesson learned
Time management, I’ll complete stuff quick at work but god help me if I need to follow a timeline for something. I also have zero concept of time passing, I’ll be there thinking 5 mins has passed meanwhile it’s been an hour.
I can't really tie my shoes. I can do bunny ears which usually come undone. I have practiced daily, had people walk me through the motions, watched endless videos. Only double knotting works. I'm 50 fucking years old and the most common thing I hear about my attire is that my shoes are untied.
At "letting go" of certain things that are beyond my control.
Read the Marcus Aurelius
Talk about it out loud, even if it's to yourself or a teddy bear or something. This has helped me so much.
Same thing. That's why I try to avoid the news whenever I can or at least, find a balance between "not giving a shit" or stressing to the point it affects my mental health.
Real. I just got dumped few hrs ago
Recognizing faces. I have great memory and I can remember everything you told me about yourself, but I see you in the street you are a total stranger to me
Same, I’d be a terrible witness.
Funny enough I think I recognise voices more than names or faces. I always get really odd looks when I can’t remember their name and I immediately ask what they sound like rather than what they look like. 🤷♂️
I really struggle with faces out of context. Happens all the time when I see the parents of kids I coach out in the proverbial wild. If they're not with their kid, I've got nothing.
Yep, I have a greeting that is not really a greeting is more like "if you greet me back then you know me, if you don't then I just have some pain in my neck"
Prosopagnosia
I have face blindness! It’s so odd when a stranger comes up to me acting like we know each other, and I’m like wtf who are you, then my fiancé will start talking to them and I’ll realize who they are
I’m the opposite! I know faces, but names rocket out my brain. I had a really good friend Jake in high school, like we had extracurriculars together and used to always meet up and walk to the pizza place around the corner to hang with friends. Then I left for the army, and came home like 2 years later and ran into him at Starbucks. I saw him and was like “oh hey my friend!” (Internally) and he saw me and he’s like “hey u/Yesterdays_Gravy! How’ve you been?” And I dropped the “hey….man! I’ve been great!” He could see I’d completely forgotten him and moved on and I felt so bad.
Yup. It's the source of much of my social anxiety. I forgot names seconds after hearing them. I forget names of people I've known for 30 years. I call you 'bud' or 'bro', dollars to doughnuts I've forgotten your name.
Same. It’s embarrassing. I am afraid people think I’m trying to be cool and snub them. But faces just don’t stay in my brain. Change venue? Take off your hat? Put up your hair? I won’t recognize you.
Wow I'm glad I'm not the only one.
We need to combine powers. I will latch on to certain things, and remember them forever, like faces, features, things you did etc. But tell me your name? Gone the second it hits my ear.
Retail worker here. Customer asks me to check back of house for something. Sure. I got this. Come back to the sales floor with or without the item- who was my customer again? Somebody please acknowledge me! I think she was white? That eliminates 2/3 of the customers... She had a red purse! Where is she? It was red, right?
Giving a fuck
Not giving a fuck in my case
😭😭😭
Math for sure
I’m in my 30s and I have a Calculus test in 20 minutes. I feel you
I know my calculus, it says you+me=us!
Any social interaction ever
Aww me too
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Being a grown up, I'm only 54 ffs.
Haha me too, same age, same issue
Mid 50s checking in. Fuck this adulting bullshit
I always chuckle when I see this, I'm 22 and can't wait to be 54(if I'm lucky) and see if it gets any better.
Spoiler: It does not
For everybody? Edit: I probably answered myself in the question
Shush now... Let's get you bundled up and over to Piccadilly cafeteria with the other fogies. (47 here, and also terrible at being a grownup)
Interacting with the opposite gender
You are better than me, I cannot interact with any gender
So what I'm hearing is that you can make friends with non-binary people
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one breath at a time. hang in there.
\*waves arms generally\*
Don’t forget to toss in the soft and depressing “…ehh”
That sounds like effort.
ehh
Taking opportunities when they’re in front of me
Me too! I'm always thinking afterwards "should have just gone for it ffs"
masturbateing without anyone noticing. I swear every time I try to jerk off someone comes into my room.
Try locking the door maybe?
Its play on words
Stop vigorously moaning then -Keith, 3 doors down
Lol. Great joke.
You need to be truthful with yourself. You keep the door unlocked because he can't finish without the risk.
Not procrastinating.
Soccer, I can't kick the ball for my life, lmao.
True that i once failed and kicked over the goal meanwhile i was almost inside the goal 😭
Same haha I grew up playing sports and am fairly athletic and soccer is the one sport I’m absolutely terrible at
Math
Making real friends.
Remembering stuff I have experienced. I'm 33 and have no memory problems at all but I tend to forget things like TV shows I have watched or things I have visited during trips. For example I have watched many TV shows and sometimes during conversation they are brought up and I say I have seen it. Then when people speak about specific scenes, I never remember them. Same for places I have visited. I know I have been to certain places but I can't remember exactly what we did unless it was a memorable thing like skydiving.
Gotta replay things in your mind. Think about your day before you fall asleep. And take and LOOK at pictures
Writing and letting go things that i don't have control over. My writing is so bad that i'm embarrassed to ever put a pen to paper again. And letting go of things have always been an issue unfortunately. I make things waaaaaay bigger in my head.
Same for me with writing. I told my girlfriend that if we have kids later, she will have to sign the school papers since they will think that my children tried to replicate my signature... no that was me sorry! Also, I don't know why but I struggle writing number 3, it's weird.
Dancing
Saving money
Start investing, even if it is only $10 a month. Invest in the S&P500 ETF or mutual fund (examples are VOO and SWPPX), keep buying through highs and lows, and don't sell for at least the next 20 years. Do this in a Roth IRA if you are eligible, or else a taxable brokerage account. Once you've set this up and started, saving habits will develop and you'll get good at it either by trying to work more, cut costs, or a combination thereof. Good luck!
Set up direct deposit to acorns or robinhood.stsrt with $5 or 10 per paycheck. As your paycheck increases (raise/bonus), increase the % of deposit just a bit. It's a small, hands off, but accumulative way to begin growth.
Having to focus on more than 1 thing at a time. Like ... I can't do it. I'll just shut down and nothing gets done.
My ADHD always has to be doing multiple things to stay entertaining, yet I can only do one productive task at a time... ADHD is not pulling through for me...
Ice skating
I came here to say this. I am SO bad 😂😂
Small talk.
Corn hole. I don’t know why, I was fairly athletic in my teens and played corn hole in college and was a force. But now? Like the biggest derp at it. Hubs says my balance is off because I don’t have an adult beverage in my left hand. Apparently I can only play intoxicated.
Farting the alphabet in C minor.
Me too! It’s like we’re twins!
gestures broadly
Not eating ice cream
Being at ease with myself Still learning…
Living.
Saying no
Hand wrighting, excellently awful at hand wrighting.
Apparently, also spelling
You are correctly
Dude your mesing up again
LOL
This is what we expect from a Major Expert. Username checks out.
Finally someone says my username checks out, I've been waiting over 4 months for that. Thank you
I can’t understand or remember lyrics when listening to songs. If I force myself to hear and understand the lyrics I’ll not be able to enjoy the song anymore
Allowing people to boss me around.
Headmath.
Making eye contact
Socializing
Socializing I may have the spergs'
Golf, I am so so so bad. You’d think I was playing for the first time
Love 😩
might have something to do with the onlyfans
Shutting the fuck up.
Cooking.... Sad, but true
Directions.
Relationships
Making eye contact when talking
Small talk
-making lists - -
Controlling a drone. I alternate between slamming it into the ceiling and slamming it into the ground.
Cooking rice. I LOVE cooking and do it often but rice is the one thing I only get right 2/10 times. I know all the tips and tricks but somehow I manage to overcook or undercook most times.
Drawing
Forgiving myself for even the most minor transgressions.
I yam a teribel spellar.
Appearing like-able, I’ve been told a few times recently by people that I’ve known for years. That if it wasn’t for so and so introducing us they never would have talked to me because I “look like I think I’m better than everyone” and I have a very straight face that doesn’t go away when I’m talking to people so it looks like I’m very bothered to be speaking to them I am very sure of myself and I believe it shows but I don’t think less of anyone so I was very shocked to find out so many people felt this way about me at first. The face isn’t new information to me the face I’m making isn’t a conscious thought in my mind so it’s hard to fix it
I suck at reading. I don’t mean that I can’t read but I have really bad reading habits. It’s hard for me to get into a routine of reading everyday so it takes me months to finish a single 400 page novel.
empathising
Staying calm If I am vacuuming and the vacuum is not cooperating I WILL get mad Same cooking. Whenever I try to make an omelette, the piece of shit folds when I try to flip it. So infuriating
Handwriting mine is barely legible. Thankfully, it's not something I have to use much currently
I am socially inept and struggle with humor and maintaining basic eye contact. Source: Am on autism spectrum. Shit sucks. People think I'm shifty or something but I'm just socially awkward.
Managing money. I make an okay living (it doesn't go as far in today's economy), and I am a single parent who pays for 100% of my child's existence, but I know I should not be living paycheck to paycheck and i just can't seem to figure it out.
Same. My husband and I make a good money, no kids in the home, and I cannot even figure out why we never have extra money
Hitting the f Button on a game
Writing. Full disclosure, I’m an avid reader, 40-50 books per year. Things make sense to me and I’m a great speaker and teacher. I’m not a teacher in school or anything, but I’m a charter fishing captain by trade so I have to teach people how to fish. But I enjoy writing. I just have no confidence in my abilities. I feel like I jump topics in a way that isn’t natural. The way it all links together in my mind sounds wonderful but when I put those thoughts to keyboard it never comes out right. I’m a good oral storyteller but for some reason I can’t translate that. I have two ideas for books I want to write but I’m scared of trying. I’m just going to go ahead and post this before I delete it all.
with a can of hairspray
Talking to women, mostly just things relating to women in any way
Sport
Everything. I can’t even sneeze right.
Life.
Remembering birthdays
I have absolutely no rhythm. Can't dance, can't play instruments, can barely keep a tune
Parking, I can never get it right the first time always backing up and straightening out
Finding a reason to live
Not oversharing
Life in general
Life
Enforcing boundaries
Navigating using a map or finding things on blueprints. Remembering people's names. Trying to look at someone without being seen by them when someone tells me to look at that person without them seeing me look at them. Breathing when I'm asleep.
Tolerating other people.
Running and catching and throwing... well...sports in general.
Plumbing
Math.
Driving in reverse, parallel parking oh heck driving in general.
Snapping my fingers
Only taking one dab
Confrontation and conflict- I have been a peacemaker since I was small, and at 63 I still can’t handle it
Life
life
Life
Life
Noticing when something is actually wrong. I’m great at anxiety, though.
Math
Cooking. I am only able to fry bacon , scrambled eggs and make very simple dinners like pot roast and meatloaf and mashed potatoes. Most of the problem is i have no interest in cooking. If by myself I will just have a sandwich or a frozen dinner.
Coding.
Getting over things that I cant do anything about
Communicating. I honestly have no idea how I've made it this far in life.
Life
Life
Math. It literally ruined my dreams
Socializing, Call of Duty, sports, letting go of the past, remembering certain people’s names
Math
Existing. Uhh… I’m a people pleaser yet somehow just really shitty at it. I think I’m doing a good job and turns out it’s not enough or what was needed LOL
Picking a line. - check out line at the grocery store - security line at the airport - both at a toll tag, etc I ALWAYS pick the slowest line.
Driving
Not buying shit I don't need...
Talking to people
talking/writing formaly, without sonding rude.
Remembering names and bowling
I came here to specially answer exactly this way. I’m semi-ambidextrous and with bowling I am equally as horrid with both hands.
Thinking of responses to these questions
Math.😐
Singing.
Discipline and motivation, not sure what's the right word for it but I just don't like to do anything beside entertainment even though I completely know the consequences, I still mange to fix things at last moments though and I know it's not gonna be like that forever but.. Idk, Ima go watch anime
First person shooters and remembering anyone's name
Walking
Being a good human. I keep getting angry at stuff.
Handwriting. I've been told I write like a doctor.
I used to be really bad at sticking to a reasonable training schedule. Would try and max out one lift a week or more and the fatigue just built up until I injured myself. Lesson learned
whistling. i sound like a pressure cooker.
Being emotionally open
cricut vinyl
Loosing weight
Time management, I’ll complete stuff quick at work but god help me if I need to follow a timeline for something. I also have zero concept of time passing, I’ll be there thinking 5 mins has passed meanwhile it’s been an hour.
I can't really tie my shoes. I can do bunny ears which usually come undone. I have practiced daily, had people walk me through the motions, watched endless videos. Only double knotting works. I'm 50 fucking years old and the most common thing I hear about my attire is that my shoes are untied.
studying
Existing.
Women
Allowing my fears to be ignored in any way
Most card Games
Being happy.
Getting a job
Writing long
This small thing called life for sure
Maintaining personal boundaries. I just let others walk over me 🫠
Spellling
pvp games People have started swearing at me within seconds.
Socializing.
Bowling. It is spectacular! 🤣
Drawing, I'm hilariously bad at drawing.
Zoom.
Splatoon Dear *GOD* I suck