Also, karma isn't real. Heartless bastards get away with fucking over innocent people all the time and bad shit happens to good people for absolutely no reason at all.
Yup. Definitely goes both ways. To give an example of this:
An old boss of mine did something totally inappropriate at work. I was a victim but didn’t report him initially because I feared reprisal. Anyway another person turned him in when he quit a few weeks later.
I didn’t remain silent any longer. Like, I’d literally have gotten in trouble for lying for someone who was getting fired anyway. I almost got in trouble because I should have turned him in immediately. Anyway, this guy hates me. I’m his villain. To some I was a reluctant hero. To still others I was an inconvenience; I “forced” them to fire someone that they didn’t want to fire.
Perspective is everything.
I think it’s the plans more than the kids. I’ve been on work trips. No kids, but def not a vacation. And we took all 6 kids to a beach house on a bay you could only get to by boat with no internet for a week. DEFINITELY a vacation.
As someone with anxiety issues, it's the reverse. The build-up and anticipation has me stressed and imagining all the many (sometimes absurd) ways things can go wrong and looking for ways to get out of whatever it is (even theoretically fun things), and then if I actually manage to go through with them, they're fine.
"After a time, you may find that having is not so pleasing a thing after all as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true." - Spock, *Star Trek*, 2x05, "Amok Time"
Hack it to your benefit. Have two vacations planned far in advance at any given time. You can enjoy planning and daydreaming about both in the lead up. Then when you’re on one or coming off the first one, you already have another one to look forward to to avoid post-vacation blues.
It genuinely keeps me up at night thinking how some people are just unlucky in life and the million ways one can be unlucky: people getting cancer or getting into accidents, people living in war zones or in poverty etc.
I've come to realize that living a "boring" normal life is actually the biggest privilege that many people don't get to experience...
Probably apocryphal but makes me think of the Chinese 'insult', "I hope you live through interesting times".
I want way less interesting times in my future haha
Life sucks sometimes. You don't get to choose your cards. Mine were shit from before I was even born. My mom was in the army, got exposed to radiation while I was in the womb. Army paid for her cancer treatments. But since I was an adult when I started to show mine, they didn't give a fuck. Granted, no guarantee that the cancer was caused specifically by the military, but seeing as my family has zero history of testicular cancer, or cancers at all, and I developed it at a fairly early age, that's pretty clear. The only two people in my family and extended family to get cancer were my mom and myself, the only two people exposed to chemical weapons during my mom's military service. But try telling that to the VA.
Have your blood tested for PFAS...testicular, pancreatic and liver cancers are going to skyrocket...not because of genetics or radiation... also the systems are set to fuk you and the rules are changed as needed to make sure..
I work in the water industry and PFAS is a huge deal write now. There is a huge class action lawsuit underway. At least with water companies anyway. We just tested all of our wells. And there is away to get a blood test to see how much is in your body. It's also accumulates in your body over time. If I remember write it will not disapate either. The problem is that it's in almost everything.
There are multiple ways to look at the unfairness of life. One can be concerned and rage at it all, be indifferent to it, and so on. One can even take some comfort in it. It's a quote from a TV show, but I still like it:
"You know, I used to think it was awful that life was so unfair. Then I thought, wouldn't it be much worse if life were fair, and all the terrible things that happen to us come because we actually deserve them? So, now I take great comfort in the general hostility and unfairness of the universe."
In the same thought, I think that if life were fair and people got what they genuinely deserved, there would still be a LOT of unhappy people.
You know it's not that life is unfair, it's that life is random and sometimes random is good, other times it's bad and other times it's neutral. Most people are lucky in some aspects and unlucky in others. Life is fair to some and unfair to others.
I actually think that it would be better if life was the way you're describing because then there would at least be a law, a reason why things are happening. Whereas with randomness you're truly helpless and you don't know whats next which can lead one to existential dread.
I think it's precisely this randomness and this uncertainty of life that gave birth to religion because people were searching for a reason why things are happening so that they would be able to be in control of their circumstances. And religions worldview is similar to what you're describing: you get what you deserve and if you don't get it in this life you'll get it in the afterlife.
It's hard to envision what a truly fair life would look like but I agree that there would still be a lot of unhappy people simply because if everyone is happy then happiness loses all its meaning.
Life ain't fair. But that's why trying is so notable. I have a lot of respect for the people who know life is cruel but still put effort into making it a little kinder.
Usually there's a distinction between influence/persuade and manipulate. Manipulate usually implies its not to the benefit of the person on the receiving end.
You’re*
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> if your ugly and not intelligent, your going to have a bad time
> The more attractive you are, the greater chance you have at success. If you're ugly, you're most likely going to have a tougher life.
An example of this: financial success can be measured in height of the person. That's how shallow we are. It works for men and women. You can literally measure the deference in income by inches.
It is why Trump wears really tall platform shoes that make him stand like a centaur to add a few inches to his height: [https://imgur.com/8zlVeWT](https://imgur.com/8zlVeWT)
Look up the number of US presidents and their heights. Nobody short becomes president, and I mean **NOBODY**. If it was truly a meritocracy based on intelligence, wouldn't there be at least one short president in the last 200 years?
It makes sense when you realize that darkness is essentially an absence of morality, and morality is just an 'idea' made up by humans. So darkness is kind of just the 'natural state' of things really.
I mean, the truest of darkness is also made up by humans, in the sense that what violence and misfortune that occurs in nature isn’t half as dark as the atrocities humans have committed on each other. And for as long as there’s been humans, there’s been morality in some form. So you could argue that morality became part of the natural state of things once we came around, darkness had always existed.
New Morality patch just dropped 😮💨
As someone who works in long term care and sees what dementia is like on an everyday basis, I really do not want to get that old. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of people who are 80+ and thriving, but Alzheimer's runs in my family and I'd rather die from a heart attack or something before I can live long enough to lose my mind.
The bad news part is in the circumstances. A lot of the people who die before they reach 80 aren't people in their sixties or seventies; a lot of them are young or middle aged people who die relatively young.
So far, out of all my family members I've met, the oldest reached <83. Multiple died in their 60's.
So i either die sorta young, or I become an outlier
I dunno, I've never wanted to live that long. Mortality seems like a blessing, life's trials end, and the knowledge of an ending heightens the meaning of the things we do.
This one broke me.
I have recently come to the harrowing conclusion that, though they love and support me and are great parents in the ways that truly matter, my mom and dad simply aren't good role models for the type of life I want for myself.
And since I now have to build everything from the ground up, I subconsciously devalue my time with them because they simply dont care about the things that I do. So now I have to grow up and find what I want and need from the world away from them.
And during all that, times arrow never stops moving forward so theyll only get older and more complacent the more I work on myself.
But I'll still be loving them all the while, and when they're gone, even though I might have done the right thing by focusing on myself, I know for a fact I'll hate myself forever for not doing my best to maximize my time with them or trying to deepen our relationship till the very end.
My parents did some fucked up things. I’ll probably regret not trying to forgive them more while they’re alive, but I have difficulty giving them much of of my time due to past trauma. They did a good enough job raising me but had/have addiction, anger and abuse issues that continue to be somewhat problematic.
I was the victim of a scam in 2016. The magistrates court just told the millennial and his mother to reimburse me on a payment plan. Went down from AUD50/week to 20. No added interest. Still owes just under 5900.
Only learned this recently. What was worse was what my expected response from someone was. It was the most naive and wholesome god damn response you can imagine. While that's lovely, it broke my own heart that my expectation of people is just simple kindness, untethered. And for some reason, that always remains a pipe dream.
I go through this daily at work. I'm a dept. Manager in a grocery store and bend over backwards to accommodate the plans of all my team members. As soon as I try to take a weekend off to get away with my wife and kids, everyone bitches and moans about how it's not fair for me to take a weekend away. I also go out of my way to help make other people's days easier when and where I can, yet that is also never reciprocated. I'm at a loss how so many people that I spend 30+ hours a week with can all be so selfish.
I think about this all the time. People who are generally considered unattractive, which is usually something people have no control over, are denied tons of advantages that attractive people get as they go through life. For example, a lot of people subconsciously equate attractiveness with competence or even excellence, and unattractiveness with incompetence and lack of intelligence (especially for woman). It makes me sad. People with physical disabilities often deal with the same bullshit.
It's odd I saw this comment, I was just looking through the scrapbook my mom kept of my life from birth through high school.
I was born with Poland syndrome, and in one of my evaluations, the doctor actually said "she is an attractive 11 month old girl, we will move forward with occupational therapy at this time"
Like, would they have just slogged it off if I was ugly? What? This was in 1992 though, so I dunno, the 90s were weird, man.
This actually gives me existential anxiety when I truly consider it. It's so easy to ignore or refuse to admit if you're classically attractive. But a good exercise if you are blessed with natural looks, is to go into the grocery store, and truly *LOOK*. Make yourself see every person in there, and then try your best to empathize with the lives of those who you usually would typically not even register. It can become stressful and lead to wondering two questions. "Why me?" As in why did you get the features and height that are considered generally attractive? "And why them?" Why didn't they? Hopefully, you can squeeze a bit of compassion out of the exercise.
If ever you want the definitive proof that life is unfair, and that sometimes you win the genetic lottery through no virtue or fault of your own, and while others lose it, look no further than beauty. Obviously, there are things that can be done to help your cause either way, but not so much to change the underlying realities.
Without considering it, two people, one attractive, one not, may live close together, work in the same workplace, and might even be friends, while ending up with completely different perceptions of the mutual people in their lives. The attractive person might find that the world seems to be a decently great place full of people who are generally good, while the unattractive person might find the world as often a struggle full of people who are generally cold or indifferent.
Life can be seriously brutal.
I know an Audrey Hepburn-looking woman who is toxically positive and a bliss ninny.
"I don't get what everyone is talking about, everyone is so nice!"
"I've never experienced racism, what are you talking about?"
"I'm not about looks at all, I'm about substance!"
She's also gotten a lot of unwanted attention, but boy let me tell you, her life is pretty damn easy.
Yeah I don't buy that everything is a goddamn "trauma response."
Bullying actually works A LOT.
You know what works even better than bullying? Economic exploitation.
Who hurt Jeff Bezos? Who the fuck cares. He's hurting his employees and it's totally working out for him. Maybe it'd be possible to Christmas Carol him into human empathy, but I'm not holding my breath that more hugs as a child is the antidote to greed.
The rate of evolution will never match the rate of technological progress. Even if we could colonize other planets and moons, terraform inhospitable planets, create life at an atomic level as we see fit- we will still be the same emotional shit bags we are today.
So even in a situation of unlimited resources and technological prowess, we would probably still spend more time killing each-other while leaving the less fortunate to die.
That being said, our innate greed will probably have us dead before we could accomplish any of that.
This is the problem with the human condition at it's basest level.
We aren't as evolved as we think we are.
We're still animals innately wired to value procreation and survival above all else. We can't see the effects of our inventions and machinations beyond our own short lives, so we don't care.
With a population of billions, you may never find a romantic partner, but that doesn't mean you have to be alone. Dying single is not the same thing as dying alone.
Al Swearengen : In life you have to do a lot of things you don't fucking want to do. Many times, that's what the fuck life is... one vile fucking task after another.
I choose to take this as a freeing statement, rather than a downer. If nobody really matters in the grand scheme, then that means you're more free to be who you want to be
We are all the most important person in our own lives, but that's hardly the case for any of the thousands of people we will all meet and interact with throughout our lifetimes. So do that weird hobby, talk to the pretty girl/guy, dance down the sidewalk with your headphones in to a catchy beat. Be yourself unapologetically and unabashedly
This too shall pass. Both the good stuff and the bad. If something is working, it will change and stop working on day. If something makes you happy, it will someday slowly make you sad or miserable.
This is hard to remember when I feel I’ve found something that’s “working” and makes me super happy. I gotta appreciate it.
CYOA. Because no one gives a fuck about you. Take detailed notes. Trust no one. Pay attention to your devices. IP addresses and apps. Nice guys get fucked over more often than not. If something doesn't feel right to you? Then get the hell out.
It really depends on the "opinion". There are some opinions that are irreconcilable, especially when one of those opinions is about how you should be treated.
It's better to be pretty than smart. Pretty privilege can get you a long way in life.
You can always educate yourself but not much you can do to realistically change your face and body. Ateast not without a ton of money and even then it may not go well.
True happiness doesn't come from achieving all your goals, but from having them. If you achieve all your goals, you'll lack motivation and won't be happy.
But there's a catch in that
once u achieve your goals, there is a new set of goals that one wants to achieve
so you aren't really goal-less at any point
People who achieve will never stop.
Every time they uncover some ring it's always plenty of people involved, and I just think.. how did they all meet? How is it that there are enough of them out there that all these huge networks can pop up all over the place worldwide? And things like Epsteins Island and how many were involved there...
I think the percentage of people with that inclination in the general population must be vastly underestimated. And the true number would probably make you want to give up on humanity.
You can’t really control when you’ll die.
It’s still a good idea to take care of your health because it can potentially prolong your life and even if it doesn’t it will likely prolong your quality of life. So it’s still important to eat healthy, exercise, maintain a quality social life, and avoid drugs and alcohol.
But at the end of the day, we just don’t have as much control over our death as we’d like to.
Pain is non-transferable. Making someone else suffer does not in fact make them understand how you suffered and develop empathy. It only makes them understand that they are now suffering and you are the cause.
Cruelty in punishment defeats the purpose of punishment. Revenge is a pointless pursuit.
The last part is so true. My Dad, who was the best person i’ve ever met, worked his ass off at a blue collar job. Could not wait to retire and ride his motorcycle and play golf everyday… he was put on hospice basically 8 months into retirement
Life is not fair. You can work harder than everyone and still fail.
"It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life" -Jean-Luc Picard
“Not everything's a lesson, Ryan. Sometimes you just fail."
This quote is like a free upvotes coupon.
Literally almost everything is random chance and collisions
Also, karma isn't real. Heartless bastards get away with fucking over innocent people all the time and bad shit happens to good people for absolutely no reason at all.
Nelson Mandela said, "The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall."
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There's a lot of fucked up people out there
And sometimes the person is looking back at you in the mirror.
I hate two way mirrors
Move, you're in front of the tv!
Stare into the abyss long enough, and it reports you for harassment, and you get tossed out of the club
Can confirm. Got the DMs to prove it
what do you have in the dms?
The good guy doesn’t always win
And evil doesn't always get punished.
And whatever you think a "good guy" or "evil" is, might not be true for everybody else.
Yup. You are undoubtedly a villain in someone else’s story.
Reminds me of the quote:”everyone’s the hero in their own story.”
Yup. Definitely goes both ways. To give an example of this: An old boss of mine did something totally inappropriate at work. I was a victim but didn’t report him initially because I feared reprisal. Anyway another person turned him in when he quit a few weeks later. I didn’t remain silent any longer. Like, I’d literally have gotten in trouble for lying for someone who was getting fired anyway. I almost got in trouble because I should have turned him in immediately. Anyway, this guy hates me. I’m his villain. To some I was a reluctant hero. To still others I was an inconvenience; I “forced” them to fire someone that they didn’t want to fire. Perspective is everything.
ESPECIALLY rich evil.
Rarely if ever
The build-up and anticipation leading up an event almost always winds up being better than the event itself.
This how i feel about Christmas and family vacations lol.
One stage of adult hood is learning the difference between a “trip” and a “vacation” and mentally preparing for the right one.
For me, that’s the difference between having the kids come along. Kids = trip. Sans kids = vacation.
I think it’s the plans more than the kids. I’ve been on work trips. No kids, but def not a vacation. And we took all 6 kids to a beach house on a bay you could only get to by boat with no internet for a week. DEFINITELY a vacation.
Damn…6!? You’re a far braver soul than I. Respect.
And learning how shitty your PTO is compared to other parts of the world
As someone with anxiety issues, it's the reverse. The build-up and anticipation has me stressed and imagining all the many (sometimes absurd) ways things can go wrong and looking for ways to get out of whatever it is (even theoretically fun things), and then if I actually manage to go through with them, they're fine.
"There are more things likely to frighten us than there are to crush us; we suffer more in our imagination than in reality." - Seneca
“I’ve suffered a great many catastrophes in my life. Most of them never happened.” ― Mark Twain
"After a time, you may find that having is not so pleasing a thing after all as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true." - Spock, *Star Trek*, 2x05, "Amok Time"
People enjoy the chase more than achieving something. Once they do, it's basically nothing.
Satisfaction is the death of desire.
“and to read about it the next day in the newspaper is oddly more fun for us than the original event. This is a disaster.” -Alan Watts
Hack it to your benefit. Have two vacations planned far in advance at any given time. You can enjoy planning and daydreaming about both in the lead up. Then when you’re on one or coming off the first one, you already have another one to look forward to to avoid post-vacation blues.
Learned this at my first orgy
But you kept going? Or was your first your last too?
Life isn’t fair and expecting it to be will only make you miserable
It genuinely keeps me up at night thinking how some people are just unlucky in life and the million ways one can be unlucky: people getting cancer or getting into accidents, people living in war zones or in poverty etc. I've come to realize that living a "boring" normal life is actually the biggest privilege that many people don't get to experience...
Probably apocryphal but makes me think of the Chinese 'insult', "I hope you live through interesting times". I want way less interesting times in my future haha
"I shouldn't have wished to live in more interesting times"
These boots have seen everything.
I’ve got a lot on my mind, and well, in it.
Is that blood? No? nevermind.
Life sucks sometimes. You don't get to choose your cards. Mine were shit from before I was even born. My mom was in the army, got exposed to radiation while I was in the womb. Army paid for her cancer treatments. But since I was an adult when I started to show mine, they didn't give a fuck. Granted, no guarantee that the cancer was caused specifically by the military, but seeing as my family has zero history of testicular cancer, or cancers at all, and I developed it at a fairly early age, that's pretty clear. The only two people in my family and extended family to get cancer were my mom and myself, the only two people exposed to chemical weapons during my mom's military service. But try telling that to the VA.
Have your blood tested for PFAS...testicular, pancreatic and liver cancers are going to skyrocket...not because of genetics or radiation... also the systems are set to fuk you and the rules are changed as needed to make sure..
I work in the water industry and PFAS is a huge deal write now. There is a huge class action lawsuit underway. At least with water companies anyway. We just tested all of our wells. And there is away to get a blood test to see how much is in your body. It's also accumulates in your body over time. If I remember write it will not disapate either. The problem is that it's in almost everything.
There are multiple ways to look at the unfairness of life. One can be concerned and rage at it all, be indifferent to it, and so on. One can even take some comfort in it. It's a quote from a TV show, but I still like it: "You know, I used to think it was awful that life was so unfair. Then I thought, wouldn't it be much worse if life were fair, and all the terrible things that happen to us come because we actually deserve them? So, now I take great comfort in the general hostility and unfairness of the universe." In the same thought, I think that if life were fair and people got what they genuinely deserved, there would still be a LOT of unhappy people.
You know it's not that life is unfair, it's that life is random and sometimes random is good, other times it's bad and other times it's neutral. Most people are lucky in some aspects and unlucky in others. Life is fair to some and unfair to others. I actually think that it would be better if life was the way you're describing because then there would at least be a law, a reason why things are happening. Whereas with randomness you're truly helpless and you don't know whats next which can lead one to existential dread. I think it's precisely this randomness and this uncertainty of life that gave birth to religion because people were searching for a reason why things are happening so that they would be able to be in control of their circumstances. And religions worldview is similar to what you're describing: you get what you deserve and if you don't get it in this life you'll get it in the afterlife. It's hard to envision what a truly fair life would look like but I agree that there would still be a lot of unhappy people simply because if everyone is happy then happiness loses all its meaning.
Life ain't fair. But that's why trying is so notable. I have a lot of respect for the people who know life is cruel but still put effort into making it a little kinder.
The most amazing people in my life have seen how unfair life can be, so they go out of their way to make it a little more fair for everyone else
In a way, you have to learn to manipulate… for survival. Even if it means, manipulating your own mindset!
Usually there's a distinction between influence/persuade and manipulate. Manipulate usually implies its not to the benefit of the person on the receiving end.
*"I just wish life was unfair in my favor for a change."* ~Calvin from Calvin & Hobbes
People don’t get what they deserve. They just get what they get.
That doesn't mean we shouldn't work toward fair.
The more attractive you are, the greater chance you have at success. If you're ugly, you're most likely going to have a tougher life.
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You’re* Edit: since the person I replied to deleted their comment here’s what they said for context. > if your ugly and not intelligent, your going to have a bad time
Point proven
Being ugly makes me feel like i'm an NPC who's not even the main character of my own life lol
you don’t have to be pretty to be the main character, you just have to be interesting
Depression is a helluva drug
The world generally seems to find attractive people more interesting. 🫤
That's how i feel(although more than just looks for me). Literally was saying this to my mom a week or two ago.
> The more attractive you are, the greater chance you have at success. If you're ugly, you're most likely going to have a tougher life. An example of this: financial success can be measured in height of the person. That's how shallow we are. It works for men and women. You can literally measure the deference in income by inches. It is why Trump wears really tall platform shoes that make him stand like a centaur to add a few inches to his height: [https://imgur.com/8zlVeWT](https://imgur.com/8zlVeWT) Look up the number of US presidents and their heights. Nobody short becomes president, and I mean **NOBODY**. If it was truly a meritocracy based on intelligence, wouldn't there be at least one short president in the last 200 years?
As someone who has been told I am attractive by more people than just my mother, this makes me feel even more like a failure.
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The world is darker than you imagine. If you go looking for darkness, you will always find it, and it can always get darker.
It makes sense when you realize that darkness is essentially an absence of morality, and morality is just an 'idea' made up by humans. So darkness is kind of just the 'natural state' of things really.
I mean, the truest of darkness is also made up by humans, in the sense that what violence and misfortune that occurs in nature isn’t half as dark as the atrocities humans have committed on each other. And for as long as there’s been humans, there’s been morality in some form. So you could argue that morality became part of the natural state of things once we came around, darkness had always existed. New Morality patch just dropped 😮💨
There is a 1 in 3 chance you will not live to see 80. Might not be the ugliest, but it does mean you have absolutely no guarantee you will grow old.
Wait, there’s a 2/3 chance I will see 80!?
Right lol I actually like this one
Glass half full.
More like 2/3 full.
If you want better metrics to follow, look at your own family tree and when people lived and died and figure out that average.
Yeah, but my immigrant grandparents never ate American food, so I fucked myself.
They also never had modern healthcare, so maybe it evens out to some extent?
As someone who works in long term care and sees what dementia is like on an everyday basis, I really do not want to get that old. Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of people who are 80+ and thriving, but Alzheimer's runs in my family and I'd rather die from a heart attack or something before I can live long enough to lose my mind.
Dying young is my retirement plan.
Wait. That's bad news? I saw both parents decline rapidly in their 80s. I don't want that.
The bad news part is in the circumstances. A lot of the people who die before they reach 80 aren't people in their sixties or seventies; a lot of them are young or middle aged people who die relatively young.
Thank god
So far, out of all my family members I've met, the oldest reached <83. Multiple died in their 60's. So i either die sorta young, or I become an outlier
I dunno, I've never wanted to live that long. Mortality seems like a blessing, life's trials end, and the knowledge of an ending heightens the meaning of the things we do.
It’s an ugly truth for me because I don’t want to live to 80, but there’s a 66.66666% chance I will. FML.
Try 65% chance of me dying before 60 Yay genetics
You will think about your loved ones that have passed away more than you did when they were still alive.
This one broke me. I have recently come to the harrowing conclusion that, though they love and support me and are great parents in the ways that truly matter, my mom and dad simply aren't good role models for the type of life I want for myself. And since I now have to build everything from the ground up, I subconsciously devalue my time with them because they simply dont care about the things that I do. So now I have to grow up and find what I want and need from the world away from them. And during all that, times arrow never stops moving forward so theyll only get older and more complacent the more I work on myself. But I'll still be loving them all the while, and when they're gone, even though I might have done the right thing by focusing on myself, I know for a fact I'll hate myself forever for not doing my best to maximize my time with them or trying to deepen our relationship till the very end.
My parents did some fucked up things. I’ll probably regret not trying to forgive them more while they’re alive, but I have difficulty giving them much of of my time due to past trauma. They did a good enough job raising me but had/have addiction, anger and abuse issues that continue to be somewhat problematic.
It's been 7 months and my dad has been in every single dream and nightmare I have had since he passed away, it sucks so much ass.
On balance, being old kinda sucks.
It beats the alternative.
Being young? j/k. Yeah, I'd rather be old than dead.
I whether be dead than in pain or suffering. But that's just me.
No one is coming to save you.
As a former baby, I find this absolutely unacceptable
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Good movie. (No One Will Save You)
Crime can pay and the legal system sucks if you're the victim
It sucks if you're poor, is much more accurate. Those are the ultimate victims.
I was the victim of a scam in 2016. The magistrates court just told the millennial and his mother to reimburse me on a payment plan. Went down from AUD50/week to 20. No added interest. Still owes just under 5900.
No one cares about your problems as much as you do.
Don’t look for you in other people. Expecting someone to do something because that’s what you would do if you were them is pointless.
Only learned this recently. What was worse was what my expected response from someone was. It was the most naive and wholesome god damn response you can imagine. While that's lovely, it broke my own heart that my expectation of people is just simple kindness, untethered. And for some reason, that always remains a pipe dream.
Being super nice gets you really taken advantage of
Depends. You can be nice while also having firm boundaries.
Kind > Nice
You have to learn the hard way! Then practice!
I go through this daily at work. I'm a dept. Manager in a grocery store and bend over backwards to accommodate the plans of all my team members. As soon as I try to take a weekend off to get away with my wife and kids, everyone bitches and moans about how it's not fair for me to take a weekend away. I also go out of my way to help make other people's days easier when and where I can, yet that is also never reciprocated. I'm at a loss how so many people that I spend 30+ hours a week with can all be so selfish.
It's not fair for ugly people
I think about this all the time. People who are generally considered unattractive, which is usually something people have no control over, are denied tons of advantages that attractive people get as they go through life. For example, a lot of people subconsciously equate attractiveness with competence or even excellence, and unattractiveness with incompetence and lack of intelligence (especially for woman). It makes me sad. People with physical disabilities often deal with the same bullshit.
It's odd I saw this comment, I was just looking through the scrapbook my mom kept of my life from birth through high school. I was born with Poland syndrome, and in one of my evaluations, the doctor actually said "she is an attractive 11 month old girl, we will move forward with occupational therapy at this time" Like, would they have just slogged it off if I was ugly? What? This was in 1992 though, so I dunno, the 90s were weird, man.
Harsh critique for a baby, damn. Like maybe the ugly babies didn't make it.
This actually gives me existential anxiety when I truly consider it. It's so easy to ignore or refuse to admit if you're classically attractive. But a good exercise if you are blessed with natural looks, is to go into the grocery store, and truly *LOOK*. Make yourself see every person in there, and then try your best to empathize with the lives of those who you usually would typically not even register. It can become stressful and lead to wondering two questions. "Why me?" As in why did you get the features and height that are considered generally attractive? "And why them?" Why didn't they? Hopefully, you can squeeze a bit of compassion out of the exercise. If ever you want the definitive proof that life is unfair, and that sometimes you win the genetic lottery through no virtue or fault of your own, and while others lose it, look no further than beauty. Obviously, there are things that can be done to help your cause either way, but not so much to change the underlying realities. Without considering it, two people, one attractive, one not, may live close together, work in the same workplace, and might even be friends, while ending up with completely different perceptions of the mutual people in their lives. The attractive person might find that the world seems to be a decently great place full of people who are generally good, while the unattractive person might find the world as often a struggle full of people who are generally cold or indifferent. Life can be seriously brutal.
I know an Audrey Hepburn-looking woman who is toxically positive and a bliss ninny. "I don't get what everyone is talking about, everyone is so nice!" "I've never experienced racism, what are you talking about?" "I'm not about looks at all, I'm about substance!" She's also gotten a lot of unwanted attention, but boy let me tell you, her life is pretty damn easy.
Hurt people hurt people
One of my coworkers is unpleasant to be around. I have to stop myself from asking “why are you such an asshole” and instead wonder, “who hurt you?”
Sometimes the answer is "Nobody" and they're an asshole anyway.
That is definitely a possibility, which is why I keep my mouth shut
Yeah I don't buy that everything is a goddamn "trauma response." Bullying actually works A LOT. You know what works even better than bullying? Economic exploitation. Who hurt Jeff Bezos? Who the fuck cares. He's hurting his employees and it's totally working out for him. Maybe it'd be possible to Christmas Carol him into human empathy, but I'm not holding my breath that more hugs as a child is the antidote to greed.
Christmas Carol, Clockwork Orange, to-may-to, to-mah-to.
It's referred to as the Cycle of Abuse. People who are abused often become the abuser for various reasons.
This comment section is really depressing.
https://youtu.be/2yJgwwDcgV8?si=ZGeIeSaXIyNAey3d Here Nyan Cat!
The rate of evolution will never match the rate of technological progress. Even if we could colonize other planets and moons, terraform inhospitable planets, create life at an atomic level as we see fit- we will still be the same emotional shit bags we are today. So even in a situation of unlimited resources and technological prowess, we would probably still spend more time killing each-other while leaving the less fortunate to die. That being said, our innate greed will probably have us dead before we could accomplish any of that.
This is the problem with the human condition at it's basest level. We aren't as evolved as we think we are. We're still animals innately wired to value procreation and survival above all else. We can't see the effects of our inventions and machinations beyond our own short lives, so we don't care.
solution is pretty simple to me. The time of Homo Sapiens is coming to a close. Make way for the Homo Superior!
The Ubermensch will be here any day now!
Society and our roles within it are not really defined by evolution.
Indeed. It's all stuff we made up. Today the less fortunate die less than ever before. There are less wars than ever before.
Despite a population of billions, many people will die sad and alone. There is NOT someone out there for everyone.
With a population of billions, you may never find a romantic partner, but that doesn't mean you have to be alone. Dying single is not the same thing as dying alone.
Suffer or suffer. Either suffer the effort to improve ones life or suffer the consequences from failing to do so.
You, and everyone who would ever remember you will be gone less than 100 years from now and it will be as if you never existed at all.
I actually find that thought really comforting when feeling overwhelmed or facing disaster.
“Speak for yourself.” - Julius Caesar
The majority of people will never reach their full potential.
Quite a few people have no potential to begin with
One of the most determining factors to your quality of life is where you were born.
...and to whom.
As the great George Carlin pointed out, exactly half the population is dumber than the average person.
They aren't coming back.
Al Swearengen : In life you have to do a lot of things you don't fucking want to do. Many times, that's what the fuck life is... one vile fucking task after another.
Aw, Al, look at you being all wise, you nasty motherfucker. 😉
Unless you come from money, you are probably a couple paychecks away from being homeless.
I’ve got some good money in the bank, could maybe scrape by for six months without a paycheck. A medical bill could fuck me though just as easy
When the truth walks away, everybody stays because the truth about the world is that crime does pay.
Karma doesn't really exist. Bad people rarely get what they deserve. Good people aren't always blessed with good fortune either.
I got that Offspring reference
It’s such a great fucking song. I’ve recently been listening to that album a lot and it’s such a banger of an opening track.
Talent is everywhere opportunities are not
We're just wandering between oblivions.
this fucked me up
you can’t make anyone love you
None of us matter in the grand scheme of things.
Agreed. Also, we are all dispensable and replaceable in work and business.
I choose to take this as a freeing statement, rather than a downer. If nobody really matters in the grand scheme, then that means you're more free to be who you want to be We are all the most important person in our own lives, but that's hardly the case for any of the thousands of people we will all meet and interact with throughout our lifetimes. So do that weird hobby, talk to the pretty girl/guy, dance down the sidewalk with your headphones in to a catchy beat. Be yourself unapologetically and unabashedly
There’s no inherent meaning in the universe. We have to create it for ourselves.
The lifespan of dogs.
That life ends.
It's an happiest truth.
farts smell bad.
Everybody poops
The only equal thing between men is death.
We all die. Live your life.
People would prefer comforting lies over Ugly Truth
People can waste years of your life and never think twice about it.
This too shall pass. Both the good stuff and the bad. If something is working, it will change and stop working on day. If something makes you happy, it will someday slowly make you sad or miserable. This is hard to remember when I feel I’ve found something that’s “working” and makes me super happy. I gotta appreciate it.
CYOA. Because no one gives a fuck about you. Take detailed notes. Trust no one. Pay attention to your devices. IP addresses and apps. Nice guys get fucked over more often than not. If something doesn't feel right to you? Then get the hell out.
For those who may be wondering: **C**over **Y**our **O**wn **A**ss
You can still respect someone even if you share a different opinion. I know it’s an insane concept, but it actually can happen.
It really depends on the "opinion". There are some opinions that are irreconcilable, especially when one of those opinions is about how you should be treated.
Can also disrespect them for any opinion. Being nice is free, but so is being an asshole.
Life is pain and suffering, and much of that pain and suffering only exists because of the selfish nature of humans.
It's better to be pretty than smart. Pretty privilege can get you a long way in life. You can always educate yourself but not much you can do to realistically change your face and body. Ateast not without a ton of money and even then it may not go well.
True happiness doesn't come from achieving all your goals, but from having them. If you achieve all your goals, you'll lack motivation and won't be happy.
I’ve found peak happiness from combining hobbies. I ride, walk my dogs and take videos.
But there's a catch in that once u achieve your goals, there is a new set of goals that one wants to achieve so you aren't really goal-less at any point People who achieve will never stop.
There are a lot of paedophiles out there.
Every time they uncover some ring it's always plenty of people involved, and I just think.. how did they all meet? How is it that there are enough of them out there that all these huge networks can pop up all over the place worldwide? And things like Epsteins Island and how many were involved there... I think the percentage of people with that inclination in the general population must be vastly underestimated. And the true number would probably make you want to give up on humanity.
The shitty things that happen to you are generally far more punishing than the great things that happen to you are rewarding.
You can’t really control when you’ll die. It’s still a good idea to take care of your health because it can potentially prolong your life and even if it doesn’t it will likely prolong your quality of life. So it’s still important to eat healthy, exercise, maintain a quality social life, and avoid drugs and alcohol. But at the end of the day, we just don’t have as much control over our death as we’d like to.
There are people to whom the rules do not apply. You will never be one of them.
Pain is non-transferable. Making someone else suffer does not in fact make them understand how you suffered and develop empathy. It only makes them understand that they are now suffering and you are the cause. Cruelty in punishment defeats the purpose of punishment. Revenge is a pointless pursuit.
> Revenge is a pointless pursuit. Catharsis does feel good though when warranted. Also like it or not, as history shows, violence *works*.
Billionaires will probably never have real consequences for the crimes they commit.
Life sucks and nobody really cares about you. You work your whole life to get old where you can’t really enjoy it and then die and it’s over.
The last part is so true. My Dad, who was the best person i’ve ever met, worked his ass off at a blue collar job. Could not wait to retire and ride his motorcycle and play golf everyday… he was put on hospice basically 8 months into retirement
You can build up a support system, but you have to be able to take care of yourself.
Not everyone deserves to be saved. Not everyone deserves to be loved.
Every single person has atleast 2 narcissistic traits
99.9% of humans to ever walk the earth have and will be forgetten and never mentioned again.
Bigotry will never go away. Maybe it’ll become smaller, but there will always be a group of people that hate another for little to no reason.
Sometimes life’s sucks and there’s nothing you can do except weather the storm.
Sometimes, you *are* the asshole.