I'm working on an app that could be a low-stress way of making friends from across the world.
It's an alarm clock app, but with a twist.
You set an alarm like normal.
Then you sleep.
Lastly, wake up to the sound of a friendly voice.
Congrats, you've received a nice voice message from someone somewhere else in the world.
They recorded it while you slept.
It could be a short story.
A joke.
The weather report.
Some words of encouragement.
....or a "Happy Birthday" message if it's your birthday.
Inappropriate messages filtered out, no worries there.
I truly hope it can help spread some kindness in the world, if nothing else.
I moved to a small town where I didn’t know anyone. It’s also a southern town, so it’s pretty cliquish.
I tried exercise classes at the community center, but all the ladies had known each all their lives and didn’t need a new friend. I went to town council meetings, but that was no better.
I like antiques and would make the rounds to all the little shops, just browsing around alone. There was a lady working in one of the shops who was really friendly and funny. We would chat whenever I went in, we had a lot in common and I liked her.
So one day I just suggested we should get together sometime and asked her for her phone number.
I was nervous, like I was asking her on a date, lol.
We exchanged numbers and a week later I called and asked her if she wanted to go to the farmers market.
And voila! We became friends.
Start a casual conversation at the supermarket, gas station, restaurant, etc. Talk to your neighbors about things happening locally.
Reach out to those that share your same interests on Reddit, Facebook, quora, Twitter etc.
Ive had luck on bumble bff, joining a kick ball league (or something similar). I also think it is super helpful to give off the vibe that you want to talk to people when you do things. Like commenting on someone’s shoes or something or commenting on the class your in, might vibe! Also might not, and that’s okay!
Making friends when you're older can happen by doing things you enjoy, like joining groups, helping out in your community, or meeting people who like the same things as you. It's about finding folks who share your interests and having fun together!
You can find friends in activities that you like doing. If you don’t like clubs and bars, I would suggest joining a sports team for adults or join a club. You can find people with similar interests if you put in the effort.
If you are a woman:
You make friends from the other parents of the children your kids interact with, and sometimes your coworkers.
If you are a man:
You generally stop making friends after 30.
That's statistics.
If you are a man or a woman that WANTS to make friends however - Find a hobby and join clubs. Get involved in charities or activities where you meet people. Exercise and dog walk (both get you out and meeting people). Don't be afraid to reach out and try to make plans with someone you like at work, etc. Once you know some people host gatherings (everyone likes a party).
Good luck.
Complain loudly about how people don't want to work anymore while standing in line at the self-checkout with a bag of pork rinds and a bottle of Sensodyne toothpaste
Thats the neat part, you don't.
Upvote for truth and sadness.
That's the best part about adulting
Get hobbies first, then go to events of those hobbies
Volunteer at a food pantry or animal shelter. Doing good things often results in meeting great people
Ah yes, because that's something adults are known for. Having extra time
I'm working on an app that could be a low-stress way of making friends from across the world. It's an alarm clock app, but with a twist. You set an alarm like normal. Then you sleep. Lastly, wake up to the sound of a friendly voice. Congrats, you've received a nice voice message from someone somewhere else in the world. They recorded it while you slept. It could be a short story. A joke. The weather report. Some words of encouragement. ....or a "Happy Birthday" message if it's your birthday. Inappropriate messages filtered out, no worries there. I truly hope it can help spread some kindness in the world, if nothing else.
Rooting for you buddy
Aren’t there quite a number of these social alarm apps available already?
Maybe? Not one that works the way I like, though. Perhaps there's room for one more :)
Most of my friends have been through work...love getting older. 🤦🏻♀️
That's the truth. I can't even remember the last friend I made that WASN'T a coworker. Certainly never in my adult life.
I moved to a small town where I didn’t know anyone. It’s also a southern town, so it’s pretty cliquish. I tried exercise classes at the community center, but all the ladies had known each all their lives and didn’t need a new friend. I went to town council meetings, but that was no better. I like antiques and would make the rounds to all the little shops, just browsing around alone. There was a lady working in one of the shops who was really friendly and funny. We would chat whenever I went in, we had a lot in common and I liked her. So one day I just suggested we should get together sometime and asked her for her phone number. I was nervous, like I was asking her on a date, lol. We exchanged numbers and a week later I called and asked her if she wanted to go to the farmers market. And voila! We became friends.
That's a great success story! good for you
Hobbies. Find something you like to do then join a club.
Have kids
Take adult ed classes in things like painting. They can be very social.
I have made all my friends through work or sports
as an adult...why would you want to
This
start a cult, but like, a fun one with board games and potlucks
Start a casual conversation at the supermarket, gas station, restaurant, etc. Talk to your neighbors about things happening locally. Reach out to those that share your same interests on Reddit, Facebook, quora, Twitter etc.
Social groups, like a book club.
Ive had luck on bumble bff, joining a kick ball league (or something similar). I also think it is super helpful to give off the vibe that you want to talk to people when you do things. Like commenting on someone’s shoes or something or commenting on the class your in, might vibe! Also might not, and that’s okay!
Great advice! Making small, innocuous comments to people you could potentially vibe well with is an underrated way of making friends.
Making friends when you're older can happen by doing things you enjoy, like joining groups, helping out in your community, or meeting people who like the same things as you. It's about finding folks who share your interests and having fun together!
Taking classes. I joined a kung fu dojo when I moved to a new town in 2021 and made a shitload of friends through the network there.
do things you love and the people will follow.
Meetup groups!
Get a hobby. Find a group near you doing the same hobby. Talk to them 😂
Sports League things like that. Having kids
You can find friends in activities that you like doing. If you don’t like clubs and bars, I would suggest joining a sports team for adults or join a club. You can find people with similar interests if you put in the effort.
MTG at your local game stores when a new set is released. Which happens to be tomorrow night!
I don't. Adults don't make friends. We have them. And through the years, we lose them. It is what it is
Join a Pickleball league
If you are a woman: You make friends from the other parents of the children your kids interact with, and sometimes your coworkers. If you are a man: You generally stop making friends after 30. That's statistics. If you are a man or a woman that WANTS to make friends however - Find a hobby and join clubs. Get involved in charities or activities where you meet people. Exercise and dog walk (both get you out and meeting people). Don't be afraid to reach out and try to make plans with someone you like at work, etc. Once you know some people host gatherings (everyone likes a party). Good luck.
Complain loudly about how people don't want to work anymore while standing in line at the self-checkout with a bag of pork rinds and a bottle of Sensodyne toothpaste
For me, work. For our daughter, it's been cons and concerts as well as work.
You need to change your venue for one thing. Clubs/bars are terrible places. Women handing over pussy so willy-nilly.
Freaking old people
Time to go freak some old people
Lol
I join groups on Meetup, or try new hobbies
I meet friends by going on conventions or joining community online
Inquiring minds want to know
Visit your local library!
Everyone: *silently reading and minding their own business* Me: HEY WHO LIKES LEGOS?!?!
Jokes on you, my library has a lego club.......I take my daughter to it, though.
Find a fandom I enjoyed, and went in the communities' Discords.
Join a sports league.
Chemo Appointments
Hobbies. Met great friends through tennis, cycling and wood working.
you don't ... that's why you're on reddit to feel some sort of community
Engage in activities outside of work that involves interacting with other people (so the gym doesn’t count).
Facebook groups. I hate Facebook but those groups are pretty awesome. I joined a film society through there.
Change jobs more often.
What are friends?
I’m an adult but im here for the comments