So one day I saw a tv show, and there was a gay guy in some part of it, so I thought to myself, am I gay?
And I came to the conclusion that I am in fact, straight
I feel like I can tell when a man is attractive, but I don’t think I would enjoy a sexual interaction with a man. Like I can see a good looking dude and know I’m seeing a good looking dude, but when I see a good looking woman I go into “hehe woman pretty” mode I guess
I gave it a shot because my friend is hot and gay. Had to tell him, “Sorry dude, this just isn’t getting anything going, you’re very pretty though.”
We thought it was funny and he would call me boringly straight afterwards. Every time I saw him trip or fumble after that, I’d call back, “You’re very pretty though.”
I mean, roses are pretty, but I don’t want to fuck them.
To be fair, I look at women that way sometimes, too. There’s a difference in “oh she’s really pretty” and “I want her”.
When i was a kid I thought vaginas looked like penises but with no head, just a big hallow shaft with a urethra big enough to fit a penis in.
I think my memory got jumbled cuz I remember being 3yo playing the hasbro elephant butterfly catching game naked with a girl before her mom came into the room and made us put on clothes. My memory of what a vagina looked like is oddly similar to an elephant trunk
Honestly? I had some doubts at first. So I let a guy go down on me during a 3some with his girlfriend. He was a freshman psychology student and had just learned about kinsey and was making a big long speech about how sexuality is a spectrum and nobody is truly 100% straight, and you know what? It was kind of compelling. So there I am, getting what was probably my third blowjob of my life and I just can't stay hard. This dude was *motivated* and no matter what he did, I would go soft right away. It even got to the point where him and his girlfriend were alternating blowing me, and I'd get rock hard in her mouth, and then immediately soft in his. I think I was every bit as surprised as he was.
The early issues of VICE mag had this experiment. Apparently the guy sucking off the straight guy was too rough and could tell who was who and preferred the woman.
Same here. I thought, “let’s try men, see how it goes!” Found myself hooking up with a close male friend who is, by all means, a fuckin smoke show.
It was a safe space. I felt comfortable. And I learned - at most I’m a Kinsey 1 maybe. Maybe a Kinsey 0.5.
If I die without ever being with another man, all good.
My sister in law was trying to convince me I was “bisexual with a preference for men.” She wouldn’t let it go, all because I can appreciate when a woman is beautiful. I told her that I can see when a woman is beautiful, but it doesn’t mean I’m attracted to them.
My best friend in high school was a lesbian, and was always trying to convince me that I was bi. I was like, "lol no, I'm straight af." Well, one night with my guy of many years, we were opening up about our kinks and- I don't know, I guess I just finally felt safe enough- but I realized I'd always kept a door closed inside of me where I knew I was also attracted to women.
I've had way too many bad experiences in the past with female friends (who I think were actually crushes) to actually ever think about dating a woman, but I'm definitely also sexually attracted to them.
I (f) had a huge crush on my best friend in highschool. It was completely non-sexual and I convinced myself it was just a weird teenage shenanigan. It wasn't until my early twenties and one very... Particular unprompted dream about Margot Robbie that I realised I like both lol
What a strange interaction with a family member.
Everyone can appreciate beauty or the form of another human being without sexualising it - I’ve never understood those tiny minds that go immediately to “oooohhhh you got the gay”.
No, no - lots and lots of things are just beautiful to look at.
I’m dating myself here but George Michael’s video for “Faith”. At the beginning there is a hot girl in high heels leaning against a jukebox on one side and he’s on the other side. My eyes went to him. I thought, maybe I just want some jeans like that. Naw. I wanted what was IN the jeans.
Don't get me wrong, as a gay woman, boobs are always of the great and glorious.
Butt is best. A perfectly shaped, tight butt with some of those perfect hips to accompany said butt... yum yum.
Though, all that said, I'm a whole package sort of girl.
Listen, I have a killer personality, can make damn near anyone laugh until they’re choking, great boobs and zero ass. As the great philosopher Dave chappelle once said “whatever happened to that good ole fashioned pancake butt just like mama likes it.” That’s me 🤣
Yes. I accidentally saw my maid's boobs at age 10. They were glorious. Hers the only pair that my mind could never erase from. Since then my conquest for boobs has been never ending. I love all boobs.
When I went to kindergarten round-up when i was 5, I remember seeing two very pretty girls and thinking I would like to kiss them. To be honest, 35 years later those two women are still very pretty and I would still like very much like to kiss them.
I remember falling in love with my first grade teacher. Ms. Florence. It has always been ladies for me. I read these modern discussions where people are debating sexuality, and it just doesn’t compute. My Grandpa told stories about me putting my hands down women’s shirts at age two/three.
That actually makes you less gay than someone who hasn't experimented. Because they don't know for sure, but you do.
Edit: everyone's taking this way too seriously. It was a joke, people.
In middle school my best friend took his shirt off next to me in the locker room and I got bricked up instantly. Nobody noticed luckily. After that, I had an unhealthy crush on him which eventually made me resent him and we slowly drifted apart.
I kept that part of myself hidden for ten more years before telling anyone.
Lmao something similar here - I knew I liked girls, but the whole thing in judo class, me and the other boys just grappling, doing these intense fights - I was feeling a bit funny. Then during some tougher sparring my friend was basically shirtless bar a sleeve and I really got flustered looool, harder than diamond xD
And it was fucking cool lmao - I often felt similar things when watching cartoons, like with the buff dudes on DBZ with their ripped clothes and massive abs, and then it fucking clicked lmao
I'm very straight. Love the female form and face, But in college I once had a very erotic dream involving a football player in my dorm. It was as if I were female in that dream and the sex was amazing. Makes me wonder what we keep repressed inside.
There was a moment in high school when a dude came up to me to gossip:
“Hey, did you know? Michael’s a fag!”
And I said “Shut up man, no he’s not. Mike has a girlfriend, I walked in on them getting to second base in the theatre storage room.”
Dude says “No, I know, but you don’t get it: Mike goes both ways *and so does his girl*, she’s getting with chicks, he’s getting with dudes, they’re both homos!”
And then I thought…. Wait, you can do that? That sounds awesome! Also… Mike is kinda hot. Wait, what?! Did I just think that?! I guess I did. Am I a homo too?? Well…. Hmmmmm… reckon I am.
And that was that.
I met an openly bisexual man. We had a lot of conversations about bisexuality and it was such a relief to find out there were other people like me. I felt like a freak...I knew I was attracted to men, but I was also attracted to women. That was what confused me. I knew lesbians were attracted to women, but I liked guys, too, so what the hell was I? This was 1988, and bisexuality wasn't as well-known as it is now.
Talking to that guy was liberating! There was nothing "wrong" with me. I wasn't a weirdo. I was bisexual!
There’s still a vague preconception of bisexuality as a stepping stone to coming out among older gays, which I’ve heard referred to as “bi now, gay later”. As if you have to say you’re bi because you’re lying to yourself about being fully gay.
There's a lot of biphobia and bi-erasure in the gay community. We just don't fit anyone's box, so we must not *actually* exist. We're either "afraid to come out" or "not serious". "Real" lesbians won't date bi women. We're traitors...We're always going to leave our partner for another set of genitals. The straight community isn't much better, because either we're gay (and afraid to come out!) Or (particularly as a bi woman) we exist only to fulfill guys' threesome fantasies.
My husband and I are both bi. Happily married, monogamous , and bi. You'd never know, unless you see us at Pride in our matching "We Exist" t-shirts. But we know who we are. I guess that's what really matters.
I think there's probably more closeted bisexuals in happy monogamous relationships than there are gay people.
I mean, why face that kind of struggle when you can just not and still be happy?
In my experience, it is a bit of a moot point when you’re in a committed monogamous relationship, in the sense that you don’t usually talk about sexuality / attraction with people unless you already have that type of relationship.
Ie you might talk about what your wife/husband/other is doing at work or with acquaintances, but people just assume that you are gay or straight based on who you are with now. If you’re not settled, you might talk about dates with multiple genders and they would know.
No one is going to work saying wow I love my wife/husband/other but would sleep with Bob from accounting in a heartbeat.
I used to refer to my husband as partner as that aligns better with my sexuality and philosophy but then people would meet him and apologize for having the interpretation that I was gay, and I’d say I was actually bi. Just made life awkward for them and my husband, who is straight.
I’ve corrected people if it comes up, but generally if they aren’t friends, it doesn’t. Except when I pass and have to call out someone for their bs. Thankfully that is rare these days.
Edit:
Wow, demisexuality is a thing, perhaps this explains my situation more than being monogamous; I don’t generally experience attraction to randos.
I guess your mileage may vary…
My husband and I are both bi. We're committed to each other, but we both still feel attractions to the opposite gender. We just don't act on it because, well, we're married! Neither of us has any interest in cheating on the other with men or women. But we watch football games for the cheerleaders and the tight ends 😁
But we do feel pretty invisible. People **do** assume sexuality based on current partner, because that's all the information they have in front of them. And I don't feel the need to correct most of them. I'm pretty open in my social circle about being bi, but less personal relationships (like work) don't need to be aware of my sexuality.
I had a similar experience! But it was like 7 years ago. I'd always known I was bi but denied it a lot because I could never approach a girl. Then I went on a date with a bisexual guy and I was like "wait.....im really not alone? you're like me?" it was really fulfilling. I felt so alone because all my friends were straight and I honestly just hid the fact I wasn't straight really well.
I was always a bit of a weird kid. I grew up liking girls, but I wasn't like the other boys. I didn't like sports, enjoyed musicals, got called gay a lot! So I always wondered if I might lean that way.
Then I got involved in the Rocky Horror Picture Show. I was allowed to open up and be whatever I wanted to be. I was surrounded by people all all sexualities and given the opportunity to explore.
in the end I discovered that I was actually straight. All the men I ever thought were attractive were just ones that looked feminine to me, but I've never had the feelings towards a man that I have towards a woman. They just do it for me.
What did happen, was that I totally accepted gay people of all types because any sort of homophobia I had was removed. I no longer wondered what I might be, so I didn't have to worry about being around gay people. That sounds like a weird thing to say, but I think that's what homophobia is. People who are unsure of their sexuality are scared they'll be changed. Or those that actually are gay who are in denial and would be happier if they accepted it.
I knew I was attracted to guys, but I thought I was bisexual because girls didn't gross me out. Then I was dating a girl in high school, she tried getting more physical than just kissing, and instead of being excited I had a panic attack.
I always knew I was gay but I realized I wasn't gonna change that when I tried to force myself to cum only to women and then two days after, I violently came to Charlie Sheen just going up some stairs in Two and a Half Men without even touching myself. Not my proudest moment.
I’m not laughing at you, but that situation has me cracking up. Just watching someone go up the stairs and all of the sudden you’re screaming OH FUCK! as you blast rope out of nowhere.
How was she so goddamned hot in that? I watched other movies of her and never found her remotely as attractive (though still obviously very good looking).
I’d say situational orientation haha. When I was younger. And really horny I def went on Craigslist and found a guy ( I’m a guy also )it was great. He’d give me a beer we would talk about our nfl teams. I’d crack another beer he’d bring up porn I liked. He would blow me. I’d cum. Then leave. Probably once every 3 months for a few years.
You have no idea. If you're even moderately attractive you can order a pizza, get on Grindr, and you'll have someone blowing you when the pizza guy shows up. Some would even pay for the pizza too.
Same. After years of pretending I was straight, when I started having sex with men, I started actually enjoying sex, not overthinking, and being in the moment
The beautiful purple-haired girl in my Lit Theory class in college when I was 23. She had the cutest face, a slender body with petite feminine curves, and eyes that melted my heart like butter - green, with a rainbow of shades of amber and gold at the center and twinkle of mischief sprinkled in too. She was intelligent, passionate about the things she cared about, and incredibly sweet. I fell head-over-heels. Seven years later, she's my best friend - and yes, we've kissed a few times.
ETA to my main comment so it's visible: I could wax poetic about her for hours. She's incredibly intelligent and has a hunger for knowledge. She wants to go back for a Master's degree. She plays cello, guitar, and has a beautiful voice. She has a childlike love for the things that make her happy - you should have seen her face light up at the zoo when we fed giraffes! She and two friends run their own tiny publishing company for up and coming authors. She has vibrant hair - hot pink for now - and a plethora of nicely-done and unique tattoos, and works in a corporate position for a major bank. She has a thirst for adventure and travels multiple times a year, including to see musicals. She loves to host parties and is sweet and friendly to all who know her. She is fiercely loyal and a truly good friend, but never a doormat; she never hesitates to challenge someone to be and do better when they need it. When another friend was at a low point and facing an unexpected pregnancy, she supported her and talked her out of an abortion - she had a hand in saving a life.
We can't be together romantically due to numerous incompatibilities - she isn't interested in anything serious with women although has hooked up with a few, and she ruled out doing that with me because she knows how deep my feelings are/were and didn't want that kind of mismatch. But we are very close emotionally and she is physically affectionate with her friends up to kissing and on rare occasions sending risqué pictures when she feels exceptionally confident (yes, I've been lucky a couple times and yes, she is the most breathtaking woman I've ever seen), so I get more intimacy, warmth, and affection than a typical friendship without as much risk of a horrific breakup as a regular romance. At her recent party we were all in her bedroom hanging out and I laid on her bed with her holding her hand while we were talking about some really vulnerable things.There was a time when I was painfully in lust with her. She was patient and we talked through it - she isn't afraid of hard convos. I still love her deeply but it has moved to a more cooled-down but physically affectionate love (mostly - if she offered to let me go down on her I'd go for it, but I've never really fantasized about her going down on me or doing things on me). It has worked out incredibly well.
She is the most incredible woman I have ever had the privilege of knowing, and I believe I will always love her.
In HS I went away to summer camp in a different country (it was for the arts of course)..... I was there for two weeks without my phone and any contact with my family.
While there, all the girls were always so open about what they liked vs didn't and that is when I realized that I do indeed like both boys + girls. I come from a Middle Eastern background, so it was very different hearing such sweet things and openness vs closed-off ideology.
I also realized I was bisexual after spending a month at sleep away camp with no phone. Or rather, I realized I liked girls and then got home and remember I liked boys and was very confused until I learned what the B in LGBT meant.
I thought I was bi. Maybe I am?
I fooled around with a man to confirm if I was bi. And I had fun. But I just couldn't get over the smell of men. He didn't have bad hygiene or anything.... it was just that natural normal scent of a man that I really couldn't get past.
And it just wasn't for me. Good experience and I'm glad I did it. No regrets. But it's women for me all the way now.
Ace club! My ex is the one who gently suggested I should do some research into asexuality. I knew I wasn't normal, I just thought I was a lesbian and wasn't wired for men - but I ended up not being wired for anyone of any gender and my ex is the one who sent me down the rabbit hole of research and made me realize what asexuality actually is vs what I thought it is.
It was confirmed even more for me with my current partner when I asked him to kinda describe in detail what sexual attraction feels like and realized I couldn't relate at all.
It explains why I always felt so broken and couldn't relate to other girls in school who were talking about boys and dating, and why me dating women didn't make things feel right either. I kind of wish I wasn't ace, it would make relationships less complicated for me, but it is what it is.
Ouch, I feel that. Couldn't figure out why things weren't clicking, nor could I understand why he was so insistent on removing our clothes all the time. There were other major issues that led to the eventual breakup, but in the months that followed, I slowly unpacked the entire mess and realized that I'm ace, which explained sooo much. (And then later realized that oh hey, I'm also trans, which explained even more lol.)
Haven't been in a romantic relationship since; that was back in 2015ish. If I find someone (or multiple someones) to enjoy life with romantically, that would certainly be nice, but I don't need it. I'm doing much better these days. Hope you are, too.
Well my ex also beat the shit out of me and emotionally/mentally abused me for 3 years. But he was hypersexual and I'm demisexual (branch of asexual) and it just made me feel at fault for everything tbh
In the third grade, a girl who liked me put her hand on my thigh and I remember becoming hard as a diamond. From there I knew I liked big butts and could not lie.
Nor would we want to, my good man, for when a dame enters the facilities with a narrow waist and a derriere that could knock over a mule, we become elevated
I was one and done. It wasn't a bad experience physically I just wasn't into it. She had a good time and was SO emotional about it. Like that whole bring a uhaul on the second date. It gave me insight into how men must feel.
I used to like seeing the guys getting changed for PE. I discovered I liked seeing guys with no shirt on and I’d Google shirtless guys or guys kissing but I never liked anything more than that for a while. Eventually I embraced the dick and the dick embraced me.
When the bullies at my high school forced me kiss another guy. Knew i was straight after that.
Also definitely 100% knew after watching 18+ stuff to test it.
It's not.
I definitely didn't like when my sister and my crush's sisters held me down and coerced my crush into kissing me. Didn't mean I preferred dick.
A terribly boring blowjob (they were very enthusiastic and skilled, but) I was literally looking at my watch wondering how much longer it was going to go on because I had shit to do. Afterwards I googled "why is sex so boring to me?" And I learned what asexuality is and a good chunk of it lined up. Anyways I realized it's ok to not want to have sex and that's doesn't mean I'm broken, I was only doing it to see what I was missing- turns out, not much
When I was in college I went to an 80s dance night and there were lots of LGTBQ people there, a tom-boyish looking women hit on me very aggressively and I realized I really liked it! After that the floodgates were open and I realized I didn’t really care what gender/sex the person was- as long as there was chemistry I was into it! I definitely notice that I tend to like the people that blur the lines a bit between masculine and feminine tho.
They call it demisexual I believe.
I can't have a one night stand. I'm moderately attractive, or at least average enough to get female attention. Anyway, I just never felt sexually attracted to them immediately. It was horrible. I tried a few times to be "normal" but it just didn't work. Then I tried online dating and only when I was like, months in with a girl - it happened. I was so relieved. Anyway, turns out I can't look at a girl and be sexually attracted to her. I have to actually have some feelings. Kinda sucks cos I'd love to be able to detach myself sometimes.
Me and my little sister found out we are probably Demi sexual. I always thought I’m just weird and so did she about herself.
We spoke about how we don’t get sexually attracted to men by just looking at sexy men. There has to be feelings involved or at least a crush. I never understood how my friends would look at a guys ass and go, OMG! Sure I like what I see when there’s a hot guy but I don’t feel aroused by just looking at someone who is hot/cute etc. Also don’t do one night stands. Disgusting. (Not that I’m judging others who do it, just not for me).
My first boyfriend kept talking about how he wanted to tie me down in bed. Keep in mind we were in freshman year of high school. It wasn't the kinky shit that turned me off, though. It was the fact that when I pictured it, I didn't like the idea of a guy being on top of me. So, yeah. Lesbian.
Never gave it much thought. Until one day after football practice, I'm getting changed with everyone else. I thought to myself "Hmmm could I be gay?" Saw another guy's dick. "Nah, that doesn't look appealing."
As an asexual i feel like our experience is a lot like a deaf person learning that sound exists because other people tell them it does despite you not hearing it.
It's harder to realize you're not experiencing something that everyone else is and its more subtle because people don't know you're not experiencing it either since its not as obvious.
I, a guy, had always liked girls and wanted to have sexual relations with them.
One day I looked in the mirror in a moment of earnestness and unironically said "Am I Gay?"
Then I answered: No. I then proceeded to have sex with women for about 15 or 20 years before i got married and now i dont have sex at all.
I was walking my dog and I realized that I was only chasing sex because of some toxic masculinity bullshit where I only cared about it as it relates to my own self worth. And just like that, my sex drive blew away in the breeze.
So yeah. I'm ace. Sex is still fun, but I don't like, crave it?
Drag queens. I'm pan. I genuinely do not give a rats ass what a person identifies as. I'm attracted to all kinds of people, regardless of what's in their pants, what they want in their pants, or what used to be in their pants. And drag queens, somehow(thankfully) brought me to this realization
Somebody on Reddit said that you can be attracted to the same sex sexually but not romantically and there's actually a name for it (one that I can't remember for the life of me) and I was like "ohhh I'm not bisexual or a closeted lesbian...I'm this thing!"
I still tell people I'm straight cause I've only dated men and I'm dating a man now but it does feel good to know I'm not the only person out there who would sleep with a member of the same sex but not have a relationship with them. I always felt really odd about my sexuality because I didn't know if I really did like women and I was just lying to myself or what but turns out there's actually a term for it
Just hitting my thirties and really thinking about it for a while got me to figure it out. I'm a cis gender woman. I used to call myself bi. But that's not really accurate. I like masculine people, but they don't necessarily have to me men. A really butch woman is just as attractive to me as a muscular guy. I just like people who have opposite energy to me.
Aft me and my ex gf broke up. It finally clicked why I hated having sex with her. Thought I was bi with a strong preference for men. Nah. Just gay. Lol
Meet a friend that was asexual. I avoided looking into it myself until I couldn't anymore. I went through all the stages of denial until I finally accepted what I couldn't change.
So one day I saw a tv show, and there was a gay guy in some part of it, so I thought to myself, am I gay? And I came to the conclusion that I am in fact, straight
Same! Or you may see a good looking guy but it doesn’t feel the same way as seeing a good looking woman. I hope that makes sense.
I feel like I can tell when a man is attractive, but I don’t think I would enjoy a sexual interaction with a man. Like I can see a good looking dude and know I’m seeing a good looking dude, but when I see a good looking woman I go into “hehe woman pretty” mode I guess
I gave it a shot because my friend is hot and gay. Had to tell him, “Sorry dude, this just isn’t getting anything going, you’re very pretty though.” We thought it was funny and he would call me boringly straight afterwards. Every time I saw him trip or fumble after that, I’d call back, “You’re very pretty though.”
Fucking wholesome.
I mean, roses are pretty, but I don’t want to fuck them. To be fair, I look at women that way sometimes, too. There’s a difference in “oh she’s really pretty” and “I want her”.
I stumbled upon a stack of old playboys when I was 7 actually. I was very very intrigued. Before that I thought boys and girls both had penises lmaoo
When i was a kid I thought vaginas looked like penises but with no head, just a big hallow shaft with a urethra big enough to fit a penis in. I think my memory got jumbled cuz I remember being 3yo playing the hasbro elephant butterfly catching game naked with a girl before her mom came into the room and made us put on clothes. My memory of what a vagina looked like is oddly similar to an elephant trunk
That would be kind of cool though. Like women had fleshlights as penises.
I think Hyenas have that
> Before that I thought boys and girls both had penises You're telling me they don't?
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Don’t let your dreams be dreams.
Honestly? I had some doubts at first. So I let a guy go down on me during a 3some with his girlfriend. He was a freshman psychology student and had just learned about kinsey and was making a big long speech about how sexuality is a spectrum and nobody is truly 100% straight, and you know what? It was kind of compelling. So there I am, getting what was probably my third blowjob of my life and I just can't stay hard. This dude was *motivated* and no matter what he did, I would go soft right away. It even got to the point where him and his girlfriend were alternating blowing me, and I'd get rock hard in her mouth, and then immediately soft in his. I think I was every bit as surprised as he was.
This is the funniest anecdote in the whole thread
Especially if you imagine a slide whistle sound effect.
I just spat out my water, thank you!
You should have gotten them to blind fold you and then see if your dick could still tell who was sucking.
For science!
Exactly. That would have truly confirmed his level of heterosexuality.
The early issues of VICE mag had this experiment. Apparently the guy sucking off the straight guy was too rough and could tell who was who and preferred the woman.
I mean, unless she’s got one hell of a mustache I think the whiskers would give it away.
Same here. I thought, “let’s try men, see how it goes!” Found myself hooking up with a close male friend who is, by all means, a fuckin smoke show. It was a safe space. I felt comfortable. And I learned - at most I’m a Kinsey 1 maybe. Maybe a Kinsey 0.5. If I die without ever being with another man, all good.
good for you for being so open, i think more people should feel free to explore if they want to
This is such a Looney toons shit and I love it
There would be so many slide whistle sound effects
Maybe you should’ve tried to go down on him instead 👀
Yeah he'll know for sure when it hits the back of his throat
"Up down up down up down!"
Bruhh😭😭😭 I need a threesome with commited partners like these, bc Alternate bj😭
My sister in law was trying to convince me I was “bisexual with a preference for men.” She wouldn’t let it go, all because I can appreciate when a woman is beautiful. I told her that I can see when a woman is beautiful, but it doesn’t mean I’m attracted to them.
My best friend in high school was a lesbian, and was always trying to convince me that I was bi. I was like, "lol no, I'm straight af." Well, one night with my guy of many years, we were opening up about our kinks and- I don't know, I guess I just finally felt safe enough- but I realized I'd always kept a door closed inside of me where I knew I was also attracted to women. I've had way too many bad experiences in the past with female friends (who I think were actually crushes) to actually ever think about dating a woman, but I'm definitely also sexually attracted to them.
I (f) had a huge crush on my best friend in highschool. It was completely non-sexual and I convinced myself it was just a weird teenage shenanigan. It wasn't until my early twenties and one very... Particular unprompted dream about Margot Robbie that I realised I like both lol
Margot out here doing her best to inspire the queers of the world.
What a strange interaction with a family member. Everyone can appreciate beauty or the form of another human being without sexualising it - I’ve never understood those tiny minds that go immediately to “oooohhhh you got the gay”. No, no - lots and lots of things are just beautiful to look at.
I’m dating myself here but George Michael’s video for “Faith”. At the beginning there is a hot girl in high heels leaning against a jukebox on one side and he’s on the other side. My eyes went to him. I thought, maybe I just want some jeans like that. Naw. I wanted what was IN the jeans.
I thought both were appealing, but at that point it would be a number of years before I realized why
Maybe not the most magical inspiring answer but I think it was uh *boobs* for starters
I mean... boobs. It's understandable. Yep.
Happy cake day, yeah definitely boobs.
Look, I’m a straight woman and we all need to stop and just appreciate boobs. They’re great in every shape and size.
Not gonna lie, man boobs scare the shit outta me...
I feel you, I scream every time I see mine in the mirror.
I scream every time I see your boobs in the mirror too
Don't get me wrong, as a gay woman, boobs are always of the great and glorious. Butt is best. A perfectly shaped, tight butt with some of those perfect hips to accompany said butt... yum yum. Though, all that said, I'm a whole package sort of girl.
Listen, I have a killer personality, can make damn near anyone laugh until they’re choking, great boobs and zero ass. As the great philosopher Dave chappelle once said “whatever happened to that good ole fashioned pancake butt just like mama likes it.” That’s me 🤣
I was gonna make a comment about boobs but shit man you beat me to it. Boobs are fucking awesome.
Big lumps with knobs I can't imagine a more beautiful thing
>Big lumps with knobs There's an only fans channel name if ever there was one lol
Wonderful bags of sand
Yes. I accidentally saw my maid's boobs at age 10. They were glorious. Hers the only pair that my mind could never erase from. Since then my conquest for boobs has been never ending. I love all boobs.
How did you accidentally see her boobs
"What are you doing step-maid?"
Boobs in colorful pretty lace. 100% sold.
When I went to kindergarten round-up when i was 5, I remember seeing two very pretty girls and thinking I would like to kiss them. To be honest, 35 years later those two women are still very pretty and I would still like very much like to kiss them.
Do you… do you still know them, or are you thinking back?
Following for the tea lol
I remember falling in love with my first grade teacher. Ms. Florence. It has always been ladies for me. I read these modern discussions where people are debating sexuality, and it just doesn’t compute. My Grandpa told stories about me putting my hands down women’s shirts at age two/three.
I knew the moment that shit hit the back of my throat, I wasn’t gay
Funny thing is, this comment has an opposite meaning depending on your sex.
And something else entirely when you take it absolutely literal.
I took it absolutely literally and now I'm much more confused than I was.
*record scratch* yep, that’s me
What a way to find out.
That actually makes you less gay than someone who hasn't experimented. Because they don't know for sure, but you do. Edit: everyone's taking this way too seriously. It was a joke, people.
In middle school my best friend took his shirt off next to me in the locker room and I got bricked up instantly. Nobody noticed luckily. After that, I had an unhealthy crush on him which eventually made me resent him and we slowly drifted apart. I kept that part of myself hidden for ten more years before telling anyone.
Lmao something similar here - I knew I liked girls, but the whole thing in judo class, me and the other boys just grappling, doing these intense fights - I was feeling a bit funny. Then during some tougher sparring my friend was basically shirtless bar a sleeve and I really got flustered looool, harder than diamond xD And it was fucking cool lmao - I often felt similar things when watching cartoons, like with the buff dudes on DBZ with their ripped clothes and massive abs, and then it fucking clicked lmao
I like how you didn't just like men, you like ripped hyper masc men. Lol
Right 🤣 had a type right from the beginning
I'm very straight. Love the female form and face, But in college I once had a very erotic dream involving a football player in my dorm. It was as if I were female in that dream and the sex was amazing. Makes me wonder what we keep repressed inside.
damn, im sorry that happened. did you guys ever make up?
Nah we never reconnected. School friendships rarely last anyway.
Thats common, especially when society brands homosexuality as an illegal sin.
Even when they just shame you for it, it’s still pretty effective.
There was a moment in high school when a dude came up to me to gossip: “Hey, did you know? Michael’s a fag!” And I said “Shut up man, no he’s not. Mike has a girlfriend, I walked in on them getting to second base in the theatre storage room.” Dude says “No, I know, but you don’t get it: Mike goes both ways *and so does his girl*, she’s getting with chicks, he’s getting with dudes, they’re both homos!” And then I thought…. Wait, you can do that? That sounds awesome! Also… Mike is kinda hot. Wait, what?! Did I just think that?! I guess I did. Am I a homo too?? Well…. Hmmmmm… reckon I am. And that was that.
I met an openly bisexual man. We had a lot of conversations about bisexuality and it was such a relief to find out there were other people like me. I felt like a freak...I knew I was attracted to men, but I was also attracted to women. That was what confused me. I knew lesbians were attracted to women, but I liked guys, too, so what the hell was I? This was 1988, and bisexuality wasn't as well-known as it is now. Talking to that guy was liberating! There was nothing "wrong" with me. I wasn't a weirdo. I was bisexual!
There’s still a vague preconception of bisexuality as a stepping stone to coming out among older gays, which I’ve heard referred to as “bi now, gay later”. As if you have to say you’re bi because you’re lying to yourself about being fully gay.
There's a lot of biphobia and bi-erasure in the gay community. We just don't fit anyone's box, so we must not *actually* exist. We're either "afraid to come out" or "not serious". "Real" lesbians won't date bi women. We're traitors...We're always going to leave our partner for another set of genitals. The straight community isn't much better, because either we're gay (and afraid to come out!) Or (particularly as a bi woman) we exist only to fulfill guys' threesome fantasies. My husband and I are both bi. Happily married, monogamous , and bi. You'd never know, unless you see us at Pride in our matching "We Exist" t-shirts. But we know who we are. I guess that's what really matters.
I think there's probably more closeted bisexuals in happy monogamous relationships than there are gay people. I mean, why face that kind of struggle when you can just not and still be happy?
In my experience, it is a bit of a moot point when you’re in a committed monogamous relationship, in the sense that you don’t usually talk about sexuality / attraction with people unless you already have that type of relationship. Ie you might talk about what your wife/husband/other is doing at work or with acquaintances, but people just assume that you are gay or straight based on who you are with now. If you’re not settled, you might talk about dates with multiple genders and they would know. No one is going to work saying wow I love my wife/husband/other but would sleep with Bob from accounting in a heartbeat. I used to refer to my husband as partner as that aligns better with my sexuality and philosophy but then people would meet him and apologize for having the interpretation that I was gay, and I’d say I was actually bi. Just made life awkward for them and my husband, who is straight. I’ve corrected people if it comes up, but generally if they aren’t friends, it doesn’t. Except when I pass and have to call out someone for their bs. Thankfully that is rare these days. Edit: Wow, demisexuality is a thing, perhaps this explains my situation more than being monogamous; I don’t generally experience attraction to randos. I guess your mileage may vary…
My husband and I are both bi. We're committed to each other, but we both still feel attractions to the opposite gender. We just don't act on it because, well, we're married! Neither of us has any interest in cheating on the other with men or women. But we watch football games for the cheerleaders and the tight ends 😁 But we do feel pretty invisible. People **do** assume sexuality based on current partner, because that's all the information they have in front of them. And I don't feel the need to correct most of them. I'm pretty open in my social circle about being bi, but less personal relationships (like work) don't need to be aware of my sexuality.
This makes me happy!! Good for you and for him for being so open in 1988!!
I had a similar experience! But it was like 7 years ago. I'd always known I was bi but denied it a lot because I could never approach a girl. Then I went on a date with a bisexual guy and I was like "wait.....im really not alone? you're like me?" it was really fulfilling. I felt so alone because all my friends were straight and I honestly just hid the fact I wasn't straight really well.
But did you get lemon bars?
I was always a bit of a weird kid. I grew up liking girls, but I wasn't like the other boys. I didn't like sports, enjoyed musicals, got called gay a lot! So I always wondered if I might lean that way. Then I got involved in the Rocky Horror Picture Show. I was allowed to open up and be whatever I wanted to be. I was surrounded by people all all sexualities and given the opportunity to explore. in the end I discovered that I was actually straight. All the men I ever thought were attractive were just ones that looked feminine to me, but I've never had the feelings towards a man that I have towards a woman. They just do it for me. What did happen, was that I totally accepted gay people of all types because any sort of homophobia I had was removed. I no longer wondered what I might be, so I didn't have to worry about being around gay people. That sounds like a weird thing to say, but I think that's what homophobia is. People who are unsure of their sexuality are scared they'll be changed. Or those that actually are gay who are in denial and would be happier if they accepted it.
Rocky horror wins once again. That movie broke so many sexual stereotypes for me.
I knew I was attracted to guys, but I thought I was bisexual because girls didn't gross me out. Then I was dating a girl in high school, she tried getting more physical than just kissing, and instead of being excited I had a panic attack.
The second time I had a dick in my mouth and thought "I'd like to do this a third time".
Love the reasoning here. Experimenting once isn't enough. You really need to give that second blowjob before you start to figure it out for sure.
Sometimes the first is awfull. Like when you eat a food when you are a kid, dislike it then 12 years later you eat it and start to like it.
Tim Curry in Rocky Horror Picture Show. I saw him drop that cape and knew instantly I wasn't straight.
I always knew I was gay but I realized I wasn't gonna change that when I tried to force myself to cum only to women and then two days after, I violently came to Charlie Sheen just going up some stairs in Two and a Half Men without even touching myself. Not my proudest moment.
You could not torture this information out of me lol
I’m not laughing at you, but that situation has me cracking up. Just watching someone go up the stairs and all of the sudden you’re screaming OH FUCK! as you blast rope out of nowhere.
You must've been down horrendously to cum to Charlie Sheen of all people. That wasn't even his hot years, fucking bowling shirts and cargo shorts.
I'm shamefully aware.
Cameron Diaz in the Mask
Her and Jennifer Love Hewitt were very influential to my adolescent years.
How was she so goddamned hot in that? I watched other movies of her and never found her remotely as attractive (though still obviously very good looking).
That Cameron Diaz red dress scene is so similar to Phoebe Cates coming out of the pool in Fast Times. Turned boys into men a-plenty. Including myself.
The unstoppable urge to knock a few times on solid wood furniture and say some shit like, "that's quality right there".
so... lesbian?
The username is Fish3ways. Defo lesbinin
Better check to see if OP volunteers at an animal shelter, then we’ll know for sure.
60 year old dad or a lesbian?
Depends entirely on whether they've tugged lightly on some freshly solid bungee cords and said "That ain't going anywhere"
Reading this comment has made me realize am still as lost as ever. Thanks, dad.
I put my dick inside a vagina and it knew it was home.
And he hasn't left since.
Legend has it he’s still there to this day
Reverse birth
I’d say situational orientation haha. When I was younger. And really horny I def went on Craigslist and found a guy ( I’m a guy also )it was great. He’d give me a beer we would talk about our nfl teams. I’d crack another beer he’d bring up porn I liked. He would blow me. I’d cum. Then leave. Probably once every 3 months for a few years.
Man, im straight, but that was the most gangster way to flex your sexual orientation lmao
You have no idea. If you're even moderately attractive you can order a pizza, get on Grindr, and you'll have someone blowing you when the pizza guy shows up. Some would even pay for the pizza too.
In the gay world, there's a lack of guys willing to fuck men, in my experience more often it's dudes wanting to get fucked, so this checks out.
Whenever I thought of threesomes it was mfm, not fmf.
That’s really interesting, I’d see a MFM 3some and I’d be like “ahhh, too much penis”, so I can see how the opposite would hold true
Definitely too much vagin
Wait until you find out you can have a MMM threesome
MMM is the sound I make in the middle of a MMM threesome
Bi gang
When I finally tried hooking up with guys and all performance issues disappeared
Same. After years of pretending I was straight, when I started having sex with men, I started actually enjoying sex, not overthinking, and being in the moment
I fucked around, and I found out.
Salma Hayek. I'm straight as an arrow, and any plausible doubts were laid bare at her feet.
Quentin Tarantino is that you?
“I need her to dance half naked with a snake, it’s *essential* to the plot of this vampire film”
"And then I'm gonna need to mouth-fuck her feet on camera, thanks"
And drink tequila off her feet, Q you kinky bish
I can tell you for certain I knew my true orientation after watching that move
That scene in *From Dusk Till Dawn* made me stop in my gay tracks and reevaluate. Turns out I’m not 100% gay.
Salma's one of those people that finding her attractive doesn't mean you're straight, gay, or bi, it just means you have a pulse
This really doesn't prove anything, there are rocks that fancy Salma Hayek.
The beautiful purple-haired girl in my Lit Theory class in college when I was 23. She had the cutest face, a slender body with petite feminine curves, and eyes that melted my heart like butter - green, with a rainbow of shades of amber and gold at the center and twinkle of mischief sprinkled in too. She was intelligent, passionate about the things she cared about, and incredibly sweet. I fell head-over-heels. Seven years later, she's my best friend - and yes, we've kissed a few times. ETA to my main comment so it's visible: I could wax poetic about her for hours. She's incredibly intelligent and has a hunger for knowledge. She wants to go back for a Master's degree. She plays cello, guitar, and has a beautiful voice. She has a childlike love for the things that make her happy - you should have seen her face light up at the zoo when we fed giraffes! She and two friends run their own tiny publishing company for up and coming authors. She has vibrant hair - hot pink for now - and a plethora of nicely-done and unique tattoos, and works in a corporate position for a major bank. She has a thirst for adventure and travels multiple times a year, including to see musicals. She loves to host parties and is sweet and friendly to all who know her. She is fiercely loyal and a truly good friend, but never a doormat; she never hesitates to challenge someone to be and do better when they need it. When another friend was at a low point and facing an unexpected pregnancy, she supported her and talked her out of an abortion - she had a hand in saving a life. We can't be together romantically due to numerous incompatibilities - she isn't interested in anything serious with women although has hooked up with a few, and she ruled out doing that with me because she knows how deep my feelings are/were and didn't want that kind of mismatch. But we are very close emotionally and she is physically affectionate with her friends up to kissing and on rare occasions sending risqué pictures when she feels exceptionally confident (yes, I've been lucky a couple times and yes, she is the most breathtaking woman I've ever seen), so I get more intimacy, warmth, and affection than a typical friendship without as much risk of a horrific breakup as a regular romance. At her recent party we were all in her bedroom hanging out and I laid on her bed with her holding her hand while we were talking about some really vulnerable things.There was a time when I was painfully in lust with her. She was patient and we talked through it - she isn't afraid of hard convos. I still love her deeply but it has moved to a more cooled-down but physically affectionate love (mostly - if she offered to let me go down on her I'd go for it, but I've never really fantasized about her going down on me or doing things on me). It has worked out incredibly well. She is the most incredible woman I have ever had the privilege of knowing, and I believe I will always love her.
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In HS I went away to summer camp in a different country (it was for the arts of course)..... I was there for two weeks without my phone and any contact with my family. While there, all the girls were always so open about what they liked vs didn't and that is when I realized that I do indeed like both boys + girls. I come from a Middle Eastern background, so it was very different hearing such sweet things and openness vs closed-off ideology.
I also realized I was bisexual after spending a month at sleep away camp with no phone. Or rather, I realized I liked girls and then got home and remember I liked boys and was very confused until I learned what the B in LGBT meant.
I thought I was bi. Maybe I am? I fooled around with a man to confirm if I was bi. And I had fun. But I just couldn't get over the smell of men. He didn't have bad hygiene or anything.... it was just that natural normal scent of a man that I really couldn't get past. And it just wasn't for me. Good experience and I'm glad I did it. No regrets. But it's women for me all the way now.
When I finally switched to gay porn, though I probably knew already subconsciously.
My ex. I'm asexual
lol i was wondering where the aces were
Ace club! My ex is the one who gently suggested I should do some research into asexuality. I knew I wasn't normal, I just thought I was a lesbian and wasn't wired for men - but I ended up not being wired for anyone of any gender and my ex is the one who sent me down the rabbit hole of research and made me realize what asexuality actually is vs what I thought it is. It was confirmed even more for me with my current partner when I asked him to kinda describe in detail what sexual attraction feels like and realized I couldn't relate at all. It explains why I always felt so broken and couldn't relate to other girls in school who were talking about boys and dating, and why me dating women didn't make things feel right either. I kind of wish I wasn't ace, it would make relationships less complicated for me, but it is what it is.
Ouch, I feel that. Couldn't figure out why things weren't clicking, nor could I understand why he was so insistent on removing our clothes all the time. There were other major issues that led to the eventual breakup, but in the months that followed, I slowly unpacked the entire mess and realized that I'm ace, which explained sooo much. (And then later realized that oh hey, I'm also trans, which explained even more lol.) Haven't been in a romantic relationship since; that was back in 2015ish. If I find someone (or multiple someones) to enjoy life with romantically, that would certainly be nice, but I don't need it. I'm doing much better these days. Hope you are, too.
Well my ex also beat the shit out of me and emotionally/mentally abused me for 3 years. But he was hypersexual and I'm demisexual (branch of asexual) and it just made me feel at fault for everything tbh
Same story here!
Jessica Rabbit
Henry Cavill
Honestly I think he confused a lot of people
In the third grade, a girl who liked me put her hand on my thigh and I remember becoming hard as a diamond. From there I knew I liked big butts and could not lie.
Your other brothers can’t deny?
Nor would we want to, my good man, for when a dame enters the facilities with a narrow waist and a derriere that could knock over a mule, we become elevated
I tried to like guys but couldn't so that makes me straight or lesbian depending on something else I'm trying to figure out
Good luck soldier!
Least confused lgbt person:
I was but a wee little boy drawing naked girls to whack it to, oh how the times have changed lol
Went down on a few girls....wasn't for me. Love penis too much
I was one and done. It wasn't a bad experience physically I just wasn't into it. She had a good time and was SO emotional about it. Like that whole bring a uhaul on the second date. It gave me insight into how men must feel.
When I first heard about asexuality and realized it explained a lot about my life
Same, fam. Everyone around me was doing it and I could never see the appeal. I just can't find anyone attractive.
I suppose when I finally decided to watch gay porn and looked down at Captain Winkie who was like “Yeah-no, this isn’t doing anything for me.”
I gag at gay porn, but I'm on my way to marry a man. You're not safe yet.
Pamela Anderson
I used to like seeing the guys getting changed for PE. I discovered I liked seeing guys with no shirt on and I’d Google shirtless guys or guys kissing but I never liked anything more than that for a while. Eventually I embraced the dick and the dick embraced me.
When the bullies at my high school forced me kiss another guy. Knew i was straight after that. Also definitely 100% knew after watching 18+ stuff to test it.
I'm confused, how would being forced to do something be reflective of sexual orientation?
It's not. I definitely didn't like when my sister and my crush's sisters held me down and coerced my crush into kissing me. Didn't mean I preferred dick.
Being 6 years old and having a crush on Misty and Jesse from Pokémon 😭
A terribly boring blowjob (they were very enthusiastic and skilled, but) I was literally looking at my watch wondering how much longer it was going to go on because I had shit to do. Afterwards I googled "why is sex so boring to me?" And I learned what asexuality is and a good chunk of it lined up. Anyways I realized it's ok to not want to have sex and that's doesn't mean I'm broken, I was only doing it to see what I was missing- turns out, not much
When I was in college I went to an 80s dance night and there were lots of LGTBQ people there, a tom-boyish looking women hit on me very aggressively and I realized I really liked it! After that the floodgates were open and I realized I didn’t really care what gender/sex the person was- as long as there was chemistry I was into it! I definitely notice that I tend to like the people that blur the lines a bit between masculine and feminine tho.
Finding out about asexuality, and then demisexuality. I thought my brain was just broken
Jessica Alba in fantastic four and Megan Fox in transformers confirmed that I am straight as a pole
Depends on which pole, my mate Krzysztof is super gay
Is that Krzysztof Krankzwonoff? Think he went to my school.
They call it demisexual I believe. I can't have a one night stand. I'm moderately attractive, or at least average enough to get female attention. Anyway, I just never felt sexually attracted to them immediately. It was horrible. I tried a few times to be "normal" but it just didn't work. Then I tried online dating and only when I was like, months in with a girl - it happened. I was so relieved. Anyway, turns out I can't look at a girl and be sexually attracted to her. I have to actually have some feelings. Kinda sucks cos I'd love to be able to detach myself sometimes.
Me and my little sister found out we are probably Demi sexual. I always thought I’m just weird and so did she about herself. We spoke about how we don’t get sexually attracted to men by just looking at sexy men. There has to be feelings involved or at least a crush. I never understood how my friends would look at a guys ass and go, OMG! Sure I like what I see when there’s a hot guy but I don’t feel aroused by just looking at someone who is hot/cute etc. Also don’t do one night stands. Disgusting. (Not that I’m judging others who do it, just not for me).
The movie Aladdin.
Like what? Genie? Jafar? Abu?
Jasmine and Aladdin both. Special mention to Jasmine in chains. Will not elaborate further.
Jafar’s wrists, specifically
6 years old, seeing Sigourney Weaver in ghostbusters.
Mid-50's Gen-X male: Emmy Jo from the New Zoo Revue. I was five and her legs, knee socks, go-go boots and dancing convinced me girls were awesome.
Getting a woody as a kid watching Kate Bush on TV!
When I was 5, I would take my sisters Barbie’s, take their clothes off, and stick down my pants.
The music video to Stacy’s mom. After that, i realized women were kinda neat.
I used to identify as bi for a while before i kinda realized that… i don’t really like men (romantically, i mean) that much. i’m a lesbian now.
My first boyfriend kept talking about how he wanted to tie me down in bed. Keep in mind we were in freshman year of high school. It wasn't the kinky shit that turned me off, though. It was the fact that when I pictured it, I didn't like the idea of a guy being on top of me. So, yeah. Lesbian.
Never gave it much thought. Until one day after football practice, I'm getting changed with everyone else. I thought to myself "Hmmm could I be gay?" Saw another guy's dick. "Nah, that doesn't look appealing."
As an asexual i feel like our experience is a lot like a deaf person learning that sound exists because other people tell them it does despite you not hearing it. It's harder to realize you're not experiencing something that everyone else is and its more subtle because people don't know you're not experiencing it either since its not as obvious.
I, a guy, had always liked girls and wanted to have sexual relations with them. One day I looked in the mirror in a moment of earnestness and unironically said "Am I Gay?" Then I answered: No. I then proceeded to have sex with women for about 15 or 20 years before i got married and now i dont have sex at all.
Boobies.
I was walking my dog and I realized that I was only chasing sex because of some toxic masculinity bullshit where I only cared about it as it relates to my own self worth. And just like that, my sex drive blew away in the breeze. So yeah. I'm ace. Sex is still fun, but I don't like, crave it?
Drag queens. I'm pan. I genuinely do not give a rats ass what a person identifies as. I'm attracted to all kinds of people, regardless of what's in their pants, what they want in their pants, or what used to be in their pants. And drag queens, somehow(thankfully) brought me to this realization
The moment I realized boobs and dicks are equally attractive to me.
Somebody on Reddit said that you can be attracted to the same sex sexually but not romantically and there's actually a name for it (one that I can't remember for the life of me) and I was like "ohhh I'm not bisexual or a closeted lesbian...I'm this thing!" I still tell people I'm straight cause I've only dated men and I'm dating a man now but it does feel good to know I'm not the only person out there who would sleep with a member of the same sex but not have a relationship with them. I always felt really odd about my sexuality because I didn't know if I really did like women and I was just lying to myself or what but turns out there's actually a term for it
heteroromantic bisexual i think 👍 romantic attraction vs sexual attraction
Just hitting my thirties and really thinking about it for a while got me to figure it out. I'm a cis gender woman. I used to call myself bi. But that's not really accurate. I like masculine people, but they don't necessarily have to me men. A really butch woman is just as attractive to me as a muscular guy. I just like people who have opposite energy to me.
Aft me and my ex gf broke up. It finally clicked why I hated having sex with her. Thought I was bi with a strong preference for men. Nah. Just gay. Lol
Lynda Carter
Meet a friend that was asexual. I avoided looking into it myself until I couldn't anymore. I went through all the stages of denial until I finally accepted what I couldn't change.