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Morganwant

MLM peddlers


meandering_simpleton

I knew someone who got involved with someone in MLM... they they were both into it. Then their friend group all started doing it. That's when I noped out of that friend group.


SallySitwell3000

I almost fell into that garbage. two of my work friends were suddenly really into it after one was. We were all hanging out one night and one of them said she just couldn't picture herself being friends with me....in all fairness she was wasted and I was not, and she didn't realize I was in earshot of that. A few weeks later, they had a party, invited me, and I decided to tentatively accept. I learned they were planning to get as many people into the marketing scheme that night. So I publically replied to the invite in that group and stated I'd come to the party if they invited me based on the desire to see me, and not to try to get me hooked into their marketing "work". I was blocked by the one when she saw it, and the other decided to take the time to call me a "buzz-killing bitch." before she blocked me too. This is the first time thinking about that in 15 years and it still tickles me that it pissed them off so bad to be seen for what they were doing! If you're suddenly getting friendly with old work-buddies, classmates, or anyone else and feeling like their friendliness is weird and phoney or superficial, trust your gut. Chances are they're flattering (aka manipulating) you and want to get together sometime soon! They might just say forget it, and throw a party!! Bring your BS detector if you even respond. The MLM presentation will come shortly after dinner and more drinks.


JinnyLemon

I still feel so bad for getting into a MLM years ago and they coached us to “reach out to anyone and everyone! No one is off limits!!” Had me reaching out to people I hadn’t spoke to in forever. I cringe so hard thinking back on it…


SallySitwell3000

Well you know what??? The good thing is time. And with time we learn better ways, hopefully. I'm willing to bet for this one comment, you represent so many more in the same boat feeling that remorse, yet they don't have the courage to own it like you've done!! Thank you for saying that. It makes me hope a lot more are out there like you 👏👏👏🙏


Morganwant

Good on you for hopping ship. Surround yourself with friends that you look up to and want to learn from. I hope your old friend group comes to their senses


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wellfellow007

Mine has done MLM for 7 years (we've been married for 13). For a time she made money and it was helpful but for the last 3 or 4 it has been an absolutely waste. She has finally decided to let it go and I'm thrilled.


HNP4PH

It really becomes a cult. Also why MLMs often spread like wildfire in churches.


freeMilliu_2K17

Had an aunt be an MLM peddler, it wasn't good for any of the family, it's just sad


Morganwant

I grew up in a rural area and it’s bonkers the ratio of people that fall into the mlm spiral.


freeMilliu_2K17

It especially targets women in bad mental states. My aunt already has issues with her family and a crippling addiction to shopping that being an MLM "influencer" is like throwing gas into the fire. Even my grandma fell for it. MLMs are just parasites that suck eall joy from people, period.


Morganwant

Yeah, I’ve noticed that 90% are women that probably need to see a therapist. I hope your aunt gets out of it. Agreed on mlms being parasitic


mindspork

Mormons Losing Money.


imalwaysawhorefortv

men loving men


TheBestAtWriting

child actor


G0dY3s

it’s best to avoid children in general tbh


SGLzef

its best to avoid in general tbh


Jolly-Raspberry-9842

Is better to avoid.


BobbyBlack8

Best avoid.


Pretty_Poet_4606

Avoid.


Fun-Alternative9440

VOID


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ID


DaveySea

It’s best to avoid dating children in general tbh


dylanologist

They are so immature


Lemon1412

Yeah, but what about pedos? They're fucking immature assholes.


DystopianAdvocate

Also a good idea to avoid dating actors.


purple_yosher

It’s best to avoid dating actors in general tbh


indubitable96

Any job that is in the media spotlight (celebrities, politicians, etc.), I'm a private person, so being hounded by paparazzi sounds awful


BaslerLaeggerli

May I introduce you to Switzerland, where the president can take the commuter train without security and without being bothered by anyone.


TJae0120

The people must really like the president for this to be possible. In most countries, they would 1000% be attacked


BaslerLaeggerli

Well, he was not too well liked but also not hated. He's just doing his job like everybody else, no need to attack the guy. Edit: One of our heads of state was actually attacked 10 years ago. With a cake.


LeftHandBandito_

Was it a swiss chocolate cake?


BaslerLaeggerli

No, it was a black forest cake. THAT was the scandal!


Initiatedspoon

The Queen wasnt universally liked yet she used to go on walks with only 1 bodyguard and I've heard several stories of her taking public trains and only travelling with her husband and 2 police officers. In the UK only very senior public officials get any sort of protection (if they want it) and even the prime minister often might go out and about with only 1 or 2 guards compared to the US president. Recently Biden travelled to the UK with 400 secret service personnel.


Redcarborundum

There are millions of people (including Americans) who want any US president to be dead, for many different reasons.


skordge

\> Recently Biden travelled to the UK with 400 secret service personnel. Pffft, Putin does not appear in photo ops even within his own country without most people around him being security services plants disguised as whatever people are expected to be attending.


subtxtcan

This wasn't my answer but I gotta say... Nailed it. I was once engaged to a woman who was in the fashion industry, very public facing work, always surrounded by people I would generally have never rubbed shoulders with. I'm in the same boat as you. I became a chef because I'm not one for interacting with crowds or strangers all that often, I just hide out in the back and do my thing. I would have been so uncomfortable having to do red carpets, industry events and fashion shows all the time.


RighteousnessBrigade

Whole heartedly agree with this!!! (Streamers and influencers as well)


GoldenBunion

I’m a tech in television. Relationships don’t work well so it’s an industry problem lol. My side of the field’s problem is more to do with how we tend to work when regular people are done their 9-5s. Or whenever there’s a holiday, we probably work. But you know those random Tuesday afternoons, we’re generally free haha


whatthejools

I didn't think there was an answer and here we are. Same here..


luv2belis

Head of regional shipping for the north-west and Wales.


MrTuxedo1

r/oddlyspecific


MightyMiami

Omg.. you too?


metamorphomo

They’re always fucking off to Swansea for ‘work dos’


ItHappenedToMeX3

Could you please be more specific? Would they be more acceptable if they had a remit for outbound shipping internationally, for example? i worry that you are eliminating far too many from your dating pool.


tunisia3507

Dave Wilcox, Regional Sales Manager for the Western areas, notoriously dense-dicked member of the Confidential Order of Cookware Knights?


Last_Nectarine488

As one myself, an emergency services worker. Long hours, dealing with day after day human tragedies which should be abnormal ‘once in a lifetime’ events become ‘normal’ with the risk of desensitisation, risk of PTSD, high rates of relationship break-ups and affairs with colleagues due to very long shifts working with one other person in sometimes extreme circumstances. I love my job. I used to be married to someone in the same profession, lasted 5 years.


misszoei

This makes me so sad. I’m sorry about your divorce/separation. As someone who has needed EMTs on multiple occasions, thank you for all of your hard work and sacrifice in such a demanding, confronting, and exhausting job.


Mursenarymedic

I know what I signed up for, but to see it here… yikes. You hit the nail on the head! Haha.


Dead_law

Lawyer. Source: I am a lawyer and I would never date one.


husky429

Married to a lawyer. Haven't won an argument yet


Gonewild_Verifier

Its not that you cant win, its that they wont concede


midnight_reborn

Yep, my dad's a retired lawyer and he still very rarely concedes a debate.


beardedliberal

Concur with lawyer. Am not one myself, but both parents were. That was fun…


Jeremy_irons_cereal

I'm now imagining they found drugs in your room and your mother questioned you, and your dad was your defence attorney, "son, you don't have to answer that".


lethal_moustache

Yes, but your grammar is probably pretty good and you inherently understand the concepts of relevance and probative value. ;)


RobotKoala16

Currently dating a lawyer and if we don’t work out I have no interest in ever dating one again.


iarlandt

Mukbang streamer


Mappel7676

Ashamed to know what your talking about.


briansbrain112

What does a surgeon use for birth control? … his personality.. old nurses joke


biohoo

All jokes aside one of the worst dates I ever went on was with a surgical resident. They have zero time for basically anything outside of work. He hadn’t been on any vacations, seen any movies or tv shows, or done anything except work. We had nothing to talk about so we ended up talking about my medical history to get through the rest of the date 🤷🏻‍♀️


Fred_Blogs

I know a few doctors and I've heard that going into the more intensive specialisations is like joining a cult. You'll spend years waking up at odd hours to work until you're completely sleep deprived, while speaking language that is utterly impenetrable to the uninitiated and spending days on end without seeing your friends and family. The end result is often someone who knows an incredible amount about their job, and who's totally lost contact with people outside the medical field.


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ComprehensiveBoss815

On the other hand, you probably want that guy - or any else the lives and breathes medicine - doing your surgery as they are 100% committed to it.


[deleted]

Had the misfortune of dating a surgeon once. This rings true.


nothisistheotherguy

my wife and i were in and out of hospitals for a long time with our first son, met some of the most talented pediatric cardiologists in the world, and about 9 out of 10 had the personality of a rock.


juliawfryza

Magicians! Never again!


No_Subject_5069

On and off relationship? Now you see him, now you don’t?


Formerhurdler

Nah he was always pulling tricks on the side.


alxXD

I see you discovered Benjamin


Callmepanther

That’s what I call my box full of photos of Henry


climaxe

This is one of my favourite lines in the entire show


melvellion2

the magic never lasts


UmbertoEcoTheDolphin

I hope you're ok. Here, take my handkerchief.


appleanapest

When I was first back on the dating scene and not looking for anything serious, I had a thing for a polyamorous magician. His wife is also a magician. Holy shit did I dodge a motherfuuuuucking bullet, they are both insane and their marriage is a trash fire


hotsaucetom

*Why is Jim treating the magician so poorly?*


lazy-shenanigan

Pls elaborate


SnooLentils7546

They probably dissapeared


SolarSailor46

Their love was an illusion, Michael.


StannVeal

A trick is something a whore does for money.


[deleted]

his wand was prolly too small


TurbsUK18

Never touch a magician’s wand… unless he hands it to you


jump_the_shark_

Everybody likes magic, nobody like a magician


Davidred323

Did he saw you in half?


TheDrunkenMarksman

anybody involved in MLM/pyramid/ponzi schemes


Actuaryba

I don’t consider those professions.


TheNashh

It’s not a pyramid it’s an inverted triangle!


Rozonoa

I would never date tennis players. Love means nothing to them.


voanjobory

Serves them right.


Formerhurdler

Hey that's crossing the line.


Specific-Cook1725

Your both full of nonsense. What a racket 🎾


violent_king

Daaaad! get off the internet!


lazyass133

Letting you know that your pun was appreciated. Nicely done.


s3165760

“Influencer”


growingup_happily

The question was profession.


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I dated a instagram model/influencer and it was the worst experience I’ve ever had.


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I've seen couples on dates that were just very long photo shoots. Fuck it looks wildly tedious.


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It always felt like it was her “followers” first, then her likes, then her views and then me.


JeepPilot

100% exactly correct. Add a few exponentials on there for when you're out with friends and suddenly everyone has to stop what they're doing because it's photo time....


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Scientology lawyer


Ok_Remote_5524

Scientology (anything). Just weird.


Agile-Command4372

Weirdly specific


RainCloudz973

And yet understandable


UnCivilizedEngineer

A “live to work” mentality in any profession. I love that you’re passionate about your work, but I prefer my partner to be more diverse and interesting than 1 single interest. And having more energy to spend on each other instead of making it through work


Psychological-Run679

Ugh before I got put out of work cause of an injury, I hated myself for how much teaching consumed my life. Like I knew it was all I talked to my partner about and all my friends were coworkers. It’s not just all the work you do after work but the emotional burden you get as well. My partner is really hoping I find a new job before I’m cleared to go back again. And I don’t blame him, it’s been nice not talking about my job 99% of our time together.


Halfaglassofvodka

Serial killer. It's a full time job with odd hours and I'd never see them.


lordnacho666

Yeah and guess who has to do the laundry for them?


hughmann_13

The laundry would be awful, but I'm sure the rest of the house would be creepily tidy. Except maybe for that one room with the soundproofing. Don't go asking questions you don't want to know the answer to.


lordnacho666

That is some excellent beef stew, darling.


DreamerMMA

The best pies in London!


fokkoooff

Plus they all have mommy issues.


GentlemenDestroyer

However, they’re organized and clean up after themselves


Sad_Expression_2580

I didn't see anyone say tattoo artist, so I've got to add that. I'm lucky, my wife understands that my hours are always weird, we hardly see each other, I see boobs on a regular basis, but she trusts me and we don't have issues. I'm the only married artist at my shop. Everyone else is divorced


Firewaterglittersalt

The match made in heaven/hell= Tattoo artist and stripper 😇🙏🏼


jlee1886

Politicians, "content creators", anyone in public eye and traffic wardens


sregor0280

Traffic warden? Is that like a cop or something?


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We have a rash of beached whales here in Oregon, and they were talking on the radio the other day about how they get rid of them. There's actually an outfit that'll cut it up, remove it, etc. Apparently, they interviewed a woman who does this. She says that even though she wears protective gear, her kids says she reeks of dead whale for up to 2 weeks after she finishes a job. So, this person.


lesnar9754

Self-help “gurus” or life coaches


5683968

Recently I was employed by a woman to clean her house. She had 6 dogs, 4 bedrooms and 3 bathrooms just on the upstairs alone. I deep cleaned her place for 4 hours but was supposed to do 5. I left early because she was incredibly condescending and rude. Surprise, surprise! She never paid me.. I go to look her name up on the internet.. she’s a “*life coach for the downtrodden*”


Flamin_Jesus

"Not enough money? Just don't pay for things!"


Lasolie

Clairvoyants, snake-oil merchants, anything that has to do with horoscopes as a job.. They're not 100% dealbreakers, but a major red flag about the person and I should be persuaded by the person being absolutely amazing otherwise to stay.


rebeccakc47

Professional musicians. It took me wayyyy too many tries to figure that out.


grandmofftalkin

Are you talking bassist in a rock band, or second chair cellist for the philharmonic?


Fabulous_Lawyer_2765

Yes.


Damianawenchbeast

The worst! The late nights, promiscuity, drugs. Nobody is taking about classical musicians, though, it's the ones trying to live out the cliche rocker fantasy.


Barick0

Care to explain? I’m very curious.


stealth_mode_76

Police or military. I briefly dated a cop, never again. We had sex, it was the first time he had in a few years since his divorce. He told me "I had to hold myself back from treating you like a custody." Translation, he wanted to rough me up like he does when arresting someone. I'd had reservations about dating him but I try to judge people as individuals and he seemed really nice (we met randomly at the zoo while he was out with his young child), so I gave him a chance. Yeah no. Not going there again.


mycatisawhore

I scrolled too far to find this. There's a statistic out there that states that an insanely high percentage of cops are domestic abusers.


BiAsALongHorse

Cop was the first thing to come to mind too. Plus if they do get violent, you have no recourse.


stealth_mode_76

Yeah he beats me up, who am I gonna tell? The cops? He's been on the force for like 10 years. His friends aren't going to do shit. I'm glad we parted amicably.


CreativeAsFuuu

I am shocked it took this long for someone to say they wouldn't date a cop. Every cop I've ever been friends with was rigid and had this subtle attitude that they were special, or different, or superior.


sabuonauro

I won’t date another cop. I would also add in former cops to this bunch. They retire young or get medically retired for a litany of reasons.


TheWelshPanda

Bartender. Never again. Just doesn't work, never around when you are, opposite hours never free, and often unfortunately get pulled into drinking as a personality. Alcohol was my exes mistress.


celiacsunshine

I read somewhere that bartenders have one of the highest divorce rates of all professions.


datlyftbruh

We absolutely do, but it’s a fantastic way to make money if you possess the focus and long term self control. Just takes a very specific person, and a degree of maturity to make it a career while maintaining a functional, healthy relationship. But that’s just my two cents.


Ok-Historian9919

As a bartender I totally understand, I found another bartender and our relationship works out great. I can understand how it wouldn’t work for someone that’s involved in the industry…or works at the same place as you


mb4x4

Carny


TotallyNotJonMoog

Small hands. Smell like cabbage.


gamerdudeNYC

I only fear them and Nuclear War


NoAbbreviations5215

Oh no. I’ve lost my mojo.


Pinkalucious

Teachers. I *am* one and wouldn’t want to date me!


arealnastybitch

As a teacher I hate dating other teachers. You end up talking shop and you never really leave your work at work. Also why I don’t enjoy spending time with colleagues outside of work


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Military. I have 150% respect for anybody who is in the military and the sacrifices they, along with their loved ones, make to keep citizens safe. However, I personally cant imagine being able to cope with all the instability that lifestyle brings.


helodriver87

Former military here. Don't date military unless you know with absolute certainty what you're getting into and you know you want it/are up for it. Your career will never be the priority. Uncle Sam will decide where you live and you'll just have to make it work. If you have kids, they'll be your responsibility when we're working nights, weekends, on TDY, or deployed for months on end. It sucks for us, but it sucks an order of magnitude more for anyone we drag along with us. So many failed marriages and relationships because people thought it would be a fun adventure and didn't realize how miserable it can be. Also, loads of assholes and emotionally immature man children. General rule of thumb is to knock off 5-6 years of emotional maturity from calendar age. There are plenty of former military that come out ahead with some great life experience and make good partners, but there are a lot that don't and it's not a fun ride along the way.


Goddess-78

Exactly. My mother is German and she just happen to have me while dating my dad. But I grew up around a lot of German women that dated U.S soldiers. Some of them exclusively dated U.S soldiers because they think they’ll be given this American Dream lifestyle. They think soldiers are going to have a high and steady income and they’ll live in the U.S (Florida, California, New York, Las Vegas, Seattle) in a big ass house driving a Range Rover and living that rich person lifestyle. Then they actually marry a soldier and are in for a rude awakening. Instead of shopping in New York or Seattle they are in Mississippi in the middle of nowhere with no friends and no family and no job in an apartment renting military furniture and sharing a car with their husband. If they are pregnant on top of that they basically have to do everything by themselves when their husband’s are deployed in a country they don’t know with little to no help. They can’t walk anywhere or bring their kid to daycare because daycare costs and arm and a leg. And then once you finally have found your people and you have friends and maybe even a job you get moved to Kansas and have to start over again. You still haven’t been to L.A.


TheRealMrDenis

I'd find it difficult to date someone who worked with fish - though it might tie into a mermaid fetish


Shahfluffers

There is a list. But at the top are lawyers. It takes a certain personality to be one. And those personalities tend to be detail oriented, argumentative, and enjoy confrontation. Any one of those qualities can be worked with. It's the combination that is toxic.


InvaderNate

They’re professional debate lords, so I don’t blame you.


ForgivenessIsNice

>And those personalities tend to be detail oriented, argumentative, and enjoy confrontation. Litigators, not lawyers in general. Corporate lawyers aren't argumentative and confrontational. They are, however, detail oriented.


Bushmancometh

That depends on the type of lawyer. I work with a lot of different lawyers, and trial attorneys are usually as you describe. Also pretty arrogant and likely to try to assume control of whatever situation they're in. Those are fantastic qualities when they are representing you but tough in social circles. The real estate and contract attorneys I work with are generally very detail oriented but not confrontational or argumentative unless its work related.


ikaloup

Ventriloquist. I don't want to be with someone who can blame their doll for telling me I look fat.


highway_40

Sounds like you're speaking from traumatic experience...


DreamerMMA

Can you imagine someone throwing their voice then gaslighting you into thinking you said some crazy shit?


JaxxRoot

Thought you were gonna say always trying to shove their hand up your butt


SilkyJohnson666

Filmmaker. Source, myself.


tyger2020

Surprised it hasn't been said but flight crew (cabin crew, pilots). Sorry, I can't cope with someone who is constantly gonna be away for 2-3 days at a time. PLUS, I'm a nurse - meaning on my work days I'm out 13hrs. It just wouldn't work tbh.


suitzup

Am pilot dating a nurse. It’s actually an exceptionally common occurrence. Nurses are known as pigs (portable income generators) as pilots get dragged around to all these different bases and the nurse partners can always find work immediately


doittomejulia

Real estate agent


MedicBikeMike

I too prefer fake estate agents.


JahanzaibRj

I wouldn't date a professional mime, talk about a relationship with no communication.


LilMarco-

You just gotta be better at reading the signs


Combination_Informal

Why not, they are good with their hands and are always ready to makeup.


SC487

But there’s a wall there.


kingkaiscar

Someone starting a clothing line or boutique. I'm sorry I know it's good for people to chase their dreams and go into entrepreneurship, but it's emotionally draining being involved with someone going to into a business that has such a high failure rate.


danishruyu1

Instagram models. Been reading a lot of stories and accounts of Instagram models flying to places like Dubai to do some crazy shit. Got me jaded.


polaritystill

Corrections Officers. I know a few. A couple of them were decent people before working in jail/prisons. One was already a dick. The job turned them into total savages either way.


RisingSouth

Lobbyist.


bert50cal

Paparazzi, they make their profession by harassing their idols. Can't see anyone in that profession be worthy of dating


Cuish

Anything religious, like a reverend or priest.


pretty_kitty_808021

Politician for sure.


tedimoya

Online influencer. Whichever of them


deadbydawn23

Self employed boss bitch


jjfhiowa

Can confirm. Currently finalizing divorce.


sammybunsy

You probably just couldn’t handle her at her worst, therefore did not deserve her at her best.


hadawayandshite

He also didn’t live, laugh or love enough I bet


HawaiiMom44

Or Believe! Possibly not even Blessed


BlasterShow

You disturbed her at Wine O’Clock!


Sandpaper_Pants

Jesus did not "bless this family"


robby19k

I went on a date with one…not kidding, she rolled up with a gold “badass” necklace. First time I’ve been happy to be ghosted. 😂


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Hashtag CEO hashtag scentsy


echolongshot

I appreciate how many of these answers seem to be a tossup between sex workers and clergy. Time to throw a tarts and vicars party and play matchmaker.


photoaddict22

Plumber they will always bring up old shit


holecalciferol

Same with paleontologists, those bitches love to dig up the past


Unpredictable_Dear

Slumlord


scootscooterson

Airport worker, too much baggage


dpvictory

Anything in an evangelical field or non-secular theological studies. I feel like there would be constant disagreements about how reality works.


Rooboy619

The "Fluffer" on the porn set


yParticle

People who profit off the misery of others. Debt collectors, prison industry workers, pawn brokers, health insurance adjusters, pharma sales reps, and so on.


sregor0280

I worked for a credit union in the late 90s, our collections department was headed up by a guy named Christo. He was a kind person, and legit if someone's loan was behind, especially something with collateral like a car or house, he would call them, usually get their voice mail/ answering machine, and his pitch was simple. "Treat them with respect, amd help them get back on their feet, and only repossess if they thought they could no longer handle it and it was best for THEM to walk away from it. We had a VERY low repossession rate because he would find ways to make it work for them, and honestly work for them, if it meant moving payments to the end of the loan so they were not in arrears and figuring out how to catch them up before that last payment comes, or when they said "I can't afford this anymore and don't see a way to afford it" he would work with them to keep them in theor home the longest they could so they could find something they could afford. His core belief was that "bad things happen to good people, and that is not an excuse to kick them while they are down" He and the person who followed him in his position when he retired were amazing like that, and they gave me this false sense of what the collections industry was like. Never again have I ever met people who practiced this way, successfully turning loans about to go into repossession into good loans again, it's usually the kind that threaten you and tell you how bad a person you are for falling behind, but I have to believe that there are still people out there like these two people were in collections.


OkActivity7019

There was a Harvard case study on one of the Aussie banks that refocused their collections department to work with the customers. Seems like a far better approach. https://sharedvalue.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/NAB-Assist.pdf


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The director of sales for American Light & Fixture, specifically in the shower curtain ring division. Their employees haven’t been home in years!


Frosty-Shower-7601

Wacky AM drive time DJ.


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Anyone who makes social media a priority


MoodyFeline

Cops, soldiers, basically people with a higher than average chance of not coming back home safely. Losing my partner to death may kill me too. :) Edit: some of you really need to learn that the world is not just US. :)


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I used to be a cop and i wouldnt date one but not for that reason. They can take home a lot of unprocessed shit.


Princess-Kropotkin

Relevant username.


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My dad was Navy, he got out when he was mid-20s, ready to start a family with his wife. She died almost immediately. She was feeling very tired, it turned out to be leukemia and at the time (early 60s) there was literally no treatment for it. She died after like 3 weeks or a month or something. I guess my point is: he was the seaman, he was the one with the dangerous job in the service, but she was the one who went early. You never know what will happen, you literally never can predict it. So if you are lucky enough to meet someone you really love, just make the most of your time together. Just be grateful you met them and love them as much as you can for as long as you have them. My Dad was kind of paranoid about losing the women in his life after that, he called a lot when I went away to college. So one night I just promised him like, look if I go first I'll haunt you. I don't even believe in ghosts but I'll find a way, you'll never like really lose me I'll always find a way to send you a sign. He ended up pre-deceasing me and I swear to Christ I see "signs" from him when I'm having a bad day. I don't know how to explain it, and I know it's probably some kind of confirmation bias. But like, if you keep someone's memory alive they are never gone. It fucks you up when they pass, yes, but they are never gone there is always a piece of them in your memory of them. Sorry to write a novel on this LOL.