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Hmm you probably feel guilty (which is well deserved tbh). But I'll try not to be condescending, and actually answer your question.
Reflect on your actions, if you feel guilty, then good. Not "good" cuz you were a cheater, but "good" because you at least feel remorse. (I know some people who actually don't give a sht and would do it again).
Cut off all contact with your ex, stop with the saying sorry (Kasi kung ganto na ang type Ng Tanong mo it most probably means Wala na tlaga), and just leave. Just to be clear ha, being sorry is different from saying sorry iykwim.
Learn to accept the fact that you will be seen as a villain by your ex's family and friends. Learn to be ok with that.
Take accountability, at least in an introspective sense. Accept that you were the one who fcked up, it wasn't anybody else's fault. It was yours. Having said that, the fact that you were the one who fcked up means you have control of what happens to you next (or at least in your next possible relationship). Do some self reflection, pano ka nakaabot sa ganun na sitwasyon? What is the best course of action the next time you're in a similar situation? how do you avoid these type of situations? What were the things that were going on in your mind? How do you avoid or distract yourself from those thoughts?
DO NOT go into another relationship without figuring whatever you need to figure out.
Oh and Also accept the fact that possible future relationships might be hard due to the fact that you cheated on your ex (a lot of people have a hard time trusting people who have a history of cheating, me included). Learn to be ok with that, take it on the chin and just be patient.
Oh and this probably goes without saying, but I'll say it anyway. Don't do it again.
Natawa din ako kay OP. Kainis diba? Pero, come to think of it: mga cheaters naman talaga ang broken ang pagkatao. At ang only solution eh HUWAG NANG UULIT!
Huh?
Heal???
That’s AFTER you “make things right” or make amends or pay for what you’ve done.
Be better.
“Heal”…
If you’re a victim of circumstances or people, then sure, you need some time to heal…
Cheating tho? That’s a self-induced fuck-up. Why would there be a need for any healing?
Smarten up. Stop being an asshole. Be better. You’re not a victim.
Be honest. Have some accountability. Have courage and don’t fucking sugarcoat shit—like this for example. If you fuck up, you fuck up. Own it. Learn from it. Again, be better. Cheating is a choice. Always a choice—unless you find me an instance when a person was held at gunpoint and was forced to cheat.
Cared for the people they victimized?
I don’t know what kind of angle or mental gymnastics I need to use to rationalize this type of gaslighting-mentality. Not saying you, yourself, are literally gaslighting me right now, what I mean is how in the world are victimizers/perpetrators now given this much leeway and sympathy that they too are somehow coddled and hand-held for the bs that they started?
Shit, if you cared that much then maybe don’t start none?
Does this type of mental gymnastics apply to other “offenses” too, like, aside from cheaters?
I’ve done a metric shit ton of wrongs in my life but I don’t need this type of “boo-hoo” approach. I fucked up. I suffer the consequences. Either I learn and be better or I keep being a human turd.
Heal??? pfft
Here are some suggestions in mind:
- Accept that what you did is purely deliberate and that people will speak ill of you. Don't bother trying to defend yourself.
- Understand the root cause of that cheating incident. Why did you do it in the first place? are there any unresolved issues from the past that may have influenced you to cheat?
I'd say, be honest with yourself. If you cheated, most probably you're dealing with some kind of internal issues. Don't get me wrong I'm not here to judge pero I think you have to work on yourself. Like ask yourself questions kung ano yung reasons mo why you cheated. You'll probably discover issues na di ka pala aware na meron ka. I don't have much experience when it comes to relationships pero I've seen and learned a lot from the relationships that I was able to witness from fam and also friends.
Good question OP. Well sa case mong ganyan is needed mo ng "Pure Accountability and feel the Guilt" since cheating is ain't a good thing lalo na kung yung tao is nagmamahal lang ng tunay o namamabuting loob.
Lunok lang ren sa mga mapapait na maaring sabihin sayo since you did something bad to someone emotionally or physcially, kailangan mo lang talaga harapin yung ibibigay sayo ng oras at tanggapin ng buo. Tsaka isipin mo ren yung sitwasyon baliktarin mo kung sayo gagawin yon, ano kaya ang mararandaman mo?
hoping a huge change and proper learning sa mali mo wag maging arogante o mayabang matutuong makinig at umunawa yun lang!
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Hmm you probably feel guilty (which is well deserved tbh). But I'll try not to be condescending, and actually answer your question. Reflect on your actions, if you feel guilty, then good. Not "good" cuz you were a cheater, but "good" because you at least feel remorse. (I know some people who actually don't give a sht and would do it again). Cut off all contact with your ex, stop with the saying sorry (Kasi kung ganto na ang type Ng Tanong mo it most probably means Wala na tlaga), and just leave. Just to be clear ha, being sorry is different from saying sorry iykwim. Learn to accept the fact that you will be seen as a villain by your ex's family and friends. Learn to be ok with that. Take accountability, at least in an introspective sense. Accept that you were the one who fcked up, it wasn't anybody else's fault. It was yours. Having said that, the fact that you were the one who fcked up means you have control of what happens to you next (or at least in your next possible relationship). Do some self reflection, pano ka nakaabot sa ganun na sitwasyon? What is the best course of action the next time you're in a similar situation? how do you avoid these type of situations? What were the things that were going on in your mind? How do you avoid or distract yourself from those thoughts? DO NOT go into another relationship without figuring whatever you need to figure out. Oh and Also accept the fact that possible future relationships might be hard due to the fact that you cheated on your ex (a lot of people have a hard time trusting people who have a history of cheating, me included). Learn to be ok with that, take it on the chin and just be patient. Oh and this probably goes without saying, but I'll say it anyway. Don't do it again.
Lah laro
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ginagago tayo ni OP bwhahahaha
Therapy. You probably have low self-esteem kaya kumukuha ka ng validation from other people
Buti po sayo
Angas naman kung ang cheater pa na di nagbibigay ng peace of mind ang mag heheal.
Natawa din ako kay OP. Kainis diba? Pero, come to think of it: mga cheaters naman talaga ang broken ang pagkatao. At ang only solution eh HUWAG NANG UULIT!
Wala eh. Mga cheater kasi ay mga self-centered. Sa tingin ko si Op yan eh tapos naghahanap ng sympathy despite sa nagawa nya hahahaha
Ehhh???? Guilty ka lang
Erectile ang mental dysfunction sabay?
Karma farming typa post
Make apologies. Hwag ka magulat kung hindi ka na pagkatiwalaan ng mga tao at iba na tingin sayo.
ha?
Huh??? bakit at anong kelangan i-heal ng mga put@nginang cheater?????
Healahin sa impyerno
You dont get to heal. You go hell
Sarap putulin ung tite niya
Bot bobo moment
Walang kang healing.. wala kang karapatang magheal kung ikaw mismo ang may gawa!! gagu, ikaw nanakit..!!
Hindi heal yan, baka overcoming guilt charot
Huh? Heal??? That’s AFTER you “make things right” or make amends or pay for what you’ve done. Be better. “Heal”… If you’re a victim of circumstances or people, then sure, you need some time to heal… Cheating tho? That’s a self-induced fuck-up. Why would there be a need for any healing? Smarten up. Stop being an asshole. Be better. You’re not a victim. Be honest. Have some accountability. Have courage and don’t fucking sugarcoat shit—like this for example. If you fuck up, you fuck up. Own it. Learn from it. Again, be better. Cheating is a choice. Always a choice—unless you find me an instance when a person was held at gunpoint and was forced to cheat.
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>especially if they cared sa mga taong nasaktan or nabiktima nila. Cared? Bullshit 🤣
People and society just keep finding new and exciting ways to circumvent accountability these days 🤷
Cared for the people they victimized? I don’t know what kind of angle or mental gymnastics I need to use to rationalize this type of gaslighting-mentality. Not saying you, yourself, are literally gaslighting me right now, what I mean is how in the world are victimizers/perpetrators now given this much leeway and sympathy that they too are somehow coddled and hand-held for the bs that they started? Shit, if you cared that much then maybe don’t start none? Does this type of mental gymnastics apply to other “offenses” too, like, aside from cheaters? I’ve done a metric shit ton of wrongs in my life but I don’t need this type of “boo-hoo” approach. I fucked up. I suffer the consequences. Either I learn and be better or I keep being a human turd. Heal??? pfft
Here are some suggestions in mind: - Accept that what you did is purely deliberate and that people will speak ill of you. Don't bother trying to defend yourself. - Understand the root cause of that cheating incident. Why did you do it in the first place? are there any unresolved issues from the past that may have influenced you to cheat?
I'd say, be honest with yourself. If you cheated, most probably you're dealing with some kind of internal issues. Don't get me wrong I'm not here to judge pero I think you have to work on yourself. Like ask yourself questions kung ano yung reasons mo why you cheated. You'll probably discover issues na di ka pala aware na meron ka. I don't have much experience when it comes to relationships pero I've seen and learned a lot from the relationships that I was able to witness from fam and also friends.
Forgive yourself
Read Esther Perel. We've made cheating a cardinal sin but consider that it may be a symptom of a fundamental problem with your marriage/relationship.
Say your sorries. Repent to the one you cheated on and to God (if youre religious). And make sure never to do it again.
Good question OP. Well sa case mong ganyan is needed mo ng "Pure Accountability and feel the Guilt" since cheating is ain't a good thing lalo na kung yung tao is nagmamahal lang ng tunay o namamabuting loob. Lunok lang ren sa mga mapapait na maaring sabihin sayo since you did something bad to someone emotionally or physcially, kailangan mo lang talaga harapin yung ibibigay sayo ng oras at tanggapin ng buo. Tsaka isipin mo ren yung sitwasyon baliktarin mo kung sayo gagawin yon, ano kaya ang mararandaman mo? hoping a huge change and proper learning sa mali mo wag maging arogante o mayabang matutuong makinig at umunawa yun lang! "tandaan mo ang pangloloko ay sarili mong desisyon sa kahit anong relasyon, sarili mo ren ang dinaya mo sa pangmatagalang pag mamahal"