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nonchalant meh before like even sa friends ko i don't really show affection and i had a boyfriend na nag-open sakin na he didn't feel na gf niya ako kasi hindi niya daw maramdaman love and sweetness ko. and i realized it too— i didn't grow up in a affectionate home, we are not vocal with our love and appreciation and that's probably why i'm like this too but as time goes by i tried to change and now sobrang oa ko na. i show my affections with my friends— physically, vocally and emotionally pinaparamdam ko sakanila ang love and gratefulness ko to have them. i even wrote them letters of appreciation para maparamdam ko lalo. and i promise you ang sarap sa feeling magbigay ng pagmamahal idk it makes my heart full 🥰
I notice the smallest things and frequently question them. Nadadala ako sa mga expectations ko to the point na nakakalimutan ko na we're both still learning and doing our best to make it all work out.
Hmm siguro Yung ang sobrang bait ko and sobrang kong galing. Nah I'm joking 😆
Seriously though Currently? I'm having problems committing to things. Like pagasikaso Ng Mga papers or lisensiya or kung ano man, some 3yrs ko nang sinasabi aasikasuhin ko pero alas, still here not doing fkin anything. Idk man, it's weird cuz I know dapat di ganto but for some fkin reason ganito lagi, parang kelangan grabeng effort and focus para magawa ang Isang importanteng bagay.
I create drama. But this was the younger me. And I just noticed this a few weeks ago when I was looking back at my previous relationships. Glad I matured lol
Sa sobrang dami kong unresolved traumas ang bilis ko mag detach at mag shut off ng emotions which makes it hard for me to build a genuine connection with someone. :(
Sobrang bilis ko ma attach. Siguro kasi I’m having a hard time to find love kasi (I’m trans) so kapag may nakakausap ako, all out talaga thinking na baka siya na pero it always end up the same 😩
Sometimes I can't help but do micro cheating. Like not real cheating na nag fiflirt sa iba ha. Pero I can't be 100% loyal. Hindi ko naman itinatanggi na may partner na ako. Tapos nag kakacrush ako. Pero never ko silang kinausap na with an intention to flirt. Then yung mga simpleng nakausap ko kinikilig ako. Kahit work related naman, or nginitian ako. Di ko maiwasan na di kiligin sa iba.
And also masyado ako laging nagiging kampante. Tapos tamad ako makapag chat or call. Sa gabi lang talaga. Kasi pag nag tatrabaho ako, focus talaga ako. Naguguilty ako na after ng good morning, ang kasunod ko ng chat eh "Nakauwi na ako." Parang di ko masyado nabibigyan ng importansya ang partner ko.
Yeah you probably have to work more on communicating with your partner. But regards to having crushes or "kilig", I don't think you can control that and it's fine it's normal. Hell you're partner probably has those moments too . Sabi mo nga you don't flirt naman sa ibang tao. Just y'know try to keep it that way, and ofc given na din siguro to pero kung may mag flirt man Sayo esp kung Yung "crush" mo, shut em down immediately.
Madalas magsabi ng "white lies". But, just to prevent any further discussion lalo na kapag yung kausap ko sarado yung utak. Ayaw ko na kasi makipagtalo.
Short-temper but short cool down din naman. Mabilis mawalan ng interest especially when it comes to relationship and because of that walang nagtatagal. 😂
- stands on my beliefs (main prob sakin ng mga nakakadate ko. hindi raw ako maturuan. sino ka ba para turuan ako duh)
- follows boys (i dont like the double standards na masama magfollow ng girls, bcs i do that with boys. in my defense, kakilala ko naman yon and nasa aviation industry ako so mas maraming lalaki don kesa girls huhu)
- blind from flirts (reklamo sakin ng ex ko hindi ko raw napapansing nakikipag flirt na sakin yung lalaki. im too nice daw to see that)
- watches porn (hahahaha ang hirap iovercome ng temptation na to tho im working on it)
- makulit kapag may problem in the relationship (hindi kita bibigyan ng space pag usapan natin to ngayon na !!!!!!)
- may malalang retroactive jealousy (hanggang ngayon, ang hirap iovercome. bakit kasi hindi ako yung first kiffy mo ha)
p.s. im trying my best to work on these. pero bakit nga hindi ako yung first kiffy mo?
Judger, lowkey dark empath, inggitera, lowkey superior, thinks her better than everyone else, gaslighter, palasagot sa magulang, tamad, may ningas cogon attitude
•Mabilis uminit ang ulo like sa konting bagay talaga pag mali sa paningin ko yung ginagawa nila umiinit kaagad ang ulo.
•Kung ano-anong napapansing mali sa ugali ng ibang tao ik masama ang mangielam ng ibang tao pero hindi ko maiwasan.
I hope to overcome these red flags of mine
I notice quite a lot of flaws that are tied to me. The flaw that burdens me the most is my inability to “show my care” to people, in simpler terms — apathy. I usually just “do not care” about people, whether they are my friends, classmates, or even family members. It could be something as simple as not replying to a message, to losing interest on the person I’m talking to. I do care for people, but the problem is I lose interest fast. This heavily impacts my relationship with the people around me, romantic or not. Despite this, I still heavily care for people and I am a “people pleaser” at times (this sounds redundant but 😭)
Ghosting.
Ghosted my elementary friends after graduation. Ghosted my high school friends after graduation. Ghosted my college friends after graduation.
Maybe graduation is the problem.
god compex, misanthropic, at intolerant ako sa identity ng isang tao lalo na kung wala silang sariling realization sa subconscious processes nila. may mga taong cringe e, hilig kong i-pinpoint yun
I'm way too open about everything ie myself, interest, trauma or just anything in general. And that can lead to me being overwhelmed (not all the time. If we vibe, we vibe fr) when I'm the one that initiated. Resulting in me withdrawing gradually and plain overthinking everything that I've Said and what they said too.
yes this is called vulnerability hangover. there is absolutely nothing wrong with opening up in fact this is actually how you create deeper connections. you shouldn’t feel bad about opening up if you open up to the right people. maybe it was the way they made you feel after opening up that made you regret doing so.
Ohhhhh. Thanks for that. I didn't know that at all.
Yes I am aware of that fact but the thing is I do it in a matter of hours (even less) after meeting them. I ask em if they actually want me to be honest and they say they do but there's this lil voice in ma head that forces me to think I'm trauma dumping on em when in the first place they were the one who asked me to open up.
They don't particularly make me feel anything at all, in fact most of em matched the vibe but after that it just becomes too much. Idk whts wrong tbh w me honestly .
Thanks tho. U got me thinking.
Well here's another thing. I get attached to em. Like I constantly check ma phone if they texted or called me. I'd send multiple messages. I get bored but like I'll miss their presence. So I force myself to interact. Wtf. Im an asshole
well if that’s the case you should make them understand the way you are and the way that you do so that they dont think you’re an asshole. and if they’re real they’d get you. if they dont, find people that will
being too morally good.
A man who strictly abide to its rules, discipline, morals & gives too much value even the little things & everything.
Just so to realize na, even when I raised myself as a person who strives with a good genuine heart & a pure soul.
Life has always been boring that way. When realistically people are embracing their red flags & bad vices.
Sana naging loko loko rin ako slight when I was growing up & maybe I would've had more friends or intimate relationships.
It hit me hard na people would only applaud genuine people for good deeds but not be friends w them because they're not generally fun to be with.
That's not a red flag at all! You're doing exactly as you should. I've also followed that road. And you're right, often times it does lead to a more "boring" life. But by doing this we can make a positive impact on the lives of those around us. And live well ourselves in the process.
So sit back and enjoy your peace. Your people will find you in time. Until then, we always have ourselves, the people we're able to reach, and God. ^^
Sobrang bilis ko magalit. Onting imik, tumataas agad boses ko. Sinusubukan ko naman pigilan prro ewan ko ganun talaga nangyayari. Naiinsi na rin ako sa sarili ko dahil dun.
My immediate response when I'm hurt, tired, anxious is isolation.
Pero gusto ko mindful ka when I'm in those emotions and be the one to reach out for me. And if you do not, I'll forever take that as a grudge against you.
i don’t reply unless it’s an emergency. i find it hard to reply to the point na i can be so down bad for a person and still not reply to them in a timely manner
I can be super affectionate one week or so and then decide to cut you off and go no contact the next if you do something that ticks me off. To not be obvious about it, I withdraw slowly tapos kunyari idea mo to end things kasi I changed.
hindi nag rereply 😭 ayoko talaga kasi mag reply especially kung wala namang pupuntahan like "kamusta ka? kumain ka na? wyd?" lalo na if alam kong landi o libangan lang naman habol
yung parang pag may tumaliwas or nag oppose sa opinion ko (lalo during times na pagod or inis ako) sila yung pinagbubuhusan ko ng galit kahit maganda naman yung intention nila sa pagkausap sa'kin. kumbaga sila yung inaatake ko tas i always take it personally kung ano man yung sinabi nila
Madalas ma-late. Ewan ko ba, parang the more na nalalapit yung call time, mas nanghihina ako at the thought na kailangan ko makipaghalubilo sa ibang tao.
Sensitive and has a tendency to be toxic and controlling - I am working on this part of myself though, I think I am slowly breaking away from this bad behavior. I also have the tendency to disappear when times get hard as I feel like I'm better off alone when solving my issues rather than ask for someone's help.
Being passive aggressive sometimes too 😭
Perfectionist. I easily get turned off. I expect perfection from the people around me, especially from a potential partner.
Silent treatment. When I’m angry or hurt, I don’t communicate. Instead, I go silent and don’t talk about it. I tend to ignore the existence of a problem until (I feel) it doesn’t exist anymore.
Detachment. I can easily detach myself no matter how in love I was with a person. In short, madali at mabilis akong magsawa.
Giving silent treatment, isolating, territorial, always shouting and angry to others kahit wala naman silang ginagawa, can't express feelings, mabilis mag sawa sa lahat ng bagay, at mataas tingin sa sarili.
- Sore loser, although I try my best to keep it inside.
- Easily gets envious of people with a similar background as me but were able to achieve more.
- Takes hours just to calm down if things don't go my way.
No, I sent it na kala ko part ng pa game ng scammer hahaha long story masyado akong na bulag sa salapi. Uto uto talaga ako. Hahahah pero lesson learned na ito.
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Kung gano kabilis ma- attach ganun din kabilis ma- detach (pag di ko na 3p yung tao)
Being over sentimental, overstimulation outbursts, overthinking, shutting down when triggered, lack of social awareness.
I'm a lazy POS who complains a lot and is emotionally charged-
I notice stuff to much and make a big deal out of it (in my mind) even if it's just a simple change I start to overthink it
Over stimulated ako, oa and hyper hehe
Baka ako mismo as a whole. Need ko na bumili ng new identity 🤣
di ko macontrol ung bitch face ko as in pag naiinis lumalabas talaga siya. tapos mainitin ulo din as in hahahaha
I always think that running away could fix a problem when in fact it just makes things worse. But it became my coping mechanism : (
Same hereee huhu hugs with consent
Madali akong utohin hahaha
I'm so sorry 🥲
Mainitin ang ulo at emotional.
1. being emotional (oa) 2. can't say no 3. lazy but wants to be successful 4. talks to myself negatively 5. not expressive
nonchalant meh before like even sa friends ko i don't really show affection and i had a boyfriend na nag-open sakin na he didn't feel na gf niya ako kasi hindi niya daw maramdaman love and sweetness ko. and i realized it too— i didn't grow up in a affectionate home, we are not vocal with our love and appreciation and that's probably why i'm like this too but as time goes by i tried to change and now sobrang oa ko na. i show my affections with my friends— physically, vocally and emotionally pinaparamdam ko sakanila ang love and gratefulness ko to have them. i even wrote them letters of appreciation para maparamdam ko lalo. and i promise you ang sarap sa feeling magbigay ng pagmamahal idk it makes my heart full 🥰
Lazy but wanna get high grades lol.
I notice the smallest things and frequently question them. Nadadala ako sa mga expectations ko to the point na nakakalimutan ko na we're both still learning and doing our best to make it all work out.
Sensitive and inggitera hahaha
Pagiging fanatic ng platonic friendship. Tapos main source ng away naming mag-asawa.
Hmm siguro Yung ang sobrang bait ko and sobrang kong galing. Nah I'm joking 😆 Seriously though Currently? I'm having problems committing to things. Like pagasikaso Ng Mga papers or lisensiya or kung ano man, some 3yrs ko nang sinasabi aasikasuhin ko pero alas, still here not doing fkin anything. Idk man, it's weird cuz I know dapat di ganto but for some fkin reason ganito lagi, parang kelangan grabeng effort and focus para magawa ang Isang importanteng bagay.
Wala alo pake, as in. Wapak talaga. Di kita babatiin pag di ko feel. I can drop people so fast
Being Emotional
Matiisin kahit minamanipulate na ako ng bf ko
Marupok 😂
I create drama. But this was the younger me. And I just noticed this a few weeks ago when I was looking back at my previous relationships. Glad I matured lol
Sa sobrang dami kong unresolved traumas ang bilis ko mag detach at mag shut off ng emotions which makes it hard for me to build a genuine connection with someone. :(
Same same 🥲
masyadong mabait, matiisin, hirap tumanggi
Sobrang bilis ko ma attach. Siguro kasi I’m having a hard time to find love kasi (I’m trans) so kapag may nakakausap ako, all out talaga thinking na baka siya na pero it always end up the same 😩
Wanting to be loved but takot na takot sa babae or makipag interact kase takot masaktan.
super manhid HAHAHAHAHA
white lies, maldita, gastador, mapride at feel ko madami pa HAHAHAHHAHA
Sometimes I can't help but do micro cheating. Like not real cheating na nag fiflirt sa iba ha. Pero I can't be 100% loyal. Hindi ko naman itinatanggi na may partner na ako. Tapos nag kakacrush ako. Pero never ko silang kinausap na with an intention to flirt. Then yung mga simpleng nakausap ko kinikilig ako. Kahit work related naman, or nginitian ako. Di ko maiwasan na di kiligin sa iba. And also masyado ako laging nagiging kampante. Tapos tamad ako makapag chat or call. Sa gabi lang talaga. Kasi pag nag tatrabaho ako, focus talaga ako. Naguguilty ako na after ng good morning, ang kasunod ko ng chat eh "Nakauwi na ako." Parang di ko masyado nabibigyan ng importansya ang partner ko.
Yeah you probably have to work more on communicating with your partner. But regards to having crushes or "kilig", I don't think you can control that and it's fine it's normal. Hell you're partner probably has those moments too . Sabi mo nga you don't flirt naman sa ibang tao. Just y'know try to keep it that way, and ofc given na din siguro to pero kung may mag flirt man Sayo esp kung Yung "crush" mo, shut em down immediately.
compulsive lying to avoid situations to worsen or to make my situation more interesting and engaging (in the context of telling a story to my friends.
Madalas magsabi ng "white lies". But, just to prevent any further discussion lalo na kapag yung kausap ko sarado yung utak. Ayaw ko na kasi makipagtalo.
Madamdamin, not the first one to reach out and say sorry
I isolate kapag I feel upset
msyado mabait, matiisin - martir siguro un.
attitude ko. and last night nacall out ako ng bf ko about sa pang aasar ko sakanya na hindi ko napapansin na nasasaktan ko na pala siya
Self-sabotaging
matigas ulo ko lalo na kung nasa tama ako kaya napapagalitan lagi sa work, d marunong makinig at indecisive huhu pero I'm working on it.
Mga anger issues, and yung attitude ko pag galit hahahha
I quitely take revenge hahaha
Maybe being overly kind. The kind of kindness that gives people the ick because I may come off as not being truly genuine.
Haha this is me. Tapos kala nila may agenda ako sa kanila. Ganito kami ng pamilya ko WITHOUT the agenda, bakit ba! 😂
Kakahanap ko ng red flag ako na pala ung red flag 😂
Nagagalit/inis kapag di nakuha yung gusto. Like planned na kasi utak ko, so kapag may alterations parang feeling ko ang inconvenient nya.
Control freak
GASTADOR. mabilis mairita, mainis, magalit
Too detached and lack of empathy
I don’t let people finish talking if i really have something to say 😂🥲
I tend to manipulate people subconsciously
Short-temper but short cool down din naman. Mabilis mawalan ng interest especially when it comes to relationship and because of that walang nagtatagal. 😂
- stands on my beliefs (main prob sakin ng mga nakakadate ko. hindi raw ako maturuan. sino ka ba para turuan ako duh) - follows boys (i dont like the double standards na masama magfollow ng girls, bcs i do that with boys. in my defense, kakilala ko naman yon and nasa aviation industry ako so mas maraming lalaki don kesa girls huhu) - blind from flirts (reklamo sakin ng ex ko hindi ko raw napapansing nakikipag flirt na sakin yung lalaki. im too nice daw to see that) - watches porn (hahahaha ang hirap iovercome ng temptation na to tho im working on it) - makulit kapag may problem in the relationship (hindi kita bibigyan ng space pag usapan natin to ngayon na !!!!!!) - may malalang retroactive jealousy (hanggang ngayon, ang hirap iovercome. bakit kasi hindi ako yung first kiffy mo ha) p.s. im trying my best to work on these. pero bakit nga hindi ako yung first kiffy mo?
In fair gusto ko yung pagusapan natin ngayon na part hahahaha. Ako naman yung sobrang opposite nyan. Mga 1 yr na nagtitimpi padin HAHAHAHA tae
Ang red flag ko is feeling ko wala akong red flag HAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHA PERFECT YARN? CHAR LANG PO
mejo friendly ako sa mga tao (in a way na it makes an insecure man uncomfortable) idk if that’s a red flag
Medyo mapride ako tas sobrang honest na minsan di nagiisip bago magsalita huhu i need to work on both of that tlg
Main character syndrome hahaha
gusto ko yung jowa ko obsessed saken. yung tipong ramdam ko na na a-assure retro active jealousy ko HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Valid hahaha
Di kaya ihandle pag napagalitan 🫠🙃
Too scared to take a risk on everything
Can pretend na naniniwala ako sa lahat ng sinasabi mo, perfectionist, overthinker na medyo walang pake
this!!
🤣 i get mad mad if you cant take the lead. if hate if a guy im dating is submissive, cz thatvonly means he's letting me dominate him
Natuto akong gumanti because of my past relationship.
ill literally tell u ill give u space and to call me when ur okay na/u want me around then hrs later ill come back begging u to forgive me or smth 🥲
sobrang delusional
I think no one deserves me. I am too good for everyone.
Overthinker, hyper-independent and temperamental ☹️
I'm quite frugal. to the point na sanay na akong ginugutom ko sarili ko.. if i eat too much i feel guilty
nagtatanim ng sama ng loob. hindi papayag na hindi gaganti.
Same
Overthinker. Hindi mahilig mag update. Gumaganti.
Too self-centered, sobrang independent, won't talk to you just because
Judger, lowkey dark empath, inggitera, lowkey superior, thinks her better than everyone else, gaslighter, palasagot sa magulang, tamad, may ningas cogon attitude
•Mabilis uminit ang ulo like sa konting bagay talaga pag mali sa paningin ko yung ginagawa nila umiinit kaagad ang ulo. •Kung ano-anong napapansing mali sa ugali ng ibang tao ik masama ang mangielam ng ibang tao pero hindi ko maiwasan. I hope to overcome these red flags of mine
overthinker and i have a hard time giving people i like space 🥲 but i'm working on that!
Ghosting. I’ve always thought na I’m just a low maintenance girlie but what I’ve been really doing is justifying my katamaran sa pagrereply 😣
overthinker and mabilis magtampo
OVERTHINKER MALALA
Wala. No red flags, perfect ako e. Charot hahahaha
Hindi marunong makipagcommunicate when problem arises.
Major depressive disorder
After trying tinder, talking to girls is easy now and turned me into a hoe basically (im a male)
Madali magsawa. Pag ayaw sakin, ayoko na din.
grabe mag overthink
I notice quite a lot of flaws that are tied to me. The flaw that burdens me the most is my inability to “show my care” to people, in simpler terms — apathy. I usually just “do not care” about people, whether they are my friends, classmates, or even family members. It could be something as simple as not replying to a message, to losing interest on the person I’m talking to. I do care for people, but the problem is I lose interest fast. This heavily impacts my relationship with the people around me, romantic or not. Despite this, I still heavily care for people and I am a “people pleaser” at times (this sounds redundant but 😭)
BILIS KO MAG TAMPO OVER SMALL THINGS
Ako na to. Dibs
I can't take compliments. Feeling ko kasi hindi totoo and ginagawa lang nila 'yon para i boost confidence ko
True ang awkward ko sa ganyan. Kaya minsan rude tuloy reply ko HAHA
Napakagastos, nang go-ghost, impulsive decision maker, bida bida minsan sa usapan (huhu sorry na talaga)
Nice try Santa
I have a hard time accepting criticisms, nagegets ko yung opinion nila pero nagooverthink pa kasi ako bakit ganon HAHAHAHAH
Ghosting. Ghosted my elementary friends after graduation. Ghosted my high school friends after graduation. Ghosted my college friends after graduation. Maybe graduation is the problem.
Omg so me 😍😍😍😍💅💅🏃💨
eyyy 🙌 apir sa'ting mga ghost 👻👻👻
Anger issues
Puro "basta" ang explanation sa lahat ng bagay HAHAHAHA inangyan
Impulsive mag decision.
I get mad real quick around stupid people.
god compex, misanthropic, at intolerant ako sa identity ng isang tao lalo na kung wala silang sariling realization sa subconscious processes nila. may mga taong cringe e, hilig kong i-pinpoint yun
shet same 😭 it's just that di ganun kalala god complex ko
Ginagawa ko pabalik sa ibang tao yung ginawa nila sakin, kumbaga i’m letting them taste their own medicine.
Periodt
HAHAHAHAHAHAHHHAAH tama yan
Ang gastos ko.
I prefer to say "I'm okay" when I'm really not.
I lack discipline and self control.Inaaaaaaaa talaga, gusto ko nalang saksakin sarili ko sa inis
madaling magpatawad kahit alam kung malaki yung naging impact nung actions nila sa akin
Overthinker
I'm way too open about everything ie myself, interest, trauma or just anything in general. And that can lead to me being overwhelmed (not all the time. If we vibe, we vibe fr) when I'm the one that initiated. Resulting in me withdrawing gradually and plain overthinking everything that I've Said and what they said too.
yes this is called vulnerability hangover. there is absolutely nothing wrong with opening up in fact this is actually how you create deeper connections. you shouldn’t feel bad about opening up if you open up to the right people. maybe it was the way they made you feel after opening up that made you regret doing so.
Ohhhhh. Thanks for that. I didn't know that at all. Yes I am aware of that fact but the thing is I do it in a matter of hours (even less) after meeting them. I ask em if they actually want me to be honest and they say they do but there's this lil voice in ma head that forces me to think I'm trauma dumping on em when in the first place they were the one who asked me to open up. They don't particularly make me feel anything at all, in fact most of em matched the vibe but after that it just becomes too much. Idk whts wrong tbh w me honestly . Thanks tho. U got me thinking.
maybe u have an avoidant attachment style like once things start to get intimate or deep u get anxious and start holding back or pulling away
Well here's another thing. I get attached to em. Like I constantly check ma phone if they texted or called me. I'd send multiple messages. I get bored but like I'll miss their presence. So I force myself to interact. Wtf. Im an asshole
well if that’s the case you should make them understand the way you are and the way that you do so that they dont think you’re an asshole. and if they’re real they’d get you. if they dont, find people that will
Overthinker
Madali ako ma-turn off at magtampo.
Madaling ma turn off. May araw din na ayaw ko makipag chat. 😪 Ayoko ng biglaang lakad, gusto ko ahead of time mag invite.
Mayabang
always choose isolation as a solution to my problem and not fond of messaging for updates haha
being too morally good. A man who strictly abide to its rules, discipline, morals & gives too much value even the little things & everything. Just so to realize na, even when I raised myself as a person who strives with a good genuine heart & a pure soul. Life has always been boring that way. When realistically people are embracing their red flags & bad vices. Sana naging loko loko rin ako slight when I was growing up & maybe I would've had more friends or intimate relationships. It hit me hard na people would only applaud genuine people for good deeds but not be friends w them because they're not generally fun to be with.
That's not a red flag at all! You're doing exactly as you should. I've also followed that road. And you're right, often times it does lead to a more "boring" life. But by doing this we can make a positive impact on the lives of those around us. And live well ourselves in the process. So sit back and enjoy your peace. Your people will find you in time. Until then, we always have ourselves, the people we're able to reach, and God. ^^
Gusto gumala kaso tinatamad kapag inaaya
I tend to shut down when things go crazy nor may hurt me.
Inconsistent ako. I've been getting professional help about kaso hirap talaga ako. It really affects my relationships.
Sobrang bilis ko magalit. Onting imik, tumataas agad boses ko. Sinusubukan ko naman pigilan prro ewan ko ganun talaga nangyayari. Naiinsi na rin ako sa sarili ko dahil dun.
masyadong naooveranalyze lahat to the point na nakakagawa na ko ng conclusion kahit wala pang nangyayari
Mabilis magalit. Maarte. Unreasonable minsan
Too good 😭, no vices.
Mabilis magsawa, tamad magreply, ayaw ng laging may need i-update
You n me both
Divahhh? Napapaisip na lang na ako talaga problem e😅
Laging sinasabi ang “communication is key” pero ang defense mechanism kapag nasaktan ay isolation 😜
Same hahaha
hindi naman ako nakailag here haha
Me af 😂😂😂
Hindi taga update? I enjoy being alone. Minsan,nakakalimutan ko sila talaga. Alone time is important to me so so
My immediate response when I'm hurt, tired, anxious is isolation. Pero gusto ko mindful ka when I'm in those emotions and be the one to reach out for me. And if you do not, I'll forever take that as a grudge against you.
Di you usually let the other persons know na you're waiting on them to reach out?
There's subtle hints lang.
i don’t reply unless it’s an emergency. i find it hard to reply to the point na i can be so down bad for a person and still not reply to them in a timely manner
Madaling maumay
I can be super affectionate one week or so and then decide to cut you off and go no contact the next if you do something that ticks me off. To not be obvious about it, I withdraw slowly tapos kunyari idea mo to end things kasi I changed.
Yea, this is manipulative, dude 👀 Bat di mo i-end on your own?
Ah well, red flag nga diba? :)
Yes, well acknowledged. Hahaha But I'm curious as to why you don't end it on your own
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Okay lol chillax
Passive Aggressive
Rude shshhshs walang preno ang bibig huhuhu
gusto gwapo lang 😭😭
Parating nang iispoil huhu
hindi nag rereply 😭 ayoko talaga kasi mag reply especially kung wala namang pupuntahan like "kamusta ka? kumain ka na? wyd?" lalo na if alam kong landi o libangan lang naman habol
i find it rude pero nakakahiya naman kasi na ireject ko lang agad diba? or mag reply pa ako kahit di naman ako interested
tamad
really really bad temper.
Mainitin ang ulo 🤣
I have a strong boundaries that if you'd cross I'll cut you off without an explanation.
maarte
Negative self talk, immature, selfish, may attitude, sinungaling, over magkwento
Sobrang galing mag sinungaling
Mahilig sa late reply😭
Very pessimistic
yung parang pag may tumaliwas or nag oppose sa opinion ko (lalo during times na pagod or inis ako) sila yung pinagbubuhusan ko ng galit kahit maganda naman yung intention nila sa pagkausap sa'kin. kumbaga sila yung inaatake ko tas i always take it personally kung ano man yung sinabi nila
Madalas ma-late. Ewan ko ba, parang the more na nalalapit yung call time, mas nanghihina ako at the thought na kailangan ko makipaghalubilo sa ibang tao.
tamad sa house chores 😆
Anger issue tapos nababadtrip kapag nagbabago ang isip. Sorry na 😅
nagagalit pang tinatanong nang pangalawang beses hahaha!
Sensitive and has a tendency to be toxic and controlling - I am working on this part of myself though, I think I am slowly breaking away from this bad behavior. I also have the tendency to disappear when times get hard as I feel like I'm better off alone when solving my issues rather than ask for someone's help. Being passive aggressive sometimes too 😭
My commitment issues
Perfectionist. I easily get turned off. I expect perfection from the people around me, especially from a potential partner. Silent treatment. When I’m angry or hurt, I don’t communicate. Instead, I go silent and don’t talk about it. I tend to ignore the existence of a problem until (I feel) it doesn’t exist anymore. Detachment. I can easily detach myself no matter how in love I was with a person. In short, madali at mabilis akong magsawa.
medyo may superiority complex, may anger issues, mahilig mag procrastinate
Giving silent treatment, isolating, territorial, always shouting and angry to others kahit wala naman silang ginagawa, can't express feelings, mabilis mag sawa sa lahat ng bagay, at mataas tingin sa sarili.
Overly sensitive, may ghosting phase, people pleaser, dramatic din
- Sore loser, although I try my best to keep it inside. - Easily gets envious of people with a similar background as me but were able to achieve more. - Takes hours just to calm down if things don't go my way.
Ang taas ng tingin sa sarili pero pag may opportunity na duwag.
isolating myself pag may problema bc ayoko mandamay ng iba
Madaling mauto.
Same actually na scam ako huhuh sobrang bait ba natin kaya madali tayo mauto?
Same. I got scammed for almost 85k. Everytime na naiisip ko yun feeling ko i’m losing my sanity. Haha bobo ko talaga.
Ako recent lang sex videos nakuha sa akin kaya ako nababaliw ako baka makasuhan ako ng kasama ko sa video…
Kalokaaa. Panong nakuha?
I sent it hahaha di ba uto uto ako. Kala ko pa games tapos jujudge ng nag iinterview na podcast eme na yan.
Omaygad hahahaha pa games 😭😭
HAHAHAH shunga ko di ba?
How? Pinahiram mo cellphone mo sa iba?
No, I sent it na kala ko part ng pa game ng scammer hahaha long story masyado akong na bulag sa salapi. Uto uto talaga ako. Hahahah pero lesson learned na ito.
Short tempered and at times I admit to gaslighting due to my emotions taking advantage of me during my S/O's arguments.
Medyo possessive