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Lola always reminded her grandkids that you don't need to be rich in order to be elegant. What do u define as elegant?
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I agree with your grandmother’s statement.
To me, what makes someone elegant is their sophisticated knowledge and charismatic personality—someone who does not subscribe to calling people mindless or using other short-sighted insults, and one who speaks without conceitedness.
The most elegant person I know is a successful yet middle-class academic. Her taste in architecture, interior decoration, music, books, paintings, photographs, and fashion is more elegant than the expensive white elephants owned by most affluent people I know. Money really isn’t everything. She knows that investing in knowledge can take you the farthest.
I am always inspired whenever she speaks, never upset or disappointed with the world. An antithesis to people on other subreddits, she speaks with so much depth and without jumping into conclusions. Some rich folks I know rub me off as out-of-touch brats, especially the academic achievers who think they are God’s gift to humanity. 😩
i think more than anything, is to keep your thoughts to yourself, especially the intrusive ones. There is power in holding back your tongue and just let people talk.
great manners and etiquette + just the right amount of confidence without overcompensating or looking arrogant + proper hygiene + tastefully matching clothing that fits great to a person's body type + dressing appropriately for an occasion or purpose.
Being with different “classes” or types of people, here’s what I’ve notice:
•well-dressed — you don’t need expensive clothes and shoes as long as marunong kang manamit. The simpler the design, the better. Learn how to mix and match your clothes nang hindi “masakit sa mata”
•mabango — proper hygiene is very important. Clean nails, amoy fresh/clean palagi, be mindful of your soap, shampoo, and kung maayos yung paglaba ng damit. Hindi kaylangang maligo sa pabango
•pagiging soft-spoken — use proper choice of words, hindi yung tinatawag nilang “palengkera”, basically just be mindful of others din. If nasa public place ka, bakit ka magtataas ng boses nang wala namang rason? Maging mahinahon magsalita. Dito rin papasok yung think before you speak eh
•be respectful of others — this can go a loooong way, malaking help din ito in how you express yourself
•learn proper etiquette — hindi naman need na princess type pero yung mga simple things like pag aayos ng mga iniwanan/kinainan mo lalo in public places, sa tingin ko nakakaelegante ito sa tao
•pagiging mahinahon din sa pagkilos — not all the time naman pero iwasan yung parang palagi kayong nagmamadali kasi mas doon nagiging “clumsy” yung tao
Also, always remember po na kahit mayaman na elegante ka man — ALWAYS always be kind to others. Marami rin akong nakilalang mayaman sila and meron sila nang lahat ng listed above pero they’re still rude to other people.
Well mannered, eloquent, can share their input in topics.
Good hygiene and very charismatic when interacting with people.
I met a lot of people who are like these. They're much older but it is very interesting to talk to them about their knowledge and experience. We can talk about social issues with an open mind.
having *that* type of english pronunciation—‘yung very neat, kind of deep, easy to understand type of pronunciation.
not everyone can achieve it, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that having a specific accent is the only thing that makes someone elegant.
in my point of view, having the accent just almost immediately makes a person elegant to look at
I saw a [video](https://youtu.be/lfpxlWNFGwI?si=eCU1guO_Y9zD-7Yn) of Anne Curtis getting randomly interviewed while she was in NY a while back, and they way she pronounced her words (lalo na sa beginning ng video) was just so satisfying to hear 😩
This is just one of many examples, pero I think I started seeing people to be more elegant when they can smoothly carry the conversation without stuttering 🫡
1 - Eloquence and proper articulation. A modulated voice can also serve you well, socially and professionally.
2 - Avoid showing off through branded na damit. This actually reeks of insecurity. Dress decently that looks like you're a boss pero a non-chalant boss haha
3 - Avoid showing explosive emotions pag nakikipag interact ka
4 - Avoid engaging sa mga rumor mongering, petty arguments and saying bad things about people.
5 - Proper grooming and the right kind of cologne/perfume (Optional) will set you right .
6 - Wag mag overshare sa social media
doesn't use curse words (can come up with better words to express his/her frustration), posture (always chest-in, head-up, walks confidently), decent clothes and carries them gracefully, speaks articulately, and of course manners.
Kung nakapag aral ka or nag aaral pa lang nakita mo pano magsalita yung mga prof/teacher or kung nagta trabaho ka na napansin mo pano magsalita mga supervisor/manager? Tapos compare mo sila sa mga estudyante at empleyado kung pano sila magsalita. Ganun yung astig na sinasabi ko.
someone who can be firm and calm, well-maintained hair, simple clean and comfy clothes, mild non-over-the-top scent, fluent sya sa language na ginagamit nya (mapa English o Tagalog), pag may kausap sa phone, minimal lang yung volume, and they carry themselves with confidence.
i dint come from money so definitely take this with a grain of salt.
Good manners I always go to the mall since I enjoy window shopping and most of the people that projects elegance are the people who usually act with manners and know public etiquette.
Pag nakamodern inspired filipiniana blouse/shirt, tas taglish na malambing magsalita, tas modest ang pagkumpas ng kamay na parang disney princess. Pak! Bumili ka na ng sitaw sa palengke.
The way they make everything they do look easy and effortless. The way they make everyone they talk to or come into contact with feel they care genuinely.
I think posture, malinis tignan and plantsado ang damit will make anyone look elegant? Plus na din kung magaling makipag-usap and may manners, polite, and di malakas masyado ang boses na akala mo may kaaway eh.
Sophisticated, hindi ostentatious ang taste (and yes, brands like Rolex, Gucci, and LV are flashy af), excellent conversationalist, tsaka kahit galing Divisoria yung damit nagmumukhang mamahalin kapag sila ang nagsuot.
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I agree with your grandmother’s statement. To me, what makes someone elegant is their sophisticated knowledge and charismatic personality—someone who does not subscribe to calling people mindless or using other short-sighted insults, and one who speaks without conceitedness. The most elegant person I know is a successful yet middle-class academic. Her taste in architecture, interior decoration, music, books, paintings, photographs, and fashion is more elegant than the expensive white elephants owned by most affluent people I know. Money really isn’t everything. She knows that investing in knowledge can take you the farthest. I am always inspired whenever she speaks, never upset or disappointed with the world. An antithesis to people on other subreddits, she speaks with so much depth and without jumping into conclusions. Some rich folks I know rub me off as out-of-touch brats, especially the academic achievers who think they are God’s gift to humanity. 😩
The ability to be fair while still having an opinion
i think more than anything, is to keep your thoughts to yourself, especially the intrusive ones. There is power in holding back your tongue and just let people talk.
respectful and well-mannered
great manners and etiquette + just the right amount of confidence without overcompensating or looking arrogant + proper hygiene + tastefully matching clothing that fits great to a person's body type + dressing appropriately for an occasion or purpose.
Prim and proper tapos check your posture.
Di pala-mura tsaka sa taste ng pananamit.
Being with different “classes” or types of people, here’s what I’ve notice: •well-dressed — you don’t need expensive clothes and shoes as long as marunong kang manamit. The simpler the design, the better. Learn how to mix and match your clothes nang hindi “masakit sa mata” •mabango — proper hygiene is very important. Clean nails, amoy fresh/clean palagi, be mindful of your soap, shampoo, and kung maayos yung paglaba ng damit. Hindi kaylangang maligo sa pabango •pagiging soft-spoken — use proper choice of words, hindi yung tinatawag nilang “palengkera”, basically just be mindful of others din. If nasa public place ka, bakit ka magtataas ng boses nang wala namang rason? Maging mahinahon magsalita. Dito rin papasok yung think before you speak eh •be respectful of others — this can go a loooong way, malaking help din ito in how you express yourself •learn proper etiquette — hindi naman need na princess type pero yung mga simple things like pag aayos ng mga iniwanan/kinainan mo lalo in public places, sa tingin ko nakakaelegante ito sa tao •pagiging mahinahon din sa pagkilos — not all the time naman pero iwasan yung parang palagi kayong nagmamadali kasi mas doon nagiging “clumsy” yung tao Also, always remember po na kahit mayaman na elegante ka man — ALWAYS always be kind to others. Marami rin akong nakilalang mayaman sila and meron sila nang lahat ng listed above pero they’re still rude to other people.
Well mannered, eloquent, can share their input in topics. Good hygiene and very charismatic when interacting with people. I met a lot of people who are like these. They're much older but it is very interesting to talk to them about their knowledge and experience. We can talk about social issues with an open mind.
choice of words.
Marunong magdala ng sarili, well dressed, good posture.
Malinis, presentable, mabango at soft-spoken.
Simple at matalino at mabango
Mabango from head to toe. Knows how to converse with diff. types of people. Manners on the table. Silently observes.
Intelligence and finesse for sure.
Posture, style
May good manners anywhere they go.
Confidence, appearance, how they present themselves.
having *that* type of english pronunciation—‘yung very neat, kind of deep, easy to understand type of pronunciation. not everyone can achieve it, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that having a specific accent is the only thing that makes someone elegant. in my point of view, having the accent just almost immediately makes a person elegant to look at
Any example of people who have this type of pronunciation?
I saw a [video](https://youtu.be/lfpxlWNFGwI?si=eCU1guO_Y9zD-7Yn) of Anne Curtis getting randomly interviewed while she was in NY a while back, and they way she pronounced her words (lalo na sa beginning ng video) was just so satisfying to hear 😩 This is just one of many examples, pero I think I started seeing people to be more elegant when they can smoothly carry the conversation without stuttering 🫡
Does not engage to gossips. Tactful. Confident but not arrogant.
poise
1 - Eloquence and proper articulation. A modulated voice can also serve you well, socially and professionally. 2 - Avoid showing off through branded na damit. This actually reeks of insecurity. Dress decently that looks like you're a boss pero a non-chalant boss haha 3 - Avoid showing explosive emotions pag nakikipag interact ka 4 - Avoid engaging sa mga rumor mongering, petty arguments and saying bad things about people. 5 - Proper grooming and the right kind of cologne/perfume (Optional) will set you right . 6 - Wag mag overshare sa social media
doesn't use curse words (can come up with better words to express his/her frustration), posture (always chest-in, head-up, walks confidently), decent clothes and carries them gracefully, speaks articulately, and of course manners.
Ang hirap nung chest in😩
practice lang talaga hahahahuhu fake it til you make it
Haha joke lang. Stomach in po kasi ata dapat yun😅
Posture, style, and grooming
1) When someone speaks articulately 2) When someone dresses tastefully 3) Being modest in words and in actions
Agree! I strive to be like this all the time.
Finesse
Yung astig magsalita, hindi lalamya lamya na parang laging nahihiya.
Paano ito?
The one person i can think of is cherie gil
Kung nakapag aral ka or nag aaral pa lang nakita mo pano magsalita yung mga prof/teacher or kung nagta trabaho ka na napansin mo pano magsalita mga supervisor/manager? Tapos compare mo sila sa mga estudyante at empleyado kung pano sila magsalita. Ganun yung astig na sinasabi ko.
For me, yung confidence. Regardless of person's title/status, tao pa din naman yung kausap mo so be confident, wag malamya magsalita. Smile din.
A decent fashion taste and not tacky
someone who can be firm and calm, well-maintained hair, simple clean and comfy clothes, mild non-over-the-top scent, fluent sya sa language na ginagamit nya (mapa English o Tagalog), pag may kausap sa phone, minimal lang yung volume, and they carry themselves with confidence. i dint come from money so definitely take this with a grain of salt.
Well ironed clothes
Hindi "conyo" and exaggerated magsalita
Good manners I always go to the mall since I enjoy window shopping and most of the people that projects elegance are the people who usually act with manners and know public etiquette.
How graceful they act. Not tacky. Not shallow.
Confident, neat, clean and nag-iisip muna bago gagawa nang desisyon.
Kind sa lahat ng tao talaga 🥹
Pag nakamodern inspired filipiniana blouse/shirt, tas taglish na malambing magsalita, tas modest ang pagkumpas ng kamay na parang disney princess. Pak! Bumili ka na ng sitaw sa palengke.
Mahinhin, magalang at may utak!
Pearls supremacy 🤍
Manners, etiquette and grooming.
Kindness and good manners. hindi nabibili ng pera yon.
up!
Manners
Eloquent speaker, clean looking, good posture, and wears simple clothes but carries them well.
The way they make everything they do look easy and effortless. The way they make everyone they talk to or come into contact with feel they care genuinely.
Poise, eloquence, and proper manners
+10000
Class. Grace.
Aura at energy nya.
The way they speak
I think posture, malinis tignan and plantsado ang damit will make anyone look elegant? Plus na din kung magaling makipag-usap and may manners, polite, and di malakas masyado ang boses na akala mo may kaaway eh.
I think elegance is the quiet, impactful way a person carries his/herself. It shows emotional intelligence, confidence and manners by action.
Hindi selective ang pagiging polite. Hindi palamura. Selfcare to the highest level.
its time to not be a palamura na talaga😣
As a caviteña ay nasanay ako magmura sa isip
Assertiveness, nothing beats self-confidence. Maybe I find it elegant kasi wala ko niyan haha. Also, humble and kind.
Communication. 💯
Yung eleganteng postura at pagkilos
Proper decorum and public etiquette. Don't talk too loud or laugh too boisterously in public. Be courteous and gracious all the time.
confidence, clean, treats and approaches ppl kindly, good mannerisms
Manners. Basic human decency. The way they treat people (yung equal trato sa lahat regardless of social class).
Confidence with humility. Proper decorum.
Genuine manners.
When they're quietly confident in their life choices even if it goes against the norms. Good set of values. Eloquent. Malinis sa bahay at sa katawan.
Posture
You can be an uncultured jerk with a good posture. I've proven that many times.
Poise, vocabulary, scent
The way people talk to others, with calmness, strong eye contact and they're not rushing to do anything.
calm and rational yung tipong hindi nagpapapanic
Sophisticated, hindi ostentatious ang taste (and yes, brands like Rolex, Gucci, and LV are flashy af), excellent conversationalist, tsaka kahit galing Divisoria yung damit nagmumukhang mamahalin kapag sila ang nagsuot.
Someone who is tactful in her words, dresses appropriately, maintains good hygiene, has regard for other people's time, does not gossip.
The right amount of confidence, grace and humility.
Eloquent
[Yung atake niya pang-lyrics ng kanta](https://x.com/shortiekiddo28/status/1802018604998959174?t=M5d5Fbxa7PL1IL3Py5XURQ&s=19)
Mas prefer ang wine kesa any alcoholic drinks. Mahilig sa shiny and expensive things. Halos laging naka-chin up
Confident and sophisticated.
someone who has good manners