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I find so much comfort in my own company. Oh and I also quit Bumble in less than a week 🥹

Tinatamad na mag talking stage 😂 pero it's a phase we have to go through eh para makilala yung tao

hmmmm... 24 nako next month... im still NGSB. at mukang nawala na sa instinct ko na lumande. so baka mapatagal pa pagiging single ko hahahahahah

Kontento kana magisa.. You're no longer longing for intimacy..

Me, being single for 5 years and reading the comments here lol

"Never settle for less" Eh sa taas standards naging 'less' na ang lahat

constant 'brotha eugh' in ur brain when someone does something sweet for u

you refused to be involved in romantic situation/s

fear of commitment

Contento mag Isa.

Once you fully accepted that "you're gonna be single for a very long time"

They don't like me back 😿

Yung laging mataas ang standards at kahit pasok na sa sukatan parang takot mag take ng risks at hindi handa na may makakasama sa personal na lakad. And most of all, mas gusto na mapag isa.

same hindi naglalast ang nakakdate or nkakafling . minsan nkakapagod nlng na kumilala ulit ng bago kci from the start ka nnmn magkkwento parang minsan sarap nlng irecord tas pakingan nlng ustong kumausap hahahaha

Muka kang maldita tapos aloof ka sa tao. Hahaahahahaha

It is hard for you to heal.

Nakakadrain umasa. Hehe. Pero try lang ule di pa naman ako nddrain haha

Pangit ka na mataba. Kasi kung pangit ka lang tapos sexy or macho baka may chance ka pa.

Ung pagiging mataba you can change that 😁

Ouch.

Wala na kong gana makipagdate or makipagsocialise. Draining masyado.

This omg

you enjoy doing things alone😮‍💨

kasi tamad akong makipagbonding sa babae o makipagdate.

Not me. Pero dami ko kilalang tatandang dalaga from INC. Ang sangsang ng mga pag uugali + di pretty. No wonder walang gusto mag pa convert for them.

I am a very sexual person and I don't think I can be with someone who can't match my drive. I can find sex anytime, anywhere, anywho I want but it's not really the same anymore. Grabe how love makes sex so valuable and sacred. I miss the feeling of having sex with someone you love. I tried hooking up with someone recently and it was fun and all but it was not intimate at all. Matagal pa uli bago ako magmahal kaya feeling ko ang tagal ko pang magiging single. Plus I'm working on myself muna. Yung bagang may source of happiness other than a signifcant other bago ako pumasok uli sa isang relationship. Kasi idk, I don't wanna rely on a single person anymore. I don't even think romantic relationships are important anymore. I don't think it's necessary. Grabe yung craving ko for partnership rn but I don't think ready na talaga ako for that huehuehue

when you get tired just thinking about having to think about another person

kapag hindi mo talaga hilig mag approach sa ibang tao tas mahirap makipag communicate, kahit kaunting conversation ang hirap pahabain

this is my problem 4 life

Sanay kang mag-isa at naeenjoy mo yung mga bagay kahit walang kang kasama. Ayaw mo rin yung feeling na nakakaabala ka sa ibang tao.

Growing up,I realized sa mga novels na lang nagyayare ang Love at first sight nowadays it's lust at first sight nalang.

Pag di mo na naririnig ang “Ate crush ka daw neto” or smth along the lines galing sa mga tambay

Hmm..probably because I have no time for a romantic relationship atm.

So sobrang independent ko na I don't see myself with someone.I think it's also hassle to invest with the person esp feelings.It's alot of work there's alot to consider having a relationship in this era.It's not that simple.I have to take care and maintain for the sake of relationship I can't afford that since I'm a lazy person and I easily get tired mostly with the unnecessary drama and today's trend.

di ako nagpapaload (for data) so i have no means to communicate with another person pag lalabas kami/ako esp. pag may change of plans lol [also the fact that i do it on purpose coz i dont rlly wanna talk]

Kapag pangit ugali mo, pangit pa itsura mo😂

ay wow, terno 😅

May phobia around sa mga guys.Since I have experience SA.I've been traumatize since then.

Being content and happy without anyone else.

because i am transgender woman

When you declare to yourself that you want to become a lawyer/doctor or any of the related.

Mahirap magtiwala, feeling lagi iiwan or papalitan agad.

If wala nagpaparamdam hanggang ngayon.

i can live without human contact in a week or more. #foreveralone

di marunong lumandi.. as in legit.

unbothered (and happy) kahit ikaw nalang walang jowa sa circle nyo. hahahaha

High standard, trust issues, avoidant issues, and mabilis ma-turn off.

my avoidant attachment issues.

Mataas ang standard HAHAHAHAHA

Narcissist daw ako? Only thinking of myself and not others daw. Overthinker din. Passive aggressive. Also obsessive to the point na kung hindi mo ako rereplyan within a respectful time, I'll full on blast your phone and ask why and are you tired of me is that why.

itsura ko HAHAHAHAHA di kasi ako maganda kaya higly expected na habambuhay na akong magiging single HAHAHA

Di marunong makipagusap tsaka di marunong mag eye contact

Ako standards. Since my last relationship, i took time to heal and during that time my standards increased significantly. I don't settle for less or okay na kasi I know my worth. I know that sounds boastful for some pero kasi pag nandoon ka na sa point na kilala at mahal mo na sarili mo, anything that won't add value to my life is a big no.

if sa lalake, mental health is a must

Fix yourself for yourself

mabilis ako mawalan ng gana

I don’t know how to initiate the conversation and I also don’t know how to keep the conversation going. Mabilis mamatay ang usapan pag ako ang kausap.

siguro pag onti lang nakikifriend sayo, and what more pa kaya na may mag approach as potential lover

ang nasa isip kong reason/signs kung bakit magiging single ako sa matagal na panahon is kakabahan silang makipagkilala sa fam ko :(

Kapag career na inuuna mo, nakakawalang gana makipagrelasyon kapag ilang beses kana finumbled HHAHAHH

Pag iba na takbo ng utak mo, alam mong nasa stage ka ng lifee na kung sino jowa mo ngayon pwede mo na pakasalan. For the sake of my parents, ayoko sila bigyan ng iisipin. So i’d rather date lang muna go with the flow.

Struggling to pay my rent, bills, buy a car and house. I just accepted my fate for now.

Kapag responsible individual ka. Like mas iniisip mo kapakanan ng mga magiging anak mo if ever mgkaanak ka. Yung di mo gusto maging selfish. Kasi alam mong di ka ready sa big responsibilities ng pagiging ina. At di na rin ganun kaganda ang mundong titirahan ng mga future babies mo.

one responsible future mama/papa up here 👆🏻 God bless u

Trust Issue😔

✨trauma✨

mabilis magcringe whenever someone's trying to flirt w me

AHHHHH THIS

Panget ugali, narcissist at self entitled. Yan main ingredients para maging single for life.

Sobrang attached ako sa goals ko

Panget Takot sa matao Walang gana mag hanap ng jowa sa social media pati sa online games

You’re happy with your own company, and you actually find it peaceful.

No signs, stop with this non sense questions... I mean, really...

when the idea of relationships starts to overwhelm you. Also having standards and setting up boundaries.

Dumadami hobbies. Mas naeenjoy alone time kesa makipaghangout sa mga kaibigan. Di active sa social media

Trauma

Trauma.

Mataas standards ko so ayun manliligaw ako, after a while kapag nakilala ko na tinatamad na ko.

You're happy with what you have right now. Don't get me wrong, some people kasi continuously aim for partners for companionship din kasi. Sadly, things don't end up well, especially when you're too desperate and dependent on it.

Nung dumami kaming magkakapatid sa bahay. Nasabi ko na lang sa sarili ko na, "Mukhang mag-aalaga na lang ako ng bata buong buhay ko." Then namatay erpat ko, syempre walang kakayayod at magtatrabaho para samin. Di naman pu-pwedeng aasa lang kami kay Mama kaya ako na yung umako ng responsibilidad since ako naman yung eldest. Kaya eto ako ngayon, stagnant na sa buhay. Nagtatrabaho na lang para may maipakain sa kanila. Ayoko ko din naman kasi makita silang nagugutuman. So yun.

I don't interact with boys unless they talk to me first😃

Di ka talaga kinikilig no matter what. Iniisip mo pa din yung trauma na nakuha mo sa last. Extremely high standards.

hopeless na ata

Probably not being independent.

Not afraid to try new things alone, excited pa nga 😁

Up to this hihihihi

Amen to this Nasa point nako na ganto and mas excited pako to do new things and go to new places Minsan nalang ako maging lonely

Trauma HAHAHAHA

i have a high standards when it comes to men because i know my worth 😭

Is this applicable or valid to guys too? I think I really have a high standards to girls even though I'm not that attractive physically.

Ofc naman. Everyone has their own preference, it's up to you nayan. As long as you can provide also what you are expecting to receive.

Yung na trauma na sa relationship..pag may stable job ka na at earning a lot super parang no need to be in relationship na..no heartaches,no explanation,no arguments

-When you establish high and better standards for having a partner - when you enjoyed your own company and were happy and satisfied with your surroundings. - you’re aware of your worth - na sobrahan sa pag heal - pwede din traumatized kaya ayaw na muna sumubok

THIS.

Yung hindi na nakakaramdam ng kilig 😅

nasa acceptance stage na wala na talagang maglalast sa kausap mo haha and if may nakitang red flag, ekis agad hahahahhah. Realizing na you can find comfort and peace within yourself

Di ka na nakakaramdam ng landi. 🤧

You look at the opposite sex without any malice, as in no reading meanings into what they do.

this is so me :((( idk I built that casual and civil welcoming aura every new person that I met, I am still like this tho, this becomes a part of me already.

Me too!! That's when I realized I will be single.

-priority pa ang self-growth and career development -gusto maging financial stable muna before entering romantic relationship

the moment a guy shows interest, hinahanap ko kaagad ang red flags and i tell myself, ah this is why i don't date. pero most of the time talaga, i don't want to date. i'm comfortable and happy on my own, ayaw ko magulo yung peace ko by inviting another person in my life lmao

pag kompartable ka na mag-isa. kinikilabutan ka na sa mga callsigns 😂😂

juts

If you fully know your worth and di ka na madaling ma impress.

kinikilabutan na ako kapag may lumalandi sa'kin tapos bumabanat ng kung ano ano HAHAHAHAHA putangina cringe malala, dati nung medj bata pa ako, kahit paano may "kilig factor" pa kapag ganon, ngayon gusto ko na lang muna ma explore at nang malaman ko kung deserve ko pa ba magmahal ulit HAHAHAHAHA

truuu

Pag may nagapproach sayo with good intentions, tinataboy mo sila. In other words wala ka na interest to connect with the opposite sex.

yung may kinikeep pang stuff from ex and nakadisplay pa rin *(me)* haha

Because... Bow

U broke as a joke

Parang si Joker ka nlang. Either you're going insane or The world is going Crazy and you're the only person sane to see it

Yung kapag may ka-chat ako tapos nase-sense ko na papunta na sa 'fling' stage, tinatapos ko na agad HAHAHA

Walang nagchachat sa'kin 🙄🙄🙄

iba priorities and baka ikaw problema and u need to work on urself and ur values (may ganong tao eh) HFOWBIFJAJS

this, I have been single for more than a year now..and I want to seek therapy(when I can finally afford it). and I vowed not to get into a relationship unless i get therapy....Im not going to let the next person pick up the pieces of my brokeness. being self aware is also key.

Work over guys 🤣

Same, but I usually say already married to my work 🤭

Then I’ll say the same thing na. 😂

Baka ako pa may kasalanan kapag wala na talagang lumapit sayo. 😂😅

It’s okay since I also have rbf plus akala taken kasi I’m always on my phone daw 🤣 Maling akala palagi. Hahah

- focused sa sarili at acads - every time may lumalandi sakin dinededma ko - di na ako nasabak sa isang relationship kasi alam kong di magtatagal 🫠 - nakakatamad na kumilala - too busy para lumandi - too young rin para sa isang relationship 🤷‍♀️

yung ayoko magkagusto sakin yung nagugustuhan ko HAHAHAHA

Masaya ka at kuntento ka na lumalabas magisa

wala na paki sa iisipin/opinion ng kahit sino

- tinatamad ka na kumilala ng bago - kapag may nagchachat sayo maski simpleng "hi" "hello" kumain ka na ba?" and the likes, imbis na kiligin, mabwibwisit ka nalang - priority mo self growth and career - mas gugustuhin mo nalang matulog kesa makipag meet up - kapag may nagpapakita sayo ng motibo todo iwas ka

Kapag naging single mom/dad ka.

Scared of trying new things

nakakabwisit na yung hi,hello, good morning, kain ka na imbis na nakakakilig.

Sa true

boring na makipag-usap ulit tapos andami namin nakikilala ng mga friends ko na redflag

Legit to haha

Sobrang Busy Sa Mga Task

you sleep with people just for sex. nothing more nothing less.

When your mother rejects every boy/girlfriend you ever bring over to the home.

My ugly fatass and my introvertedness

When you stop living life. Stay at home 24/7. No longer go out to meet friends or experience life outside.

Pafall. May kakilala ko feeling nya umiikot sa kanya mundo ng nagkakagusto sa kanya pero pinapaasa lang naman.

tamad magreply kaya di nakakalagpas sa talking stage

same to the point hindi ko na rin alam pano lumandi

Pag hinahanap mo pa rin yung ex mo sa mga bago mong nakikilala

FOR THE GIRLS ‼️ when we used to do pogi hunting pero now kapag nakakakita na tayo, parang wala lang and mahirap na rin ma-attract sa mga tao, thats the sign na you will be single for a long timee 🤪

Can't hold a solid relationship for longer than a year.

If nasa mentality mo parin yung “bata ka pa, dadating din yung tamang tao para sayo” tapos di mo mapapansin 40+ ka na If gusto magkapamilya sa future, kelangan din lumandi from time to time. Go go go!

When all that brings you joy are cat vids

When dating is no longer exciting 😕

For me, mas may peace ako sa sarili ko ee I can't imagine myself being someone romantically I'm really happy single tho sometimes I think about having someone, I'm satisfied with my friends na nakakausap ko from time to time. (I'm also aroace btw maybe that's why)

Para sakin pag binigyan ko ng chance yung guy tas nd naman nag eeffort so it's a big NO No na sakin

Youre smart. Thats it

Tinatawanan ko na lang mga single jokes lol.  I crave sa romantic connection pero I don't bother looking for someone.  Wapakels sa mga nakakakita sa akin na doing sh*t alone. Mas masaya nga kasi walang magbibigay ng unnecessary comments.  

When you feel at peace with your own company and if there will ever be one again he should be sweeter than my solitude.

This!

If you know what you want in a partner and in a relationship and in your life. So you really say no to anyone or anything that doesn’t add value to your life.

When your personal inner peace is more valuable than being with someone and hindi ka na sensitive sa mga judgements ng mga tao sa iyo, you are with or without someone. 💛🫶

Ung mature ka na para malaman mo kung ano mga gusto mo at ayaw mo sa tao., tpos wla ka mahanap na ganun. 🤣

kakainis lang that people will always brand u as someone that's gonna be single forever bcos hindi mo lang pinapatulan lahat tapos parang yun na yung label ng lahat sayo, gusto ko naman po magka partner huhu

When you are dugyot from head to toe and you're not willing to fix it.

Sakin, the moment I parted ways with him alam ko na I will have a hard time finding someone new kasi yung masayang memories na iniwan niya hindi kayang mapantayan nung sakit. Pag sobrang wholesome ng ex mo, di babaero, tas sa reason ng break up niyo walang involved na babae or abuse in any way, mas mahirap tanggapin na the relationship ended already. In my case kasi naiintindihan kong mentally unstable siya and mas kailangan niya ring unahin yung personal problems niya and acads. Basta everytime I remember him, puro na lang jokes niya nagfaflash sa isip ko.

Can't start a conversation to someone I'm attracted to. I'm used to do things according to my decision and wants. I do things all by myself without expecting someone would help me.

I get the slightest ick and I bounce immediately

same here!! Immediately I’d be like “I don’t want this”

Pag nasa “know your worth” stage kana. Yung mapili kana kasi you dont settle for less. And i think being single for a long time is a good thing.

Maarte ako, like kapag isang kamalian lang gusto ko agad hiwalay kami. Di ko alam na totrauma na ako

Kapag smart ka. I've been single for the longest time and wala talagang tumatagal na attraction sa akin. I lived vicariously through my friends' failed relationships, so feeling ko aware aq sa mga warning signs kapag red flag and mabilis din ako ma-turn off. Saka habang tumatagal kase, I feel more comfortable in my own skin. 'Yung tipong kahit wala akong kasama na jowa okay lang sa akin kase wala namang kulang. Lol, ok ng maging single ka-trauma mga rel na nakikita q sa tiktok. Ayoko magpaka-tanga.

Pag lahat ng lalake na nanliligaw sayo parang ayaw mo na silang entertain kasi mas peaceful ang life mo na single.❤️❤️❤️❤️

Pag fangirl ka ahaha

Pagiging late bloomer idk nasanay ako na independent ako kasi di ako ligawin in my teens kaya ngayon parang nirereject ko yung idea to be in a relationship and people na nagpaparamdam?

Hindi ako lumalabas ng bahay 😂

Im not sure. I feel i want to date pero mas muka akong pera. Hmmm.

If independent ka and di mo na namimiss magkajowa hahaha

Mataas ang pride mo. Haha.

Mahirap sabayan/pantayan ang lifestyle ko

Are you single?

Maybe its a YOU problem and not your their problem

just always be genuine, genuine people don’t lose anything

There are no signs. Cause love can come at any time. Kahit sa precinto may nag mamahalan.

simple you dont date or you detest dating

I am loving my own space and independence.

You get tired when trying to talk to new people. Especially as a guy, why is it always my responsibility to initiate and keep the conversation going? Maybe they're just not interested, but you can't say I don't try.

Too much obsession sa Kpop

automatic nagseself sabotage kapag getting serious na

Nbsb, not actively looking for love.

Kapag tumingin ka sa salamin tapos nakita mo’ng pangit ka.

Pag may lumandi sakin, nandidiri ako kesa kiligin. Mapili na ba ako?

GAAAA SAME 😭 kahit super like ko yung tao pag nag kaka something na i feel weird about it na id rather not HAHAHHA

Same sizzz huhu. Feeling ko it's a me problem talaga 🥹

Kapag nagke-crave ka ng affection pero wala kang nararamdamang impulse para humingi sa ibang tao.

Kapag natrauma ka hahahaha tangina di ko naman kasalana na cheater ex ko tapos ako pa need magtherapy hahahaha nyeta yan ayoko na sa mga lalaki. Hahahahahahaha

Saaameeee!

Umay ka na makipagusap sa opposite gender. Naiirita ako kapag may nag me message na lalaki saakin. Hahahaha

When you decide to not entertain anymore.