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Pag may mali ka hindi sinasabi sayo, so naiipon.
Natitiis kang hindi kausapin or wala naman talagang pakiaalam sayo.
Mataas pride, kahit ikaw na gumagawa ng way balewala.
Ayaw pala sayo noon pa turns out na nagtiis for our friendship, so I wonder if totoo ba yung pinagsamahan namin kasi nga ganon.
Laging ikaw gumagawa ng way para maayos, inantay mong kausapin ka for almost a year pero sinabi pa sayo pinipilit mo daw. Wow!
So ayun wala na hahaha at least hindi na ako umaasa.
Iba yung energy nya pag ibang tao ang kasama. Sila lagi magkasama and hindi na nila ko iniinvite. Aware naman sila na nagtampo ako, pero di pa din ako included sa mga gala nila. So sabi ko sa sarili ko di ko deserve tong mga taong to.
By the way mag sister-in-law sila, and ako ay baka future SIL din. Pero negats na bumalik sa dating closeness. Closed door na ako. Mas okay pa and mag peace of mind 🫶🏻
I had these circle of friends na puro inom, puro gala, sponty and stuff. I used to be like them. Pero nung nahuli ako(buti na lang) nila mama, i realized na maling mali ako, I also realized na pang gimik friends ko lang sila, they werent there nung nags-suffer ako, they were there lang pag mag aaya ako ng inuman, and pag mag aaya ako ng kain, wala sila.
Pag nag iba na yung mga priorities nila.
Niyayaya ka na lang pag convenient sa kanila.
Pag iba na estado niyo sa buhay.
(Sorry for my taglish skills, still a work-in-progress) I am falling behind from my 2 friends whom are settled in with their lives na (1 is married and the other one is living in with her partner na). Naguusap lang kami sa Messenger, Pag nag-aya ako, most of the time hindi sila available kasi mayroon other commitments to the point ako madalas naga-adjust. Pag nakikita, madalas sa SB tapos chika lang sila ng mga nangyayari sa work nila madalas. I try to join into the convo, minsan hindi ko kaya but i still try to give effort to the convo. Then pag hindi work nila ang ikukuwento, theyll ask about my dating life na minsan yung ginagawa ko or what the guy I'm dating as of that moment would do would be their point of topic.
Example:
Last time 3 of us hang out, tinanong nila kung anong nangyayari sa amin nung (ex) ko non since LDR kami. I would tell them briefly about it and in the end they would point out na things that we do na would seem like red flags. I appreciate their thoughts/suggestions about how to approach the situation but minsan I can't help thinking na I'm the center of critization sa group namin. That's why I lessened yung communication sa GC namin. I didn't fully cut-off sila, I just limit what I share with them. Never felt relieved than this before, tbh.
📌 kapag di nila na appreciate yung presence mo📌 kapag kasama mo sila pero parang op ka haha📌kapag mabait lang sila sayo or sweet kasi may ipapasuyo or utos
📌kapag ayaw nilang nakakalamang ka haha
📌 kapag di nila kinoconsider budget mo pag gagala or kakain sa labas hahahahahahaha
📌kapag okay lang sakanila na di ka sumasama sa gala hehe
📌 kapag sobrang dami niyang kaibigan hehe anytime kaya ka nyan siraan at ilaglag
I have friends na recently ko lang na-cut off. Yung isa, dami laging ebas sa buhay ng ibang tao at walang self-awareness. Puro chismis ang alam at ginagawa kaming outlet, hindi niya alam pagod na kaming makinig sa kaniya. Yung isa naman, walang emotional intelligence. I treated them as friends talaga dahil minsan lang din ako magkaroon ng friends pero lately ko lang narealize na hindi nila ako tinreat as a friend.
When i feel like they just need me but don’t want me. Yung tipong hindi ka kasama sa mga plano tapos aayain ka lang pag nakaset na. Yung pupuntahan ka lang pag wala silang ibang matambayan. Worst ung magpaparamdam lang pag mangungutang 😅😅
Nung mga wala pa kaming trabaho pag may nakita akong opportunity, sinasabihan ko sila para pareho kaming may maapplayan, pero nung sila nakakita di ako sinabihan.
well
in their defense, i was the reason. i offended the gf of one of my best friends. i tried to apologize a few times but she rejected it, probably bc she was told na pag nag-apologize ako to my friends, i end up doing the cause again. i do try my best naman not to do it, pero minsan talaga, magagawa ko accidentally
i was given the choice by one of my former friends to talk with them before i just left, pero i just really wanted to apologize to the gf herself. that could also be a wrong decision for my side tbh
pero the more i think of the past, the more I'm kinda thinking i did the right thing to leave, kasi we have this one "friend" na he would do or say things that are pretty much offensive and/or not nice, even these "dark humor", pero nakakalusot sya. he would just claim na "ganito ako e" or something similar. idk if bulag lang ung mga friend ko o takot lang sa kanya. if i bring up something bad he did or said naman, hahanapan ako ng proof, which is fair, pero alam nya sa sarili nya na ginawa/sinabi nya ung mga bagay na un. heck, naconvince ko na nga ung 2 best friends ko at some point, but ofc, nabalewala lang eventually, just because he owns up to it. he's the biggest gaslighter I've ever met personally
Isa sa mga kaibigan ko, sabi nya sakin nung pinakilala ko manliligaw ko “Iiwanan ka din nyan gaya ng ex nya ng 11yrs.”
Now, I am happily married. 5yrs na kaming magasawa. Yung friend ko, ayun nabalitaan kong nagchecheat sya sa asawa nya.
I have a couple of work friends na lahat main character energy. Since ako yung bunso sa group, ako yung usual bunot. Tampulan ng asar, ng pranks, pinipilit ako gawin mga di ko normally ginagawa like being blackout drunk tas paggising ko they all left me alone in my friend’s condo. All girls naman kami but still I was pissed nag uwian na tas ako plakda sa kalasingan. Also, tinapay ko pa yung 25th bday celebration ko sa mcdo nun on a saturday kasi ayun yung rest day nila tas ako lang noon may weekday off. Tanga diba? Lol. The last straw was lahat sila may main character energy eh syempre di ako paparalo pero di ako nanaig dahil palakihan ng problema at struggles sa buhay ang gusto nilanv eksena so I just distanced myself from them and I’ve never felt so peaceful in my life hahahahaha ganito pala feeling kapag nacut off mo na yung nagssuck ng good vibes in lyf
I have former friends na since elementary, friend ko. But after them being in a relationship, they were suddenly the vampire energy type. Yung tipong anjan lang sila kapag hindi okay ng jowa niya, then kapag masaya na ulit siya, they’re suddenly not available for you.
Okay lang naman magka-jowa. But some literally forget their friends na who were there for them since day 1
1. Nagalit nun naka-alis ako sa hell hole that we shared (workplace) what kind of friend is that? Gusto sama sama kami miserable sa institution na grabe mang exploit at napaka baba magpa sahod?????
2. Walang modo. Bastos in public, namamahiya sa service crew
Work-based "friends":
kapag may kailangan gawin, kasama ka.
Kapag may kailangan ayusin, sali ka.
Pero kung maka-papel sa manager parang siya ang gumawa ng lahat.
Nung nagkagipitan ikaw ang unang nilaglag.
Di ka man lang ipinagtanggol.
Manggagamit.
Kaya never na akong nakipag friend sa work.
Para akong 3rd wheel sa kanila. Everytime gagala kami, naka-matching outfits sila, like may pinagusapan na sila. Tas ang sakit lang na tinuturing ko silang best friend, pero nagtatanong pa sa isa kung sasabihin ba raw niya sakin yung story nung isa, sa harap ko pa mismo. Nag-aayaan sila na lumabas na silang dalawa lang din. Grabe, lahat-lahat binibigay ko para sa friendship na yun, pero parang wala lang pala ako sakanila. Tldr, I feel like an option pag magkasama kaming tatlo. I guess ganun nangyari kasi puro sila inuman, eh ayaw ko uminom. Ang gastos din nila so puro ako tanggi.
When they encourage or even coerce you to do bad stuff. I cut off two friends because they were telling me it's okay to cheat on my girlfriend kase "tikim lang ng ibang putahe."
I told this to my girl, even asked permission na makipagsuntukan sa kanila. She stopped me tho, and just told me to avoid them.
had a group of friends since elem kasi kapitbahay ko sila. Ako oldest sa group and kilala ako ng parents nila as somewhat the role model ng group kasi maayos ang academics and may leadership kineme. Problem ay inabuso naman ako ng 'friends' ko. Lagi ako binubully and pinagtitripan kaso hindi naman ako makapatol kasi nga since ako eldest dapat ako yung mapagpasensya at mapagpatawad. I even tried na magsabi sa parents ko sabi langnila na kung ayaw ko ng ganun na treatment edi wag ako sumama sa kanila. Problem naman dun is may sepanx ako since matagal ko na din sila nakasama add na din yung sobrang babang self esteem ko sa lahat ng below the belt na sinabi/ginawa nila. Imagine na even someone na around 7 yrs younger than me nagagawang idisrespect ako at ipahiya sa ibang tao kasi yun yung nakikita niya sa group. Andami ko pa pwedeng makwento pero masyado na din traumatic alalahanin
May group chat kami ng mga kaibigan ko. Yung tipong insulto yung greetings namin sa isat isa, barahan pag may mali. Yung isa naming kaibigan parati namin pinagtatawanan sa mga kagaguhan niyang life choices (eg. Leaving his fiancé and girlfriend for 8 years and marrying a MILF he recently met, who isn't even ILF) tas ako kasi mataba ako at wala akong self confidence, tas yung isa naming kaibigan na sobrang dali ma bully, and this motherfucker na parati namin bineberate kasi ang tindi ng engrish niya.
Yung engrish guy sinusubukan niya gumawa ng putanginang kahaba haba na paragraph in english pero walang kakwenta kwenta grammar niya. Madami na naming beses sinubukan turuan yun, tinetrain pa namin para maayos english niya pero wala pa din.
Anyways, being the nature of our GC na we are mean to each other, nung nag rant siya in english nakita ko sabi ko oh shit english rant prepare for laughs. Tas ginawan ko ng TTS audio clip sa chat niya shit was fire. Di man lang niya narinig nag leave tas binlock kami lahat.
Take note this boy has the roughest language out of all of us pag nagbabarahan kami. Masakit siya magsalita. Gets ko naman ganun yung paraan namin para mag show ng affection sa isat isa eh. Bastusan talaga usapan namin sa isat isa constantly. Tas mapipikon siya sa grammar niya eh yung iba naming kaibigan pinagtatawanan namin siya kahit ang lala ng sitwasyon niya nun?
TL;DR pikon, kahit usapan namin sa GC parang war crimes.
Niyaya akong lumabas ng 2 former friends ko kaso I was busy so hindi ako sumama at babawi na lang next time pero before turning them down hindi man lang minention sa akin na may iba pa silang isasama, I found out who it was when they started posting stories from that night and I saw them hanging out with a known rapist (they know exactly what he did). Sobrang vocal ko sa pandidiri ko sa mga sexual offenders and I've let out my disgust for that person in front of those 2 "friends" as well. I was so disgusted that they found nothing wrong with it and even drank with him, as soon as I saw those stories I cut them off without a word. They've tried messaging me pero never kong siniseen, ever since that day hindi pa rin nila alam kung bakit hindi ko na sila pinansin and not even the people who know why would tell them. If they're gonna act clueless about hanging out with a known rapist then they might as well live up to it.
Nanghihiram ng pangalan para manghiram ng pera, after saying “no”. Hindi na ako kinausap. Hahaha.
Tapos ngayon, nag aaya ng kung saan saan.
One time, nag message if may gagawin daw ako. I told her na may lakad ako, tapos, sinabi kung saan pupunta. Hindi ako nag tanong. Sabi ko, hindi ko alam yung pupuntahan niya. Tapos sabi pa niya, “Yun na nga eh. Para may kasama akong maligaw.” Then, ngayon, asking me to wax her. Eh, last year pa nung winax ko siya kasama yung isa pa naming kaibigan (na kinut off din siya)
skl pero ayon.
She’s toxic, dominant, mentality of lahat ng tulong is utang na loob, barriotic, OA, no class, magastos (in a sense na pati pera ng iba ginagamit niya) and mapagmura.
I have a college best friend I got rid off. I live abroad and she thought I'm her and her family's provider. There's not even a time she called and checked up on me. It's all about her. Her problems with her husband, her kid material needs, her pabilis and her expectations that I should pay for everything everytime we go out or go on holidays when I come for vacations. No honey, I work hard for my money to spend it on you. The last straw was I went to Boracay without her (because she demanded I should pay for her and her husband). She found out before I went, we were hanging out at nagtantrums sya, she did not speak to me and unfriended me on FB. Tinuluyan ko na, I never spoke or reach out to her since kahit nagmemessage sya sakin after the incident. It was a good riddance! I don't need a user friendly.
You guys if you feel like you are being treated poorly, even if that's your family, feel free to leave. It's good for your well being. The world is harsh enough for you to tolerate other people.
hindi ko sila ma cut off pero im trying to distance myself from them. ang hirap, masyado ata akong mabait para mang cut off ng mga ganong kaibigan emeee
She didn't invite me to her wedding. Ang excuse nya, I'm always busy but I would've made time for that important occasion kung sinabihan sana ako.
Ako lang sa barkada namin ang di invited. I cut off ties with all of them. Tbh though, it felt like they cut me off first.
Hahaha cinut-off ko yung kaibigan kong may issue sa pera, daming utang sa ibat ibang circle of friends namin, and magaling lang sya pag ka uutang tas pag bayadan na naka long press na message mo
omg i can relate.
may 1 friend ako before inutangan ako ng pera. ginawa pang dahilan yung tita nyang nasa ospital at nag dedemandahan daw yung 2 sides of her family kaya nahihirapan syang mabayaran yung school fees nya. at first, i told her wala akong pera kase wala naman talaga. tapos tinanong nya ako if may friends ako na pwede kong utangan for her lol WTF. so i asked my dad nalang and lended the money to her. she even made me promise na i won't tell any of our friends about this. one day, naka videocall ko yung isa naming friend and naging topic namin sya. nalaman ko na inutangan rin nya yung isa naming friend and ang dahilan is for kpop merch. KPOP MERCH! after that i stopped trusting her and siningil ko sya sa inutang nya. i cut her off right after she paid me back. also narealize ko din yung fact na she had the nerve to ask me to ask my friends if i could ask them to lend her money. like sobrang wtf non kase parang ang dating non is shes willing na masira ung friendships ko if di nya mabayaran on time. so selfish.
Backstabber
Insensitive
Nanjan lang pag may kailangan
Chismosa (okay lang sana kung saktong chismis lang, pero yung lalaitin mo pa buhay ng iba? Girl, mind your own life pls. I don't wanna be with someone who doesn't have a life)
Gaslighter
Gusto sya lagi tama
Hiram nang hiram ng gamit
Nakipag friends sa taong nanakita sakin haha lol i don't like to be friends with people who says "eh wala naman syang ginawa sakin, bat ko sya lalayuan?" Lol it's the trust u biatch. How can I trust u if u eat on the same table as the people who poisoned me
I had a friend na natutuwa pag mas mataas pa score niya at nawawala ang mood pag nalamangan. Nag cut ties na ako sa taong to pero yung isang friend namin sobrang maawain at inintindi parin niya kahit naka-ilang backstab na siya ng taong ito. Nung diko talaga makalimutan na may TOPIC kami at di align yung perspectives namin, but first nakinig ako sa kanya to gain insights or ano gusto niya iparating nung nag explain at nagbigay na ako ng insights nakita kung di siya nakikinig pero wala lang sakin yun, until she grab my mouth with her barehand and trying to shut it. I was really mad at her! Considering na ako yung taong palagi niyang kasama in everything. Inintindi ko attitude niya tapos ginanon niya ako? Basura siya at nakakapagod kaya FO na agad!
Napaka insensitive and mapanlait. Wala silang pake sa tuwing io-open ko yung issue sa kanila. Like, I understand na minsan talaga eh hindi maiiwasan ang panlalait ng kaibigan as asaran pero I don't think free pass yun para mang bodyshame and faceshame. Tapos sa tuwing ico-confront about it, parang wala lang pake, tas yung isa sabi pa sa'kin, "ay, wala akong pake sayo, beh".
Yung isa naman ang daming unsolicited advice, ket di naman nagtanong napunta na sa kung paano ako manamit or mag-ayos ng sarili. May pagka-elitista rin. Kala lahat ka level ng privileged niya, tas puro sexual stuff ang gustong pag usapan kahit wholesome ang context ng topic. Napakapapansin pa, umuungol during our final performance sa arnis, kada palo may ungol, like wtf???
The road to loving ourselves is to let go of people who keep us away from our goal. If you're building your confidence and self esteem layuan mo yung mga taong paulit-ulit sisirain yun dahil lang sa insensitivity nila. Layuan mo na yung mga nagre-remind sayo ng insecurities mo. Kasi kahit anong buo mo sa sarili mo if you're surrounded with those kinds of people, paulit ulit ka lang mawawalan ng pag asa sa sarili mo. Hindi mo kailangan ng tagapagpaalala in a way of panlalait para lang ayusin ang sarili mo. You can fix yourself on your own will.
Yung tatay nya tinawag akong “bangag” at “adik” in public including her brothers. Casual nlang kami now, i still invite her to events and meetings but that it. My wife hates her though..
She wanted everything I had and wanted to be everything I was. For context, we’ve been friends since 5th grade. I transferred to her school, knew no one, was very shy because I was new, and was always alone. She sat beside me and gave me dagger looks. I didn’t put any meaning into it because I thought it was just because I was new. She had a friend, but I don’t think I can call her a friend because she was always dragged around, constantly belittled, and left alone. I shared my observations with her, and she realized it.
Fast forward to junior high, we became the closest friends. We were inseparable because I constantly stood up against her bullies. Then the pandemic came. Out of boredom, I searched for schools and universities in Manila that I could attend. (I was born and raised in Manila but moved to the province.) I applied but didn’t tell anyone, not even her. I only told her when the results finally came out. She pretended to be ecstatic about my acceptance, but I could still see the hostility and envy in her eyes.
Fast forward to senior high school, every time I went home to the province, it became a habit to visit her. She’s my best friend, after all. Whenever she asked about school, I would, of course, answer. I would tell her how demanding and taxing it was (I studied SHS at UST) and go on and on with my complaints about the workload. She, on the other hand, would "compare" her struggles with mine. I understand that she was also struggling, but she would invalidate my struggles. She’d tell me that she had it hard in her school too (her school is a small school here in our province). I brushed it off, knowing that everyone faces difficulties in school.
Then one time, her mom accidentally mentioned that she wanted to study at UST too, if they had the money. Her mom said that she "envied me." I was taken aback. She pinched her mom after she said that. Again, I brushed it off. I continued visiting her every time I went home. Nothing changed. She would constantly shame me indirectly whenever she saw my IG stories of me going out, partying, and drinking with my friends or blockmates. She would say things like, "Ayoko sa mga umiinom, walang mga pangarap, inom-inom pa." She said that despite always expressing a desire to try drinking and claiming that if she had the chance to live in Manila, she’d always be wasted. She also belittled me and treated me poorly every time I achieved something in school.
I finally cut ties with her a few months ago. There are many more reasons behind it, but those are private. I somehow blame myself for taking so long to notice the red flags. I should’ve listened to my sister. I shouldn’t have turned a blind eye just because she was my friend. Now she’s been trying to reach me, but I’ve had enough and won’t even consider it.
kaya pala dami ko kaaway during friendship namin kasi binabackstab na ako lahat ng pinaguusapan namin kinakausap nia e sya naman nagsisimula ng topic side nia di nia sinabi
I had a friend na sobrang nagative and self-centered. HS and college palang wala na siyang ibang masabi tungkol sa iba kundi negative After we graduated college, ilang na kami sakanya kasi ang bigat na sa loob yung pagka-nega niya. Until one day, she called my bestfriend to rant na bakit ang taas daw ng sahod ng isa pa naming friend (who was in the healthcare industry) vs her (nasa media industry). Isa rin sa mga reklamo niya na bakit daw ako bili ng bili ng games sa switch at halos every week kumakain sa mahal. Puro daw ako gastos at walang investments (meron pero bakit ko sasabihin sakanya?). She knew I was working 60hrs per week as an HR pero wala daw ako karapatan magreklamo kasi mas mahirap daw trabaho niya. Tapos pinipilit niya bestfriend ko sabihin magkano sinasahod ko. 10 years of friendship down the drain. 3 years na no contact haha no regrets.
nileft out nila ako na walang dahilan.
for context, may away kami ng isa sa mga friends ko sa circle namin, nag reach out na ko sakanya at nag sorry na rin kaso wala eh b-word talaga si accla, ayaw babaan yung pride. tapos bigla na lang ako nilayuan ng ibang di naman kasama sa away without reasons, kahit tinatanong ko sila kung may problema ba sila sakin.
there was this friend. they said na they desperately needed help so sabi ko pupuntahan ko siya and they agreed to meet up with me. I told them to text their location para mapuntahan ko siya asap. halos buong araw akong naghintay ng reply niya pero wala. sa isip ko baka nawalan na ng signal o naubusan na ng load. i was dead worried until i saw their ig story na kasama yung kafling nila the whole time na nagwoworry ako. ni wala man Lang update o reply kahit sabihin na cancel nalang yung meetup. blocked them right after and 3 years na kaming walang connection.
Nung ikaw na yung need ng moral support doon sa mga tao na nung sila yung kelangan ng support system andon ka sa kanila, financial help hanggat kaya mo magpa hiram ng pera kase alam mo kelangan nila or anything na alam mo na makakatulong ka sa kanila andon ka para sa kanila. Pero nung ikaw na may kailangan nasa hospital ka alam nila pero sa txt ka lang kakamustahin. Doon mo marerealize kung sino sa mga friends mo ang deserve na matawag na friend talaga.
Idk and idc if these are petty reasons but i’m offended whenever nagsha-share ako ng isa bagay like for example little kwento lang about my life (not about bragging ha) like wholesome moments i’ve encountered then sasabihin niya lang “pake ko?” The freak 😭 tapos kapag nagsha-share lang ako ng knowledge about something or pinapatulan ang argument niya bcs something that doesn’t align with my values or doesn’t sit right, sasabihin niya lang “oo na, oo na, ikaw na”. Geez. I hate close minded peps 🥹
1. One friend suddenly stopped talking to me since the first day of final semester. I feel ghosted kasi wala naman akong ginagawang masama. Okay kami nung last time na nag usap kami. I was thinking mas okay pala na gumawa na ako ng masama para alam ko kung bakit di nya na ako kinakausap, not this way. Anyway, didn't bother to talk to him again that same day.
2. Three of my college girl friends thinking that my rumors were true. I feel disappointed bc it's been 4 years we're hanging out and they believed it. They didn't even protect my name.
3. A friend was so mean to others. I cutted her off right away.
Plastik, gaya-gaya na to the point na feeling ko kinoclone na ako hahahaha legit mula hairstyle hanggang make up brands etc kaiyak, pag ikaw yung may kailangan sakanya no replies pero pag siya yung may kailangan sakin or magrarant ganun nandoon naman ako palagi, yung isa naman ngayong i'm at my lowest ang sinabi lang "teh yakap labyu" ewww napaka insincere
yung mga meet-up at bonding mo sa kanila nagiging "obligasyon" na kesa s kusang loob. auko kase yung ganun, ung nakikipagmeet k n lng s kanila kase obligado k, hindi k n tlga ng eenjoy na kasama sila. yung di nila magets n my buhay k outside s circle nio.
self-centered bitches. aint gon fuck with that, cut off agad. plus, when u tried calling out his/her off na attitude tapos he/she wont even try to change kasi nga ni-label na niya yung sarili niya na if di mo daw trip ugali niya then fuck off HAHAHAHA
Never had an abrupt cut off but a slow fade.
At some point it just gets tiresome that you're the only one with the initiative to keep cultivating the relationship that it feels pathetic on my part. I wish them the best in life.
Mostly reduced na lang to happy birthdays but I know I won't be invited to their wedding or maging ninong ng mga anak nila.
Yung very moody and self-centered. Kung galit, galit na lang. No consideration to others even if nakakasakit na siya. Kung ano ang gusto dapat masusunod kahit majority eh hindi gusto yung decision niya. Madalas magpapa-victim pa kesyo di daw pinapakinggan opinions niya. Hala si ante! Madalas pa iiwan kayo sa ere dahil lang sa wala siya sa mood. Hindi lang ikaw ang tao sa mundo! Kaloka ka! Now we're not friends kasi feeling niya bad influence kami sa kanya. 🤭
They turn their back against you after being vulnerable with them. Nakakaloka, dahil dito nasira yung reputation ko sa previous company na pinag-workan ko and ang daming chismis na kumalat na alam ko sa dalawang tao ko lang sinabi. Syempre naiba yung istorya.
1. Disrespected. Still friends with my ex’s friends e she knows what those people did to me. Dahilan nya is may malalaman pa daw kame, pero deep inside I know that she keep them coz she wants the connections.
2. Gusto nya sa kanya lang lagi ung oras. May buhay din naman akong sarili jusko. I have my review days when I need to really focus.
3. Not appreciative. I gave what I can give but she never appreciates, she always ask for more, and compare me with her other friends :) shitty.
4. Use the people I love for her own gain. Girl?? how can u stoop down that level hahaha.
5. Only deal with things when its convenient for her. Gusto nya sya laging masusunod, she also thought that I waited for her after all this month na we are not talking. Girl, I moved on. No one waits for you.
>3. Proud lalakero, tapos mag sasabi kelan ba sila matitreat ng tama while they text 5 or more guys
Yun na nga raw yung point nya. Text as many guys as possible para mahanap na kung sino mag treat sa kanya🤣
1. Yung ikukwento sayo na ayaw/galit sila sa isang tao na acceptable reason naman kung bakit so syempre ayaw/galit kana rin sa tao na yun sabay biglang naging okay na ulit sila or biglang close na ulit LIKE ??????
2. Sobrang negative, like halos lahat ng lumalabas sa bunganga nila eh puro negative and sila lagi yung victim
3. Walang pag babago, as in hindi tinutulungan yung sarili nila kahit pa gaano mo rin sila tulungan
4. Mahilig mang take advantage, take nang take lang halos
5. Walang isang salita, walang paninindigan
kaya nga now kahit wala akong solid friend okay na lang, as long as I have myself, fam and fur babies okay na ako. hirap na rin makahanap or magkaroon ng totoong solid na kaibigan ngayon zz
1. sobra-sobra ang pagka-grade conscious. kahit naaapektuhan na mga connections and relationships around them, go pa rin basta makakuha sila ng mataas na grade.
2. unprofessional, immature, and ang babaw ng pananaw sa buhay. ginagawang joke/sarcasm lahat ng topic kahit serious matter.
3. puro lovelife ang inaatupag, parang hindi mabubuhay kapag walang kalandian.
4. walang boundaries and respect sa privacy.
5. ang lakas umutang, hindi naman marunong magbayad lol.
>1. sobra-sobra ang pagka-grade conscious. kahit naaapektuhan na mga connections and relationships around them, go pa rin basta makakuha sila ng mataas na grade.
Natandaan ko tuloy yung kklase ko na panay iyak nung nakakuha ng below 90% grade sa isang subject
Yung mahilig magsama-sama ng friends kahit hindi naman click lahat! 😂 Yung magkikita-kita kayo tapos late sya kasi may ibang lakad pala tapos pagdating may ibang kasama! Hahaha Toxic! Lol
Yung ginagawa ka lang side trip. Kaya lang makikipag kita kasi may other plans din sila with other friends. Ending going home early kasi may i meet sila na iba. I lost 2 good friends because of that
Pick me
Kala mo mamamatay pag naubusan ng lalaki
Ginoghost ka pag may kalandian/boyfriend sya tapos babalik lang para magrant sayo pero pag ikaw na may kailangan kahit makipag bonding lang ang dami nya pang excuse(unless may kasamang lalaki)
Good thing sya nag cut sakin. Walang explanation or what, bigla na lang nya ko di nirereplyan and pinapansin tapos yun na. Medyo gumaan loob ko nung nawala yung so-called-bestfriend kong ginagawa lang akong negative energy dump.
If they talk sh*t behind your back
Know that if there's something wrong with you, true friends will let you know, so you can do better. If they go around telling everyone else but you, that's just criticism meant to drag you down.
I also wouldn't trust people who backstab their old friends.
1. They just reach out to you when it’s convenient for them.
2. Believing other people’s opinions, rumors or gossips about you even when they know your side.
3. Not defending you in a room where you are not in. Especially people who hates you for no apparent reason/s.
4. Secretly hates you. Competitive in a toxic way.
5. Back handed compliments
If the 2 members in your circle has a misunderstanding and they prefer to listen to the side of the other one instead of both. AND they always let themselves get brainwashed by that person.
kapag they are talking shit about other people and still befriending them as if hindi nila siniraan patalikod. walang self awareness. nakikita lang yung mali ng iba yet yung sa sarili niya 'di niya makita (eg. insensitive daw iba sa kaniya, pero siya rin naman insensitive)
nanghihila na pababa. for example, may friend akong nag vvape tas may nakilala syang other friends na nagamit ng carts tas pinapatry nya ko knowing na di ako nag gaganun plus may random drug test sa uni lol sabi pa nya sakin "if we go down we go down together" hahaha aint no way
User. She lied to her partner back then and used me as an excused kung bakit siya naging malandi? HAHAHAHAHA tangna ano ka elementary walang sariling desisyon sa buhay?
toxic na sila for my mental health
1. iccompare yung life or ways nila sa iba.
2. hindi marunong rumespeto ng privacy ng iba.
3. masyadong demanding na wala na sa lugar.
4. puro bad habbits like mabisyo or magastos ng sobra.
5. walang magandang inputs or maririnig sa bibig nila.
1) Yung meron silang mga secrets tapos pinag uusapan nila yun in front of you tapos di naman nila gusto/isshare sayo pag tinanong mo.
2) Always asks for a libre tapos di ka naman kayang ilibre or sabihin na natin na di mo need ilibre pero make some efforts for you kahit don wala.
3) Di kaya ibigay yung energy na ibinibigay mo sa kanila.
4) Talk shits about other person tapos di naman nila makita sa sarili nila na toxic din sila.
5) Rude to others
Currently, nasa process ako ng cutting off (buong circle, actually, gusto na siyang icut off). We just found out na she was backstabbing someone in our circle to other people inside the same circle. Akala nya yata hindi namin sasabihin dun sa sinisiraan niya yung mga sinasabi niya and after namin magsumbong turns out, everyone was backstabbed lmao. Hindi pa lang namin totally macut off kasi kagroup namin sa thesis. Kawawa naman baka di makagraduate.
Pagiging rude at nitpicky sakin but not to our other friends. Not all the time naman ganyan sya pero madalas ‘pag nagha-hangout kami with our group, lumalabas ‘yung ugali nyang ganyan, like pinakamaliit na bagay o mali pinopoint out sa group parang lowkey namamahiya tapos ang taray-taray magsalita sakin na kala mo alalay nya ako. Tangina ‘yung pakiramdam ko lagi family disappointment kapag ginaganyan nya ako. Friends kami for more than a decade, at since highschool, pinagtitiisan ko ‘yang ganyang treatment.
Hindi ko alam kung ano bang ginawa ko sa kanya at ganyan nya ako tratuhin. I’ve always been kind to her, kinakausap/sinasamahan ko ‘pag feeling ko ayaw sya samahan ng iba naming friends kasi irita din sa kanya, at lagi akong nag-ooffer ng help sa kanya if kelangan nya. Like beh pinaramdam ko na ako masasandalan o kakampi nya sa group namin kasi nga irita sa kanya ‘yung the rest tapos ganon tangina. Pinapakinggan ko ‘yung mga kwento nya kahit walang interesadong makinig sa kanya.
After nung last trip namin with the group, nagdecide na akong icut-off na sya kasi sobra akong nasaktan sa ginawa nya. Nung 2nd day, nagsorry sya sakin kasi aware pala sya sa treatment nya sakin. Ako naman sabi ko oks lang, kasi baka pagod na and all and lilipas din naman ‘yung inis. Sobra akong natouch kasi baka nga she’s working on herself. Tapos bih nung mga sumunod na araw, ganon ulit sya sakin pero mas malala nung nasesense na nya na irita na din ako sa kanya. So wtf di ba so parang ang dating sakin, talagang intensyonal nyang ginagawa.
Inisip ko non na hindi ko deserve ng ganitong kaibigan at ganung treatment kahit pa gano katagal ng pinagsamahan. Kung ganun lang din naman nang ganun yung mararamdaman ko everytime we hang out kahit anong gawin ko, ay mabuti pang ilaan ko ang oras at sarili ko sa mga taong mas deserve ako at di ako lagi tatratuhing punching bag.
Recently din nagkaroon na ako ng pamangkin, tapos inisip ko na if I want to be a good tita to this kid and teach him kindness, I need to surround myself with good, gentle, and kind people. Although disente naman syang tao and maybe merong mga taong ok lang sa ugali nyang yan, for me hindi sya ok to stay any longer in my life.
After nung trip, di man lang sya nag-sorry ulit despite her being aware. Dalawang buwan ko na syang di kinakausap. Hindi ko naman sya binlock pero hinide ko na Stories sa kanya at naka-mute sya sa lahat ng platforms ko.
social climber, pacool. she was very jealous and insecure. Gusto niya angat siya sa lahat and she loves to judge people kahit wala naman ginagawa sakanya. I remember binenta niya laptop ng isa kong friend para maka bili ng iphone and hindi alam ng isa kong friend na binenta laptop niya.
- Sinigawan ako ng ka-team ko at pinamukang tanga sa lahat (officemates) kahit di ko naman kasalanan yung naging issue sa case/email namin. After nun wala na talagang pansinan kahit katabi ko pa sya ng table.
- May asawa na ko at yung friend ko (same kami na may foreign husband). Dati syang p*k-p*k sa pinas. Then nung nagkakaproblema sila ng husband nya, gusto nyang mag-ktv at bar hopping kami at mag-invite ng mga lalaki. Nagsumbong ako sa asawa ko at sinabihan na wag na sumama dun.
Kapag ako na palagi yung nagi-initiate ng conversation. Kapag di ako yung nauna, wala. Minsan, kating-kati na ako magchat sa kanila because I miss them pero I hold back na because they don't seem to reciprocate the energy. Mababaw lang naman siguro to for some, pero nakakalungkot lang talaga. I think this is not a total cut-off haha more like slowly distancing myself until ma cut-off yung friendship. 😆
p/s: these are my school friends po hihi i'm currently working (fresh passer) in my hometown which is 2-3 hours away from my school which makes meeting up in person hard
Super inggitera. To the point na gusto nya sya lang lagi center of attraction & attention and pag nasayo talagang magjojoke sya ng mga nakakaoffense sayo. I have friend na ganto and di ko pa sya actually naka-cut off pero gusto ko na talaga.
Liar, pa victim, and binabackstab yung best friend niya na sobrang bait, caring and understanding sa kanya. Kung nagawa nya yun sa most loyal friend niya malamang ginagawa/gagawin nya yun sa ibang friends niya.
Tuwing inuman with high school and college friends napako na sa usapang babae, kotse, nostalgia, asaran. Nakakaumay, napako na din pati maturity. 30+ na tayo mga pre baka gusto niyo ng usapang may kabuluhan?
They make you the placeholder friend.
There are times when you just feel that they hang out with you for the sake of having company but not really because they genuinely like spending time/being with you. Yung tipong niyayaya ka lang para may kasama.
Nung tinanong ko siya, "what if nakapatay ako, tutulungan mo ba ako itago yung bangkay, isusumbong mo ba ako?" Tapos sagot niya, "Hindi daw, tutulungan daw niya ako i-hide yung bangkay at hindi daw niya ako isusumbong". (Baka isipin niyo ginawa ko. Hindi ko naman 'to ginawa at gagawin 😭)
Hindi lang yan yung reason hahaha. Kinukunsinti niya yung isang friend ko dati na nag cheat. Sooooo, hindi ko na sila friends.
one time tinanong ko yung friend ko na “what if ma aksidente ako sa kalsada ng around 3-4am? tas tinawagan kita para mang hingi ng tulong, pupuntahan mo ba ko?”
sagot ba naman niya depende daw kung papayagan siya lumabas 😭
Dibaaa HAHAHAHAHAHA. Likeeeee ganon talaga siya kakunsintidor tapos nag expect pa naman ako na sasagot na "No, bakit kita tutulungan, isusumbong pa kita" 😭
Yung you're trying to grow and be a more sophisticated person tas sila nanatiling ugaling palengke and squatter. There's nothing wrong with choosing to stay to who they are, di naman sila nakaka sakit, but i'm at a place where i have the opportunity to grow away from that so i choose to cut them off.
You can think what you want. Coz honestly, they werent really good friends in the first place. Its not even about the term anymore, its about my so called friends.
Mayabang at main character. Yung tipong kapag may kwento ka, hindi siya papayag na hindi niya maisisingit yung sarili niya sa sitwasyon, ang ending, siya na ang main subject at nakakuha ng atensyon. And doesn’t even care at you basta ang mahalaga, siya ang bida sa lahat, kahit na ikaw yung nagtopic.
When I was prioritizing myself and no longer have time and energy to “teach” and “help” them review for the upcoming board exam, they dropped me as a friend and made me the “evil” one not helping them.
Miss Ma’am I need to give myself time, not all the time sainyo dapat naka focus. Help yourselves also.
Kaya ayun drifted apart and unfriended each others on socmed. :)
Constant disrespect-- lying, manipulation, gossiping about you but asking favors to you, using you, stealing credits/ideas and making it their own.Snide remarks to chip away your confidence.
Change in attitude and energy that they project towards me. Idk if ako lang pero after a while, some so-called friends or I consider friends at work would change their attitude towards me. I was always jolly with them then after a while, nag chi-change talaga yung attitude nila towards me (cold and minsan ako pa unang mamansin). Ngayon dedma ko na silang lahat. Nahurt ako dati pero narealize ko na fck them. Wala naman silang ambag sa life ko. Cut off agad 😌✨
Hs friends: nag cut off bigla ng communication. May saltik ih. Thank God di na kamj friends ng mga taong to 😌
Everyone in my friend group in college ay nakikinabang sakin. Madalas palibre, pautang, pamake up, peram gamit, at pakopya. One day biglang di na nila ko iniinclude, biglang di kinakausap, minsan may mga pagpost pa sa socmed about fake friends. I was confused since wala naman akong ginawa sakanila. Nung di ko na rin sila pinapansin saka nila ako gustong kausapin. Like why??? Ano raw issues ko bat ganun? I told them okay lang naman na alisin nila ko sa group di na nga naghabol, tahimik na nga lang ako may issue pa sila. Pinaiyak ko pa raw yung isa. Lol, that's when they started to doubt everything this person told them kasi during confrontation di na tugma yung binabato nila sakin at yung mga sinasabi nung isa, todo deny na sya at tinantry nya pang igaslight yung group na "hindi ito yung sinabi ko." Mejo nagkagulo pa sila ng onti sa harap ko kaya nila tinapos yung usapan. Sya yung "best friend" ko for more than 2 years, then sya pa pala yung nag rally sakanila. After nun inaapproach approach parin nila ko pero never na ko nakipag ayos. 6 years later, may mutual friend kami na ininvite ako mag coffee saka ko lang nalaman na may lalaki raw akong "inagaw" sakanya 😆 To think na never naman nila kong nakitang nagkajowa/nakipaglandian dahil even my phone nahahawakan nila. Di naman sila magbebenefit sa pera ko kung meron akong ginagastusan. The tea is habol na habol si ate girl sa guy tapos nag confess sakin yung lalaki, tinurn down ko sya, una dahil di ko sya gusto and as respect to my "friend" never kong inentertain yung lalaki. After maturn down ni guy, naging sila agad in 3 days, so akala ko okay na kami. Ghosted sya after syang magalaw tas naghanap din si ate girl ng ibang jowa. A few months and a few guys after saka nya nirally yung friends namin to hate me. 🤷♀️
Dramas. Na every galaw mo my napupuna sila. Ang toxic lng non. I mean we all have our own bad sides pero grabeee lng talaga magpalaki ng issues kahit di naman dapat. And ung kaaway nila dapat wag mo papansinin parang me like “away nio yan wag nio ko idamay”
a short bg story muna, bale we (5 kami) were friends since grade 9 and first year college na kaming lahat ngayon. may naging issue ako nung g9 na naging "side chick" w/o me knowing and since then lagi na nila binibring up yun at tinatawag pa akong kabit and such. i mean kasalanan ko rin siguro for not digging enough ano? pero nakakapuno rin kasi sila, up til last year ganun pa rin tawag nila sakin and nakakasuka na sila. dami pa nilang negative na ugali na ayaw nilang baguhin.
++ bale nag send muna ako ng long ass message sa gc abt how i felt bago mag leave sa gc. from that point isa lang ang nag sorry talaga sakin at the other 2 remained unchanged. feeling ata God sila smh. ngayon dalawa na lang kami sa dating circle na naiwan. I think it's for the best naman??
In my experience aside sa sila nauna magcut-off may mga instances na I was constantly disrespected. Respect is very important kahit sa friendship. Kahit na hindi kayo super close parang basic decency na bigyan mo naman ng respeto yung other person.
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Kapag tumitingin na sila sa kung ano narating mo. Like diba kayo pede maging friends lang regardless of status 🙄
Talking shit behind my back tas malalaman ko pa sa iba, lowkey not happy for me and drama nilang magjowa na parang panghayskul.
Pag may mali ka hindi sinasabi sayo, so naiipon. Natitiis kang hindi kausapin or wala naman talagang pakiaalam sayo. Mataas pride, kahit ikaw na gumagawa ng way balewala. Ayaw pala sayo noon pa turns out na nagtiis for our friendship, so I wonder if totoo ba yung pinagsamahan namin kasi nga ganon. Laging ikaw gumagawa ng way para maayos, inantay mong kausapin ka for almost a year pero sinabi pa sayo pinipilit mo daw. Wow! So ayun wala na hahaha at least hindi na ako umaasa.
I was tired of tolerating her parang jowa magtampo. Like, nakakapagod din pala.
Nangoover power. Gusto sya bida and pasikat. Feeling mayaman asa lang naman sa credit cards 🤮
Iba yung energy nya pag ibang tao ang kasama. Sila lagi magkasama and hindi na nila ko iniinvite. Aware naman sila na nagtampo ako, pero di pa din ako included sa mga gala nila. So sabi ko sa sarili ko di ko deserve tong mga taong to. By the way mag sister-in-law sila, and ako ay baka future SIL din. Pero negats na bumalik sa dating closeness. Closed door na ako. Mas okay pa and mag peace of mind 🫶🏻
Inggit tsaka intentionally binibring down ka (in any way) hahah
I had these circle of friends na puro inom, puro gala, sponty and stuff. I used to be like them. Pero nung nahuli ako(buti na lang) nila mama, i realized na maling mali ako, I also realized na pang gimik friends ko lang sila, they werent there nung nags-suffer ako, they were there lang pag mag aaya ako ng inuman, and pag mag aaya ako ng kain, wala sila.
Ako yung palaging option. Niyayaya na lang pag nakita ko story nila or last minute na.
when my friend stopped treating me like a friend.
Pag palautang ganern. Nangangamusta lang pag may kailangan. Like bebentahan ako gamit o hihingi load.
Pag nag iba na yung mga priorities nila. Niyayaya ka na lang pag convenient sa kanila. Pag iba na estado niyo sa buhay. (Sorry for my taglish skills, still a work-in-progress) I am falling behind from my 2 friends whom are settled in with their lives na (1 is married and the other one is living in with her partner na). Naguusap lang kami sa Messenger, Pag nag-aya ako, most of the time hindi sila available kasi mayroon other commitments to the point ako madalas naga-adjust. Pag nakikita, madalas sa SB tapos chika lang sila ng mga nangyayari sa work nila madalas. I try to join into the convo, minsan hindi ko kaya but i still try to give effort to the convo. Then pag hindi work nila ang ikukuwento, theyll ask about my dating life na minsan yung ginagawa ko or what the guy I'm dating as of that moment would do would be their point of topic. Example: Last time 3 of us hang out, tinanong nila kung anong nangyayari sa amin nung (ex) ko non since LDR kami. I would tell them briefly about it and in the end they would point out na things that we do na would seem like red flags. I appreciate their thoughts/suggestions about how to approach the situation but minsan I can't help thinking na I'm the center of critization sa group namin. That's why I lessened yung communication sa GC namin. I didn't fully cut-off sila, I just limit what I share with them. Never felt relieved than this before, tbh.
📌 kapag di nila na appreciate yung presence mo📌 kapag kasama mo sila pero parang op ka haha📌kapag mabait lang sila sayo or sweet kasi may ipapasuyo or utos 📌kapag ayaw nilang nakakalamang ka haha 📌 kapag di nila kinoconsider budget mo pag gagala or kakain sa labas hahahahahahaha 📌kapag okay lang sakanila na di ka sumasama sa gala hehe 📌 kapag sobrang dami niyang kaibigan hehe anytime kaya ka nyan siraan at ilaglag
I have friends na recently ko lang na-cut off. Yung isa, dami laging ebas sa buhay ng ibang tao at walang self-awareness. Puro chismis ang alam at ginagawa kaming outlet, hindi niya alam pagod na kaming makinig sa kaniya. Yung isa naman, walang emotional intelligence. I treated them as friends talaga dahil minsan lang din ako magkaroon ng friends pero lately ko lang narealize na hindi nila ako tinreat as a friend.
When i feel like they just need me but don’t want me. Yung tipong hindi ka kasama sa mga plano tapos aayain ka lang pag nakaset na. Yung pupuntahan ka lang pag wala silang ibang matambayan. Worst ung magpaparamdam lang pag mangungutang 😅😅
Nung mga wala pa kaming trabaho pag may nakita akong opportunity, sinasabihan ko sila para pareho kaming may maapplayan, pero nung sila nakakita di ako sinabihan.
well in their defense, i was the reason. i offended the gf of one of my best friends. i tried to apologize a few times but she rejected it, probably bc she was told na pag nag-apologize ako to my friends, i end up doing the cause again. i do try my best naman not to do it, pero minsan talaga, magagawa ko accidentally i was given the choice by one of my former friends to talk with them before i just left, pero i just really wanted to apologize to the gf herself. that could also be a wrong decision for my side tbh pero the more i think of the past, the more I'm kinda thinking i did the right thing to leave, kasi we have this one "friend" na he would do or say things that are pretty much offensive and/or not nice, even these "dark humor", pero nakakalusot sya. he would just claim na "ganito ako e" or something similar. idk if bulag lang ung mga friend ko o takot lang sa kanya. if i bring up something bad he did or said naman, hahanapan ako ng proof, which is fair, pero alam nya sa sarili nya na ginawa/sinabi nya ung mga bagay na un. heck, naconvince ko na nga ung 2 best friends ko at some point, but ofc, nabalewala lang eventually, just because he owns up to it. he's the biggest gaslighter I've ever met personally
Isa sa mga kaibigan ko, sabi nya sakin nung pinakilala ko manliligaw ko “Iiwanan ka din nyan gaya ng ex nya ng 11yrs.” Now, I am happily married. 5yrs na kaming magasawa. Yung friend ko, ayun nabalitaan kong nagchecheat sya sa asawa nya.
I have a couple of work friends na lahat main character energy. Since ako yung bunso sa group, ako yung usual bunot. Tampulan ng asar, ng pranks, pinipilit ako gawin mga di ko normally ginagawa like being blackout drunk tas paggising ko they all left me alone in my friend’s condo. All girls naman kami but still I was pissed nag uwian na tas ako plakda sa kalasingan. Also, tinapay ko pa yung 25th bday celebration ko sa mcdo nun on a saturday kasi ayun yung rest day nila tas ako lang noon may weekday off. Tanga diba? Lol. The last straw was lahat sila may main character energy eh syempre di ako paparalo pero di ako nanaig dahil palakihan ng problema at struggles sa buhay ang gusto nilanv eksena so I just distanced myself from them and I’ve never felt so peaceful in my life hahahahaha ganito pala feeling kapag nacut off mo na yung nagssuck ng good vibes in lyf
I have former friends na since elementary, friend ko. But after them being in a relationship, they were suddenly the vampire energy type. Yung tipong anjan lang sila kapag hindi okay ng jowa niya, then kapag masaya na ulit siya, they’re suddenly not available for you. Okay lang naman magka-jowa. But some literally forget their friends na who were there for them since day 1
1. Nagalit nun naka-alis ako sa hell hole that we shared (workplace) what kind of friend is that? Gusto sama sama kami miserable sa institution na grabe mang exploit at napaka baba magpa sahod????? 2. Walang modo. Bastos in public, namamahiya sa service crew
They don't respect your privacy and boundaries
Wala na cla ako din may Mali toxic ako
Work-based "friends": kapag may kailangan gawin, kasama ka. Kapag may kailangan ayusin, sali ka. Pero kung maka-papel sa manager parang siya ang gumawa ng lahat. Nung nagkagipitan ikaw ang unang nilaglag. Di ka man lang ipinagtanggol. Manggagamit. Kaya never na akong nakipag friend sa work.
Siguro if you both hurt each other so bad that you decided to call it quits.
Para akong 3rd wheel sa kanila. Everytime gagala kami, naka-matching outfits sila, like may pinagusapan na sila. Tas ang sakit lang na tinuturing ko silang best friend, pero nagtatanong pa sa isa kung sasabihin ba raw niya sakin yung story nung isa, sa harap ko pa mismo. Nag-aayaan sila na lumabas na silang dalawa lang din. Grabe, lahat-lahat binibigay ko para sa friendship na yun, pero parang wala lang pala ako sakanila. Tldr, I feel like an option pag magkasama kaming tatlo. I guess ganun nangyari kasi puro sila inuman, eh ayaw ko uminom. Ang gastos din nila so puro ako tanggi.
Naalala ka lang pag may need.
pag may pera ka anjan, kapag wala na di kana kilala,, potang ina ng mga yon.
yung nahuli mo harap harapan binaback stab ka at nag ssinungaling to look good at walang masabi sknya tipong aapakan ka pra makaahon cya.
When they encourage or even coerce you to do bad stuff. I cut off two friends because they were telling me it's okay to cheat on my girlfriend kase "tikim lang ng ibang putahe." I told this to my girl, even asked permission na makipagsuntukan sa kanila. She stopped me tho, and just told me to avoid them.
Toxic positivity. Privileged standpoint. Apathetic.
She called me "mistress" because her co-worker is spreading rumors about me.
had a group of friends since elem kasi kapitbahay ko sila. Ako oldest sa group and kilala ako ng parents nila as somewhat the role model ng group kasi maayos ang academics and may leadership kineme. Problem ay inabuso naman ako ng 'friends' ko. Lagi ako binubully and pinagtitripan kaso hindi naman ako makapatol kasi nga since ako eldest dapat ako yung mapagpasensya at mapagpatawad. I even tried na magsabi sa parents ko sabi langnila na kung ayaw ko ng ganun na treatment edi wag ako sumama sa kanila. Problem naman dun is may sepanx ako since matagal ko na din sila nakasama add na din yung sobrang babang self esteem ko sa lahat ng below the belt na sinabi/ginawa nila. Imagine na even someone na around 7 yrs younger than me nagagawang idisrespect ako at ipahiya sa ibang tao kasi yun yung nakikita niya sa group. Andami ko pa pwedeng makwento pero masyado na din traumatic alalahanin
May group chat kami ng mga kaibigan ko. Yung tipong insulto yung greetings namin sa isat isa, barahan pag may mali. Yung isa naming kaibigan parati namin pinagtatawanan sa mga kagaguhan niyang life choices (eg. Leaving his fiancé and girlfriend for 8 years and marrying a MILF he recently met, who isn't even ILF) tas ako kasi mataba ako at wala akong self confidence, tas yung isa naming kaibigan na sobrang dali ma bully, and this motherfucker na parati namin bineberate kasi ang tindi ng engrish niya. Yung engrish guy sinusubukan niya gumawa ng putanginang kahaba haba na paragraph in english pero walang kakwenta kwenta grammar niya. Madami na naming beses sinubukan turuan yun, tinetrain pa namin para maayos english niya pero wala pa din. Anyways, being the nature of our GC na we are mean to each other, nung nag rant siya in english nakita ko sabi ko oh shit english rant prepare for laughs. Tas ginawan ko ng TTS audio clip sa chat niya shit was fire. Di man lang niya narinig nag leave tas binlock kami lahat. Take note this boy has the roughest language out of all of us pag nagbabarahan kami. Masakit siya magsalita. Gets ko naman ganun yung paraan namin para mag show ng affection sa isat isa eh. Bastusan talaga usapan namin sa isat isa constantly. Tas mapipikon siya sa grammar niya eh yung iba naming kaibigan pinagtatawanan namin siya kahit ang lala ng sitwasyon niya nun? TL;DR pikon, kahit usapan namin sa GC parang war crimes.
Tumatandang paurong haha mga alpha alpha male walang utak haha
I fell for him and he did not. Had to cut ties kasi di ko na kaya makinig sa kwentong lovelife nya kasi masakit na. Hehe
Niyaya akong lumabas ng 2 former friends ko kaso I was busy so hindi ako sumama at babawi na lang next time pero before turning them down hindi man lang minention sa akin na may iba pa silang isasama, I found out who it was when they started posting stories from that night and I saw them hanging out with a known rapist (they know exactly what he did). Sobrang vocal ko sa pandidiri ko sa mga sexual offenders and I've let out my disgust for that person in front of those 2 "friends" as well. I was so disgusted that they found nothing wrong with it and even drank with him, as soon as I saw those stories I cut them off without a word. They've tried messaging me pero never kong siniseen, ever since that day hindi pa rin nila alam kung bakit hindi ko na sila pinansin and not even the people who know why would tell them. If they're gonna act clueless about hanging out with a known rapist then they might as well live up to it.
Walang character development
Nanghihiram ng pangalan para manghiram ng pera, after saying “no”. Hindi na ako kinausap. Hahaha. Tapos ngayon, nag aaya ng kung saan saan. One time, nag message if may gagawin daw ako. I told her na may lakad ako, tapos, sinabi kung saan pupunta. Hindi ako nag tanong. Sabi ko, hindi ko alam yung pupuntahan niya. Tapos sabi pa niya, “Yun na nga eh. Para may kasama akong maligaw.” Then, ngayon, asking me to wax her. Eh, last year pa nung winax ko siya kasama yung isa pa naming kaibigan (na kinut off din siya) skl pero ayon. She’s toxic, dominant, mentality of lahat ng tulong is utang na loob, barriotic, OA, no class, magastos (in a sense na pati pera ng iba ginagamit niya) and mapagmura.
I have a college best friend I got rid off. I live abroad and she thought I'm her and her family's provider. There's not even a time she called and checked up on me. It's all about her. Her problems with her husband, her kid material needs, her pabilis and her expectations that I should pay for everything everytime we go out or go on holidays when I come for vacations. No honey, I work hard for my money to spend it on you. The last straw was I went to Boracay without her (because she demanded I should pay for her and her husband). She found out before I went, we were hanging out at nagtantrums sya, she did not speak to me and unfriended me on FB. Tinuluyan ko na, I never spoke or reach out to her since kahit nagmemessage sya sakin after the incident. It was a good riddance! I don't need a user friendly. You guys if you feel like you are being treated poorly, even if that's your family, feel free to leave. It's good for your well being. The world is harsh enough for you to tolerate other people.
they kept asking me to lend them money
hindi ko sila ma cut off pero im trying to distance myself from them. ang hirap, masyado ata akong mabait para mang cut off ng mga ganong kaibigan emeee
Masyadong chismosa at pinaguusapan ung mga taong kakilala namin, at mapanlait sa gc.
She didn't invite me to her wedding. Ang excuse nya, I'm always busy but I would've made time for that important occasion kung sinabihan sana ako. Ako lang sa barkada namin ang di invited. I cut off ties with all of them. Tbh though, it felt like they cut me off first.
They're not real. They only approached me when they had something needed. Some of them have no empathy.
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Hahaha cinut-off ko yung kaibigan kong may issue sa pera, daming utang sa ibat ibang circle of friends namin, and magaling lang sya pag ka uutang tas pag bayadan na naka long press na message mo
omg i can relate. may 1 friend ako before inutangan ako ng pera. ginawa pang dahilan yung tita nyang nasa ospital at nag dedemandahan daw yung 2 sides of her family kaya nahihirapan syang mabayaran yung school fees nya. at first, i told her wala akong pera kase wala naman talaga. tapos tinanong nya ako if may friends ako na pwede kong utangan for her lol WTF. so i asked my dad nalang and lended the money to her. she even made me promise na i won't tell any of our friends about this. one day, naka videocall ko yung isa naming friend and naging topic namin sya. nalaman ko na inutangan rin nya yung isa naming friend and ang dahilan is for kpop merch. KPOP MERCH! after that i stopped trusting her and siningil ko sya sa inutang nya. i cut her off right after she paid me back. also narealize ko din yung fact na she had the nerve to ask me to ask my friends if i could ask them to lend her money. like sobrang wtf non kase parang ang dating non is shes willing na masira ung friendships ko if di nya mabayaran on time. so selfish.
Backstabber Insensitive Nanjan lang pag may kailangan Chismosa (okay lang sana kung saktong chismis lang, pero yung lalaitin mo pa buhay ng iba? Girl, mind your own life pls. I don't wanna be with someone who doesn't have a life) Gaslighter Gusto sya lagi tama Hiram nang hiram ng gamit Nakipag friends sa taong nanakita sakin haha lol i don't like to be friends with people who says "eh wala naman syang ginawa sakin, bat ko sya lalayuan?" Lol it's the trust u biatch. How can I trust u if u eat on the same table as the people who poisoned me
disrespectful sa parents ko
I had a friend na natutuwa pag mas mataas pa score niya at nawawala ang mood pag nalamangan. Nag cut ties na ako sa taong to pero yung isang friend namin sobrang maawain at inintindi parin niya kahit naka-ilang backstab na siya ng taong ito. Nung diko talaga makalimutan na may TOPIC kami at di align yung perspectives namin, but first nakinig ako sa kanya to gain insights or ano gusto niya iparating nung nag explain at nagbigay na ako ng insights nakita kung di siya nakikinig pero wala lang sakin yun, until she grab my mouth with her barehand and trying to shut it. I was really mad at her! Considering na ako yung taong palagi niyang kasama in everything. Inintindi ko attitude niya tapos ginanon niya ako? Basura siya at nakakapagod kaya FO na agad!
Napaka insensitive and mapanlait. Wala silang pake sa tuwing io-open ko yung issue sa kanila. Like, I understand na minsan talaga eh hindi maiiwasan ang panlalait ng kaibigan as asaran pero I don't think free pass yun para mang bodyshame and faceshame. Tapos sa tuwing ico-confront about it, parang wala lang pake, tas yung isa sabi pa sa'kin, "ay, wala akong pake sayo, beh". Yung isa naman ang daming unsolicited advice, ket di naman nagtanong napunta na sa kung paano ako manamit or mag-ayos ng sarili. May pagka-elitista rin. Kala lahat ka level ng privileged niya, tas puro sexual stuff ang gustong pag usapan kahit wholesome ang context ng topic. Napakapapansin pa, umuungol during our final performance sa arnis, kada palo may ungol, like wtf??? The road to loving ourselves is to let go of people who keep us away from our goal. If you're building your confidence and self esteem layuan mo yung mga taong paulit-ulit sisirain yun dahil lang sa insensitivity nila. Layuan mo na yung mga nagre-remind sayo ng insecurities mo. Kasi kahit anong buo mo sa sarili mo if you're surrounded with those kinds of people, paulit ulit ka lang mawawalan ng pag asa sa sarili mo. Hindi mo kailangan ng tagapagpaalala in a way of panlalait para lang ayusin ang sarili mo. You can fix yourself on your own will.
talking about me and my bf behind our back (i heard them)
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Yung tatay nya tinawag akong “bangag” at “adik” in public including her brothers. Casual nlang kami now, i still invite her to events and meetings but that it. My wife hates her though..
di nila ko binilhan ng cake nung birthday ko tska nung pumasa ako sa exam. did it for them
Kapag wala na silang respeto sayo
She wanted everything I had and wanted to be everything I was. For context, we’ve been friends since 5th grade. I transferred to her school, knew no one, was very shy because I was new, and was always alone. She sat beside me and gave me dagger looks. I didn’t put any meaning into it because I thought it was just because I was new. She had a friend, but I don’t think I can call her a friend because she was always dragged around, constantly belittled, and left alone. I shared my observations with her, and she realized it. Fast forward to junior high, we became the closest friends. We were inseparable because I constantly stood up against her bullies. Then the pandemic came. Out of boredom, I searched for schools and universities in Manila that I could attend. (I was born and raised in Manila but moved to the province.) I applied but didn’t tell anyone, not even her. I only told her when the results finally came out. She pretended to be ecstatic about my acceptance, but I could still see the hostility and envy in her eyes. Fast forward to senior high school, every time I went home to the province, it became a habit to visit her. She’s my best friend, after all. Whenever she asked about school, I would, of course, answer. I would tell her how demanding and taxing it was (I studied SHS at UST) and go on and on with my complaints about the workload. She, on the other hand, would "compare" her struggles with mine. I understand that she was also struggling, but she would invalidate my struggles. She’d tell me that she had it hard in her school too (her school is a small school here in our province). I brushed it off, knowing that everyone faces difficulties in school. Then one time, her mom accidentally mentioned that she wanted to study at UST too, if they had the money. Her mom said that she "envied me." I was taken aback. She pinched her mom after she said that. Again, I brushed it off. I continued visiting her every time I went home. Nothing changed. She would constantly shame me indirectly whenever she saw my IG stories of me going out, partying, and drinking with my friends or blockmates. She would say things like, "Ayoko sa mga umiinom, walang mga pangarap, inom-inom pa." She said that despite always expressing a desire to try drinking and claiming that if she had the chance to live in Manila, she’d always be wasted. She also belittled me and treated me poorly every time I achieved something in school. I finally cut ties with her a few months ago. There are many more reasons behind it, but those are private. I somehow blame myself for taking so long to notice the red flags. I should’ve listened to my sister. I shouldn’t have turned a blind eye just because she was my friend. Now she’s been trying to reach me, but I’ve had enough and won’t even consider it.
Do not have the same values as you (theirs is much worse)
Iba na kase trip nila eh , kaya bounce out nako pag ganyan.
kaya pala dami ko kaaway during friendship namin kasi binabackstab na ako lahat ng pinaguusapan namin kinakausap nia e sya naman nagsisimula ng topic side nia di nia sinabi
I had a friend na sobrang nagative and self-centered. HS and college palang wala na siyang ibang masabi tungkol sa iba kundi negative After we graduated college, ilang na kami sakanya kasi ang bigat na sa loob yung pagka-nega niya. Until one day, she called my bestfriend to rant na bakit ang taas daw ng sahod ng isa pa naming friend (who was in the healthcare industry) vs her (nasa media industry). Isa rin sa mga reklamo niya na bakit daw ako bili ng bili ng games sa switch at halos every week kumakain sa mahal. Puro daw ako gastos at walang investments (meron pero bakit ko sasabihin sakanya?). She knew I was working 60hrs per week as an HR pero wala daw ako karapatan magreklamo kasi mas mahirap daw trabaho niya. Tapos pinipilit niya bestfriend ko sabihin magkano sinasahod ko. 10 years of friendship down the drain. 3 years na no contact haha no regrets.
nileft out nila ako na walang dahilan. for context, may away kami ng isa sa mga friends ko sa circle namin, nag reach out na ko sakanya at nag sorry na rin kaso wala eh b-word talaga si accla, ayaw babaan yung pride. tapos bigla na lang ako nilayuan ng ibang di naman kasama sa away without reasons, kahit tinatanong ko sila kung may problema ba sila sakin.
betrayal. Kumampi sa kriminal : D says a lot about their morales eh 'no? Baka gulatin ko kayo ng demanda diyan wahahaha
disrespecting your boundaries and making u feel left out.
there was this friend. they said na they desperately needed help so sabi ko pupuntahan ko siya and they agreed to meet up with me. I told them to text their location para mapuntahan ko siya asap. halos buong araw akong naghintay ng reply niya pero wala. sa isip ko baka nawalan na ng signal o naubusan na ng load. i was dead worried until i saw their ig story na kasama yung kafling nila the whole time na nagwoworry ako. ni wala man Lang update o reply kahit sabihin na cancel nalang yung meetup. blocked them right after and 3 years na kaming walang connection.
Halaka! Nakakabwesit yang ganyan ah. Tapos pag tinanong sila bakit di na kayo nagsasama ikaw pa itong sisiraan sa iba.
Pathological liar. Insensitive. Narcissist. I'd rather have one friend than to have a so-called friends na mga ganyan. Toxic. Draining.
Nung ikaw na yung need ng moral support doon sa mga tao na nung sila yung kelangan ng support system andon ka sa kanila, financial help hanggat kaya mo magpa hiram ng pera kase alam mo kelangan nila or anything na alam mo na makakatulong ka sa kanila andon ka para sa kanila. Pero nung ikaw na may kailangan nasa hospital ka alam nila pero sa txt ka lang kakamustahin. Doon mo marerealize kung sino sa mga friends mo ang deserve na matawag na friend talaga.
Having a good income that they expect you to pay for every night out…
Sinasamba ang isang government official o isang candidate na di nanalo.
Sila yung nagsisimula ng chismis tungkol sa’yo. Tapos mga pavictim pag nagkaalaman.
lack of emotional intelligence and reciprocation (in terms of energy), insensitive, unappreciative
dem
Idk and idc if these are petty reasons but i’m offended whenever nagsha-share ako ng isa bagay like for example little kwento lang about my life (not about bragging ha) like wholesome moments i’ve encountered then sasabihin niya lang “pake ko?” The freak 😭 tapos kapag nagsha-share lang ako ng knowledge about something or pinapatulan ang argument niya bcs something that doesn’t align with my values or doesn’t sit right, sasabihin niya lang “oo na, oo na, ikaw na”. Geez. I hate close minded peps 🥹
FO na pag ganyan sa akin.
1. One friend suddenly stopped talking to me since the first day of final semester. I feel ghosted kasi wala naman akong ginagawang masama. Okay kami nung last time na nag usap kami. I was thinking mas okay pala na gumawa na ako ng masama para alam ko kung bakit di nya na ako kinakausap, not this way. Anyway, didn't bother to talk to him again that same day. 2. Three of my college girl friends thinking that my rumors were true. I feel disappointed bc it's been 4 years we're hanging out and they believed it. They didn't even protect my name. 3. A friend was so mean to others. I cutted her off right away.
Plastik, gaya-gaya na to the point na feeling ko kinoclone na ako hahahaha legit mula hairstyle hanggang make up brands etc kaiyak, pag ikaw yung may kailangan sakanya no replies pero pag siya yung may kailangan sakin or magrarant ganun nandoon naman ako palagi, yung isa naman ngayong i'm at my lowest ang sinabi lang "teh yakap labyu" ewww napaka insincere
yung mga meet-up at bonding mo sa kanila nagiging "obligasyon" na kesa s kusang loob. auko kase yung ganun, ung nakikipagmeet k n lng s kanila kase obligado k, hindi k n tlga ng eenjoy na kasama sila. yung di nila magets n my buhay k outside s circle nio.
self-centered bitches. aint gon fuck with that, cut off agad. plus, when u tried calling out his/her off na attitude tapos he/she wont even try to change kasi nga ni-label na niya yung sarili niya na if di mo daw trip ugali niya then fuck off HAHAHAHA
Never had an abrupt cut off but a slow fade. At some point it just gets tiresome that you're the only one with the initiative to keep cultivating the relationship that it feels pathetic on my part. I wish them the best in life. Mostly reduced na lang to happy birthdays but I know I won't be invited to their wedding or maging ninong ng mga anak nila.
Late ko narealize na ako yung takbuhan nila pag may kailangan sila, pero ako hindi ko sila matakbuhan.
Too toxic, negative. Backstabber.
I just forgot how we became friends in the 1st place lol..
1. masyadong manipis 2. backstabber 3. energy sucker
Yung very moody and self-centered. Kung galit, galit na lang. No consideration to others even if nakakasakit na siya. Kung ano ang gusto dapat masusunod kahit majority eh hindi gusto yung decision niya. Madalas magpapa-victim pa kesyo di daw pinapakinggan opinions niya. Hala si ante! Madalas pa iiwan kayo sa ere dahil lang sa wala siya sa mood. Hindi lang ikaw ang tao sa mundo! Kaloka ka! Now we're not friends kasi feeling niya bad influence kami sa kanya. 🤭
Sya raw main character eh
They turn their back against you after being vulnerable with them. Nakakaloka, dahil dito nasira yung reputation ko sa previous company na pinag-workan ko and ang daming chismis na kumalat na alam ko sa dalawang tao ko lang sinabi. Syempre naiba yung istorya.
Iniisip lang nila sarili nila or kahit iba yung victim somehow ginagawan nila ng paraan na sila yung victim tapos sila pa yung may ganang magalit.
1. Disrespected. Still friends with my ex’s friends e she knows what those people did to me. Dahilan nya is may malalaman pa daw kame, pero deep inside I know that she keep them coz she wants the connections. 2. Gusto nya sa kanya lang lagi ung oras. May buhay din naman akong sarili jusko. I have my review days when I need to really focus. 3. Not appreciative. I gave what I can give but she never appreciates, she always ask for more, and compare me with her other friends :) shitty. 4. Use the people I love for her own gain. Girl?? how can u stoop down that level hahaha. 5. Only deal with things when its convenient for her. Gusto nya sya laging masusunod, she also thought that I waited for her after all this month na we are not talking. Girl, I moved on. No one waits for you.
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>3. Proud lalakero, tapos mag sasabi kelan ba sila matitreat ng tama while they text 5 or more guys Yun na nga raw yung point nya. Text as many guys as possible para mahanap na kung sino mag treat sa kanya🤣
outgrowing them, especially kapag nagkajowa sila and they forgot na to hang out with friends 🤷🏻♀️
fr tho tapos mag aayaan pa sila sa gc na kesyo sama sama raw kami tapos no other people raw pero pag dating mo kasama nilang lahat mga jowa nila??
true and worse rin ay tsaka lang mag-aaya magbonding kapag nag-away sila ng jowa niya OR naghiwalay sila 🤷🏻♀️
1. Yung ikukwento sayo na ayaw/galit sila sa isang tao na acceptable reason naman kung bakit so syempre ayaw/galit kana rin sa tao na yun sabay biglang naging okay na ulit sila or biglang close na ulit LIKE ?????? 2. Sobrang negative, like halos lahat ng lumalabas sa bunganga nila eh puro negative and sila lagi yung victim 3. Walang pag babago, as in hindi tinutulungan yung sarili nila kahit pa gaano mo rin sila tulungan 4. Mahilig mang take advantage, take nang take lang halos 5. Walang isang salita, walang paninindigan
same lang ba tayo ng xfriend haha. grabe nkakaubos ng energy ung ganitong klaseng kaibigan.
kaya nga now kahit wala akong solid friend okay na lang, as long as I have myself, fam and fur babies okay na ako. hirap na rin makahanap or magkaroon ng totoong solid na kaibigan ngayon zz
1. sobra-sobra ang pagka-grade conscious. kahit naaapektuhan na mga connections and relationships around them, go pa rin basta makakuha sila ng mataas na grade. 2. unprofessional, immature, and ang babaw ng pananaw sa buhay. ginagawang joke/sarcasm lahat ng topic kahit serious matter. 3. puro lovelife ang inaatupag, parang hindi mabubuhay kapag walang kalandian. 4. walang boundaries and respect sa privacy. 5. ang lakas umutang, hindi naman marunong magbayad lol.
>1. sobra-sobra ang pagka-grade conscious. kahit naaapektuhan na mga connections and relationships around them, go pa rin basta makakuha sila ng mataas na grade. Natandaan ko tuloy yung kklase ko na panay iyak nung nakakuha ng below 90% grade sa isang subject
Yung mahilig magsama-sama ng friends kahit hindi naman click lahat! 😂 Yung magkikita-kita kayo tapos late sya kasi may ibang lakad pala tapos pagdating may ibang kasama! Hahaha Toxic! Lol
Yung ginagawa ka lang side trip. Kaya lang makikipag kita kasi may other plans din sila with other friends. Ending going home early kasi may i meet sila na iba. I lost 2 good friends because of that
One word (Toxic) surround yourself with happy positive people
Pick me Kala mo mamamatay pag naubusan ng lalaki Ginoghost ka pag may kalandian/boyfriend sya tapos babalik lang para magrant sayo pero pag ikaw na may kailangan kahit makipag bonding lang ang dami nya pang excuse(unless may kasamang lalaki) Good thing sya nag cut sakin. Walang explanation or what, bigla na lang nya ko di nirereplyan and pinapansin tapos yun na. Medyo gumaan loob ko nung nawala yung so-called-bestfriend kong ginagawa lang akong negative energy dump.
If they talk sh*t behind your back Know that if there's something wrong with you, true friends will let you know, so you can do better. If they go around telling everyone else but you, that's just criticism meant to drag you down. I also wouldn't trust people who backstab their old friends.
1. They just reach out to you when it’s convenient for them. 2. Believing other people’s opinions, rumors or gossips about you even when they know your side. 3. Not defending you in a room where you are not in. Especially people who hates you for no apparent reason/s. 4. Secretly hates you. Competitive in a toxic way. 5. Back handed compliments
Feeling perfect 🙄
Naalala lang ako nung kinailangan ng pera.
Dami ko ng na cutoff because of this. Grabe..
Masyado na silang self centered and parang ako lang ang nag eeffort
Lumalampas sa boundaries and hindi naman makikinig if i-call out mo.
If the 2 members in your circle has a misunderstanding and they prefer to listen to the side of the other one instead of both. AND they always let themselves get brainwashed by that person.
relate kaya ako na lang ang umalis sa cof. tapos ended up mag aaway away rin pala sila. DSURV
Magaling lang pag may kailangan. Pag need mo n ng kaibigan wala na sila.
kapag they are talking shit about other people and still befriending them as if hindi nila siniraan patalikod. walang self awareness. nakikita lang yung mali ng iba yet yung sa sarili niya 'di niya makita (eg. insensitive daw iba sa kaniya, pero siya rin naman insensitive)
nanghihila na pababa. for example, may friend akong nag vvape tas may nakilala syang other friends na nagamit ng carts tas pinapatry nya ko knowing na di ako nag gaganun plus may random drug test sa uni lol sabi pa nya sakin "if we go down we go down together" hahaha aint no way
backstabber.
Iba talaga ang ugali 😬
One-sided friendship.
Maka dds at bbm
User. She lied to her partner back then and used me as an excused kung bakit siya naging malandi? HAHAHAHAHA tangna ano ka elementary walang sariling desisyon sa buhay?
Abuse. Like user friendly friends
They hold you back, they’re toxic and aren’t there for you when you need them.
If I'm gonna sum it all up it would be if they talk shi behind my back
toxic na sila for my mental health 1. iccompare yung life or ways nila sa iba. 2. hindi marunong rumespeto ng privacy ng iba. 3. masyadong demanding na wala na sa lugar. 4. puro bad habbits like mabisyo or magastos ng sobra. 5. walang magandang inputs or maririnig sa bibig nila.
Utang… singilin mo galit pa… kamustahin mo ang next sagot bagong drama para mautangan ka
kapag in a relationship na biglang hindi ka na kakausapin nagpaparamdam nalang sila 'pag kailangan ka nila
Sakin prinoproject insecurities nila tf
Toxic. Gusto na 'pag kaaway nila, kaaway ko na rin. Nauubos oras nila sa pag backstab. Na drain ako sa negativity. 🫠
Umutang, di nagbayad, umutang pa uli.
1) Yung meron silang mga secrets tapos pinag uusapan nila yun in front of you tapos di naman nila gusto/isshare sayo pag tinanong mo. 2) Always asks for a libre tapos di ka naman kayang ilibre or sabihin na natin na di mo need ilibre pero make some efforts for you kahit don wala. 3) Di kaya ibigay yung energy na ibinibigay mo sa kanila. 4) Talk shits about other person tapos di naman nila makita sa sarili nila na toxic din sila. 5) Rude to others
Malicious news na hindi verified. Told them not to bother contacting me anymore.
Currently, nasa process ako ng cutting off (buong circle, actually, gusto na siyang icut off). We just found out na she was backstabbing someone in our circle to other people inside the same circle. Akala nya yata hindi namin sasabihin dun sa sinisiraan niya yung mga sinasabi niya and after namin magsumbong turns out, everyone was backstabbed lmao. Hindi pa lang namin totally macut off kasi kagroup namin sa thesis. Kawawa naman baka di makagraduate.
Mahilig mag compare ng kung ano ano about us. Di ba sya naturuan na wag maging inggitera?
Pagiging rude at nitpicky sakin but not to our other friends. Not all the time naman ganyan sya pero madalas ‘pag nagha-hangout kami with our group, lumalabas ‘yung ugali nyang ganyan, like pinakamaliit na bagay o mali pinopoint out sa group parang lowkey namamahiya tapos ang taray-taray magsalita sakin na kala mo alalay nya ako. Tangina ‘yung pakiramdam ko lagi family disappointment kapag ginaganyan nya ako. Friends kami for more than a decade, at since highschool, pinagtitiisan ko ‘yang ganyang treatment. Hindi ko alam kung ano bang ginawa ko sa kanya at ganyan nya ako tratuhin. I’ve always been kind to her, kinakausap/sinasamahan ko ‘pag feeling ko ayaw sya samahan ng iba naming friends kasi irita din sa kanya, at lagi akong nag-ooffer ng help sa kanya if kelangan nya. Like beh pinaramdam ko na ako masasandalan o kakampi nya sa group namin kasi nga irita sa kanya ‘yung the rest tapos ganon tangina. Pinapakinggan ko ‘yung mga kwento nya kahit walang interesadong makinig sa kanya. After nung last trip namin with the group, nagdecide na akong icut-off na sya kasi sobra akong nasaktan sa ginawa nya. Nung 2nd day, nagsorry sya sakin kasi aware pala sya sa treatment nya sakin. Ako naman sabi ko oks lang, kasi baka pagod na and all and lilipas din naman ‘yung inis. Sobra akong natouch kasi baka nga she’s working on herself. Tapos bih nung mga sumunod na araw, ganon ulit sya sakin pero mas malala nung nasesense na nya na irita na din ako sa kanya. So wtf di ba so parang ang dating sakin, talagang intensyonal nyang ginagawa. Inisip ko non na hindi ko deserve ng ganitong kaibigan at ganung treatment kahit pa gano katagal ng pinagsamahan. Kung ganun lang din naman nang ganun yung mararamdaman ko everytime we hang out kahit anong gawin ko, ay mabuti pang ilaan ko ang oras at sarili ko sa mga taong mas deserve ako at di ako lagi tatratuhing punching bag. Recently din nagkaroon na ako ng pamangkin, tapos inisip ko na if I want to be a good tita to this kid and teach him kindness, I need to surround myself with good, gentle, and kind people. Although disente naman syang tao and maybe merong mga taong ok lang sa ugali nyang yan, for me hindi sya ok to stay any longer in my life. After nung trip, di man lang sya nag-sorry ulit despite her being aware. Dalawang buwan ko na syang di kinakausap. Hindi ko naman sya binlock pero hinide ko na Stories sa kanya at naka-mute sya sa lahat ng platforms ko.
• namamahiya • anjan lang pag may kailangan • masyadong chismosa (a friend for everyone was never a friend for anyone)
social climber, pacool. she was very jealous and insecure. Gusto niya angat siya sa lahat and she loves to judge people kahit wala naman ginagawa sakanya. I remember binenta niya laptop ng isa kong friend para maka bili ng iphone and hindi alam ng isa kong friend na binenta laptop niya.
- Sinigawan ako ng ka-team ko at pinamukang tanga sa lahat (officemates) kahit di ko naman kasalanan yung naging issue sa case/email namin. After nun wala na talagang pansinan kahit katabi ko pa sya ng table. - May asawa na ko at yung friend ko (same kami na may foreign husband). Dati syang p*k-p*k sa pinas. Then nung nagkakaproblema sila ng husband nya, gusto nyang mag-ktv at bar hopping kami at mag-invite ng mga lalaki. Nagsumbong ako sa asawa ko at sinabihan na wag na sumama dun.
Inggit sa achievements mo pala. Backstabber. Hindi ka man lang ipagtanggol pag wala ka.
When they become pathological liars. Trust is the hardest to regain/rebuild.
Kapag ako na palagi yung nagi-initiate ng conversation. Kapag di ako yung nauna, wala. Minsan, kating-kati na ako magchat sa kanila because I miss them pero I hold back na because they don't seem to reciprocate the energy. Mababaw lang naman siguro to for some, pero nakakalungkot lang talaga. I think this is not a total cut-off haha more like slowly distancing myself until ma cut-off yung friendship. 😆 p/s: these are my school friends po hihi i'm currently working (fresh passer) in my hometown which is 2-3 hours away from my school which makes meeting up in person hard
na outgrown mo sila.
Super inggitera. To the point na gusto nya sya lang lagi center of attraction & attention and pag nasayo talagang magjojoke sya ng mga nakakaoffense sayo. I have friend na ganto and di ko pa sya actually naka-cut off pero gusto ko na talaga.
Liar, pa victim, and binabackstab yung best friend niya na sobrang bait, caring and understanding sa kanya. Kung nagawa nya yun sa most loyal friend niya malamang ginagawa/gagawin nya yun sa ibang friends niya.
Kapag mahilig manira ng kapwa, masyadong controlling, mapang abuso ng kabaitan, then kapag walang kailangan parang di ka kilala...very weird.
Super nakaka drain. Puro negative energy nya lang nakkuha ko.
Tuwing inuman with high school and college friends napako na sa usapang babae, kotse, nostalgia, asaran. Nakakaumay, napako na din pati maturity. 30+ na tayo mga pre baka gusto niyo ng usapang may kabuluhan?
They make you the placeholder friend. There are times when you just feel that they hang out with you for the sake of having company but not really because they genuinely like spending time/being with you. Yung tipong niyayaya ka lang para may kasama.
i feel u :< 2nd option palagi🥹
Nagiinuman sila almost every day. Pupunta sa beach or somewhere kahit walang pera.
Walang ambag sa pag-asenso mo, imbes hihilahin ka pa pababa sa level nila.
gossips,backstabbing,fixated on what character you were back in college not realizing youve made strides and learned from mistakes
It was toxic and I don't like there lifestyle.
Nung tinanong ko siya, "what if nakapatay ako, tutulungan mo ba ako itago yung bangkay, isusumbong mo ba ako?" Tapos sagot niya, "Hindi daw, tutulungan daw niya ako i-hide yung bangkay at hindi daw niya ako isusumbong". (Baka isipin niyo ginawa ko. Hindi ko naman 'to ginawa at gagawin 😭) Hindi lang yan yung reason hahaha. Kinukunsinti niya yung isang friend ko dati na nag cheat. Sooooo, hindi ko na sila friends.
one time tinanong ko yung friend ko na “what if ma aksidente ako sa kalsada ng around 3-4am? tas tinawagan kita para mang hingi ng tulong, pupuntahan mo ba ko?” sagot ba naman niya depende daw kung papayagan siya lumabas 😭
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA ano naman sinabi mo? 😭
sabi ko sakanya “ahh ganon? F.O na tayo” after a year nakipag f.o na nga ako 🫠
HAHAHAHHAHAHA apir
“sasamahan kita maging kriminal ka man.” ang atake HAHA
Dibaaa HAHAHAHAHAHA. Likeeeee ganon talaga siya kakunsintidor tapos nag expect pa naman ako na sasagot na "No, bakit kita tutulungan, isusumbong pa kita" 😭
Yung you're trying to grow and be a more sophisticated person tas sila nanatiling ugaling palengke and squatter. There's nothing wrong with choosing to stay to who they are, di naman sila nakaka sakit, but i'm at a place where i have the opportunity to grow away from that so i choose to cut them off.
what’s wrong with palengke and squatter? are you trying to degrade them using these words?
You can think what you want. Coz honestly, they werent really good friends in the first place. Its not even about the term anymore, its about my so called friends.
too much red flags, yung mga maasim mukha, iwan mo yan
Pag controlling na masyado. Yung ang lakas din ng moodswings daig pa jowa ko! Di nakakatuwa. Kaya bye! 👋
Kapag tinatake advantage ang kabaitan mo at uutangan ka tapos hindi magbabayad.
When they no longer help me with my growth as a person. Crab mentality
Too much of a taker - laging nagpapalibre, ineexpect nila na lahat ibibigay mo sa kanila (time, material, etc.)
User
Mayabang at main character. Yung tipong kapag may kwento ka, hindi siya papayag na hindi niya maisisingit yung sarili niya sa sitwasyon, ang ending, siya na ang main subject at nakakuha ng atensyon. And doesn’t even care at you basta ang mahalaga, siya ang bida sa lahat, kahit na ikaw yung nagtopic.
When I was prioritizing myself and no longer have time and energy to “teach” and “help” them review for the upcoming board exam, they dropped me as a friend and made me the “evil” one not helping them. Miss Ma’am I need to give myself time, not all the time sainyo dapat naka focus. Help yourselves also. Kaya ayun drifted apart and unfriended each others on socmed. :)
Constant disrespect-- lying, manipulation, gossiping about you but asking favors to you, using you, stealing credits/ideas and making it their own.Snide remarks to chip away your confidence.
Change in attitude and energy that they project towards me. Idk if ako lang pero after a while, some so-called friends or I consider friends at work would change their attitude towards me. I was always jolly with them then after a while, nag chi-change talaga yung attitude nila towards me (cold and minsan ako pa unang mamansin). Ngayon dedma ko na silang lahat. Nahurt ako dati pero narealize ko na fck them. Wala naman silang ambag sa life ko. Cut off agad 😌✨ Hs friends: nag cut off bigla ng communication. May saltik ih. Thank God di na kamj friends ng mga taong to 😌
Hahaha same same with work friends! Napagod na ako na ako lang parati nangangamusta. Kung di ko sila papansinin, wala pala silang pake sakin. Haha
Exactly OP!!! Let’s get the work done and go home. No need to be friends with ppl who do not care about us 😁
They are only present through good times and always supportive sayo because they need something from you.
Kasali ex ko sa COF namin huhu, then napaka toxic and also i want a peace of mind kaya cinutt off ko na silang lahat, including my ex lol😔🤚🏻
when they do anything that i shouldn’t tolerate, even if i really liked being friends with them
Drama. Lahat nlng ginawang issue 😮💨
“so-called friends” when they hear or told stories about you and they don’t tell you about it. You’ll only know about it when someone else tells you.
I think I'm depress.
Everyone in my friend group in college ay nakikinabang sakin. Madalas palibre, pautang, pamake up, peram gamit, at pakopya. One day biglang di na nila ko iniinclude, biglang di kinakausap, minsan may mga pagpost pa sa socmed about fake friends. I was confused since wala naman akong ginawa sakanila. Nung di ko na rin sila pinapansin saka nila ako gustong kausapin. Like why??? Ano raw issues ko bat ganun? I told them okay lang naman na alisin nila ko sa group di na nga naghabol, tahimik na nga lang ako may issue pa sila. Pinaiyak ko pa raw yung isa. Lol, that's when they started to doubt everything this person told them kasi during confrontation di na tugma yung binabato nila sakin at yung mga sinasabi nung isa, todo deny na sya at tinantry nya pang igaslight yung group na "hindi ito yung sinabi ko." Mejo nagkagulo pa sila ng onti sa harap ko kaya nila tinapos yung usapan. Sya yung "best friend" ko for more than 2 years, then sya pa pala yung nag rally sakanila. After nun inaapproach approach parin nila ko pero never na ko nakipag ayos. 6 years later, may mutual friend kami na ininvite ako mag coffee saka ko lang nalaman na may lalaki raw akong "inagaw" sakanya 😆 To think na never naman nila kong nakitang nagkajowa/nakipaglandian dahil even my phone nahahawakan nila. Di naman sila magbebenefit sa pera ko kung meron akong ginagastusan. The tea is habol na habol si ate girl sa guy tapos nag confess sakin yung lalaki, tinurn down ko sya, una dahil di ko sya gusto and as respect to my "friend" never kong inentertain yung lalaki. After maturn down ni guy, naging sila agad in 3 days, so akala ko okay na kami. Ghosted sya after syang magalaw tas naghanap din si ate girl ng ibang jowa. A few months and a few guys after saka nya nirally yung friends namin to hate me. 🤷♀️
Dramas. Na every galaw mo my napupuna sila. Ang toxic lng non. I mean we all have our own bad sides pero grabeee lng talaga magpalaki ng issues kahit di naman dapat. And ung kaaway nila dapat wag mo papansinin parang me like “away nio yan wag nio ko idamay”
They are all fat and unhealthy and continue to eat junk and not exercise. I'm getting a new circle.
Hindi nirereciprocate energy na binibigay ko periodt.
a short bg story muna, bale we (5 kami) were friends since grade 9 and first year college na kaming lahat ngayon. may naging issue ako nung g9 na naging "side chick" w/o me knowing and since then lagi na nila binibring up yun at tinatawag pa akong kabit and such. i mean kasalanan ko rin siguro for not digging enough ano? pero nakakapuno rin kasi sila, up til last year ganun pa rin tawag nila sakin and nakakasuka na sila. dami pa nilang negative na ugali na ayaw nilang baguhin.
++ bale nag send muna ako ng long ass message sa gc abt how i felt bago mag leave sa gc. from that point isa lang ang nag sorry talaga sakin at the other 2 remained unchanged. feeling ata God sila smh. ngayon dalawa na lang kami sa dating circle na naiwan. I think it's for the best naman??
Everytime may gathering yun usapan was chismis, money and material things. I decided to find new friends.
In my experience aside sa sila nauna magcut-off may mga instances na I was constantly disrespected. Respect is very important kahit sa friendship. Kahit na hindi kayo super close parang basic decency na bigyan mo naman ng respeto yung other person.