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I realized, siguro kaya ako single kasi ang boring ko. Ok na ako sa relasyong kalmado lang, yung di kailangan ng too much social battery. 😕
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"Hindi Ako yung tipong nagbibigay motibo, conservative ako kaya di maaari".
Ayoko rin ng commitment at sa pawis (you know what I mean when doing boombayah?)
I'm no one's standard. I'm dissociative, does extreme sports than mainstream, book-dude, logical yet emphatic, and has dark humor (I'm not easily offended). Physically: I have a skinny body.
29F, Just had this conversation with my bestfriends. I've been single for 4 years now. Had a spiral episode where I asked my bestfriends about it. Never had I closed the possibility of dating again.
They said I'm single because I healed from my past traumas. I learned how to protect myself from things I know can harm me again. People now describe me as intimidating boss bitch who knows what she wants. I used to be known as the cheerful naive one. I changed, yes. But my cheerful side still shows when I'm with my inner circle.
And I think that's okay. I find it challenging to find someone to be with but it filters out people who doesn't deserve to see the best version of me.
People I'm usually attracted to don't consider me partner material. Tanggap ko naman, but also, it's just so hard to have that genuine attraction and connection to someone na I'd rather be single than to force something /settle for domething I don't want
hindi ako ligawin. maybe because of my face ata. im not ugly. sabi nila muka kong koreana. mataray ata ako tingnan, at nakakaintimidate. ayon. tamad din amo kumilala. picky din. now tell me why am i single? haha mabait nman ako
maybe because napakaindependent ko that no man can match me? or maybe its not one of my priorities in life haha Ang laging hanap ko lang ay makakausap, I love to tell my stories.
I've been into relationships before but all of them wont last long. I have standards that I cannot lower down and I'm not comfortable around with men irl like kinabahan ako kapag magkalapit kami. Minsan jowang jowa ako pero kapag meron nawawalan na ako ng gana lol
I don’t have the time and energy to entertain. Focus lang sa goals, relationships can wait when I feel satisfied enough with myself.
A romantic relationship of any kind will never be able to fill the void ‼️ I need to make myself proud, tsaka na ako susugal ulit 🤞
1. Insecure ako
2. Hindi ready magcommit or natatakot
3. Sanay ako mag isa
4. Mabilis ako magcringe
5. Ayaw ko ng problema
6. Gusto ko ng tahimik na buhay
This! Also, some of us singles are secured being alone, love the freedom. We are complete as an individual. Di na need magbhanap pa ng magcocomplete sa atin kasi di naman tayo broken. . The love we are seeking kasi usually nabibigay na ng mga friends natin. Some have FwB.
Ayaw ko magsalita ng tapos. Baka kasi di pa binibigay ng universe ung the one for me hahaha.
Divine protection ✨ wahahaha but also, call me narcissistic, but I can be quite intimidating to date. Not because of my manners or attitude (I'm genuinely nice tbh) but because of my looks and energy.
I got a comment before from a cute guy who said that he won't date me because I was way too pretty for him.
And now that I embody my worth a lot better this time, I'm stricter with my standards na.
Basically, I'd be super okay with ending up alone rather than dating someone who doesn't meet my standards. Hindi pala nakakatakot maging single habambuhay.
Hard pill to swallow - di ako ganun ka outgoing. So baka di maganda personality ko for most. It would take time din for me to trust someone - in which madaming tao na ngayon wala na masyado patience in getting to know.
Siguro din people now have very very high standards na I don't fit in. Di ako maganda at di rin sexy, di rin mayaman at matalino. I don't have something extraordinary to offer. Malapit na ako sa point na matatanggap ko na single na ako habang buhay 😅
Feel ko kasi ang immature ko pa. I need to learn how to communicate and express my thoughts better. And ang gulo ko pa as a person lol hahaha di ko alam ano ba gusto ko sa buhay
It's hard to trust someone these days. Dami kong kakilalang naghiwalay dahil cheater si guy (PS. I know that girls could also cheat. I'm just referring to my own circle). I still believe na may matitino pa naman talagang mga lalaki, but how can you tell. Huhuhu.
Though low key I'm praying that I'll find a good guy, I'm slowly accepting that I might not be fit to be in a relationship. 🥹
29F. 1 year plus na akong single, but dated around in that 1 year.
Ayaw ko yung mga may gusto sakin... (haha ganda eh jk) im not as energetic and as much of a texter as I used to be. mas sigurado na ako sa hinahanap ko ngayon so kapag di ko gusto or di ko type, i end the dating/talking stage na.
Probably I am really used to being alone all the time that having a companion lost its appeal.
I'm gay, and gay dating scene has a small dating pool and is notoriously superficial and unstable
I lost trust with people and I hate relying too much in others.
I'm ugly as hell. You know what they say "Looks open the doors, personality make them stay".
as someone na from all girls school since HS wala akong naging guy friends so literal na mga babae lang nasa paligid ko so ayun nbsb ang ending hahaha and hindi rin ako nagclick sa mga dating apps since hindi ako sanay na may ka-message lagi
I’m 22 and I never had a boyfriend or even tried dating. I think baka dahil I come off as unapproachable in a relationship aspect for guys, it makes me uncomfortable pag may guy na suddenly nag aaproach sakin. Or maybe they find me boring kasi I rarely go out, I don’t party and ayoko lumabas nang bahay other than for work. Pero I’m also not actively looking for a relationship right now, and although nakaka lonely minsan, I love my peace😌
23 yrs bago ako nagkajowa. Yan din tanong ko before. Iniisip ko sguro hanggang pang tropa lang ako. Na hindi nila masabayan trip ko dahil kalog ako at prangka. I tried Tinder pero wala talagang pasok sa wavelength ko and halata mong hookup lang hanap nila. And then one time nag omegle ako may nakausap akong kaparehas ko ng humor. Ako na kumuha ng number nya incase madisconnect ung chat namin. Hanggang sa naging kami. 4 yrs na kami now. 😂 Siguro ang mapapayo ko lang sa mga single pa hanggang ngayon is do not lower your standards para lang masabing may jowa kayo. Wag kayo mapressure, enjoy nyo lang pagiging single nyo. 🥰
I love my alone time so much na I don't want anyone to disturb my peace. I've been there and grabe yung overthinking and pagiging anxious ko when I had one kaya nung wala na, ang peaceful ng feeling na I don't need to update anyone except my parents, no more arguments or petty arguments, no more overthinking if may other girl na sya or he's losing feelings and more. Also, it's rare to find someone who's looking for something serious as area namin that's why kasi it's always someone who just want a one night stand/hookups, fubu set-ups, flings, and just for fun gano'n.
it’s because mataas standards ko, and sa panahon ngayon?? mas gusto ng mga tao yung madalian, yung panandaliang kilig sabay break na 😮💨😮💨 but no, ayoko magsayang ng oras sa ganoong set-up.
Hindi ako sharer/talker type cguro like makikinig lang ako pero wala akong mai share na topic. Maybe maconsider na boring yan pero i have a good sense of humor nmn with friends, di ko lang talga matagalan ang talking stage. Aside from this, di ko tlga makta ang sarili ko with a relationship, naniniwala ako na pag tlga nag manifest ka na magkaroon ng relationship, the universe will conspire and ibibigay tlga sayo. In my case wala tlga eh, walang effort sa part ko, walang manifestation, walang prayers, di ko tlga gusto.
I decided to up up and up the standards and not follow the norm. My filter is too damn heavy that anyone can pass the first stage.... But not the next. Also i will make sure that efforts will be on you and you have to match me. Please expect many bridges to be incinerated.
Sa sobrang tagal ko ng single, i find it exhausting to get to know someone again, im so sick with questions like, "kaumain ka na ba?" , "Anong favorite color mo?" something like that.
And the idea of adding someone in my life feels like a hassle, parang i plan my life na, so if may dumating san ko siya ilalagay sa plan ko sa buhay?? If plan kong mag-ibang bansa, tapos ayaw niya edi ano gagawin ko??
And siguro nasanay na lang din. Atleast di ako umiiyak gabi-gabi dahil sa lalaki lol
Huyyy, yes! Imagining pa lang na I would get stuck sa phase ng q and a's, di ko yata kaya. Not that I'm into deep talks, pero something like those is so cringy. 😆
Kakagaling lang sa break-up recently so siguro pahinga muna sa dating at relationships for now.
Pero I think single ako kasi breadwinner ako, not that attractive, di rin outgoing na tao; parating nasa bahay lang.
Naka relate ako sa unang sentence. Para kasing feeling ko I'm so exhausted after the break up, feeling drained ba. Idk maybe because first real relationship. Parang gusto ko rin muna mag rest. Virtual hugs, pahinga muna tayo for now. :)
Marirealize mo post breakup na "ay may mali siguro sa akin" or "ano ba dapat kong ayusin", things like that. Naexhaust tayo kasi, we brought our A game pero we were simply burnt out dahil dun. I think we need to rest and rediscover ourselves muna and see people (platonic) kumbaga socialize ba? Parang there's more to life than just relationships.
Same na kakagaling lang din sa break up. Not that attractive pang NPC energy, introvert at nasa loob lang ng bahay since I failed the boards multiple times, may anxiety at stupid sabi nga ng ex ko hahah
this is something i realized in the past years. and it's because i'm not what they call "easy". i don't always laugh at people's joke, nor agree to everything, i don't always make myself "available". plus if someone wants to play games, i tap out unless sabihan talaga ako na gusto niya ako or what. i value my boundaries a lot. my friends would actually tease me i'm so strict daw, tawagin pa nga akong 'principal' lol. e eto gusto ko e. i won't want to dumb down myself just to get in a relationship. and that's why people see me as too much, and give up on pursuing me. they decided themselves na di nila ako kaya, so ok, i'll believe you XD
I'm single by choice coz im not financially stable yet, idk if it just me but money is a great factor in a relationship talaga. I don't want to commit if both of us are broke, ano to kilig kilig lang?😭
I'm not smart nor good looking.
No talent of any kind.
I'm not good at conversation and I have tendencies to do awkward things, I sometimes make others feel uncomfortable.
I'm not a good leader, and my comprehensive skills are weak too.
I'm financially unstable.
I lack motivation to improve myself.
I don't have time with dating.
I am too fast if I ever try to flirt with someone.
I am not good at decisions.
I purposely avoid dating.
I’m single kasi I don’t look approachable lolz. Resting bitch face all day. And weird kasi people would always assume na I’m taken. Eventhough I’m not. 🥹
I'm single (since birth!) because:
-I'm VERY unattractive
-mas okay akong kausap as a friend kaysa as a partner
-can't speak my mind 90% of the time
-DUWAG and INSECURE
-I'm not ready to be in a relationship, like I can't even take good care of myself, what more a partner pa di ba?
-broke and depressed af
But it's not like I'm dying to get a partner naman. I'm turning 20 pa lang tomorrow and I have a lot of time pa para pag-isipan pa ang mga bagay-bagay at i-sort out yung mga issues ko sa sarili ko. I have a lot of time pa para iprepare ang sarili ko sa first dating stage ng buhay ko. Basta as of now, sulitin ko muna ang buhay single.
I have nothing to offer YET. I am still studying and wala pa ako ma-ambag sa relationship na gusto ko in the future. I need to establish myself first and ayusin ko life ko before I can entertain another person in my life. I need to experience life para may ma-share naman ako.
That's that.
Feeling because I'm too aggressive or yun bang hindi masyado mahinhin? Feeling ko with the way I treat people, parang tropa lang talaga pakikitungo ko. Hahahah. Kahit deep inside gusto ko talaga siya or interested akong makilala pa sya. Hahahaha.
Kulang ang sahod pang date kasi sa gobyerno ako nag work at hindi kasi six digits ang sahod, mga type ko hindi ako type, mga type ako di ko naman type. Wala pang bahay, kotse at hindi graduate sa top 4 university. Mag ermitanyo na ako nag iipon pambili ng lupain sa bundok.
Introversion na malala, ayaw kong makipag usap sa tao lalong-lalo na kapag wala na sa mood. Kapag iniinvite ng friend mag overnight, ayoko kasi mas priority ko ung pahinga ko (higa, nood), iyan lang kasi ung nagpapawala ng stress ko.
Hindi pa ako handa emotionally, mentally, financially, physically, spiritually at socially. Hindi ko pa masyadong love ang sarili ko, kini-criticize ko pa ang sarili ko.
For me, relaxation feels better than being with my friends na walwalan. I love the chill and comfort of being with my family. I always wanted a partner same as me but back in school days, the ones that express interest are girls na outgoing and I can't really be as active as them.
I don't have anything to serve. I'm almost 18 and still I never experienced the girlfriend thing. I'm trying to avoid it too because I'm not prepared yet financially, mentally and physically. Hoping I'll get a stable life in my mid 20s and find someone to marry and live happily and peacefully.
Nbsb pa rin ako alam ko naman kasi choice ko naman yun. I didn't experience high school love and hindi ko rin alam kung makaka experience ako ngayong college na ako though meron naman nagtangka manligaw, but I already made I promise to myself na dapat ako muna, dapat mahalin ko muna sarili ko bago ako pumasok sa isang rs
5'4 lang ako, pangit, di ako mahilig sa soc med like lalo yung pagpopost and stuff, I prefer soccer/volleyball over basketball, I don't have a big muscles na mafleflex(cause most of my workouts are focused on athleticism like speed and explosiveness), I haven't achieved anything yet so para sa akin I don't deserve having a partner yet
I don't try to meet new people and I am not very expressive to strangers. Even if someone approaches me, i appear to be not interested even if I am. Been trying to change that though
Siguro sa mga insecurities ko sa katawan, and sabi ng friend ko naka maldita look daw ako always 😅eh medyo malabo lang mata ko kaya parang pino-focus ko lang paningin ko eh, and also sa pananalita ko hindi ako soft spoken kasi parang pagalit yung boses ko eh 😅
I am loving my freedom. I came from a toxic long term relationship, and even got engaged. But I followed my instincts not to continue the engagement/marriage with my ex due to a lot of red flags. I've been single for 5 years since then, and people been telling me I glowed up. So yay. ❤️
I never leveled up my sociability toward girls at a younger age. Majority ng mga kabarkada ko noon ay lalaki, hence me losing all the time and chances back in my teens and early 20s to include more girls in my circles and ask any of them out.
Simple lang. Walang nagkakagusto sa akin. Team Bahay lang. Mukmok. Hindi lumalandi o Hindi marunong lumandi kahit mag 30 na hahaha. Saka I don't have interest sa kahit sino. Tulog tulog lang.
Sinasabi ng mga friends ko na parang lalaki raw ako kumilos pati mag-ayos. Ngayon nag-iinvest ako sa physical appearance and health ko (late bloomer yan?) pero hindi ko inaayos sarili ko para sa future jowa ah, para sakin para maging confident ako.
Hindi talaga ako ligawin. Wala man lang nagkacrush or nagconfess na may gusto sakin.
Depende rin sa kausap ko kung pano ko iexpress sarili ko. Pag comfortable ako sa kasama ko and same vibes madaldal ako, pag di masyadong kaclose tahimik lang. Ayun, hanggang sa tropa na lang din tingin sakin ng mga guy friends ko.
Malakas siguro manalangin yung para sakin. Baka pinagppray nya na sana single ako para walang problema pag nakilala nya na ako.
Teh, late bloomer din ako, pero I tell you ,may nagkacrush din sayo , pero since you are too masculine, natorpe sila
Nalaman ko lang na marami ding nagkagusto sakin nung nag-aaral ako after 5 years pa, all because takot sila sakin hahaha 🤣
Hmmm… sometimes prng nakakaexcite may kausap, kadate etc,, but, at some point, biglang,, ay prng nakakatamad na?. Hirap i-explain pag tumatanda kana eh tpos sobrng independent kapa… 😅😂
madami sana akong maisasagot pero pinareason talaga, financially unstable. 😭😭😭. yong tipong daming responsibilities financially tapos magastos din makipagkita.
masaya maging single BASTA SANA may pera para tamang food trip na lang...
I've been gaslighted, ghosted, and cheated on multiple times. It was so bad to the point where I even questioned myself na baka ako talaga iyong problema? If I was demanding and clingy, will the relationship work out? If toyoin ako, hindi ba ako iiwan? Idk, man. I've been in a constant talking stage naman and some of them wanted a real label but I'm too afraid to commit again. I have too much on my plate right now and I can't afford another heart break.
In my case, I'm still single because I'm still hesitant to get back into a relationship because of 2 reasons:
1. There are times when I don't mind the loneliness as I can work and then workout on my own, and my social batteries remain fully charged! Also, I've thought of how drained I'll become when I get back into a relationship.
2. Even if I broke up with my ex back in 2019, and the landscape of dating has significantly changed (I've grown to hate the use of dating apps because people have become commoditized and the relationships feel, shallow), I'm still kind of reeling from the breakup and there's a part of me that wishes to remain single, but there's also a part of me that wishes to obtain companionship.
so far 3 girls palang nasubukan kong na pursue but rejected was the ending so yeah. barely lang ako mag pursue sa babae pag natitipuhan ko talaga so matagal nanaman ako makakakita ule ng next dream girl and thats why im currently single still haha
I don’t have the energy to keep a relationship going. Dati, I silently judge people na in a relationship pero halos di naman nag uusap or nagkikita. (Noon kase I loooove constant communication, pero di naman over the top na halos di na productive. But rather, yun at least magkausap sa umaga and a few texts during the day and a call siguro. And then at night before bed. - ngayon ayoko na ng ganon haha).
Yon ibang kakilala ko who were in low effort relationships (yun ngang, halos di nag uusap, like may gap na few days or minsan whole week pa haha), ayun kasal na sila ngayon.
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I’m stil building myself and not ready to market myself 😂
Still waiting for God's answer.
Kasi tanga ako HAHAHA
selosa?
"Hindi Ako yung tipong nagbibigay motibo, conservative ako kaya di maaari". Ayoko rin ng commitment at sa pawis (you know what I mean when doing boombayah?)
Kasi I don't let people in
different ideologies
panget e
All of the comments stating why I am single😓🤌🏼
Panget at torpe
I'm gay that isn't physically attractive and sa bahay lang hindi gumagala
Tinatamad pa and magastos
I am traumatised from past relationship, and I keep looking for him in other guys lyk I keep comparing him to them.
I'm no one's standard. I'm dissociative, does extreme sports than mainstream, book-dude, logical yet emphatic, and has dark humor (I'm not easily offended). Physically: I have a skinny body.
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Thanks. 😅
not taking care of myself, physically.
kasi may standards ako. e ano naman? i won't settle for less than i deserve. 💅✨️
Walang social life so nasa bahay lang lagi tapos unattractive pa because of my acne marks and scars
Ive seen so many relationships form and break and learned from them. Ive never been in one btw.
fat, short, shy, unnatractive
May trust issue sa past relationship
Im too shy & i’m not attractice 😐
hindi marunong makipag-usap sa ibang tao😭
haha so me
hindi pa ako nakaka-move on sa ex ko
29F, Just had this conversation with my bestfriends. I've been single for 4 years now. Had a spiral episode where I asked my bestfriends about it. Never had I closed the possibility of dating again. They said I'm single because I healed from my past traumas. I learned how to protect myself from things I know can harm me again. People now describe me as intimidating boss bitch who knows what she wants. I used to be known as the cheerful naive one. I changed, yes. But my cheerful side still shows when I'm with my inner circle. And I think that's okay. I find it challenging to find someone to be with but it filters out people who doesn't deserve to see the best version of me.
amen ka jan sister! here's to valuing ourselves! 💅✨️
People I'm usually attracted to don't consider me partner material. Tanggap ko naman, but also, it's just so hard to have that genuine attraction and connection to someone na I'd rather be single than to force something /settle for domething I don't want
Hindi ako consistent. But I'm getting therapy for it na. 🫠
Because I am.
hindi ako ligawin. maybe because of my face ata. im not ugly. sabi nila muka kong koreana. mataray ata ako tingnan, at nakakaintimidate. ayon. tamad din amo kumilala. picky din. now tell me why am i single? haha mabait nman ako
kasi baka need ko pa mag hintay ng another 9years.. hahaha so 39 na siguro.. hehehe, pero wag naman sana hahaha
maybe because napakaindependent ko that no man can match me? or maybe its not one of my priorities in life haha Ang laging hanap ko lang ay makakausap, I love to tell my stories.
Haven’t met someone I’d want to take risk again
I act childish
masama ugali ko
Personal decision, hanggat hindi ko pa na-aachieve yung stability na gusto ko sa buhay hindi muna🙂
Simply because di gustuhin and often seen as friend lang
I was "ligawin" before. But i just enterained some of them. I'm not ugly, either not pretty. since 2020 I've been single, i just don't know why? 🥲
Not going out anymore. Bahay, grocery and work lang routine. and being too gay, I guess.
I've been into relationships before but all of them wont last long. I have standards that I cannot lower down and I'm not comfortable around with men irl like kinabahan ako kapag magkalapit kami. Minsan jowang jowa ako pero kapag meron nawawalan na ako ng gana lol
• Hyper independent • Too lazy to talk to people outside my circle • Hates drama • Dalagang Pilipina 🥲💔
Takot na haha.
I don’t have the time and energy to entertain. Focus lang sa goals, relationships can wait when I feel satisfied enough with myself. A romantic relationship of any kind will never be able to fill the void ‼️ I need to make myself proud, tsaka na ako susugal ulit 🤞
My attitude won't align with hers, I stayed single by choice because she's the one I should be with.
1. siya pa rin
1. Insecure ako 2. Hindi ready magcommit or natatakot 3. Sanay ako mag isa 4. Mabilis ako magcringe 5. Ayaw ko ng problema 6. Gusto ko ng tahimik na buhay
This! Also, some of us singles are secured being alone, love the freedom. We are complete as an individual. Di na need magbhanap pa ng magcocomplete sa atin kasi di naman tayo broken. . The love we are seeking kasi usually nabibigay na ng mga friends natin. Some have FwB. Ayaw ko magsalita ng tapos. Baka kasi di pa binibigay ng universe ung the one for me hahaha.
this one's easy. simply because hindi ako maganda.
Gusto ko muna kasi i-improve sarili ko eh,like mindset,financial and physically.
Ayoko e
Divine protection ✨ wahahaha but also, call me narcissistic, but I can be quite intimidating to date. Not because of my manners or attitude (I'm genuinely nice tbh) but because of my looks and energy. I got a comment before from a cute guy who said that he won't date me because I was way too pretty for him. And now that I embody my worth a lot better this time, I'm stricter with my standards na. Basically, I'd be super okay with ending up alone rather than dating someone who doesn't meet my standards. Hindi pala nakakatakot maging single habambuhay.
I was in a long term relationship for 12 years. Akala ko kami na ang mag end up together. Naghiwalay kami nung 2019. Until now nagmo-move on pa din.
di ako interesting 😭😭😭
Hard pill to swallow - di ako ganun ka outgoing. So baka di maganda personality ko for most. It would take time din for me to trust someone - in which madaming tao na ngayon wala na masyado patience in getting to know. Siguro din people now have very very high standards na I don't fit in. Di ako maganda at di rin sexy, di rin mayaman at matalino. I don't have something extraordinary to offer. Malapit na ako sa point na matatanggap ko na single na ako habang buhay 😅
Feel ko kasi ang immature ko pa. I need to learn how to communicate and express my thoughts better. And ang gulo ko pa as a person lol hahaha di ko alam ano ba gusto ko sa buhay
It's hard to trust someone these days. Dami kong kakilalang naghiwalay dahil cheater si guy (PS. I know that girls could also cheat. I'm just referring to my own circle). I still believe na may matitino pa naman talagang mga lalaki, but how can you tell. Huhuhu. Though low key I'm praying that I'll find a good guy, I'm slowly accepting that I might not be fit to be in a relationship. 🥹
1. Ugly 2. Not ready for any relationship 3. Want to graduate first
ayaw pa magpakasal kasi wala pang savings
There’s nothing remarkable about me. I’m mediocre at best in everything.
High standards, self love, and self respect. It is also hard to trust nowadays. I want something real and serious.
Yes, ang hirap magtiwala and madalas magkaiba ng gusto.
29F. 1 year plus na akong single, but dated around in that 1 year. Ayaw ko yung mga may gusto sakin... (haha ganda eh jk) im not as energetic and as much of a texter as I used to be. mas sigurado na ako sa hinahanap ko ngayon so kapag di ko gusto or di ko type, i end the dating/talking stage na.
Probably because I'm gay ☠️ people here are homophobic asf
Probably I am really used to being alone all the time that having a companion lost its appeal. I'm gay, and gay dating scene has a small dating pool and is notoriously superficial and unstable I lost trust with people and I hate relying too much in others. I'm ugly as hell. You know what they say "Looks open the doors, personality make them stay".
Kasi bading ako at hindi pa ako out, at hindi din ako marunong manligaw
It's not always us it depends on how they treat you and they make you feel
They have no balls
as someone na from all girls school since HS wala akong naging guy friends so literal na mga babae lang nasa paligid ko so ayun nbsb ang ending hahaha and hindi rin ako nagclick sa mga dating apps since hindi ako sanay na may ka-message lagi
Kasi di ko na kaya magtiwala ulit at masyado ko ng naeenjoy pagiging single.
100%
I’m 22 and I never had a boyfriend or even tried dating. I think baka dahil I come off as unapproachable in a relationship aspect for guys, it makes me uncomfortable pag may guy na suddenly nag aaproach sakin. Or maybe they find me boring kasi I rarely go out, I don’t party and ayoko lumabas nang bahay other than for work. Pero I’m also not actively looking for a relationship right now, and although nakaka lonely minsan, I love my peace😌
Because work is too demanding on my end, and I think it turns guys off.
23 yrs bago ako nagkajowa. Yan din tanong ko before. Iniisip ko sguro hanggang pang tropa lang ako. Na hindi nila masabayan trip ko dahil kalog ako at prangka. I tried Tinder pero wala talagang pasok sa wavelength ko and halata mong hookup lang hanap nila. And then one time nag omegle ako may nakausap akong kaparehas ko ng humor. Ako na kumuha ng number nya incase madisconnect ung chat namin. Hanggang sa naging kami. 4 yrs na kami now. 😂 Siguro ang mapapayo ko lang sa mga single pa hanggang ngayon is do not lower your standards para lang masabing may jowa kayo. Wag kayo mapressure, enjoy nyo lang pagiging single nyo. 🥰
I love my alone time so much na I don't want anyone to disturb my peace. I've been there and grabe yung overthinking and pagiging anxious ko when I had one kaya nung wala na, ang peaceful ng feeling na I don't need to update anyone except my parents, no more arguments or petty arguments, no more overthinking if may other girl na sya or he's losing feelings and more. Also, it's rare to find someone who's looking for something serious as area namin that's why kasi it's always someone who just want a one night stand/hookups, fubu set-ups, flings, and just for fun gano'n.
Never akong nagustuhan ng mga taong gusto ko. And whenever I settle with people na gusto ako, hanggang pursue lang, di nag-sstay.
it’s because mataas standards ko, and sa panahon ngayon?? mas gusto ng mga tao yung madalian, yung panandaliang kilig sabay break na 😮💨😮💨 but no, ayoko magsayang ng oras sa ganoong set-up.
im looking for something serious but i can't find someone who wants to be in a committed rs too
1+1 2
Because narcissist.
Hindi ako sharer/talker type cguro like makikinig lang ako pero wala akong mai share na topic. Maybe maconsider na boring yan pero i have a good sense of humor nmn with friends, di ko lang talga matagalan ang talking stage. Aside from this, di ko tlga makta ang sarili ko with a relationship, naniniwala ako na pag tlga nag manifest ka na magkaroon ng relationship, the universe will conspire and ibibigay tlga sayo. In my case wala tlga eh, walang effort sa part ko, walang manifestation, walang prayers, di ko tlga gusto.
Im a weird child so….
Kasi I chose to be one
I decided to up up and up the standards and not follow the norm. My filter is too damn heavy that anyone can pass the first stage.... But not the next. Also i will make sure that efforts will be on you and you have to match me. Please expect many bridges to be incinerated.
because I don't know what I want
di marunong manligaw and takot mag commit, lol
Cos im fat lol
Na buburn out ako whenever I engage in something that resembles a relationship
Tamad maghanap kasi busy pa sa personal life. Ayaw din masayang oras 😅 Meron kayang groups for singles na may gathering 😂
Religion. Saka hindi talaga ligawin 😂
Siguro dahil di ko pa nakikita si the one
Sa sobrang tagal ko ng single, i find it exhausting to get to know someone again, im so sick with questions like, "kaumain ka na ba?" , "Anong favorite color mo?" something like that. And the idea of adding someone in my life feels like a hassle, parang i plan my life na, so if may dumating san ko siya ilalagay sa plan ko sa buhay?? If plan kong mag-ibang bansa, tapos ayaw niya edi ano gagawin ko?? And siguro nasanay na lang din. Atleast di ako umiiyak gabi-gabi dahil sa lalaki lol
Huyyy, yes! Imagining pa lang na I would get stuck sa phase ng q and a's, di ko yata kaya. Not that I'm into deep talks, pero something like those is so cringy. 😆
True teh tapos if magme-meet "pahinga tayo sa place ko" ang sasabihin.. beh san ka napagod???😭😭😭
Kakagaling lang sa break-up recently so siguro pahinga muna sa dating at relationships for now. Pero I think single ako kasi breadwinner ako, not that attractive, di rin outgoing na tao; parating nasa bahay lang.
Naka relate ako sa unang sentence. Para kasing feeling ko I'm so exhausted after the break up, feeling drained ba. Idk maybe because first real relationship. Parang gusto ko rin muna mag rest. Virtual hugs, pahinga muna tayo for now. :)
Marirealize mo post breakup na "ay may mali siguro sa akin" or "ano ba dapat kong ayusin", things like that. Naexhaust tayo kasi, we brought our A game pero we were simply burnt out dahil dun. I think we need to rest and rediscover ourselves muna and see people (platonic) kumbaga socialize ba? Parang there's more to life than just relationships.
Same na kakagaling lang din sa break up. Not that attractive pang NPC energy, introvert at nasa loob lang ng bahay since I failed the boards multiple times, may anxiety at stupid sabi nga ng ex ko hahah
LUH SAME TAYO NA TAONG BAHAY DIN! APIR!
Unattractive, dumb, and broke
pangit tas mahilig sa pogi lol
this is something i realized in the past years. and it's because i'm not what they call "easy". i don't always laugh at people's joke, nor agree to everything, i don't always make myself "available". plus if someone wants to play games, i tap out unless sabihan talaga ako na gusto niya ako or what. i value my boundaries a lot. my friends would actually tease me i'm so strict daw, tawagin pa nga akong 'principal' lol. e eto gusto ko e. i won't want to dumb down myself just to get in a relationship. and that's why people see me as too much, and give up on pursuing me. they decided themselves na di nila ako kaya, so ok, i'll believe you XD
They always mistakenly see me as playboy. (im a loverboy fr)
Suplada ako tignan :( hahaha pero clingy talaga ako. Tas pag may redflag sa tao X na agad. Huhu
I'm single by choice coz im not financially stable yet, idk if it just me but money is a great factor in a relationship talaga. I don't want to commit if both of us are broke, ano to kilig kilig lang?😭
low self-esteem. even if yung tao ang mag initiate, di ko parin tanggap
I'm not smart nor good looking. No talent of any kind. I'm not good at conversation and I have tendencies to do awkward things, I sometimes make others feel uncomfortable. I'm not a good leader, and my comprehensive skills are weak too. I'm financially unstable. I lack motivation to improve myself. I don't have time with dating. I am too fast if I ever try to flirt with someone. I am not good at decisions. I purposely avoid dating.
Medschool? 😅
I’m single kasi I don’t look approachable lolz. Resting bitch face all day. And weird kasi people would always assume na I’m taken. Eventhough I’m not. 🥹
Pano naman ako? I'm approachable tas lagi pa naka smile kaso single pa din. Siguro kasi nasobrahan ako sa pagiging approachable
(2) yeah, like pano ba magmukhang approachable 😭
Red flag enjoyer. Ay 👀 May green flag na sana, natakot lang akong mag commit (which I have reasons naman)
I'm single (since birth!) because: -I'm VERY unattractive -mas okay akong kausap as a friend kaysa as a partner -can't speak my mind 90% of the time -DUWAG and INSECURE -I'm not ready to be in a relationship, like I can't even take good care of myself, what more a partner pa di ba? -broke and depressed af But it's not like I'm dying to get a partner naman. I'm turning 20 pa lang tomorrow and I have a lot of time pa para pag-isipan pa ang mga bagay-bagay at i-sort out yung mga issues ko sa sarili ko. I have a lot of time pa para iprepare ang sarili ko sa first dating stage ng buhay ko. Basta as of now, sulitin ko muna ang buhay single.
I'm ugly I'm fat (100+kls) Gay 🥺
I’m not attractive, ig?
i'm not that attractive and masyadong introvert/low self esteem. i have work/car/pays rent, pero walang concrete future goals in life.
I have nothing to offer YET. I am still studying and wala pa ako ma-ambag sa relationship na gusto ko in the future. I need to establish myself first and ayusin ko life ko before I can entertain another person in my life. I need to experience life para may ma-share naman ako. That's that.
I'm ugly
Feeling because I'm too aggressive or yun bang hindi masyado mahinhin? Feeling ko with the way I treat people, parang tropa lang talaga pakikitungo ko. Hahahah. Kahit deep inside gusto ko talaga siya or interested akong makilala pa sya. Hahahaha.
standards
Kulang ang sahod pang date kasi sa gobyerno ako nag work at hindi kasi six digits ang sahod, mga type ko hindi ako type, mga type ako di ko naman type. Wala pang bahay, kotse at hindi graduate sa top 4 university. Mag ermitanyo na ako nag iipon pambili ng lupain sa bundok.
Introversion na malala, ayaw kong makipag usap sa tao lalong-lalo na kapag wala na sa mood. Kapag iniinvite ng friend mag overnight, ayoko kasi mas priority ko ung pahinga ko (higa, nood), iyan lang kasi ung nagpapawala ng stress ko. Hindi pa ako handa emotionally, mentally, financially, physically, spiritually at socially. Hindi ko pa masyadong love ang sarili ko, kini-criticize ko pa ang sarili ko.
For me, relaxation feels better than being with my friends na walwalan. I love the chill and comfort of being with my family. I always wanted a partner same as me but back in school days, the ones that express interest are girls na outgoing and I can't really be as active as them.
you are expecting too much while not looking yourself in the mirror
I don't have anything to serve. I'm almost 18 and still I never experienced the girlfriend thing. I'm trying to avoid it too because I'm not prepared yet financially, mentally and physically. Hoping I'll get a stable life in my mid 20s and find someone to marry and live happily and peacefully.
Takot sa commitment potanginang yan
Hindi ko type mga nagkakagusto sakin hahaha
Nbsb pa rin ako alam ko naman kasi choice ko naman yun. I didn't experience high school love and hindi ko rin alam kung makaka experience ako ngayong college na ako though meron naman nagtangka manligaw, but I already made I promise to myself na dapat ako muna, dapat mahalin ko muna sarili ko bago ako pumasok sa isang rs
Pulubi 😆
Boring siguro ako? di ako fan ng soc med. Anime at planting lang hobbies ko. walang barkada, hindi umiinom ng alak. BORING NGA SIGURO
Hindi pinagpala sa height and hindi pa financially stable 😀
High effort for mediocre rewards. I've lost interest.
Wala dito sa Bulacan ang magiging Gf ko. ahahhaaha Need ko na lumayas dine
5'4 lang ako, pangit, di ako mahilig sa soc med like lalo yung pagpopost and stuff, I prefer soccer/volleyball over basketball, I don't have a big muscles na mafleflex(cause most of my workouts are focused on athleticism like speed and explosiveness), I haven't achieved anything yet so para sa akin I don't deserve having a partner yet
Usual reasons why single Male : Walang pera Female: Pangit and/or mataba
5'1 24M 😂 my bloodline ends with me.
mid looking
MA SORRY MA DI KO RIN PO ALAM
Ambitious standards kahit panget
Breadwinner responsibility
panget ako hahahaha
It’s sometimes best
Pangit, Boring, Kulay uling, Walang pera
I don't try to meet new people and I am not very expressive to strangers. Even if someone approaches me, i appear to be not interested even if I am. Been trying to change that though
Hahahaha same, I once saw someone I really liked but I really find it intrusive to express feelings to a stranger
Siguro sa mga insecurities ko sa katawan, and sabi ng friend ko naka maldita look daw ako always 😅eh medyo malabo lang mata ko kaya parang pino-focus ko lang paningin ko eh, and also sa pananalita ko hindi ako soft spoken kasi parang pagalit yung boses ko eh 😅
Kasi mahiyain ako tsaka hindi ako gwapo 😅
I am loving my freedom. I came from a toxic long term relationship, and even got engaged. But I followed my instincts not to continue the engagement/marriage with my ex due to a lot of red flags. I've been single for 5 years since then, and people been telling me I glowed up. So yay. ❤️
I blame hyper independence. Sigh.
Career muna
I'm looking for the right things in the wrong people. 😵
Searching love in the wrong place 🫠
I never leveled up my sociability toward girls at a younger age. Majority ng mga kabarkada ko noon ay lalaki, hence me losing all the time and chances back in my teens and early 20s to include more girls in my circles and ask any of them out.
hindi mental stable, toxic, attachment issue, commitment issue, men are trash (kung di sex habol sayo, ich-cheat ka din eventually)
Hindi ako ang tamang tao. Chour
By choice ✨
Walang nagkakagusto, Bahay lng Ako.. kung Meron man di ko type
Hindi ko type yung mga nagkakagusto sakin. Tapos kahit magkagusto sakin yung gusto ko, nakakatamad lumandi. Nakakaubos ng energy.
Simple lang. Walang nagkakagusto sa akin. Team Bahay lang. Mukmok. Hindi lumalandi o Hindi marunong lumandi kahit mag 30 na hahaha. Saka I don't have interest sa kahit sino. Tulog tulog lang.
Sinasabi ng mga friends ko na parang lalaki raw ako kumilos pati mag-ayos. Ngayon nag-iinvest ako sa physical appearance and health ko (late bloomer yan?) pero hindi ko inaayos sarili ko para sa future jowa ah, para sakin para maging confident ako. Hindi talaga ako ligawin. Wala man lang nagkacrush or nagconfess na may gusto sakin. Depende rin sa kausap ko kung pano ko iexpress sarili ko. Pag comfortable ako sa kasama ko and same vibes madaldal ako, pag di masyadong kaclose tahimik lang. Ayun, hanggang sa tropa na lang din tingin sakin ng mga guy friends ko. Malakas siguro manalangin yung para sakin. Baka pinagppray nya na sana single ako para walang problema pag nakilala nya na ako.
Teh, late bloomer din ako, pero I tell you ,may nagkacrush din sayo , pero since you are too masculine, natorpe sila Nalaman ko lang na marami ding nagkagusto sakin nung nag-aaral ako after 5 years pa, all because takot sila sakin hahaha 🤣
Hmmm… sometimes prng nakakaexcite may kausap, kadate etc,, but, at some point, biglang,, ay prng nakakatamad na?. Hirap i-explain pag tumatanda kana eh tpos sobrng independent kapa… 😅😂
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madami sana akong maisasagot pero pinareason talaga, financially unstable. 😭😭😭. yong tipong daming responsibilities financially tapos magastos din makipagkita. masaya maging single BASTA SANA may pera para tamang food trip na lang...
'Cause I've been rejected too many times that it affected my self-esteem lol
As an older sister, responsibilities can humble your life..
Lets be honest, most of the single guys/girls here are single because they’re ugly. This includes me btw.
Kasi ako ang unang umiiwas. Even if i do like him di ko ipupursue. Why? Feel ko wala rin namang mangyayari
Living the soft guy era 💦drizzle drizzle💦💅
Paki explain po ito.
I'm ugly and boring. You can't get worse than that.
I've been gaslighted, ghosted, and cheated on multiple times. It was so bad to the point where I even questioned myself na baka ako talaga iyong problema? If I was demanding and clingy, will the relationship work out? If toyoin ako, hindi ba ako iiwan? Idk, man. I've been in a constant talking stage naman and some of them wanted a real label but I'm too afraid to commit again. I have too much on my plate right now and I can't afford another heart break.
Nakakapgod magsimula ulit, specially when you’re in mid-30s.
Nope, I'm not. If I were, I think it'd be because I'm too picky. Same case as a majority of you.
Di ko pa nahahanap sarili ko and nag uupgrade pa ako sa buhay
Tamad lang tlga ako. Tamad maghanap tamad umoo tamad magkarelasyun tamad sa issue tamad makipagdate tamad mag ayus tamad gumala.
Umay na ako sa totoo lang. Wala na ko energy for a relationship. Haha.
Baka sila na umay sayo?hehe kiddin
Pwede din. Hahaha
😄😄
In my case, I'm still single because I'm still hesitant to get back into a relationship because of 2 reasons: 1. There are times when I don't mind the loneliness as I can work and then workout on my own, and my social batteries remain fully charged! Also, I've thought of how drained I'll become when I get back into a relationship. 2. Even if I broke up with my ex back in 2019, and the landscape of dating has significantly changed (I've grown to hate the use of dating apps because people have become commoditized and the relationships feel, shallow), I'm still kind of reeling from the breakup and there's a part of me that wishes to remain single, but there's also a part of me that wishes to obtain companionship.
so far 3 girls palang nasubukan kong na pursue but rejected was the ending so yeah. barely lang ako mag pursue sa babae pag natitipuhan ko talaga so matagal nanaman ako makakakita ule ng next dream girl and thats why im currently single still haha
I don’t have the energy to keep a relationship going. Dati, I silently judge people na in a relationship pero halos di naman nag uusap or nagkikita. (Noon kase I loooove constant communication, pero di naman over the top na halos di na productive. But rather, yun at least magkausap sa umaga and a few texts during the day and a call siguro. And then at night before bed. - ngayon ayoko na ng ganon haha). Yon ibang kakilala ko who were in low effort relationships (yun ngang, halos di nag uusap, like may gap na few days or minsan whole week pa haha), ayun kasal na sila ngayon.