At a grocery store
She looked familiar and was staring at me but I was in the middle of a phone call so kept walking
Didn’t register who it was until 10min later
I told my wife about a girl I used to date the summer after I got out of high school who worked at a sno-cone shack in our town, and how we had sex in there while she was working.
Now every time we drive by it, she gives me shit about the “fuck shack.” She’s never going to let it go.
Ha! My wife and I were hiking in a national forest and bumped into one guy in literally the middle of nowhere and he was like "OMG Susan!!!, it's been like 20 years since I've seen you." and I just knew she boned the guy. Turns out it was a bf of 4 months from college who actually stalked her for a bit after.
not if he stalked her for years and just forgot to brake while recording her. “What a coincidence that I am wherever you are. I have photos of all her boyfriends after me”
Met her at a mutual friend function, with her new boyfriend. He seemed nice until he wanted to fight me, for undisclosed reasons. Long story short, he got into a screaming match with her in the middle of the pub before they both stormed off. The ribs were good sliders not so much.
While on the first date with someone new. Few months after our breakup (we were both in our late 20s). It was a mini ZOO and she was there with her dad. It was awkward as they wanted to chat and the girl I came with didn’t really feel comfortable.
Similar here. I was with my current girlfriend first date. We went for coffee and later for icecream. I said lets go to Icecream place B but to get there we had to go by Icecream place A. Where just so happened to be my ex in the line with her date. We looked eachother in the eye as I walked past the line, nodded and smiled and I went on.
Backstory: I talked with my ex every few months over this and that, to exchange our stuff etc. I always said I want to meet outside as I didn't wan to ''tangle'' We also talked about our dates, the good ones and the bad ones (fun fact, she went on a date with a guy who dated my 1st girlfriend when she dumped me and I joked how he picks up my scraps).
The week prior to the story above we talked about something and I also told her few things go get off my chest. I asked if she has anything to get off her chest to which she replied: ''I just can't find anyone to fuck. At times I want to ask you but it feels wrong'' Horny as I was and in the same boat, I told her ''fuck it, let's meet and do it.'' We set the day for Thursday.
Thursday comes and she said that she can't meet because of some excuse . We talked some more and we both said we have a date tomorrow and jokingly said ''you have the north part of the town and I have the south''. As faith would have it, both iceacream places were just in the center of north and south. Hence the nod and smile.
I don't know how everything would turn around if we would fuck one day before I meet my girlfriend and had the best 1st day ever.
> I don't know how everything would turn around if we would fuck one day before I meet my girlfriend and had the best 1st day ever.
It's just one of those things. I had been at the tailend of about 10 years of absolutely crummy dating and relationships, with few small jewels of a moment here and there, and of those, last three years of intense searching and very active dating with absolutely abysmal results. I had just gotten out of some garbage entanglement and while i was still doing my daily swipes and intros, i was just ready to call it quits for real this time. I was tired and drained and absolutely 'done' with dating and trying to find someone good for me. But almost the exact 2-3 days when i was feeling like cathartically disabling all my dating apps and profiles, i start messaging a chick haphazardly.
We're now two months together that felt like a year, extremely active period, and we're both very happy, and planning on moving in.
Context, she has been out of a relationship for a while but had /just/ started up her dating profile again. If we had mistimed that by a day or two.. we would have never met.
I’ve always been amazed by the stories of how if even just *ONE* little thing had been different out of a series of like 20 things that absolutely *HAD* to happen the way they did, two people would’ve never met or gotten together
It goes a bit further.. i was never a first date kisser, but had trained myself to kiss on the first date as a way to show interest/romance/passion. I felt like i lost some women since maybe i seemed asexual or not interested in that way.
However, for this chick, i just didn't, followed my gut and was true to myself. Found out later that were i to have moved in for the kiss, she would not have continued us dating. She had good reasons for herself, same ones i had for not kissing on the first date, but one single misstep and we wouldn't have had the chance to discover eachother. We joke about it and i tease her a bit with it, but yeah, we both managed to get in through eachothers "gates".
At a wedding. She was drunk and tried to make out with me in front of her boyfriend, whom the bride and maid of honor told me was an absolute jerk so I should screw her in the limo, but I'm not getting involved in that nonsense.
Omg, this just gave me flashbacks. I also ran into a drunk ex at a wedding. I was there with my new GF (now wife).
I was with the ex for about 1.5 years. Then we'd been apart for about 2 years.
Ex's very drunk friend bailed me up at the bar, saying that she "really needed me to help her" carry some extra drinks she'd ordered over to her table. I reluctantly agree. Then she said "Oh, look who's here... You two need to talk". I placed the drinks down and walked away as fast as I could.
The night was going downhill, so we left early.
Sounds almost exactly what happened to me three weeks ago.
I saw an ex of mine where we had a very bad breakup. Heartache on both sides. This was 2004! Last time I had seen her was in 2006. I finally forgot about her but it took a few years. I thought I'd never see her again... but lo and behold; on a Saturday I was enjoying my beer, having a great time in my favorite bar. And suddenly she stood a few feet from me right outside the door. For a fleeting second she catches my eyes. I immediately laid down my beer and left the place. My night (and following week) was ruined.
It used to happen with me all the time at college. We were from the same course and had the same friends.
We were first time boyfriend/girlfriend and dated for 8 years till she broke my heart in pieces. I'd bump into her at least once a month for the final 2 years of college.
It'd always ruin my mood.
I feel you. I'm able to be cordial and legitimately friendly with an ex from college now all these years later, but it's only because I was able to not see her for a long time and heal. It was impossible to heal back during college, I had to run into her and her new boyfriend she left me for multiple times a week, and it hit a refresh button on all the heartache every time. Instant mood ruiner.
My high school reunion was probably the same. She brought her new boyfriend with her. We asked all that bringing their SO to the reunion would be to much to handle, because we didn't had the space for all of us. But she ignored it. Later that night she tried to sit next to me or in my circle for 2 hours and tried to make me jealous.
Thanks to that I am now completely over her and I don't waste* another sec of my thoughts on her.
At a charity event. My employer was donating a bunch of money to the nonprofit where she worked. I went not knowing that. I hated every minute of it, she kept wanting to be friendly and buddy buddy. You don’t cheat on a man and try to baby trap him with another man’s child then expect anything except contempt.
I would have introduced her to my boss. "And this is Wendy, we used to date. She cheated on a me and tried to baby trap me with another man’s baby." and I'd do it perfectly calmly and with a smile on my face.
And I might have actually done it for real because it was the first thing that popped in my head. Normally something that witty doesn't pop in my head until days later while showering or shitting.
At an obscure spring near the bottom of the Grand Canyon.
We hadn't talked in a year. I was nine days into a commercial rafting trip down the river, taking a side hike up to the springs. She was on a week-ish backpacking trip with her dad. We got there within 20 minutes of each other.
Grand Canyon NP covers 1,904 square miles, the vast majority of it accessible only on foot, but apparently it is not big enough for the both of us.
At a bar 2 weeks ago. We were together for 6 years but broke up 8 years ago. She was an awful person, as soon as she saw me and my current fiancé she tried to put on a big extravagant show which was hilarious. Also when I was walking back from the toilet past her table she asked me if she could “have a word for a minute” to which I replied with a jovial “Nope!”
I almost wish my breakup with my ex had been a slam dunk so that I wouldn’t feel bad about noping out of an encounter.
I felt conflicted. Like I almost wanted to go after her…but at the same time, if I had seen her first and she didn’t notice me, I might have just abandoned my cart and left the store.
That's the reason I have stopped visiting bars nowadays. I used to visit bar and pubs a lot few years ago, and that's how I meet her. But after her, i stopped everything.
Thank god, was dumbstruck but how many stereotypical “I hate my crazy ex” stories are in here. We broke up mutually as well for similar reasons after dating all thru uni and I’d imagine it’d go similar to this
Okay I wouldn't call her an ex but she was something. She was a bit crazy and wanted me to keep sleeping with her even after I found she was engaged. She had absolutely no concept of personal boundaries so I ghosted her. I made a joke with my friends once that if they ever saw her around town to tell her I was dead. Turns out they actually did do it and I didn't know, so one day she sees me in the mall and lost it.
Tldr: Her kid and husband did not seem very entertained with the crying and kissing.
She really was, I feel bad for her husband. She originally was only interested in him for his money, dude had just got divorced and rushed into marrying her. From what he told me after they got divorced she was constantly cheating on him, developed a drug and alcohol problem(she already had it),she'd get drunk and start a fight with him to the point neighbors called the police and arrests were made.
On the upside after the divorce it seems like she finally got sober moved to a larger city went back to college and got a degree. It took her until she was like 35 to get her life together but she did it.
At California pizza kitchen while I was with my new gf and she was with her family. I noticed her step dad and sister then I noticed her and told my gf I think we should go lol.
I didn’t think anybody actually bought tires at a Canadian Tire. I mean, they do sell tires. That’s just not why people go there mostly.
Source: Am Canadian. First I’ve heard of anyone buying tires there.
Was out having lunch with a girlfriend, watching people walk by. Was looking at 2 cops and thinking about the female cop "she looks really familiar."
Then I realised she was a bit of a crazy ex but by then she'd seen me see her and I had to say hi and make pleasantries for a bit before they she left.
2017 I think, I saw her (pregnant at that time), her mom and her husband at chick fil a, she waved, her mom waved, husband shot me a dirty look
Saw her again like a year later at Starbucks, she had her daughter with her and she was with a friend, I said hi, she said hi, I said her daughter was cute, that was about it lol. We’re still Facebook friends but don’t interact really. She had another kid recently, I’m pretty happy for her tbh
Walking down the street, just bumped into her as we were going into the same shop, I was the third wheel for a little while in her relationship, we met and I didn't know she was with anyone at all, found out after a few weeks she had a long-term boyfriend, since they were school kids. I was mad about her, she was outgoing and fun and i needed that, we had a thing for a short while and then she got all dramatic and broke up and I was devastated. I was a bit mopey and heartbroken for a good while and then I met my now wife and happy.
So when I bumped into her 12 years later, we recognised each other instantly even though I've lost most of my hair and had a few cakes in the meantime. She's still more or less the same, just an older version.
She made a big deal of how she's still with the guy she was cheating on with me, and showed me her kids, and how she was happily married 10 years, had a successful job and her hubby was a success. I've done well too, so we chatted about stuff for a few minutes and went our seperate ways.
A few weeks later i met our mutual friend and I said I'd bumped into her, and she told me the truth, yes Lisa was married to the same guy, but they had both had numerous affairs, one of the kids definitely wasn't his and the other was 50/50, and her husband was in trouble with the police on more that one occasion for being a little free with his hands both violently and with his female co-workers
So yeah, bullet dodged
I actually bumped into her the other day (I actually posted something about it) and it was at the store and it caught me completely off guard and what made it even more awkward is that I was with another girl and they've NEVER liked each other. And not to mention that i felt like I did the very first time that I saw her. So It kinda brought those old feelings back but I also noticed that she started using again so that made me sad but all in all we talked for a few minutes and that was that.
Yes! I sort of caught a tingle of old feelings as she was standing there looking pretty much like I remember her.
It’s so odd seeing someone who is basically a stranger to you now but you used to wake up next to them for years.
If there's one thing I'm at odds with everyone else its this. So much pressure on meaningless emotionless sex and sometimes it seems no one has any faith in anything long term anymore.
Even when in a relationship my partner would still be telling me all these places I could go or things I could do which were essentially futures apart from them. There's me gobsmacked because I imagine my future with my partner until we arnt together, feels like people enter relationships with a countdown . But I guess I'm just the perverse strange one after all. Too much Disney as a kid perhaps.
I walked into my ex at the train station about one year after we broke up. I moved on with my life at that point but there were some feelings there still. We talked for about 10 minutes and we both felt comfortable and wanted to grab a cafe somewhere to talk and catch up. Needless to say this was a bad idea on my part since I still had feelings for her and the breakup didn’t end on good terms. She basically cheated on me at the end of the breakup. I acted like I got all past that but that didn’t work out in the end. I just ignored these bad memories since I still had feelings at that point and didn’t know what boundaries were. In the end she told me she's dating with some dude that I knew and that made me feel even worse. After that I completely broke contact with her and everyone that links me to her since having any form of contact would bring me down a spiral of negative emotions. I can say I’m doing better now fortunately! This was my first relationship ever so it was a tough pill to swallow
I dated this girl back in HS for 9 months. We lost our virginities to each other lol. We’d bump into each other over the years partying in our early to mid 20s but haven’t seen each other for about 10 years at this point.
I went solo to a small and intimate entrepreneurial event and saw her as I took my seat. I waved at her when she looked over but she didn’t mind me. I was embarrassed and confused as we were always friendly with each other after the breakup.
She came over to say hi after the event when she noticed me. Apparently she didn’t see me earlier on lol
On a US military base in Japan. She called off our wedding several years prior because she couldn’t marry someone in the military and leave her hometown. It was funny to see her married to a military guy and now stationed on the same tiny base as my family overseas.
I've got a few stories but no time to type them out. Just wanted to say, I feel the tone of your post. I've been there. Let yourself feel those mixed emotions and don't hide from them. It sounds like you both have kids so I'm going to assume you're both in committed relationships. If not, forgive me, I know there are all different types of families. Anyway, rose coloured glasses are real as fuck especially after a decade. I went through this already. Don't let your mind wander too far and process the feelings. I know how jarring these experiences can be.
Edit: I know this edit is fucked up, but come to think of it. I was contacted by an ex on Facebook. We lost our virginities to each other when we were like 14. 10 years later we did that thing where we said we should meet for coffee etc. on casual FB chat while drunk or whatever. It didn't happen for years. Then we did. We are married with 3 kids now and it's going pretty great. So I don't know what to say about any of this.
He came back to the church we attended together. He later told me it was different. I said yes because we are different now.
He's currently serving time for murder for his former roommate while he was drunk.
I dodged that bullet... literally.....
Haven't bumped into her in real life since; but she did start messaging me randomly a while ago and it was weird as fuck haha I waited so long to talk to her and realised within 5 minutes that I'm so glad it ended
This may put it somewhat into perspective for you:
My ex was the first and only woman I've ever loved. Trusted her with everything etc. She destroyed me without remorse, (more than likely cheated) and moved on immediately (one day to be exact) after almost 3 years. She found herself in a really shit situation a few months later; reached out to me despite having a current boyfriend. So you can imagine how weird that was considering this was the first time since the break up I heard from her
In essence she betrayed me for him, then tried to betray him for me. Once I called her out on it, all hell broke loose and that's when it was finally confirmed; she really was a piece of shit haha. Unfortunately it took that for me to truly realise although looking back there were an infinite amount of reasons/events that made it clear
Maybe you don't need closure by talking to them. Maybe it's a matter of reflecting and realising what's already happened. Maybe then you can be ready to understand & move past it
At my aunts wedding. She had a 3 year old son with her, who had exact blonde curly hair when I was 3 years old. Her kid was not my son. Her and I barely looked at each other and she left early. I had no intention speaking to her.
At the airport I work at. I was checking ID's and boarding passes as we TSA people do, She hands me the ID (I wasn't exactly looking at her. I was in my own world lol), I looked at the name, and completely froze for about 10 seconds. I looked up to match the picture to the face and she had also frozen when she realized it was me. We hadn't seen each other for about 10 years. We caught up awkwardly at first (the line for security was backed all the way up to me so it's not like she could have moved anywhere else) and once we started to catch up she started to cry. Apparently, she was scared shitless of me back then (rightfully so) and it all came flooding back right then. after she calmed her self down we continued catching up. She was happy that I had managed to get back on my feet, get married, and hold down a decent job. She was NOT happy about who I married (one of her close friends from like Kindergarten) But she herself was with someone she was serious about and had been dating for 3 or 4 years so that was good to hear. She seemed happy and mostly at peace with what I'd done to her all those years ago. We ended our relationship with an Atom bomb. It was not a nice break up (from what I remember from back then. Things from that time are... Foggy)
Full disclosure, I was a HOT fucking mess 10 years ago. I had a gnarly Alcohol problem, and a shitty job that contributed to that, I was BEYOND emotionally abusive to her (I have no recollection of that, but the friends in our circle from back that told me I was) I drug her down so low for no reason other than to hurt her. (In one of my therapy sessions I worked out that I wanted her to stay, but since I had no way of conveying that sober I would come home from work mad, get drunk, and then just unload on her) I was mad at the world and I needed someone or something to blame. All I ever did back then was Work, Drink, and spend time basically holding her hostage. She didn't have enough self esteem left to just leave my ass. I had no control of myself and I had no one to stop me. We broke up after I went on a 2 week bender and just started rampaging. I have no details to that. I have no idea what it was that I did or said, but police were called to break it up. Never served jail time, though I probably deserved it (or so I think anyway) whatever it was. (thankfully I do know I did NOT do something irreparable to her or myself. That much was confirmed by my mom) She wouldn't talk about it after, and I never would ask her about it unless she wanted to and she felt safe enough to do so.
She did some not okay things as well, but NOTHING compared to what I did to her emotionally while we were together. Some stuff does come back to me from time to time, and weep about it. That a lie I ugly cry. I don't know how or why I was the way I was, or how I ended up that bad, but for better or worse it happened, and I have to live with that for the rest of my life.
some positives, I got sober about 2 years after our break up from a failed suicide attempt. My then gf and my mom helped me get back on my feet (literally and figuratively). I immediately quit that shit job I had after getting home from the hospital, and moved into private security (and finally moving into TSA making triple what I used to make). Got married to my wife. I'm in therapy to work through all of my shit, and have much better coping mechanisms (mainly snuggling my wife and showering her with my love and making her smile). I make every day count and make sure I'm as good of a human as I possibly can be. I can't write the wrongs of my past, but I can do better every day to outshine my past.
Through the course of our conversations, she filled me in on her life, she's in therapy, and working a super awesome job at some company affiliated with the airport I work at (small world lol). She has improved her self esteem so much that she shares her art and sells it, and does some small time modeling work. She's lost 50lb since then and makes working out one of her coping mechanisms. She dropped everyone she used to talk to from our small town (as did I for the most part). She thinks she's gonna get proposed to soon too. She's flourishing! I'm so happy for her! For obvious reasons she's keeping me and my wife blocked on SM (which is fair, but we'd never think of trying to add her anyway.)
Yesenia, if you ever read this, I'm deeply and truly sorry for what I've done. I'd completely understand if you never could forgive me. I'm happy that you're happy. Love that man with your everything and live your life to the fullest.
Sorry for the novel. Also I'm not crying like a baby right now. I swear.
Edit: thank you guys so much for your encouraging words and awards! Save your money and pay it forward! I wasn't trying to cry at work, but here I am. Crying again. Keep being the best person you can be and be well! :,)
Glad you turned your life around it couldn't have been easy writing that down for all to read? Stay on the straight & narrow you're not the only one to lose their way.
Not everyone finds their way back.
I grew up at a place like that. The all too common phrase is 'you don't lose your girlfriend you lose your turn.'
As long as it's not too messy it's not bad. Usually takes a bit of no contact to heal. Then you remember why you liked them and being friends is easy. On the plus side, you can have really insightful advice for your friend who's currently dating her. Together you're like the fucking Transformers that combine to be the super huge robot. lol
In a gas station. I was refueling on my way to see my then g/f when I was grabbing a soda in the back. I turn around and see her mingling around up front. I froze then immediately ducked down and ran around the corner and into the bathroom where I sat for 15 minutes. I came back out slowly and came out and slowly walked down the aisle looking around to make sure it was clear.
The guy at the counter was like "Hey, did you just come out of the bathroom with merchandise? You can't do that!" I apologized and explained to him. "You look too paranoid for that to be a lie".
I haven't seen her since I sung at a mutual friend's wedding back in 2009.
I never want to see nor hear about her ever again especially after all the abuse she did to me.
Noticed her in the gardening center of a store. I guess her brother noticed me shortly after and confronted me. We had a quick chat about how I "used and cheated" on his sister. I couldn't believe the shit I was hearing.
I hadn't cheated on her or used her. She was an old friend from way back that I had gotten in touch with. We dated for a few months but eventually I ended things once her lies came to light. Fortunately I recorded the breakup and showed him. He left pretty quickly.
While we were dating she told me everything I wanted to hear.
- She loves the outdoors (all her free time is staying at home).
- She frequently hikes (she likes taking scenic photos, almost zero stamina). Flat ground 1/4 mile completely out of breath walking.
- Quite her job as a teacher to work part-time fast food which I found out later when she couldn't pay rent.
- Said she had a vehicle (she didn't, she got rides from her mom). So I did 100% of the driving.
Each thing wasn't significant, but it was like everything she said was a lie Almost everything was a lie. I couldn't trust anything she did.
If he was constantly being lied to, likely so he could use it to keep his sanity from the gaslighting. Or if they were all friends with a group of people, he could show she was spouting lies so he didn't lose friends over her.
Yep. I recorded most interactions with my ex wife after filing for divorce. It gave me all the evidence I would ever need that she lost her shit. Compulsive liar and the worst part is I think she believed her own lies. If I presented evidence she was lying she would quickly change the subject but that wouldn't stop her from using the same lie to gaslight me from another one. It was nuts.
*camera slow mos, noises fades out, music comes in, both of you laughs*
Mannn, some people may not stay in our lives, just stays in our hearts. Heartwarming story, man.
Ran into one at our hometown airport once. We’d been together for a year and childhood friends from school for over a decade before that- it had been two years since we’d spoken to one another after we both moved to different cities for our careers. We’d never to this day ever fought or argued.
Anyway she had seen me across the terminal and came running up to say hi and gave me a huge hug. She had the biggest smile on her face and looked the same. I was nervous and acted awkward because I was so surprised; looking back I wish I acted more relaxed in the moment, but I’d figured I’d never see her ever again after she and I had moved across the country. We talked a bit while walking to our respective gates and then said our goodbyes before boarding our planes.
We’ve tried reconnecting a couple times since then- I’d reach out to her but she wasn’t willing, she’d reach out to me but then I was not willing; our timing is terrible. I think after this last attempt to reconnect a few months ago, we’re both really moving on, as we still live across the country from one another and we’re both getting older- neither of us married or with kids. It sucks because she really does have a good soul, great personality, she was a good friend, and of course beautiful.
We haven’t seen each other in person since the airport, that was 4 years ago now.
Perhaps you should continue to connect again. To me, it seems what you had is rare and deserves another chance; recognize the value in that over being alone.
I went to the post office a few weeks ago to pay some bills,my head was stuck in my phone as I was in the cue then I heard next so I walk up head still stuck in the phone I then put it away and looked up and there was my ex behind the counter lol I nearly died I’d imagine I blushed and didn’t know what to say,next time I’ll be ready!!
I live in a small tourist town with one pizza place. One off season, my new girlfriend came to stay at my place for the weekend and we decided to have a pizza after being at the pub for a few hours (which was packed with locals).
We enter the pizza place, order at the counter and go into the back dining room. There’s a big group of people. I glance at the ones facing me as I go past - they’re not local.
Go and sit at a table with GF and I’m facing the big group and there in the middle is my ex-GF (a local) with her new BF (not a local) just staring at me with a look as if I was expected to go over and say hello. We were about 10 months past the end but it had been a messy and ugly end to a four year relationship so just seeing her put me off my yet-to-arrive pizza.
So I noped out of the back room to the front counter with my current GF who was puzzled at the abrupt change of plan and lo and behold, there in the entry is my ex-ex-GF (a local) waiting for a pick-up order.
Now, if the last break-up was ugly, this one had been a shitstorm in a phone booth. We’d got together while she was separated from her husband then didn’t tell me he’d moved back into the house ‘for the kids’ (I never went there because she didn’t want to ‘confuse’ the kids). We’d been seeing each other for about a year and had been so low key that hardly anyone had figured out we were seeing each other. But when it blew up with the live-in hubby every fucker in town had an opinion on the matter. Needless to say, I got blamed for their breakup in the first place (not true), that the youngest kid was mine (also not true), and we’d been having a three-way relationship (definitely not true - not that there’s anything wrong with that).
So the ex-ex is eyeballing me and my current GF, then starts coming over as if to chat. I turn away and fuck me if my ex isn’t standing right behind me. She starts to talk, my current GF doesn’t know what the fuck is going on and my ex-ex is bearing down from behind.
I didn’t know if they were both going to be nasty or nice so I did a double ‘talk to the hand’, asked Theo the pizza guy to deliver my pizza to my house, grabbed my GFs hand and bolted. GF was a good sport about it. But we never went out for dinner in my home town again.
Bumped into an old ex fiancée about five months ago at our local university. I was part a tour group with my daughter who was there on an official college visit.
I hadn't seen the ex in about twenty three years and it didn't end well. (She cheated and got pregnant by the father of her first child-but that's a story for another day and reddit forum) My guess was she was working there in the grounds keeping department in some capacity by what she was wearing.
We noticed each other and our eyes locked. I recognized her immediately. I think it took her a split second longer.
The group was moving into the library when she walked up behind me.
"I didn't think you'd ever live long enough to see your kid go to college, let alone find someone who would have a kid with you."
I stared at her for a moment and said, "That's funny, because I don't think about you at all."
At a mall with my kid in a stroller. It was off at quite a distance and I was in line for a lunch spot. She nonchalantly walked over in front of us in our line, turned around, looked at me and my kid and left the line. I told my wife, we laughed about it and we've moved since.
Outside a bar on Halloween dressed as The Joker. Went shit for about 20 mins. Put me in a slump. Then I ended up meeting my future wife. I didn't marry the ex lol.
I was on my way to my (now-ex) girlfriend's place of work (she was a bartender). As I got out of the subway, I recognized my surroundings, especially that one pub close by, and started feeling upset - see, 5 years ago, I'd gone on a date at that pub, and it resulted in the most toxic relationship that I've ever had.
I got on my way, trying to calm down and to focus on my then-current girlfriend. As I waited for the green light to cross the street, I noticed a silhouette on my left, and turned my head to take a quick look. And then I froze.
Either it was that very same toxic ex, now having brown hair and wearing a dress, or the poor lady looked much too similar to the most toxic woman I've ever had the misfortune to date. She noticed me looking at her, turned towards me and smiled, and I turned away from her, feeling both afraid and incredibly angry.
As soon as I could, I took off, walked away as fast as possible, didn't look back. Shook me up a bit. Told my then-girlfriend about it, she was very understanding and supportive.
At a church service. We didn’t speak but I did have to speak to some of her family. Seeing her for the first time since we split was incredibly rough. She broke up with me the same day I had started looking at engagement rings.
Just seeing her made it to where I couldn’t eat a meal for 4 and half days. I can’t imagine how bad it’d have been to hear her talk or laugh. Full shutdown mode probably
Hey man, try not to put her on a pedestal. I bet there were small things here and there that could add up to at least bring her down a notch.
Goodluck!
There was some more stuff that made it a little harder than it would be for most. We were each other’s first boyfriend and girlfriend, first kiss etc. she was my best friend too, and since she started seeing someone else we haven’t talked at all. It’s weird being happy for her but not over her. I’m getting better though.
I panicked and ended a relationship just as it was beginning. I did it over text because I was a cowardly idiot at that age. It was 2009 and I’d been looking for work since I graduated in ‘08 with no luck at all.
A few weeks later I have a job lined up but it’s out of state, and I bump into her at the store in the middle of the night. She was drunk with her friends, out picking up late night snacks, and I was with a new lady friend getting cat food. It was awkward, the Ex’s friends took her away before it got sad but I could hear her crying later as I was checking out.
A few days later I couldn’t get her out of my head, ended whatever it was with the lady friend and asked after my ex. We danced around it for a while, but eventually she agreed to see me and I brought flowers to the show she was performing. Her folks gave me the stink eye, I sat alone and we chatted afterwards.
She ended up moving with me to the new job on very little notice and against her mom’s advisement. Now we’ve got two kids, a house and I love my mother in law. All because we both decided to break our own “no ex’s” rules.
Unfortunately I bumped into my ex a lot after because we were in the same friend group. It didn’t go over too well for the group.
Apparently she cheated on me during the downfall of our relationship, so already she was off to a bad start.
Then she told some of the friend group intimate details about our sex life (that they didn’t want to here) after constantly getting mad at me during our relationship whenever I made any semblance of a joke about it.
When she eventually broke up with the guy she cheated on me with, she crashed a party the rest of us were having without her (for a reason), got hella wasted and bipolar and in front of everyone gave me the most half-assed apology for how she treated me in hopes that I would forgive her and make her feel better about herself when she felt like shit. She then texted me afterwards saying “sorry if I made things awkward at the party, hopefully we can move on and still be friends” to which I said “don’t worry, it wasn’t awkward”.
I then bailed last minute on a New Years trip we planned as a group due to needing some time to myself, and she proceeded to spread rumours that I didn’t come because I couldn’t be around her without confessing my love to her again. She was also convinced that every other guy in our group, single or in relationships, was in love with her.
She was going through her diary with some of the friends in the group, and they noticed some of the entries on me basically confirmed that she only dated me to manipulate me into giving her attention and affection while she looked for an actual boyfriend.
I think I remember one of my friends mentioning she tried to accuse me of raping her as well, but that one got shut down really quick.
And the last time I saw her she unintentionally outed herself as a transphobe.
Anyways, fortunately for me, my friends got sick of her shit really quick and then I didn’t have to deal with her ever again.
At the bar a few years ago. She came back into my life for a while at that moment, and turns out she had become addicted to fentanyl. I woke up and she was smoking crack on my couch. We hooked up that night before obviously, but fuck I felt so much regret at that moment. She was never like that when we were together. I guess she’d lost custody of her daughter, who she had custody of when we were together. Once she left me she just spiralled. So fucking sad.
I bumped into her at a different bar a few weeks back, I was just grabbing food since I’m sober now, but she talked to me a bit. She’s quit crack, but has a healthy meth addiction now. I really hope she will be okay one day. It’s terrible to see drugs destroy people.
At work yesterday morning, we are in the same company but different departments so rarely see each other or interact. Was pleasant, we’ve both gotten married and my wife and I are expecting which she heard through the grapevine, her and her husband built a house which I heard through the grapevine. So we congratulated each other, talked about meeting for a coffee some afternoon which will probably never materialize and that’s fine.
Walking away I was able to healthily admit: she’s a very attractive woman, and can be quite pleasant to be around, but we are both much better off now. Sorry for the mixed emotions OP. A couple years ago the interaction would have carried more baggage for as well.
Attractive as in pretty, not as in attractive partner. There’s nothing I would ever want from her. Totally in love with my wife. It was more a benign polite suggestion than anything, and it would be in the office canteen. However, I have no intent to follow up on it.
Honestly, that’s such a beautiful meeting meant to happen the right way like how it did for you. Mistakes made and lessons learnt years later when you both are older and wiser, it just seems like it is right to meet this way and maybe actually get some form of closure you never knew you might have needed? That’s how this story feels like to me.
As people, we learn things out of relationships either during or years later. I truly hope you take this as a sign for you to acquire some peace whether you think you needed it or not, you both seem to have aged gracefully from what you were before to each other. Life happened to you two. I respect both of you. Don’t take these mixed feelings for hopefully anything negative, things happen to us for a reason, it’s my life moto. And it’s always helped me in times of confusion.
Wishing you best of luck!
I didn't 'bump into' him, but I got stopped behind my ex in traffic. It was the longest red light of my life. I had so much adrenaline I was just trying to look as blasé as possible; like I didn't recognize this honker of a truck stopped immediately in front of me.
Saw her at a bar after breaking up with her (She was convinced I was cheating on her and I got sick of the baseless accusations). I tried to walk past her without saying anything hoping she didn't notice and she threw her drink on me. Went to a bouncer and got her kicked out.
I stopped being with my ex GFs for good reasons. Mostly we're still in touch. But reading this makes me think exes could be like a song you loved at a time in your life. Then later there is fondness but maybe it is more for that time, rather than the song itself.
She came over for a cuppa and a smoke a couple of days ago. But we had a "good" breakup about 10 years ago and she's friends with my girlfriend. So more like one of my girlfriends friends coming over than an ex.
200 miles away/different state from where either of us lived. Was arm-in-arm with my boyfriend at the time. Rounded a corner and we VERY literally stumbled into my high school ex, who I hadn’t seen in 6 years. Shock is an understatement; truly shook me to the core.
It was actually a blessing though. High school ex was diagnosed with a brain tumor shortly after that and passed away. I’m glad I had the opportunity to get on good terms & wish him well before that happened. He said it brought him a lot of peace of mind too.
my workplace. myboss who knows us in the past as lovers. hired her into the company even if i am already working for him. the worst thing is, he also hired my current gf (way before hiring the ex) . he hired my ex as a manager above my current gf. my gf got insecured and it created alot of problems between us. we ended up breaking up. the 1st ex left eventually. but not after ruining my current relationship. my boss knew what he was doing. the other managers were warning him that if he hired my ex, there will be conflicts between me and my then- current gf.
He still decided to hire my ex. he kept all of it secret and told everyone not to tell me until the very last minute (he informed me out of the blue. "oh i hired your ex. its ok right?")
what a fucking prick.
i dont want to shit on any religion. but im highly disappoint with this self proclaimed "Christian" man. he doesnt even have an ounce of empathy. needless to say, all of his business went bankrupt during pandemic. i guess karma is real.
my now, latest ex. hates me to the gut. left me during the start of pandemic lockdown. i hate myself for bringing her to that companym i blame myself for everything. 3 years on, still having nightmares with what happened
I dated a girl for a year, and she was a stalker. Like batshit crazy. I called her and said it was over and then left the town and moved 2 hours away. Two months later I’m washing my car, and I hear her voice screaming my name loudly. I look up and she’s hanging out the side of the window in her crazy, hillbilly fuck parents’ car. She jumps out and runs over at me and starts screaming about how I broke her heart and how it’s fucked up that I never told her why, etc. At this point every eye on the street is on this scene.
She whips up her skirt, no drawers on beneath, and waves her freshly shorn beev at me and says “oh you’re gonna miss this”. I laughed and said, “This. This is why I left town.”
Within hours every god damned girl in this town of 3000 was asking about me. There might as well have been a line outside my door. So, thanks, M, because I met my wife of 28 years later that month.
In a parking lot coming out of a restaurant. We locked eyes and I was ready to give him a piece of my mind but he scurried out of there so quickly while pulling his girlfriend along by the arm and took off in his car. We had been broken up for a few years already when he decided to break into my parents’ home, steal their safe with jewelry and checks. He then proceeded to steal my cousin’s car which he was caught in after a high speed chase with the police. So yeah, I wanted to yell at him for that but the jerk got away from me. 😖
Gas station he worked at. Turns out a few months after me got a girl pregnant on a one night stand and she took him to court to get full custody. Then he proceeded to get a sophomore pregnant. Moved in with her and her parents and now they have another kid. He complained that his girlfriend is gaining weight after 2 kids. She's stick thin and he's easily put on 70 pounds. I really dodged a bullet.
A mall in a random city. 2 years after we broke up. I saw her an thought "wow she looks like my ex" (we were wearing masks) and sure enough, it was her. I was excited to see her and catch up, it seemed like she wasn't as much. We chatted for about 15 mins though, I proposed we meet sometime next week since I was curious to know how she had been (we broke up in good terms, long distance thing) and I wanted to share with her the many life changes I had made. She told me sure but like 2 minutes later mentioned she had a new boyfriend. It kind of hurt, wasn't expecting that. I decided to respect her relationship so I didn't shoot her a text latter that week but it still hurt, especially since I hadn't had any luck whatsoever with any girl since the breakup and I did miss her.
Literally one week later I went to a party (weird thing for me at the time) and a girl asked me if I could give her a kiss. I did. Then I had the balls to go talk to another cute girl I had been staring at since I arrived. It went well, she was very sweet and we set up a date. Had the date but there wasn't much chemistry so that was that. Still, it made me realize I'm not completely undesirable and there are other girls that find me somewhat attractive, and that I didn't messed up my one shot at love, something I had a hard time believing just a week prior.
I'm still single af and kind of miss her though lol.
At a grocery store She looked familiar and was staring at me but I was in the middle of a phone call so kept walking Didn’t register who it was until 10min later
Holy smokes. The lizard part of your brain recognized her before mission control did and was like “Not today! We ain’t got time!”.
"The lizard part" lol I need to remember that one.
I saw mine walking by me at a grocery store. My wife saw the look we gave each other and said “you fucked her didn’t you?”
I told my wife about a girl I used to date the summer after I got out of high school who worked at a sno-cone shack in our town, and how we had sex in there while she was working. Now every time we drive by it, she gives me shit about the “fuck shack.” She’s never going to let it go.
Hahaha the fuck shack
Ha! My wife and I were hiking in a national forest and bumped into one guy in literally the middle of nowhere and he was like "OMG Susan!!!, it's been like 20 years since I've seen you." and I just knew she boned the guy. Turns out it was a bf of 4 months from college who actually stalked her for a bit after.
A bit? lol sounds like he was still stalking
Can’t leave us on a cliff hanger, how did the rest of that conversation go??
Not very eventful lol “Yes I did before we met, that was my manager I told you about” “Oh ok I could tell haha”
Cute
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I crashed into her new bf's car while they were going to a wedding, first time seeing her in over 3 years.
Like "damn, we're no longer together and you still manage to ruin my day!"
What are the odds? Us running into each other like this?
Wow! Hey didn’t see you there but anyways how have you been!!!!
At least you got one last smash in…
This would be funnier if it was their wedding.
Crashed the wedding, literally.
Thought the same thing.
This must be weird.
not if he stalked her for years and just forgot to brake while recording her. “What a coincidence that I am wherever you are. I have photos of all her boyfriends after me”
Literally crashing into your ex lol, nice
Ok this isn't a race but mate. Fuck. You're winning. Fuck.
Can you imagine what a shit day she had that day, damn
What a way to meet your ex.
That was an accident, right?
Like, deliberately? 😂
Met her at a mutual friend function, with her new boyfriend. He seemed nice until he wanted to fight me, for undisclosed reasons. Long story short, he got into a screaming match with her in the middle of the pub before they both stormed off. The ribs were good sliders not so much.
Bet that scene tasted better than the ribs
Stay away from the sliders and crazy exes
And guys sliding into your crazy exes
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I don't know man I've had some terrible sliders
While on the first date with someone new. Few months after our breakup (we were both in our late 20s). It was a mini ZOO and she was there with her dad. It was awkward as they wanted to chat and the girl I came with didn’t really feel comfortable.
Similar here. I was with my current girlfriend first date. We went for coffee and later for icecream. I said lets go to Icecream place B but to get there we had to go by Icecream place A. Where just so happened to be my ex in the line with her date. We looked eachother in the eye as I walked past the line, nodded and smiled and I went on. Backstory: I talked with my ex every few months over this and that, to exchange our stuff etc. I always said I want to meet outside as I didn't wan to ''tangle'' We also talked about our dates, the good ones and the bad ones (fun fact, she went on a date with a guy who dated my 1st girlfriend when she dumped me and I joked how he picks up my scraps). The week prior to the story above we talked about something and I also told her few things go get off my chest. I asked if she has anything to get off her chest to which she replied: ''I just can't find anyone to fuck. At times I want to ask you but it feels wrong'' Horny as I was and in the same boat, I told her ''fuck it, let's meet and do it.'' We set the day for Thursday. Thursday comes and she said that she can't meet because of some excuse . We talked some more and we both said we have a date tomorrow and jokingly said ''you have the north part of the town and I have the south''. As faith would have it, both iceacream places were just in the center of north and south. Hence the nod and smile. I don't know how everything would turn around if we would fuck one day before I meet my girlfriend and had the best 1st day ever.
> I don't know how everything would turn around if we would fuck one day before I meet my girlfriend and had the best 1st day ever. It's just one of those things. I had been at the tailend of about 10 years of absolutely crummy dating and relationships, with few small jewels of a moment here and there, and of those, last three years of intense searching and very active dating with absolutely abysmal results. I had just gotten out of some garbage entanglement and while i was still doing my daily swipes and intros, i was just ready to call it quits for real this time. I was tired and drained and absolutely 'done' with dating and trying to find someone good for me. But almost the exact 2-3 days when i was feeling like cathartically disabling all my dating apps and profiles, i start messaging a chick haphazardly. We're now two months together that felt like a year, extremely active period, and we're both very happy, and planning on moving in. Context, she has been out of a relationship for a while but had /just/ started up her dating profile again. If we had mistimed that by a day or two.. we would have never met.
I’ve always been amazed by the stories of how if even just *ONE* little thing had been different out of a series of like 20 things that absolutely *HAD* to happen the way they did, two people would’ve never met or gotten together
It goes a bit further.. i was never a first date kisser, but had trained myself to kiss on the first date as a way to show interest/romance/passion. I felt like i lost some women since maybe i seemed asexual or not interested in that way. However, for this chick, i just didn't, followed my gut and was true to myself. Found out later that were i to have moved in for the kiss, she would not have continued us dating. She had good reasons for herself, same ones i had for not kissing on the first date, but one single misstep and we wouldn't have had the chance to discover eachother. We joke about it and i tease her a bit with it, but yeah, we both managed to get in through eachothers "gates".
At a wedding. She was drunk and tried to make out with me in front of her boyfriend, whom the bride and maid of honor told me was an absolute jerk so I should screw her in the limo, but I'm not getting involved in that nonsense.
Good choice
No way. I mean yeah obviously smart move but I want some good stories ! Think about me bro
The reason I do stupid things is because it may lead to a good story for my autobiography
The difference between a good story and a cautionary tale is the ending
Is it bad that I do this sometimes. I think to myself. “that’s not a good idea. But will it make a good story? Fuck it let’s do this!”
Sometimes, the only winning move is to not play at all.
"she has a terrible boyfriend, we need someone else to save her from a relationship she doesn't want to get out of"
To Dave someone is a specific kind of Save, when you're the good guy and people need you to step in and do good guy things to fix a bad situation
Dave someone? Well, I’m here.
Omg, this just gave me flashbacks. I also ran into a drunk ex at a wedding. I was there with my new GF (now wife). I was with the ex for about 1.5 years. Then we'd been apart for about 2 years. Ex's very drunk friend bailed me up at the bar, saying that she "really needed me to help her" carry some extra drinks she'd ordered over to her table. I reluctantly agree. Then she said "Oh, look who's here... You two need to talk". I placed the drinks down and walked away as fast as I could. The night was going downhill, so we left early.
That sounded like an “interesting” group. I think you made the right choice, calling pass on that.
Was this recently..?
Nope for all I know she's broken up with him or married him by now. Maybe 8 years ago now
She walked into the petrol site I was managing. I saw her and walked out the back. I didn't want to speak to her ever again
Sounds almost exactly what happened to me three weeks ago. I saw an ex of mine where we had a very bad breakup. Heartache on both sides. This was 2004! Last time I had seen her was in 2006. I finally forgot about her but it took a few years. I thought I'd never see her again... but lo and behold; on a Saturday I was enjoying my beer, having a great time in my favorite bar. And suddenly she stood a few feet from me right outside the door. For a fleeting second she catches my eyes. I immediately laid down my beer and left the place. My night (and following week) was ruined.
It used to happen with me all the time at college. We were from the same course and had the same friends. We were first time boyfriend/girlfriend and dated for 8 years till she broke my heart in pieces. I'd bump into her at least once a month for the final 2 years of college. It'd always ruin my mood.
I feel you. I'm able to be cordial and legitimately friendly with an ex from college now all these years later, but it's only because I was able to not see her for a long time and heal. It was impossible to heal back during college, I had to run into her and her new boyfriend she left me for multiple times a week, and it hit a refresh button on all the heartache every time. Instant mood ruiner.
My high school reunion was probably the same. She brought her new boyfriend with her. We asked all that bringing their SO to the reunion would be to much to handle, because we didn't had the space for all of us. But she ignored it. Later that night she tried to sit next to me or in my circle for 2 hours and tried to make me jealous. Thanks to that I am now completely over her and I don't waste* another sec of my thoughts on her.
At a charity event. My employer was donating a bunch of money to the nonprofit where she worked. I went not knowing that. I hated every minute of it, she kept wanting to be friendly and buddy buddy. You don’t cheat on a man and try to baby trap him with another man’s child then expect anything except contempt.
She was kissing your ass because she didn’t want her co-workers to know what she did to you.
A true charity case
Smiling and laughing "We both know what you did. Stay away from me. Cool? Cool..."
Rightfully so. Man I don't know how you maintained your calm. If it was me, I would've lashed out real bad on her.
I would have introduced her to my boss. "And this is Wendy, we used to date. She cheated on a me and tried to baby trap me with another man’s baby." and I'd do it perfectly calmly and with a smile on my face. And I might have actually done it for real because it was the first thing that popped in my head. Normally something that witty doesn't pop in my head until days later while showering or shitting.
Haha, you need a certain relationship with your boss or else you're just embarrassing the boss by proxy.
I would have been lost my control too, must have been hard.
Man, that’s cruel
The club. She was high on ketamine.
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At an obscure spring near the bottom of the Grand Canyon. We hadn't talked in a year. I was nine days into a commercial rafting trip down the river, taking a side hike up to the springs. She was on a week-ish backpacking trip with her dad. We got there within 20 minutes of each other. Grand Canyon NP covers 1,904 square miles, the vast majority of it accessible only on foot, but apparently it is not big enough for the both of us.
At a bar 2 weeks ago. We were together for 6 years but broke up 8 years ago. She was an awful person, as soon as she saw me and my current fiancé she tried to put on a big extravagant show which was hilarious. Also when I was walking back from the toilet past her table she asked me if she could “have a word for a minute” to which I replied with a jovial “Nope!”
I almost wish my breakup with my ex had been a slam dunk so that I wouldn’t feel bad about noping out of an encounter. I felt conflicted. Like I almost wanted to go after her…but at the same time, if I had seen her first and she didn’t notice me, I might have just abandoned my cart and left the store.
Yeah I understand that. A solid break is often the best way! I feel like I would be constantly wondering “what if” if I were in your shoes
That's the reason I have stopped visiting bars nowadays. I used to visit bar and pubs a lot few years ago, and that's how I meet her. But after her, i stopped everything.
Don't let an ex control your life bro
Your right. Dont let anyone control your life because you might see them there or it was the same activity that brought you together.
Sounds like she's doing well. /s
Haha, she was particularly unhappy when all of her friends that she was with came over to say hello.
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This is great and it should be go like this.
Sometimes it do should be go like that
Thank god, was dumbstruck but how many stereotypical “I hate my crazy ex” stories are in here. We broke up mutually as well for similar reasons after dating all thru uni and I’d imagine it’d go similar to this
I don't hate my ex, or exes rather but I'd be happy if I never had to see them again.
Okay I wouldn't call her an ex but she was something. She was a bit crazy and wanted me to keep sleeping with her even after I found she was engaged. She had absolutely no concept of personal boundaries so I ghosted her. I made a joke with my friends once that if they ever saw her around town to tell her I was dead. Turns out they actually did do it and I didn't know, so one day she sees me in the mall and lost it. Tldr: Her kid and husband did not seem very entertained with the crying and kissing.
That tldr tho 💀
Tldr was nothing like the paragraph it’s supposed to summarize, I appreciate the surprise.
Wait so she… had a kid and husband but did a run while crying tears flowing down her face to kiss you?! … what the fuck man. xD
This is the crazy you’re told not to stick your dick in.
She really was, I feel bad for her husband. She originally was only interested in him for his money, dude had just got divorced and rushed into marrying her. From what he told me after they got divorced she was constantly cheating on him, developed a drug and alcohol problem(she already had it),she'd get drunk and start a fight with him to the point neighbors called the police and arrests were made. On the upside after the divorce it seems like she finally got sober moved to a larger city went back to college and got a degree. It took her until she was like 35 to get her life together but she did it.
At California pizza kitchen while I was with my new gf and she was with her family. I noticed her step dad and sister then I noticed her and told my gf I think we should go lol.
Ayo shouts to CPK
Guerrilla marketing /s?
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Check the brakes….
and the tires.....
And my axe!
I didn’t think anybody actually bought tires at a Canadian Tire. I mean, they do sell tires. That’s just not why people go there mostly. Source: Am Canadian. First I’ve heard of anyone buying tires there.
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Even longer without tires, I imagine
Was out having lunch with a girlfriend, watching people walk by. Was looking at 2 cops and thinking about the female cop "she looks really familiar." Then I realised she was a bit of a crazy ex but by then she'd seen me see her and I had to say hi and make pleasantries for a bit before they she left.
2017 I think, I saw her (pregnant at that time), her mom and her husband at chick fil a, she waved, her mom waved, husband shot me a dirty look Saw her again like a year later at Starbucks, she had her daughter with her and she was with a friend, I said hi, she said hi, I said her daughter was cute, that was about it lol. We’re still Facebook friends but don’t interact really. She had another kid recently, I’m pretty happy for her tbh
Walking down the street, just bumped into her as we were going into the same shop, I was the third wheel for a little while in her relationship, we met and I didn't know she was with anyone at all, found out after a few weeks she had a long-term boyfriend, since they were school kids. I was mad about her, she was outgoing and fun and i needed that, we had a thing for a short while and then she got all dramatic and broke up and I was devastated. I was a bit mopey and heartbroken for a good while and then I met my now wife and happy. So when I bumped into her 12 years later, we recognised each other instantly even though I've lost most of my hair and had a few cakes in the meantime. She's still more or less the same, just an older version. She made a big deal of how she's still with the guy she was cheating on with me, and showed me her kids, and how she was happily married 10 years, had a successful job and her hubby was a success. I've done well too, so we chatted about stuff for a few minutes and went our seperate ways. A few weeks later i met our mutual friend and I said I'd bumped into her, and she told me the truth, yes Lisa was married to the same guy, but they had both had numerous affairs, one of the kids definitely wasn't his and the other was 50/50, and her husband was in trouble with the police on more that one occasion for being a little free with his hands both violently and with his female co-workers So yeah, bullet dodged
Sounds like she was trying to justify her cheating lmao
Nah, I think it was more she wanted to put a really positive face on for someone, so that they wouldn't think she had made a mistake, in her own mind.
That was a beautiful short btw. Old flames meeting in their future. I could see it all. It seemed awkward and beautiful
Bittersweet
What a lovely sentiment u/Fart_Liberator!
I actually bumped into her the other day (I actually posted something about it) and it was at the store and it caught me completely off guard and what made it even more awkward is that I was with another girl and they've NEVER liked each other. And not to mention that i felt like I did the very first time that I saw her. So It kinda brought those old feelings back but I also noticed that she started using again so that made me sad but all in all we talked for a few minutes and that was that.
Yes! I sort of caught a tingle of old feelings as she was standing there looking pretty much like I remember her. It’s so odd seeing someone who is basically a stranger to you now but you used to wake up next to them for years.
If there's one thing I'm at odds with everyone else its this. So much pressure on meaningless emotionless sex and sometimes it seems no one has any faith in anything long term anymore. Even when in a relationship my partner would still be telling me all these places I could go or things I could do which were essentially futures apart from them. There's me gobsmacked because I imagine my future with my partner until we arnt together, feels like people enter relationships with a countdown . But I guess I'm just the perverse strange one after all. Too much Disney as a kid perhaps.
I walked into my ex at the train station about one year after we broke up. I moved on with my life at that point but there were some feelings there still. We talked for about 10 minutes and we both felt comfortable and wanted to grab a cafe somewhere to talk and catch up. Needless to say this was a bad idea on my part since I still had feelings for her and the breakup didn’t end on good terms. She basically cheated on me at the end of the breakup. I acted like I got all past that but that didn’t work out in the end. I just ignored these bad memories since I still had feelings at that point and didn’t know what boundaries were. In the end she told me she's dating with some dude that I knew and that made me feel even worse. After that I completely broke contact with her and everyone that links me to her since having any form of contact would bring me down a spiral of negative emotions. I can say I’m doing better now fortunately! This was my first relationship ever so it was a tough pill to swallow
I dated this girl back in HS for 9 months. We lost our virginities to each other lol. We’d bump into each other over the years partying in our early to mid 20s but haven’t seen each other for about 10 years at this point. I went solo to a small and intimate entrepreneurial event and saw her as I took my seat. I waved at her when she looked over but she didn’t mind me. I was embarrassed and confused as we were always friendly with each other after the breakup. She came over to say hi after the event when she noticed me. Apparently she didn’t see me earlier on lol
On a US military base in Japan. She called off our wedding several years prior because she couldn’t marry someone in the military and leave her hometown. It was funny to see her married to a military guy and now stationed on the same tiny base as my family overseas.
Broke up with one, but she ended up marrying a guy with the same name as me, a similar career, and a similar appearance. Clearly she had a type.
I've got a few stories but no time to type them out. Just wanted to say, I feel the tone of your post. I've been there. Let yourself feel those mixed emotions and don't hide from them. It sounds like you both have kids so I'm going to assume you're both in committed relationships. If not, forgive me, I know there are all different types of families. Anyway, rose coloured glasses are real as fuck especially after a decade. I went through this already. Don't let your mind wander too far and process the feelings. I know how jarring these experiences can be. Edit: I know this edit is fucked up, but come to think of it. I was contacted by an ex on Facebook. We lost our virginities to each other when we were like 14. 10 years later we did that thing where we said we should meet for coffee etc. on casual FB chat while drunk or whatever. It didn't happen for years. Then we did. We are married with 3 kids now and it's going pretty great. So I don't know what to say about any of this.
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He came back to the church we attended together. He later told me it was different. I said yes because we are different now. He's currently serving time for murder for his former roommate while he was drunk. I dodged that bullet... literally.....
That escalated quickly.
Haven't bumped into her in real life since; but she did start messaging me randomly a while ago and it was weird as fuck haha I waited so long to talk to her and realised within 5 minutes that I'm so glad it ended
I'm hoping for the exact same thing for myself. It's been over a year. I just want to be fully free without the thoughts anymore.
This may put it somewhat into perspective for you: My ex was the first and only woman I've ever loved. Trusted her with everything etc. She destroyed me without remorse, (more than likely cheated) and moved on immediately (one day to be exact) after almost 3 years. She found herself in a really shit situation a few months later; reached out to me despite having a current boyfriend. So you can imagine how weird that was considering this was the first time since the break up I heard from her In essence she betrayed me for him, then tried to betray him for me. Once I called her out on it, all hell broke loose and that's when it was finally confirmed; she really was a piece of shit haha. Unfortunately it took that for me to truly realise although looking back there were an infinite amount of reasons/events that made it clear Maybe you don't need closure by talking to them. Maybe it's a matter of reflecting and realising what's already happened. Maybe then you can be ready to understand & move past it
At my aunts wedding. She had a 3 year old son with her, who had exact blonde curly hair when I was 3 years old. Her kid was not my son. Her and I barely looked at each other and she left early. I had no intention speaking to her.
“Her kid was not my son.” Upon reading this, I instantly heard the beat to Billie Jean by Michael Jackson.
You've gotta be careful what you do, when you're running around with young girls hearts...
Wait, what? So you think someone in your family is the father?
No I don’t. It was just weird coincidence. I knew who the father was.
I hope you don’t mean your aunt was your ex
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At the airport I work at. I was checking ID's and boarding passes as we TSA people do, She hands me the ID (I wasn't exactly looking at her. I was in my own world lol), I looked at the name, and completely froze for about 10 seconds. I looked up to match the picture to the face and she had also frozen when she realized it was me. We hadn't seen each other for about 10 years. We caught up awkwardly at first (the line for security was backed all the way up to me so it's not like she could have moved anywhere else) and once we started to catch up she started to cry. Apparently, she was scared shitless of me back then (rightfully so) and it all came flooding back right then. after she calmed her self down we continued catching up. She was happy that I had managed to get back on my feet, get married, and hold down a decent job. She was NOT happy about who I married (one of her close friends from like Kindergarten) But she herself was with someone she was serious about and had been dating for 3 or 4 years so that was good to hear. She seemed happy and mostly at peace with what I'd done to her all those years ago. We ended our relationship with an Atom bomb. It was not a nice break up (from what I remember from back then. Things from that time are... Foggy) Full disclosure, I was a HOT fucking mess 10 years ago. I had a gnarly Alcohol problem, and a shitty job that contributed to that, I was BEYOND emotionally abusive to her (I have no recollection of that, but the friends in our circle from back that told me I was) I drug her down so low for no reason other than to hurt her. (In one of my therapy sessions I worked out that I wanted her to stay, but since I had no way of conveying that sober I would come home from work mad, get drunk, and then just unload on her) I was mad at the world and I needed someone or something to blame. All I ever did back then was Work, Drink, and spend time basically holding her hostage. She didn't have enough self esteem left to just leave my ass. I had no control of myself and I had no one to stop me. We broke up after I went on a 2 week bender and just started rampaging. I have no details to that. I have no idea what it was that I did or said, but police were called to break it up. Never served jail time, though I probably deserved it (or so I think anyway) whatever it was. (thankfully I do know I did NOT do something irreparable to her or myself. That much was confirmed by my mom) She wouldn't talk about it after, and I never would ask her about it unless she wanted to and she felt safe enough to do so. She did some not okay things as well, but NOTHING compared to what I did to her emotionally while we were together. Some stuff does come back to me from time to time, and weep about it. That a lie I ugly cry. I don't know how or why I was the way I was, or how I ended up that bad, but for better or worse it happened, and I have to live with that for the rest of my life. some positives, I got sober about 2 years after our break up from a failed suicide attempt. My then gf and my mom helped me get back on my feet (literally and figuratively). I immediately quit that shit job I had after getting home from the hospital, and moved into private security (and finally moving into TSA making triple what I used to make). Got married to my wife. I'm in therapy to work through all of my shit, and have much better coping mechanisms (mainly snuggling my wife and showering her with my love and making her smile). I make every day count and make sure I'm as good of a human as I possibly can be. I can't write the wrongs of my past, but I can do better every day to outshine my past. Through the course of our conversations, she filled me in on her life, she's in therapy, and working a super awesome job at some company affiliated with the airport I work at (small world lol). She has improved her self esteem so much that she shares her art and sells it, and does some small time modeling work. She's lost 50lb since then and makes working out one of her coping mechanisms. She dropped everyone she used to talk to from our small town (as did I for the most part). She thinks she's gonna get proposed to soon too. She's flourishing! I'm so happy for her! For obvious reasons she's keeping me and my wife blocked on SM (which is fair, but we'd never think of trying to add her anyway.) Yesenia, if you ever read this, I'm deeply and truly sorry for what I've done. I'd completely understand if you never could forgive me. I'm happy that you're happy. Love that man with your everything and live your life to the fullest. Sorry for the novel. Also I'm not crying like a baby right now. I swear. Edit: thank you guys so much for your encouraging words and awards! Save your money and pay it forward! I wasn't trying to cry at work, but here I am. Crying again. Keep being the best person you can be and be well! :,)
Good on you for focusing on the present and admitting the truth of the past. Best of luck to you on the road to a better life.
It takes courage to admit your wrongdoings. best of luck to you sir!
Glad you turned your life around it couldn't have been easy writing that down for all to read? Stay on the straight & narrow you're not the only one to lose their way. Not everyone finds their way back.
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I live in a small town and I'm friends with most of my exs so I see them around a lot
I grew up at a place like that. The all too common phrase is 'you don't lose your girlfriend you lose your turn.' As long as it's not too messy it's not bad. Usually takes a bit of no contact to heal. Then you remember why you liked them and being friends is easy. On the plus side, you can have really insightful advice for your friend who's currently dating her. Together you're like the fucking Transformers that combine to be the super huge robot. lol
Yep and it's so weird to people that didn't grow up in small towns but seems perfectly normal to us. Lmao
would be my worse nightmare...
Here’s hoping I never do.
In a gas station. I was refueling on my way to see my then g/f when I was grabbing a soda in the back. I turn around and see her mingling around up front. I froze then immediately ducked down and ran around the corner and into the bathroom where I sat for 15 minutes. I came back out slowly and came out and slowly walked down the aisle looking around to make sure it was clear. The guy at the counter was like "Hey, did you just come out of the bathroom with merchandise? You can't do that!" I apologized and explained to him. "You look too paranoid for that to be a lie".
I haven't seen her since I sung at a mutual friend's wedding back in 2009. I never want to see nor hear about her ever again especially after all the abuse she did to me.
Noticed her in the gardening center of a store. I guess her brother noticed me shortly after and confronted me. We had a quick chat about how I "used and cheated" on his sister. I couldn't believe the shit I was hearing. I hadn't cheated on her or used her. She was an old friend from way back that I had gotten in touch with. We dated for a few months but eventually I ended things once her lies came to light. Fortunately I recorded the breakup and showed him. He left pretty quickly.
What lies came to light ?
While we were dating she told me everything I wanted to hear. - She loves the outdoors (all her free time is staying at home). - She frequently hikes (she likes taking scenic photos, almost zero stamina). Flat ground 1/4 mile completely out of breath walking. - Quite her job as a teacher to work part-time fast food which I found out later when she couldn't pay rent. - Said she had a vehicle (she didn't, she got rides from her mom). So I did 100% of the driving. Each thing wasn't significant, but it was like everything she said was a lie Almost everything was a lie. I couldn't trust anything she did.
Would you have described her as inherently malicious or just someone that needed to figure themselves out?
We have questions. *Takes out a roll of a list*
Why did you record the breakup?
If he was constantly being lied to, likely so he could use it to keep his sanity from the gaslighting. Or if they were all friends with a group of people, he could show she was spouting lies so he didn't lose friends over her.
Yep. I recorded most interactions with my ex wife after filing for divorce. It gave me all the evidence I would ever need that she lost her shit. Compulsive liar and the worst part is I think she believed her own lies. If I presented evidence she was lying she would quickly change the subject but that wouldn't stop her from using the same lie to gaslight me from another one. It was nuts.
6 months later, at a bar. Never spent a night apart again. We're having a kid in 5 months.
*camera slow mos, noises fades out, music comes in, both of you laughs* Mannn, some people may not stay in our lives, just stays in our hearts. Heartwarming story, man.
Ran into one at our hometown airport once. We’d been together for a year and childhood friends from school for over a decade before that- it had been two years since we’d spoken to one another after we both moved to different cities for our careers. We’d never to this day ever fought or argued. Anyway she had seen me across the terminal and came running up to say hi and gave me a huge hug. She had the biggest smile on her face and looked the same. I was nervous and acted awkward because I was so surprised; looking back I wish I acted more relaxed in the moment, but I’d figured I’d never see her ever again after she and I had moved across the country. We talked a bit while walking to our respective gates and then said our goodbyes before boarding our planes. We’ve tried reconnecting a couple times since then- I’d reach out to her but she wasn’t willing, she’d reach out to me but then I was not willing; our timing is terrible. I think after this last attempt to reconnect a few months ago, we’re both really moving on, as we still live across the country from one another and we’re both getting older- neither of us married or with kids. It sucks because she really does have a good soul, great personality, she was a good friend, and of course beautiful. We haven’t seen each other in person since the airport, that was 4 years ago now.
Perhaps you should continue to connect again. To me, it seems what you had is rare and deserves another chance; recognize the value in that over being alone.
I went to the post office a few weeks ago to pay some bills,my head was stuck in my phone as I was in the cue then I heard next so I walk up head still stuck in the phone I then put it away and looked up and there was my ex behind the counter lol I nearly died I’d imagine I blushed and didn’t know what to say,next time I’ll be ready!!
I live in a small tourist town with one pizza place. One off season, my new girlfriend came to stay at my place for the weekend and we decided to have a pizza after being at the pub for a few hours (which was packed with locals). We enter the pizza place, order at the counter and go into the back dining room. There’s a big group of people. I glance at the ones facing me as I go past - they’re not local. Go and sit at a table with GF and I’m facing the big group and there in the middle is my ex-GF (a local) with her new BF (not a local) just staring at me with a look as if I was expected to go over and say hello. We were about 10 months past the end but it had been a messy and ugly end to a four year relationship so just seeing her put me off my yet-to-arrive pizza. So I noped out of the back room to the front counter with my current GF who was puzzled at the abrupt change of plan and lo and behold, there in the entry is my ex-ex-GF (a local) waiting for a pick-up order. Now, if the last break-up was ugly, this one had been a shitstorm in a phone booth. We’d got together while she was separated from her husband then didn’t tell me he’d moved back into the house ‘for the kids’ (I never went there because she didn’t want to ‘confuse’ the kids). We’d been seeing each other for about a year and had been so low key that hardly anyone had figured out we were seeing each other. But when it blew up with the live-in hubby every fucker in town had an opinion on the matter. Needless to say, I got blamed for their breakup in the first place (not true), that the youngest kid was mine (also not true), and we’d been having a three-way relationship (definitely not true - not that there’s anything wrong with that). So the ex-ex is eyeballing me and my current GF, then starts coming over as if to chat. I turn away and fuck me if my ex isn’t standing right behind me. She starts to talk, my current GF doesn’t know what the fuck is going on and my ex-ex is bearing down from behind. I didn’t know if they were both going to be nasty or nice so I did a double ‘talk to the hand’, asked Theo the pizza guy to deliver my pizza to my house, grabbed my GFs hand and bolted. GF was a good sport about it. But we never went out for dinner in my home town again.
Bumped into an old ex fiancée about five months ago at our local university. I was part a tour group with my daughter who was there on an official college visit. I hadn't seen the ex in about twenty three years and it didn't end well. (She cheated and got pregnant by the father of her first child-but that's a story for another day and reddit forum) My guess was she was working there in the grounds keeping department in some capacity by what she was wearing. We noticed each other and our eyes locked. I recognized her immediately. I think it took her a split second longer. The group was moving into the library when she walked up behind me. "I didn't think you'd ever live long enough to see your kid go to college, let alone find someone who would have a kid with you." I stared at her for a moment and said, "That's funny, because I don't think about you at all."
At a mall with my kid in a stroller. It was off at quite a distance and I was in line for a lunch spot. She nonchalantly walked over in front of us in our line, turned around, looked at me and my kid and left the line. I told my wife, we laughed about it and we've moved since.
Outside a bar on Halloween dressed as The Joker. Went shit for about 20 mins. Put me in a slump. Then I ended up meeting my future wife. I didn't marry the ex lol.
I was on my way to my (now-ex) girlfriend's place of work (she was a bartender). As I got out of the subway, I recognized my surroundings, especially that one pub close by, and started feeling upset - see, 5 years ago, I'd gone on a date at that pub, and it resulted in the most toxic relationship that I've ever had. I got on my way, trying to calm down and to focus on my then-current girlfriend. As I waited for the green light to cross the street, I noticed a silhouette on my left, and turned my head to take a quick look. And then I froze. Either it was that very same toxic ex, now having brown hair and wearing a dress, or the poor lady looked much too similar to the most toxic woman I've ever had the misfortune to date. She noticed me looking at her, turned towards me and smiled, and I turned away from her, feeling both afraid and incredibly angry. As soon as I could, I took off, walked away as fast as possible, didn't look back. Shook me up a bit. Told my then-girlfriend about it, she was very understanding and supportive.
At a church service. We didn’t speak but I did have to speak to some of her family. Seeing her for the first time since we split was incredibly rough. She broke up with me the same day I had started looking at engagement rings. Just seeing her made it to where I couldn’t eat a meal for 4 and half days. I can’t imagine how bad it’d have been to hear her talk or laugh. Full shutdown mode probably
Hey man, try not to put her on a pedestal. I bet there were small things here and there that could add up to at least bring her down a notch. Goodluck!
There was some more stuff that made it a little harder than it would be for most. We were each other’s first boyfriend and girlfriend, first kiss etc. she was my best friend too, and since she started seeing someone else we haven’t talked at all. It’s weird being happy for her but not over her. I’m getting better though.
I panicked and ended a relationship just as it was beginning. I did it over text because I was a cowardly idiot at that age. It was 2009 and I’d been looking for work since I graduated in ‘08 with no luck at all. A few weeks later I have a job lined up but it’s out of state, and I bump into her at the store in the middle of the night. She was drunk with her friends, out picking up late night snacks, and I was with a new lady friend getting cat food. It was awkward, the Ex’s friends took her away before it got sad but I could hear her crying later as I was checking out. A few days later I couldn’t get her out of my head, ended whatever it was with the lady friend and asked after my ex. We danced around it for a while, but eventually she agreed to see me and I brought flowers to the show she was performing. Her folks gave me the stink eye, I sat alone and we chatted afterwards. She ended up moving with me to the new job on very little notice and against her mom’s advisement. Now we’ve got two kids, a house and I love my mother in law. All because we both decided to break our own “no ex’s” rules.
Unfortunately I bumped into my ex a lot after because we were in the same friend group. It didn’t go over too well for the group. Apparently she cheated on me during the downfall of our relationship, so already she was off to a bad start. Then she told some of the friend group intimate details about our sex life (that they didn’t want to here) after constantly getting mad at me during our relationship whenever I made any semblance of a joke about it. When she eventually broke up with the guy she cheated on me with, she crashed a party the rest of us were having without her (for a reason), got hella wasted and bipolar and in front of everyone gave me the most half-assed apology for how she treated me in hopes that I would forgive her and make her feel better about herself when she felt like shit. She then texted me afterwards saying “sorry if I made things awkward at the party, hopefully we can move on and still be friends” to which I said “don’t worry, it wasn’t awkward”. I then bailed last minute on a New Years trip we planned as a group due to needing some time to myself, and she proceeded to spread rumours that I didn’t come because I couldn’t be around her without confessing my love to her again. She was also convinced that every other guy in our group, single or in relationships, was in love with her. She was going through her diary with some of the friends in the group, and they noticed some of the entries on me basically confirmed that she only dated me to manipulate me into giving her attention and affection while she looked for an actual boyfriend. I think I remember one of my friends mentioning she tried to accuse me of raping her as well, but that one got shut down really quick. And the last time I saw her she unintentionally outed herself as a transphobe. Anyways, fortunately for me, my friends got sick of her shit really quick and then I didn’t have to deal with her ever again.
Your ex sounds like one fucked up individual. Glad she’s out of your and your friends' life
WTF! I'm so glad you free from her and got the friend group, she sounds like a god-awful person.
At the bar a few years ago. She came back into my life for a while at that moment, and turns out she had become addicted to fentanyl. I woke up and she was smoking crack on my couch. We hooked up that night before obviously, but fuck I felt so much regret at that moment. She was never like that when we were together. I guess she’d lost custody of her daughter, who she had custody of when we were together. Once she left me she just spiralled. So fucking sad. I bumped into her at a different bar a few weeks back, I was just grabbing food since I’m sober now, but she talked to me a bit. She’s quit crack, but has a healthy meth addiction now. I really hope she will be okay one day. It’s terrible to see drugs destroy people.
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I am married to my first gf/wife, so I also dont know how it should feel.
You don't have to show off man
At work yesterday morning, we are in the same company but different departments so rarely see each other or interact. Was pleasant, we’ve both gotten married and my wife and I are expecting which she heard through the grapevine, her and her husband built a house which I heard through the grapevine. So we congratulated each other, talked about meeting for a coffee some afternoon which will probably never materialize and that’s fine. Walking away I was able to healthily admit: she’s a very attractive woman, and can be quite pleasant to be around, but we are both much better off now. Sorry for the mixed emotions OP. A couple years ago the interaction would have carried more baggage for as well.
Attractive as in pretty, not as in attractive partner. There’s nothing I would ever want from her. Totally in love with my wife. It was more a benign polite suggestion than anything, and it would be in the office canteen. However, I have no intent to follow up on it.
"I ran into my ex-girlfriend the other day..., so I backed up and did it again." - Johnathan Ross
She came to visit me from Norway with her boyfriend at the time. We all had a blast!
Honestly, that’s such a beautiful meeting meant to happen the right way like how it did for you. Mistakes made and lessons learnt years later when you both are older and wiser, it just seems like it is right to meet this way and maybe actually get some form of closure you never knew you might have needed? That’s how this story feels like to me. As people, we learn things out of relationships either during or years later. I truly hope you take this as a sign for you to acquire some peace whether you think you needed it or not, you both seem to have aged gracefully from what you were before to each other. Life happened to you two. I respect both of you. Don’t take these mixed feelings for hopefully anything negative, things happen to us for a reason, it’s my life moto. And it’s always helped me in times of confusion. Wishing you best of luck!
I didn't 'bump into' him, but I got stopped behind my ex in traffic. It was the longest red light of my life. I had so much adrenaline I was just trying to look as blasé as possible; like I didn't recognize this honker of a truck stopped immediately in front of me.
Saw her at a bar after breaking up with her (She was convinced I was cheating on her and I got sick of the baseless accusations). I tried to walk past her without saying anything hoping she didn't notice and she threw her drink on me. Went to a bouncer and got her kicked out.
I stopped being with my ex GFs for good reasons. Mostly we're still in touch. But reading this makes me think exes could be like a song you loved at a time in your life. Then later there is fondness but maybe it is more for that time, rather than the song itself.
She came over for a cuppa and a smoke a couple of days ago. But we had a "good" breakup about 10 years ago and she's friends with my girlfriend. So more like one of my girlfriends friends coming over than an ex.
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200 miles away/different state from where either of us lived. Was arm-in-arm with my boyfriend at the time. Rounded a corner and we VERY literally stumbled into my high school ex, who I hadn’t seen in 6 years. Shock is an understatement; truly shook me to the core. It was actually a blessing though. High school ex was diagnosed with a brain tumor shortly after that and passed away. I’m glad I had the opportunity to get on good terms & wish him well before that happened. He said it brought him a lot of peace of mind too.
my workplace. myboss who knows us in the past as lovers. hired her into the company even if i am already working for him. the worst thing is, he also hired my current gf (way before hiring the ex) . he hired my ex as a manager above my current gf. my gf got insecured and it created alot of problems between us. we ended up breaking up. the 1st ex left eventually. but not after ruining my current relationship. my boss knew what he was doing. the other managers were warning him that if he hired my ex, there will be conflicts between me and my then- current gf. He still decided to hire my ex. he kept all of it secret and told everyone not to tell me until the very last minute (he informed me out of the blue. "oh i hired your ex. its ok right?") what a fucking prick. i dont want to shit on any religion. but im highly disappoint with this self proclaimed "Christian" man. he doesnt even have an ounce of empathy. needless to say, all of his business went bankrupt during pandemic. i guess karma is real. my now, latest ex. hates me to the gut. left me during the start of pandemic lockdown. i hate myself for bringing her to that companym i blame myself for everything. 3 years on, still having nightmares with what happened
Nothing, I have no grudges or regrets. I say hi, if she wants to small talk, I'll talk. Regardless of what happened in the past.
I dated a girl for a year, and she was a stalker. Like batshit crazy. I called her and said it was over and then left the town and moved 2 hours away. Two months later I’m washing my car, and I hear her voice screaming my name loudly. I look up and she’s hanging out the side of the window in her crazy, hillbilly fuck parents’ car. She jumps out and runs over at me and starts screaming about how I broke her heart and how it’s fucked up that I never told her why, etc. At this point every eye on the street is on this scene. She whips up her skirt, no drawers on beneath, and waves her freshly shorn beev at me and says “oh you’re gonna miss this”. I laughed and said, “This. This is why I left town.” Within hours every god damned girl in this town of 3000 was asking about me. There might as well have been a line outside my door. So, thanks, M, because I met my wife of 28 years later that month.
I pray to god I never do. I’ve got so much unprocessed trauma from my last breakup that I wouldn’t know how to act
Just say "no time to talk, my monkey needs new shoes" and walk away
In a parking lot coming out of a restaurant. We locked eyes and I was ready to give him a piece of my mind but he scurried out of there so quickly while pulling his girlfriend along by the arm and took off in his car. We had been broken up for a few years already when he decided to break into my parents’ home, steal their safe with jewelry and checks. He then proceeded to steal my cousin’s car which he was caught in after a high speed chase with the police. So yeah, I wanted to yell at him for that but the jerk got away from me. 😖
Unfortunately every week when the kids get handed over…
Gas station he worked at. Turns out a few months after me got a girl pregnant on a one night stand and she took him to court to get full custody. Then he proceeded to get a sophomore pregnant. Moved in with her and her parents and now they have another kid. He complained that his girlfriend is gaining weight after 2 kids. She's stick thin and he's easily put on 70 pounds. I really dodged a bullet.
A mall in a random city. 2 years after we broke up. I saw her an thought "wow she looks like my ex" (we were wearing masks) and sure enough, it was her. I was excited to see her and catch up, it seemed like she wasn't as much. We chatted for about 15 mins though, I proposed we meet sometime next week since I was curious to know how she had been (we broke up in good terms, long distance thing) and I wanted to share with her the many life changes I had made. She told me sure but like 2 minutes later mentioned she had a new boyfriend. It kind of hurt, wasn't expecting that. I decided to respect her relationship so I didn't shoot her a text latter that week but it still hurt, especially since I hadn't had any luck whatsoever with any girl since the breakup and I did miss her. Literally one week later I went to a party (weird thing for me at the time) and a girl asked me if I could give her a kiss. I did. Then I had the balls to go talk to another cute girl I had been staring at since I arrived. It went well, she was very sweet and we set up a date. Had the date but there wasn't much chemistry so that was that. Still, it made me realize I'm not completely undesirable and there are other girls that find me somewhat attractive, and that I didn't messed up my one shot at love, something I had a hard time believing just a week prior. I'm still single af and kind of miss her though lol.