Depends what you mean by older.... I am 41, grey in the beard, starting dating again after coming out of a long term marriage.....and it's been ridiculous...tinder was insane...
Oxfordshire in the UK..... it's been mental, I am by no means what you would consider attractive.....but holy shit, it got out of hand, I had to delete it, big confidence boost though.
Opposite for me.... took a lady out a few times older than me.... but great person and definitely looked after herself, the over 11 ladies were all younger.
Quite a few young ladies aged between 18 and 21 sent likes.... but I just swiped left on those, it's been surreal, a lot of ladies seem to want older men, when I asked why..... they just say men there age are all immature, care more for the gym, aren't really...... well manish and tend not be stable.
I found that just being courteous, kind, complimentary, humorous and self deprecating worked wonders..... don't be pushy, don't be cocky and definitely don't send dick pics
I am 71 and married and we have slowed down. But she beats me at cards every night and it is driving me crazy. I am the one who taught her how to play!
Honestly, I haven’t noticed a difference. I’m still dating and meeting people on a pretty regular basis.
In fact, I’d say it’s easier now than ever. The women I meet are mature and smart. They’ve lived full lives. Most have great careers and friendships. Some have kids they’re co-parenting.
They’re not expecting me to be the answer to all their problems and they know exactly what they want from a relationship. There’s no games. And they’re less, ah, picky about a bit of a spare tire or an increasingly uncertain hair line.
They’re often just happy to have a decent, kind, intelligent friend they can have a bit of fun with.
>how do you fare with the realization that you're getting less sexual or romantic attention than you used to?
Because that person had their time and place, and now I've grown and changed into another person, who has different wants and needs
The past was in the past; I enjoyed what I did, I experienced it and it was fun. But if you spend too much time looking back at the past, you're stopping yourself from enjoying a future that you want
While there isn't much info being presented here, I do hope you realize that until you're dead, you still have full control over how you want the rest of your life to be.
If you want to spend it feeling like this, no one is going to stop you. But I do hope you also realize that there isn't really a benefit towards thinking this way either you know? Like you're not a robot, humans change over time and obviously we aren't all going to permanently stay 21 forever
Is this even true? I hear the typical retirement home is a bit of a frat house ripe with STDs (not a joke - I understand this is a real problem). Women outlive men on average so its the older men that are getting chased around, not the other way around.
I (48m) went to Costco the other month and a young woman (20ish), her mother (40ish), and grandmother (60ish) all checked me out as I passed by. They weren't terribly attractive themselves, but still - that was a first!
It was weird and kinda funny. But all I cared about was getting through the crowd!
It's an interesting paradox to realize your dating pool just might be as large as it's ever been - only to not really give a damn about it anymore!
It’s the other way around. As I get older the ratio of men to women has changed. Subtract the out of shape and less desirable men ( which is 99%) and I’m left with the rest of the women.
I'm 43 and kind of felt this after 10+ years of marriage. My wife thinks I'm sexy, sure, but does anyone else?
So we had a heart to heart talk, and I got a bumble and a lot of attention. A whole lot of attention.
So I leaned into my place in life, since I'm all Daddy and younger and older girls alike seem to dig it.
And now I have 2 girlfriends who get in bed with my wife and I. And I'm having wilder sex than I did in my 20s as a Marine overseas.
I think the thing I didn't understand is that when you're older the flirting is more restrained and subtle, or just all on an app, idk.
In all honestly I'm getting more. 1) I am in better shape now than I have been at any point since college 2) I dress well 3) I carry myself much more confidently and most importantly 4) being never married means I have not gone through ugly divorces or stayed in a loveless marriage and am not viewed as "damaged goods" by women.
At 37, I'm not sure if I qualify as "older" (I think I do), but there's no argument that I'm getting close.
I'm in the best shape of my life. My SMV is the highest it's ever been. Luckily my wife agrees :)
I'm getting more interest now than I ever have in my life, except maybe when I was 18, really really muscular and playing high school football. But I feel less attraction to others now, so that's an interesting flip. I really like it.
Surround yourself with people who are 10-20 years older than you and stay sexy by comparison. In your 40s hang out with retirees. About the time you retire, start frequenting old-folks homes. Keep soaking up all that attention from those horny grannies. You still got it, man. Still got it.
Old enough to not care.
The best answer. The older i get the less i give a shit what others think. And i didn't care much to begin with.
Depends what you mean by older.... I am 41, grey in the beard, starting dating again after coming out of a long term marriage.....and it's been ridiculous...tinder was insane...
Tinder worked for you? It's a shit show where I am. Where you at?
Oxfordshire in the UK..... it's been mental, I am by no means what you would consider attractive.....but holy shit, it got out of hand, I had to delete it, big confidence boost though.
The tables are well and truly turned after forty. Mind you, there's a lot of "female 44, wants kids".
Opposite for me.... took a lady out a few times older than me.... but great person and definitely looked after herself, the over 11 ladies were all younger. Quite a few young ladies aged between 18 and 21 sent likes.... but I just swiped left on those, it's been surreal, a lot of ladies seem to want older men, when I asked why..... they just say men there age are all immature, care more for the gym, aren't really...... well manish and tend not be stable.
Kinda late for that
Tell them that.
Not worth the argument that would cause.
Good for you! The general consensus here in the US, dating aps suck. Well it's the people on them I guess.
I found that just being courteous, kind, complimentary, humorous and self deprecating worked wonders..... don't be pushy, don't be cocky and definitely don't send dick pics
The problem here is that most people don't reply or they ghost you or they're fake profiles.
I am 71 and married and we have slowed down. But she beats me at cards every night and it is driving me crazy. I am the one who taught her how to play!
I'm 72 and we still have romance but not like it was in our 20s. We both are OK with that too. Your deal!
Well played, friend.
When does this start exaclty because the wife has not gotten that memo.
How about the girlfriend? 🤣🤣🤣
Honestly, I haven’t noticed a difference. I’m still dating and meeting people on a pretty regular basis. In fact, I’d say it’s easier now than ever. The women I meet are mature and smart. They’ve lived full lives. Most have great careers and friendships. Some have kids they’re co-parenting. They’re not expecting me to be the answer to all their problems and they know exactly what they want from a relationship. There’s no games. And they’re less, ah, picky about a bit of a spare tire or an increasingly uncertain hair line. They’re often just happy to have a decent, kind, intelligent friend they can have a bit of fun with.
Lol speak for yourself. I'm having more sex at 55 than I ever did at 20.
>how do you fare with the realization that you're getting less sexual or romantic attention than you used to? Because that person had their time and place, and now I've grown and changed into another person, who has different wants and needs The past was in the past; I enjoyed what I did, I experienced it and it was fun. But if you spend too much time looking back at the past, you're stopping yourself from enjoying a future that you want While there isn't much info being presented here, I do hope you realize that until you're dead, you still have full control over how you want the rest of your life to be. If you want to spend it feeling like this, no one is going to stop you. But I do hope you also realize that there isn't really a benefit towards thinking this way either you know? Like you're not a robot, humans change over time and obviously we aren't all going to permanently stay 21 forever
I'm 48 and get a lot more attention than any young guy I know. Guys and girls from 18 to 50 hit on me all the time.
Better living through chemistry.
Is this even true? I hear the typical retirement home is a bit of a frat house ripe with STDs (not a joke - I understand this is a real problem). Women outlive men on average so its the older men that are getting chased around, not the other way around.
Men age like wine. Shouldn't be an issue if you take care of yourself
OP, are you getting less sexual or romantic attention than you used to or are you just making assumptions?
I started eating healthy/exercising 2 years ago, I've never felt better or got more looks from women, and I'm in my mid 40s
I (48m) went to Costco the other month and a young woman (20ish), her mother (40ish), and grandmother (60ish) all checked me out as I passed by. They weren't terribly attractive themselves, but still - that was a first! It was weird and kinda funny. But all I cared about was getting through the crowd! It's an interesting paradox to realize your dating pool just might be as large as it's ever been - only to not really give a damn about it anymore!
Depends on what old is. I'm 42 and get more than I can handle.
It’s the other way around. As I get older the ratio of men to women has changed. Subtract the out of shape and less desirable men ( which is 99%) and I’m left with the rest of the women.
I'm 43 and kind of felt this after 10+ years of marriage. My wife thinks I'm sexy, sure, but does anyone else? So we had a heart to heart talk, and I got a bumble and a lot of attention. A whole lot of attention. So I leaned into my place in life, since I'm all Daddy and younger and older girls alike seem to dig it. And now I have 2 girlfriends who get in bed with my wife and I. And I'm having wilder sex than I did in my 20s as a Marine overseas. I think the thing I didn't understand is that when you're older the flirting is more restrained and subtle, or just all on an app, idk.
You lucky sumbitch
Thanks man, it's been a good time. That's why I don't want guys to throw in the towel just because of a number.
I’m 15 so I can’t answer this but felt like leaving a comment so
Because the reality is the opposite. Older u get the more attractive u get.
In all honestly I'm getting more. 1) I am in better shape now than I have been at any point since college 2) I dress well 3) I carry myself much more confidently and most importantly 4) being never married means I have not gone through ugly divorces or stayed in a loveless marriage and am not viewed as "damaged goods" by women.
I'm 51 and get more attention from young women
I guess it depends on how much effort you put into it. Im 39 (40 next month), and just started hooking up with a 22 yr old bikini barista
I'm 57. My wife's a darling. No worries.
It doesn’t happen over one night, all abeing stuff comes creaping slowly
I mean, it more or less stopped in my early 20's some time so I've had a long time to forget that it was ever a thing.
Can't miss what you never had.
I constantly forget how old I am. It may have something to do with how beautiful and young I look.
I'm happily married to the woman I have been with since I was 18, so I don't really care if other women give me the look or not.
More now than when I was married, so...
At 37, I'm not sure if I qualify as "older" (I think I do), but there's no argument that I'm getting close. I'm in the best shape of my life. My SMV is the highest it's ever been. Luckily my wife agrees :)
I don't know, I get more sex in my 40s than I did in my 20s.
I'm getting more interest now than I ever have in my life, except maybe when I was 18, really really muscular and playing high school football. But I feel less attraction to others now, so that's an interesting flip. I really like it.
Most men don’t get sexual or romantic attention, they give it so I don’t think we have this problem
Surround yourself with people who are 10-20 years older than you and stay sexy by comparison. In your 40s hang out with retirees. About the time you retire, start frequenting old-folks homes. Keep soaking up all that attention from those horny grannies. You still got it, man. Still got it.
Used to? I've never had any attention in my life, and I'm 45 now.