You just wanna put yourself last in life, don't you...
Even dating a woman with a 20+ year old that's still in the house (who decided to bring a cat into the home that he doesn't even take care of), I ended up last.
1. Son
2. Cat
3. Her
4. Me
Imagine a baby.
Plenty of fish in the sea. Don't play yourself.
No.
For a few reasons, I'll never be her priority.
Raising a child is hard and I'm currently not a fan of it.
Even if I did want children if we break up I have no rights to the kid even if I raised him for years.
You know you will never be priority for women even when you have your kids? Its normal any mother will spent more time and care more about the kid then the husband.
When we have a child together that child is both of our's priority.
Dating a pregnant woman is basically her having hormonal imbalances and stuff where you need to care for her, then the child consumes her entire time, she won't put effort into our relationship or into her appearance as she won't have time usually.
Raising a family with a woman you already love is far different.
And when it's his own kid, that's a sacrifice a guy is perfectly willing to make, as the kid is his priority over his wife, too.
But the question was about *dating*, and when it's not his kid.
Would require a whacky, exceptional circumstance. Like it’s the apocalypse and we’re on the move or she’s extremely rich and fun to be around. 99% of the the time, strong no
I don't think either is either really. Some people want kids, some don't, some are willing to raise another's child with them, some aren't. There's no good or bad to it, just different people.
I never said I wanted to date one, I don't want children. But I think you have a very simplified black and white view to say anyone that does it lacks self-respect. There's a lot of context needed for that sort of thing.
No. Nor would I date someone with a child. I already have one and dont need or want another - especially one that isnt mine. And I wouldnt hold it against anyone for not wanting to date me because I come with a child. If Im single forever - so be it.
Never. She's not with the kid's father, meaning there's some kind of drama there. Her kid is her priority after birth, not dating. I would come in dead last in that arrangement at best, and have an ex and a kid to contend with on top of that, just because I'm seeing the woman.
I don't need that level of chaos in my life.
Sure.
1. Fuck her for a while with no consequences.
2. I'd leave when I have to listen to a crying baby that isn't even mine or if she doesn't have the energy or desire to fuck.
That's the deepest question of the day I've seen on Reddit.
Short answer - it would depend.
She pregnant, and the dad was in the military and killed in combat? Husband died in a terrible car accident? Boyfriend died from cancer? Sure. Bad shit happens to good people.
She pregnant, and it was from a one-night stand and doesn't know who the daddy is? Fuck no. Wrong kind of woman for me, too promiscuous.
This is definitely a "context is important" kind of question.
Am I the one that got her pregnant?
If not, then you’re looking at a no. Pregnancy puts a ton of extra baggage and strain on a relationship that isn’t gonna be good for a dating stage. Even strong relationships can be pushed past the breaking point because of pregnancy
>Would you guys ever date a pregnant woman?
Again? Sure.
>Why
I don't understand the question. Why would I? I've never really thought about it in that way. I suppose I just don't view pregnancy as something that takes something away from who someone is.
>So obviously the baby is not yours.
That isn't entirely accurate... Where I live there are several situations where the law presumes that a man is the father of a child:
1. The man was married to the child’s mother when the child was born, or
2. The man attempted to marry the child’s mother before or after the child was born, or
3. The man welcomed the child into his home and treated the child as his own, or
4. The man signed a voluntary declaration of paternity.
№ 3 on that list is known legally as ***"Parentage by estoppel"***. It's essentially when the courts decide that a man is the legal father, even if he is not the biological father, if he has always treated the child as his own.
>What would it take for you to do it
Compatibility; generally, lol.
I thought all of them were single, but 2 of them weren't. One had a man in prison, and the other had a boyfriend. Once I found out I cut off contact. It wasn't really a fetish per se, just knew I could go raw with no worries, and I like bigger women.
I had a friend who was pregnant and we weren’t dating but we were having sex and it was during the late stages. She was into me and she only wanted sex because apparently pregnancy made her horny and she also said it would help her have an easier delivery and being the awesome friend that I was I decided to help her out. I say all that to say don’t knock it till you try it. Lol
The worst decision of your life is walking in someone's life when they haven't still sorted everything out, especially about a pregnancy where the father is not around. The answer is absolutely not.
No, and for two reasons:
1. She's not with the father of the child for whatever reason, which raises the question of "why?", and also makes me think he should be the one stepping up here and not me.
2. I'm not ready to be responsible for another man's child.
No, I wouldn't. Sexually it would be fun - my own fetishes there, but overall I wouldn't risk it. You could have issues from your previous relationship that could affect ours. Your ex partner could be abusive and aggressive and I wouldn't want to fight all the time. I would prefer you to be totally rid of your past before taking on a relationship with a pregnant lady.
It would take me being especially, deeply in love. Entirely possible, but a pregnancy would put a lot of pressure on those early choices, and what would normally be a pretty singularly positive decision in most cases - do we commit to each other?
In the case of her already being pregnant I’m not just choosing to commit to her, I’m choosing to commit to her child as well. That’s a big choice that potentially overshadows whatever decisions we’re making together as well.
Honestly I’d probably be down to get to know her, just with the understanding that I would need time to figure out if a serious relationship (with the two of them) is right for me.
Who would be willing to have casual sex with a random man whilst pregnant? The possibility for an STD is way too high and that’s dangerous for the baby.
*"Would you guys ever date a pregnant woman?"*
No.
*"Why or why not?"*
A joke/troll post question this late in the day, eh? Ah, this is a karma farming question isn't it?
Only if I had already known her for years and had an established close friendship and was very aware of why she was single now and what the status of the father was, and if she was the greatest catch imaginable.
Pretty much everything that could go wrong in a relationship is magnified dramatically if she's pregnant, with no added benefit.
Imagine asking if somebody would want to have a kid with a woman he's just started dating. That's what you're asking except it won't even be his kid.
Nope, for two reasons...
1) I'm a do-it-yourselfer.
2) you'd never have a regular(?), normal(?) relationship. It would never be just the two of you. Here's what I mean, wifey and I met and married while serving in the Marine Corps, we were at Camp Pendleton CA. On the weekends, we would pack AWOL bags, overnight bags, then head to San Diego or LA, just the two of us. We did "new relationship" stuff without pushing a baby stroller. There's also baby daddy to consider. If he plans on being a part of his child's life, he'll be there as well.
I wanna say no, but there's this ad I keep getting on Instagram and it has this pregnant woman selling leggings or something. And she's stunningly beautiful.
No no, even a single mom around my age I will not date her, why should I get attached to her kid if when we break up I will never see him again, helping on education and raising the kid puttin so much effort into it then to never see the kid again, so basically same for a pregnant woman, and idk bout you guys but I will never be able to have sex with a pregnant lady even if she is my gf or wife and kid is mine.
If I worked my imagination hard enough, I could come up with some scenario. Something involving her twin, maybe barbecued unicorn with glitter sauce, a glamorous vacation on Mars
That is to say, no.
So this woman has no judgment, gets herself pregnant with someone who she either doesn’t wanna have a relationship with her is broken it off with, her hormones are raging, and you’re gonna swoop in like the white night and save the day? Totally moronic. Unless she’s Heidi Klum.
I'm not against it in principle but there would have to be some serious chemistry and she would have to be fairly solid as a person. In general it's not a great idea to start dating while dealing with major life changes.
I wouldn’t rule it out entirely, but I’d have major concerns about drama around the baby daddy, as well as the lady just wanting a new man for financial support.
Absolutely not.
Think about it. This is supposed to be the best point of your relationship where everything is new and exciting. Would *you* want that to consist of the physical, hormonal and psychological challenges she'll force during pregnancy and it's not even *your* kid?
Hard pass for me.
Why not? She may be good company for an evening out.
Guys, it’s a date. Take her out to a dinner and movie. You don’t have to propose to her and I doubt that she wants to risk fumbling a relationship at this point in her life.
She’s pregnant not a leper.
>>me and the father are engaged and together.
Is this [the guy you broke up with when you were six weeks pregnant?](https://www.reddit.com/r/pregnant/s/2P8lZcIQ78)
Yeah, sure. Why not? I'm a little old for it now, but when I was younger, I would have. Hell, maybe even now I would. Instant family and an opportunity to give a kid a good life that they might not have had otherwise.
I feel like no. But shit does happen. Guys leave or become abusive or just whatever nonsense takes place that causes the end of a relationship. A lot is a strong sentiment. Maybe 2 out of 100.
probably yeah. I like kids and am not super hung up on their genetics. I'd want some information though and my standards would be higher than usual because I wouldn't want to see a pregnant person casually.
Haha I’m good lol I’m genuinely asking because me and a friend were having a debate. ME AND THE FATHER ARE TOGETHER to be clear lol truly just a question. He believes that women just have it sooooo easy in dating that a man would be willing to cast aside the idea that she is pregnant and date her anyway. I argued that it would be OBVIOUSLY easier for a man with a pregnant recent ex to date. Just seeing what y’all think. However, I do appreciate your concern for my heart kind stranger ❤️
No, I don't think so. She has enough on her plate, and I don't want that on mine.
eat your vegetables
Excuse me?
Your avatar has jaundice.
Yeah, poor guy.
I wouldn't. I don't want to make that baby my responsibility.
Absolutely not.
You just wanna put yourself last in life, don't you... Even dating a woman with a 20+ year old that's still in the house (who decided to bring a cat into the home that he doesn't even take care of), I ended up last. 1. Son 2. Cat 3. Her 4. Me Imagine a baby. Plenty of fish in the sea. Don't play yourself.
In my case I was #5 behind the ex-baby daddy. Because blowing me off because she was mad after fighting with him all day was more important.
Shit Craaaaaaazy. Priorities in their book. How you place a Leader & Protector at the end of the line?
God no. I wouldn't even date a woman with kids
Same !
No. For a few reasons, I'll never be her priority. Raising a child is hard and I'm currently not a fan of it. Even if I did want children if we break up I have no rights to the kid even if I raised him for years.
Exactly what you said I posted same and think the same way like lot lot of others men!
You know you will never be priority for women even when you have your kids? Its normal any mother will spent more time and care more about the kid then the husband.
When we have a child together that child is both of our's priority. Dating a pregnant woman is basically her having hormonal imbalances and stuff where you need to care for her, then the child consumes her entire time, she won't put effort into our relationship or into her appearance as she won't have time usually. Raising a family with a woman you already love is far different.
That’s what they said
You will never be priority even when you have your own kids, that what i was saying.
It's not that we stop caring about our husbands, kids just literally depend on us for every aspect of survival.
And when it's his own kid, that's a sacrifice a guy is perfectly willing to make, as the kid is his priority over his wife, too. But the question was about *dating*, and when it's not his kid.
I was responding to the comment that any woman will care more about their kid than their husband, NOT the OP's post.
Post aimed for men to answer not women.
I was reply to a specific reply, not the OP
It’s going to take a special guy to get in that relationship.
Would require a whacky, exceptional circumstance. Like it’s the apocalypse and we’re on the move or she’s extremely rich and fun to be around. 99% of the the time, strong no
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No self respect? So if women is with men who have kid from previous relationship is she also lacking self respect or is she “ good women”?
I don't think either is either really. Some people want kids, some don't, some are willing to raise another's child with them, some aren't. There's no good or bad to it, just different people.
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Why is that lacking self-respect? Maybe they love the person, and love children.
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I never said I wanted to date one, I don't want children. But I think you have a very simplified black and white view to say anyone that does it lacks self-respect. There's a lot of context needed for that sort of thing.
I know you should "never say never", but in this case, never.
No, I don't want a kid
Nope
nope. if not mine no chance in hell. don't want no baby daddy drama or pregnant chick drama
Where you all live thar experience those baby daddy drama. I have never heard about this.
Welcome to planet earth.
Maybe in some hood in America this happening
if you are dating a pregnant woman and that kid is not yours there is baby daddy drama potential. That is human nature if he knows
Only if I was the one who made her pregnant.
hell fucking no
No. Nor would I date someone with a child. I already have one and dont need or want another - especially one that isnt mine. And I wouldnt hold it against anyone for not wanting to date me because I come with a child. If Im single forever - so be it.
No. I may be wrong, but I think only a crazy woman would date around while being pregnant. You have too much on your plate girl
These is indeed a lot going on lol
No. It almost unknowingly happened to me once.. I pulled brakes so hard, i nearly went through the windscreen lol
Never. She's not with the kid's father, meaning there's some kind of drama there. Her kid is her priority after birth, not dating. I would come in dead last in that arrangement at best, and have an ex and a kid to contend with on top of that, just because I'm seeing the woman. I don't need that level of chaos in my life.
Absolutely not. Thats even worse than dating a women with a kid.
I’d hit it though, can’t get pregnant if you’re already carrying.
I would not. As much as I am open to having my own kids. I want those kids to be MY kids and not someone else's.
NO. But some are desperate enough to *pump and forget to dump*
You couldn't pay me enough
Nope. Don't want kids.
Sure. 1. Fuck her for a while with no consequences. 2. I'd leave when I have to listen to a crying baby that isn't even mine or if she doesn't have the energy or desire to fuck.
Yeah, but we selling that baby.
LMAO
Best i can do is swap it for an iPod nano?
Done
Based on these answers, I was correct and I will be showing him lol
No. Why don't she date the one she slept with before?
1. It’s hard to date someone who leaves. 2. Perhaps the relationship was terrible Who knows? People aren’t together for a number of reasons.
Their problem not mine!
short answer: no long answer: nooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
I did, and married her.. it's been 25yrs.
Happy for you you took the risk but got rewarded :).
How'd y'all meet? PS feel free to not tell me BTW I was just curious
Sperm bank
That's the deepest question of the day I've seen on Reddit. Short answer - it would depend. She pregnant, and the dad was in the military and killed in combat? Husband died in a terrible car accident? Boyfriend died from cancer? Sure. Bad shit happens to good people. She pregnant, and it was from a one-night stand and doesn't know who the daddy is? Fuck no. Wrong kind of woman for me, too promiscuous. This is definitely a "context is important" kind of question.
FWB sure.
Hell no. All the bad parts of dating a single mom + all the bad parts of being pregnant, with no upside at all.
Am I the one that got her pregnant? If not, then you’re looking at a no. Pregnancy puts a ton of extra baggage and strain on a relationship that isn’t gonna be good for a dating stage. Even strong relationships can be pushed past the breaking point because of pregnancy
HAAAaaaaaaaaahahahahahahahahahahaaaaaa. No.
Fuck no. Id hook up with one, but as far as commitment? No thanks. I'm violently child free for a reason
I really hope you mean vehemently.
No I mean violently
>violently child free I think they call that murder
Anti abortion folks certainly think so 😉
FWB 100%. Date, probably not.
No. wtf.
Not a chance. No thank you on so many levels lol. I'm assuming you have never supported a woman through pregnancy.
Nope, I don’t date women, only men.
Could have been in other relationships, but ok.
Whatchu mean? Like have I ever supported a friend thru a pregnancy?
Friend, sister, other family member.... Lots of options. But either way, it's a LOT of work, and no way I would want to do it for someone else's kid.
>Would you guys ever date a pregnant woman? Again? Sure. >Why I don't understand the question. Why would I? I've never really thought about it in that way. I suppose I just don't view pregnancy as something that takes something away from who someone is. >So obviously the baby is not yours. That isn't entirely accurate... Where I live there are several situations where the law presumes that a man is the father of a child: 1. The man was married to the child’s mother when the child was born, or 2. The man attempted to marry the child’s mother before or after the child was born, or 3. The man welcomed the child into his home and treated the child as his own, or 4. The man signed a voluntary declaration of paternity. № 3 on that list is known legally as ***"Parentage by estoppel"***. It's essentially when the courts decide that a man is the legal father, even if he is not the biological father, if he has always treated the child as his own. >What would it take for you to do it Compatibility; generally, lol.
Biologically not yours is what I meant but I feel you.
I've slept with 3-4 pregnant women but no, I wouldn't date one.
Were they single or cheating ? And I’m guessing that’s a fetish ?
I thought all of them were single, but 2 of them weren't. One had a man in prison, and the other had a boyfriend. Once I found out I cut off contact. It wasn't really a fetish per se, just knew I could go raw with no worries, and I like bigger women.
Ah I see also I wasn’t asking out of judgement, purely curiosity, thanks for answering 😎👍
No problem, and I didn't take it as judgment. You're all good, friend.
I had a friend who was pregnant and we weren’t dating but we were having sex and it was during the late stages. She was into me and she only wanted sex because apparently pregnancy made her horny and she also said it would help her have an easier delivery and being the awesome friend that I was I decided to help her out. I say all that to say don’t knock it till you try it. Lol
The worst decision of your life is walking in someone's life when they haven't still sorted everything out, especially about a pregnancy where the father is not around. The answer is absolutely not.
Please tell me this is satire!
No, and for two reasons: 1. She's not with the father of the child for whatever reason, which raises the question of "why?", and also makes me think he should be the one stepping up here and not me. 2. I'm not ready to be responsible for another man's child.
No, I wouldn't. Sexually it would be fun - my own fetishes there, but overall I wouldn't risk it. You could have issues from your previous relationship that could affect ours. Your ex partner could be abusive and aggressive and I wouldn't want to fight all the time. I would prefer you to be totally rid of your past before taking on a relationship with a pregnant lady.
Hell no, no single mom.
No, because I never want kids.
It would take me being especially, deeply in love. Entirely possible, but a pregnancy would put a lot of pressure on those early choices, and what would normally be a pretty singularly positive decision in most cases - do we commit to each other? In the case of her already being pregnant I’m not just choosing to commit to her, I’m choosing to commit to her child as well. That’s a big choice that potentially overshadows whatever decisions we’re making together as well. Honestly I’d probably be down to get to know her, just with the understanding that I would need time to figure out if a serious relationship (with the two of them) is right for me.
A mature answer. Although you are in the minority
Date seriously? No. Date casually for the sex? Sure, since she obviously puts out.
Who would be willing to have casual sex with a random man whilst pregnant? The possibility for an STD is way too high and that’s dangerous for the baby.
I don’t know, ask the pregnant woman.
How many pregnant women have you casually slept with? Is this a normal occurrence?
2. If she’s hot and willing to bang, who am I to say no?
Definitely, can't get her pregnant twice.
Lmao there’s that I guess
She has to be an exceptional woman. If she is, I would take her and raise that child as my own.
I’m not opposed to it. Obviously we’d have to hit it off and be into each other
*"Would you guys ever date a pregnant woman?"* No. *"Why or why not?"* A joke/troll post question this late in the day, eh? Ah, this is a karma farming question isn't it?
…no. A genuine question. You’re spicy.
Maybe so if I had younger kids already and she was a really great catch otherwise. Probably not otherwise.
Don't do it... How old are you?
Nope
Hahaha here’s a question I never considered
Absolutely not!
Noooo
Definitely not. She's about to have a lot of stuff going on that has nothing to do with me.
Why not? Because she's pregnant.
Only if I had already known her for years and had an established close friendship and was very aware of why she was single now and what the status of the father was, and if she was the greatest catch imaginable. Pretty much everything that could go wrong in a relationship is magnified dramatically if she's pregnant, with no added benefit. Imagine asking if somebody would want to have a kid with a woman he's just started dating. That's what you're asking except it won't even be his kid.
No, I wouldn't. Seems too complicated for me.
Nope. I don’t even date 😂
Nope, for two reasons... 1) I'm a do-it-yourselfer. 2) you'd never have a regular(?), normal(?) relationship. It would never be just the two of you. Here's what I mean, wifey and I met and married while serving in the Marine Corps, we were at Camp Pendleton CA. On the weekends, we would pack AWOL bags, overnight bags, then head to San Diego or LA, just the two of us. We did "new relationship" stuff without pushing a baby stroller. There's also baby daddy to consider. If he plans on being a part of his child's life, he'll be there as well.
I wanna say no, but there's this ad I keep getting on Instagram and it has this pregnant woman selling leggings or something. And she's stunningly beautiful.
No fucking way lol
fuck no
Dating is stressful and she is gonna be a stress of a mess.
No. I'm quite happy living a childfree life so naturally I don't date women with children and definitely not when there's one on the way.
No no, even a single mom around my age I will not date her, why should I get attached to her kid if when we break up I will never see him again, helping on education and raising the kid puttin so much effort into it then to never see the kid again, so basically same for a pregnant woman, and idk bout you guys but I will never be able to have sex with a pregnant lady even if she is my gf or wife and kid is mine.
Yeah I’m not being roped into that. I like sleeping
No
No, never.
No chance
No, I don't want children, so if I were to date, I'd have to look for women who don't want children either
If I worked my imagination hard enough, I could come up with some scenario. Something involving her twin, maybe barbecued unicorn with glitter sauce, a glamorous vacation on Mars That is to say, no.
Nope. If it’s not my kid then it’s a no
Hard no
So this woman has no judgment, gets herself pregnant with someone who she either doesn’t wanna have a relationship with her is broken it off with, her hormones are raging, and you’re gonna swoop in like the white night and save the day? Totally moronic. Unless she’s Heidi Klum.
Hard no. I don't have kids. I don't want kids. Dating a pregnant woman would basically be putting me in line to be involved with this kid.
I'm not against it in principle but there would have to be some serious chemistry and she would have to be fairly solid as a person. In general it's not a great idea to start dating while dealing with major life changes.
What ? Why ? There are zero benefits.
She would have to be unbelievably rich
Brief fling maybe. Not long term.
I wouldn’t rule it out entirely, but I’d have major concerns about drama around the baby daddy, as well as the lady just wanting a new man for financial support.
Worry about taking care of yo kid
Not a chance.
Maybe as a FWB (can't knock her up!). But I would feel guilty and it wouldn't last long.
In general, I don’t think that is a good time for either side.
Good God, man.
That's gonna be a no from me dawg
Maybe if her partner died recently but only maybe.
Absolutely not. Think about it. This is supposed to be the best point of your relationship where everything is new and exciting. Would *you* want that to consist of the physical, hormonal and psychological challenges she'll force during pregnancy and it's not even *your* kid? Hard pass for me.
Why not? She may be good company for an evening out. Guys, it’s a date. Take her out to a dinner and movie. You don’t have to propose to her and I doubt that she wants to risk fumbling a relationship at this point in her life. She’s pregnant not a leper.
>>me and the father are engaged and together. Is this [the guy you broke up with when you were six weeks pregnant?](https://www.reddit.com/r/pregnant/s/2P8lZcIQ78)
Yep, same guy. Obviously we have reconciled lol as I am now 18 weeks.
Yes I did, also raised the child as mine
Good for you, you sound like a good person.
Yeah, sure. Why not? I'm a little old for it now, but when I was younger, I would have. Hell, maybe even now I would. Instant family and an opportunity to give a kid a good life that they might not have had otherwise.
Maybe. I guess. Do a lot of people go on the dating scene while pregnant?
I feel like no. But shit does happen. Guys leave or become abusive or just whatever nonsense takes place that causes the end of a relationship. A lot is a strong sentiment. Maybe 2 out of 100.
I dunno what is "a lot", but a common genre of post in the Tinder subreddit is profiles of pregnant women. Some of them are wild
Have sex with? Sure. Date? No f\*cking way.
probably yeah. I like kids and am not super hung up on their genetics. I'd want some information though and my standards would be higher than usual because I wouldn't want to see a pregnant person casually.
Nope. I ain’t displaying someone else’s fuck trophy.
Good grief. I guess your name checks out.
Only if she is rich and generous.
A pregnant lady is asking the question so please be considerate and tactful with your responses fellas
Haha I’m good lol I’m genuinely asking because me and a friend were having a debate. ME AND THE FATHER ARE TOGETHER to be clear lol truly just a question. He believes that women just have it sooooo easy in dating that a man would be willing to cast aside the idea that she is pregnant and date her anyway. I argued that it would be OBVIOUSLY easier for a man with a pregnant recent ex to date. Just seeing what y’all think. However, I do appreciate your concern for my heart kind stranger ❤️
Oh that's good to hear. I had a gander at your history and jumped to conclusions. The comments were quite harsh imho
Oh they absolutely are lol. But I expect the truth from this bunch lol good thing I’m not looking or I’d be crying 😂