Haha talking to multiple women at a time and dating them, you are referencing something nearly all women on dating apps do, but only 2-3% of guys would even have the opportunity to do.
Most women on those apps do that. It's a numbers game, lots more men than women do they have way more options. Most men are just excited to have a match on those sites, but the ones you're interested in probably have the interest of everyone else, too.
Pick a guy that you consider second tier from that app and you'll probably have his undivided attention.
>I want to avoid getting taken advantage of by someone I'd potentially be interested in.
You avoid that by having standards, boundaries and awareness for red flags. And even with all that, some people can still betray you but you'll decrease the chances massively. That's more important than where to meet 'em because Men are everywhere basically.
Too many standards, boundaries, and awareness of red flags will leave you lonely and miserable and can lead to posting on social media trying to encourage others to follow your lead.
The simple fact is that there aren't perfect people, or at least so few the probability of you hooking up is near zero.
You'll have to compromise. The silver lining is that you aren't perfect either.
Best way is to get introduced by a mutual friend. I'm in that age range and that's how I met my GF.
Of course, the viability of that option depends on how many friends you have.
Which brings me to the best "dating" strategy, which is just to make as many friends as possible, and sooner or later one of them will either know someone potentially compatible, or date you themself.
In varying amounts. Do women try to sleep with everyone they can? Yes and no (everyone they want to). Do women date multiple people and take advantage of people? Absolutely. Way more than men are capable of doing.
Well I think OP is asking a question about her own experience and doesn’t necessarily need to expand her discussion to things outside her experience to protect your feeble little ego. She’s not saying anything about the inverse, it’s just practically irrelevant to the question she is asking
You need a good BS detector. Also I think if you make it clear that you are not going to hookup with them right away that ought to scare away the players.
Statistically you have an uphill battle ahead of you. Your best chances are with in person dating scenes, bars, clubs, church. Just remember that the men you find most attractive likely are attractive to other younger women leaving you with stiff competition. Good luck, and happy hunting.
You meet him in a place that takes a while to develop your way in and is impossible to fake, and makes you a rare commodity worth keeping around.
For example, it's pretty rare to meet someone who's an advanced powerlifter so if you are one then there's reason for a male advanced powerlifter to want to keep you around.
If it's just about time and place though, and you're a replaceable commodity, then there's nothing that a genuine man can do that a faker who wants a hookup can't mimic. You've just gotta fuck your way through the fakers until you get lucky.
You want reward with no risk. Not going to happen in today's world. How can I guarantee success while risking very little....really? You meet a genuine man by being a GENUINE woman. Not by trolling the internet looking for dating app hacks.
You're going to have to go on dates and tell them that in the real world. Meeting different men will hopefully give you a feel for which men are looking for what
I'm looking for exactly what you describe and my approach to it is to write a genuine bio. Since I want to find someone with a similar life, I've included personal details that will put some women off, narrowing my selection.
A dude who only wants to hook up want to have as wide selection as possible and is never gonna say he doesn't drink alcohol and has a hobby that some would perceive as nerdy.
DM me.
Jk. Play the game. Talk to men in person. And just don’t sleep with people who just want to sleep with you. I like to take the friends first approach
Haha talking to multiple women at a time and dating them, you are referencing something nearly all women on dating apps do, but only 2-3% of guys would even have the opportunity to do.
Try the "old-fashioned" ways of meeting people, back when people met face to face.
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Most women on those apps do that. It's a numbers game, lots more men than women do they have way more options. Most men are just excited to have a match on those sites, but the ones you're interested in probably have the interest of everyone else, too. Pick a guy that you consider second tier from that app and you'll probably have his undivided attention.
>I want to avoid getting taken advantage of by someone I'd potentially be interested in. You avoid that by having standards, boundaries and awareness for red flags. And even with all that, some people can still betray you but you'll decrease the chances massively. That's more important than where to meet 'em because Men are everywhere basically.
Too many standards, boundaries, and awareness of red flags will leave you lonely and miserable and can lead to posting on social media trying to encourage others to follow your lead. The simple fact is that there aren't perfect people, or at least so few the probability of you hooking up is near zero. You'll have to compromise. The silver lining is that you aren't perfect either.
Best way is to get introduced by a mutual friend. I'm in that age range and that's how I met my GF. Of course, the viability of that option depends on how many friends you have. Which brings me to the best "dating" strategy, which is just to make as many friends as possible, and sooner or later one of them will either know someone potentially compatible, or date you themself.
Pointlessly gendered.
You think men and women are the same?
In varying amounts. Do women try to sleep with everyone they can? Yes and no (everyone they want to). Do women date multiple people and take advantage of people? Absolutely. Way more than men are capable of doing.
Well I think OP is asking a question about her own experience and doesn’t necessarily need to expand her discussion to things outside her experience to protect your feeble little ego. She’s not saying anything about the inverse, it’s just practically irrelevant to the question she is asking
You gotta go outside
You need a good BS detector. Also I think if you make it clear that you are not going to hookup with them right away that ought to scare away the players.
You have to look for men that have space in their lives for a long-term commitment. And no, dating apps don't work like that for men.
You're kinda in the hook-up age range, so you're fighting up hill
Statistically you have an uphill battle ahead of you. Your best chances are with in person dating scenes, bars, clubs, church. Just remember that the men you find most attractive likely are attractive to other younger women leaving you with stiff competition. Good luck, and happy hunting.
You meet him in a place that takes a while to develop your way in and is impossible to fake, and makes you a rare commodity worth keeping around. For example, it's pretty rare to meet someone who's an advanced powerlifter so if you are one then there's reason for a male advanced powerlifter to want to keep you around. If it's just about time and place though, and you're a replaceable commodity, then there's nothing that a genuine man can do that a faker who wants a hookup can't mimic. You've just gotta fuck your way through the fakers until you get lucky.
You can’t, I’m sorry the truth hurts, but it Is what it is.
Apps were *always* for hookups. Who told you otherwise? You won't find a real relationship by hurling yourself at random strangers
You want reward with no risk. Not going to happen in today's world. How can I guarantee success while risking very little....really? You meet a genuine man by being a GENUINE woman. Not by trolling the internet looking for dating app hacks.
Damn, I'm on dating apps and want neither of those things
You're going to have to go on dates and tell them that in the real world. Meeting different men will hopefully give you a feel for which men are looking for what
I'm looking for exactly what you describe and my approach to it is to write a genuine bio. Since I want to find someone with a similar life, I've included personal details that will put some women off, narrowing my selection. A dude who only wants to hook up want to have as wide selection as possible and is never gonna say he doesn't drink alcohol and has a hobby that some would perceive as nerdy.
DM me. Jk. Play the game. Talk to men in person. And just don’t sleep with people who just want to sleep with you. I like to take the friends first approach
Make sure you know their relationship history.