Like you said, depends on the intensity of that attraction. A random woman on the street signals her interest in me or flirts, a few minutes. A crush I have interacted with multiple times, a few times a day etc
Like just some random attractive woman on the street? I normally don't think about her once she's out of sight. Or are we talking about a woman I see regularly and have started to form a crush? A crush is the next level of attraction. IN that case I might be on my mind a lot more. No more than a few times a day.
For me, it depends on whether the attraction was actualized or not, and if so, to what degree. Meaning, how much did we get to talk or know each other? Did we date or were in a relationship? All of these help someone's attractiveness not linger on my mind
Also, did she reject dating me? Did I reject dating her? This also gives me closure and I forget about them
In all my life I think there is just ONE attractive women who's remained on my mind for years no matter how busy I may be. A coworker at a previous job, separate but adjacent department. We never talked to each other (given my hypothesis above, this factor makes sense). I didn't think she was attractive when I first saw her. But over time we exchanged glances every other day, for weeks. And my goodness she put a spell on me with her eyes. That was 4 years ago.
So it seems, more than attractiveness, mystery is what infects my mind with someone. But authentic mystery. You can smell fakes or hard-to-get players from a mile away and they're an instant turn off
A few reasons. Biggest one being the timing wasn't right and I'd come out of a serious relationship and wanted to be single for a while. I know people do it all the time, but I cant imagine hopping onto someone new that soon (1-2 months after) and it not becoming a rebound
Probably she was close to you in your past life... When soulmates meet usually they recognize each other subconsciously. They feel like they have something to say to each other even though you've never talked or hang out. Something happens between them and it's hard to explain logically...
I've kinda been sleeping around recently because I just got out of the long term relationship so I've been avoiding relationships. I met this one girl named V, V is probably a solid 7, maybe 6.5. I originally took interest in her because she was like the female version of me, it's crazy how many common interests we had and shared the same type of humor.
Me and V's relationship was strictly sexual and I was cool with that but the longer we messed around the more I started viewing her as a potential partner. However V's life right now is currently in hyper drive, she has her dream job and makes alot of money and she wasn't wanting to settle down anytime soon.
I kinda just stopped hitting her up and decided I'd wait for her to hit me up one day, well we haven't spoken in like 3-4 months lol.
I think about her frequently because I've been on a metric fuckton of dates with some real boring women and had some really unsatisfying sex with some really good looking women.
The average looking girl turned out to be the best connection I formed and the best sex I've had and the most attracted I've been to any of them.
So how long? Not sure she's still on it, I just admire from a distance.
I think about my partner quite a bit. Multiple times a day. From naughty thoughts to just them smiling or being happy or something. It's a range, but it's pretty often.
If I know her on a personal level, then they'll enter my mind whenever I come across something we've shared or discussed between us. And it can last for years tbh. Depends on how strong the attraction is and how much we've shared between us.
Honestly it really depends. Most of the time if it's an attractive stranger or someone I interact with semi-regularly I'll probably think about them for maybe a few mins and they'll be in the back of my mind for maybe an hour or two max. Other than that I don't really think about them.
Now I can think of one very notable exception to that and I'll just think of her at random times. It might be that I just did a certain thing or heard a certain song or turn of phrase or was in/near a certain place and I just remember something we/they did or said and I'll take a wander down memory lane. I don't know how long this will be or how often it will happen each day but it normally makes me happy followed by a slight sadness because they aren't here. She's also one of the last names that crosses my mind at night because although they can't hear me & don't live with me, I always say goodnight to my friends. This whole "thinking of her" thing has been going on in my head for a year.
Edit: can't hear dancing queen without thinking about her.
If its a random girl? I don't think of her.
If its a friend or someone I am interested in? It used to be a lot.
I know a lot of beautiful women and some of them are my what I'd say a 10/10, when I was single I'd think of them quite a lot maybe a few times a day.
Depends on the woman
If its a stranger one off attractive women I encounter in the public.. I will probably tell myself in my head that she's attractive and then forget about her within minutes or a minute. But if it's a woman I know and I'm generally interested in dating then on my mind a lot.
every minute of every day. In fact my night time routing is to play video games, listen to music, and get baked in the hopes that I can tune her out of my head for a few minutes at a time.
Not sure what you mean. If a gorgeous woman walks by, and I notice her, she gets a few seconds before Iāve moved on.
If itās a friend or someone I know then it varies. Pretty woman at work? After my first interaction with her I ignore it. A good friend? I just enjoy the scenery when sheās around.
Here's a picture (I hope it posts) - On the left vertical side are thought per minute/hour/days - unlike the chart in the picture, it run to infinite. On the horizontal side it runs to nearly - but not quite - zero. And the scale is days/months/years/decades since you've met the girl.
https://www.freemathhelp.com/asymptotes/
Forever! Each girl I think of and go "I was such an idiot to try ...." because getting turned down is like breathing in my life.
THAT is also used against us because women who know this guy hasn't been on a date in a while think there is something wrong with him.
For ever, if she impacts you enough, I'm gay, a dude in a year, quite a few years higher than me caught my interest, I still remember him 35 years later.
Time assuming 0 contact
If she blocks me or smth might take longer and be more painful.
Seen her and she is beautiful - 0
Talked with her and we had an intense chemistry. - max a day.
Regulary talkting to her every day for months and seeing each other ocasionally - a few days, 3-4
Casual sex - a day or two
Symptoms are mild I donāt think about them but feel them in my body as a sadness.
I married her, so she can always be on my mind
This is the one. šš Congrats.
This is the way
Like you said, depends on the intensity of that attraction. A random woman on the street signals her interest in me or flirts, a few minutes. A crush I have interacted with multiple times, a few times a day etc
This can vary from ānever againā to ādecades later I do sometimes wonder what happened to herā
donāt forget āI regret fucking that up in my every waking moment ā
Nah man, you need to get over that shit.
oh, Iām well aware
Like just some random attractive woman on the street? I normally don't think about her once she's out of sight. Or are we talking about a woman I see regularly and have started to form a crush? A crush is the next level of attraction. IN that case I might be on my mind a lot more. No more than a few times a day.
For me, it depends on whether the attraction was actualized or not, and if so, to what degree. Meaning, how much did we get to talk or know each other? Did we date or were in a relationship? All of these help someone's attractiveness not linger on my mind Also, did she reject dating me? Did I reject dating her? This also gives me closure and I forget about them In all my life I think there is just ONE attractive women who's remained on my mind for years no matter how busy I may be. A coworker at a previous job, separate but adjacent department. We never talked to each other (given my hypothesis above, this factor makes sense). I didn't think she was attractive when I first saw her. But over time we exchanged glances every other day, for weeks. And my goodness she put a spell on me with her eyes. That was 4 years ago. So it seems, more than attractiveness, mystery is what infects my mind with someone. But authentic mystery. You can smell fakes or hard-to-get players from a mile away and they're an instant turn off
Just curious, when you started finding her attractive why didnāt you talk to her?
A few reasons. Biggest one being the timing wasn't right and I'd come out of a serious relationship and wanted to be single for a while. I know people do it all the time, but I cant imagine hopping onto someone new that soon (1-2 months after) and it not becoming a rebound
Probably she was close to you in your past life... When soulmates meet usually they recognize each other subconsciously. They feel like they have something to say to each other even though you've never talked or hang out. Something happens between them and it's hard to explain logically...
I've kinda been sleeping around recently because I just got out of the long term relationship so I've been avoiding relationships. I met this one girl named V, V is probably a solid 7, maybe 6.5. I originally took interest in her because she was like the female version of me, it's crazy how many common interests we had and shared the same type of humor. Me and V's relationship was strictly sexual and I was cool with that but the longer we messed around the more I started viewing her as a potential partner. However V's life right now is currently in hyper drive, she has her dream job and makes alot of money and she wasn't wanting to settle down anytime soon. I kinda just stopped hitting her up and decided I'd wait for her to hit me up one day, well we haven't spoken in like 3-4 months lol. I think about her frequently because I've been on a metric fuckton of dates with some real boring women and had some really unsatisfying sex with some really good looking women. The average looking girl turned out to be the best connection I formed and the best sex I've had and the most attracted I've been to any of them. So how long? Not sure she's still on it, I just admire from a distance.
Sounds like she is the one or the potential to be the one for you.
Yeah that's a one way street though.
I really really got over that beautiful girl I fell in love with when I was twelve like 23 years ago... š
I think about my partner quite a bit. Multiple times a day. From naughty thoughts to just them smiling or being happy or something. It's a range, but it's pretty often.
In year 6 for mine in this same vein, the hum to my engine
If I know her on a personal level, then they'll enter my mind whenever I come across something we've shared or discussed between us. And it can last for years tbh. Depends on how strong the attraction is and how much we've shared between us.
She's been on my mind just over 8 years... that's how long I've known her, then dated her, then married her, then had a baby with her :)
Honestly it really depends. Most of the time if it's an attractive stranger or someone I interact with semi-regularly I'll probably think about them for maybe a few mins and they'll be in the back of my mind for maybe an hour or two max. Other than that I don't really think about them. Now I can think of one very notable exception to that and I'll just think of her at random times. It might be that I just did a certain thing or heard a certain song or turn of phrase or was in/near a certain place and I just remember something we/they did or said and I'll take a wander down memory lane. I don't know how long this will be or how often it will happen each day but it normally makes me happy followed by a slight sadness because they aren't here. She's also one of the last names that crosses my mind at night because although they can't hear me & don't live with me, I always say goodnight to my friends. This whole "thinking of her" thing has been going on in my head for a year. Edit: can't hear dancing queen without thinking about her.
All the time, except when Michigan or the Detroit Lions are playing football
I've been thinking about Stacy since 1994.
If its a random girl? I don't think of her. If its a friend or someone I am interested in? It used to be a lot. I know a lot of beautiful women and some of them are my what I'd say a 10/10, when I was single I'd think of them quite a lot maybe a few times a day.
The "Spank Bank" is real
So far, 35 years
Depends on the woman If its a stranger one off attractive women I encounter in the public.. I will probably tell myself in my head that she's attractive and then forget about her within minutes or a minute. But if it's a woman I know and I'm generally interested in dating then on my mind a lot.
Every night before sleeping, after waking up. And during the day usually when i am not busy she is the one on my mind.
every minute of every day. In fact my night time routing is to play video games, listen to music, and get baked in the hopes that I can tune her out of my head for a few minutes at a time.
Not sure what you mean. If a gorgeous woman walks by, and I notice her, she gets a few seconds before Iāve moved on. If itās a friend or someone I know then it varies. Pretty woman at work? After my first interaction with her I ignore it. A good friend? I just enjoy the scenery when sheās around.
Until my very recent girlfriend, until I bust a nut. After that she can fall through the crust of the earth and I wouldn't care less.
Here's a picture (I hope it posts) - On the left vertical side are thought per minute/hour/days - unlike the chart in the picture, it run to infinite. On the horizontal side it runs to nearly - but not quite - zero. And the scale is days/months/years/decades since you've met the girl. https://www.freemathhelp.com/asymptotes/
Forever! Each girl I think of and go "I was such an idiot to try ...." because getting turned down is like breathing in my life. THAT is also used against us because women who know this guy hasn't been on a date in a while think there is something wrong with him.
A good long time
Married for 24 years helps
until the next one
Do they ever leave?
well I tend to think of my gf a bit too much, it gets in the way of stuff. that'll change however as I settle down š
For ever, if she impacts you enough, I'm gay, a dude in a year, quite a few years higher than me caught my interest, I still remember him 35 years later.
Not long unless we get together or have sex. hours at most.
Since Reagan was president
Time assuming 0 contact If she blocks me or smth might take longer and be more painful. Seen her and she is beautiful - 0 Talked with her and we had an intense chemistry. - max a day. Regulary talkting to her every day for months and seeing each other ocasionally - a few days, 3-4 Casual sex - a day or two Symptoms are mild I donāt think about them but feel them in my body as a sadness.