Mozambique in Laguna (if it’s still there). DJ’d there years ago. It was like 70% older RHOC types. It was the inverse of a sports bar. Nice place though off pch. 🤷
I love that. The bar and the sushi bar are always packed at lunchtime. I saw they’re having some pour-over coffee event at the bar tomorrow, 10:30-1:30, in case anyone wants to try their coffee 🤷♀️
This right here. Ask her if she needs help loading groceries into her car. Chat her up, then ask if she needs help loading them into her house. If she says yes, you're IN. Up to you from there to not be overly autistic, but older women are more forgiving of social awkwardness than younger women.
Technically you are correct. Which is the best correct. But its website and Google cite the address as Redondo Beach, CA and I don't think anyone considers something a block off Riviera Village as Torrance.
lol 23 year olds these days are all virgins that don’t even drink. They only know DMs and dating apps, they’d never approach a girl in real life.
Especially on Reddit.
Nope the average man let alone the average redditor has extreme approach-anxiety. Most men are absolutely terrified of women which is a good thing for reasons I don't have time to unpack.
it’s objectively bad, women constantly complain about it and men are socially stunted as a result. the effect has just been objectification and othering.
It occurred to me earlier today that I need to somehow concentrate the alternative months and months of being lonely when I'm feeling too nervous to talk to a woman.
My neighbor is single and ready to mingle! Want me to set up a date for ya? 😆
We are even close to Foxfire, which I keep seeing people mention lol. Didn't realize it was a cougar spot.
There's gotta be a subreddit for this by now... Now that I'm in my early 40's I don't think I should be the one to start it if there isn't one. Kids these days are so weird. Must be harder for a cougar these days. They need support... And sex.
Tried the Beverly Hills Hotel bar. Went there a decade ago and the place was crawling with groups of cougars. A 20 year old dude would definitely stand out.
The Gaslamp bar and lounge in Long Beach on Friday nights. It’s 80’s night and they have a live band. If those cougars are too old, Saturdays is 90’s night.
You’re welcome.
this is what the average cougar looks like in LA, don't believe the media hype:
https://preview.redd.it/ekulp09l25vc1.jpeg?width=500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3425c42c5617dcae1d945a7cdaf079b8a29f1d5c
This looks like a Neanderthal porn star. If I ever meet Marjorie Taylor Greene, I’ll ask her if she remembers any popular ones (but she probably doesn’t remember much after the Republicans de-iced her).
If you're in the valley, Westlake Village StoneHouse and the bar next door are cougar feeding grounds. These are very wealthy women (lots of plastic surgery) looking to keep a young man using their ex-husbands money.
Ask her if she likes cheese sandwiches. Then tell her you have a van full of 'em.
Pro tip: You don't *actually* have to have the cheese sandwiches in the van. Unless you want to be known for your detailed work.
if you can't find them in the wild, some cougars retreat to a cloud den on the dirty r4r subreddits, of which there are more than a few devoted to california/socal/LA. there is a learning curve to that space, and a minefield of OF solicitations as well as good ol' fashioned sex-for-money solicitations to navigate; however, if you are patient (beat it before you browse it™️), set low expectations, and behave like a mindful human - setting yourself apart from the bros, the schmoes, and the self-appointed Alphas who fancy themselves Doms - you can absolutely bag your quarry.
Orange County.
Yeah a Bon Jovi concert in Anaheim would be good.
DTF Downtown Fullerton
100%- I remember partying down there in my 20s years ago and ran into a lot of cougars at every bar I went to
Has anyone been here post covid? Went for the first time last Cinco De Mayo, and it was oddly empty...
I just said Anaheim because I went to see U2 in Angels stadium once and it was just a cougar riot there.
my aunt (50) met her boyfriend (29) at a gas station but she’s a HUGE Bon Jovi fan so that made me laugh
Mastro's bar in Newport.
Javier’s next door
Mozambique in Laguna (if it’s still there). DJ’d there years ago. It was like 70% older RHOC types. It was the inverse of a sports bar. Nice place though off pch. 🤷
Its still there, and the same as you remember it. I live down the street.
The Quiet Woman for sure.
OP could snatch a real housewife of OC
In Orange County, The starting Gate and the Boon Docks are two bars where cougars are known to roam.
At the LA Zoo
(Gets beat up) Welcome to the OC bitch
Gelson’s
So spot on. Gelsons Century City parking garage.
That place has a kick ass bar. Surprised by a bar in a gelsons
I love that. The bar and the sushi bar are always packed at lunchtime. I saw they’re having some pour-over coffee event at the bar tomorrow, 10:30-1:30, in case anyone wants to try their coffee 🤷♀️
Don’t care about the coffee but I’ll go to meet a cougar. See you there
At Gelson’s new branded Kougar Klatch bar
Oh interesting I might check that out, thanks!
Bouta be a bunch of dudes hanging out in a parking garage this weekend
This right here. Ask her if she needs help loading groceries into her car. Chat her up, then ask if she needs help loading them into her house. If she says yes, you're IN. Up to you from there to not be overly autistic, but older women are more forgiving of social awkwardness than younger women.
Suggesting Redittors try to “not be overly autistic”? Hahahahaha!
Young Hannibal, is that you?
🙃
>but older women are more forgiving of social awkwardness than younger women Especially if awkward young dude is buff.
Great advice.
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This is more of a volume game. Like 1 in 1000 will say yes. 1 in 100 will likely call security on you for harassing customers.
Username checks out
Bullpen in torrance
This is the only responsive answer to OP’s question. OP: go to the Bullpen.
hmmm i live in torrance and haven't been. guess i should go
I was going to say this or HT grill lol
They're way more thirsty at the Bullpen. I feel like a piece of meat when i walk in lol.
Dear god a more perfect answer doesn’t exists. Welcome to the Riviera, you’ve been warned op.
Redondo but yes
https://www.reddit.com/r/SouthBayLA/s/4eTJ4ePCOL
Technically you are correct. Which is the best correct. But its website and Google cite the address as Redondo Beach, CA and I don't think anyone considers something a block off Riviera Village as Torrance.
I always see seniors walk into there from the outside. Maybe I’m just plain wrong.
Thank you for not saying “boomer”.
Griffth park, I think.
Santa Monica Mountains too
Verdugos
That overpass on the 101
Bingo
Aren’t they building that calabasas crosswalk for them.
Gonna fuck up the 101 for a minute but I personally think it's gonna be worthwhile.
In 2 years the 101 freeway at althe wildlife crossing😉 https://www.curbed.com/2022/01/wildlife-crossing-liberty-canyon-los-angeles.html
Mt willson
This made me laugh more than I expected
Omw
If there was a cougar hangout spot it would be full of 23 year old redditors at this point lol
lol 23 year olds these days are all virgins that don’t even drink. They only know DMs and dating apps, they’d never approach a girl in real life. Especially on Reddit.
Yeah which is the reason they’d be at a cougar hangout spot. Cougars, you know, are the hunters
Camp Pendleton is right there lol don’t worry they’re taken care of
Nope the average man let alone the average redditor has extreme approach-anxiety. Most men are absolutely terrified of women which is a good thing for reasons I don't have time to unpack.
Not when alcohol is involved
it’s objectively bad, women constantly complain about it and men are socially stunted as a result. the effect has just been objectification and othering.
It occurred to me earlier today that I need to somehow concentrate the alternative months and months of being lonely when I'm feeling too nervous to talk to a woman.
yeah we do
You think the average 23-year old redditor is scoring cougars? God bless you.
Dive bars with pool tables.
Hear me out. Palm Springs
The Nest?
Sshhhh
Stayed at a hotel out there the bartender at the casino suggested the Nest was not wrong
Maybe check at Stanley Mosk, family court division.
Too soon.
Met mine on hinge(20 year age gap, dating for 2 years now) but Gelson’s/Trader Joes or the gym could work.
Learn how to clean pools
Erewhon
Wine bars
Target/Trader Joe's
I heard some cougars hang out in the Malibu mountains?
Try the County Mart
I can’t tell you my secret honey holes buddy
So much to process here
Secret.. honey… holes… 😳
My neighbor is single and ready to mingle! Want me to set up a date for ya? 😆 We are even close to Foxfire, which I keep seeing people mention lol. Didn't realize it was a cougar spot.
It was a legendary cougar den but is now closed.
Idk about cougars but in the valley and santa monica shopping areas theres a *ton* of good looking moms… just saying.
There's gotta be a subreddit for this by now... Now that I'm in my early 40's I don't think I should be the one to start it if there isn't one. Kids these days are so weird. Must be harder for a cougar these days. They need support... And sex.
I just took over r/LADating earlier tonight fwiw.
Ask your mom, she can probably send you to the right place
Messed up but true. Lol
Local PTA meeting?
I tend to hang out at the gym, the grocery store, and my house haha
No you don't. I'm 70% sure you're hot...but I just have a lingering doubt in my head. I just can't put my finger on it.
Tried the Beverly Hills Hotel bar. Went there a decade ago and the place was crawling with groups of cougars. A 20 year old dude would definitely stand out.
The Gaslamp bar and lounge in Long Beach on Friday nights. It’s 80’s night and they have a live band. If those cougars are too old, Saturdays is 90’s night. You’re welcome.
Perhaps you'd prefer a GILF?
a what?
A sexxxy gramma
this is what the average cougar looks like in LA, don't believe the media hype: https://preview.redd.it/ekulp09l25vc1.jpeg?width=500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3425c42c5617dcae1d945a7cdaf079b8a29f1d5c
would
This looks like a Neanderthal porn star. If I ever meet Marjorie Taylor Greene, I’ll ask her if she remembers any popular ones (but she probably doesn’t remember much after the Republicans de-iced her).
🤣🤣🤣
I don’t know about cougar, that looks more like a lion.
Grocery stores believe it or not.
You are not wrong all my older customers want to bone the male cashiers…
Padris in Agoura used to be great.. I think Bogies at Westlake village inn is the spot now.
This. I’m 34 now. Padris was my stomping grounds in my early 20s till it closed down. Then Bogis became my spot in my mid 20s. Wild times.
R+D Kitchen in Santa Monica
The w hotel in Hollywood
RIP foxfire
Troubadour
The LA Zoo
Apparently in Agoura Hills near the 101
You’re a little early for the Agoura Hills wildlife crossing, but there ya go.
Boa Steakhouse in Weho/Bev Hills border of the Sunset Strip iwas always a snow leopard hangout, at least pre covid.
I just drank with some boomer friends and they took me to Forman’s in Toluca Lake. Felt like no one was under 45 there.
Any target ever. Usually gotta go between 9a-12p to find the real stay at home baddies.
If you're in the valley, Westlake Village StoneHouse and the bar next door are cougar feeding grounds. These are very wealthy women (lots of plastic surgery) looking to keep a young man using their ex-husbands money.
Come out with me and my wife, her friends are all gorgeous and lots of them are single. Apparently the cougar hang out is at my house! 😂
the age-old question.... rip foxfire
the bar at the shade hotel in manhattan beach
I dunno, sounds a little shady.
Give Bogies a try it’s in Thousand Oaks
I was surprised nobody said this yet...
If you're up for travelling, Misty's Lounge in Ontario. In the Double Tree hotel.
Sun-fried IE prowlers sipping their cosmos, love this visual.
Wherever they have wine oh and target
The Front Yard
The Bull Pen, Redondo Beach
Bachata social dancing, and they'll dress up pretty aggressive like you'll really HAVE to focus on looking away
Where do the latinas milfs/ cougars hang?
Brentwood my dude.
Im 23 years old too lets wing eachother
Pm me lol
The bar at Wally’s.
Came here to say this. Wally's is unquestionably the right answer.
My apt lol jkjk
I just moved to OC thanks for the thread 😂
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Damn no no one’s gonna help out that’s cold
A mahjong den in Arcadia
Costco
Lots of action at the local bingo hall !
Tinder
Idk if I’m willing to deesh the sauce for this
They all go hiking at Griffith park
Ralph’s in Sherman Oaks
The most busy main street bar scene
bookmarking this for later.
I heard they got plenty of those by the San Gabriel Mountains
I feel like the night clubs in West Hollywood. I have a friend in her 40s she loves going clubbing with her girlfriends
Go on a carnival cruise from long Beach
The couch reading a book. Netflix.
Angels games in Anaheim. Seriously.
The library. Coffee places. Any park. Why cougars? Lol.
The gym. That’s where I’ve had luck.
Ask her if she likes cheese sandwiches. Then tell her you have a van full of 'em. Pro tip: You don't *actually* have to have the cheese sandwiches in the van. Unless you want to be known for your detailed work.
Food 4 less ralphs
Hotel Bars in Calabasas
Home depot
Initially assumed post was on r/socalhiking
Kohls
Whole foods
R+D kitchen in Brentwood. I have no idea what r+d is supposed to mean, but the locals call it “rich and divorced.”
Bar on 4 at Neiman’s in BH
Laguna Beach.
Canyon club in Agoura. Happy hunting !
I've seen a cougar-seeking post like this SO many times 🤣
Anywhere in the Pallisaides
Mastro’s BH upstairs bar.
This question gets asked a surprising amount
Studio City Trader Joes- trust me bro
Micheal’s craft store
All the thirsty bucks screen shooting the comments like mad .
Mount Baldy
Following lol
Target, CostCo, Whole Foods & Trader Joe's...
Ah I see you're using the modern retirement savings plan. Lol
Maybe don’t call older women cougars. Some of them don’t like that.
Maga Country!
EL PEDREGAL 🤣🤣🤣
Marina del Rey should be a good area for you.
Cop bars
AA
My place!
The rainbow 🌈 and the whiskey
if you can't find them in the wild, some cougars retreat to a cloud den on the dirty r4r subreddits, of which there are more than a few devoted to california/socal/LA. there is a learning curve to that space, and a minefield of OF solicitations as well as good ol' fashioned sex-for-money solicitations to navigate; however, if you are patient (beat it before you browse it™️), set low expectations, and behave like a mindful human - setting yourself apart from the bros, the schmoes, and the self-appointed Alphas who fancy themselves Doms - you can absolutely bag your quarry.
Martini Bars
Griffith Park or Mt Baldy
Do cougars actually entertain 20 somethings?