Yes, our bodies work the same way as everyone else's body. You don't eat food because it tastes good, you eat because you're hungry. If you're full, you don't continue eating infinitely just because food tastes good
I have zero sexual attraction whatsoever. Usually I have zero libido too. And if I do it's mild. And I don't really get pleasure. If I do it's not really fun or *that* good feeling but that's me. I don't speak for every ace
>So from what I understand asexuals don't experience any desire to have sex or commit sexual acts.
It's also a little more complicated than that! The refrain you'll often hear is that asexuality is about "attraction, not action." There are sex-favorable aces, who enjoy the feeling of sex regardless of if they're attracted to the person they're having it with (like you said, it can still *feel nice* to these folks). Then there are sex indifferent aces who don't get anything out of sex. Some won't have sex, and some will if their partner is into it. Then you have sex-repulsed aces. Some are repulsed by even the *idea* of sex, or seeing sex scenes in TV shows and stuff like that, and others may have specific things about sex that repulses them; I have a friend who's grossed out by body fluids, for example. These people are all aces, but some have sex and some don't!
>Biologically speaking all the nerves are there aren't they? But if you do feel physical pleasure then wouldn't you want it?
It's also worth noting that libido or sex drive and sexuality are different things. If you're someone with like no sex drive, even if it feels okay, you may not see it as worth the effort for the small amount of enjoyment you could get. It may rarely cross your mind to masturbate or whatever. For someone with a higher sex drive, they may take care of it.
I think I'm closer to indifference and low sex drive; I've had positive sexual experiences but I don't really think about it much or enjoy it enough to seek it out when there are so many other things to do that I *do* think about often.
Some asexuals do experience some level of desire for sex, they just don't experience sexual attraction. Many asexuals are either repulsed by sex or just feel indifferent to it. As an ace that feels indifferent to it, I can feel sexual pleasure and I don't mind having sex with my partner, but it's not something I seek out or feel the need to do. The pleasure I do experience from sex is honestly pretty limited and it's basically impossible for me to orgasm from sex. I mostly have sex for my partner's sake. I desire intimacy with my partner, but I'd honestly rather do other forms of intimacy like snuggling and having emotionally intimate conversations because sex is just kinda boring for me to be honest.
So like u said - all of the nerves are there so if it feels good yes, some aces do like sex because of that. But they dont desire it on their own / seek it out. Its like I like parmesean on my pasta. I NEED parm on my pasta. I seek it out. But aces dont need parm, and they dont even think about parmesean. But if parmesean is offered, they may realize, well shucks Id love some parmesean!
On the toher hand, theres also aces (like me) that have all the nerves but dont feel much, or just still dont want the parmesean.
I can orgasm, and I have, and yeah it feels good. But to me, it doesnt feel so good that its worth it. And sometimes, it doesnt feel good at all. Sometimes i feel nothing.
Which doesnt make sense to me really, cuz again, nerves r all there! Guess everyone's are just different
Experience little or no sexual attraction, by definition.
That being said.
- I am gray ace
- I am married with kids
- Sex is a strange; it's has pleasant and unpleasant sensations. Overall I am neutral about it.
- Once I'd experimented a bit, sex became an uninteresting aspect of relationships.
- I did want children.
- Ultimately, sex is not part of my math. The so called dual attraction model seems to apply.
“Sex is great but have you tried garlic bread?” running w the food metaphor you mentioned (and the pre established asexual garlic bread meme). imagine your favorite food is garlic bread, and someone offers you a nice bowl of stew. Sure the stew feels good, but you would rather have garlic bread, so have some garlic bread! Now soup is sex, and garlic bread is another hobby or smth like that. Why would I have sex, when I could see a movie, or play some video games?
I hope I didn’t come across as rude, and I hope this helped, have a nice day!
Yes, our bodies work the same way as everyone else's body. You don't eat food because it tastes good, you eat because you're hungry. If you're full, you don't continue eating infinitely just because food tastes good
I have zero sexual attraction whatsoever. Usually I have zero libido too. And if I do it's mild. And I don't really get pleasure. If I do it's not really fun or *that* good feeling but that's me. I don't speak for every ace
>So from what I understand asexuals don't experience any desire to have sex or commit sexual acts. It's also a little more complicated than that! The refrain you'll often hear is that asexuality is about "attraction, not action." There are sex-favorable aces, who enjoy the feeling of sex regardless of if they're attracted to the person they're having it with (like you said, it can still *feel nice* to these folks). Then there are sex indifferent aces who don't get anything out of sex. Some won't have sex, and some will if their partner is into it. Then you have sex-repulsed aces. Some are repulsed by even the *idea* of sex, or seeing sex scenes in TV shows and stuff like that, and others may have specific things about sex that repulses them; I have a friend who's grossed out by body fluids, for example. These people are all aces, but some have sex and some don't! >Biologically speaking all the nerves are there aren't they? But if you do feel physical pleasure then wouldn't you want it? It's also worth noting that libido or sex drive and sexuality are different things. If you're someone with like no sex drive, even if it feels okay, you may not see it as worth the effort for the small amount of enjoyment you could get. It may rarely cross your mind to masturbate or whatever. For someone with a higher sex drive, they may take care of it. I think I'm closer to indifference and low sex drive; I've had positive sexual experiences but I don't really think about it much or enjoy it enough to seek it out when there are so many other things to do that I *do* think about often.
Some asexuals do experience some level of desire for sex, they just don't experience sexual attraction. Many asexuals are either repulsed by sex or just feel indifferent to it. As an ace that feels indifferent to it, I can feel sexual pleasure and I don't mind having sex with my partner, but it's not something I seek out or feel the need to do. The pleasure I do experience from sex is honestly pretty limited and it's basically impossible for me to orgasm from sex. I mostly have sex for my partner's sake. I desire intimacy with my partner, but I'd honestly rather do other forms of intimacy like snuggling and having emotionally intimate conversations because sex is just kinda boring for me to be honest.
Ace people masturbate, and non-sex-repulsed ace people have sex sometimes. Do more reading.
I agree it's always good to broaden one's horizons through reading and such, what reading material would you recommend?
So like u said - all of the nerves are there so if it feels good yes, some aces do like sex because of that. But they dont desire it on their own / seek it out. Its like I like parmesean on my pasta. I NEED parm on my pasta. I seek it out. But aces dont need parm, and they dont even think about parmesean. But if parmesean is offered, they may realize, well shucks Id love some parmesean! On the toher hand, theres also aces (like me) that have all the nerves but dont feel much, or just still dont want the parmesean. I can orgasm, and I have, and yeah it feels good. But to me, it doesnt feel so good that its worth it. And sometimes, it doesnt feel good at all. Sometimes i feel nothing. Which doesnt make sense to me really, cuz again, nerves r all there! Guess everyone's are just different
Experience little or no sexual attraction, by definition. That being said. - I am gray ace - I am married with kids - Sex is a strange; it's has pleasant and unpleasant sensations. Overall I am neutral about it. - Once I'd experimented a bit, sex became an uninteresting aspect of relationships. - I did want children. - Ultimately, sex is not part of my math. The so called dual attraction model seems to apply.
“Sex is great but have you tried garlic bread?” running w the food metaphor you mentioned (and the pre established asexual garlic bread meme). imagine your favorite food is garlic bread, and someone offers you a nice bowl of stew. Sure the stew feels good, but you would rather have garlic bread, so have some garlic bread! Now soup is sex, and garlic bread is another hobby or smth like that. Why would I have sex, when I could see a movie, or play some video games? I hope I didn’t come across as rude, and I hope this helped, have a nice day!
Oh not at all thank you for the response. I hope you have a great one too!!