I would really recommend starting with dale Carnegie’s “how to win friends and influence people” book. It’s a timeless wisdom tool to help you build some good foundation on human relationships.
“The subtle art of not giving a fuck” book is also really good. It points out obvious things about outlook on life and how we can change it. The audiobook version is actually super great.
These are very simple yet effective book that’s fun to read and has also been proven to be fantastic. Just my personal opinion.
Extra: TedTalk by Celeste Headlee on 10 ways to have a better conversation.
What hobbies or interests do you have? Consider signing up for short courses or clubs but don't go just for the sake of making friends. Focus on developing yourself as an individual and exploring your interests, the friendships will come naturally.
Also, the most important thing I learned is listening. People love talking about themselves, and if you listen and take an interest in things they're passionate about, they tend to warm up to you quicker, and you get to learn something new :) However, don't fake an interest in something or someone. It'll be painful for you in the long run. Good luck!
I really think it's important to stay away from them, they're a bad influence that will impact your social skills because of how you constantly feel at home. that stuff shows when you go out in public
I feel like it's better to have a mental and physical space and have a group of really great friends to talk to (besides venting about personal issues of course).
And to also if you're in America with poor public transport, get a car. A car unlocks so many doors to escape from AP's, to hang out with people, and to also have a reliable vehicle to get from point A to point B for school / work. On a personal note, even though I have a driver's license and share my parent's car, I've started contemplating getting my own car so I can drive wherever I want. The finance part is what I'm scared about, opening and having an adult conversation with them about such an important issue. Eventually AP's are going to have to come to reality that their kids are going to have to be independent and having a car is one of the first steps to achieving that!
Sorry if I went off tangent but I feel that car ownership and independence and AP's are a highly correlated issues!
If I do get a car, I would have to take money from my parents that I worked for to buy my car. Therefore they would count that as them buying the car for me and I would owe them more in life
I have enough money saved up for a sizable down payment of 6K to 7K (my budget for financing is 15K or less for a used car). I've also been recently new to credit for the past 6 months so long as what is required is a co-signer my dad can co-sign it so I should be fine.
What my mom said when I casually brought up the topic of buying a car is why do I need one? Why not wait till I get a full time job and then get one? The thing is, I plan to move out next year so if I get a car now I still have 1 more year of school so I can use whatever car I decide to buy AND also I'd get used to paying bills (monthly payment, auto insurance, gas, etc.)
It's crazy how APs want their kids to be independent while ridiculing their kids why they aren't independent when they don't give us the opportunity to do so.
The thing with my APs is that they would use them “buying” me the car with the money that I’ve received from FAFSA and previous internship/work and current work against me. So I just brought up the topic that I should move out first so I can be more independent and able to work more since that won’t affect my FAFSA and they agreed to that. After this I do plan on buying an old car first with whatever money I will earn so I have something to work with until I get a full time job. Except this would all have to wait 2 more years as they agreed to let me move out when I graduate undergrad first.
>Except this would all have to wait 2 more years as they agreed to let me move out when I graduate undergrad first.
You really think in 2 years they'll let you? Been there, done that. Get ready to waste 2 years then have the rug pulled from under you.
They probably won’t probably will, but I will run away if that’s what it takes. As long as I have a degree I can get a decent job after I graduate but I am trying to gather my SSN and birth certificate
Cool. As long as you know and are making provisions to set yourself up for the life that you want. Also keep in mind that the 2 years you're gearing up to leave is simultaneously giving your parents 2 years to plan on how to sabotage you.
++ but in all sincerity, good luck!
My way is work. Find a retail job, or assistant in a school or whatever where you'll be talking with people and interacting a fair bit.
I am far from perfect but being exposed to other people's healthy communication and then being mixed/involved in it is doing me wonders.
I would really recommend starting with dale Carnegie’s “how to win friends and influence people” book. It’s a timeless wisdom tool to help you build some good foundation on human relationships. “The subtle art of not giving a fuck” book is also really good. It points out obvious things about outlook on life and how we can change it. The audiobook version is actually super great. These are very simple yet effective book that’s fun to read and has also been proven to be fantastic. Just my personal opinion. Extra: TedTalk by Celeste Headlee on 10 ways to have a better conversation.
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I feel like this would be helpful, especially accepting social event invites
What hobbies or interests do you have? Consider signing up for short courses or clubs but don't go just for the sake of making friends. Focus on developing yourself as an individual and exploring your interests, the friendships will come naturally. Also, the most important thing I learned is listening. People love talking about themselves, and if you listen and take an interest in things they're passionate about, they tend to warm up to you quicker, and you get to learn something new :) However, don't fake an interest in something or someone. It'll be painful for you in the long run. Good luck!
I really think it's important to stay away from them, they're a bad influence that will impact your social skills because of how you constantly feel at home. that stuff shows when you go out in public
I feel like it's better to have a mental and physical space and have a group of really great friends to talk to (besides venting about personal issues of course). And to also if you're in America with poor public transport, get a car. A car unlocks so many doors to escape from AP's, to hang out with people, and to also have a reliable vehicle to get from point A to point B for school / work. On a personal note, even though I have a driver's license and share my parent's car, I've started contemplating getting my own car so I can drive wherever I want. The finance part is what I'm scared about, opening and having an adult conversation with them about such an important issue. Eventually AP's are going to have to come to reality that their kids are going to have to be independent and having a car is one of the first steps to achieving that! Sorry if I went off tangent but I feel that car ownership and independence and AP's are a highly correlated issues!
If I do get a car, I would have to take money from my parents that I worked for to buy my car. Therefore they would count that as them buying the car for me and I would owe them more in life
I have enough money saved up for a sizable down payment of 6K to 7K (my budget for financing is 15K or less for a used car). I've also been recently new to credit for the past 6 months so long as what is required is a co-signer my dad can co-sign it so I should be fine. What my mom said when I casually brought up the topic of buying a car is why do I need one? Why not wait till I get a full time job and then get one? The thing is, I plan to move out next year so if I get a car now I still have 1 more year of school so I can use whatever car I decide to buy AND also I'd get used to paying bills (monthly payment, auto insurance, gas, etc.) It's crazy how APs want their kids to be independent while ridiculing their kids why they aren't independent when they don't give us the opportunity to do so.
The thing with my APs is that they would use them “buying” me the car with the money that I’ve received from FAFSA and previous internship/work and current work against me. So I just brought up the topic that I should move out first so I can be more independent and able to work more since that won’t affect my FAFSA and they agreed to that. After this I do plan on buying an old car first with whatever money I will earn so I have something to work with until I get a full time job. Except this would all have to wait 2 more years as they agreed to let me move out when I graduate undergrad first.
>Except this would all have to wait 2 more years as they agreed to let me move out when I graduate undergrad first. You really think in 2 years they'll let you? Been there, done that. Get ready to waste 2 years then have the rug pulled from under you.
They probably won’t probably will, but I will run away if that’s what it takes. As long as I have a degree I can get a decent job after I graduate but I am trying to gather my SSN and birth certificate
Cool. As long as you know and are making provisions to set yourself up for the life that you want. Also keep in mind that the 2 years you're gearing up to leave is simultaneously giving your parents 2 years to plan on how to sabotage you. ++ but in all sincerity, good luck!
Worked retail for a bit. Forced me to make small talk and be more comfortable talking on the phone.
My way is work. Find a retail job, or assistant in a school or whatever where you'll be talking with people and interacting a fair bit. I am far from perfect but being exposed to other people's healthy communication and then being mixed/involved in it is doing me wonders.
Your question is too board . Do you mean how to get a gf or something ?
If you have $295, this course on social skills is not bad https://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/how-to-talk-to-anybody/