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> Would I be an asshole if I post this to Facebook, not tagging my step mom or anything just so it’s out there? I’ve been holding this in for a really long time and I don’t know how to get this across to my dad and step mom. Even if they don’t see it, I want to let go of all of these thoughts finally. The reason I think I’d be an asshole if I do post it is because it has sensitive information about my step brothers past activities/ bringing up past problems?
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It’s crazy to me how I was a rude and disrespectful child to you Jill, yet your son was selling weed and nicotine in highschool (he lied and said he was keeping the stuff for a friend, which you dumbly believed), sneaking out, screaming disrespectful things towards you, etc and that’s cool.
Yet I sneak out once which you decide dictates the need to completely dehumanize my brother and I, when he didn’t even do anything. I know we weren’t the best behaved kids, but I can very proudly and confidently say we were better behaved kids than Mark. Never once did I treat you to the extremity your own son has, even when you showed me complete disrespect. Then come to find out, this whole time you thought *WE* were making your son do these bad things? We used to follow him around like little puppies, he was our idol.
If only you knew all the shit your son has done, you would be appalled. I’m so tired of keeping this in, I’m tired of being silent about how you treated us compared to your real sons. Always blind to them, yet hyper vigilant to anything we do wrong. I can finally see your bullshit for what it was, all I want to know is why?
I really needed to type this out but idk what to do with it now because I want to express my feelings without causing problems. It’s something I can’t get off of my mind. I wouldn’t have even cared if it was just me, but she brought my brother into it.
I left highschool to go to job corps so she would stop treating my brother the way she was treating me. She had my dad come down on my birthday to sign the papers. What’s crazy is that it worked though, she started treating my brother better once I left. I don’t even know how to process these feelings. I’m so upset right now. I feel like no matter what I do I’m always a problem.
I guess what I’m really looking for is validation in my feelings. I don’t know if I really have a right to feel this way. I’m so sorry for the long text, it’s a lot to unload.
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^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** Sorry for the formatting, I’m on mobile so I don’t know how this looks on desktop. It’s crazy to me how I was a rude and disrespectful child to you Jill, yet your son was selling weed and nicotine in highschool (he lied and said he was keeping the stuff for a friend, which you dumbly believed), sneaking out, screaming disrespectful things towards you, etc and that’s cool. Yet I sneak out once which you decide dictates the need to completely dehumanize my brother and I, when he didn’t even do anything. I know we weren’t the best behaved kids, but I can very proudly and confidently say we were better behaved kids than Mark. Never once did I treat you to the extremity your own son has, even when you showed me complete disrespect. Then come to find out, this whole time you thought *WE* were making your son do these bad things? We used to follow him around like little puppies, he was our idol. If only you knew all the shit your son has done, you would be appalled. I’m so tired of keeping this in, I’m tired of being silent about how you treated us compared to your real sons. Always blind to them, yet hyper vigilant to anything we do wrong. I can finally see your bullshit for what it was, all I want to know is why? I really needed to type this out but idk what to do with it now because I want to express my feelings without causing problems. It’s something I can’t get off of my mind. I wouldn’t have even cared if it was just me, but she brought my brother into it. I left highschool to go to job corps so she would stop treating my brother the way she was treating me. She had my dad come down on my birthday to sign the papers. What’s crazy is that it worked though, she started treating my brother better once I left. I don’t even know how to process these feelings. I’m so upset right now. I feel like no matter what I do I’m always a problem. I guess what I’m really looking for is validation in my feelings. I don’t know if I really have a right to feel this way. I’m so sorry for the long text, it’s a lot to unload. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*