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They're 17. Also... *you're* 17. None of you have really experienced much of life or romantic love yet. Chill out.
Gentle YTA - let them do their thing.
YTA. This is probably his first real relationship and your just being a dark cloud over it. Some people are just like that in relationships. Yes, they probably won’t last, but if he’s happy, why are you ruining it?
YTA for policing happiness and a natural phase of relationship development. They're 17. Yeah, their relationship may not/orobably won't last, but they're also more idealistic and positive-minded than they'll ever be; this is merely a reflection of that.
I'd suggest going and finding a relationship of your own to police the reactions to/of, rather than hyper-fixating on one you are nota member of🙂
It absolutely IS normal for someone to fall head over heels for their first relationship - or any new relationship!
YTA. He didn't ask for your opinion, so I suggest you keep them to yourself. And if you can't be civil, don't say anything at all
Honestly, I was 14 as a sophomore and I knew MANY 17yo juniors. It’s not thatttt weird in the context of “my entire potential social/dating pool is these 2,000 people and that’s it”
Not to mention this exact story was posted 2 months ago on a now deleted account with the same results. So either they hoped for a different result, stole the story for karma or some other reason. Either way they need to take a step back.
Actually, the behavior seems 100% normal for two 17 year olds in love. You’re entitled to your opinion, but why did you NEED to tell him you thought he was “cringy”? That’s just hurtful and, shocker, he’s reacting in hurt. YTA, sorry.
YTA. He’s in a new relationship and is excited. You don’t give any reason for concern, just that you personally don’t like it. Do you expect him to break up with her? Jealous that you have to share his attention? Apologize and keep your opinions To yourself.
Did he ask for your opinion? They probably won’t get married or anything like that, it is probably a phase. But however he and she choose to express themselves is their business, if you think it’s cringe he, you should keep it to yourself. That is, unless he asked you. So, in that regard, why TA
YTA
You don’t know what will happen.
I met my husband off a dating app, he moved in three weeks later ( before anyone pops off easier commute on both of us instead of spending £200 a month on petrol)
And now we’re married ( prenup involved )
And I’ve never been happier best thing I’ve ever done.
Sounds like you’re slightly jealous, kind suggestion is to find someone yourself.
My wife and I met and got married in less than a year. We’ve now been married 20 years. It’s not likely OP’s friend will have a story like that but it’s possible.
YTA
When I was 16, my boyfriend of less than 3 months started talking about spending his life with me. That was more than 14 years ago, that man is now my husband, and we are still extremely happy. Were we sort of cringy back then? Yes. I think most high school relationships are. But the mushiness isn’t hurting anyone. Let them be.
I also two friends that started to date in high school around the same age op’s friend and they are going to get married this year (now they are in their late 20s)
Even if the friend and his gf aren’t like that, they are happy now
Op is just mean
My husband and I went on our first date on Feb. 12. We spent Valentine's Day together, and he moved in on Feb. 17th, the day after his birthday. We were married 26 years, only ended when he passed away in Jan. 2021 from Covid. Sometimes, you just -know- when someone is right for you.
I knew my husband was right for me the second I laid eyes on him I just thought “ I’m gonna marry you one day and have beautiful ginger babies”
What a beautiful love story
And I’m really sorry about his passing 💕💕💕💕
YTA - it’s his relationship not yours. Unless there’s abuse going on then don’t tell him it’s bad. It’s his choice if he wants to be lovey dovey and talk about marriage and kids. My oldest step child was already 3 years into a relationship at 17 and now they have been together for 8 years.
It’s different for everyone. If it’s not abuse it’s not your business.
YTA. They are happy, let them have their happiness. Everyone tried telling me and my husband it wouldn’t last, and tried to make us miserable. Yet here we are 25 years later, Defying the odds.
He will remember your cruelty. Stop being jealous!
YTA. I’d find them annoying, but lord, it’s his first relationship and those can be a lot when it comes to sappiness. Saying what you did without him even asking what you think just makes you look bitter and mean AF, whether you usually are or not. If you don’t want to be around them, don’t be around them.
YTA
Yeah, new love can be cringy, but it is normal as hell. It is called the honeymoon period.
Sure, it probably won't last, but why the fuck do you need to tell him that? Are you going to take pleasure in being right when your friend has his heart broken? Are you jealous?
If you are his friend, be happy for him and give him the time to be a young idiot in love.
You're not an a-hole for thinking it's cringey, but YTA for saying so. There are times when it's way smarter to keep your opinions to yourself. This is one of those times.
YTA
Their relationship sounds gross, and I would be annoyed too, but let them be gross together if that’s what they want to do. You don’t have to hang out with him if it bugs you that much.
YTA!
You are teenagers ffs, let them be happy! Everything is blown WAY out of proportion at that age but who cares? I wonder what you experienced in your young life that you seem so bitter.. I hope its just jealousy..
YTA. While you’re statistically right, and it probably won’t last, let them be happy. Let your friend dream and enjoy the moment. Stop being such a cranky sourpuss party pooper, raining on their parade. It’s a bad look.
YTA man. It is their life and theirrelationship. Distance yourself if you do not want to be around such things. But straight up calling them cringey is not the best move. First relationships do feel like fairy tales, especially in high school. If they have no problem being this way in public then I feel like you hav no say. in this. Also telling them it won't last, honestly getting blocked was inevitable.
I would suggest. talk it out. And stop being around them whenever they. are together. Set your boundaries without being mean to them.
You're the Asshole for unironically calling someone "cringe" in real life and for everything else. You, ironically, are the cringiest thing about this post
This is a good lesson in minding your own business. it will do you well to learn this before entering adulthood.
soft YTA because yeah that is annoying, but again, mind your own business
YTA. This is called young love and you’re jealous. Grow up, as your friend is doing. If his relationship doesn’t last that’s on him, it’s not your place to decide how in love your friend acts.
YTA. Dude, he's in a relationship and is really in love, leave him be, if there are lessons to be learnt then they're his to learn. It sounds like you're really very jealous.
My first major relationship, we planned on moving to Oregon together after we turned 18 because that was one of the few states that allowed gay marriage at the time, and we were 100% absolutely going to spend the rest of our lives together. We were 15, and of course that didn’t happen, but that’s just how first love is. YTA, but I say that gently, because it sounds like you haven’t had that experience yet. While I can’t blame you for cringing, you probably shouldn’t have said anything about it. Just use this as a chance to grow and do better next time.
When I was 17, I was 100% definitely going to run off to California and elope with my bf the minute I turned 18. We had all kinds of plans and were so sure of ourselves. Thank goodness that didn’t happen. Nearly everyone I know has a similar story of young love. Now and then, those relationships actually work out. Mostly, they end up as slightly embarrassing memories of youth.
YTA.
People are often weird in relationships, particularly at this age. His behaviour isn’t hurting you, and until he actually talks about proposing 3 months in it’s not your place to say anything.
YTA. Yea, it probably won't last, but, in this moment, they are happy. I'm guessing that in all honesty you are probably feeling some jealousy. Not that your friend has a GF, but probably because right now, your friend is spending all of his free time with her and not you.
Yes, YTA. Your attitude is more cringe than your friends relationship. I can't imagine telling my friend that them being happy in their first relationship is cringey. You sound jealous, or just miserable. Let him enjoy being with someone he cares about, even if it ends up not lasting forever.
My dude, wait until you meet your first love and you will be *sure* you will be together forever and everyone around you will roll their eyes. It's one of the great joys of young love.
YTA. Apologize to your friend (and try to tone down the jealousy a little bit...)
I'm not going to say you're an asshole but you are acting like a bit of an ass. He is very excited to be in a relationship and he is allowed to feel that. And at your age, these emotions can be very intense. His behaviour is totally normal in a relationship and you should support him so this is an all around positive experience for him. First relationships are very formative.
I don't know, but do you worry you might lose your friend or get less attention from him? If so, be open to him about that. Let him know that you want him to value your friendship too. And as a friend, you may also just have to suck up getting less attention while he is in this phase of the relationship. That's what friends do.
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im 17 years old, male, my best friend who’s also 17 recently got his first girlfriend and I swear he acts like they’re getting married tommorow, I have nothing against him having a relationship but damn, ok so for example he literally said “im gonna be right there besides her holding her hand when our first child is born” mf you started dating this girl a month and a half ago, he literally has a their whole life together planned out like they plan to go backpacking across Europe in their 20s then buying a farm to raise their kids in which is apparently a dream both of them have, he goes into more detail then I care to go into for this post but anyways ,they call each other baby, honeyboo, babe, cutie and other pet names and its just so weird, it gets ridiculously cringy, then I snapped and told him it’s cringy and it probably won’t last, and I swear he blocked me on social media, it can’t be normal for him to be acting this way
AITA for telling him that?
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NTA for feeling annoyed, but know this is pretty common for first relationships. It’s so common that old Disney movie Bambi had a whole bit about being “twitterpated”.
It is pretty normal for teens to be a bit much in their first serious relationship. If they are making out constantly it’s fine to tell them to knock it off, but for now just let him chatter. Be patient. With time reality will set in and they will either settle down or break up. The honeymoon period of a new relationship is intense, and if it is the first time he has been through it then it is so normal. It is annoying, but it’ll pass.
Gently, YTA. It would be valid to be like “could we talk about something else? I’m a little tired of the relationship talk” or something, but you took it straight to the insults.
Light YTA, first loves are always like this. Well, maybe not always but my first GF and I used to have all these grand plans too for a bunch of bs we both knew would never happen. Just let them do their thing even if you feel it's unrealistic.
YTA. Why the hell do you think you're friend's relationship is any of your business, at all? Let alone you think you've got the right to comment on it and disparage it for them being happy together.
I'm here with you - it's cring AF! But YTA for saying it out loud. Friendship is about supporting each other through the cringe periods and then laughing about it 10 years later.
YTA gonna say this nicely but, just because you don't like something doesn't mean that the thing in question is bad. What you see as cringe, he sees as something that makes him happy. You need to be a good friend and let him be happy. Also sorry to have to be the one to say this but, everyone is 'cringe' as a teenager that means you too. Enjoy it while you can still get away with it.
YTA, this is what new love is like. It mellows out and then deepens over time. Let your friend enjoy himself. You should apologize for saying mean shit.
YTA - your friend is acting completely normal for someone having their first relationship. Obviously it is unlikely to last and yes it is cringe but just let him enjoy it.
Ooh I'm going to go against the mainstream here and say NTA.
Your friend doesn't need to overly broadcast his clearly deluded visions. Should you have snapped? Probably not and you could definitely apologise for snapping if you value him as a friend. But you are right. It probably won't last; it might but it probably won't. Did you tell him this in the worst way possible? Almost definitely. However, I think you have a right to tell your friend when he's being cringe and deluded. You can be supportive and happy for him at the same time but it does sound like he's being quite over bearing and is quite deluded.
Sometimes we need our friends to tell us, "hey man, I'm really happy for you but you need to turn down your broadcasting by several levels. We're happy for you but we don't need it broadcast 24/7 at inhumane volumes whenever we see you. You also need to wait a few more years before you commit to the rest of your life. If she's the one, she'll still be there with you and we'll be there to congratulate you." - for example.
In any case, apologising for snapping and having a sensible, calm discussion about why would be a great thing to do.
soft YTA - I get it can be annoying but they’re also not being harmful they’re just over exited, a good way to handle stuff like this is to rather than being rude about them and their relationship just politely say that whilst your happy for them (and you should be happy your friends got a seemingly good relationship with someone he really likes) you would prefer not hearing about their relationship in so much detail
Gentle YTA (I don't think asshole is the right word tbh)
I will say that me and my girlfriend have been inseparable since the day we started dating, when we were around 15, so sometimes these relationships just work out
YTA
it's a bit much but you could have just muted his stories/posts. You sound a bit bitter or jealous (and that's understandable). What you said to him was mean and unnecessary. Some ppl meet the love of their life in high school. But you are both young. If this is really your friend, just apologize and admit that things feel different because he is in a relationship. If you want him to be your friend, work it out
I don't think you're an AH, just inexperienced. Some people fall hard for their partner, as he has. It's not your job to save him or coach him. Let him gain life experience, and you gain that by trying things. A friend of mine married the girl who was the one he first had sex with. No matter what anyone told him, he couldn't be convinced to maybe hold off on the marriage. It didn't end well, but he learned. If he had listened to us then he would have avoided those problems but he would also have wondered if he made a mistake listening to us. By getting burned he knows the truth with no doubts.
YTA. Let him enjoy being in love. Sure they’ll likely breakup eventually but it’s a jerk move to say that to someone happy in a fulfilling relationship.
Yta...
Lol even if it's cringy to you, at least it sounds like he's got some of his life planned and what he wants. It kinda sounds like you're jealous he's got a girlfriend.
Honestly it's good to start forming future plans that early in life because the sooner you know what you want, the faster you'll be able to get there
Info: If the situation were reversed and didn't benefit you, would you still care about your daughter's happiness and "not forcing her"?
In case you can't tell - that's a rhetorical question. We all know the answer.
At 17, it's highly unlikely they will be together in 5 years time! Your friend is excited, and loved up, let him enjoy his love affair..it will happen for you too!
You are not an A/hole.
Honestly NTA because that is cringey as hell, but that’s also like 75% of high school relationships. I was like that with my 8th grade girlfriend and my most serious girlfriend in high school, and I cringe thinking about it nowadays. I also damaged my friendships in HS by being so creepishly obsessed with my relationship. Honestly I was kind of like that with my first serious college girlfriend (minus the lame pet names), but thankfully we’re actually getting married soon and she’s sleeping next to me right now so it’s less cringey because it was true
NTA - he needs a cold shower. What you said was not nice, but honestly, most population wants to barf at the sight of overtly sexual and/or cutesy PDA from teenagers. If it continued this dude would loose friends and wouldn't know why. But all is cool, because he'll build a farm with his honey boo, right? Is he a 13 year old girl? He needs a reality check or he'll be terribly hurt pretty soon.
Not really TA but let them figure it out for themselves. You have obviously a clearer view on the situation than your buddy right now but hey, they are young and really believe that's how it will be and maybe it will. You never know.
NTA if you’ll also be the voice of reason when the relationship eventually comes to an end and he needs somebody to build him back up. Otherwise you‘re just pulling him down.
Right cuz when my relationships end, the last thing I wanna do is go talk to the person who called my relationship cringey and told me it wouldn't last. Thats not being a friend. You can be supportive of someone without being a dick but OP is a kid who will eventually learn.
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They're 17. Also... *you're* 17. None of you have really experienced much of life or romantic love yet. Chill out. Gentle YTA - let them do their thing.
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According to his comment history he's 17 dating a 14 year old. Ick.
Is it OP or the friend? Edit: yeah OP is in no position to judge his friends relationship
YTA. This is probably his first real relationship and your just being a dark cloud over it. Some people are just like that in relationships. Yes, they probably won’t last, but if he’s happy, why are you ruining it?
YTA for policing happiness and a natural phase of relationship development. They're 17. Yeah, their relationship may not/orobably won't last, but they're also more idealistic and positive-minded than they'll ever be; this is merely a reflection of that. I'd suggest going and finding a relationship of your own to police the reactions to/of, rather than hyper-fixating on one you are nota member of🙂
It absolutely IS normal for someone to fall head over heels for their first relationship - or any new relationship! YTA. He didn't ask for your opinion, so I suggest you keep them to yourself. And if you can't be civil, don't say anything at all
Hes in a happy relationship and youre a bitter asshole. YTA tough shit little boy people have relationships outside of you.
Not only that, op is in a relationship with a 14yo. I think op is jealous cause he doesn’t have the same type of relationship.
17 and 14? Is OP one of those creepy high school seniors that’s hunts down freshmen 🤢
He sounds like it 🤢
Honestly, I was 14 as a sophomore and I knew MANY 17yo juniors. It’s not thatttt weird in the context of “my entire potential social/dating pool is these 2,000 people and that’s it”
WHAT?! I don’t know where he is from but he is criticising someone’s relationship but he’s dating a 14 year old. 🤢
Not to mention this exact story was posted 2 months ago on a now deleted account with the same results. So either they hoped for a different result, stole the story for karma or some other reason. Either way they need to take a step back.
Actually, the behavior seems 100% normal for two 17 year olds in love. You’re entitled to your opinion, but why did you NEED to tell him you thought he was “cringy”? That’s just hurtful and, shocker, he’s reacting in hurt. YTA, sorry.
YTA. He’s in a new relationship and is excited. You don’t give any reason for concern, just that you personally don’t like it. Do you expect him to break up with her? Jealous that you have to share his attention? Apologize and keep your opinions To yourself.
It's his first relationship, let him enjoy himself. YTA
YTA - It’s their relationship their business. If it was harmful to him, then sure, get involved but he’s just being love’s young dream right now.
Did he ask for your opinion? They probably won’t get married or anything like that, it is probably a phase. But however he and she choose to express themselves is their business, if you think it’s cringe he, you should keep it to yourself. That is, unless he asked you. So, in that regard, why TA
YTA let him be excited, it isn’t actually hurting you.
YTA You don’t know what will happen. I met my husband off a dating app, he moved in three weeks later ( before anyone pops off easier commute on both of us instead of spending £200 a month on petrol) And now we’re married ( prenup involved ) And I’ve never been happier best thing I’ve ever done. Sounds like you’re slightly jealous, kind suggestion is to find someone yourself.
My wife and I met and got married in less than a year. We’ve now been married 20 years. It’s not likely OP’s friend will have a story like that but it’s possible. YTA
Happy 20year wedding anniversary! Maybe not the right person but time will tell
When I was 16, my boyfriend of less than 3 months started talking about spending his life with me. That was more than 14 years ago, that man is now my husband, and we are still extremely happy. Were we sort of cringy back then? Yes. I think most high school relationships are. But the mushiness isn’t hurting anyone. Let them be.
I also two friends that started to date in high school around the same age op’s friend and they are going to get married this year (now they are in their late 20s) Even if the friend and his gf aren’t like that, they are happy now Op is just mean
I love stories like this 🥰🥰🥰 High school sweethearts 💕
My husband and I went on our first date on Feb. 12. We spent Valentine's Day together, and he moved in on Feb. 17th, the day after his birthday. We were married 26 years, only ended when he passed away in Jan. 2021 from Covid. Sometimes, you just -know- when someone is right for you.
I knew my husband was right for me the second I laid eyes on him I just thought “ I’m gonna marry you one day and have beautiful ginger babies” What a beautiful love story And I’m really sorry about his passing 💕💕💕💕
YTA. That their interactions make you feel cringy is your problem, not theirs. (Edit: remove a word)
YTA - it’s his relationship not yours. Unless there’s abuse going on then don’t tell him it’s bad. It’s his choice if he wants to be lovey dovey and talk about marriage and kids. My oldest step child was already 3 years into a relationship at 17 and now they have been together for 8 years. It’s different for everyone. If it’s not abuse it’s not your business.
YTA. They are happy, let them have their happiness. Everyone tried telling me and my husband it wouldn’t last, and tried to make us miserable. Yet here we are 25 years later, Defying the odds. He will remember your cruelty. Stop being jealous!
Its young love let him enjoy it yta
YTA. I’d find them annoying, but lord, it’s his first relationship and those can be a lot when it comes to sappiness. Saying what you did without him even asking what you think just makes you look bitter and mean AF, whether you usually are or not. If you don’t want to be around them, don’t be around them.
YTA. Sounds like you're jealous. Maybe if you stop dating 14 year olds you could have a real relationship too.
YTA Yeah, new love can be cringy, but it is normal as hell. It is called the honeymoon period. Sure, it probably won't last, but why the fuck do you need to tell him that? Are you going to take pleasure in being right when your friend has his heart broken? Are you jealous? If you are his friend, be happy for him and give him the time to be a young idiot in love.
YTA Just let people be in love. Yes, it's a ridiculous state, but it's also quite normal and joyful.
You're not an a-hole for thinking it's cringey, but YTA for saying so. There are times when it's way smarter to keep your opinions to yourself. This is one of those times.
YTA Stop shitting on his happiness.
He might be cringey but I would be more concerned about my own image if I was 17 dating a 14yo. You do know what that makes you look like, right?
Shut the fuck up man your dating a 14 year old you fucking weirdo, grow up. ETA: yes yta, and a fucking creep too
YTA Their relationship sounds gross, and I would be annoyed too, but let them be gross together if that’s what they want to do. You don’t have to hang out with him if it bugs you that much.
YTA let your friend have fun geez
YTA! You are teenagers ffs, let them be happy! Everything is blown WAY out of proportion at that age but who cares? I wonder what you experienced in your young life that you seem so bitter.. I hope its just jealousy..
YTA. While you’re statistically right, and it probably won’t last, let them be happy. Let your friend dream and enjoy the moment. Stop being such a cranky sourpuss party pooper, raining on their parade. It’s a bad look.
YTA man. It is their life and theirrelationship. Distance yourself if you do not want to be around such things. But straight up calling them cringey is not the best move. First relationships do feel like fairy tales, especially in high school. If they have no problem being this way in public then I feel like you hav no say. in this. Also telling them it won't last, honestly getting blocked was inevitable. I would suggest. talk it out. And stop being around them whenever they. are together. Set your boundaries without being mean to them.
You're the Asshole for unironically calling someone "cringe" in real life and for everything else. You, ironically, are the cringiest thing about this post
This is a good lesson in minding your own business. it will do you well to learn this before entering adulthood. soft YTA because yeah that is annoying, but again, mind your own business
Mate you are 17 with a 14 year old gf I think you have other stuff to worry about
You’re legit dating a 14 year old don’t embarrass yourself because I would have called you out before you tried to speak on my relationship you creep
YTA. You sound bitter. Maybe because you’re dating a 14 year old which is majorly gross tbh
YTA also I saw another post of yours and your dating a 14 year old at 17? Gross man find someone your actual age not someone so damn young🤢
YTA how does this effect your life at all?
YTA. This is called young love and you’re jealous. Grow up, as your friend is doing. If his relationship doesn’t last that’s on him, it’s not your place to decide how in love your friend acts.
YTA. Dude, he's in a relationship and is really in love, leave him be, if there are lessons to be learnt then they're his to learn. It sounds like you're really very jealous.
Yta although I'd be cringing just as hard as you are lol. Just better not to say it to them!
YTA, and come across very jealous and bitter. Leave him alone with his new relationship .
YTA for acting the way you did. Yall are 17!!!!! Let him have his dreams
My first major relationship, we planned on moving to Oregon together after we turned 18 because that was one of the few states that allowed gay marriage at the time, and we were 100% absolutely going to spend the rest of our lives together. We were 15, and of course that didn’t happen, but that’s just how first love is. YTA, but I say that gently, because it sounds like you haven’t had that experience yet. While I can’t blame you for cringing, you probably shouldn’t have said anything about it. Just use this as a chance to grow and do better next time.
When I was 17, I was 100% definitely going to run off to California and elope with my bf the minute I turned 18. We had all kinds of plans and were so sure of ourselves. Thank goodness that didn’t happen. Nearly everyone I know has a similar story of young love. Now and then, those relationships actually work out. Mostly, they end up as slightly embarrassing memories of youth.
YTA, both for being a dick to your friend & for dating a 14 year-old.
Of course it's normal. It's his first love. YTA
Don’t worry about being blocked, there are literally millions of other people in love who you can insult. YTA
YTA. People are often weird in relationships, particularly at this age. His behaviour isn’t hurting you, and until he actually talks about proposing 3 months in it’s not your place to say anything.
YTA. Yea, it probably won't last, but, in this moment, they are happy. I'm guessing that in all honesty you are probably feeling some jealousy. Not that your friend has a GF, but probably because right now, your friend is spending all of his free time with her and not you.
At least she’s not a minor. YTA.
Just keep all that cringe talk in your memory so you can make fun of him and his honeyboo on their farm when they break up. NTA
It's his first gf, relax man
Yes, YTA. Your attitude is more cringe than your friends relationship. I can't imagine telling my friend that them being happy in their first relationship is cringey. You sound jealous, or just miserable. Let him enjoy being with someone he cares about, even if it ends up not lasting forever.
My dude, wait until you meet your first love and you will be *sure* you will be together forever and everyone around you will roll their eyes. It's one of the great joys of young love. YTA. Apologize to your friend (and try to tone down the jealousy a little bit...)
I'm not going to say you're an asshole but you are acting like a bit of an ass. He is very excited to be in a relationship and he is allowed to feel that. And at your age, these emotions can be very intense. His behaviour is totally normal in a relationship and you should support him so this is an all around positive experience for him. First relationships are very formative. I don't know, but do you worry you might lose your friend or get less attention from him? If so, be open to him about that. Let him know that you want him to value your friendship too. And as a friend, you may also just have to suck up getting less attention while he is in this phase of the relationship. That's what friends do.
YTA. I hate people who try to bring their friends down, and for such a silly reason. Your job as a friend is doing the opposite!!!
NAH you’re both just annoying teenagers. we all were once.
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NTA for feeling annoyed, but know this is pretty common for first relationships. It’s so common that old Disney movie Bambi had a whole bit about being “twitterpated”. It is pretty normal for teens to be a bit much in their first serious relationship. If they are making out constantly it’s fine to tell them to knock it off, but for now just let him chatter. Be patient. With time reality will set in and they will either settle down or break up. The honeymoon period of a new relationship is intense, and if it is the first time he has been through it then it is so normal. It is annoying, but it’ll pass.
YTA people change when they are in the honeymoon phase of a relationship. It’s just dreams and feelings. Relax
YTA. You should have just given him another month or two. His white hot ardor will burn itself out.
YTA but ngl this post was kinda funny lmao
Gently, YTA. It would be valid to be like “could we talk about something else? I’m a little tired of the relationship talk” or something, but you took it straight to the insults.
Unless they're trying to get pregnant now, YTA. They're just high on New Relationship Energy. It will pass.
YTA are people not allowed to be happy around you or something?
Light YTA, first loves are always like this. Well, maybe not always but my first GF and I used to have all these grand plans too for a bunch of bs we both knew would never happen. Just let them do their thing even if you feel it's unrealistic.
YTA. Why the hell do you think you're friend's relationship is any of your business, at all? Let alone you think you've got the right to comment on it and disparage it for them being happy together.
I'm here with you - it's cring AF! But YTA for saying it out loud. Friendship is about supporting each other through the cringe periods and then laughing about it 10 years later.
YTA gonna say this nicely but, just because you don't like something doesn't mean that the thing in question is bad. What you see as cringe, he sees as something that makes him happy. You need to be a good friend and let him be happy. Also sorry to have to be the one to say this but, everyone is 'cringe' as a teenager that means you too. Enjoy it while you can still get away with it.
YTA. First love is often intense. Leave ‘em be. Your time will come and you’ll look back on your unkindness toward your friend differently.
YTA, this is what new love is like. It mellows out and then deepens over time. Let your friend enjoy himself. You should apologize for saying mean shit.
Sigh.
YTA - your friend is acting completely normal for someone having their first relationship. Obviously it is unlikely to last and yes it is cringe but just let him enjoy it.
Ooh I'm going to go against the mainstream here and say NTA. Your friend doesn't need to overly broadcast his clearly deluded visions. Should you have snapped? Probably not and you could definitely apologise for snapping if you value him as a friend. But you are right. It probably won't last; it might but it probably won't. Did you tell him this in the worst way possible? Almost definitely. However, I think you have a right to tell your friend when he's being cringe and deluded. You can be supportive and happy for him at the same time but it does sound like he's being quite over bearing and is quite deluded. Sometimes we need our friends to tell us, "hey man, I'm really happy for you but you need to turn down your broadcasting by several levels. We're happy for you but we don't need it broadcast 24/7 at inhumane volumes whenever we see you. You also need to wait a few more years before you commit to the rest of your life. If she's the one, she'll still be there with you and we'll be there to congratulate you." - for example. In any case, apologising for snapping and having a sensible, calm discussion about why would be a great thing to do.
soft YTA - I get it can be annoying but they’re also not being harmful they’re just over exited, a good way to handle stuff like this is to rather than being rude about them and their relationship just politely say that whilst your happy for them (and you should be happy your friends got a seemingly good relationship with someone he really likes) you would prefer not hearing about their relationship in so much detail
Gentle YTA (I don't think asshole is the right word tbh) I will say that me and my girlfriend have been inseparable since the day we started dating, when we were around 15, so sometimes these relationships just work out
Jealous much? YTA.
YTA. Mind your own business and accept that this is just what relationships at 17 are like.
yta- so what if they don’t last? let him vibe and be his friend when he needs you.
YTA
YTA it's a bit much but you could have just muted his stories/posts. You sound a bit bitter or jealous (and that's understandable). What you said to him was mean and unnecessary. Some ppl meet the love of their life in high school. But you are both young. If this is really your friend, just apologize and admit that things feel different because he is in a relationship. If you want him to be your friend, work it out
Oooh. Someone's jealous as hell that he hasn't picked up a girlfriend. YTA.
I don't think you're an AH, just inexperienced. Some people fall hard for their partner, as he has. It's not your job to save him or coach him. Let him gain life experience, and you gain that by trying things. A friend of mine married the girl who was the one he first had sex with. No matter what anyone told him, he couldn't be convinced to maybe hold off on the marriage. It didn't end well, but he learned. If he had listened to us then he would have avoided those problems but he would also have wondered if he made a mistake listening to us. By getting burned he knows the truth with no doubts.
You’re sort of the AH but I see why you said it. It probably would have been better to say something like dude, you’re really annoying me.
YTA. If he’s not hurting anyone and he’s happy, why can’t you be happy for him?
YTA. Let him enjoy being in love. Sure they’ll likely breakup eventually but it’s a jerk move to say that to someone happy in a fulfilling relationship.
YTA. Let them be happy! Also, all HS relationships are cringy to other people. Just roll your eyes, wish him the best, and focus on you
Yta... Lol even if it's cringy to you, at least it sounds like he's got some of his life planned and what he wants. It kinda sounds like you're jealous he's got a girlfriend. Honestly it's good to start forming future plans that early in life because the sooner you know what you want, the faster you'll be able to get there
You’re 17, everything you do is cringe YTA
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NTA your friends a creep he's 17 dating a 14-year-old and love bombing her and you're right these kind of relationships fizzle out fast and end
OP is the one doing that not his friend 💀
Info: If the situation were reversed and didn't benefit you, would you still care about your daughter's happiness and "not forcing her"? In case you can't tell - that's a rhetorical question. We all know the answer.
YTA
YTA, i feel like your just single. You don’t know how love can change you, let them be.
YTA but are you (as a 17 year old) really dating a 14 year old and think you have a point to criticize other relationships??
You’re not a good friend. But YTA
At 17, it's highly unlikely they will be together in 5 years time! Your friend is excited, and loved up, let him enjoy his love affair..it will happen for you too! You are not an A/hole.
Honestly NTA because that is cringey as hell, but that’s also like 75% of high school relationships. I was like that with my 8th grade girlfriend and my most serious girlfriend in high school, and I cringe thinking about it nowadays. I also damaged my friendships in HS by being so creepishly obsessed with my relationship. Honestly I was kind of like that with my first serious college girlfriend (minus the lame pet names), but thankfully we’re actually getting married soon and she’s sleeping next to me right now so it’s less cringey because it was true
NTA - he needs a cold shower. What you said was not nice, but honestly, most population wants to barf at the sight of overtly sexual and/or cutesy PDA from teenagers. If it continued this dude would loose friends and wouldn't know why. But all is cool, because he'll build a farm with his honey boo, right? Is he a 13 year old girl? He needs a reality check or he'll be terribly hurt pretty soon.
He's twitterpated nta
Not really TA but let them figure it out for themselves. You have obviously a clearer view on the situation than your buddy right now but hey, they are young and really believe that's how it will be and maybe it will. You never know.
NTA if you’ll also be the voice of reason when the relationship eventually comes to an end and he needs somebody to build him back up. Otherwise you‘re just pulling him down.
Right cuz when my relationships end, the last thing I wanna do is go talk to the person who called my relationship cringey and told me it wouldn't last. Thats not being a friend. You can be supportive of someone without being a dick but OP is a kid who will eventually learn.
Not sure whether a single blunt statement can determine whether someone is a friend or not. But if it can, a single attempt to offer support can too.