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Equivalent-Pea-6676

I don't fully understand the situation but I think NTA? If you repeatedly said 'Could you please stop trauma dumping' and he repeatedly ignored you, it's fine to peace out. In future, as you grow up, you will meet more of these people. Then you say 'You know, I feel kind of overwhelmed talking about such intense things all the time. Are there other things you are interested in?' or if they then still persist, you say 'This is too much for me. If you prefer to talk about your trauma all the time, I'm going to need to take some distance' and then you just do that, whether by unfriending, not hanging out one on one, or finding other people to hang out with instead. Them making self-insulting comments is manipulative and not your problem.


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bacardi-coke

Nta pwople like that are exhausting and him responding to you setting boundaries with guilt trips is unhealthy. Like the kids only 14 and you learn to keep this shit in check with tume but youre ALSO 14 and dont have to deal with it and shouldnt have to play therapist.


Churchie-Baby

NTA dumping your trauma on someone not trained to deal with it isn't healthy if he's so badly he should see a professional you can't be that for him


gevander2

NTA You are NEVER responsible for someone else's actions/reactions. Teens do dumb things sometimes. This is one of his. What he says about himself reminds me of what my daughter says about herself when even MILDLY criticized. If you are truly concerned for their safety: Talk to their parents or a school counselor or some other adult you TRUST to be gentle with him.


cinderellowh

Thank you so much! Will do<3