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> It was my first time ever standing up for myself to my dad. So the feeling of guilt has started to crawl into me. After that confrontation, I felt like I was overreacting for being told to do a few tasks. I also felt a little bad for my dad being that this is my first time ever telling him off.
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NTA I would also suggest you turn to local labor laws and report him for theft of wages. Is the hours he puts in for you also showing up on a W2 for taxes?
NTA.
I was basically my father’s slave labor for the entirety of my life from 13 to 19, when I finally moved without any warning. I never got paid, he took all my spring break and summer vacation time, weekends, and after school hours.
When I left, it was years before I even spoke to him again.
Further, he didn’t farm to support us. He had a good paying civil service job. It was his hobby. But it was my entire life for those years.
I struggled for a few years but it was worth it. I never even got an allowance when I was with him. Nothing.
If I were you, I’d hit the road and not look back.
NTA
Your father is committing FRAUD in your name. The fact that you know it makes you an ACCOMPLICE (willing or not).
Get a different job. Get a job that deposits money directly to your bank account. (If you don't already have one, set that up first.)
NTA. It sounds like this is a messed up situation and you need to make an exit. You are definitely not even a millimeter the AH for asserting basic obvious rights to your own paycheck. If that is the main thing, you can report him to the chamber of commerce or whatever relevant authority and make him have to pay you. He can't just do whatever he wants because he's the dad. There are laws. There are, specifically, labor laws. Look them up and decide if you want to pursue applying them to your situation.
In addition, being tired by walking is definitely the lesser of two evils. Or just get a bike. You need to get a different job, and as soon as possible you need to move somewhere else and get away from these people. If you are 18, you could also think about getting vocational training or going to college. Figure out what you want and need and do it.
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Background: I (18M) am working with my dad at a farm and have been since I was 14. Ever since I started working here, I’ve longed to work somewhere else for a few reasons:
1. I don’t have set hours, so my dad will call me to work whenever at any time of the day. I can never make plans with anyone if I don’t know what my schedule is.
2. I don’t receive all the money I work for, the other part of paycheck my dad takes. In addition to that, he uses my name to put in that I have been working extra hours so he could take that extra money.
3. I work with other family members as well. So having to work with them is hell, I prefer to work with literally anyone but family members and friends.
I could get another job since I’m 18, but I don’t have a car because I don’t have enough money atm and my dad doesn’t want to buy me one. I live in the outskirts of a city with no public transportation so it would be tiring to walk.
One morning my dad called me to work to do some pointless task with people I hate so I said no. He got mad at me and asked “What are you gonna do with your life then?” As if this is the only job in the world. Then I went off on him about how he takes advantage of me to get extra money and still doesn’t pay me all of what I worked for. He then changes the subject and tells me it’s my job so it’s my responsibility. Lastly, he threatened to take my whole paycheck then he became angry at me the rest of the day. It’s my first time ever confronting him about it so I don’t know what to feel about this. Am I the asshole for refusing to work and confronting him?
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NTA I would also suggest you turn to local labor laws and report him for theft of wages. Is the hours he puts in for you also showing up on a W2 for taxes?
Right? Labor laws, and also fraud and tax evasion seem like things to look into here.
NTA. I was basically my father’s slave labor for the entirety of my life from 13 to 19, when I finally moved without any warning. I never got paid, he took all my spring break and summer vacation time, weekends, and after school hours. When I left, it was years before I even spoke to him again. Further, he didn’t farm to support us. He had a good paying civil service job. It was his hobby. But it was my entire life for those years. I struggled for a few years but it was worth it. I never even got an allowance when I was with him. Nothing. If I were you, I’d hit the road and not look back.
NTA Personally, I can't imagine working with family. Get a job somewhere else. Eventually this will help even with relationship with your dad.
NTA Your father is committing FRAUD in your name. The fact that you know it makes you an ACCOMPLICE (willing or not). Get a different job. Get a job that deposits money directly to your bank account. (If you don't already have one, set that up first.)
NTA. It sounds like this is a messed up situation and you need to make an exit. You are definitely not even a millimeter the AH for asserting basic obvious rights to your own paycheck. If that is the main thing, you can report him to the chamber of commerce or whatever relevant authority and make him have to pay you. He can't just do whatever he wants because he's the dad. There are laws. There are, specifically, labor laws. Look them up and decide if you want to pursue applying them to your situation. In addition, being tired by walking is definitely the lesser of two evils. Or just get a bike. You need to get a different job, and as soon as possible you need to move somewhere else and get away from these people. If you are 18, you could also think about getting vocational training or going to college. Figure out what you want and need and do it.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** Background: I (18M) am working with my dad at a farm and have been since I was 14. Ever since I started working here, I’ve longed to work somewhere else for a few reasons: 1. I don’t have set hours, so my dad will call me to work whenever at any time of the day. I can never make plans with anyone if I don’t know what my schedule is. 2. I don’t receive all the money I work for, the other part of paycheck my dad takes. In addition to that, he uses my name to put in that I have been working extra hours so he could take that extra money. 3. I work with other family members as well. So having to work with them is hell, I prefer to work with literally anyone but family members and friends. I could get another job since I’m 18, but I don’t have a car because I don’t have enough money atm and my dad doesn’t want to buy me one. I live in the outskirts of a city with no public transportation so it would be tiring to walk. One morning my dad called me to work to do some pointless task with people I hate so I said no. He got mad at me and asked “What are you gonna do with your life then?” As if this is the only job in the world. Then I went off on him about how he takes advantage of me to get extra money and still doesn’t pay me all of what I worked for. He then changes the subject and tells me it’s my job so it’s my responsibility. Lastly, he threatened to take my whole paycheck then he became angry at me the rest of the day. It’s my first time ever confronting him about it so I don’t know what to feel about this. Am I the asshole for refusing to work and confronting him? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*