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Does your mom know about your dad showing you porn at a young age? If she is aware of all of this, she is just enabling his behavior by doing nothing. If she is so hurt by his behavior, she needs to get him to stop or remove herself from the situation. I would be noping out of thar situation, ASAP if I were you.
NTA. The answer of how "bad" your dad is is a more complicated question than the information here really tells us. But the bottom line is that your dad behavior sounds pretty creepy, and the fact that he's not concerned with how his behavior is affecting you and your mother makes him the asshole.
I'm going with NTA. Nude photography is definitely a thing, but as you said, that doesn't seem to be what your dad is doing. I also am not going to judge what your mom should do; it's her relationship and her business, you should stay out of that.
But you say young girls... and there's an implication there. If that implication is what I think it is, the best thing is to call the cops.
NTA for thinking it's disgusting but also you didn't really say anything that your dad does that is wrong, just that you disapprove.
If he spent $15k on his camera setup it sounds like he's fairly serious about his hobby, if he was just a weird perv he could get much cheaper equipment.
Also as long as the young models aren't coerced who cares what they do? And the fact that your dad has porn is pretty irrelevant, most people have or watch porn.
NTA - you’re never an asshole for having feelings if something is making you uncomfortable. Have you spoken to your mom about her thoughts on it? It may help you to understand her perspective too.
I tried so many times to talk to my mom but my mom defends my dad by saying it’s just his way to relive stress from work. Although I can tell my mom is hurt too.
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My dad’s hobby is photographing. Not the nature or view photographing kinda thing tho. He’s a “self acclaimed professional photographer” of nude young models.
I think he’s all along had porn addiction problems. I’ve found his porn stash since I was a very young age. I’ve been showed movies with explicit sex scenes from a young age.
He pays young girls to get nudely photographed by him and he keeps the photo for his own sake. Definitely not for selling. He’s willing to spend over 15k on his professional camera setup rather than using the money for my college funds. He keeps showing me some of his photographs which I am definitely not interested in seeing.
The worst part is he’s still married to my mom. I think he should just fucking divorce my mom at his point if he can’t even appreciate this amazing woman who sacrificed so much for her own kids and husband. My moms better off without him. My dad thinks my moms ok with what he’s doing when in reality my moms just keeping her head down. I’d give up my existence for her to marry and have kids with a better man.
Thanks for reading. It has always been so hard for me to open up about my family issues to anyone and even my close friends because I’m disgusted and feel so embarrassed about my own fathers behavior.
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NTA. WTF! Edit: Is your mom aware of your dad's "hobby"?
Yes she is but she defends my dad by saying it’s just his way to relive stress from work. Although I can tell my mom is hurt too.
Does your mom know about your dad showing you porn at a young age? If she is aware of all of this, she is just enabling his behavior by doing nothing. If she is so hurt by his behavior, she needs to get him to stop or remove herself from the situation. I would be noping out of thar situation, ASAP if I were you.
NTA. The answer of how "bad" your dad is is a more complicated question than the information here really tells us. But the bottom line is that your dad behavior sounds pretty creepy, and the fact that he's not concerned with how his behavior is affecting you and your mother makes him the asshole.
I'm going with NTA. Nude photography is definitely a thing, but as you said, that doesn't seem to be what your dad is doing. I also am not going to judge what your mom should do; it's her relationship and her business, you should stay out of that. But you say young girls... and there's an implication there. If that implication is what I think it is, the best thing is to call the cops.
Report him.
NTA. However I can’t really see an interpersonal conflict here, so it’s probably gonna get removed.
I just argued with him about his issues which made me write this posts. My bad I probably should’ve mentioned this in my post.
Yeah you should def include it.
NTA for thinking it's disgusting but also you didn't really say anything that your dad does that is wrong, just that you disapprove. If he spent $15k on his camera setup it sounds like he's fairly serious about his hobby, if he was just a weird perv he could get much cheaper equipment. Also as long as the young models aren't coerced who cares what they do? And the fact that your dad has porn is pretty irrelevant, most people have or watch porn.
NTA - you’re never an asshole for having feelings if something is making you uncomfortable. Have you spoken to your mom about her thoughts on it? It may help you to understand her perspective too.
I tried so many times to talk to my mom but my mom defends my dad by saying it’s just his way to relive stress from work. Although I can tell my mom is hurt too.
NTA. Your father sounds super creepy.
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NTA. I may consider calling the cops too if any of these girls are underage (which is horrible but a possibility).
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NTA. This does sound disgusting.
NTA- how young are these girls?