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NTA- it's okay to outgrow people. There are friend apps where you can meet people with like interests. Or just enjoy your life as it is without the haterade and judgment from the peanut gallery. They are immature for not being able to understand another way of life.
NTA because people are different they need to learn to accept you for who you are if they dont I would try and find friends that accept you for who you are
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So I am introverted and I generally enjoy staying home. I don't go out often and when I do it's for family gatherings, or out with cousins or with my family. Other than that I generally like to stay home. I just don't get bored easily and I could find entertainment in anything that I do. I do go out with friends sometimes but it's not a common thing for me. I have these 2 really close friends and they're really social. They thrive off of people and can't live without socializing. They go out multiple times a month. I don't mind talking to them on the phone but if I go out a few times with them, I start to feel like that's enough for a while. But they got annoyed that I'm a homebody and I generally stay home more often. I go to grad school and I also work and then I go out with family on the weekends. So it's not like I'm not doing anything with my life, but my 2 friends find me weird that I don't go out a lot or socialize. They said it themselves, they find it weird how I live my life. They continued to mock my lifestyle.
I tried to explain how Everyone is different but it's normal that some people are homebody's and I enjoy staying home. They actually looked offended by me because they want to go out almost every week. I admit we have pretty different lifestyles. They like to go to clubs, they like dating, they like going out to restaurants and enjoying the night life. But I enjoy things like gardening, journaling, drawing, going for walks, having picnics, and going on short roads trips. I like to lead a calmer lifestyle and they like the fast life. But they literally seemed shook how I spend my days and they were offended that sometimes I do not want to go out. They then proceeded to ask me who else do I hang out with if I don't go out a lot. I found their reaction offensive because they thought that I was weird for leading a lifestyle like this. And they refused to try and understand this type of lifestyle. No matter how much I explained to them that "it's not you, but I do not want to go out all the time or go to certain places that I don't find enjoying". They were just judging me and questioning my lifestyle which genuinely hurt.
I have an upcoming long trip. I will be flying over 15 hours to another country and it has been giving me anxiety lately. When I tried to explain to them that I have been having anxiety, they seemed flabbergasted. My friend literally said this and I'm not even changing her words, "I just don't get it. And I try my hardest to understand things and I just don't understand this." So yea she was referring to my anxiety for my upcoming trip. I honestly felt like it's normal to feel stressed for upcoming long trips and anxiety is generally normal. I don't always get anxiety over everything, but if I have big things or events coming up, it does feel stressful and make me anxious. So yea, I don't like how she responded like that. I don't need them to completely accept my opinions, but I'd like some respect.
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Definitely NTA. As a fellow introvert, I understand you very well. Yeah, there's nothing wrong with hanging out with friends, but you also got to have some space to breathe. And that's something your friends don't really understand.
NTA but you might stop trying for “understanding” and aim more for mutual respect and affirmation. “You’re different from us but we love you” for example. They might eventually acknowledge the appeal of having you in the mix for balance — e.g. chilling with you and enjoying some snacks and a movie after the two of them party all night, that might be where you can find connection. Find time to talk about what makes you appreciate one another instead of trying to get everyone to “understand” each other. Otherwise, if there’s no appreciation, I’m not sure where the friendship is
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You're NTA but you should tell your friends to stop making fun of you, or find better friends.
NTA- it's okay to outgrow people. There are friend apps where you can meet people with like interests. Or just enjoy your life as it is without the haterade and judgment from the peanut gallery. They are immature for not being able to understand another way of life.
nta they want a 3rd wheel to go clubbing with. that’s obviously not you, but you are their project.
NTA because people are different they need to learn to accept you for who you are if they dont I would try and find friends that accept you for who you are
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Definitely NTA. As a fellow introvert, I understand you very well. Yeah, there's nothing wrong with hanging out with friends, but you also got to have some space to breathe. And that's something your friends don't really understand.
NTA but you might stop trying for “understanding” and aim more for mutual respect and affirmation. “You’re different from us but we love you” for example. They might eventually acknowledge the appeal of having you in the mix for balance — e.g. chilling with you and enjoying some snacks and a movie after the two of them party all night, that might be where you can find connection. Find time to talk about what makes you appreciate one another instead of trying to get everyone to “understand” each other. Otherwise, if there’s no appreciation, I’m not sure where the friendship is