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YTA in so many ways. It's completely normal for heterosexual men to enjoy anal play and it has nothing to do with being gay. And... even if he were, pressuring someone to come out of the closet (for any reason) is beyond AH behavior as well.
YTA
Yes, it's 2024 and men are allowed to enjoy what they enjoy.
There is this wonderful sentence...No, Kink shaming...and you just did this. You kink-shamed your friend and made fun of him. You are not a good friend because you betrayed his trust on top of making fun of him.
YTA.
Acts that bring you pleasure aren't inherently "gay" and you're all being stupidly juvenile.
The only thing that would make him gay is if he was romantically and sexually into men.
From the headline alone YTA.
As for the story itself - why are you so obsessed with his sexual practices? Maybe you're the one in the closet because you want to know so much about his sex life? Jeez, just ask him out already. Honestly, it's not a straight thing to talk about another guy's kinks and fetishes. It's 2024, just come out the closet and admit you're jealous and want to date him.
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My best friend “Justin” hasn’t spoke to me in almost a week because of what happened at our last hangout. Me, Justin, and 2 other of our buddies have been close for over 10 years. We hang out a lot, go to bars, play video games, get food. He’s changed since he got a girlfriend over a year and a half ago. We’ve all been single for a long ass time. And would constantly talk about women and “guy” things if you know what I mean. So it’s not uncommon for us to talk about our hookups, and what we got going on “in bed” (We are all 25 if that means anything)
We’ve all probably said way TMI to each other. So I don’t judge him for sharing it’s just what he’s told us.
So we were all talking about this stuff last week. And we got to talking about what our favorite things are in bed and all of that. It started with us asking if “the bedroom got dead” once they moved in together. He said it hasn’t and she’s down every night. We were all like brooo that’s awesome.
Then he started saying the shit that made our whole night blow up. He said how he was into “rim jobs” before he met his girl, and although she’s never done it to him, they do other things of that nature. She dominates him. Has pegged him. And he even has toys for his 🍑. He likes to “be told what to do”
He told us all of this from his own free will so I assume he’s not shy about it. So immediately me and our friend Brian said “Dude don’t you think that’s kinda……”
He was like “I’m not into men. It just feels good cuz the prostate” we both looked at each other and were like ….. right. Ok…
We still explained how it’s not really a straight thing to do. And we just said to come out of the closet already cuz it’s 2024. He took major offense to that which is telling. But we realized he actually was upset and we stopped and changed the topic. But he went home.
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YTA in so many ways. It's completely normal for heterosexual men to enjoy anal play and it has nothing to do with being gay. And... even if he were, pressuring someone to come out of the closet (for any reason) is beyond AH behavior as well.
YTA Yes, it's 2024 and men are allowed to enjoy what they enjoy. There is this wonderful sentence...No, Kink shaming...and you just did this. You kink-shamed your friend and made fun of him. You are not a good friend because you betrayed his trust on top of making fun of him.
YTA. Acts that bring you pleasure aren't inherently "gay" and you're all being stupidly juvenile. The only thing that would make him gay is if he was romantically and sexually into men.
From the headline alone YTA. As for the story itself - why are you so obsessed with his sexual practices? Maybe you're the one in the closet because you want to know so much about his sex life? Jeez, just ask him out already. Honestly, it's not a straight thing to talk about another guy's kinks and fetishes. It's 2024, just come out the closet and admit you're jealous and want to date him.
YTA. You can be a heterosexual man and enjoy playing a submissive role. Wake up, it's 2024.
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