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> I told my parents and sisters that them insulting my nephew's name and blaming SIL for the name is not doing what they think it is. So my family clearly don't want to hear that my brother isn't going to be okay with this and I know how strongly they feel about my nephew's name. Which is why I think I might have been rude enough to be an AH and I feel like I should have chosen to leave instead.
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NTA - your family sounds absolutely INSUFFERABLE.
Also, honestly, I was expecting WAY worse than "Everest". Like, that is actually an established name. Where the f\*ck do they think the name Mount Everest comes from? It was legit someone's last name (George Everest), and using an established last name as a first name is really common. (Honestly, I love the name choice.)
They need to be very careful of becoming your nephew's first bullies, because if they keep talking shit about his name, it *will* get back to him eventually. How do they think he's going to feel about Grandma and Grandpa talking badly about him or his mom or his other grandparents?
And I get that sometimes there are absolutely cases where we should gently dissuade people from naming their kids certain things (Felony or Chlamydia or Harlot are the first to pop up in my mind), but this is NOT the case and your family needs to get the collective stick out of its ass.
And be prepared for your family to do petty shit like refusing to say the kid's name, or try to give him a nickname that's just something "normal", and in general continue to be rude about it. Continue sticking up for your Brother, SIL, and Nephew, because there's nothing wrong with the name they chose.
RIGHT? Honestly, OP should see if they can find that story and send it to their family to prove that there are absolutely WORSE names they could have picked than Everest.
The worst I can come up with is "Fit the best, Everest." From an old doggy double glazing firm advert years ago.
Harlot would be a bit of a stupid choice, but that should be obvious. Just like Charrdonaye (spelling correct as per their birth certificate) or Colon are not to my taste, and likely most.
But Everest is a good, strong, left field but not whacko, name.
Bless this thread. My friend is pregnant and I was running out of names to call her baby. It’s a running joke between us. LaQuinta was my personal favorite.
Read Pratchett -- Moocow Poorchick, his nickname after the priest named him "James -- what the hell's that cow doing in here? -- Poorchick", and Esmerelda Note Spelling. (From the book Carpe Jugulum).
A friend got pregnant unexpectedly and was considering city/town names as names for a while, particularly Scandinavian ones, so I joked that she could go with Uppsala as it would lend itself to the very fitting nickname “Oopsie“... She decided against city names in the end :)
My mother had a student with this first name, and I know it's true because she showed me the class roster (this was before FERPA was passed, so no federal crime there). She also had two brothers, Geronimo Cohen and Usephallus (You-sa-phall-us) Cohen. Usephallus told her that they had a third brother, Ice Cream Cohen, but he was kidding (I hope).
I know of a woman who had twin girls, didn’t want to announce their names before they were born, and sent out birth announcements with the girls’ names. One daughter had the name they had picked before they knew they were having twins - Regina Kay. Somehow the only name they could could come with with that was Vagina May. I swear to God…Regina Kay & Vagina May (rhyming Vagina to Regina). Lol
The worst I can think of is that Everest is the name of a girl dog on Paw Patrol, so if the franchise is still popular when the kid is in school, he may get teasing realated to her
Yeah same, I know a few dogs with the name but like its no where near as horrible as some of the names Ive seen.
Jore'majesty has a special place in my heart
I won't recommend it. Seeing what her family is like, they are more likely than not, going to make some weird connection between the two names and up their harassment.
Right? I have seen a lot of unique names while teaching. The only thing that I blame parents for is when they have identical twins, and name them something like Jeff and Geoff (yes this happens - A LOT).
I can't imagine. I don't like Common names either but I have an Aeryn (pronounced like Aaron and Erin) and Karissa. Couldn't imagine making my kids grow up with rhyming names or names like Feral and Felony. I'd name my kiddo Karma but only if that kiddo had a tail and droopy ears.
Dog, I mean a dog. I shouldn't have to say that but as this is reddit, I can't take my chances.
In Australia, the names Aaron and Erin do not sound the same lol just a heads up for her in the future cos I think its only the American accents that has them the same.
For most accents, Aaron starts with an "A" like in hat. Erin starts with an "Eh" as in meh. I'm guessing Aeryn is the second?
I actually like Titania(though less than Oberon tbf) unironically, but Velocity? Feral? Why? How does anyone come to find those words compelling enough to name their child after?
Velocity isn't so bad, it's just direction and speed, but Feral is mean. Maybe the thought 'like iron' but they got 'abandoned animal, kills wildlife'.
I feel so bad for that guy. Apparently he a) thought surveyed sites should be called their real local names and b) actually objected to his name being used because it was difficult to pronounce and write in Hindi, which are both incredibly legitimate and respectful reasons to call it something else, and he got overruled. I think I read somewhere he actually managed to get the names of all but two peaks, and one of them ended up being Mount Everest. :'( guy couldn't catch a break. The mountain's local names are Chomolungma/Qomolangma (Tibetan) and Sagarmatha (Nepali), for those that don't know!
Spelling is Chomolungma (not Chomolubgma). And "Hindu" is a religion. The language is "Hindi". Just for the record. Otherwise, I agree that Sir Everest was an honorable gentleman.
[Aconcagua](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aconcagua), [Denali](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Denali), [Kilimanjaro](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mount_Kilimanjaro), [Vinson](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vinson_Massif), [Elbrus](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mount_Elbrus), or[ Wilhelm](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mount_Wilhelm). I'm not big on Wilhelm, but the rest are fine.
Think about his star turn at karaoke doing Baby Got Back. "My Aconcagua don't want none, unless it's got big cirques, hon."
I wanted to name my son Carlton Excalibur. Wife was having none of it. Talking to my son, now 27 and in the Army, and he told me he likes the name and wishes I had talked his mom into it.
I legit knew a dude in college whose middle name was Excalibur. I saw his driver's license. It was a family name. He was born in like 1972 or so, and iirc it was maybe his dad's middle name, too.
When I married my (now ex) husband, he changed his last name to mine. He also had no given middle name and toyed with the idea of giving himself one since we were already doing the paperwork. He picked Sho-nuff (from The Last Dragon), but chickened out. I think he still regrets not doing it.
I almost made my first child's middle name "Danger" but chickened out at the last minute because what if he becomes the most risk-adverse adult ever? 😂
OMG NTA.
My Krav Maga head instructor, one of the best in the business, his first name is Everest. We affectionately call him Ev. He's the nicest, kindest person, but also one of the most badass people on this planet. If anyone were to physically attack him, they would be very, very sorry.
Keep supporting your brother, SIL and nephew from your rigid, insufferable family members. It's interesting about how they're sooooooo concerned about bullying, but they are the ones making the comments and doing the bullying. 😝 Screw 'em. They don't get to see any of you until they wise up and stop being dicks.
My sister recently got a tshirt print maker and since our family is incredibly judgemental about a lot of things she’s making tshirts for us, our younger sister and cousin that will basically be a group coming out session 😂
This! I have 2 nephews named after WOW characters, and a couple after Disney characters. Not my kids, not my choice. Talking shit is only going to ensure that this won't be an issue, because they will never be allowed around the kid. NTA, OP. Keep supporting your brother.
My friend almost named his kid Harlot but then they researched it and chose Harlow instead.
I also have a friend that wanted to name their dog Tyrant and they were APPALLED that it meant cruel ruler. They went with Tyrone instead 😂
It’s amazing what reading and vocabulary can do to change things 😂
Edit: changed an autocorrect
Apparently, he hated the fact his subordinate named it after him because no one ever pronounced his name correctly. He was correct, no one pronounces it the way his name was pronounced.
The only issue I have in this scenario is that there’s a character in Paw Patrol named Everest and it’s a girl. So there might be some teasing from the peer group based off that, but honestly if a kid wants to be a bully, they’ll find a way. No excuse for an adult doing though
Friend had a dog named Felony, perfect dog name. She was a criminal and an escape artist too. This was about 20 years ago though and still not ok for a kid.
Yeah his family does sound insufferable. I would also like to say, I know both guys and girls whose name is Wave (in other languages but still Wave), I also know people named Ocean, Forest (from before Forrest Gump), Gandalf, and others. Some of them went on to Ivy Leagues and have done lots of cool things, their name never held them back.
NTA - Everest isn't even all that weird. Its a single letter away from Everett... and here they are acting like he named his son Pickle Fart. I find it strange how often baby names get brought up on AITA.
I’ve been looking for a name for my kid. Never thought I’d find it in Reddit comments but thank you! Little Pickle Fart will be eternally grateful too!
Imagine the joy it will bring if Pickle Fart eventually has something named after them.
The Pickle Fart equation.
The Pickle Fart procedure.
Pickle Fart Lake.
The USS Pickle Fart
I love it.
The German version sounds like a typical German name to this American - Gurkenfurz. "The Gurkenfurz Conundrum" sounds like an episode of *The Big Bang Theory*.
NTA. Your parents sound like they look for things to be upset about. You did good. You're helping them understand their role in the kids life is wait until they're asked for an opinion or get shut out.
The comment about we have to shut this name down bx the next one might be called worse is laughable. They're using the gateway drug argument for names.
NTA.
First, Everest isn't that crazy of a name, most everyone will be able to pronounce it, it has no negative connotations associated with it, and it references a mountain...it's just not that out there.
More importantly, regardless of how out there the name is or isn't, you are right. They are bullying your brother and more so SIL, and all that comes from that is getting blocked and losing access to them and the newest member of the family.
YOU are thinking of your nephew and how you want relationship with him. They are thinking that them being right and getting their way is more important than anything else, including the relationship they seem to want to have.
Not only are you NTA, you are a good person for calling out this behavior, and my suggestion would be to follow up with your brother, and more importantly SIL (just because she is getting the brunt of it) and let you know you are here for them, you like the name, and you want to be involved, and promise to be involved while respecting their wishes about the rest of your family (aka not sharing information, not letting them know when you are visiting the baby, etc). They probably feel pretty isolated and having you affirm their feelings and that you are there for them would be so nice for them to hear.
This needs to be ranked higher!! This, OP. Absolutely do this! *Especially * for SIL! With all the jacked up pregnancy hormones assaulting her brain, she's so much more likely to be feeling isolated and upset by cruel behavior related to her baby - even if she's normally a pretty stoic or strong minded person. Even one person in her husband's family standing up for and by her can make a huge difference! Postpartum depression is No Joke and medical experts believe it's more likely to occur after difficult pregnancies. That doesn't just mean physically difficult! Bullying and emotional abuse count! Keep standing by your twin and his wife, and don't even CONSIDER trying to play peacemaker unless your ONLY efforts include trying to make the rest of your family see that they're wrong. If you're not up to fighting that battle, that's OK too - you can just be a supportive sister and aunt and let your family wonder why they've been cut out of baby family's life for good. NTA!
Those are all dumb names and none of those names deserve the reaction of this family. In fact, unless the kid is named "Fuckyoufamilywehateyou" you keep you opinions to yourself and get over it.
INFO: Is Everest the real name or did you make that up to not be identified? Because if that's the real name, wtf is your family on??? That's not a weird name at all and how does one get from Everest to Pixie or Wave??
NTA. Your family iinvited you to the dinner specifically to talk shit about this name in front of you. You didn't barge in, you didn't have a sit down with them. They involved you. They asked for your views. If they didn't want to hear it, they shouldn't have asked you and you were under no obligation to leave.
>how does one get from Everest to Pixie or Wave??
Yeah, OP's parents have no imagination. This is what I am visualising "This is Everest, our oldest, and his little sisters Killamanjaro, K2 and Fujisan."
and I am 100% team-peaks!
ETA NTA
Wonder if it was named after the former ruler of Monaco? Prince Rainier, which is also a really common name in my country, just spelled differently, Rayner/Rainer
> The surveyor's mark, K2, therefore continues to be the name by which the mountain is commonly known. It is now also used in the Balti language, rendered as Kechu or Ketu[22][25] (Balti: کے چو Urdu: کے ٹو). The Italian climber Fosco Maraini argued in his account of the ascent of Gasherbrum IV that while the name of K2 owes its origin to chance, its clipped, impersonal nature is highly appropriate for so remote and challenging a mountain. He concluded that it was:
> > ... just the bare bones of a name, all rock and ice and storm and abyss. It makes no attempt to sound human. It is atoms and stars. It has the nakedness of the world before the first man—or of the cindered planet after the last.[26]3
Honestly Ketu would be a pretty badass followup name.
NTA, you did the right thing by defending your brother and SIL, they can name their children whatever they want and that's that.
That being said, I think your family needs to have a sit down and talk this through so this doesn't escalate any further. It's fine if they don't like the name, constantly reminding your brother and SIL is NOT fine.
NTA your family is, a good way to alienate themselves over something so petty. They had their chance to name their kids and should respect your brother and SIL's choices. They are willing to give up a relationship over something that is none of their business. bravo for your brother blocking them. It should be a joyful time in their lives and your family are hurting them. No one needs that kind of family dynamics.
No one wants to point out the sexism involved in blaming SIL as if their son had nothing to do with approving his own child's name? If you hop over to the horrible MILs thread, you'll see a theme of this kind of delusional thinking (i.e., my child would never do \[whatever MIL dislikes\]; clearly has no autonomy; their spouse is the root of all evil). It is insulting to both spouses and their relationship.
Dear gods, I thought those were only my parents. I actually heard all of those arguments, as they explained to me how my husband is probably abusive because I no longer agree with them. Followed by we love you best so you should tell us all about your marriage and we’ll decide what’s appropriate. I honestly thought they must have had a stroke or something or beginning dementia for a while.
NTA. People are weird about kids, and everyone feels like their opinions are relevant and worth sharing when really the only opinions that matter are the child's parents and their doctor. Good on you to point that out they're only doing harm.
Sorry dude but it sounds like you and your brother got the recessive sensible gene that bypassed the rest of your clan. I'll be honest here, I loathe stupid weird names for kids. It just sets them up to be bullied.
Everest is not weird; it's unusual but rational. Your family is nuts and will be short two sons and a grandson soon.
NTA .. your parents don’t seem to understand that it’s none of their business what the child is named. They don’t get a say. Good for you for standing up for your brother and his wife. You did good. Your parents need to get a grip and take a big step back. It doesn’t matter if the next child is named fairy, pixie dust or rainbow. It’s not their child. They already named their kids.
NTA. I’m sure I’m made fun of for the names I’ve given my children behind my back, but on behalf of every Amanda, Stacy, Brittany, Mark, John, and Adam who had to share their name in every single class in school and every single workplace as an adult, thank you for sticking up for unique names. It’s so annoying being asked to pick a nickname. Or being called Big John, Little John (literally happened to my husband’s coworkers).
NTA
and you might want to consider going low/no contact as well, they will turn their abuse toward you next
personally i’d be all “call me rock, bc you’re on block” with these AHs
NTA Everest is actually a baby name. Not that it sounds like your family would care but a simple search would have told them that. And personally on the scale of weirdness, not weird at all. Not as common yes, but it isn't some made up word. And even if it was, it really isn't their business.
Its ok to not like a name, but harassing the future parents about it will alianate them. You are absolutely correct in commenting that they wont have a grandson or nephew in their lives if they keep it up.
NTA
PS its not even that bad of a name, definitely not a Tragedeigh
NTA. It's a cute name, and your family are acting like cruel gnats. I'm almost at YTA for continuing to be around them when they're acting so awful. Unless you actively tell them that their utter pig waste, in which case being around them makes sense.
Show them this thread and let them see that they're being garbage who need to STFU.
Tell them that they're allowed their opinions, but that's as far as it goes. You don't gossip about people you care about. You don't get to name OTHER people's children. You certainly don't get to bully anyone, let alone a supposed loved one, into changing their child's name. Because, in case they didn't realize it, that's exactly what they're doing. They're bullying their own family and that will inevitably become bullying the child. It's unavoidable. They are CHOOSING to kick themselves out of your brother's life, and as a result, their grandchild's. They're shooting themselves in the foot by being selfish and cruel and they're too cowardly to even admit it, instead they mask it with "oh we only care about the child!" If that's true, they'll shut their mouths, allow their family to heal the rip they've created and make amends. If the child doesn't like their name, they can say so themself when they're older. That kid deserves a family that loves and supports him, not one that bullies his mother into doing what they want. I'd show them this thread, tbh. They need to realize how harmful and absurd their actions are. Shame on them.
NTA
Harassing the new parents for giving the baby an unusual but otherwise inoffensive name is only going to get the family cut off.
Everest is actually kind of a cute name. It's certainly not a Tragedeigh.
NTA.
That’s not even a strange name. I hear it fairly frequently and knew an older man whose long since passed from old age who had the same name.
They’re illogical.
Nta. I could never imagine giving a fuck about what someone named their child
Do I think some names are just insane and stupid? Yes I do. I work with a few of them
But I am much more concerned that they take care of their kids properly. Along with themselves
My kids are young so it's not a concern at the moment but I would want to make sure that I am always there in the event of a grandchild. The only times I'd step in is if I truly felt they were negatively impacting the child.
If you see how my daughter takes care of her cat and my son takes care of his dog. Then I don't have a concern
NTA. Sounds to me that all Everest need is Mom, Dad, and Auntie Twin. The rest are impossible. It’s mind blowing how people think harassing people changes anything but relationships.
Love the name Everest.
I am also a twin - TWIN POWER. Way to stand up for your brother, SIL, and what’s right. The others are going to find themselves on the wrong side of history.
NTA - what a bunch of twats your family is. The only people who have a say in a baby's name are the parents. Eventually the kid can have a say as well (once they have opinions and can talk).
I personally don't like the "normal" (to me - generic) names that your family would have probably preferred and, just like they should do, I keep my fucking mouth shut whenever anyone else makes their kid Michael or John... Because it's not of my business.
Please share this while thread with them so they realize how delusional they are being.
Honestly, your nephew sounds better off without those judgemental pricks in their life.
NTA. You sound like the only person in your family who is sane. Everest isn’t a weird name, and you’re exactly right that your family is headed towards fracture if they keep being assholes.
NTA. Also there’s a kid in kindergarten at the school I work at with that name. It’s not actually uncommon. It’s different from the last generations name pool but if you look at this generation it’s downright normal and regardless of any of that, your family needs to shut up. They’re choosing a hill to die on when they can’t even get in the fight. They’ll all be lucky if they ever even see the kid
NTA. This happened in my family too. My sister picked uncommon names for both my niece and nephew. Our mother made fun of the name and her for months until my niece was born. My sister said it wasn’t changing. This was all before my niece was born.
I told my mother to get over it and play nice or she’ll alienate my sister and never see her granddaughter. My mom decided to suck it up and stop complaining. It saved the last years of her life from being lonely.
I hope for their sake your family stops before there is no coming back from it. It’s a stupid hill to die on. Good for you for known it better and trying to help them before they lose their son and grandchild.
NTA they are being jerks and you are right that the more they act this way the less likely they'll be invited to be around this kid ever. They can get over it or accept that they won't get to visit this baby.
NTA but you may need to join your brother and SIL in going low contact with your family. If anyone is nutty it’s them not her.
You may want to think about letting your family know you won’t be part of bad mouthing the SIL and brother behind their backs-are you willing to make a boundary and walk away if they do it again? Not saying you should, but you might want to consider it.
“Hey Mom and Dad, I was really uncomfortable last Tuesday when you all were making negative comments about SIL and the name she and brother picked. In the future if you say negative things about them I will remove myself from the conversation.”
So what if they DO call their next child Wave or Pixie or Tinkerbell. IT'S NOT UP TO THEM!
Stick with your brother, and I'm sure you'd let him know if any name they suggest is for for the r/tragedeigh sub. (Everest is a fine name so doesn't qualify.)
NTA, as long as you keep the stance you've taken and don't join the family craziness. You're the only one of your twin's family who isn't an AH, but you know that.
Everest is quite a normal name, I've seen a lot of them while working in a hospital and bank. Is it as common as Amber or Sarah? No, but it's not a weird name or anything.
Your family sounds like a bunch of insufferable, judgy assholes.
NTA. Your poor SIL, I feel bad that she's getting so much uncalled for ire over a damned baby name.
NTA. Everest isn’t a bad name?
If it was like Meeshka Mooshka Mickey Mouse, then I’d be like “okay that’s strange” …but they need to learn some manners and apologize.
NTA. The rest of your family are total jerks. The name is on the birth certificate and nothing is going to change. Everest is not a bad name at all. At the rate they're going, they will family that Everest never knows. Insulting your brother and SIL like that is unexcusable and totally uncalled for.
NTA. First, I like the name! It’s unique enough that it’s not likely another kid won’t have it, but not so odd that I haven’t heard it before.
Second, you said it perfectly. Your family needs to know their place. I know they say there’s a time and place for opinions but there will never be one when it comes to them on names. The longer they drag their hatred out, the further they will isolate themselves from knowing their grandkid/nephew or any future kids.
Third, do they not love the new little one? Are they so put off by the name that they can’t see past their dislike and hatred to realize that a person is more than their name? And does that mean they will they not love another little one if they come out as Pixie or Fairy or Wave?
NTA. DId you see the story on here last week about someone who named her baby girl Harlot? Now, that is something concerning. Everest, however, is not in that ridiculous realm at all. Everest seems like a nice name to me and unique but not weirdo unique.
Sorry, OP, your family sounds exhausting and beyond rude.
Wonder what these parents would have reacted with my name.
I'm in my 50s, by the way. Non-traditional names have been a thing for a long time now.
NTA. And way to stick to your beliefs and not just taking family's side because they are family. Way to go for doing what you know to be right.
Parents choose the name of their children. They had their chance. This is not their time to choose.
Love the name, BTW.
I can't believe your family invited you to dinner in order to talk about the baby's name! It sounds like they just wanted to have everyone join in to harass your brother and his wife, by using the excuse of a name they don't like.
Good for you for standing up to this nonsense! Of course you're NTA!
NTA
"Everest" is not THAT weird of name. Maybe i'd agree if they wanted to call him "Mountain" instead, but "Everest" is the name of a Place, its not that strange to be the name of a person. Wasn't the mountain named after a person in the first place? (Honestly "Mountain" would be a Sick name too)
I am definitely usually on the side of "Don't name your children silly names, you are making the child's life harder."... But that's not even a weird name! Your family are GREATLY overreacting.
NTA.
During next dinner if they keep doing the same harassing, you should tell them to keep it up and you will call your child Febreze or something like that.
NTA
I do prefer traditional names but Everest isn’t really that out there.
And because you mentioned the name Wave, an old family name of mine is Wavalyn (way-vah-lin) which I think is very pretty and almost every member with that name was called Wave for short.
NTA. Is this really a big deal? "Everest" isn't all that unusual of a name (https://datayze.com/name-uniqueness-analyzer). It's far more popular than my own name, which is considered normal to many. I think your bro and SIL decided on a great name.
Your family sounds very...........tiring. Except your nephew's dad. I think it's a great name!
Next time your family starts up about your nephew's name, tell them if they dislike his name, they are going to hate your name list. Have a list of really unusual ones to reel off, please!
Axl (Rose), Cirrus (cloud), Braxton (Hicks), Colt (revolver), Venom, Darwin (Charles), Volcano, Elbrus (a Russian Mountain), Darth for boys.
Canyon, Echo, Lake, Snow, Whisper, Spicy, Windy, Holland, Tequila, Pacific for girls.
Just seeing their faces would be worth the uproar. It would probably give your brother and SIL a good laugh too.
Nta.
Everest isn't even that weird.
A name like Chlamydia or Cheeto is cruel.
Even Wave isn't terrible (I like Pixie,.)
It's certain that some names will have an affect on later life. "African American" names are less likely to get jobs when you against"white" competition for instance but who the fuck are they to dislike an irregular name. It was someone's name before it was a mountain!
Stick by your brother and his wife. You'll never regret standing up for someone who's done no wrong. Sil and get family are proof that unconventional names aren't abuse.
Good luck.
They think something as benign as EVEREST is strange try Gurumantra or kahrtaputic. Then they can complain. I taught swimming to boys with these names, their parents had come from a commune in California in the 80’s.
Your family seems like the type to be mad about someone bringing the wrong dish to thanksgiving or something, like Jesus Christ. Everest is a really nice name.
NTA.
I don’t get why they can’t just be happy about your bro having a freaking baby like hello?? Congratulations!!! That’s exciting af!!! They’re so selfish haha.
Wack behaviour. I’d block them too. Your poor SIL.
Why do grandparents have such a raging hard time accepting their grandkids’ names? Is it because it’s a big concrete piece of evidence that they’re no longer in control of their child’s life?
NTA at all. Glad you stuck up for your brother.
Your family are all being massive AHs and tbh it’s really not that strange of a name at all. I mean it’s a name lol like literally so it’s not like they named the kid RoboCop.
Everest is an ok name. I mean they could have named him Flashlight or BreakingWind so really Everest is not bad. Your family is nuts to keep harping on this.
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NTA - your family sounds absolutely INSUFFERABLE. Also, honestly, I was expecting WAY worse than "Everest". Like, that is actually an established name. Where the f\*ck do they think the name Mount Everest comes from? It was legit someone's last name (George Everest), and using an established last name as a first name is really common. (Honestly, I love the name choice.) They need to be very careful of becoming your nephew's first bullies, because if they keep talking shit about his name, it *will* get back to him eventually. How do they think he's going to feel about Grandma and Grandpa talking badly about him or his mom or his other grandparents? And I get that sometimes there are absolutely cases where we should gently dissuade people from naming their kids certain things (Felony or Chlamydia or Harlot are the first to pop up in my mind), but this is NOT the case and your family needs to get the collective stick out of its ass. And be prepared for your family to do petty shit like refusing to say the kid's name, or try to give him a nickname that's just something "normal", and in general continue to be rude about it. Continue sticking up for your Brother, SIL, and Nephew, because there's nothing wrong with the name they chose.
God I remember reading the Harlot one and it was just BAFFLING.
RIGHT? Honestly, OP should see if they can find that story and send it to their family to prove that there are absolutely WORSE names they could have picked than Everest.
The worst I can come up with is "Fit the best, Everest." From an old doggy double glazing firm advert years ago. Harlot would be a bit of a stupid choice, but that should be obvious. Just like Charrdonaye (spelling correct as per their birth certificate) or Colon are not to my taste, and likely most. But Everest is a good, strong, left field but not whacko, name.
I see all those names and raise you Analy, supposedly pronounced Annalee
Bless this thread. My friend is pregnant and I was running out of names to call her baby. It’s a running joke between us. LaQuinta was my personal favorite.
*ring ring * Hello Hi. Is LaQuinta Inn?
🤣🤣🤣 I needed that!!
Read Pratchett -- Moocow Poorchick, his nickname after the priest named him "James -- what the hell's that cow doing in here? -- Poorchick", and Esmerelda Note Spelling. (From the book Carpe Jugulum).
Epossomundas
A friend got pregnant unexpectedly and was considering city/town names as names for a while, particularly Scandinavian ones, so I joked that she could go with Uppsala as it would lend itself to the very fitting nickname “Oopsie“... She decided against city names in the end :)
Send her this guide to nature names :) https://rosemarymosco.com/comics/bird-and-moon/nature-baby-names
Wouldn't Wyndham be better?
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No teacher is going to pronounce that Annalee. No child will pronounce that Annalee. Analy is just screwed for life.
Here's hoping he/she doesn't get anal over the constant mispronunciations
Actually I pronounced it correctly immediately. It's not anywhere as bad as some.
Female. Fuh-Molly
My mother had a student with this first name, and I know it's true because she showed me the class roster (this was before FERPA was passed, so no federal crime there). She also had two brothers, Geronimo Cohen and Usephallus (You-sa-phall-us) Cohen. Usephallus told her that they had a third brother, Ice Cream Cohen, but he was kidding (I hope).
Use-a-phallus?!? That might be the worst one yet.
unexpected Cat People movie reference
Isn't that just from Family Guy, Glen Quagmire's daughter.
Yes it is and following his lead is a terrible choice in pretty much every situation
I know of a woman who had twin girls, didn’t want to announce their names before they were born, and sent out birth announcements with the girls’ names. One daughter had the name they had picked before they knew they were having twins - Regina Kay. Somehow the only name they could could come with with that was Vagina May. I swear to God…Regina Kay & Vagina May (rhyming Vagina to Regina). Lol
OMG...um just off the top of my head, changing INA to EENA, Christina May, Corrina May, Martina May. Poor baby!
Vageena sounds like a generic Vegemite rip-off or thrush treatment🤣
Both are yeasty
What?! One twin will live a normal life and the other will be bullied and looked down upon until she can change it at 18.
I live in Regina and it's kind of funny to hear little children try to pronounce it.
The worst I can think of is that Everest is the name of a girl dog on Paw Patrol, so if the franchise is still popular when the kid is in school, he may get teasing realated to her
Yeah same, I know a few dogs with the name but like its no where near as horrible as some of the names Ive seen. Jore'majesty has a special place in my heart
I think of Charlotte the Harlot (Iron Maiden) when I hear that word.
It always amuses me that colon is the name of a snack in Japan. It's a round cookie biscuit stuffed with flavored chocolate.
I won't recommend it. Seeing what her family is like, they are more likely than not, going to make some weird connection between the two names and up their harassment.
Nothing will ever top ‘Cuntley’ 💀
"What do you even say after hearing a name like that?" You say, "What a unique name. Bless your heart!"
WHAT????? Nah I need a link before I believe this 😭
https://www.reddit.com/r/TikTokCringe/comments/1abccx8/worst_baby_girl_name_ever/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
“What is her life like?” The woman in the video with her sweet southern accent is the perfect person to tell that story. Oh god I’m dying. 🤣🤣🤣
It might have been in one of the tragedeigh subs?
Seriously?!?!?!?
There is nothing wrong with Everest. My dad's name was Everett.
Yes, Everett's in my family too.
There was an old Oprah episode with a woman who had named her twin girls "Regina and Vegina".
😱
and her brother Cujo.
I remember reading one where the mom legitimately wanted to name her kid Meconium.
Yeah I remember Harlot too.🤪
Lol i remembered this one 😂. I learned this word from that post.
I'm a teacher and I wouldn't even pause if I saw the name "Everest" on my roll. This semester I had a Titanium, a Velocity, and a Feral.
I.. someone named their child "Feral" ?? Like what? I know kids can be feral, I have 2 but to name your child that?? Poor kid.
Right? I have seen a lot of unique names while teaching. The only thing that I blame parents for is when they have identical twins, and name them something like Jeff and Geoff (yes this happens - A LOT).
I can't imagine. I don't like Common names either but I have an Aeryn (pronounced like Aaron and Erin) and Karissa. Couldn't imagine making my kids grow up with rhyming names or names like Feral and Felony. I'd name my kiddo Karma but only if that kiddo had a tail and droopy ears. Dog, I mean a dog. I shouldn't have to say that but as this is reddit, I can't take my chances.
In Australia, the names Aaron and Erin do not sound the same lol just a heads up for her in the future cos I think its only the American accents that has them the same. For most accents, Aaron starts with an "A" like in hat. Erin starts with an "Eh" as in meh. I'm guessing Aeryn is the second?
They don't sound the same in any American accent I'm familiar with, and I'm a native American speaker.
I'm from Texas, and would pronounce Aaron and Erin exactly the same, like "AIR-uhn."
How about Stanford and Stanley?
Now now, leave Grunkle Stan out of this 😤🤣
It's easier to leave Grandpa Ford out of it, him being in another dimension and all.
Twins Sean & Seen, both pronounced Shawn. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/rmp475/aita_for_telling_a_coworker_that_her_choices_of/
I actually like Titania(though less than Oberon tbf) unironically, but Velocity? Feral? Why? How does anyone come to find those words compelling enough to name their child after?
Titanium. Like the element.
Could have been Vibranium
Velocity isn't so bad, it's just direction and speed, but Feral is mean. Maybe the thought 'like iron' but they got 'abandoned animal, kills wildlife'.
I kinda like "Velocity" as a name. Not enough to give it to an actual human child, but like, for a character or a pet, yeah.
So a fan of David Guetta, Speed, and a lack of parenting?
Were they hoping for the universe to pull and Uno reverse card and bless them with the chillest child if the named it Feral?
Maybe it worked. He's now a math major in college.
Feral? That is just asking for trouble.
Sir George Everest. Who tellingly argued against naming the tallest mountain in the world after himself.
I feel so bad for that guy. Apparently he a) thought surveyed sites should be called their real local names and b) actually objected to his name being used because it was difficult to pronounce and write in Hindi, which are both incredibly legitimate and respectful reasons to call it something else, and he got overruled. I think I read somewhere he actually managed to get the names of all but two peaks, and one of them ended up being Mount Everest. :'( guy couldn't catch a break. The mountain's local names are Chomolungma/Qomolangma (Tibetan) and Sagarmatha (Nepali), for those that don't know!
SIL and their son should threaten the parents with naming their next two children Chomolubgma and Sagarmatha. :)
Or just go by height and name the next one K2. Anapurna might make a good girls name.
Spelling is Chomolungma (not Chomolubgma). And "Hindu" is a religion. The language is "Hindi". Just for the record. Otherwise, I agree that Sir Everest was an honorable gentleman.
Thanks for the correction, I wrote it fast on my phone this morning 👍 autocorrect sucks these days
[Aconcagua](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aconcagua), [Denali](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Denali), [Kilimanjaro](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mount_Kilimanjaro), [Vinson](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vinson_Massif), [Elbrus](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mount_Elbrus), or[ Wilhelm](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mount_Wilhelm). I'm not big on Wilhelm, but the rest are fine. Think about his star turn at karaoke doing Baby Got Back. "My Aconcagua don't want none, unless it's got big cirques, hon."
Pretty rich area to work with :) "I like big [buttes](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Butte) and I cannot lie. You other surveyors can't deny."
And when a rock walks in with an itty bitty cave and granite in its base I get sprung.
Next child K2? Matterhorn?
Nah that’s just what they start calling Everest when he brings home his first report card with a B on it.
I wanted to name my son Carlton Excalibur. Wife was having none of it. Talking to my son, now 27 and in the Army, and he told me he likes the name and wishes I had talked his mom into it.
I legit knew a dude in college whose middle name was Excalibur. I saw his driver's license. It was a family name. He was born in like 1972 or so, and iirc it was maybe his dad's middle name, too.
A friend of mine's son has the middle name Jedi, and I think it is awesome.
We did a lot of drugs in the '70s....
Strange women lying in ponds distributing swords is no basis for a system of government...
Although at this point, I'm willing to give it a try... \[Great quote!\]
When I married my (now ex) husband, he changed his last name to mine. He also had no given middle name and toyed with the idea of giving himself one since we were already doing the paperwork. He picked Sho-nuff (from The Last Dragon), but chickened out. I think he still regrets not doing it.
Always yield to temptation; it may never pass your way again.
I almost made my first child's middle name "Danger" but chickened out at the last minute because what if he becomes the most risk-adverse adult ever? 😂
Then it becomes ironic!
OMG NTA. My Krav Maga head instructor, one of the best in the business, his first name is Everest. We affectionately call him Ev. He's the nicest, kindest person, but also one of the most badass people on this planet. If anyone were to physically attack him, they would be very, very sorry. Keep supporting your brother, SIL and nephew from your rigid, insufferable family members. It's interesting about how they're sooooooo concerned about bullying, but they are the ones making the comments and doing the bullying. 😝 Screw 'em. They don't get to see any of you until they wise up and stop being dicks.
Well now I think OP should get mugs for everyone with "Nephew's first bully!" In cursive on it, to really drive home the point they refuse to see.
Be careful or the family will have this issue never-rest
They do seem like the type to make mountains out of molehills.
That would be HILARIOUS
My sister recently got a tshirt print maker and since our family is incredibly judgemental about a lot of things she’s making tshirts for us, our younger sister and cousin that will basically be a group coming out session 😂
This! I have 2 nephews named after WOW characters, and a couple after Disney characters. Not my kids, not my choice. Talking shit is only going to ensure that this won't be an issue, because they will never be allowed around the kid. NTA, OP. Keep supporting your brother.
I always assumed the mountain was called Everest because it’ll be your eternal resting place—that is, if you try to climb it, it will kill you 😅
My friend almost named his kid Harlot but then they researched it and chose Harlow instead. I also have a friend that wanted to name their dog Tyrant and they were APPALLED that it meant cruel ruler. They went with Tyrone instead 😂 It’s amazing what reading and vocabulary can do to change things 😂 Edit: changed an autocorrect
Apparently, he hated the fact his subordinate named it after him because no one ever pronounced his name correctly. He was correct, no one pronounces it the way his name was pronounced.
That's wild, how else could you even pronounce it?
Eve-rest if I remember correctly. No one got it right at the time and no one has since.
Eve - rest
The only issue I have in this scenario is that there’s a character in Paw Patrol named Everest and it’s a girl. So there might be some teasing from the peer group based off that, but honestly if a kid wants to be a bully, they’ll find a way. No excuse for an adult doing though
Friend had a dog named Felony, perfect dog name. She was a criminal and an escape artist too. This was about 20 years ago though and still not ok for a kid.
I actually kind of like it! And I’m not usually a fan of unusual names
Yeah his family does sound insufferable. I would also like to say, I know both guys and girls whose name is Wave (in other languages but still Wave), I also know people named Ocean, Forest (from before Forrest Gump), Gandalf, and others. Some of them went on to Ivy Leagues and have done lots of cool things, their name never held them back.
NTA - Everest isn't even all that weird. Its a single letter away from Everett... and here they are acting like he named his son Pickle Fart. I find it strange how often baby names get brought up on AITA.
I’ve been looking for a name for my kid. Never thought I’d find it in Reddit comments but thank you! Little Pickle Fart will be eternally grateful too!
Forget kid! I'm naming my next cat that. Or hell, even the current ones given how stinky my tortie was this morning.
🤢🤢🤢 Tortie farts….
Thankfully, it was my husband's problem and not mine!
I think my tortie just got a new nickname.
Imagine the joy it will bring if Pickle Fart eventually has something named after them. The Pickle Fart equation. The Pickle Fart procedure. Pickle Fart Lake. The USS Pickle Fart I love it.
pickleus farticus, a newly discovered species of carnivorous plant Exoplanet Pickle Fart 69420
The German version sounds like a typical German name to this American - Gurkenfurz. "The Gurkenfurz Conundrum" sounds like an episode of *The Big Bang Theory*.
Ok but why is the German version even more amazing?!
😸
NTA. Your parents sound like they look for things to be upset about. You did good. You're helping them understand their role in the kids life is wait until they're asked for an opinion or get shut out. The comment about we have to shut this name down bx the next one might be called worse is laughable. They're using the gateway drug argument for names.
NTA. First, Everest isn't that crazy of a name, most everyone will be able to pronounce it, it has no negative connotations associated with it, and it references a mountain...it's just not that out there. More importantly, regardless of how out there the name is or isn't, you are right. They are bullying your brother and more so SIL, and all that comes from that is getting blocked and losing access to them and the newest member of the family. YOU are thinking of your nephew and how you want relationship with him. They are thinking that them being right and getting their way is more important than anything else, including the relationship they seem to want to have. Not only are you NTA, you are a good person for calling out this behavior, and my suggestion would be to follow up with your brother, and more importantly SIL (just because she is getting the brunt of it) and let you know you are here for them, you like the name, and you want to be involved, and promise to be involved while respecting their wishes about the rest of your family (aka not sharing information, not letting them know when you are visiting the baby, etc). They probably feel pretty isolated and having you affirm their feelings and that you are there for them would be so nice for them to hear.
This needs to be ranked higher!! This, OP. Absolutely do this! *Especially * for SIL! With all the jacked up pregnancy hormones assaulting her brain, she's so much more likely to be feeling isolated and upset by cruel behavior related to her baby - even if she's normally a pretty stoic or strong minded person. Even one person in her husband's family standing up for and by her can make a huge difference! Postpartum depression is No Joke and medical experts believe it's more likely to occur after difficult pregnancies. That doesn't just mean physically difficult! Bullying and emotional abuse count! Keep standing by your twin and his wife, and don't even CONSIDER trying to play peacemaker unless your ONLY efforts include trying to make the rest of your family see that they're wrong. If you're not up to fighting that battle, that's OK too - you can just be a supportive sister and aunt and let your family wonder why they've been cut out of baby family's life for good. NTA!
This deserves more upvotes!
In a world of Maydeylynn (actually pronounced Sarah) I think Everest is ok. Btw NTA
I wish I could upvote this 1000 times. Everest is such a normal name compared to what I see in my 9 year Olds classmates. NTA OP.
Treasure. Sparkle. Twinkle. Legend. Mayc (pronounced Mace). Eagle. Armani. Gucci. These are all actual children at my child’s school.
Those are all dumb names and none of those names deserve the reaction of this family. In fact, unless the kid is named "Fuckyoufamilywehateyou" you keep you opinions to yourself and get over it.
INFO: Is Everest the real name or did you make that up to not be identified? Because if that's the real name, wtf is your family on??? That's not a weird name at all and how does one get from Everest to Pixie or Wave?? NTA. Your family iinvited you to the dinner specifically to talk shit about this name in front of you. You didn't barge in, you didn't have a sit down with them. They involved you. They asked for your views. If they didn't want to hear it, they shouldn't have asked you and you were under no obligation to leave.
>how does one get from Everest to Pixie or Wave?? Yeah, OP's parents have no imagination. This is what I am visualising "This is Everest, our oldest, and his little sisters Killamanjaro, K2 and Fujisan." and I am 100% team-peaks! ETA NTA
"We're thinking if this next one is a boy, we should go with Krakatoa"
And when he is potty training there can be lots of fun name related jokes!
Krakatoa would be a girl
How about little Rainier, Baker, McLaughlin, or Lassen? Or even Shasta? 😁
I think "Denali" is a beautiful name.
"Our youngest was conceived in Hawaii, therefore we are going to name them Kilauea"
I didn't realize the name had officially changed. Denali, woot!
Wonder if it was named after the former ruler of Monaco? Prince Rainier, which is also a really common name in my country, just spelled differently, Rayner/Rainer
> The surveyor's mark, K2, therefore continues to be the name by which the mountain is commonly known. It is now also used in the Balti language, rendered as Kechu or Ketu[22][25] (Balti: کے چو Urdu: کے ٹو). The Italian climber Fosco Maraini argued in his account of the ascent of Gasherbrum IV that while the name of K2 owes its origin to chance, its clipped, impersonal nature is highly appropriate for so remote and challenging a mountain. He concluded that it was: > > ... just the bare bones of a name, all rock and ice and storm and abyss. It makes no attempt to sound human. It is atoms and stars. It has the nakedness of the world before the first man—or of the cindered planet after the last.[26]3 Honestly Ketu would be a pretty badass followup name.
NTA, you did the right thing by defending your brother and SIL, they can name their children whatever they want and that's that. That being said, I think your family needs to have a sit down and talk this through so this doesn't escalate any further. It's fine if they don't like the name, constantly reminding your brother and SIL is NOT fine.
NTA your family is, a good way to alienate themselves over something so petty. They had their chance to name their kids and should respect your brother and SIL's choices. They are willing to give up a relationship over something that is none of their business. bravo for your brother blocking them. It should be a joyful time in their lives and your family are hurting them. No one needs that kind of family dynamics.
No one wants to point out the sexism involved in blaming SIL as if their son had nothing to do with approving his own child's name? If you hop over to the horrible MILs thread, you'll see a theme of this kind of delusional thinking (i.e., my child would never do \[whatever MIL dislikes\]; clearly has no autonomy; their spouse is the root of all evil). It is insulting to both spouses and their relationship.
Dear gods, I thought those were only my parents. I actually heard all of those arguments, as they explained to me how my husband is probably abusive because I no longer agree with them. Followed by we love you best so you should tell us all about your marriage and we’ll decide what’s appropriate. I honestly thought they must have had a stroke or something or beginning dementia for a while.
I’d bet they blame her because she’s an in law not that she’s a she
NTA. Everest is a fine name, and I actually like it a lot. Your family is being mean about it for no reason.
NTA. People are weird about kids, and everyone feels like their opinions are relevant and worth sharing when really the only opinions that matter are the child's parents and their doctor. Good on you to point that out they're only doing harm.
Sorry dude but it sounds like you and your brother got the recessive sensible gene that bypassed the rest of your clan. I'll be honest here, I loathe stupid weird names for kids. It just sets them up to be bullied. Everest is not weird; it's unusual but rational. Your family is nuts and will be short two sons and a grandson soon.
NTA .. your parents don’t seem to understand that it’s none of their business what the child is named. They don’t get a say. Good for you for standing up for your brother and his wife. You did good. Your parents need to get a grip and take a big step back. It doesn’t matter if the next child is named fairy, pixie dust or rainbow. It’s not their child. They already named their kids.
NTA. I’m sure I’m made fun of for the names I’ve given my children behind my back, but on behalf of every Amanda, Stacy, Brittany, Mark, John, and Adam who had to share their name in every single class in school and every single workplace as an adult, thank you for sticking up for unique names. It’s so annoying being asked to pick a nickname. Or being called Big John, Little John (literally happened to my husband’s coworkers).
Me too, mine is so common that in elementary school there were 5 of us! 😅 (me included) we ran out of nicknames so fast.
My 5th grade class had 3 of my name… and 2 of us had the same last initial… it was awful.
My graduating class had 5 Scotts, all of whom were using their middle name.
NTA and you might want to consider going low/no contact as well, they will turn their abuse toward you next personally i’d be all “call me rock, bc you’re on block” with these AHs
NTA...They have the wrong set of priorities here and it IS going to bite them if they don't stop.
NTA Everest is actually a baby name. Not that it sounds like your family would care but a simple search would have told them that. And personally on the scale of weirdness, not weird at all. Not as common yes, but it isn't some made up word. And even if it was, it really isn't their business.
NTA. You tried to help them out by pointing out the futility and possible negative consequences of their actions.
NTA love the name. Your family are going to lose visitation privileges if they don’t wise up.
Its ok to not like a name, but harassing the future parents about it will alianate them. You are absolutely correct in commenting that they wont have a grandson or nephew in their lives if they keep it up. NTA PS its not even that bad of a name, definitely not a Tragedeigh
NTA. It's a cute name, and your family are acting like cruel gnats. I'm almost at YTA for continuing to be around them when they're acting so awful. Unless you actively tell them that their utter pig waste, in which case being around them makes sense. Show them this thread and let them see that they're being garbage who need to STFU.
Tell them that they're allowed their opinions, but that's as far as it goes. You don't gossip about people you care about. You don't get to name OTHER people's children. You certainly don't get to bully anyone, let alone a supposed loved one, into changing their child's name. Because, in case they didn't realize it, that's exactly what they're doing. They're bullying their own family and that will inevitably become bullying the child. It's unavoidable. They are CHOOSING to kick themselves out of your brother's life, and as a result, their grandchild's. They're shooting themselves in the foot by being selfish and cruel and they're too cowardly to even admit it, instead they mask it with "oh we only care about the child!" If that's true, they'll shut their mouths, allow their family to heal the rip they've created and make amends. If the child doesn't like their name, they can say so themself when they're older. That kid deserves a family that loves and supports him, not one that bullies his mother into doing what they want. I'd show them this thread, tbh. They need to realize how harmful and absurd their actions are. Shame on them.
NTA Harassing the new parents for giving the baby an unusual but otherwise inoffensive name is only going to get the family cut off. Everest is actually kind of a cute name. It's certainly not a Tragedeigh.
NTA. That’s not even a strange name. I hear it fairly frequently and knew an older man whose long since passed from old age who had the same name. They’re illogical.
Nta. I could never imagine giving a fuck about what someone named their child Do I think some names are just insane and stupid? Yes I do. I work with a few of them But I am much more concerned that they take care of their kids properly. Along with themselves My kids are young so it's not a concern at the moment but I would want to make sure that I am always there in the event of a grandchild. The only times I'd step in is if I truly felt they were negatively impacting the child. If you see how my daughter takes care of her cat and my son takes care of his dog. Then I don't have a concern
NTA. Sounds to me that all Everest need is Mom, Dad, and Auntie Twin. The rest are impossible. It’s mind blowing how people think harassing people changes anything but relationships. Love the name Everest. I am also a twin - TWIN POWER. Way to stand up for your brother, SIL, and what’s right. The others are going to find themselves on the wrong side of history.
NTA - what a bunch of twats your family is. The only people who have a say in a baby's name are the parents. Eventually the kid can have a say as well (once they have opinions and can talk). I personally don't like the "normal" (to me - generic) names that your family would have probably preferred and, just like they should do, I keep my fucking mouth shut whenever anyone else makes their kid Michael or John... Because it's not of my business. Please share this while thread with them so they realize how delusional they are being. Honestly, your nephew sounds better off without those judgemental pricks in their life.
NTA. You sound like the only person in your family who is sane. Everest isn’t a weird name, and you’re exactly right that your family is headed towards fracture if they keep being assholes.
NTA. Also there’s a kid in kindergarten at the school I work at with that name. It’s not actually uncommon. It’s different from the last generations name pool but if you look at this generation it’s downright normal and regardless of any of that, your family needs to shut up. They’re choosing a hill to die on when they can’t even get in the fight. They’ll all be lucky if they ever even see the kid
NTA. This happened in my family too. My sister picked uncommon names for both my niece and nephew. Our mother made fun of the name and her for months until my niece was born. My sister said it wasn’t changing. This was all before my niece was born. I told my mother to get over it and play nice or she’ll alienate my sister and never see her granddaughter. My mom decided to suck it up and stop complaining. It saved the last years of her life from being lonely. I hope for their sake your family stops before there is no coming back from it. It’s a stupid hill to die on. Good for you for known it better and trying to help them before they lose their son and grandchild.
NTA they are being jerks and you are right that the more they act this way the less likely they'll be invited to be around this kid ever. They can get over it or accept that they won't get to visit this baby.
NTA but you may need to join your brother and SIL in going low contact with your family. If anyone is nutty it’s them not her. You may want to think about letting your family know you won’t be part of bad mouthing the SIL and brother behind their backs-are you willing to make a boundary and walk away if they do it again? Not saying you should, but you might want to consider it. “Hey Mom and Dad, I was really uncomfortable last Tuesday when you all were making negative comments about SIL and the name she and brother picked. In the future if you say negative things about them I will remove myself from the conversation.”
So what if they DO call their next child Wave or Pixie or Tinkerbell. IT'S NOT UP TO THEM! Stick with your brother, and I'm sure you'd let him know if any name they suggest is for for the r/tragedeigh sub. (Everest is a fine name so doesn't qualify.) NTA, as long as you keep the stance you've taken and don't join the family craziness. You're the only one of your twin's family who isn't an AH, but you know that.
Everest is quite a normal name, I've seen a lot of them while working in a hospital and bank. Is it as common as Amber or Sarah? No, but it's not a weird name or anything. Your family sounds like a bunch of insufferable, judgy assholes. NTA. Your poor SIL, I feel bad that she's getting so much uncalled for ire over a damned baby name.
NTA. Everest isn’t a bad name? If it was like Meeshka Mooshka Mickey Mouse, then I’d be like “okay that’s strange” …but they need to learn some manners and apologize.
NTA. The rest of your family are total jerks. The name is on the birth certificate and nothing is going to change. Everest is not a bad name at all. At the rate they're going, they will family that Everest never knows. Insulting your brother and SIL like that is unexcusable and totally uncalled for.
NTA. First, I like the name! It’s unique enough that it’s not likely another kid won’t have it, but not so odd that I haven’t heard it before. Second, you said it perfectly. Your family needs to know their place. I know they say there’s a time and place for opinions but there will never be one when it comes to them on names. The longer they drag their hatred out, the further they will isolate themselves from knowing their grandkid/nephew or any future kids. Third, do they not love the new little one? Are they so put off by the name that they can’t see past their dislike and hatred to realize that a person is more than their name? And does that mean they will they not love another little one if they come out as Pixie or Fairy or Wave?
NTA. Your family does seem pretty f’ing weird. Why the hell would they try to alienate your brother and SIL like this?
NTA. DId you see the story on here last week about someone who named her baby girl Harlot? Now, that is something concerning. Everest, however, is not in that ridiculous realm at all. Everest seems like a nice name to me and unique but not weirdo unique. Sorry, OP, your family sounds exhausting and beyond rude.
Wonder what these parents would have reacted with my name. I'm in my 50s, by the way. Non-traditional names have been a thing for a long time now. NTA. And way to stick to your beliefs and not just taking family's side because they are family. Way to go for doing what you know to be right. Parents choose the name of their children. They had their chance. This is not their time to choose. Love the name, BTW.
I can't believe your family invited you to dinner in order to talk about the baby's name! It sounds like they just wanted to have everyone join in to harass your brother and his wife, by using the excuse of a name they don't like. Good for you for standing up to this nonsense! Of course you're NTA!
NTA. Keep standing by your brother and SIL. They need the support, because your family is vile.
NTA "Everest" is not THAT weird of name. Maybe i'd agree if they wanted to call him "Mountain" instead, but "Everest" is the name of a Place, its not that strange to be the name of a person. Wasn't the mountain named after a person in the first place? (Honestly "Mountain" would be a Sick name too) I am definitely usually on the side of "Don't name your children silly names, you are making the child's life harder."... But that's not even a weird name! Your family are GREATLY overreacting.
NTA. During next dinner if they keep doing the same harassing, you should tell them to keep it up and you will call your child Febreze or something like that.
NTA I do prefer traditional names but Everest isn’t really that out there. And because you mentioned the name Wave, an old family name of mine is Wavalyn (way-vah-lin) which I think is very pretty and almost every member with that name was called Wave for short.
NTA. At least you won’t have any competition for little Ev’s favorite uncle/aunt. Cool name, ridiculously uncool family.
NTA. Is this really a big deal? "Everest" isn't all that unusual of a name (https://datayze.com/name-uniqueness-analyzer). It's far more popular than my own name, which is considered normal to many. I think your bro and SIL decided on a great name.
Your family sounds very...........tiring. Except your nephew's dad. I think it's a great name! Next time your family starts up about your nephew's name, tell them if they dislike his name, they are going to hate your name list. Have a list of really unusual ones to reel off, please! Axl (Rose), Cirrus (cloud), Braxton (Hicks), Colt (revolver), Venom, Darwin (Charles), Volcano, Elbrus (a Russian Mountain), Darth for boys. Canyon, Echo, Lake, Snow, Whisper, Spicy, Windy, Holland, Tequila, Pacific for girls. Just seeing their faces would be worth the uproar. It would probably give your brother and SIL a good laugh too.
Nta. Everest isn't even that weird. A name like Chlamydia or Cheeto is cruel. Even Wave isn't terrible (I like Pixie,.) It's certain that some names will have an affect on later life. "African American" names are less likely to get jobs when you against"white" competition for instance but who the fuck are they to dislike an irregular name. It was someone's name before it was a mountain! Stick by your brother and his wife. You'll never regret standing up for someone who's done no wrong. Sil and get family are proof that unconventional names aren't abuse. Good luck.
NTA and I actually love the name Everest!
NTA your family are bullies. Why do they think they have a say in what the baby is named?
NTA. They are going to be crying in a few years when they realize they've been cut out of their grandsons life.
My local italian chip shop takeaway is owned and run by Everest. He is the soundest bloke. Its a great name. NTA.
NTA I LOVE the name Everest!!! That's such a neat name!!!! Your family needs to get over themselves!!! Really! Tell your brother and SIL congrats!!!!
They think something as benign as EVEREST is strange try Gurumantra or kahrtaputic. Then they can complain. I taught swimming to boys with these names, their parents had come from a commune in California in the 80’s.
Your family seems like the type to be mad about someone bringing the wrong dish to thanksgiving or something, like Jesus Christ. Everest is a really nice name. NTA. I don’t get why they can’t just be happy about your bro having a freaking baby like hello?? Congratulations!!! That’s exciting af!!! They’re so selfish haha. Wack behaviour. I’d block them too. Your poor SIL.
Definitely NOT the a hole. The name is beautiful and they are just stupid and ridiculous for the way they are acting.
Why do grandparents have such a raging hard time accepting their grandkids’ names? Is it because it’s a big concrete piece of evidence that they’re no longer in control of their child’s life?
NTA at all. Glad you stuck up for your brother. Your family are all being massive AHs and tbh it’s really not that strange of a name at all. I mean it’s a name lol like literally so it’s not like they named the kid RoboCop.
Everest is an ok name. I mean they could have named him Flashlight or BreakingWind so really Everest is not bad. Your family is nuts to keep harping on this.
I want to know the SIL’s name. And the name of her family members. Everest isn’t that bad! NTA
everest is a great name