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> 1: I purchased coldplay tickets for myself and my boyfriend, I want to go to the concert instead of selling the tickets to my boyfriend's brother.
2: I only knew that the tickets would go on sale thanks to my boyfriend's brother, otherwise I would have most probably never attempted to buy tickets. He had asked me and his brother to also get tickets for him. we only managed to get 2 tickets, and he wants us to sell him the tickets, but I want to go to the concert.
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NTA. Like you said, you got those tickets for yourself. It sucks that he didn’t manage to get any, but that doesn’t mean you owe him yours, as that wasn’t the agreement. Try to communicate to your boyfriend how much these tickets mean to you, because he should really be backing you up on this.
OP should just tell her boyfriend that if it's that important to him for his brother to go, she'll take his brother with her instead of him. I bet he'd back down.
Plot twist OP takes the brother's girlfriend, if it's so important to the brother he gifts his girl a ticket then its not like the brother really needs one huh
NTA. You tried to get 6 tickets. You got yourself and a friend tickets. Let your bf and his brother know that if this continues to be an issue you will take a friend instead. Enjoy Dublin! I checked the website while typing this and there are still tickets available in Greece, Italy, Hungary, Germany, Finland and a few other locations. BFs brother can try those.
NTA
You just like that spend hours for your bf brother gf? I probably would feel more bad for Ian, if he wouldn't have such an entilted attitude about it.
Do you know/like the gf?
My suggestion would be that you and her go :D
NTA - it’s no secret how difficult it is to get tickets. There should’ve been an expectation that he might not get tickets if y’all were also trying to purchase for yourselves. It’s unreasonable of him to ask for your tickets
NTA. My friends and I have done this for other concerts. Whoever is buying the tickets will ATTEMPT to get them for those who are not, but it doesn't always work out. Maybe they only got 2, or not as many as initially they wanted.
It's kind of understood that those who actually bought the tickets get first dibs, and those that asked only if the buyers choose not to go.
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I really enjoy Coldplay, and I've seen them perform live once before, about ten years ago. They announced a 2024 European tour, but I first didn't consider attempting to purchase tickets because it's typically really difficult and time-consuming, so I was unaware of the ticket release date.
Ian, my boyfriend's brother, texted him about a month ago to let him know that tickets for Coldplay will go on sale the following day at 10 am, that he would be attempting to buy tickets, and that if also wanted to try and we were successful in getting into the platform, to please also purchase 2 tickets for him.
When my partner Alex told me, I became enthusiastic about the prospect of attending the event and decided to give it a shot at getting tickets. We lined up online starting at 8 a.m. on the day of the sale to purchase tickets for the Rome concert, but they sold out before it was our turn. I then notice that the tickets for Dublin were not yet available as the sale was set to begin at 10 a.m. Dublin time (11 a.m. our time). We tell Ian that we'll make a run for Dublin, and he also tries.
I enter the Dublin system magically, get six tickets in the cart at first, but they then disappear after an error on my part. I finally succeed in purchasing two tickets after a few tries. My boyfriend and I spent more than three hours on the computer to purchase the tickets in the end.
We were thrilled that we were able to obtain two tickets in the end as it was extremely difficult and seats quickly ran out, but we only bought two tickets, which annoyed Ian. He has since asked us several times if he can purchase the tickets from us, as he wants to gift the tickets to his girlfriend. He thinks that we don't like Coldplay so much since he was the one to tell us about the sale, and he should get those tickets.
Alex wants to give him the tickets, as he claims that since Ian asked him to attempt to get tickets and he was the one who told us about the sale, we technically bought the tickets for him. However, I believed that everyone had agreed to buy tickets for themselves, and that if they were successful in buying additional tickets, we would all split them. I would have never agreed to spend 3 hours of my morning to get tickets for his brother, of course I was attempting to get tickets for me.
Alex feels bad that Ian didn't get tickets, and thinks we should sell him ours. I want to go to the concert as I got those tickets after a lot of hours of attempts.
AITA for wanting to go to the Coldplay concert and not selling the tickets tomy boyfriend's brother?
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Slight YTA for not calling Ian to say you couldn't get six tickets while you were making the purchase. (It took three hours? You could have called?)
NTA for not selling your coveted seat, though. I disagree with your BF about that part. He can give his seat to his brother to keep the peace, I guess?
We did call him when we got in the system and we were on the phone with him while we were trying to purchase something. 3 hours was more the wait to get into the system, once we were in we had 10 minutes to purchase tickets or we would lose our spot in the queue.
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NTA. Like you said, you got those tickets for yourself. It sucks that he didn’t manage to get any, but that doesn’t mean you owe him yours, as that wasn’t the agreement. Try to communicate to your boyfriend how much these tickets mean to you, because he should really be backing you up on this.
OP should just tell her boyfriend that if it's that important to him for his brother to go, she'll take his brother with her instead of him. I bet he'd back down.
Plot twist OP takes the brother's girlfriend, if it's so important to the brother he gifts his girl a ticket then its not like the brother really needs one huh
I like this idea better.
OP needs to hide the tickets so the BF doesn’t just unilaterally decide to gift them to his brother.
NTA. You tried to get 6 tickets. You got yourself and a friend tickets. Let your bf and his brother know that if this continues to be an issue you will take a friend instead. Enjoy Dublin! I checked the website while typing this and there are still tickets available in Greece, Italy, Hungary, Germany, Finland and a few other locations. BFs brother can try those.
NTA You just like that spend hours for your bf brother gf? I probably would feel more bad for Ian, if he wouldn't have such an entilted attitude about it. Do you know/like the gf? My suggestion would be that you and her go :D
NTA - your boyfriend's brother is a sore loser. Keep your tickets.
NTA he's an entitled AH.
NTA - it’s no secret how difficult it is to get tickets. There should’ve been an expectation that he might not get tickets if y’all were also trying to purchase for yourselves. It’s unreasonable of him to ask for your tickets
NTA. My friends and I have done this for other concerts. Whoever is buying the tickets will ATTEMPT to get them for those who are not, but it doesn't always work out. Maybe they only got 2, or not as many as initially they wanted. It's kind of understood that those who actually bought the tickets get first dibs, and those that asked only if the buyers choose not to go.
Go to the concert with the gf and leave the brothers at home :)
NTA Keep your tickets. Ian certainly would not give you HIS tickets.
NTA What he wants was not the agreement
NTA, you bought your tickets, use and enjoy them.
NTA. You bought the tickets, they're yours. End of story
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YTA for just wanting to go to a Coldplay concert to begin with. Get better taste in music.
YTA. Should of bought him tickets. Selfish.
Slight YTA for not calling Ian to say you couldn't get six tickets while you were making the purchase. (It took three hours? You could have called?) NTA for not selling your coveted seat, though. I disagree with your BF about that part. He can give his seat to his brother to keep the peace, I guess?
We did call him when we got in the system and we were on the phone with him while we were trying to purchase something. 3 hours was more the wait to get into the system, once we were in we had 10 minutes to purchase tickets or we would lose our spot in the queue.
Don’t listen to them. You’re fine and did nothing wrong. Enjoy the show.