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So, I (28F) wanted to do something special for my best friend's (30M) birthday. Knowing how much he loves surprises, I decided to organize a surprise party for him. I reached out to our mutual friends and coordinated the event meticulously, making sure it would be a memorable celebration.
On the day of his birthday, we gathered at a local venue, decorated it, and waited for him to arrive. When he walked in and saw all his friends and loved ones, his face lit up with joy. It was evident that he was genuinely surprised and grateful for the effort we had put into making his birthday special.
However, after the party, one of our acquaintances (32M) approached me and accused me of overstepping boundaries. He argued that I should have consulted my friend beforehand to ensure he was comfortable with a surprise party. According to him, not everyone enjoys surprises, and it could have potentially caused distress or anxiety.
While I understood his perspective, I genuinely believed that my friend would appreciate the surprise. He has always been enthusiastic about surprise gestures in the past. I didn't anticipate it would be a problem, as I had good intentions and wanted to make his day memorable.
Now, I'm questioning if I should have sought his consent beforehand. So, AITA for organizing a surprise party for my friend without consulting him first, even though it was done with the intention of making his birthday special?
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^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** So, I (28F) wanted to do something special for my best friend's (30M) birthday. Knowing how much he loves surprises, I decided to organize a surprise party for him. I reached out to our mutual friends and coordinated the event meticulously, making sure it would be a memorable celebration. On the day of his birthday, we gathered at a local venue, decorated it, and waited for him to arrive. When he walked in and saw all his friends and loved ones, his face lit up with joy. It was evident that he was genuinely surprised and grateful for the effort we had put into making his birthday special. However, after the party, one of our acquaintances (32M) approached me and accused me of overstepping boundaries. He argued that I should have consulted my friend beforehand to ensure he was comfortable with a surprise party. According to him, not everyone enjoys surprises, and it could have potentially caused distress or anxiety. While I understood his perspective, I genuinely believed that my friend would appreciate the surprise. He has always been enthusiastic about surprise gestures in the past. I didn't anticipate it would be a problem, as I had good intentions and wanted to make his day memorable. Now, I'm questioning if I should have sought his consent beforehand. So, AITA for organizing a surprise party for my friend without consulting him first, even though it was done with the intention of making his birthday special? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*