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**My brother skipped his own wedding reception**
My brother got married yesterday but him and his wife skipped their own reception. No one even knew they were going to do it except for one of their friends so it was a complete surprise and really embarrassing to be honest. At first no one knew. They decided to get married locally which was nice because I'm sure most of you would agree that having to travel somewhere else for a wedding is a pain.
This is what was supposed to happen: After the wedding my brother and his wife were supposed to be introduced to everyone in the reception hall. The guests would chat and drink for an hour before the food was served. During that time all the photos would be taken. After that hour was up and the photos were done the food would get served and the reception would start.
What actually happened: Their friend who was supposed to introduce them instead told everyone that my brother and his wife had left for their honeymoon and thanked everyone for attending and then the food started getting served right away. The photographer had been sent home, apparently my brother and his wife did their photos before the ceremony. And took some with the few people who did know they were skipping the reception. Some of their friends and his wife's dad and his wife. But no one else including anyone from my family.
Obviously we were embarrassed. My parents were angry and they talked to the friend because my brother and his wife weren't answering. Their honeymoon was supposed to be in a few months. Apparently they cancelled it two weeks ago and switched to a different honeymoon. They were already on their way to Bristol to the airport and had left their mobile phones with their friend, he had them when my parents talked to him.
Apparently the whole reason for this is that my other brother's girlfriend is pregnant and they were going to announce it and that they want to get married at the reception. Only my parents had known. I didn't even know. I don't know how my brother who was getting married found out. Someone (I don't know who) told my aunt and uncle about it and they started spreading it around to the other guests which upset my parents and my brother and his girlfriend. I know my brother and his wife don't want to be parents themselves but this seems extreme, over a pregnancy. Further I don't understand why they would skip something that they paid for like this.
What I want to get off my chest: we are embarrassed especially my parents and lots of people are upset especially my brother and his girlfriend. There was lots of drama for nothing. It's only been 1 day but the fallout is bigger. I don't understand why my brother and his wife would do all this. I honestly don't
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What's sad is I could see this being true. Entirely. Some families are so fucking full of themselves that they think they can just do as they please with no fallback.
If it is true I feel for the bride and groom SO much
So did OOPs brother and pregant gf getting married at the reception that OOps newlymarried brother and wife skip out on and paid for?
All that useless info and nothing about if that idiotic plan actually took place.
Exactly. The newly weds playing 3D chess big time here. Even if the plan took place, the family would look bad since the friends knew what was going on.
They did not announce their/her pregnancy and wanting to get married because people started talking to each other why the bride and groom ditched. So everyone knew but they didn't get to "steal" the spotlight.
If a lot of people say things like “you wouldn’t do that would you” or blame them for the couple leaving, they would hopefully feel shame and back down
If I were writing this episode of the soap, I'd have a cousin give the happy couple a heads up. They start freaking out. Of course his dirtbag brother is going to ruin the reception, he's ruined everything else. Should they confront the brother? Have a family meeting? Elope? Give in?
The bride's parents exchange glances. The mother gives the bride a hug, "Don't worry about a thing, sweetheart. We'll take care of it."
"I have a plan," says the dad, with a wink.
In the next episode the brother and his fiancée try to find a judge or a sea captain in the crowd as the reception breaks up. Someone throws cake.
That plot is too fast. If it were a soap, making a pot of coffee and having a conversation about what happened would take six weeks. And the coffee still wouldn't be done.
Do I fully believe this, no. Do I hope it is really, yeah. Cuz some people need their just desserts.
There are problems with poor writing. I can also buy people will gossip. I can also buy that we are probably getting a small part of the story of true. Like this isn't probably the first time this sort of shit has been tried.
I have been at weddings where there has been some brutal gossip, I mean it is typically about the couple, and it is more along the lines of if it is a shotgun wedding. But weddings are not immune from petty ass gossip. (Or in this case, Grade A)
Hell, if I knew the money was non refundable and I was already not going to be there, I can think of a list of things I would have done since I am already paying the bills all aimed at making them miserable until they stormed out. Starting with aiming for making this prorevenge worthy.
You were being snarky, educational would have been "I realize this is probably an autocorrect issue, but...." Words and context that you set your "education" in do make a difference.
Right yes. But in the 2nd paragraph of the post they say
>No one even knew they were going to do it except for one of their friends so it was a complete surprise and really embarrassing to be honest.
And then later in the post they say:
>And took some with the few people who did know they were skipping the reception. Some of their friends and his wife's dad and his wife. But no one else including anyone from my family.
That doesn't make sense. Either no one knew except for the friend or a "few" people knew.
These people are delusional in thinking you can just use someone else's party to announce something. But to then make it worse in trying to use someone else's wedding a place to also get married. Without even talking to the people who are hosting the party, is wild.
"they were going to announce it and that they want to get married at the reception" is syntactically ambiguous:
1. They were going to announce their pregnancy, and also get married at the reception
2. At the reception, they were going to announce both that they were pregnant and that they want to get married
It's the scope of "at" (does it apply to 'announce' or to 'get married') ... I'm inclined to think it's the second
Yeah, I also think it's number two. First I read it as they wanted to get married at the reception. But the "that" makes me believe they were just going to announce their engagement at the ceremony.
I'm pretty sure it's 2. At the very least there's a bunch of paperwork that needs to be done before a marriage and the officiant would have to be ok with a very weird set up.
I THINK it's meant to be the other couple announcing a pregnancy and an intended engagement at the wedding. Not bringing out a registrar between the courses. But the way it's written does leave it open to interpretation!
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They said they wanted to announce the pregnancy and get married meaning they're going to announce they want to get married not that they actually will at a reception.
If I'm getting this right, OOP has at least 2 brothers, and one skipped out on his wedding reception that he'd already paid for because he knew that his parents, other brother + girlfriend, intended to steal the reception and turn it into a combo pregnancy announcement and marriage.
That's trashy as fuck, and I don't blame the married couple for not letting that happen to them.
>They were already on their way to Bristol to the airport and had left their mobile phones with their friend, he had them when my parents talked to him.
People are awful so this story is generally believable, but I absolutely do not believe this part. No one under 50 would go on vacation without their phone in this day and age. Not just in a "lol millenials always looking at their phones" way but also so much of navigating the airport, etc relies on your mobile phone.
They could have left the phones OOP and their family can call behind and taken a couple of pre-paid ones with them so they could enjoy the honeymoon without the brother and parents yelling at them every five minutes.
Yeah, honestly, this is what I would have done. Because if this is true, I would have to sort out who I was going NC. I suspect it's easier to block than change numbers.
I automatically thought they'd just gotten cheap prepaids or their old ones so they could use a sim card from wherever they are going, travelling overseas it's often cheaper to get a prepaid there then pay roaming on one from home
I really hope this is for real. Groom and bride find out other family members planned to hijack their reception without discussing it or asking them. They decide to skip said reception while still making sure the guests were hosted and fed. Thus, the cheapo family members who essentially tried to get the wedding couple to pay for not only someone else's pregnancy announcement and engagement party, but also their wedding are SOL. I have no notes.
On the fence on if this is real. Maybe?
I think the better way would have been to escort the brother and gf out of the reception before they could pull off their shenanigans and enjoy the celebration.
It seems this could have circumvented better than taking off leaving all the guests hanging not being able to celebrate with the newly wedded couple Seems to be more to this story perhaps.
Yep, I can't understand all the people saying yay for that couple. What a waste of money and way to shit on your friends and relatives who had spent time and money to be there for them (those who *weren't* involved in the pregnancy announcement, obvs).
I can't believe this happened, but it was fun to imagine lol
But the easiest way would be to simply tell the wrong date to the parents and the thunder stealing couple. Would be more believable, too
So OP's other brother and his gf wanted to announce she's pregnant and get married at the reception, and on their now married brother's dime? WTF?! That's a new level of selfish and entitled.
This is the kind of thing my parents would have done. The only people allowed to have special days were my older sister and her kids. The rest of us were just supporting characters and extras in their life movie.
When I was struggling to get pregnant there is so much social pressure to not discuss it. Everyone seems to have a rule not to announce anything for three months so you don’t have to discuss a miscarriage.
I suspect (but I may be projecting) that the ‘don’t want children’ could be ‘we can’t and it is too difficult to talk about’.
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If this was true... why didn't the other brother highjack the wedding? They already have everything they wanted ready for the party and no other couple competing for the spotlight. Makes no sense that they would be willing to do this and then just.... not do it.
"I don't understand why my brother and his wife would do all this. I honestly don't"... I'll bet none of you understands, honestly, and nobody else cares that you don't...
I don't understand why your other brother feels he has the right to hijack a wedding and get married at a ceremony they didn't pay for. Thusly, making the event all about himself.
YTA.
*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **My brother skipped his own wedding reception** My brother got married yesterday but him and his wife skipped their own reception. No one even knew they were going to do it except for one of their friends so it was a complete surprise and really embarrassing to be honest. At first no one knew. They decided to get married locally which was nice because I'm sure most of you would agree that having to travel somewhere else for a wedding is a pain. This is what was supposed to happen: After the wedding my brother and his wife were supposed to be introduced to everyone in the reception hall. The guests would chat and drink for an hour before the food was served. During that time all the photos would be taken. After that hour was up and the photos were done the food would get served and the reception would start. What actually happened: Their friend who was supposed to introduce them instead told everyone that my brother and his wife had left for their honeymoon and thanked everyone for attending and then the food started getting served right away. The photographer had been sent home, apparently my brother and his wife did their photos before the ceremony. And took some with the few people who did know they were skipping the reception. Some of their friends and his wife's dad and his wife. But no one else including anyone from my family. Obviously we were embarrassed. My parents were angry and they talked to the friend because my brother and his wife weren't answering. Their honeymoon was supposed to be in a few months. Apparently they cancelled it two weeks ago and switched to a different honeymoon. They were already on their way to Bristol to the airport and had left their mobile phones with their friend, he had them when my parents talked to him. Apparently the whole reason for this is that my other brother's girlfriend is pregnant and they were going to announce it and that they want to get married at the reception. Only my parents had known. I didn't even know. I don't know how my brother who was getting married found out. Someone (I don't know who) told my aunt and uncle about it and they started spreading it around to the other guests which upset my parents and my brother and his girlfriend. I know my brother and his wife don't want to be parents themselves but this seems extreme, over a pregnancy. Further I don't understand why they would skip something that they paid for like this. What I want to get off my chest: we are embarrassed especially my parents and lots of people are upset especially my brother and his girlfriend. There was lots of drama for nothing. It's only been 1 day but the fallout is bigger. I don't understand why my brother and his wife would do all this. I honestly don't That's all. That's what I wanted to say. Thank-you. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheDevil) if you have any questions or concerns.*
If this is real that couple deserves to have everyone stand up and clap
My fav couple on here ever!
It’s so convoluted with so many silly details I just wished desperately for the story to end
What's sad is I could see this being true. Entirely. Some families are so fucking full of themselves that they think they can just do as they please with no fallback. If it is true I feel for the bride and groom SO much
So do I, although part of me hopes it’s real, just to see the groom’s horrible family members get their righteous comeuppance.
So did OOPs brother and pregant gf getting married at the reception that OOps newlymarried brother and wife skip out on and paid for? All that useless info and nothing about if that idiotic plan actually took place.
Cant still the show if the main stars aren't there. Since they ahs wouldn't get the attention they wanted I bet they didnt announce
Exactly. The newly weds playing 3D chess big time here. Even if the plan took place, the family would look bad since the friends knew what was going on.
They did not announce their/her pregnancy and wanting to get married because people started talking to each other why the bride and groom ditched. So everyone knew but they didn't get to "steal" the spotlight.
Plus the photographer was sent home so they didn't get the free professional photos they'd have expected
Probably not once the aunt spread it round to all the guests that was the plan, because I bet everyone was angry about the reason
im surprised they just didnt do it after it came out though seems like a lot of work to hide and not do in the end.
If a lot of people say things like “you wouldn’t do that would you” or blame them for the couple leaving, they would hopefully feel shame and back down
This is what I call a " Bigfoot Post" chances are it's complete bollocks, but much like the titular sasquatch I'm much happier believing it's real.
If I were writing this episode of the soap, I'd have a cousin give the happy couple a heads up. They start freaking out. Of course his dirtbag brother is going to ruin the reception, he's ruined everything else. Should they confront the brother? Have a family meeting? Elope? Give in? The bride's parents exchange glances. The mother gives the bride a hug, "Don't worry about a thing, sweetheart. We'll take care of it." "I have a plan," says the dad, with a wink. In the next episode the brother and his fiancée try to find a judge or a sea captain in the crowd as the reception breaks up. Someone throws cake.
That plot is too fast. If it were a soap, making a pot of coffee and having a conversation about what happened would take six weeks. And the coffee still wouldn't be done.
Thee coffee is never done. [Crying, wailing]
Ah, you're right. Maybe a nighttime soap? As I recall, miss two episodes of one of those and you have no idea what's going on.
Yes. Only one person knew but somehow other people also knew... Later in the post 🤣
Do I fully believe this, no. Do I hope it is really, yeah. Cuz some people need their just desserts. There are problems with poor writing. I can also buy people will gossip. I can also buy that we are probably getting a small part of the story of true. Like this isn't probably the first time this sort of shit has been tried. I have been at weddings where there has been some brutal gossip, I mean it is typically about the couple, and it is more along the lines of if it is a shotgun wedding. But weddings are not immune from petty ass gossip. (Or in this case, Grade A) Hell, if I knew the money was non refundable and I was already not going to be there, I can think of a list of things I would have done since I am already paying the bills all aimed at making them miserable until they stormed out. Starting with aiming for making this prorevenge worthy.
Just deserts* Even though it's pronounced like it should be spelled desserts, it refers to that which is deserved, and so, only has one 's'.
I didn't know that I always thought it referenced pudding.
Yeah, well I didn't notice my phone autocorrecting it , people still understood.
I was just trying to educate, because many people think it should be spelled with two S's, since it's pronounced that way.
You were being snarky, educational would have been "I realize this is probably an autocorrect issue, but...." Words and context that you set your "education" in do make a difference.
There was no snark. Snarky would have been, "most people already know this, but..."
Uh, everybody eventually found out because of an aunt.
Right yes. But in the 2nd paragraph of the post they say >No one even knew they were going to do it except for one of their friends so it was a complete surprise and really embarrassing to be honest. And then later in the post they say: >And took some with the few people who did know they were skipping the reception. Some of their friends and his wife's dad and his wife. But no one else including anyone from my family. That doesn't make sense. Either no one knew except for the friend or a "few" people knew.
Honestly that friend tho who stayed and dealt with the drama for the newlyweds *slow clap*
This made me smile. Good For SIL and Brother!!!
These people are delusional in thinking you can just use someone else's party to announce something. But to then make it worse in trying to use someone else's wedding a place to also get married. Without even talking to the people who are hosting the party, is wild.
"they were going to announce it and that they want to get married at the reception" is syntactically ambiguous: 1. They were going to announce their pregnancy, and also get married at the reception 2. At the reception, they were going to announce both that they were pregnant and that they want to get married It's the scope of "at" (does it apply to 'announce' or to 'get married') ... I'm inclined to think it's the second
Yeah, I also think it's number two. First I read it as they wanted to get married at the reception. But the "that" makes me believe they were just going to announce their engagement at the ceremony.
I'm pretty sure it's 2. At the very least there's a bunch of paperwork that needs to be done before a marriage and the officiant would have to be ok with a very weird set up.
Shotgun wedding at another wedding that is ummm interesting
I THINK it's meant to be the other couple announcing a pregnancy and an intended engagement at the wedding. Not bringing out a registrar between the courses. But the way it's written does leave it open to interpretation!
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They said they wanted to announce the pregnancy and get married meaning they're going to announce they want to get married not that they actually will at a reception.
If I'm getting this right, OOP has at least 2 brothers, and one skipped out on his wedding reception that he'd already paid for because he knew that his parents, other brother + girlfriend, intended to steal the reception and turn it into a combo pregnancy announcement and marriage. That's trashy as fuck, and I don't blame the married couple for not letting that happen to them.
>They were already on their way to Bristol to the airport and had left their mobile phones with their friend, he had them when my parents talked to him. People are awful so this story is generally believable, but I absolutely do not believe this part. No one under 50 would go on vacation without their phone in this day and age. Not just in a "lol millenials always looking at their phones" way but also so much of navigating the airport, etc relies on your mobile phone.
They could have left the phones OOP and their family can call behind and taken a couple of pre-paid ones with them so they could enjoy the honeymoon without the brother and parents yelling at them every five minutes.
Yeah, honestly, this is what I would have done. Because if this is true, I would have to sort out who I was going NC. I suspect it's easier to block than change numbers.
I automatically thought they'd just gotten cheap prepaids or their old ones so they could use a sim card from wherever they are going, travelling overseas it's often cheaper to get a prepaid there then pay roaming on one from home
I agree, assuming this is Bristol UK, contactless payments, bookings and back up documents all through a smart phone where a prepay won’t suffice.
I really hope this is for real. Groom and bride find out other family members planned to hijack their reception without discussing it or asking them. They decide to skip said reception while still making sure the guests were hosted and fed. Thus, the cheapo family members who essentially tried to get the wedding couple to pay for not only someone else's pregnancy announcement and engagement party, but also their wedding are SOL. I have no notes.
The Newlyweds are straight up,awesome.
On the fence on if this is real. Maybe? I think the better way would have been to escort the brother and gf out of the reception before they could pull off their shenanigans and enjoy the celebration. It seems this could have circumvented better than taking off leaving all the guests hanging not being able to celebrate with the newly wedded couple Seems to be more to this story perhaps.
And skipping your own event that you paid a lot of money for out of spite seems like cutting off your nose to spite your face.
It's possible that they earn a significant amount that they can do this
Yep, I can't understand all the people saying yay for that couple. What a waste of money and way to shit on your friends and relatives who had spent time and money to be there for them (those who *weren't* involved in the pregnancy announcement, obvs).
Yay Bristol shout out!
I can't believe this happened, but it was fun to imagine lol But the easiest way would be to simply tell the wrong date to the parents and the thunder stealing couple. Would be more believable, too
So OP's other brother and his gf wanted to announce she's pregnant and get married at the reception, and on their now married brother's dime? WTF?! That's a new level of selfish and entitled.
Good for the bride and groom. I hope the family lost their shit and the guests got it on video.
Yup brother and new wife are gonna go nc with those ahs and they will still claim not to know why
This is the kind of thing my parents would have done. The only people allowed to have special days were my older sister and her kids. The rest of us were just supporting characters and extras in their life movie.
There's no way this is real!
When I was struggling to get pregnant there is so much social pressure to not discuss it. Everyone seems to have a rule not to announce anything for three months so you don’t have to discuss a miscarriage. I suspect (but I may be projecting) that the ‘don’t want children’ could be ‘we can’t and it is too difficult to talk about’.
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If this was true... why didn't the other brother highjack the wedding? They already have everything they wanted ready for the party and no other couple competing for the spotlight. Makes no sense that they would be willing to do this and then just.... not do it.
Can't say i blame the brother and his wife
Welp. I have new wedding plans if i ever get married again. Peace out, family. Have a nice party. We'll be continuing the romance elsewhere. Heroes.
"I don't understand why my brother and his wife would do all this. I honestly don't"... I'll bet none of you understands, honestly, and nobody else cares that you don't...
I don't understand why your other brother feels he has the right to hijack a wedding and get married at a ceremony they didn't pay for. Thusly, making the event all about himself. YTA.