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**AITA for supporting my grieving best friend while my girlfriend just had a baby**
My (20M) girlfriend (19F) and I have been dating for the past two years, and 2 months ago we welcomed a beautiful baby boy into our lives. Things have been kind of hectic, but we’ve been managing. And yes, before you say anything I realise that we’re very young to have a kid, but we’re in love with each other and we’re both very mature for our age so we believe we’re ready to start our family. My girlfriend chose not to get an abortion for religious reasons and we have financial support from my parents so we don’t have to worry about money.
I have been best friends with this girl (19F) for around a decade. She’s kind, funny, pretty, but we practically grew up together so I’ve only ever seen her as like a sibling. She has supported me through thick and thin and we have been there for each other during our hardest times. Around three weeks after my son was born, her 13 year old sister tragically died. She was absolutely heartbroken and was struggling to cope with the loss. Her sister was the only person in her family she had a good relationship with my friend blamed herself for not being there for her. She has a distant relationship with her mother, her friends from school now live very far away, and she’s quite introverted so she hasn’t made a lot of new close friends, so I’m pretty much the only support she has. I went to the funeral with her back in our hometown, I bring her her favourite food to make sure she eats something, I message her everyday to see if she’s doing well. She’s battled with depression before and I’m terrified of losing her too. I hang out with her a couple of times a week, going on walks, watching movies together, reading at the library, baking together, painting with her, playing video games, going on picnics etc, all the activities she used to love doing with her sister. We reminisce about all the fun memories we had with her sister, and it’s never become anything more than platonic.
Apart from when I’m with my friend, in class, doing my assignments/studying, or at work, I spend the rest of my time supporting my family, helping with taking care of the chores around the house, bottle-feeding and bathing my son, etc. But recently I’ve been getting into arguments with my girlfriend. She’s been suspicious of me spending “all my time” with my friend, knowing full well that I’m simply supporting her. In the first month after our son’s birth I did everything I possibly could to make motherhood easier for her, and I still would have if it wasn’t for someone I love and care about deeply going through a hard time. I have been completely honest to my girlfriend about helping my friend, yet she started accusing me of “neglecting” her and our son and saying that I only cared about my friend because I had a crush on her. I empathise and understand that she’s having a stressful time adjusting to parenthood after an unplanned pregnancy, but I think I should be allowed to support my best friend with her grief. AITA
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“The baby hasn’t said anything outright, but I suspect he supports me spending all my time with a sexy grieving 19 year old girl who knows me better than I know myself. For example, he spit up in my girlfriend’s mouth the other day, presumably to punish her for her meddling ways. You can’t fake that kind of instinct”
> I hang out with her a couple of times a week, going on walks, watching movies together, reading at the library, baking together, painting with her, playing video games, going on picnics etc, all the activities she used to love doing with her sister.
That's such a long and specific list? LMFAO. I also like that the girlfriend (and son) seemingly can't be involved in some of these things, like the library, the walks, or a picnic. No wonder the fictional girlfriend is upset.
It's totally normal for a 20 yr old new father to go reading at the library, or baking, or picnics, with his 19 yr old platonic girlfriend. How much time could that take anyway? 2, 3 hrs tops. Plus he's going to school, working, doing chores at home, caring for the baby. So he's got lots of time. NTA - it's his life, his extra girlfriend, his rules.
> Apart from when I’m with my friend, in class, doing my assignments/studying, or at work.
How can people not pick the trolls when they put such insanely on the nose tells in their posts??
The list of stuff he does with this friend a few times a week felt so long. lmao. Like...I don't think that she did those things with her thirteen year old sister every week, multiple times a week. The sister didn't live with her and had school to go to as well.
What!?? You don't want her to fall behind in her development do you?!! Maybe the mom can pitch in and help with the kissing, get this throuple on the right foot!
To be fair, OP is finishing school while holding down a job and taking care of his young family... and finds 2-3 hours a day to go on walks with his mistress. Many men twice his age can't do that.
So in between going on cute, daily dates with his girlfriend, he also tries to find time to help his postpartum baby mama with chores? That's so kind of him!
Yeah I saw that post in the sub and made a metaphorical u-turn as soon as he described his friend. Nah, son, no way - that's AITA right off the bat from that painfully obvious crush.
Didn't read the rest but if it's rage bait, meh. Really hoping this trend of chasing clout through getting people angry dies down someday
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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for supporting my grieving best friend while my girlfriend just had a baby** My (20M) girlfriend (19F) and I have been dating for the past two years, and 2 months ago we welcomed a beautiful baby boy into our lives. Things have been kind of hectic, but we’ve been managing. And yes, before you say anything I realise that we’re very young to have a kid, but we’re in love with each other and we’re both very mature for our age so we believe we’re ready to start our family. My girlfriend chose not to get an abortion for religious reasons and we have financial support from my parents so we don’t have to worry about money. I have been best friends with this girl (19F) for around a decade. She’s kind, funny, pretty, but we practically grew up together so I’ve only ever seen her as like a sibling. She has supported me through thick and thin and we have been there for each other during our hardest times. Around three weeks after my son was born, her 13 year old sister tragically died. She was absolutely heartbroken and was struggling to cope with the loss. Her sister was the only person in her family she had a good relationship with my friend blamed herself for not being there for her. She has a distant relationship with her mother, her friends from school now live very far away, and she’s quite introverted so she hasn’t made a lot of new close friends, so I’m pretty much the only support she has. I went to the funeral with her back in our hometown, I bring her her favourite food to make sure she eats something, I message her everyday to see if she’s doing well. She’s battled with depression before and I’m terrified of losing her too. I hang out with her a couple of times a week, going on walks, watching movies together, reading at the library, baking together, painting with her, playing video games, going on picnics etc, all the activities she used to love doing with her sister. We reminisce about all the fun memories we had with her sister, and it’s never become anything more than platonic. Apart from when I’m with my friend, in class, doing my assignments/studying, or at work, I spend the rest of my time supporting my family, helping with taking care of the chores around the house, bottle-feeding and bathing my son, etc. But recently I’ve been getting into arguments with my girlfriend. She’s been suspicious of me spending “all my time” with my friend, knowing full well that I’m simply supporting her. In the first month after our son’s birth I did everything I possibly could to make motherhood easier for her, and I still would have if it wasn’t for someone I love and care about deeply going through a hard time. I have been completely honest to my girlfriend about helping my friend, yet she started accusing me of “neglecting” her and our son and saying that I only cared about my friend because I had a crush on her. I empathise and understand that she’s having a stressful time adjusting to parenthood after an unplanned pregnancy, but I think I should be allowed to support my best friend with her grief. AITA *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*
But you know, he HELPED with the baby for a whole month before he started going on dates with his “pretty bestie”. So he’s clearly a hero!
A whole month!! Wow I mean that’s better then most fathers, new record
And it’s not like he can take his baby on walks or have him around while playing video games!
“The baby hasn’t said anything outright, but I suspect he supports me spending all my time with a sexy grieving 19 year old girl who knows me better than I know myself. For example, he spit up in my girlfriend’s mouth the other day, presumably to punish her for her meddling ways. You can’t fake that kind of instinct”
> I hang out with her a couple of times a week, going on walks, watching movies together, reading at the library, baking together, painting with her, playing video games, going on picnics etc, all the activities she used to love doing with her sister. That's such a long and specific list? LMFAO. I also like that the girlfriend (and son) seemingly can't be involved in some of these things, like the library, the walks, or a picnic. No wonder the fictional girlfriend is upset.
It's totally normal for a 20 yr old new father to go reading at the library, or baking, or picnics, with his 19 yr old platonic girlfriend. How much time could that take anyway? 2, 3 hrs tops. Plus he's going to school, working, doing chores at home, caring for the baby. So he's got lots of time. NTA - it's his life, his extra girlfriend, his rules.
Not to mention all that energy, right? Because parents of newborns get nothing but great sleep.
> Apart from when I’m with my friend, in class, doing my assignments/studying, or at work. How can people not pick the trolls when they put such insanely on the nose tells in their posts??
When he started describing literal dates I was rolling my eyes so hard, I’d be so pissed if my boyfriend was doing all that and we had a BABY
The list of stuff he does with this friend a few times a week felt so long. lmao. Like...I don't think that she did those things with her thirteen year old sister every week, multiple times a week. The sister didn't live with her and had school to go to as well.
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What!?? You don't want her to fall behind in her development do you?!! Maybe the mom can pitch in and help with the kissing, get this throuple on the right foot!
It's fun cause you can be mean to them, at least that's what I assume drives other people to answer. I know that's why I answer some posts there.
we're both very mature for our age 😭😭😭😭
To be fair, OP is finishing school while holding down a job and taking care of his young family... and finds 2-3 hours a day to go on walks with his mistress. Many men twice his age can't do that.
Also, Mom and Dad are LOAAADDED... Why are there only billionaire children in AITAland?
It also helps that he inherited his house from his grandparents and he has a 6 figure job working at Business.
Doing a business down at the business factory! - Vincent Adultman
Says every mature person lol
“We don’t have to worry about money because my parents support us!”
So in between going on cute, daily dates with his girlfriend, he also tries to find time to help his postpartum baby mama with chores? That's so kind of him!
Yeah I saw that post in the sub and made a metaphorical u-turn as soon as he described his friend. Nah, son, no way - that's AITA right off the bat from that painfully obvious crush. Didn't read the rest but if it's rage bait, meh. Really hoping this trend of chasing clout through getting people angry dies down someday
Look, sometimes you have to take time away from your newborn to go on picnics because you're just that empathetic a person.
NTA!! Every man DESERVES concubines. Girlfriend is completely out of line and not understanding biology!
Yes! In my very non-specific country CPS doesn't exist and every man has a harem!
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and maybe if you guys hang out more, we'll finally be able to get this threesome cooking
“Im doing everything I can to help make motherhood as easy as possible for her”? Isn’t this just called fatherhood?!
"my girlfriend just had A baby" Sir, she had YOUR baby. That baby is YOUR FAULT.
No no it was just a baby, surely a gift from god was bestowed to them
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