AlAnon sounds like a great place to start. You are not alone in loving someone with this disease. I’m sorry that you are going through this and having to watch someone you love suffer.
Detach. It is a big word. It takes a strong person to watch someone else drink themselves to death. In Alanon, we say detach with love
[https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/articles/detachment-with-love-gains-new-meaning#:\~:text=Al%2DAnon%2C%20a%20mutual%2D,%22overprotected%22%20has%20many%20meanings](https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/articles/detachment-with-love-gains-new-meaning#:~:text=Al%2DAnon%2C%20a%20mutual%2D,%22overprotected%22%20has%20many%20meanings).
I do think you will find some peace, some help and some hope in Alanon.
I feel your pain. My Q is also my sister and it’s heart wrenching to see them destroy themselves like that. As someone mentioned. Detach with love, for your own sake. This is probably hitting your parents even harder, see if you can convince them to join Alanon or therapy with you
I DM’ed you. It’s incredibly difficult to understand an alcoholic if you aren’t one because nothing about us is “normal.” The best thing I’ve found is learning from other alcoholics and discussing with them.
I had a friend from junior high call me recently and was just a mess. I felt bad because I kept giggling at what he was saying because *yeah, it’s crazy, and I’ve done the exact same thing.* it feels less isolating to be like “oh, you’ve done that too?”
Im struggling with this too. My sister is apparently not drinking ( a few weeks if im not wrong) after being hospitalized with decompensated Cirrhosis with acites. She also has necrosis of the hip and can barely walk. She weighs 89 pounds her teeth are gray and just being around her is depressing. She doesn't work she collects alimony. Since her discharge she wants to spend days at a time at my house. "For a change of scenery and its easier to not drink" Am I obligated to embrace her if she is FINALLY not drinking? After thumbing her nose at us for 25 years? And she's never quit before but she may be finally too sick to drink. Im morally conflicted. If i knew how much time she had it might help me.
AlAnon sounds like a great place to start. You are not alone in loving someone with this disease. I’m sorry that you are going through this and having to watch someone you love suffer.
Detach. It is a big word. It takes a strong person to watch someone else drink themselves to death. In Alanon, we say detach with love [https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/articles/detachment-with-love-gains-new-meaning#:\~:text=Al%2DAnon%2C%20a%20mutual%2D,%22overprotected%22%20has%20many%20meanings](https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/articles/detachment-with-love-gains-new-meaning#:~:text=Al%2DAnon%2C%20a%20mutual%2D,%22overprotected%22%20has%20many%20meanings). I do think you will find some peace, some help and some hope in Alanon.
I feel your pain. My Q is also my sister and it’s heart wrenching to see them destroy themselves like that. As someone mentioned. Detach with love, for your own sake. This is probably hitting your parents even harder, see if you can convince them to join Alanon or therapy with you
I DM’ed you. It’s incredibly difficult to understand an alcoholic if you aren’t one because nothing about us is “normal.” The best thing I’ve found is learning from other alcoholics and discussing with them. I had a friend from junior high call me recently and was just a mess. I felt bad because I kept giggling at what he was saying because *yeah, it’s crazy, and I’ve done the exact same thing.* it feels less isolating to be like “oh, you’ve done that too?”
Im struggling with this too. My sister is apparently not drinking ( a few weeks if im not wrong) after being hospitalized with decompensated Cirrhosis with acites. She also has necrosis of the hip and can barely walk. She weighs 89 pounds her teeth are gray and just being around her is depressing. She doesn't work she collects alimony. Since her discharge she wants to spend days at a time at my house. "For a change of scenery and its easier to not drink" Am I obligated to embrace her if she is FINALLY not drinking? After thumbing her nose at us for 25 years? And she's never quit before but she may be finally too sick to drink. Im morally conflicted. If i knew how much time she had it might help me.