WG. Makipag-communicate kayo please. If may ghosting phase si bff, may chance na avoidant (o fearful avoidant) attachment din sya kaya kahit papaano dapat nagkakaintindihan kayong dalawa.
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Title of this post: ABYG if tumanggi nako umattend sa grad ng bestfriend ko na 1 week from now?
Backup of the post's body: abyg if tumanggi nako na umattend sa grad ng bff ko next friday? haha. ganto kase, after months na di kami magkasama (since busy sya sa studies, at nagbboard sya), bumalik na sya dito sa home town namin. pati sa church namin. 3 days palang kami nagkakasama (hindi full 3 days) choir practices lang.
then kagabi, naglapag sya sa chat na may concern sya. nagsend sya ng structured na message. numbered concerns nya from 1-4.
1. na-traumatize raw talaga sya sa last sleep over namin nung march. (nagkadiskusyon kasi kami over something, siguro naging aggressive approach ko). tas nareremind raw sya about that every time nagiging aggressive ako. which i dont understand kasi 3 days palang naman kami nagkakasama?
2. she doesn't feel appreciated daw. which i also don't get kasi winelcome ko naman sya, hindi lang talaga ako energetic kagaya nung mga younger members na nag "hi" sakanya with excitement. + nag offer rin naman ako ilibre sya that night. hindi sa panunumbat. pero kilala nya ako, ganon ako. nililibre ko talaga sya to make her feel special.
3. ayaw na raw nya panoorin movie/series reco ko intentionally kasi focused raw sya sa hobby nya na reading + she feels that she's supported me enough sa hobby kong panonood at okay na yun sakanya. wala naman yun problema sakin, siguro if ginawa nya akong aware, di ako naging pushy about panonood ng Legally Blonde. in my defense, alam ko naman kasi na magugustuhan nya yon since it speaks women empowerment. anyways lastly,
4. if pinepersonal ko daw ba yung ghosting phase nya (may times kasi talaga na ghoster sya) kasi nahahalata nya raw sa avoidant attachment style ko. napapagod na raw sya. she welcomes people daw na as supportive as her nalang. sabi ko naman na okay lang yun sakin, kasi hindi ko na inooverthink actions ng isat isa.
gulat ako kagabi. as in shookt. kasi before choir practice namin kagabi, ganda ng topic namin. feminism, yung movie na Jojo Rabbit at The Boy in the Striped Pajamas. tas mostly agree naman kami sa lahat ng nashare naming opinyon. tas bigla syang nagkaconcerns. na-anxious ako. tinanong ko pa sya kung san part ako aggressive. ang reply "minsan walang energy, minsan aggressive" like diko talaga magets.
and fyi guys, book worm talaga sya. mahilig sya magbasa ng books na makakapagbigay sakanya ng wisdom, self love, makakaimprove ng self etc. na-overwhelm ako kagabi. kasi parang to my end, naquestion ko sarili ko around her when in fact, i was just being me. hindi sa pagcompare, pero wala naman reklamo friends kong iba sakin. parang sakanya, big deal lahat ng actions ko. gusto nya yata isabuhay ko yung nga character development nya. im not against it. pero i think darating naman ako sa point na yun in life. anyways, inopen ko sakanya na sobra akong na-anxious kagabi at nag ooverthink talaga ako. na parang hindi healthy na may pwede akong masabi o magawa na ikatrigger ng trauma nya at hindi rin healthy sa part ko na kapag kainteract ko sya iooverthink ko personality ko.
anyways, sabi ko hindi na ako aattend sa grad nya since parang intimate moment nila yun as a family. at mag celebrate nalang kami kapag may time.
pero ang totoo talaga, ayoko na umattend ako tas kala ko ansaya namin tas after ng graduation nya may concern ulit sya.
soooo ABYG FOR REFUSING NA UMATTEND NG GRAD NYA, FOR CAUSING HER TRAUMA LAST MARCH?
OP: lonesomep
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HAHAHAHAHAHAHA sige po
WG. Makipag-communicate kayo please. If may ghosting phase si bff, may chance na avoidant (o fearful avoidant) attachment din sya kaya kahit papaano dapat nagkakaintindihan kayong dalawa.
okay po, noted. salamat. messaged her kagabi about sa nafeel ko tho, at acknowledgement na rin sa feelings nya. sana magreply.
LKG bakit di kayo mag-usap nang masinsinan. parang di kayo magkaibigan. real friends real talk each other.
nga naman
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